Coming Out Story - in my 30s and after marrying a man!

I grew up being totally boy crazy, was always searching for my husband and Prince Charming … I even married a man along the way … and now I have a girlfriend in my 30s! Crazy how life goes.
Here is my coming out story.
Update - I married the woman who I mentioned in this video who I started dating! Visit me on Instagram: / sweetlyraw
I’d love to hear from you if you can relate to any of this.
What’s your story?
Connect with me:
Instagram:
/ sweetlyraw
/ sweetlyrawdesserts
www.sweetlyraw.ca

[@sappho7278]

I had a similar experience and didn't realize I was a lesbian til I was 30. I'm 35 now and happily in a relationship with a woman for the first time after dating men for most of my life

[@chameleon-369]

How did you realize?

[@harleyquiinnnn]

i'm 21 and keep denying myself and you dont know what it means that you uploaded this. i struggle so much with internalized homophobia and compulsory heterosexuality and hearing you speak about your journey and standing up for your desire to be with women changes everything, seriously you dont even know. thank you.

[@carlosmartin4482]

Why not both?

[@user-xh8op3hf5r]

Now that you’re accepting of who you are, are you going to cross dress and cut your hair?

[@sweetlyrawdesserts]

I'm so glad it could be helpful :) Wishing you the best!

[@clairejohnson7809]

Thank you for sharing your story Heather. Although I’m not always social media’s biggest fan, it’s amazing that younger generations are growing up with representation and a celebration of everything lgbtq+. I’ve just entered my 30s and looking forward to beginning to date women ❤️

[@sweetlyrawdesserts]

Hi Claire! Thanks for sharing, I’m so excited for you!! It’s a whole new world 😍♥️

[@anaisjbeauty]

Just turned 37, 2 years separated from a 17 year relationship (11 years married) and mom of 6. Did u mention I’m a former Reverend?? So you can imagine the struggle I’m having with being free. Thank you for your transparency

[@hansmex2116]

Thank you so much for this I always knew I was gay but never allowed myself to feel anything because of fear, now I’m almost 28 years old and I kinda feel late but glad to see that it’s never too late

[@TheIntrovert83]

Born in 83 I couldn't come out the closet until my late 20s because being gay in the 90s was like social suicide, plus I grew up in the church. Make sure your GF does her coming out story. Would love to hear her perspective from Latvia! 😊

[@maybescottish9839]

I truly understand ❤

[@dwilliams7324]

I am transgender and I want to become a woman I am looking for a Boyfriend if there is a man out there what to become my boyfriend I will be grateful thanks Julie

[@jammu157]

When my 14 year old daughter came out, it was when her special friend had many sleep overs In oure house. One day my daughter asked if we can buy a wider bed for her so her friend dont have to sleep on the floor. So we went to IKEA and while we were there I asked if this wider bed is something she wants to tell me and if so should we then buy a wider blanket for them so they can fit in together. Her smile told me everything.

[@womanaftergodsownheartilov5829]

14 is insane! 😡

[@shonaharris9328]

@@womanaftergodsownheartilov5829it’s innocent it’s not like they can get pregnant 😅

[@TheFancepants]

Same exact thing happened with me. Came out in my 30's after divorcing a man, one I been with for 10. I had my first long relationship with a woman and it was magical (before it ended). It was unlike anything I felt before, all the missing pieces went into place which confirmed I'm a lesbian. What I struggle with is finding/meeting LGBTQ+ friends locally that aren't just online or across the country.

[@BeYounique...Maryanne]

Congratulations on coming out! I'm a straight woman sending love and support. I found your channel by accident. I recently became vegan and saw your video about no longer being vegan. I'm going to give it a shot anyway, but I'm going to follow your channel because your honesty is refreshing. In order to grow and thrive as human beings, I believe honesty and vulnerability are great attributes. It's what connects us to other human beings. I used to be ashamed that I was bullied in school. I didn't tell anyone about it in my adult years. But then I read many articles on psychology and realized it wasn't my fault I was bullied. It was the bullies who were at fault (hurt people hurt others), I felt relieved and empowered, like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulder. THAT is when I made myself vulnerable and began sharing. I'm sure you felt the same - both coming out and speaking about your vegan journey that didn't work for you. (Don't worry, I promised myself I'd never be the vegan who judges meat eaters - yes we can all get along!) Keep being YOUnique! HUGS! xo

[@sar.c5835]

I can’t tell you how much I appreciate you making this video and telling your story. I am 26 and for the past years was in love with men / wanting relationships with men but none of them really worked out, and I recently remembered how I have always felt attracted in more ways than one to women and love their nurturing energy. I feel like this is my sign to take it seriously and take the time to fully explore this (I.e. not dilute by dating men the way I also have!!). It’s scary to walk through the door but if knowing & accepting myself is on the other side-whether that leads me to a man or a woman-what more can I ask for? Thank you 🙏🏻

[@sweetlyrawdesserts]

I am cheering you on and wishing you all the best in your journey! :)

[@Kindredcocopuff]

35 and living through some trauma been through two marriages with men. Sexually and emotionally longing to be with a woman for my partner and soooo afraid of never experiencing true romantic love and feeling sexually fulfilled. Just so afraid of coming out.

[@oliviasayshi7517]

Hope everything is going well

[@DanielNenesso]

OMG YES GO GURL!!! I've been following you for years!! I'm so happy you're happy Heather! I have a coming out video on my channel as well, I came out early in my acting career. It wasn't confusing, I knew I was gay. But that doesn't make it any easier when you care about how other people think about you. Thank you for sharing your story! You were my favorite foodie channel before and now you're my ICONIC favorite foodie channel 🙌🏼❤️😘

[@sweetlyrawdesserts]

Thank you Daniel!! 🤗 You totally made my day - I was scared to share this. Thanks for being a bright light. I would love to hear your story, I’ll check it out 😍

[@smile-gk7ws]

Hey Daniel(; I know this feeling of being judged about sexuality as well ... My coming out in school was worst and painful experience in my life and shaped me and my character alot... So I decided to talk to my sister about it and she said "You're my sister and nothing about you can change that" That's the moment when I started to accept myself^^

[@smile-gk7ws]

@@sweetlyrawdesserts Thank you for sharing your story I'm so proud of you that you're brave enough to talk about it♥ Lots of love

[@natalie-qs7gp]

I didn't realize I was gay until my mid 20s. I had an experience when I was younger... my dad had playboy magazines and I would take the magazines and look at the girls... still I didn't realize it was an attraction to women and that I wanted to be with women until I was older!!

[@josephschuster1494]

I truly admire you, Heather, for not giving up your ultimate goal of finding a wonderful woman. You persevered, and it paid off for you. Congrats, and keep us up with what’s going on in your life. We love you! ❤

[@Liltinyhuman]

If you haven’t already, I definitely suggest the podcast “ The Lesbian Chronicles: coming out later in life” they also have a KZbin, it’s hosted not two women who left decade long marriages with kids and realized they were lesbian. One of my weekly listens!

[@sweetlyrawdesserts]

Thanks! I'll be sure to check it out!

[@DeltaAsherHill]

I’ve known my entire life, at least since 1st grade. I’ve been married to two men, actually still married. My husband was very supportive when I came out, and told me he just wants me to be happy no matter what choice I make but either way he will be here for me and my kids.

[@randomusername3873]

So you just tricked them?😮

[@mariabrown6926]

Why did you marry men if you knew you were gay?

[@Chandal543]

Your story sounds very much like mine. Obsessively chasing the husband, family, yada yada . Always felt something not right. Fantasized about women EVERY TIME, during play time. Not just every now and then. EVERY TIME! Why did it take this long to kick in? I was even into strapping up for my guy. But… oh well. My eyes are open now.

[@Chandal543]

I seriously thought all women fantasized about being with women and I thought all women were nervous around other women. I was in serious denial!

[@Lucien234-i2z]

I thought I was a lesbian, I got told by many people around me from teenage years that I was a lesbian because I was a tomboy with short hair. I concidered making the switch to become a lesbian, I convinced myself in my brain after years of people grooming me into being a lesbian. Well, it didn't last long, I fell uncontrollably madly in love with my male co-worker. You just know despite what everyone around you is trying to push on you, you know.

[@natalie-qs7gp]

whatever your sexuality is, is good and you should be true to yourself. I think it is more complicated for women because we are more emotional and our feelings can come out in different ways!! I consider myself primarily lesbian now but I have also been attracted to certain men too

[@JulieVandenKerchove]

So courageous of you to open up and share this personal story Heather! You look really happy & I wish you all the luck in the world :) Big hug from Belgium x Julie

[@sweetlyrawdesserts]

Thank you so much Julie! Big hugs and love to you!! 🤗💗💗💗

[@sweetlyrawdesserts]

You can do it! :)

[@CrystalDawnCulinary]

I'm happy to see you happy Heather and being brave to share your story. We should all be taking a page from your book! 💞

[@sweetlyrawdesserts]

Aw thanks so much Crystal! Lots of love to you 🤗💕💗

[@craigstoddard686]

Congratulations on finding yourself. As long as you find the person that you are supposed to be with. I am very happy for you.

[@mooruka]

I'm also a late bloomer lesbian who is seeing a butch lesbian. At first I had issues with seeing myself with masculine women, but now I realized I love them :3 I love masculinity in a woman and think it's beautiful ❤️

[@LateInLifeG]

This is sinilar to me, i was conditioned at an early age into heterosexuality and ignoring any same-sex attraction. I had a few experimentations with boys in my teens but went straight into heterosexual dating thereafter, got engaged, met another woman, got married, got divorced a few years latee, and married again a couple of years later...all the while leading an on-off homosexual life and in complete denial about what i was doing with other men, and why. During my first marriage i finally accepted myself as bisexual but kept it hidden. It is only in the last few years that i have questioned whether i am gay, and after some online counselling three years ago i reached the conclusion that I am predominantly gay. It felt a relief to finally understand myself, and i have since come out to a few trusted people, which has felt liberating. I am separated from my wife and finalising our divorce soon, and aim to come out to her once everything is done and dusted, and things have settled down.

[@prescottmotley5225]

Straight, lesbian or gay if you are not sure don’t marry the person just to be married.

[@livingreikicoaching3949]

Thanks for sharing this story! I've been doing shadow work and I realised I've been suppressing that I want to be with woman. I've dated men my whole life, and now I'm 33. It's been quite a rollercoaster accepting this with myself 😂 but it's actually made me so happy to see my true self and stop denying the truth because deep down I've always known that I liked women more but I've been in denial and I actually thought it meant there was something wrong with me 😮 thanks for sharing ❤️

[@GirlVinland]

I’m very late to this video, but your story was so very relatable. Thank you so, so much for sharing it.

[@strayastray7319]

I really needed to hear this. Thank you!

[@VanessaMarieBooks]

Thanks for sharing your story. I came out in my early 30s (just a couple of years ago), and ever since I was a kid, I've always been boy crazy, but during my pre-teen/teen years, I realized I was also attracted to girls, but I repressed that side cause I grew up in a religious, Christian environment that said being gay was a sin. I've had girl crushes in high school & college, but I always rationalized it as "oh, I just think she's really cool & pretty, I just want to BE HER, not BE WITH HER." 🙄Totally lying to myself. It wasn't till after I left Christianity & began deconstructing my beliefs that I allowed myself to accept the fact that I'm bi and I've always been bi, but always repressed that side cause I was taught it was "wrong/sinful." Luckily, even though I was always also boy crazy, I didn't end up getting married. I think I'd probably regret it if I did.

[@rowanbrunet7550]

Heather thank you so much for sharing your story! You are such a beautiful light in this world. You rock! :))

[@sweetlyrawdesserts]

Thanks so much Rowan!! 😘🤗

[@janessamarie4601]

I just came across your video and I loved this so much 🥰🥰🥰 This makes me excited to explore and stop waiting

[@katies8080]

How is it that you don't have more subscribers. Just found your channel with the Veggie bread recipe. Always looking for new foods to try that are healthy. Thank you for sharing your story, even though I am a straight white crazy woman and know all about the chasing a husband stage.

[@glowdoll183]

You story sound exactly like mine for sure. I was never boy crazy I would only like the ones that liked me. I would never have a crush on boys but I had crushes on my girlfriends.

[@camilleudan7552]

Thank you so much for sharing 🙏🥹I totally resonate and have somewhat of a similar story. Your story warmed my heart.

[@balticstain7150]

Congratulations thanks for sharing with us , yes i came out as crossdresser in the beginning but that to bisexual at 60 and married hugs..

[@maureenkent2565]

I admire you for sharing your truth and allowing yourself to be vulnerable. It’s obvious that you’re over the moon happy and content now. Good for you!

[@sweetlyrawdesserts]

I really appreciate it, thank you so much! 🤗

[@lasthope3237]

Love your last name

[@Darrk40]

Happy that this woman found herself. But let’s not underestimate the amount of hurt men left in her wake.

[@anh7807]

Let's not ignore the stigma society puts on the gay community that it's wrong to come out, so it stays hidden.

[@FirstnameLastnames]

Never too late too love your best life ❤ thank you for sharing Heather

[@graphue]

I'm 28 and was also boycrazy since ever and I think I needed to hear that story

[@adrianaperciballi6069]

You are so sweet, real and honest~so refreshing!! Thank you for sharing and being you! Very happy for you & your happiness!

[@sweetlyrawdesserts]

Thank you so much Adriana!! You’re so lovely! Big hugs 🤗 💕💗

[@brianmccarthy8732]

The truth is not always up front. It will come to light. Everyone deserves to be happy. Enjoy. I found out or realized I was a trans m to f at age 54.

[@mandyb0725]

❤❤❤

[@inventorofsalt]

You have a wonderful smile and I feel that positive energy :) As someone who did similar food restrictions and Im still kinda on it and trying to discover the truth for myself... I feel a bit connected to you. Love/ real connection is not about gender it is a biophysical thing. Im a male and 100% into woman but I know that connection on a biophysical wavelenght is very important to feel true love. On the other side a good testosterone level for a man and habits that naturally suit my hormones plays a big part aswell. Don't restrict yourself with gender. As an attractive, very sesitive man with big black eyes..I always had the ability to look into peoples eyes and connect with them. I can calm down people just by looking in their eyes as weird as it might sound and I was able to do that from a young age. I attracted girls who thought they were lesbians because they weren't able to connect with other men. A lot of men have bad hormone levels and are not healthy men. We are not just a biochemical material we are biophysical energy who seek connection no matter which gender... if its for love, friendship or just interests - no limits.

[@bean1077]

Absolutely agree with everything you just said.

[@inventorofsalt]

@@bean1077 Nice to hear! 8 month after writing the comment....I still agree with what I said. Always learning and extending my consciousness :D Biggest "wow" moment for me was a couple month ago when I discoverd the main reason for low growth hormone in men. It is just mindblowing haha I don't know when and how I should spread the knowledge.

[@KELLY-maybeiCudBeUrGirlfriend]

I have been married to my high school sweetheart since I was 18 years old. I am now 55 years old and I just realized a few years ago that I am bisexual. What am I supposed to do???? I don't want to cheat on my husband BUT i really REALLY want to go out with or be with a female at least once before I die. HELP!?!?

[@SapphoSweethearts]

thank you for sharing. many women come out when they have a male partner. i've met many women in hetero relationships who have threesomes and then develop full sapphic relationships. some women stay with their male partner with his support to have lesbian relationships. the emotional connection between women just can't be matched by men. besides, a good man supports the woman he cares about, including her lesbian relationships.

[@aliendroid1]

Completely wrong. In foreign countries where women are more healthy mentally they are full heterosexual and do not do this kind of thing, which is why western guys should get passports and bypass these western women completely. This is a problem in the english speaking countries where women are confused politically. In these foreign countries like Colombia the men have a high rate of being gay.

[@peterblatz4675]

Thank you soooooo much for sharing this!! ❤❤❤

[@t-pain3343]

The key here is looking for perfection. Doesn’t exist

[@peg60606]

You are so nice. I saw your non vegan and now this. Grew up in Montreal, amd lived in Vancouver for 2 years and in Victoria for 2 years. Moved to Australia many years ago to a warm clinate to be a raw vegan / fruitarian but like you and many others it didnt work for me.

[@masteroflanguages4572]

Happy Coming Out Day!!!

[@sarahmccoy1941]

There is a perception of normality that exists in society. But normal is what is right for every individual. Round holes. Square pegs. Like would be easier if we were all round or square.

[@lifewithadriel3953]

I love this video I learned from my own my journey going up im 33 and I finally came out to my mom and my brother and my friends im a lesbian.

[@scrubadubduck]

Congrats on being courageous, will you introduce your girlfriend to the channel sometime in the future? Maybe she can tell her coming out story. I think that will be amazing ❤

[@mrs.kathleenantuna7701]

Dear Simone, I pray that one day you will fly out of that closet and find a wonderful, intelligent, and beautiful woman to fall deeply in love and marry! I want an invite to the wedding! ❤ Giselle

[@cerise2206]

Ahhhh, this gives me so much hope that my married crush/love will have the gut to come out as well… 🌈🥰💃🏻

[@fatimayaseen6075]

More power to you!! 💓

[@shion_lwn]

I came to your video by chance. wow, congratulations on your coming out!

[@DrCocoaNot]

Thank you, thank you , thank you This video is keeping me from going crazy 😝

[@weakweek85]

This sucks. My wife is going through this and wants an open marriage. I love her and want to support her but it kills me having to share her. I think ultimately we’re going to end up divorced. I love her. Don’t know what to do. I feel like I’m going to lose her one way or another 😢

[@BrainsDrop]

Best solution in this case is to ask if the other lady moves in with y’all and live with two women. Ask the other woman if throuple comes in question , if not , leave the relationship behind.

[@wiardikijne5158]

How come you are the first one to say this sucks? I'm sorry for you

[@aliendroid1]

Next time go for a foreign woman, they are straight and not psychologically screwed up. Like Colombia, Venezuela etc. Also thank your wife, pat her on the back, tell her she is brave and a hero and then you just sneak right on out of there and enjoy life a lot more.

[@mikomiko762]

Don't know how i came here:) was looking how to say No🙈was nice story. Hope so u are happy after 1 year and say hi to your girlfriend from Lithuania😊! As we are nabes;)

[@stoheha]

Not to undermine you, but I would like to hug your ex husband. The pain you have put him through must be unbearable, and I write this with a person that had a twin brother that killed himself.

[@sweetlyrawdesserts]

We were divorced for 5 years before I had a girlfriend.

[@paulinevalley501]

My partner came out in her 40's wnt back in the closet then came out in her 60's had other relationships then met me and I'm not letting her go

[@emma7694]

Can you be gay and be Christian? I feel at odds with myself

[@balticstain7150]

Hiya how are going now haven't heard you for a while...peter

[@balticstain7150]

Hope you do more videos please 💜..

[@burstreviews8336]

I notice many women go for women because they are fed up with it not working out with men.

[@aradiasnowdon7016]

Maybe that's a sign that men should get their shit together lol.

[@aliendroid1]

@@aradiasnowdon7016 No, foreign women be plenty and they are straight.

[@kenny995]

​@@aliendroid1 if you have to leave the country just to get a woman to like you, you're kind of a loser 😂

[@lanouveller5570]

Do you have children? And if yes how things are between your girlfriend and them!

[@sternchen112]

Are you still in a relationship with your latvian girlfriend?

[@sweetlyrawdesserts]

Yes! We're married now! instagram.com/sweetlyraw/

[@sternchen112]

@@sweetlyrawdesserts as your wife is from Latvia, does she speak russian/understand russian language?

[@masteroflanguages4572]

Some of these ignorant and homophobic comments, ouf!

[@davidstratton696]

Right? Like sometimes I wonder how they get here and y they come here. Like they just here to spread hate. She’s interested in women and she’s happy with a women y must we bring hate into this?

[@luciannebeans6679]

Compulsory heterosexuality (comp het) is such a powerful force. Contrapoints explains this in her video titled “Shame.” m.kzbin.info/www/bejne/gWi6p3uKocSEbas

[@VLoveTarot]

thanks for sharing your story. xoxo

[@unknownunknown5173]

Does your ex hate you

[@giuseppinariva9294]

Stupenda creatura amare ke la più bella e stupenda cosa che è nel essere umano non ai scoperto l'acqua calda ma amare sempre perché si ama con l'anima perché il cuore un giorno o si fermerà ma anima vi ra in eterno

[@denisedutchie8693]

You are so beautiful😍Also still married to a man, he knows I'm a lesbian...

[@Bingo-yj9pg]

I almost got married once to a girlfriend, I realized later I'm a gay guy. Now she and i are friends. She said she kinda knew I like guys

[@Kristenm28]

😔

[@akasha.projects]

Ya .. you are exactly one of those who broke many men’s hearts ! Well done ! Be proud ! What about just knowing yourself earlier ? Applause 👏🏻

[@melissabirch459]

Bisexuals are eveywhere❤

[@johnrencheck2283]

Omg talk about red flags u hun are dressed in red....wow

[@Marksquire]

😮

[@raschidmalik464]

Are you still attracted to men now? I a man and gay.

[@shingtome2179]

Seek Jesus because he seeks you ❤✝️

[@yoniversum9416]

i think you have that losing differenciation of "seeking validation from men and attention" with real erotic and attraction to a men. I thought i would be bisexual, yet with 25 and after sex with men without feeling anything like i can do it myself, the same feeling... i realize, since i was 9 to 22, i only liked woman and thought of inner pressure, maybe they are right, try men... the first men 18...i saw him and searched for boobs... on a mens body... he was aware of it... but i thought... ok maybe too young, too feminine or i need bigger muscles, older men or hair... i tryed 4 others and always after sex i came into a deep depressiom, felt like i could be asexual, it was like... no thanks no joy with a men. I know realize, i love women all in all, i only find men good looking, i like them humanly, i like to be near, to be friends, too go to events with them, i like tu hug or kiss a face sidely... but i dont wanna be intimate with them and felt always uncomfortable with that presserimg bulg in a bed or in front of me. Then i prefer women with strapons to fuck me, being devoted on women, not men.

[@davidstratton696]

Woah!! I was not expecting that final sentence with the strap 😂. Tmi

[@yoniversum9416]

​​​@@davidstratton696 i readed my comment now, im still bisexual and very sure in it, i was one day before my period by writing and mind chaos and understood that my attraction and erotic self changes between my cycle and hormones. I have a new question to you: Did you ever tested yourself, if you are a gifted HB women? Because i am aware of something and i sense these women more often too. I feel asexual or nothing or only physical attraction to men and woman under IQ 120. I was born i a small city where most were like between 90 and 105. Went often to Berlin and was like... omg... i think im in love so often and CAN feel flow away on all areas, im not blind too feel love! I think, the more intelligent, high sensitive, in autism spectrum or ADHD a woman is, the more she only can also fell in love with another woman in mind, body, sexual emotional, soulfully if it "clicks" with easier understanding. With normal girls i can feel cheap attraction like wanting to fuck, but the higher intelligent, the higher emotional her intensity, her focus, the deeper her thinking and lively presence, often bigger the head and waist somehow for hugs... the more i want a relashionship and feel. This phenomenon names not only in social arena "passing" problem, especially for women who ask why normal romantic movies, stories or high school stories bore them to death or they are late with finding their match in life and think very young, something is wrong with their femininity. Same with men. The men can be good looking, rich, have muscles, be big, doctor title... if you do not feel this HSP or HB trait, their is less mutual and deeper talk possible, no shared life or love feeling that flows you away. For example if women watch porn to sense if they like women and think... no it dont turns on. Most lesbian porn stars are under IQ 115, not as passionate, care needing and giving, emotional and focused intense and playing with words and anticipation or showing real love and click between both. Its mostly superficial, mostly real woman you find attractive, are not seen there. So if a HB extrovert woman feels only like mothering other girls, understand less girly stuff and feel no "waves" with women so much.. they would never think they could fall in love with one. If like 3 of 100 are HB and 2 are not your type, not near or depressed.. its difficult to find it out and can take years. I fall in love with two women over 35. Often older. Extrovert ENFJs. Seldom found, HB, creative fluid intelligence and often loves nature, kids, animals, travelling, education jobs plus cristaline intelligence. I FELT that they look to me different. Feel something, hug me closer then others, longer eye contact and smile. Smirring nervous looks. But married with kids. Fear what is is. Fear if they are not hetero anymore. Fear what others say of age gap. Both slowed the contact. I understand how hurtful it can be for identity, when sometging feels matched in time and moment, you dont searched for, but i think, to live fully and happy, more and more women have to become true and more honest and sensing their real feelings and erotic selfs. PS: yes with a strapon you can highten up this erotoc pricle and live out thoughts 😊, no shame or fear. Many women like it, others avoid it only because of "i want no man energy" and for me its bullshit. Everyone has yin and yang and knowing what turns you on, even if you like to relax devoted or have controle and be the giver... turning on the other as present turns myself on. Im feminine and yes... this eye contact... bisexual woman are mostly decoted to a men and i give her control... these light and being allowed to gives women power and confidence, but with care too. You always have to ask and find matches that harmonize with you or with you both, you and your partner. Every women, every fantasy and body part is different. 5 sexual Blueprints and 5 love languages are possible. Sensual, sexual, energetic, Shapeshifter, kinky (mental or physical) sexual Blueprint. If physical kink would be latex, cycling clothes would be as alternative not so expensive and also better looking and tight 😂. Mental kink can be daddy/mommy, roleplay or dirty talk. Sensual Blueprint needs more foreplay, good smell, massages, softer and slower touch, candles, oil session. Sexual blueprints both genders love penetration, feeling the other, sweating, feels like sport/fighting, harder, strapons. Shapesgifter have or need all in different variation. Energetic one needs anticipation, feels attraction without touch by looking you in a room, train, needs deep eye contact, fast from 0 to 100 with only some touches on because of sensitivity and much more. I need kisses and met two men who ask why i need it and dont want it. No way. Women with different erotic blueprints differ in slow/soft, sensual style and comfy room... others are more kinky (seen in talk witty and direct in all day as marker or clap friends on the ass and smile; where as other women never would do that) ; sexual blueprint women are easy turned on (it means not low cognition!) by a hand directly on boobs, neck, pussy... and sensual or energetic types would shut off with that fast direct way. I prefer for example a real caring mothering nature or masculine aura with care instead of superficial, physical high kinky attitudes. Like im on with cuddles, cycling clothes, smiles, whole body naked, dirty talk... kissing... mind play and eye gaze... you can find out, what a woman or men needs to feel yourself attracted too on turned on. This awareness needs time, but most people did it not and question why with that partners sex feels magic and with others like a stiff roboter

[@davidstratton696]

@@yoniversum9416 That was unnecessary to put all that when I was simply acknowledging the fact I was surprised by your final thing u said with the straps in your first comment. And I’m honestly not reading all that but something important to keep in mind is romantic and sexual attraction are 2 different things. And they don’t always correlate. Like someone could be bisexual and homoromantic for example. Or even homoromantic and heterosexual. It can be a mixture of stuff. Just an important note. No need to write another essay out tho.

[@garethrose2426]

She bisexual

[@tipoftheiceberg7034]

Sooooo you led a poor dude on for a while and wasted time of his life? We're supposed to SUPPORT this person?

[@CatharsisByProxy]

No, I don’t think anybody out there actually wants people to support the loss of precious time just being wasted nor does anyone (decent, that is) actually support the idea misleading innocent people into living a terrible lie. That would be missing the whole point entirely… I think the idea here is that if we support the people who are working to de-stigmatize common stereotypes and misconceptions surrounding things like human sexuality, self-awareness, social pressure and traditional marriage though, then ultimately we might be able to help others actually avoid having to go through what this former-couple went through. The more we understand and accept ourselves as well as everybody around us, the less likely we are to get entangled with the wrong person. It’s funny. You won’t blame a person for completely misunderstanding his own partner *for YEARS,* and yet you’ll point plenty of blame at his partner for making *the exact mistake he made* by *misunderstanding herself.* People can be silly sometimes - myself included I’m sure. I can at least understand your sense of frustration and anger at the total unfairness of it all, but you don’t have to sit there and act like you don’t get the big picture. You know as well as I do- nobody in their right mind would ever *want* this to happen.

[@Delapray]

Don’t watch if you don’t agree- simple. Oh and mind your own business- thanks👍

[@protrainingtips]

I agree. She played her husband.

[@davidstratton696]

Compulsory heterosexuality is a real problem and u shouldn’t be blaming her. Blame society. They both went through struggle not just the husband.

[@davidstratton696]

@@protrainingtips She didn’t play anyone. Compulsory heterosexuality is a real problem and she was doing what society shoves down people’s throats. U act like he’s the only one who’s hurt with this whole thing. They both went through struggles with it. It’s not her fault tho.

[@texasproud3332]

Sirens abound on this video

[@johnscott488]

Your not gay!!!!

[@goodysmarts]

And you know this how exactly????????

[@masteroflanguages4572]

She might not be, but she is happy with who she's with and that's all that matters.

[@johnscott488]

@@masteroflanguages4572 I don't care which way but she is making a spectacle of her personal life out here!

[@masteroflanguages4572]

@@johnscott488 In your opinion. She didn't ask for your opinion.

[@johnscott488]

@Galactic Republic no one asked yours either.

[@alvinrodriguez6998]

Shes so ausome

[@김도근-s7m]

Poor guy

[@aliaskar3760]

this is entirely the influence of popular culture and Netflix that you are experiencing..there are millions of stories like you on youtube..I don't think these feelings of yours are real..a completely new search for excitement and curiosity..👍

[@ErDaddy_T]

this girl doesnt seem happy. still confused.

[@tanrott]

Don’t know how much pain you create to a family.

[@davidstratton696]

It’s not like it was her choice. She felt forced to because of society. Compulsory heterosexuality sucks.

[@colinl9018]

Sounds like you've had a cockatoo along the way.

[@antje8303]

Why is wanting to cuddle with someone and indication of your sexuality? A lot of things are being oversexcualized in our society. A lot is based on the emotional effection you got or didn´t get from your parents as a child and then look for in other people...

[@davidstratton696]

That’s definitely a sign. Cuddling is a pretty intimate thing. I think it’s more intimate then actually sleeping with them.

[@Sigmaasphere]

Admit it, you just failed to get commitment from a man..

[@jimmadden6406]

wow another homewrecker i bet it gives you all kinds of butterflies knowing the pain and trama he is going thru

[@CrystalDawnCulinary]

Did you not watch the video? Where in the video was there a homewrecking situation? The people who spend time writing negative comments online are the ones who need the most healing so sending you lots of love and healing energy. 💕

[@clairejohnson7809]

Please seek therapy.

[@jimmadden6406]

@@clairejohnson7809 i came across a poll on u tube today that might surprise many people and it was in a way a reply to your comment that you sent to me. IS COMMING OUT TO YOUR SPOUsE THE SAME AS CHEATING AND DID IT DESTROY THE MARRIAGE? THE RESULTS WERE 99% Yes. something to think about

[@jaiakash3819]

@@clairejohnson7809 it's you who should seek therapy

[@vgloveforlife]

@@jimmadden6406 Is she supposed to just deny who she is?

[@DollyPorterfan]

BISEXUAL not gay....

[@johnscott488]

Just because your happier with a woman doesn't mean your gay!!

[@davidstratton696]

She never said she was gay. She said she’s interested in women and she’s dating one right now and is happy. Bi is a thing.

[@davidstratton696]

So she could be bi or she could be gay. The point is she realized she’s attracted to women. Like she said this has been something that’s been in her head since she was around 14-15. It’s not something that just proofed into existence.

[@mandyb0725]

How about we’re all just humans and attracted to souls. We don’t need to label.

[@rayntimb9783]

Biggest deslike

[@luatala8008]

Can’t imagine her being sexual. She’s seems so vanilla.

[@demitwice]

that is such a weird thing to say

[@TOOT427]

You need therpay

[@michaelmurray6351]

Sounds like you are simply looking for love in all places; I wouldn't be surprised if you are back with a man at some point.

[@KJohn-316]

Lord Jesus is LORD of all for all time. The one and only, exclusively, permanently, and truthfully for me and all the world forever. All other gods or idols or religions or cultural ideologies but Christ and Christianity are false. Be blessed! He is the One Way, One Truth, One Life ✝️❤️ John 3:16

[@mzimmerman12]

It's just how sin works. It just sort of creeps in and now you have never been happier. Life isn't about being happier, at least in the ways of the world. A rapist is happy when he rapes someone, a pedophile is happy when he is doing his thing. People are happy when they watch porn. We all just love our sin and the pleasure it brings, don't we? Again, life isn't about happiness, it's about righteousness....being righteous! You seem like a lovely person. I hope some day you can find Christ and live in real Joy. A joy in knowing Him. A joy that you get when He gives you a new heart with new desires, ones that are pleasing to Him, that conversion that becomes your own personal miracle. As Jesus said "What does it profit a man to gain the whole world and lose their soul. "Come to me all that are weary, and I will give you rest". Peace!

[@davidstratton696]

Oh boy one of u. Just let others live. Comparing liking the same gender to the things u mentioned is just wrong. They are completely different things. Their is nothing wrong with her liking other women. It’s completely natural and she’s living her life and being happy. Y must u stomp on that?

[@mzimmerman12]

@@davidstratton696 Sorry to disappoint you but I'm not stomping on anything, just giving an opinion. As far as there being nothing wrong with her being intimate with other women, well that depends who you ask and who determines what is right and wrong. I happen to be of the opinion that it is not natural and life isn't about just being happy as I mentioned earlier. Y must you stomp on that? Just let others live.

[@davidstratton696]

@@mzimmerman12 As long as some is happy that is the most important thing like what the heck? Y must u stomp on other’s happiness? And yes that’s exactly what your doing. Stop judging her she didn’t choose this. Also over a thousand different animal species engage in same gender relationships so u saying it’s not natural is completely wrong. It couldn’t be more natural. But u know what isn’t natural? Technology. And yet here u are writing this hate using said technology. And yet your not saying anything on that. Y’all make no sense. Your the one that’s not letting others live saying that happiness isn’t the most important thing. Like u just want her to be unhappy cause of your misunderstanding of what’s natural? That’s dumb. Liking the same gender is nowhere near the same as the other things u mentioned. It’s a completely valid and natural thing unlike the other things u compared it to. Those other things u mentioned are a choice. Liking someone of the same gender is not a choice. U don’t choose who your attracted to.

[@davidstratton696]

@@mzimmerman12 Like your legit saying she should be unhappy cause I want her to be cause I don’t agree with her loving someone. Which is just dumb. Theirs nothing wrong with liking the same gender. Period.

[@davidstratton696]

@@mzimmerman12 Your the only wrong thing here. Judging her for something she can’t control. Shame on u.