The sad fact that 99% of this isn't 'homeschool' so much as 'when you escaped religious fundamentalist parents and entered the real world'
@AuroraLalune5 жыл бұрын
Yep. We homeschool but not for religious reasons. We avoid religious groups. Most of the groups in our area are religious homeschoolers- meaning they specifically homeschool because they want religion to be part of there schooling. We travel hours on the bus to get to groups and outings with groups that don't push religion down the kid's throat. Ours does very well and isn't isolated because of it. He has neighbor friends who are both homeschooled by going online(to public school mostly) and friends who straight up go to public school and friends who live in other cities. When you are not doing it to isolate your kids from people who disagree with you it can be a very wonderful thing. - It may help that homeschooling wasn't part of our original plan. We just sort of ended up doing so after some stuff happened to kiddo in public school. One really bad teacher and it ruined the next year too and it was just a hole sucking him down and that wasn't fair so when we moved and he would have had to change schools anyway right after they had made some big changes he had barely adjusted to- we decided to homeschool. At first it was only supposed to be temporary. Now he is too far ahead to not be utterly bored and when we ask him if he wants to he doesn't want to because he doesn't want to sit in a classroom all day. The only thing he misses is the playground and kids who never called after we moved. Otherwise, public school is not something he misses. I sort of miss the ability to use those hours to look to add income to the household but I think this is worth it. Even if we do struggle and make many sacrifices to make it work.
@AuroraLalune5 жыл бұрын
One of the kids in one of the homeschool groups is fourteen and already accepted to college. So yeah. When it's not for religious crap and to isolate kids instead of teaching them and getting them and out into the community, it actually does a lot of good.
@colleennewholy90265 жыл бұрын
I was homeschooled. My parents weren't religous and they allowed me to investigate plenty of other religions on my own time. I was supplied with various, college typed textbooks (my parents old text books LOL) and always went to lectures with my parents... Etc. Then I got into regular school, and I was frustrated. Because oh my god... all the kids seemed. Stupid. I eventually realized, that they didn't have the same materials as I did and that many had religious parents that didn't want them to know about sexuality, the sexual spectrum (intersex), anthropology, ecology or even basic science... Then I moved to the city, and it got so much better. I feel bad for the country side, highly religious white kids.
@thefluffykirbyprincess63075 жыл бұрын
Oh my word, yes. I'm Christian, but sometimes I'm embarrassed by how things turn out. My parents were strict before my younger brother turned 12, after that they loosened up a lot more.
@AnnAppl35 жыл бұрын
I was homeschooled due to bullying by most of my class and the teacher, crushed my spirit. My christian home schooling actually helped me feel better. 😡
@christelheadington11365 жыл бұрын
So, it depends on who was doing the home schooling.
@tenofprime5 жыл бұрын
Yep, and to some degree the one being homeschooled. It will be a shock no matter what (much like your first real job will be) and some people adapt faster than others.
@rattoota5 жыл бұрын
Yeah pretty much. I stopped doing everything when i got to high school because my mom was already slacking on grading me and my siblings work and wouldnt help me out when i didnt know what i was doing. I couldnt even find anything helpful online. I love my mom but god it upsets me how little she cared about my education and mental well being. No matter how much i begged for her to put me in public school she just would not listen to me.
@amieaustin95795 жыл бұрын
@@rattoota I'm in a similar situation right now... parents couldnt care less about my education and when they do care they're feeding me straight up bullshit like "science is fake, the earth is flat, theres no outer space, public school will try to teach you the wrong things (AN: better than learning nothing/what you're telling me, dumbass), giants are real because historical buildings have big doors, the government wants to kill us specifically, vaccines are bad, you dont need friends because they're just going to feed you public schooler lies and lastly... you only need to listen to us :)" No matter how hard I beg to be put in public school, they straight up refuse because it would include me getting vaccinated and being taught and "brainwashed" by the schools (which I find ironic) As a result, I've been teaching myself since about 3rd grade (i was given school books but after a certain point that's just not enough) and I literally didnt do schoolwork from like 5th-8th grade much at all due to untreated depression (parents dont believe in mental disorders) so now I'm stuck catching back up (started at 9th and I'm in 10th like I'm supposed to be currently) but I always feel like I'm behind because I dont know anything about certain topics unlike normal people. Still no clue how to fix this but I'm working hard to teach myself so I can get into a good college 🐣 wish me luck I guess?
@starlightequestrian67295 жыл бұрын
I agree. My parents were very proactive with my schooling. I was very socialised and got to do more activities and subjects that interested me that a normal curriculum wouldn't have. I was taught that learning didn't happen between the hours 8 and 3, but all the time. I got to learn based on my skills and learning type that would not have been an option in a public school. I got a lot of 1 on 1 time so that I had a chance to cement what I was learning. However, not all kids/parents can homeschool. Based on the individual and collective needs of the family, one may be better than the other. I know it worked best for me. I was public schooled for a few years and the bullying (from both kids and teachers) was hard. Trying to keep up in subjects I was struggling with or getting bored in subjects I could learn faster in was miserable. Many should not be homeschooled and other may benefit from learning at home.
@amymoxley11655 жыл бұрын
@@rattoota I'm a homeschool mom, and I do a hybrid for this reason. I teach literature and have others grade my kid in science and math. If you want info, I'm open to talking to your parents.
@beccag27585 жыл бұрын
Homeschooler here! Most of us play sports, attend co-ops, and have friends and are not terrified, sheltered, pajama wearers🙃 also my siblings and I have all succeeded well in college so I’d say it worked out completely fine
@queenofthebones5 жыл бұрын
Finally someone says it!! I completely agree!
@SarahBarah5 жыл бұрын
Yeah, one of my soccer friends was homeschooled (so were the siblings) and they were all relatively normal if you dont count the extreme religious ideas but whatever
@tenofprime5 жыл бұрын
Indeed, I hate when all you hear about are the ones who have major trouble adjusting to the real world.
@rattoota5 жыл бұрын
Okay but just because your experience wasnt negative doesnt mean others shouldn't speak about how theirs was.
@SarahBarah5 жыл бұрын
@@rattoota okay but just because some people's experience is negative doesn't mean we shouldn't talk about the ones that aren't
@thanosyeeyeeasmr41255 жыл бұрын
From a homeschooler here: it surprising how common dirty jokes are in the real world
@ellasedits_5 жыл бұрын
Thanos YeeYee Asmr HahahahahaHAHAHAHAHAHAH
@doll_dress_swap125 жыл бұрын
This.
@colleennewholy90265 жыл бұрын
I grew up in a family tjat was always cursing .. So Yeah. Lol
@Clarefalco5 жыл бұрын
Thanos YeeYee Asmr Im the one who makes dirty jokes 24/7 lmfao
@AmyMichelleWiley5 жыл бұрын
After I started attending community college my mom made me start explaining jokes on the TV to her. Lol
@spacemonkey63235 жыл бұрын
So Chernobyl hppend when a Guy rubbed his hands bc it was cold , it makes sense now XD
@saavageturtle41215 жыл бұрын
When they dropped the bomb im Hiroshima and Nagasaki they just put a dude inside there rubbing their hands.
@spacemonkey63235 жыл бұрын
@@saavageturtle4121 Yeah , Tsar bomba is just a Russian Dude Rubbing his Hands
@Venislovas5 жыл бұрын
He rubbed atoms of his rod
@Blox1175 жыл бұрын
"comrade what are you doin? stop rubbing!" "i am trying commander, is not working!"
@lightsinthesky49895 жыл бұрын
Thunder thighs should totally be changed into a complement about the strength and power of a woman's thighs.
@taylorgreen99295 жыл бұрын
Thighs blessed by the power of THOR!!!!!
@sassydee78425 жыл бұрын
I always had the mindset that it was. Even the name sounds badass, it literally has thunder in it
@doll_dress_swap125 жыл бұрын
And the stretch marks on those thundering thighs are just epic lightening marks.
@karisap5 жыл бұрын
Okay but what does it actually mean (homeschooler here help lol I was under the same impression as the person in the video)
@lightsinthesky49895 жыл бұрын
@@karisap chunky thighs. People for some reason see having big thighs as a bad thing.
@AlteredBuzzard5 жыл бұрын
"Are we in a cult or something?" Literally the rest of the world thinks when they hear you have to say the pledge of allegiance and NA every day... XD
@codename4955 жыл бұрын
Fenrir Furry NA? What is that? Most schools teach the pledge of allegiance but they don’t enforce recitation.
@mr.mcnuggies5 жыл бұрын
In Canada, we have to stand and sing the national anthem every day, but we don’t have a pledge of allegiance, so i was surprised when I found out that the US has to say a pledge of allegiance every morning 🤣
@earthlyanna5 жыл бұрын
cHiCkEn McNuGgEtS you guys SING every morning? 🤣 I’m so sorry for laughing, but what the heck?... I honestly think the pledge of allegiance and singing the national anthem are pointless, but whatever makes the schools happy 🥴😬
@AuroraLalune5 жыл бұрын
@@codename495 I don't think you get it. That is pretty recent then. When I was a kid they tried to expel me for 'continued defiance' in saying the pledge. It went down the line until it got that far. My mother gave them hell. But yeah. Optional isn't something I'd call it in public school. Generally, the more recent acceptance is not from a place of good intentions either- or at least not for our country. That said- it never should have been required to begin with. Optional is something it should have always been and even then I'd argue not for the younger grades with no concept what it even was.
@Sandstimes5 жыл бұрын
Even as an American this sounds insane to me lmao. We only recited the pledge of allegiance when I was in elementary school. I haven't had to say it since. As for the national anthem it was only ever played during events and we didnt have to sing we just stood with hand over heart like youd see at any other event that plays the national anthem. Looking back my school was a lot of steps ahead of the others schools I'm hearing about in america lmao
@aryannahusar11915 жыл бұрын
Sounds to me that all the homeschooled culture shock was a result of religious fanaticism instead of actual proper homeschooling
@Adomavo5 жыл бұрын
yup
@killcharge43385 жыл бұрын
As a formal homeschool kid yes it is true
@nicoleb6955 жыл бұрын
@@killcharge4338 actually yeah. Bible study first thing in the morning, creationism taught only
@tenofprime5 жыл бұрын
As a homeschool kid of a Christian family I cannot even begin to tell you how frustrating I find lists like this most of the time. My family was reasonable and had no issues with me knowing things nor did they try to shield me from all evils of the world so to speak.
@gardenlarder5 жыл бұрын
@@tenofprime Great, for you. Most of the homeschooled kids I know, and one homeschooler is my sister unfortunately, are far behind in basic knowledge, social knowledge, and ability to fit in after leaving home.
@insanity2865 жыл бұрын
I'm still homeschooled, I've been homeschooled since I was seven (I'm 13 now) I've never had a culture shock. But I have some things that are funny that I can share for people who go to public and private school! Going to the store on days and times when kids are at school is a nightmare, and walking away from my parents is horrible. I had someone yell at me for "skipping school" and that "my education is really important!" Like lady!!!! I'm learning 24/7 no summer breaks are anything like that, let me look at video games!!!! Also not having an immediate response to what grade I'm in confuses people, I'm in multiple grades, I'm in 7th, 8th and 9th.
@tenofprime5 жыл бұрын
Don't forget it takes something that makes you unable to mentally function to get a sick day. To sick to get out of bed from that bad cold? Here have some soup and your English book, try to get chapters 4 and 5 done if you can.
@frogsnack70725 жыл бұрын
Also having adults treat you like a nuisance because you're out during school hours, when they have no idea who you are or what you're doing or that you're allowed to be out.
@Skewrz5 жыл бұрын
For grades when I'm asked I always said "no idea" as I didn't keep track at all lol. I was working the material not keeping track of my socially acceptable grade score.
@emilyhamilton87665 жыл бұрын
I personally never had anyone assume I was skipping school before, possibly because I don't really get out anyway. And whenever someone would ask me my grade, I would just say I'm homeschooled, we don't go by grade, we go by age groups
@firemagic79895 жыл бұрын
Lol I remember this, I never know what grade I was in. I think my parents just kinda guessed when I switched to public school
@tenofprime5 жыл бұрын
First of all not all homeschool parents are Christian nutjobs, mine were not. I grew up in a Christian home but a reasonable one where the parents did not think it was the 1400s or something. The biggest adjust for me was the stricter schedule of class times, in a setting where you are the only student sometimes you can take an extra few minutes on a task. On the flip side if you get done early you can move on without waiting on everyone else. It took a little bit to get use to but not to bad. One thing that I do notice is those who grew up as homeschool kids tend to be more self motivated and independent as adults because you have to be to survive in a room where you are the one who is your primary motivation to keep going.
@itsasquid5 жыл бұрын
That's pretty much what happened with me in all honesty.
@suehaylol29095 жыл бұрын
I've seen the complete opposite, the homeschooled kids I know are unmotivated and awkward
@sadien29675 жыл бұрын
miquela lol How many homeschoolers do you know?
@boahkeinbockmehr5 жыл бұрын
So if not for religious fundamentalism (would other people outside your social circle also call you normal religious, or does it just seem moderate to you?), why were you homeschooled? In my country the parents would be eventually jailed and the children taken away and placed into foster care for serious neglect and abuse, if the kids didn't attend school regularly, so this entire homeschooling concept is just way too alien to me. If not for fundamentalism, what are the reasons? Social isolation, no experience in working as a group, no soft skills, no learning of how to emancipate oneself in a group environment, no critical thinking, no cross referencing and taught by people less than qualified for the job (don't know about the usa, but here teachers have at least a degree equivalent to a master in their subjects and in pedagogy, many even a doctorate), that's what i think of when i think about the concept of homeschooling. What are the benefits?
@AuroraLalune5 жыл бұрын
boahkeinbockmehr Well we ended up homeschooling after one really bad teacher fucked up so bad it messed kiddo up and caused nightmares and other crap for him. He was six. He responded like a six year old. So when we moved it was an easier decision. Originally we planned only for a little while but he did so much better and our schools/school system are/is so terrible that it just made sense to keep doing it. Not all states allow it but ours is one of the easier ones on homeschoolers. Probably because of the amount of religious fanatics but there are even some public school online programs here as well, and many different options. For ours we looked into the different options. We do both lessons we put together and lessons in an online program, time4learning. We never meant to end up homeschooling in the first place but once we started its since made sense to continue. We mostly end up grouping with others who are like us. Not doing it for religious reasons. In fact our household is mixed. As in we have people of different faiths in it and nobody fights about it. We don't care what anyone believes as long as they don't hurt anyone and embrace conflicting ideas and exposure to them. That is how you figure out what ideas are for you and explore the limits of things you think or have been told etc. If ideas need you isolated from anything that disagrees in order for you to believe them then that is a problem. Actually we have dodged involvement with the hyper religious homeschool groups and co ops(co op classes are when homeschoolers get together to do group classes so our kids don't grow up unable to function in that sort of scenario and know how to cooperate with others etc etc etc- also sometimes a recap and hearing others perspectives is particularly good and positive). Sometimes people just aren't adult enough yo handle it but then you move on. You find another group. Unlike with public school it isn't jarring because the main schooling is grounded in home. If home is stable then the groups needing adjustment isn't as jarring as say- changing schools. Its more like changing a field trip location. The kids they keep contact with they keep contact with. The kids they don't they don't etc. Mostly people end up homeschooling because the public schools fail a lot. Most homeschool kids do better in basically everything too. As numbers show. Its just those aren't the ones you hear about. A fourteen year old in a group we were in for a bit was already doing college. Like accepted and doing courses for college. Fourteen years old. Her plan was to start her career and be working on a higher degree to advance in it by eighteen years old and be done gaining the higher (doctorate) degree by 21. You don't generally hear that happening in public school. There are many reasons that happens in homeschooling rather than public school. The rare cases it could happen in public school they stifle the kids before it can. We homeschool because it works. But we started because the public school system is broken. It needs fixed. its not getting it. it was an option for us. I am sorry that isn't an option for you. For us, we at least had the freedom to act in kiddos best interest when it came up to needing to do so. I am sorry you live in a nanny state where people think those assholes are the majority. They are just the ones you hear about. You never hear about the good ones or especially successful homeschooled kids etc. Only the bad apples. Bad apples are minority. Most of the time homeschooling can be wonderful for the kids and often the family too. Makes it harder to get more incomes because someone(an adult) has to stay back and make sure schooling is done etc... but it does do a lot of good. Its just- for all the successes you'll probably never hear about there is always that one bad apple. Just try to remember that for every bad apple there are many more successful than public school has ever been. Pretty much anywhere.
@Nikolai_The_Crazed5 жыл бұрын
I feel bad for the kids who are homeschooled for “religious reasons”, because that often translates to “we don’t tolerate different opinions, and we won’t allow our kid to have his own religious beliefs.” I’m sorry, but you have to learn how to handle differing opinions. Not tolerating decent is what dictators do. So unless you want to raise a monster, let them have their own thoughts on different topics.
@heatherpogson80995 жыл бұрын
Okay so while there are some families like that, I'm homeschooled because my public schooled friends are ridiculed for their faith. "Protecting religious freedoms" doesn't always equate to intolerance and brainwashing. We are just more free to talk about difficult subjects and not be scared to speak out. Literally every single one of my friends that are public schooled have been afraid to speak out about a subject or ask a controversial question atleast once. If you ask me, it's the schools that are intolerant. My parents wanted to keep me from being afraid to speak out. I'm not intolerant at all and have many friends with different religions.
@Nikolai_The_Crazed5 жыл бұрын
Heather Pogson I never said protecting religious freedoms equates to intolerance and brainwashing. But someone’s religious beliefs are not above question. You need to at least develop a thick skin for those who don’t agree with, or even don’t like your opinions. Hiding yourself away from ridicule and scrutiny isn’t going to help you. It just means you’ll have a harder time handling it later on in life. That’s why we have so many adult children today. They want a bubble where they feel “safe and comfortable” to talk about things. But conversation isn’t always going to be comfortable, or even feel safe for that matter. Uncomfortable conversations need to happen, and sometimes that ends in hostilities. But without those conversations we just stagnate. Nothing gets done and the problems don’t get fixed. That’s what I can’t stand.
@DezhdaBear5 жыл бұрын
Nikolai Your Crazy Uncle I’m a Christian and I approve this message
@Clarefalco5 жыл бұрын
Nikolai Your Crazy Uncle that’s exactly why I’m homeschooled and look at me now! I’m a Gay disappointment who changes my appearance at 1 am bc They always told me the “proper” way to dress, etc
@Nikolai_The_Crazed5 жыл бұрын
Richie Trashmouth Tozier I love how you tacked on the gay bit. It almost sound like you were saying, “you think a normal disappointment is bad? I’m a GAY disappointment!” Like that made it worse somehow XD
@aaashrae5 жыл бұрын
I was homeschooled but went to co-ops and public school band and art classes. The curriculum was really good and taught me so much and I loved learning. My mom taught us all about questioning what we are taught and how to be critical and creative and it really prepared me. I think I was a lot more prepared for college than other people because of how I was taught to learn and study on my own and ask questions and work independently but also learn from books and lectures
@Cookie-ct1fn5 жыл бұрын
Reverse: I found out my home schooled friends didn't have summer break since they took week long breaks through out the year (camping, holidays, etc)
@queeniebeanie31965 жыл бұрын
I don’t know if I should feel bad or jealous 😶
@Firebidden5 жыл бұрын
@@queeniebeanie3196 depends. You could have summer school and extra time off, or summer break with a stressful and serious schedule lol
@AmyMichelleWiley5 жыл бұрын
My mom always told us she needed the summer break from teaching us. So we had a normal schedule.
@angelicgacha5 жыл бұрын
I follow my old schools curriculum and holidays (but then I go on holidays throughout the year) because I have severe anxiety I can't leave the house yet I'm perfectly good at school lol
@Assasengirl4 жыл бұрын
I had summer break and winter break and spring break. Sometimes I had to double up on work to get done in time but we still had breaks
@quicwaterr85275 жыл бұрын
this comforts me as a current homeschooler with anxiety about being behind socially and intellectually
@coelhofofolps51535 жыл бұрын
You are going to be fine, don't worry ^^
@Revl7535 жыл бұрын
Don't worry about it! Take your time and don't rush yourself. You'll get where you need to be sooner than you realize.
@MinttMeringue5 жыл бұрын
If you need help, you can always check out r/homeschoolrecovery. People have little tips and such to try and keep up no matter your situation usually!
@AmyMichelleWiley5 жыл бұрын
Are you part of co-ops and have friends and social activities? Do your parents teach you (not just let you do your own thing)? If so, you’ll be fine. Most colleges actually seek out homeschooled kids because we know how to motivate ourselves to stay on task and to find stuff we’re passionate about so we enjoy learning. I didn’t find the transition from homeschool to college to be too difficult.
@sadien29675 жыл бұрын
Homeschooled my whole life, and honestly? Biggest culture shock is probably discovering how many people don’t understand homeschooling. There’s a lot of misconceptions about it, (and I’m absolutely not taking the importance away from people’s bad experiences, because they are valid!) but the bad stuff doesn’t happen as much as you think. Other than that, though, I didn’t really have any “culture shocks”. I know people are going to think “oh, that’s because you’re one of the lucky ones” and I mean, yeah, of course I am. But I have relatively the same experience of all of the homeschoolers I know (which is a lot). So really, “the lucky ones” are a majority. Again, I’m not trying to erase anyone’s negative experiences. There are some messed up people in the world, and no one deserves that.
@quill40275 жыл бұрын
The lucky ones are more common but we're less "interesting" and have less outrageous stories so nobody realizes we're there. They hear about homeschoolers with sob stories and apply those experiences to all of us. We're all bible thumpers and socially awkward because we didn't have to ask to go to the bathroom
@sadien29675 жыл бұрын
@@quill4027 Exactly. It's pretty sad
@kurimsonkitsune44085 жыл бұрын
People look down on homescoolers yet complain about the public school system constantly and all its problems and only aknowlage the minute amount of people who have had bad experiences with it. It drives me nuts.
@MinttMeringue5 жыл бұрын
@@kurimsonkitsune4408 I mean, neither is great. (I'm a homeschooler too, so you cant call me uneducated on it lol) Online schools have an astonishingly high dropout rate usually, and there's a larger number of people negatively affected by homeschooling than some other homeschoolers think. We tend to cover it up and say homeschooling 100% leads to better grades and such without talking about how it's really just up to parent's income and such.
@kurimsonkitsune44085 жыл бұрын
@@MinttMeringue I didn't do online classes. Also my family is like dirt poor so I wouldn't concider how rich your parents are as an indicator of what type of education you're going to get. Obviously home schooling is vast and different and people will have largely different experices with it. But I have to say I pretty much only hear people talk about the people who have been adversely effected by it when in reality most of the homeschoolers out there are perfectly normal. They just don't go bother shouting it to the heavens as much because we just don't care.
@sillygooselol27575 жыл бұрын
Omg I got so much second hand embarrassment during this 😂
@OTD_Andre5 жыл бұрын
Some people aren’t meant to be parents
@frogsnack70725 жыл бұрын
Or teachers. lol
@Ycekhold5 жыл бұрын
8:03 *"Thunder Thighs is not a compliment for the power and strength of a woman's thighs."* Chun-Li: Allow me to introduce myself.
@seriouswithdaysoff5 жыл бұрын
I was homeschooled my whole life but I went to a public school for band and Jazz band and people were always surprised by me. Like yes I have other friends, I'm somewhat normal, I do play sports, we have dances, and I actually have better social skills than most public schooled friends. The only downside for me was that I found I don't do well in classrooms and that hurt me after high school. But that's just me personally.
@Bigfoot_With_Internet_Access5 жыл бұрын
When you learn that other kids get to actually have a life and friends and be in relationships and stuff
@cheyenne.mari235 жыл бұрын
You do realize homeschoolers have that stuff too? -_-
@Bigfoot_With_Internet_Access5 жыл бұрын
@@cheyenne.mari23 yeah, I was homeschooled and I missed out on a lot of that stuff, but I know my experience with it wasn't the same as everyone else's. I was just kinda joking
@cheyenne.mari235 жыл бұрын
@@Bigfoot_With_Internet_Access Ok sorry... it's just a lot of people I've met and seen online think that homeschoolers are crazy kids who dont know what friends are and have no idea how the real world works :/
@firstnamelastname19695 жыл бұрын
Yeah, pretty much me IRL. Being homeschool kinda sucked (Homeschooled my whole life till 15 years old) Another two things is Social media and how "Normal" everyone else was
@someBody-bp1vc5 жыл бұрын
It sucks
@fastony96595 жыл бұрын
Homeschooling is something I've always been grateful for. K-7th grade was the time I spent in homeschool, 8th-graduation was the time spent in public school. So I got roughly 12 years of wholesome family values and learning not to be a dick, and I spent the rest of high school participating in High school/teenager things, all with values that my mom and dad taught me being at the house all those years. Also my parents were smart and made me involved in extracurricular stuff in the homeschooling academy I was a part of. So I was very socially interactive even before I went to public school, which only helped me by the time I did go.
@Vulppix5 жыл бұрын
I’m a homeschooled Christian, my only public school experience was kindergarten but I’m honestly still surprised at how some of these people were so shocked at things. I can understand how some people who weren’t Christians might not have any social interaction, but because I go to church that’s where I interact with other people on a pretty regular basis. It’s just crazy how closed up some people can be. It’s so sad to hear that quite a few of these left the church because of their parent’s over protectiveness.
@frogsnack70725 жыл бұрын
Or their parent's laziness.
@codename4955 жыл бұрын
Sometimes parents impose false views or beliefs on their children, usually out of love but still it’s more common in a homeschool setting because there is no oversight.
@pietrayday99155 жыл бұрын
My home-schooling, hippie parents weren't Christian and didn't attend church, and were both kind of awkward loners to begin with, and it's probably no surprise that I turned out an awkward loner as well. I did, however, attend public school at the same time I home-schooled, so it's not like I was kept locked in a room for my entire childhood the way some of the responders in the video seem to have been - in theory, I should have gotten much of the socialization through public school that any normal kid would have - I simply didn't have summers, weekends, and nights free for socializing and playing the way normal public school students would have, instead spending time alone or with my parents, reading books or studying in published home-schooling books and activities. The results were a weird mixture of being a bit ahead of normal students in enough things academically that the public school promoted me to a "gifted student" program (until those vanished in the '80s), while at the same time being weirdly backward where it came to social activity and that sort of thing. I was sheltered and delayed a bit compared to my peers on things like cursing/swearing, drugs, and sex - the Urban Dictionary crap - at first, until my parents figured I was old enough to handle it, at which point my father (bless him) tried to awkwardly give a tactful and diplomatic version of the gist of it and getting so embarrassed and flustered he couldn't finish the "birds and bees" talk in spite of his best efforts, while my mother had no filters and erred on the side of giving too much information, to the degree that I suddenly knew way more on the subject than my peers, which in many ways was even worse than being weird and sheltered - suddenly, over summer vacation, I was weird and knew unsettling details on the subject way in advance of my classmates, so that I would find myself overhearing normal grade-school conversations about sex, where I'd correct the other kids on the mechanics in painstaking detail, or reveal some unpleasant surprise about sexual perversions or diseases that kids that age should probably not need to know about, instantly killing the conversation with a lot of spooked-looking grade-schoolers running away from me, shaking their heads and saying "jeez, what a freak!" So anyway, I think being Christian or conservative has less to do with the these over-sheltered kids, as much as some insular, withdrawn, and socially-awkward parents or parenting styles do, and it's definitely possible to get similar results even from public schooling. I suspect that socializing through a church or a hippie commune or cult or anything could help compensate for some of that isolation, it's just a matter of just how much of an opportunity and an example for socializing gets provided by the home-schooling parents.
@pietrayday99155 жыл бұрын
My home-schooling, hippie parents weren't Christian and didn't attend church, and were both kind of awkward loners to begin with, and it's probably no surprise that I turned out an awkward loner as well. I did, however, attend public school at the same time I home-schooled, so it's not like I was kept locked in a room for my entire childhood the way some of the responders in the video seem to have been - in theory, I should have gotten much of the socialization through public school that any normal kid would have - I simply didn't have summers, weekends, and nights free for socializing and playing the way normal public school students would have, instead spending time alone or with my parents, reading books or studying in published home-schooling books and activities. The results were a weird mixture of being a bit ahead of normal students in enough things academically that the public school promoted me to a "gifted student" program (until those vanished in the '80s), while at the same time being weirdly backward where it came to social activity and that sort of thing. I was sheltered and delayed a bit compared to my peers on things like cursing/swearing, drugs, and sex - the Urban Dictionary crap - at first, until my parents figured I was old enough to handle it, at which point my father (bless him) tried to awkwardly give a tactful and diplomatic version of the gist of it and getting so embarrassed and flustered he couldn't finish the "birds and bees" talk in spite of his best efforts, while my mother had no filters and erred on the side of giving too much information, to the degree that I suddenly knew way more on the subject than my peers, which in many ways was even worse than being weird and sheltered - suddenly, over summer vacation, I was weird and knew unsettling details on the subject way in advance of my classmates, so that I would find myself overhearing normal grade-school conversations about sex, where I'd correct the other kids on the mechanics in painstaking detail, or reveal some unpleasant surprise about sexual perversions or diseases that kids that age should probably not need to know about, instantly killing the conversation with a lot of spooked-looking grade-schoolers running away from me, shaking their heads and saying "jeez, what a freak!" So anyway, I think being Christian or conservative has less to do with the these over-sheltered kids, as much as some insular, withdrawn, and socially-awkward parents or parenting styles do, and it's definitely possible to get similar results even from public schooling. I suspect that socializing through a church or a hippie commune or cult or anything could help compensate for some of that isolation, it's just a matter of just how much of an opportunity and an example for socializing gets provided by the home-schooling parents.
@idwmbijpagu95055 жыл бұрын
Spring Willow same, I’m a homeschooled Christian too. But I’m not sheltered at all, I think that sheltering your kids isn’t a good way to parent. (I’m 15 currently), the way I look at it is, show your kids what really goes on in the world, show them the good, bad, and ugly parts. Tell them what is right what is wrong, the basics. Then tell them that when they are old enough to live on their own that they will now have to choose what they follow, what they do, and what they experience. Because if you lead your children down the right path, that will set them up to see what is right and what is wrong. Trust that they will do the right thing. Idk lol I just had that Philosophy😂, show them right from wrong, and show them the bad, the good and the ugly, then trust they will do the right thing. I just don’t think sheltering is good for kids cause they will eventually go out into the world and see all of the things you kept from them and then they won’t know if it’s good or bad. They need guidance and protection not (metaphorical) shelter. Obviously they will form their own opinion and you can’t control that, but at least try to guide them the best you can ya know.
@Bushwhacker-so4yk5 жыл бұрын
I really don’t like when people keep their innocent friends innocent. Everyone deserves knowledge, and sheltering doesn’t help people. Just answer their questions. Seriously.
@tenorlove5 жыл бұрын
11:05 That was how my homeschooling went (4th-5th grades). If I took an interest in a subject, I got to study it in-depth. Best example was Yellowstone. I took an interest in it, and we loaded the camper, drove to Yellowstone, and spent 3 weeks.
@rhodawatkins45165 жыл бұрын
tenorlove That sounds awesome, but part of me is thinking, "wait, nobody had to be at work or anywhere?" Most of us are so trapped in our jobs, schools, etc.
@KitsuneFyora3 жыл бұрын
Culture shock is that there is WAY more knowledge you receive in public school than in homeschool (if you don't go to homeschool events/programs with others). I feel like a goddamn idiot half the time because I miss social cues, misinterpret what others say, had to learn what was a general conversation, etc. It's been painful
@dillon68445 жыл бұрын
homeschooled my entire life (like, completely homeschooled. never even been in a traditional classroom. the closest i’ve been to regular school is the online one i currently go to) i was baffled by breaks, i just took days off when i needed them and then made it up with my mom edit: also, how taboo sex is in the real world. my mom gave me a puberty book and made sure i knew i could ask her or my dad any questions i had about puberty and sex (i’m very much a self- teacher. i learn better from myself and would rather figure it out alone if at all possible) and i was so confused by how awkward everyone was about the topic
@kurimsonkitsune44085 жыл бұрын
I knew about sex before most people my age did. Like you said I was given a book and told I could ask questions. And then the one time this public schooled kid was like, "wait aren't you hOmEsChOolEd how did you learn about THAT? dO yOu taLk tO yoUR pARENts about that kind of stuff?!?!" I was like yes? She was so shocked. Like I had just told her I like to eat peoples garbage or something. It was actually rather annoying.
@colleennewholy90265 жыл бұрын
Right? My mom and aunt even allowed me to read romance books (very tame compared to what you find on AO3 >.> ), and movies that had sex in it Mostly because it wss one of the first things they informed me and my siblings about, and about consent and about the other things. Like "you'll need to use sanitary products one day" and that sort of thing Then public school came along, and everyone was skirting around it like it was the plague...
@annf18014 жыл бұрын
I was genuinely shocked when my girlfriend described how her parents gave her the sex talk. My parents sat me down, read me a book about gods design for sex, and sent me on my merry way with an abstinence until marriage instruction. Her parents on the other hand told her about how everything works, what feels good, how to safely explore things. I genuinely didn’t believe her until I asked her mom about it too
@IsabellaCarriedo225 жыл бұрын
I was in public schools all the way up until my Junior year of high school when I switched to homeschooling for personal/medical reasons. I think one of the biggest culture shocks I experienced since being home schooled is when I went back to the school for Marching Band and heard other students talking about their teachers and quizzes and papers that were due. I never realized how much we focus on those types of things and stress about them until I left.
@alliej.94235 жыл бұрын
Hello!! I'm just a Homeschooled middle-schooler coming over to say: We are not all stupid. Yes, some homeschoolers are dumb, but homeschoolers are always either geniuses or idiots, depends on the parents. I have friends! I probably have more friends than the average public schooler. I go to big church so I have my entire life group of about 15 girls, multiple high school friends, and I'm also in a co op where I have a couple friends. I'm not sheltered. I know about sex, I know about drugs, I know about swearing, but I CHOOSE to not do those things. Not because I'm afraid of my dad. I could easily get away with those things without getting caught. But I don't do them so I can have a good relationship with my family. I don't do them to build trust. I don't do them because they go against my morals. Call me a goody-two-shoes, but I'm just trying to live my best life, and my best life doesn't involve any of those things. Yes, I am a Christian. But that is not why I'm homeschooled. I am homeschooled so I can have free time. I am homeschooled so I don't have to deal with bullies. I'm not a judgemental bratty homeschooler. If you're an Athiest, okay. As long as you don't shout "GOD ISN'T REAL IDIOT HOMESCHOOLER" to me, I won't shove my religion down your throat. Also, I don't have anything against public schoolers. I have just as many public school friends as I have homeschool friends. I have a right to be stressed just like you do. My mom died from cancer last week, I'm trying to grieve and catch up on school at the same time, all the while stressing over my brother who just started drinking all his issues away. So why don't you mind your own business before telling me "luckyyy, you don't have peer pressure, bullies, or school." Okay thanks for reading. Sorry for getting angry at the end. Please let me know if you have any questions.
@beeswithknees8505 жыл бұрын
You're a strong person, Rosebud. The world needs more people like you. I'll pray for you if you want. You're not alone.
@alliej.94235 жыл бұрын
@@beeswithknees850 Awe, thank you! Prayers would be very appreciated. Thank you so much :)
@mrs.potatohead84715 жыл бұрын
I wish you the best X ❤
@alliej.94235 жыл бұрын
Mrs.Potato Head Awe, thank you!
@JazzyLogical5 жыл бұрын
Another Homeschooled Christian here! I'm so sorry about your mother. I will be praying for you and your family. Let me know if you want to chat or something ❤
@isabel-to4os5 жыл бұрын
Being tested by random people as soon as they find out I'm homeschooled, one time i went to a routine doctors appointment and I was like 7 or something and they ask me to sing the ABCs, pointed at something and asked me if I knew what color it was, tried to find out if I knew my shapes, ect. I knew them all of course and all i remember thinking the whole time was "does he think I'm stupid" it's people like that who caused me to be TERRIFIED of reading aloud in front of people or answering any academic question, I was just scared that everyone would find out how dumb I was because homeschoolers can't be smart, found out that I'm not stupid at all, and I can do everything I should be able too. Another thing is the dreaded question "why did you take the day off school?" While I'm shopping with my mom, or "what school do you go to". Other than that being homeschooled has been amazing.
@emilyhamilton87665 жыл бұрын
That It is normal in conversation, that the first person won't even be finished talking before the second starts responding. That a lot of people think peeps are gross Birthdays aren't talked about a lot, and some think it's weird to ask an acquaintance what they want for their birthday in casual conversation That race can matter so much, but in ways that aren't generally considered racist. That school buses don't have seatbelts That a lot of people think documentaries are boring The lack of modesty The celebrity worship All the different stereotypes Im still learning, and still often surprised by what others consider everyday things. I doubt the world will ever look normal to me, but I'm glad I can finally be a part of it
@banditolwt78015 жыл бұрын
i was homeschooled every year except for 8th grade. my parents were super conservative, overprotective, overly strict Christians and it was awful. i didn't really start to realize how terrible it was until after 8th grade when i'd finally experienced freedom. the only reason my parents let me go to public school that year was because my dad had just quit his job (as a pastor) so we couldn't afford homeschooling, and my mom who was my teacher had just had my baby sister and was too busy to teach me. but that year i experienced literally every culture shock you could think of...i was so socially awkward and anxious because we never did co-ops or homeschool groups so i literally only saw kids my age through church once a week. i've always been a very shy, quiet, socially awkward/anxious person by nature but homeschooling just reinforced that and made it a thousand times worse. i was super far behind in some subjects like math, science, and social studies because my parents had sheltered me instead of properly educating me (i hated math and they were horrible teachers of it so they let me slack off; they were avid creationists so i didn't even know half the stuff i should have about science and biology etc.; they only taught me the good parts of history and left out the bad, or anything that didn't fit their Christian worldview). i had no sex ed whatsoever and had no idea what sex even was or where babies came from (also i'm not sure what grade they teach that in public school so 8th grade may have just been too early, idk, but they barely had any sex ed at my school that year, so until i discovered the internet behind my parents back a year or so later i had no knowledge of sex whatsoever except that it was a "sin"). i struggled with taking tests, i struggled with the sudden structure (the way my parents homeschooled it was completely unorganized and my mom didn't even really teach much or give me tests or assignments she would just have me read books) i struggled with talking to anyone, then when i finally was able to make friends i felt like such an outsider because i couldn't relate to most of them at all. and then by the end of the year when i had finally started to adjust and realized how much better public school was compared to the way my parents homeschooled me, and then they decided to pull me out and homeschool me through high school 🙃 i begged them all the time, every year in high school, to put me back in public school for so many reasons but nope. they wanted to keep me in a little sheltered bubble and control absolutely everything about my life and worldview and conception of reality. we did join a co-op my freshman year, which made things a lot more bearable and at least gave me some social interaction but it was still pretty much hell. now i'm in a transition year (hard to explain but basically, i graduated high school last year but won't start college till next year. it's not a year off, i'm actually taking some basic, easy college level courses right now to prepare me for next year, the reason being that i'm not at all prepared for actual college because of my parents' shitty homeschooling job lmao). i've adjusted a lot and now have a pretty normal life typical of someone my age, minus the social aspect because i still struggle to make friends and interact with other people. but hopefully i'll be getting out of this shithole pretty soon
@GoldPrince24685 жыл бұрын
I’m not a homeschooler but my mental health was being addressed by the time I was in middle school. I have Asperger’s Syndrome. SOCIETY was a culture shock.
@blazereho8115 жыл бұрын
How are you dealing with it? My younger brother (16) has asperger’s as well and has been “homeschooled” (AKA dropped out) since about 11-12. He doesn’t have any real life friends because of it, which is fine since he at least has online friends, but I’m worried that once he goes into the real world that it’ll be overwhelming
@GoldPrince24685 жыл бұрын
@@blazereho811 In Elementary School, I was a violent brat. If I had my backpack and I didn't like you then I would TRY to use my backpack as a weapon. It was actually pretty funny in hindsight but also sad in reality. If I don't like something, I screamed or snitched. My mom never saw a problem. When my dad got custody of me, he saw how I would treat my sister and decided to get to the bottom of it. That summer my dad would bring me to his work and use carpentry to teach me life lessons. When I wasn't with anyone, they had my face in a book or outside. First day of my new school and my "instincts" kicked in, which made a few people give me looks. “What is this person doing wrong?” I don't know but I don't like it. My first month of 6th grade I was diagnosed with Asperger's. Immediately research on the subject started and my dad chipped away at my toxic behaviors that sprung up. (Unrelated? I went from a 2nd grade reading level to a 9th grade reading level.) I'm actually pretty high on the spectrum. You can hug me and whatnot but I have to see it coming and I don't like certain noises. Like the buzzing of lights. I was fully aware of how I was acting in Highschool and I had some counselors teach me how to cope with being me. I started making friends when people realized I didn't think myself above anyone but my problem is keeping friends. Part of that isn't Asperger's because my sister isn't on the spectrum and she has that friend problem. That girl has been my anchor for as long as I can remember. I actually have a stockman job at our local hobby store. Unfortunately I'm not as fast as everyone else doing a similar job. I'm trying but I'm also not about to cut corners. There's this new guy that “teleports” but really, he moves faster than everyone. My boss is considering letting me go but instead of talking to me like my last boss, he wants to talk to my sister. She isn't having any of that so I just need to sit tight and wait for any signs of hour cutting. Anyway, what questions do you have? I don't have all the answers but I have enough.
@throughcolouredglasses93005 жыл бұрын
In my country being home schooled isn't a thing so I have questions. How does a parent draw the line between being a teacher and being a parent? How does the child seperate the authority figure with formal seperation between you two from the person who nurtures and is there for you no matter what? Does the parent homeschooling the kid have to have a teaching degree? If not, how do you ensure the child actually is taught everything they would learn in regular school? Or am I just assuming homeschooling means your parents teach you and in reality it means a teacher comes to your house and your parents aren't at all the ones teaching you?
@halatiny65375 жыл бұрын
Sheltering your kids like those crazy parents prevent those children from being able to navigate and adjust to the world or any surrounding situations whatsoever
@ShimmerWyn5 жыл бұрын
"What the Crapping Frickmeister?" ---- Your tribe swears differently than most. Totally lost it right there. Absolutely LOVE the phrase 'What the Crapping Frickmeister?' More beautiful words have never been spoken. X'DDD
@narcoleptic_insomniac29345 жыл бұрын
I was home schooled. I started taking classes at community college when I was sixteen. College is a lot easier then a lot of people make it out to be. The only thing that really shocked me about going to community college, was listening people talk about all the toxic high school drama bullshit that happened at their school.
@panicatthechemicalfalloutp58215 жыл бұрын
Hi, homeschooler here, not religious, not sheltered, parents aren’t nutjobs(actually quite smart, don’t know why I’m not(lol)) but I wasn’t aware that so many homeschoolers were... like... this? Nothing wrong but this is like a culture shock in the other direction
@itsasquid5 жыл бұрын
Former homeschooler. They homeschooled me and my other five siblings because of religious reasons and they honestly didn't like the school district I was in. Yes I grew up in a Christian home. Yes it was somewhat conservative. Yes, I was and still am somewhat socially awkward. Yes I still am a Christian. No, I'm not primarily conservative anymore. (I tend to stay away from politics and don't express my views openly much to the chagrin of my family.) No, my parents or family weren't controlling nut jobs, they are mostly reasonable. They mean well, but they can be somewhat close minded with certain things. My mom, who worked with special need kids before, majored in psychology during community college, was and still is super organized, and also homeschooled my other siblings over 25 years, taught me. I actually learned a lot about what I wanted to do as a career because my mom wanted all of us to explore our interests. She's partially the reason I'm working on becoming a 3-D video game artist. Not only did I get to learn and do what I was interested in, but my mom and my brother helped introduce me to the music that I love to this day: rock and folk music. It wasn't perfect. I practically had almost no social life because we always church hopped and, during highschool, had barely anytime to hang out with friends. It was also more difficult because my mom got TBI while I was finished up 7th grade and my parents, for what ever reason, decided to have my mom homeschool me again as oppose to putting me in a public school. 8th grade was hell and I didn't help ease the problems. She was somewhat harder to communicate with afterwards but she still had her sharp wit.I can go on and on about how terrible 8th grade was and what could've happened, but I honestly don't know if I would be alive if I wasn't homeschooled during that time. I was a moody, depressed 13-14 year old. Regardless, being homeschooled partially made me into the determined perfectionistic artist I am today. So over all: I loved how flexible it was, but hated the social climate or like there of and should never have been homeschooled through 8th grade. I was a giant mix bag. Would I homeschool my own kids? Really depends. If I do, I'll make sure that they'll have a more stable social climate and be more honest with myself if I can't teach them. My culture shock moment... wasn't really a culture shock moment. When I started community college, I was previously very used to being alone and generally didn't want to interact with people unless I had to. By the second week of college, I started hanging out with these two fantastic sisters who are still two of my best friends to this day. I graduated with them earlier this year and my God I miss them so much.
@snackalicious_24245 жыл бұрын
I feel bad for people who were homeschooled from the beginning because they don't usually get to know how their peers act towards each other until their parents decide to put them in public school
@beccag27585 жыл бұрын
Don’t worry man, most of us are completely fine. The people I worry about are public schoolers who switch to homeschooling, I’ve only ever seen that go poorly
@tenofprime5 жыл бұрын
@@beccag2758 yea, normally the motivation for a move like that is the same as putting them in a private school. There is some issue going on that is making them not perform well in school, unless it was something inherently wrong with that school all you have done is relocate the problem. You need to look at why the child is underperforming and deal with that as you core task.
@starlightequestrian67295 жыл бұрын
Depends on the parents and how they homeschool. I was with kids my own age as well as adults (besides my parents) all the time. I was very well socialised and so were all my siblings. Although there are many examples that show that homeschooling is not for every child and not for every parent. I am religious, but was also taught science. In my house we learned that God works through science, not against it. So yes, the earth is round, we are ruining the planet with our pollution and vaccines work!
@AuroraLalune5 жыл бұрын
Becca G To be fair we did this with kiddo and so far it has gone well. Some elitism we ran into once with another parent who thought she was better for doing so from the beginning... but otherwise its gone well. He does very well and loves the co op groups we attend as well.
@kykim63985 жыл бұрын
some of the parents here legitimately make me angry
@nbv69755 жыл бұрын
As a former homeschooled who went to 3rd, 4th, and high school, I had absolutely 0 culture shock. Honestly I was the opposite from sheltered, as were (some) of my other homeschool friends. It wasn't that different, and honestly easier in sone regards. I'd never give up any part of my education for anything (mostly), and am glad my parents homeschooled me the way they did.
@jayneswinford46175 жыл бұрын
hi another homeschooler here. i swear we aren’t all crazy or pulled out to be indoctrinated into cult like settings. my mom pulled me out of public school after fifth grade. the reason was the school system is a nightmare and the middle school where i live is terrible. i have really bad social anxiety and i know people attribute that to being a weird homeschooler, but i’m reality i’ve had this problem since around third grade and outside of that i am a huge introvert. because if homeschooling i can take classes at my pace (within reason) and truly learn. i’ve met some really amazing people through homeschooling, most of my classes are actually online so it’s much like a classroom. only we only have “live class” once a week and have the due date for the work that saturday. it really is beneficial to me. i’m on track to graduate in 2021 and my social anxiety has lessened after years of therapy and finding the people i could connect with better. my brother is much more outgoing than me, and homeschooling hasn’t affected his ability to socialize and be a normal kid. this was longer than i intended it to be, bottom line i swear most of us aren’t in some sort of cult, we just have a different education process. no different than most public, private, or charter schools really.
@cristinalingvay36215 жыл бұрын
I was homeschooled until sophomore year of HS and I remember the biggest thing that I struggled with culturally was pop culture. I never knew who britney spears was, I didn’t know who snoop dogg was, I never watched high school musical or camp rock, I never watched titanic, and I didn’t know what 99% of the stuff kids were talking about was. I remember even the way kids talked was weird to me. I was very soft spoken, passive, spoke very clearly and never used any slang, so I struggled actually understanding what people were saying.
@metarcee24834 жыл бұрын
I took my GED this Summer. The testing room at my community college was incredibly strict on not disturbing others. I couldn't even stretch or it would have looked like raising my hand to signal that I was finished. I was pleasently surprised at how orderly everything was though. I need order to reduce stress, so it really helped.
@MinttMeringue5 жыл бұрын
I wonder if many people from r/homeschoolrecovery chimed in on this? As someone who had to start homeschooling in high school, there really is a HUGE issue with religion and/or parents doing nothing, but people never talk about it and act like it's 100% great. We should be more transparent about issues!
@MinttMeringue5 жыл бұрын
Also, in co-ops there's often an anti-public school bias and they literally lie about what they teach in schools lol. But since I grew up in public schools I called them out over it and the other students seemed very surprised.
@nopeno21204 жыл бұрын
I'm homeschooled and there are so many misconceptions about it that I often just say 'yeah i go to a private school' because then I can actually make friends.
@charliepavljkovsky5 жыл бұрын
i’ve been homeschooled my whole life but i’ve been to school events/open houses with my friends who do go to public school and i’m always shocked at how crowded and thin the halls are like wtf. how do you deal. and there’s so many people and some of them are so TALL
@m.j.piazza78535 жыл бұрын
I was homeschooled for 10 years and I can't believe how terrible the public school system is. The fact that adults exist who don't know the difference between your and you're and can't figure percent discounts boggles me.
@mattwolf76983 жыл бұрын
Eh, it depends, my mom had a horrible understanding of math. In general, homeshool is probably worse as your parent has to be good in all subjects verse a normal school where you have specialized teachers. I was in a private Christian school, home school and public school, public school was my favorite, home school was the worst.
@m.j.piazza78533 жыл бұрын
@@mattwolf7698 I’m sorry your experience turned out that way. I turned out well-rounded and so did almost all of the homeschoolers I know personally. We were all associated with co-ops so different parents could teach different subjects based on their strengths. Plus we used online resources like Khan Academy.
@martialme845 жыл бұрын
04:59 I already like your "slightly drunk uncle bill" and think that out of all your family he might be the one i could click with best.
@berdooli33265 жыл бұрын
i went to a charter school in elementary school and started homeschooling in 5th grade. I faced culture shock when I started homeschooling. I went to some sort of homeschool convention and I realized nearly everyone there was weird and many didn't know how to socialize normally. I was horrified and didn't feel like i fit in with anyone. I was really lonely during my homeschool years and I didn't enjoy the presence of my homeschooled peers.
@shalahmattnet5 жыл бұрын
So I'd like to add to the conversation. I have two older brothers and we were all homeschooled almost the whole way through ( I remember going to a private school when I was very young, but that was so my mother could have a break from being mom, teacher, and nurse all at once all the time) Nurse? You may be asking yourself. The eldest brother has a form ASD (Autism spectrum disorder) and ADHD as a part of it, and I have lived with a complex variety of chronic illnesses since age two. The medication they put me on suppressed my immune system. My doctor at the time told my mother I had to be homeschooled, because otherwise I would get sick way too often and miss too much school to get the education that my peers would. My brother was diagnosed with ADHD when he was little, but the ASD wasn't diagnosed until he reached adolescents. The woman who did the testing was shocked because my brother liked himself and thought he was a good kid. My mother asked why he would think otherwise and the woman told her that kids like him who had gone to public or private schools hated themselves, thought that they were stupid, and believed themselves to be bad kids. So the next time you start to look down on a homeschool family, or think that your version of education is better than others, remember this story. Some families have no choice and must homeschool their kids. Public and private schools don't always provide a safe and supportive learning environment (especially for kids that have special needs). Homeschooling isn't for everyone in the same way that public/private school isn't for everyone. Homeschooling is just another form of education that works great if done right. Please stop looking down on homeschoolers as if we're aliens. Homeschooling lets students work at their own pace. It's a curiosity based learning experience that allows students to actually learn instead of memorizing stuff to regurgitate on a test. I'd argue that homeschoolers are better at making friends because we know that friendship takes work and you have to arrange a time to meet with your friends. This isn't the way it always goes, but if done right, homeschooling can go like this.
@Assasengirl4 жыл бұрын
I was homechooled all the way through until college and never had any major "culture shock" moments. I mean there were a few things I wasn't sure about as far how they worked at first (like the one person who didn't know how to use lockers) but I wasn't shocked by anything. Except, maybe, how difficult it was for other kids my age to talk and be friends with adult. Since I was around adults as much as kids my own age I was pretty comfortable being friends with grownups. I also did a lot of extracurriculars and had a lot of friends in general who were both public/private schooled and other homeschoolers.
@mimik25615 жыл бұрын
Very sheltered christian home living out in the boonies. Homeschooled my whole life only getting social life via church. The list i could give would make your head spin. Found out my dad was a racist and almost got my ass beat on the first day I worked/lived in the small town. Within the first month I found out about masturbation, reproduction (including sex), dont trust strangers, alcohol is fun and evil given the amount you consume, old feminism, and so many social rules. Also found out that yelling in normal conversation isnt normal. My whole family yelled all the time. It was our default volume. I still struggle with my volume control.
@AuroraLalune5 жыл бұрын
Mimi K That isn't normal for homeschoolers. That is growing up in a cult in a nutshell.
@Hannah-ts3tw5 жыл бұрын
Ok so I’m homeschooled and I’ve never been to public school, so imma throw in some culture shocks for you public schoolers out there; 1. Homeschoolers don’t have summer break We do school year round, but we do take days off if we have something going on all day. Like say we’re out at a friends house all day, or running errands, or maybe camping, something where we can’t take our school with us, we take the day off and eventually I guess it just builds up into summer break idk 2. Homeschoolers don’t get sick days Doesn’t matter how sick you are. Doesn’t matter how you feel. If you aren’t in the hospital, you’re doing school. Public schoolers get the day off if they have so much as a cold. Homeschoolers... in sickness and in health man. They’re married to that crap. 3. Homeschoolers aren’t all sheltered and they’re certainly nothing like what’s in this video, not that I’ve seen anyways. Most of us are just like public schoolers. Of course there are your occasional Amish-raised families, but for the most part, we’re completely normal and highly aware of public schooled culture. 4. They don’t get snow days I didn’t know what a snow day was until I was 11. Even now the concept seems crazy to me. Like, oooh snow, now I can’t do school? At my old co-op, they didn’t close the place unless it was -15° F. You still had to do the homework, you just didn’t have the lecture to go with it. 5. Co-ops Most homeschoolers go to a co-op, which is like a public school, except it’s a lot smaller and only one day a week. You go in, go to your classes, they give you an hour long lecture and homework for the next week and at the end of the day you go home. 6. People don’t understand what homeschooling is. It’s crazy. It’s literally in the name. I HATE going out ANYWHERE during school hours because people will give you weird looks and ask you why you aren’t in school? Or if you’re skipping school? Or is school out already? Then you tell them you’re homeschooled and they just shut down. 7. We lie about school Never call out a homeschooler if they tell someone they’re public schooled because they said that for a reason. You may not understand at first but seriously, just don’t. People ask me all the time what school I go to or things like that and I just tell them a certain school name and it just makes things so much easier 7. YES HOMESCHOOLERS DO SPORTS THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME.
@meh54215 жыл бұрын
Biggest "culture shock" for me was how much home work other kids had and how much time they spend in school learning. I can get done before noon most days and even when I sleep in.
@ztek_35 жыл бұрын
dude what?? i'm homeschooled and i spend at least 7 hours getting all of my schoolwork done. how old are you?
@meh54215 жыл бұрын
@@ztek_3 I'm 17 and in my senior year of high school. Maybe I'm just a fast learner.
@ztek_35 жыл бұрын
@@meh5421 dang. You have so much time on your hands. Well good luck going into college next year if thats what you plan to do. :)
@kel45755 жыл бұрын
I feel like home schooling can be okay if you have other friends and do stuff outside of it to socialize, but if it’s done wrong (what a lot of these people experienced) it can be really damaging. I personally prefer public schooling because it teaches you how to deal with “buttholes” and a lot about people and social dynamics as well. I’m a very observant person who has always liked analyzing behaviors so public school helps me learn more in that way. Homeschooling can be risky but also work out really well. I just like public school more. It allows me to see friends everyday and have social interactions I can’t get at home. High school is crazy but also full of learning experiences that help me become more well-rounded and open minded.
@benjaminteeter33315 жыл бұрын
I was homeschooled K-12. The "magic is a tool of the devil" thing is really common. My parents were kinda controlling, and sex ed was nonexistent, but they weren't religious freaks like most of the parents here. I had a minor freakout, but you really couldn't tell I was homeschooled by the time I was 19-20. My read on social ques is still pretty off, and I'm definitely a bit socially awkward, but I can compensate for it reasonably well.
@tanithcrespo3245 жыл бұрын
16, graduated from online high school here. Was homeschooled by my mom up until then. My parents are christian, but my house is pretty mixed (agnostic, atheist, wiccan, catholic, etc) so I never had anything shoved down my throat. No real culture shock. Never had the talk so I figured it out on my own via the internet but other than that my only complaint is that I never had the chance to be a teen ig and dont think I ever will. Not just because of my parents, but because of where I live too. There's no kids my age for miles. Ive never had an in-person relationship (only dated online), never had a first kiss, never snuck out, never played spin the bottle, never went to a party, never went anywhere alone (my family lets me walk separately from them around stores and stuff as long as I have my phone on me), etc. I had a couple of friends when I was like 8 but that was it. So yeah, mostly just social stuff.
@hayleymarse28535 жыл бұрын
I have been homeschooled my whole life and although I had friends who weren’t homeschooled, the majority were and those that weren’t, were still Christian. I think the two biggest shocks I’ve had were 1) when I went to a friend’s birthday sleepover and heard her friends saying bad things about Christianity and conservatives and 2) when I got a job and had a coworker who was a lot of fun and seemed “normal” by my standards. While giving me a ride home I learned that he was considered a “good” kid at school but regularly sold drugs to freshmen for ridiculous prices. Didn’t tell anyone that but it made me realize how little I know about school. Something that never ceases to amaze me is the difference in maturity levels between homeschoolers and public schoolers. All the homeschoolers I know are way more mature than their peers who have grown up in public schools
@krafter86524 жыл бұрын
I do virtual homeschool and I think it's better then normal school in almost every way.
@greylarkspur5 жыл бұрын
this is weird to listen to since I've been homeschooled my whole life (I'm in my senior year now) except for one semester at a public school. Lemme bust some myths here- yes I have friends, no I don't just bake cookies and call it school. I had no problem making friends or fitting in when I did go to public school. When people hear I'm homeschooled I get these actual responses: "So can you read?" "Do you do school in your pjs?" "So you're available then cause you're homeschooled right?" Yes, I can read, and I'm teaching myself Japanese because I'm fascinated with their culture. I was learning Russian for a while too. The only reasons I stay in my pjs is because I'm sick :') And no, I'm actually doing legit work. I won't drop my entire schooling schedule to do something a kid going to school couldn't, at least not anytime you want me too. Granted, we are more flexible that way, but its not something I make a habit of. So pls don't make assumptions that these responses reflect all homeschoolers. They definitely reflect some but not all.
@lizzdoe28215 жыл бұрын
I COMPLETELY AGREE with the one about guys only after sex!! Every time a guy talked to me I thought I was maybe too slutty or he wanted to marry me. 😂
@pietrayday99155 жыл бұрын
Maybe weirdly, 4:15 was just the opposite for me: home-schooling left me inclined to question teachers and dissent and even play "devil's advocate" more than my classmates. In my experience, a few teachers didn't like it, but most teachers really seem to appreciate and respect it. Students seemed to have a far more difficult time knowing what to make of it, and I think most public school students kind of resent it, and I guess to them it looks like attention-seeking and just all-around weird - conformity in public schools is a pretty complicated thing, and has a lot less to do with the teachers cracking down on individuality than a lot of people seem to think, and of course peer pressure to just shut up, sit down, and blend in is a huge factor in preventing students from speaking up and questioning authority....
@liz28805 жыл бұрын
I loved the story about the Sadie Hawkins dance day with all the cross dressers 😂😂😂😂😂
@EMMCNE5 жыл бұрын
Had this homeschooled girl who went to public school for high school in my class. “What does it mean ‘show your work?” “You know, show how you did it.” “I don’t know how to do it I just know how to get the answer!” BiTcH whAt?!?!?!
@AuroraLalune5 жыл бұрын
E M Sounds more like she was overwhelmed than anything else.
@romeoslover8175 жыл бұрын
working in social services i noted that kids at high school age with a lot of problems with other kids were homeschooled by parents who couldn’t even read. I do not know if the homeschooled were conservative religious, because I did not have that type of contact with them. Back in the day, I noted that many of the girls who attended catholic schools or other Christian based schools were the first to get pregnant, marry the baby daddy and keep the child. I am older than most of the people on here, I think. Keeping the baby as a young singe girl is common now.
@GeekazoidGeekazoid5 жыл бұрын
I was homeschool all the way up to high school. My biggest shocks were: -I could go to any club or office hour I wanted to go to after school (it never occurred to me I would get such a, at the time, high level of independence) -the cafeteria food...ew just ew (I didn’t actually eat school food until Junior year, before that I just made my own lunch) -my friends know other people I was also friends with (it was so bizarre have a “friend circle/group” that all knew eachother because most of the time when I was homeschooled none of my friends knew eachother)
@vanessareynolds54285 жыл бұрын
I put myself in homeschool 2 years back, got into high school and just could not take it anymore, so I got it in reverse.
@melanee69265 жыл бұрын
I was homeschooled all my life. When I tried going to college,I didn't know how to take tests or handle due dates. I don't know how to write "papers" or do power point.
@JuliaMarieH5 жыл бұрын
Homeschooled until 9th grade. Took me a while to realize it wasn’t just the “bad kids” who cursed and made dirty jokes, it was everybody! Even the nerds in my AP classes! I also knew way too little about sexual stuff (not as bad as some ppl on this thread but I was still an innocent kid) but downloading and reading the cosmo app fixed that pretty quickly
@AuroraLalune5 жыл бұрын
Julia Homola Cosmo... oh honey. Please take cosmo with a grain of salt.
@AuroraLalune5 жыл бұрын
Julia Homola Unless it has changed from when I was a kid... its one part truth two parts bullshit. Pardon my 'french'? I read things in cosmo and believed them that would have me red faced and shaking my head wondering how anyone could if someone said that today. It's better than nothing but its not perfect. You'd be better researching anatomy and how it works etc. Mens health magazines can be more informative than women's, I also noticed. Less fan fair. Less bullshit. More truth. Usually. Sometimes they are just as bad. Just not usually about women's bodies and how sex works.
@AuroraLalune5 жыл бұрын
Julia Homola I learned more through judy bloom as a teen than any magazine. If you need help finding material. lol Wifey was one I read many times. Least I was reading about it instead of doing it. lol
@kurimsonkitsune44085 жыл бұрын
I was homeschooled by a rocket scientist and my mother was a public school teacher before she quit so she could take care of us. My father comes from a family full of acholics and drug addicts. My mother grew up on a farm. I never went to public school but I've never really had any cultural shock moments because I was exposed to a lot of stuff while I was youngish just from life in general. I had friends who went to public school growing up and I can safely say that I don't think I was missing much.
@duolingo_abuse_is_realclub79495 жыл бұрын
Getting an iPod. I remember how excited I got when my sister wrote down cuss words in a book. Her friend told her the cuss words and she wrote them down so she wouldn’t forget.
@blazereho8115 жыл бұрын
the cursing bit is so adorable honestly lol
@quill40275 жыл бұрын
Thunder Thighs is ABSOLUTELY a compliment to the power and strength of a woman's thighs and anyone who says otherwise will have their throat crushed by some woman's glorious thunder thighs
@mustwereallydothis5 жыл бұрын
That last story blew my mind. I've never heard of anyone else who's parents decided to up and leave the country before they were done raising their kid. I always thought I was the only one.
@thetaekwondoe38875 жыл бұрын
Apparently you missed the Dr. Phil "midget story".
@cameronc61455 жыл бұрын
I've been homeschooled my entire life, and usually things aren't much of a surprise, since I have some public school friends. but my story is kind of similar to 0:28 but just less embarrassing. I had some cute clothes, but generally didn't care _too_ much about how cute they were. I was talking about cold-weather clothing to my former neighbor who was pretty much one of my best friends at the time, as it was getting closer and closer to winter. I mentioned sweatpants and she wrinkled her nose in disgust. (I went to homeschooling summer camps and she went to school, but we were able to relate the two) The rest of the convo went something like this: Me "What?" Her "Sweatpants?" Me "Yeah don't you wear them, too?" Her "Yeah, to _bed_ not in _public_ " Me "Oh." Her "so you like, wear sweatpants to camp?!" "Yeah...?" "And no one laughs at you?" "Yeah...?" "So I could wear sweatpants and they wouldn't make fun of me?" "Yeah...?" ".....Wow...." Since then my fashion has increased a little, I still wear sweatpants, just skinnier ones. I wasn't swayed by her opinions, or anything, I'm just still confused as to how shocked it had her.
@AuroraLalune5 жыл бұрын
Hannah Croft Fashion is ever changing. At some point and even still in some places that would be normal homeschooler or not. Public school fosters those ideas by focusing on appearance too much.
@alyssa_faith5 жыл бұрын
I’ve only done 2.5 years of online school so not really super shocked or sheltered. I’ve done a couple years of public school, and a few years of private/catholic school. Homeschool & brick and mortar schools both each have their own pros and cons.
@kertchoo68315 жыл бұрын
11:10 I’m in public high school and my math teacher literally goes off topic every single class. In fact, today he was taking about the cubic, quartic, and quintic formulas.
@banabelle5 жыл бұрын
I feel like if I were homeschooled I would be a lot more motivated. Like I would literally wake up in the place that I learned, right? Idk there’s something about having the choice of whether or not (like, literally physically choosing if you get outta bed or not) to go to school makes me want to chose not to.
@chrisperkins70675 жыл бұрын
There was a guy in my collage speech class that was homeschooled his entire life and his parents didn’t let him use a computer or the Internet. He was very nervous speaking and looked at you like you were speaking a different language when you asked him to do anything in google docs or gmail. He did everything by hand on paper handwritten and didn’t have very good handwriting. He told me when he came to college to enroll in classes that was the first time he had used a laptop. This was in 2016 I felt bad for the guy he had a hell of a culture shop because everything we did was digital.
@abfarrow35965 жыл бұрын
I wasn't homeschooled but I was from a Christian private school from kindergarten to 4th grade. Then I went to public school. I didn't know there were so many bad words and that teachers didn't care that kids said them. And some other things I don't remember.
@Christiangirl-qj3wt5 жыл бұрын
Mine are this, they have white boards instead of chalk, and teachers are tough, sometimes they don't separate your desks like with you by yourself, you have more group work, and kids are mean lol
@frogjesus39835 жыл бұрын
“sold vibes” ah yes for when you don’t pass the vibe check
@doctorwhofan2255 жыл бұрын
So many of these are extreme cases, that shouldn't be blamed on homeschooling, rather overprotective parents. You can't generalize the homeschooled experience, just like you can't generalize public school. I was homeschooled my whole life and I can say with absolute certainty it was the best decision for me. My boyfriend was homeschooled for a few years early on but he's glad he went to public school through middle and high school. You can't slap a one size fits all idea about how education should work onto people who are extremely diverse. Some kids fair better homeschooled, some do better in public school. We're not all extremely sheltered with no friends.
@arlinevaca80815 жыл бұрын
2:37 wait wait at my school people actually would strip to shower
@The_Yosh5 жыл бұрын
Boys don’t, that’s gay
@arlinevaca80815 жыл бұрын
Fat Yoshi then I guess all the boys at my school are gay 🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️
@AuroraLalune5 жыл бұрын
Reyna Regional probably. That sais, I got made fun of for waiting till everyone was done before showering and often missed out entirely. I used a bathing suite for the school showers as well. In mu case though I was living with more than the body shame for being born with a vag bs but also abuse that left marks I didn't want people to see. If I was hiding those I skipped the showers altogether until I left school to go back. That was my experience tho and while we homeschool I wasn't. I was very isolated though regardless. We saw many improvements with kiddo when we switched so I think that, while perhaps not for everyone, it works for us. But also... public school... is many things. I think regardless most kids think of it like torture or prison etc. Not something they want to do. At all.
@AuroraLalune5 жыл бұрын
Reyna Sorry for typos. small screen. thumbs. Bad eyesight. I typo a lot typing on my phone as a result.
@mattwolf76983 жыл бұрын
Nobody at my school even showered, they just sprayed on Axe.
@nathanbeason80515 жыл бұрын
Being homeschooled is the only reason I survived high school.
@bresea7025 жыл бұрын
0:41 this is kinda funny to me because I used to have this blue cheetah print sweatshirt that I wore to a summer tutoring thing (the school was trying to prepare us for the state test). Luckily, no one laughed at me and an adult actually complimented me. Wildest thing I ever wore. 6/10 would probably wear again. (Was never homeschooled btw)
@Dragonorder185 жыл бұрын
"There is defnitely a Right way and a Wrong way to do this." Some people have no idea how true that is. I didn't really know what my passions really were, and just hardly had any real hobbies either. Took half a dozen different language classes I was not good at even a bit. When I was real young, I somehow though it was just like the letters of languages were simply rearranged, like some kind of code. But I happened to be great with computers, and that's now what I feel my passion works towards. To be fair though, I think most forms of school need to get kids to figure out their passions. Otherwise, most will just keep moving forward without a clue what they actually want to do with their lives.
@parkabeans5 жыл бұрын
I was going to public school until 8th grade and now I’m a freshman, I’m moving to another state hopefully next year and then I’ll go into high school during my sophomore year and I don’t know how to feel. I’m scared of the pressure to get work done on a schedule that isn’t mine but I’m so happy I’ll have friends again
@darkangel75895 жыл бұрын
I went to public school from preschool to 5th grade. I’ve been homeschooled since 6th grade (I’m currently a junior in high school). My parents aren’t religious at all and I have friends that go to public and private school. Therefore, I’ve never had any culture shocks.
@ottermellon1445 жыл бұрын
Your envy strengthens me
@Rosie-ee4kk5 жыл бұрын
I have been online schooled all throughout middle school and into my current, sophomore year of high school. I am going back to brick and mortar soon and this is scaring me...
@frogsnack70725 жыл бұрын
eh, just have fun, apply yourself, and stay out of drama. Some kids think the homeschooler must be an idiot because they are prejudiced and jealous (and possibly because some are idiots- but honestly they don't meet that many). If someone is insulting you they are not your friend. If someone is complementing you they only might be. Don't have expectations of people until you meet them, and remember that 'actions speak louder than words'.
@tenofprime5 жыл бұрын
Trust me the ones you see in the video are the exceptions. Like I said before the locked in nature of the classroom's time frame can take getting use to but it will be ok. Perhaps the school has some clubs and such that match your hobbies to help you get to know everyone better.
@rvoight925 жыл бұрын
Homeschooled all the way expect for college. Whenever I had a question or needed help understanding something (before we got reliable high speed internet) and my mom didn't know the answer, her response was "you don't need to know that". I honestly don't know how I did well in college.
@yes.thatchild5 жыл бұрын
I’ve been in pubic school all my life and I still only learned how to open/close a locker last week. And I still can’t figure out the combination locks...this is why I have a key
@ChatteNoireBlanche5 жыл бұрын
My life is a continuos cultural shock, and I am not even homeschooled
@rockspoon65285 жыл бұрын
I didn't have any culture shock. The world is pretty much exactly what I thought it would be.
@nullpoint33465 жыл бұрын
I wasn't homeschooled, but I probably would be much more educated if I was, I knew multiplication before I was in kindergarten, and was reading at college level before I was in third grade. I was helping my parents with their college homework before I was kicked out of public school during 7th or 9th grade for being autistic. I may very well be the reason my mom even has a master's degree. I have decent knowledge of biology and language, great knowledge of economy, and, dare I say, I'm supernaturally knowledgeable on physics. I'm also a munchkin beyond belief.
@paulele82205 жыл бұрын
Homeschool didn’t necessarily give me culture shock, because I always hung out with my brothers friends and stuff, and did Girl Scouts. However, when I went to my university overseas, I was pretty shocked by everything. I always went to conservative schools throughout my life, so an international school full of people with different values was bewildering. I hung out with the party crowd for a while ( to my parents chagrin lol, although they have no idea just how much I drank my first and second year...), but got sick of being used, then started just being a loner. I actually prefer being a loner with a couple people I get along with, and just being chill with everybody else I meet. In my first year, I was so desperate to please people and fit in, but now idgaf. I realized I don’t need to say whatever people want to hear in order to be liked, and that you don’t need friends in order to be valuable, although that’s what society likes to make us think. Imagine that.
@beandlunt5 жыл бұрын
most homeschoolers aren’t insane. some parents may be slightly religious but majority of them aren’t crazy. coming from a fellow homeschooler who grew up with other neighbors who were homeschooled to. we lived straight in twin cities, so it wasn’t a tiny cottage or anything. i was homeschooled for 3 years because of mental health issues. :)
@gritlup20895 жыл бұрын
I was home schooled since 7th grade and I just graduated home school High school in June. I home schooled myself and I took the sat a few months ago and got a 850 so yay for me.
@mandyboyd15 жыл бұрын
You home-schooled yourself?
@tenofprime5 жыл бұрын
@@mandyboyd1 trust me it is often how it works. The parent is there to help you as you need it and guide you along but it is up to you to do the work. Especially in later years of it you are both use to the way it goes normally that at the start of the day you set out the plan for what to do and if it is book work you just get your task list and go at it. You teacher is there if you need them but the drive to get it done is on you.
@mandyboyd15 жыл бұрын
tenofprime Ohhh, thanks!
@tink13555 жыл бұрын
I’m legitimately confused if this is sarcastic or not
@AuroraLalune5 жыл бұрын
Jeff Jeffrey Likely not. You'd be surprised. For every bad apple you hear about there are actually a lot like this.