WHAT WILL WE TELL HER? | BIRTH MOM

[@lucybrooks6254]

If I were adopted and my parents told me of course I would be shocked but I think I would be super happy they treated me like their own and took me under their wing so well that I didn’t even question it, I’m not adopted but I think adoption is incredible for both the children to get homes and for the parents x Edit: thank you to everyone that has shared their experiences with me in the replies I now understand that I will never know how it feels and I have a lot of respect for everyone in the adoption industry xx

[@yamas6132]

Those who are not adopted can't understand what we go through. Its easy to say what you would do, but if really happened to you, you can't know how you would feel and act. Specially if you were told only when u were 16.

[@lucybrooks6254]

Yama S I 100% agree with you of course I will never know and I have a lot of respect for adoptive parents and kids as they’re all so accepting and loving and of course love doesn’t mean dna, thank you for sharing your opinion xx

[@kathrynaraguz4816]

Yama S you’re right I don’t understand it all..I wouldn’t wait 16 years tho to tell a child they are adopted though. I would wait for them to ask questions..I would openly talk about it at home though at a young age and when they understood better then I’d tell them but not 16 years later

[@lucybrooks6254]

Kathryn Araguz yeah same but of course everyone is different and they might have just been nervous about it even though adoption is such an incredible thing xx

[@lucybrooks6254]

Marissa Castro same probably but they’re probably just nervous about how you would react and the people around you like in school etc xx

[@rogeh5687]

The family should get their daughter to watch this blog when they tell her she’s adopted. Then she’ll see that love isn’t just about blood. It should give her lots of comfort eventually.

[@Reneaukids04]

This 👆🏽👆🏽👆🏽👆🏽

[@anne_boleyn_fan1]

Rogeh way no

[@anne_boleyn_fan1]

Way no

[@Reneaukids04]

Katie Schnedler what?

[@themillerlife5077]

This is such a wonderful idea!!!! 😍

[@madsmads2651]

Aurora is honestly a gem... I love her and she makes me smile every day. I am so glad that she is a crazy piece ♥️

[@stuartfayle8515]

Mw too she is so adorable

[@mistyross8108]

She is my favorite piece lol

[@livyc1972]

Me to

[@pianobooks42]

“If they’re old enough to ask the question, they’re old enough to hear the answer” -my mom Obviously thar won’t help with the initial telling. They can’t ask questions about something they’re totally unaware of. But when it comes to talking with kids as they grow, this is how I plan to talk with mine. It gave me a lot of the power to know things in my family if I was ready before my parents decided to tell me. It gave me a sense of ownership in my own knowledge. I think that’s something adoptive kids would appreciate feeling. (APs and adoptees feel free to critique this ofc. I haven’t adopted yet, so I have no expertise.)

[@yamas6132]

I'm adopted and agree. The best thing to do is to tell when they are really young. That are ways to tell that are age appropriated. This way you grow up knowing and it's easier to deal with it. If u wait to much, they fell betrayed, like their whole life is a lie. Don't do that. Truth is always the best way.

[@KS-md2fk]

Ohhhh that's such a good statement.

[@bellagwin6638]

i wasn’t adopted but when i was about 4 i asked my mom who my birth mom was because i had an adopted friend, she said she was. i didn’t know what adoption was, but i was still able to ask.

[@thacker3086]

My sister found out at 16 on accident that our dad adopted her. And she was so heart broken but she has always been close to him even before he passed.

[@tiktokcompilations8173]

😯😢

[@muffinman7791]

Tabitha ha it’s kind of cruel that your parents would keep that from her

[@thacker3086]

She is my mom's from her past, my dad adopted her at age 4. My dad's thinking was that she wouldn't see him as her dad. My dad had a giant teddy bear heart. My sister holds no hate for it and when our dad passed we were well into our adult lives and they were super close. She knows he always went above and beyond for his is and adopting her was his way of doing it. Same sister has also adopted her husband's daughter (that daughter knows). She calls her mom and doesn't see it any other way. So good decent come outs for both ways.

[@thacker3086]

@Ann B I got her one for Christmas, but she is scared of what she might find and also she says she had a dad who loved her. She said she might do it just to know more about her bio dads history.

[@KINGDOMANIMATION4D]

@@thacker3086 I suspected he had a big heart, else it wouldn't hurt so much to find out she's not his bio child. Inheritance, by Amy Shapiro is a good read. Glad your sis has the same heart as both your dad had...:). That's something she "inherited" from him, loving others as their own. Not everyone has this heart.

[@roseharvey2664]

It's great that Aurora will grow up knowing Jamie, it will make things so much easier for her. They both love each other and it's nice for that to continue. Jamie is so sweet and I am sure it makes her very happy to know you are raising Aurora and she can stay involved. It would have been absolutely awful if Aurora had been taken away from Jamie. So pleased it has worked out, she is a fabulous girl.

[@stuartfayle8515]

I know it is so amazing I am so glad it could happen that way

[@annbednarczyk1006]

Right, so amazing!!

[@OOO-jt8ug]

If I knew about this story I would adopt aurora and just give her to her bio mom instead of growing in adopted family. But I know that Americans like to follow the rules so if the law says that Jamie has no rules for raising aurora they will probably follow that rules...

[@roseharvey2664]

@@OOO-jt8ug you can't just give kids away. Crystal and Aaron are legally responsible for Aurora and of course they love her. Jamie is wonderful and loves Aurora but the state won't allow her to raise her as she does have some learning difficulties. Crystal fought hard for Jamie to be allowed to live with them after the adoption as that is not usual. I think it is great that Jamie is close to aurora and also the family that treat her as their daughter too. Jamie has a lot of support which she needs. It's a bit complicated but I do think they have done a good job and deal with things as they come up. It's great for aurora to be loved by all her family and know she is wanted.

[@10luckyjess]

To the parents that emailed you: i was told that man who i thought was my father was not when i was 17. I was so mad a felt lied to and have been even more upset that no further information was given to me. So my suggestion would be let them know as soon as you can have as much information as possible and be ready and helpful answering questions they have and i would also suggest getting DNA test kits so they can learn more about themselves. They more helpful and the more information you can give them will show you love and care and just wanted to wait until they were ready. Also maybe have a counselor ready to talk to because there will be alot of feeling and emotions they will need to talk about with SOMEONE ELSE.

[@shaybird4930]

Girl sameeee

[@TommyJordanRE]

*Thank you guys for being so open with all of us and transparent :) Whoever is reading this: remember you are loved and special, don't let anyone tell you any different, have a great day!*

[@TommyJordanRE]

Cameron Caines 23 (STUDENT) God loves you even if no one else cares ❤️

[@Loveverlasting]

@Cameron Caines 23 (STUDENT) if you don't like it don't comment. It's not true that most people don't like compliments. Every one likes compliments at some point. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion.

[@cassie6349]

I feel like I see this comment or some variant of it on all their videos..

[@mazerunnerteenwolf3058]

Love it and you inspire me so much ❤️❤️

[@TommyJordanRE]

@@cassie6349 It's something we all need to be reminded of :)

[@debbiecollins1154]

Aurora is so lucky to have you both as mom’s. I think your family is AWESOME. I just found your videos and what a blessing you have been to all these lucky children. I started from the very beginning this morning and I’m so intrigued on how you and Erin have taken broken children and have healed them. God Bless your family. I love you all. I just can’t imagine life without my grand daughter. All the love you give to the kids is just amazing but I imagine there is definitely hard times also but them smiles on the kids face shows how much love you guys give them. Hats off the the biological children that let you share your love.

[@arianna2197]

She looks so much like Jamie! She has the best momma and birth mom you can have both 💕 love it!

[@lauren2852]

RE: The Family That Emailed You: * PLEASE * seek out the assistance of a professional (ie; counselor who specializes in adoption) before telling your daughter. This has the potential to be EXTREMELY traumatic, especially at her age. While I'm sure you love her unconditionally, everything she thought she knew will change, including her sense of identity. She will be shocked. Teen years are often the hardest as is, with all the hormonal & life changes. There was a post on Reddit several years ago, asking for advice on this same question, and many people who had been on the receiving end (not being told they were adopted until they were older) shared their stories. Unfortunately, many did not have happy endings (they described how they felt betrayed/lied to & the relationship with their parents dramatically changed). Experts also weighed in, and all stressed how crucial it is to talk with a professional first. They have the knowledge & education to guide you & your daughter through this in a way that will be the least damaging psychologically for her. I wish you & her the very best of luck & hope everything will work out. Hugs!

[@katrinamahon4179]

My mom didn’t find out she was adopted until she was 21

[@Angel-qm8xm]

Wow I couldn’t imagine how that would feel.... how did she take it? I was adopted but have known ever since I was old enough to understand

[@katrinamahon4179]

astrxlogy o she didn’t take it very well because she spent 21 years thinking that her dad was her biological father. She ended up finding her bio dad but he was an alcoholic so she didn’t really want much to do with him

[@Miaa-xann]

😳

[@killerkrista143]

My dad was 53 when he found out. His parents assumed he knew. My gram passed in 1999 and before my pap passed he broke down and told my parents. Unfortunately we did the 23 and me and got nowhere.

[@stuartfayle8515]

H I'm so sorry that happend to them

[@lolaonion3771]

She’s the cutest!

[@libbysmith556]

Hi guys your family really inspires me and when I am older I am going to adopt and Foster kids because it just makes me happy to see other kids happy thank you so much for ur inspiration xx

[@NoeBIchez]

Aww, you're so sweet! I hope you reach your dreams of becoming a foster parent.

[@pttaekwondo]

This is my dream too

[@ILikeBirds]

I want to adopt too. I don’t understand why you would spend 9 months in pain for a baby when you can adopt a kid of pretty much any age and go through no pain but still have a wonderful family

[@sammysheartsgoodwin8835]

You can tell Aurora is Jamie's spitting image of each other, if Jamie didn't have special needs would she be able to keep Aurora, my friend was the same because she had special needs both of her children was taken away and adopted, I think everybody diserves to me a mum special needs or not.

[@clairesophie7644]

I was adopted as a newborn immediately after birth, with papers officially signed at either 6 months or 6 weeks old (I am 17 now). I have always known I was adopted for as long as I can remember and my parents never ever hid it. My case was open and my family has a great relationship with my birth parents which I am grateful for!

[@MrsRushJ]

Great advice. I was adopted by a family member (my great aunt) and they didn’t tell me until I discovered it on my own. I brought it up to them and they finally felt like they had to sit me down to talk about it. They were going to wait until I was an adult,which would’ve been bad because they also were planning to divorce when I became an adult. So being transparent and honest is important, but also knowing your own child and how they could handle it and process it (intellectually, not just emotionally) plays a part in when they should be told.

[@chayannewasawasa214]

Hi. At that age I would go with the adoptive teenager to a therapist or counselor to help with the shock if he or she don't suspect is adopted. I have three adopted teenagers and let them know since they were more than six years old. I have one that I talk about her biological and she says: "Who's that? You're my mom." Good luck. Crazy Pieces I ove 💘 your KZbin videos.

[@sadiereuter5536]

Hey! I am adopted myself and I was told when I was young and I am not disagreeing with what your saying but I personally hated going to a therapist, I know that they were trying to help but I knew that they were not adopted and they have never felt how we felt so it was hard for me to really agree with what they were saying about how to cope with things because they have no experience on adoption but one thing that personally helped me was talking to mentors and I know those are pretty similar but the mentors are actual adoptees so they know what we’re going through and it’s not therapist putting you in therapy but it’s people who know what you feel

[@annbednarczyk1006]

@@sadiereuter5536 this!! I couldn't agree more!! I'm adopted too and hated going to see a therapist. I think the mentor thing is a really really great idea!!

[@mannysanchez7577]

Ariana did look like she was hiding something or guilty

[@tdgreer]

She definitely did! 😂

[@avabee4764]

Lol coming from a young-ish girl I agree lolol

[@annbednarczyk1006]

Naw she looked like why the heck did you wait sooooooo long to tell your daughter that she's adopted. At least thats my take on her facial expression!

[@planningforeight2967]

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[@rickkiesman2114]

Bit of a deer in headlights situation 🤩

[@lynnesawri2805]

My personal feelings are telling a child as soon as they are old enough to understand. I gave a son up at 16 (now 56) To family friends of my parents whom could not have children we were always in each other’s lives and we officially told him at 6 when I was married and pregnant with our 1st child (my 2nd if course). He went to school and told everyone he had 2 moms. I could have never not known where my baby was and didn’t want him to search when he was older.

[@barbaraunderwood1762]

U r so lucky to watch him grow. I was raped at 15, gave him up at 16 for a better life & my mother didn’t want him around. She later said she wished we kept him. That was in 1969 & I’m now 67. It hurts. I think about him on his birthday. I did contact the agency when my 1st died & they said he was ok. He was I believe 2. Love to see him. Yes it’s good to tell them as soon as u know they r old enough. Stay safe & know how u feel. One mother to another mother ❤️

[@barbaraunderwood1762]

Oh that was when my 1st daughter died.

[@lynnesawri2805]

Barbara Underwood it’s never too late to look for him. My friend whom is 55 had always known she was adopted and wanted to search, but her adopted mom wasn’t supportive of it. Recently her daughter did a 123 and me test and it showed an uncle so my friend reached out to the man and he is her biological brother whom also was adopted they are now getting to know one another and just were given their biological mom’s name through a cousin, but they are still processing all this and haven’t tried finding her as of yet.

[@erinaa9486]

Lynne, sounds like it all worked out for the best for you and everyone involved, so happy you got to stay in your son's life 💜

[@erinaa9486]

@@barbaraunderwood1762 so sorry that things turned out that way for you... As someone else said, it's not too late to try to look for your child using DNA

[@royce8]

What a beautiful family! I look forward to these videos! Alex is such an amazing young man. He is filled with wisdom at such a young age. I am so proud to watch him grown. Can't wait to see what his future holds because it will be bright and phenomenal just like him!

[@boldoconlimon]

I've known my whole life. 1) Knowing your whole life story is a human right! 2) Adoption has always had some stigma, so by keeping it a secret you're adding to that misconception. We need to keep teaching our children that there's no "ONE" type of family but a whole diversity and what counts is the way you raise your children with all the love, support & respect they deserve. 3) A really good time I think is when they start as kids to ask about where babies come from and all that. It's a great time to start talking openly about certain things that were always "taboo" You guys are doing a beautiful job and your family is beyond amazing 💜💜 I'm so glad I found your channel.

[@hannahchieve]

I was 9 when my mom told me i was adopted. I was rlly shocked but till this day im happy and ive coped with it. even tho my family isn’t biological, i still love them. You guys inspire me. I love your channel it makes me smile everyday just thinking about you guys. Thank You ❤️ 👑

[@ReddHazeOfficial]

I absolutely love your channel!! I had to give my son up for adoption when he was 3 due to addiction and not having anywhere to turn. By the grace of God I am still in his life and have 2 years sober!! Your channel keeps me busy and gives me strength! ♥️

[@gryffindore7]

I'm adopted and was told so my whole life. One of my best friends is adopted aswell but he was told when he was 15. He was devastated. I would suggest when telling older kids about theyr being adopted reassure them you love them and tell them, answer all theyr questions and reassure them that they are your child and you love them. And most importantly DO NOT GET ANGRY!

[@nikkienchanted]

You are such a selfless, thoughtful and patient woman . I aspire to be someone like you

[@rachelkunz611]

Your family is so beautiful and amazing!!! ❤️😍🤩 All of you have such great hearts!

[@socratesaristotle101]

I'd suggest the family watch this crazy pieces vlog and have a family discussion after.....but I really feel family is family no matter how you come together.

[@bellaviaggitours]

We adopted my daughter when she was about 5 months old and never hid it from her. I would tell her bedtime stories about "two moms". Then it was never an issue.

[@Shelly-bts]

My cousin and his wife have always had a “happy adoption day” for their son.

[@annbednarczyk1006]

My parents did that too every year, September 19th is my day!! Lol

[@FaithFueledLiving]

That is so tough! Prayers for the family who will be telling the 16 year old that they’re adopted.

[@morl4015]

Crystal you really inspiration It amazes me the way you choose to be honest with your kids and really give them the opportunity to receive love in all sorts of forms in this life is just beautiful gift . what you said at the end about how you choose to raise Aurora and give her that love It's so unselfish that it made my heart happy . AMAZING !

[@darthgranger1669]

The intro is so heartwarming ❤❤

[@kaitie5ihop]

I'd be devastated if they told me that late. I feel like I would be upset because my parents kept a huge part time f my life from me. I almost feel like it's lying at that point. The way I see it is the child should know who they are. This poor kid has lived 16 years not knowing her past. Idk that's kinda sad to me.

[@stuartfayle8515]

Ikr but the parents must have a hard time telling then tho

[@annbednarczyk1006]

Exactly!! I'm adopted and would have been pissed if my parents hadn't told me right away!! I feel super bad for this young lady, I couldn't imagine!!

[@kaitie5ihop]

@@stuartfayle8515 I can imagine! They're in such a tough spot now:( I think if I was in their position I would have started explaining it (to the level the child could understand) from the beginning. I think adoption should be celebrated! It's great too for the child to learn that blood doesn't have to define a family.

[@kaitie5ihop]

@@annbednarczyk1006 Right! I just can't even think of my reaction if I were her. I would be duper upset but don't even think I could explain why. I mean parents are parents and family wether through biology or adoption, but I would be upset they tried to hide it from me. Also then comes the sense of wonder about her past and biology.

[@katiesaccount1]

I was pretty upset when I found out at the same age, 16... but I believe if they raised her right and loved her, she will come around, I know it’s hard but I did

[@hannaelkotni194]

I happy you guys are doing that with Aurora. Jamie is such a good person and so loving. And aurora gets to know that’s her birth moms. She has two moms. How great is that

[@HomesteadHippie]

I have 9 kids and only gave birth to 1. From the first night that they were in our home, I told them 'their story' as a bedtime story every night. (I also had to have one for my bio child so she wouldn't feel left out.) There was no worry about telling them because they always knew. And we always celebrate adoption day like a birthday. Now there arose a problem with the 'birth' of the last one. I adopted 3 on April 12. The day before, we made plans to go out to eat at the place we went to on their adoption day. That's what we do every year. But at 3 am on that day, I was called to the hospital for the birth of our last baby. So...now we have 3 adoptions and 1 birthday to celebrate on that day. Koda gets to pick where to eat lunch out for his birthday and we do the adoption celebrations for the evening meal.

[@2193Angie]

I’m a new subscriber just catching up on videos 🥰 when you mentioned keeping the kids updated on their heritage it made me so happy! Love how important it is to y’all to be so open and honest with them! You guys should consider doing maybe one day a week of dinner from each child’s background and maybe decorate a little to make it fun 🤩 I’m sure they’d love it and learn so much

[@alisonoverstreet6396]

Aurora is adorable!! Alex is a very smart young man. I agree with yall about the adoption and the children.

[@theblendedtruth1408]

Just found your family this week and I am loving your vlogs!

[@mayam5353]

In my opinion it’s best to tell the child from a young age they were adopted and maybe starting at the age of two and of course they won’t understand right away but just introduce it to them and I’m sure there are plenty of books about adoption and throughout their life answer any question and explain things in a way that’s appropriate as that they can understand. They might want to do research about the bio family and find them and be open to that possibility and don’t be hurt because your child wants to learn more. Telling them earlier will make it easier instead of waiting years. If your in a situation and they don’t know just sit them down and reassure them you love them and just let them know show them any items or anything related to their story and they probably will be mad/hurt/ confused as to why you kept it a secret for so long and give them time to process and help them along the way for any questions they have

[@jessicashlager7193]

I'm adopted and have always known. That is the best way. No reason to not tell, I've always been proud of who I am, love my parents and my family. Good luck to the parents with the 16 year old daughter who they want to tell how. I hope that with love, support and time she'll understand why you didn't tell her earlier.

[@chastiana]

As an adopted child i agree that is so important to talk about adoption early on. My family celebrated it and normalized it!

[@blairbakes7685]

You are both so right about adoptive children knowing from a young age. I heard from a therapist once that, "There should never be a moment where they remember you telling them that they are adopted. It should always just be part of their story. "

[@blairbakes7685]

Her name is Jana Rupnow if anyone wants to look her up. She is fantastic and helps people tell their children they were adopted or conceived via donor.

[@nicilourens394]

Love all the way from South Africa. Never miss a video even when the time difference equals to it coming out at 3AM😂😂Love you all

[@lesamonnye476]

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[@pindasalman5457]

Also from South Africa

[@pindasalman5457]

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[@NeshaanLevy]

I'm from South Africa too!!

[@kay-linbailey5634]

S.A aswell🇿🇦❤

[@joannicolerivera8530]

All of your kids love you and that is so sweet. ❤️ Crystal you are one of best mom in the world. You really inspire me ❤️💙🙏🏼 From PR 🇵🇷

[@cearabostick9315]

I’ve always thought about adopting and I would definitely tell them as early as possible! I wouldn’t continue to remind them and I would treat them like my own children. I also feel like I would explain it to them better as they got older, but tell them when they are young. I couldn’t imagine not telling them! I’d feel like I was lying to them in a way!

[@hrrt4286]

I’m loving the daily videos.. your family is incredible.

[@Kimberly-yt6nn]

My advice for the mom wanting to tell her daughter she's adopted us wait a bit longer. 2020 for our kids had been hard. They're already dealing with so much they can't control. Is wait a little longer so if they need to lean on their friends for comfort they're able to do so without covid-19 restrictions. Just my opinion though.

[@timelessharmonie3243]

Wow the kids have such wise advice... Beautiful

[@xxallyxx5719]

Who ever disliked this video you have no heart, this channel is like the most beautiful thing I love this family they have super kind and heart warming ☺️💕 and I hope you guys will continue ur vlogs I think everyone will enjoy that ❤️ love you crazy pieces

[@pxpcornxbubbles3813]

Y'all and crazy middles are the best family channels❤️🥺😋

[@julz4897]

I just want to share that at first, I was hesitant in watching your channel since I want to make sure the family channel I support are those who doesn't force their kids in being in the camera, adopted kids and treated them as their kids and not for clout, and lastly a good content (remember myka? I want to avoid that type of person as much as possible). As I said, I am hesitant in watching you guys but decided to give it a shot and as I continue watching you guys, I can just say that you are a geniune family who loves, respects, and treasures one another. Big thanks to you Crystal and Aaron for being wonderful parents and for raising your beautiful kids. Wishing you all the best and I will not skip an ad! Hehe

[@aprilgrey1147]

Yes you should tell her you been there all her life and raise her as your own you gave her love she will be hurt but she will understand just be opening and honest with her she will be ok good luck

[@bonnierecchia4863]

I think the mom should tell definitely now (probably should of done sooner but she may of felt she was doing the right thing). Also be prepared that it can go different ways 1)the child could possibly have a sense, 3) could shut done and need time and you need to give it to them, 3) could get very angry. Any of these just be there not overbearing but there so the child knows they can come to you when they are ready. Best of luck.

[@WSGLOSERS023]

Is Aurora really eating Takis?? 😂 Taking after Ariana lol

[@susansacco3012]

Lol

[@stuartfayle8515]

Hahaha lol

[@nataliedeyton6829]

I don’t think they are hot. I don’t the taste I think they taste stale

[@WSGLOSERS023]

@@nataliedeyton6829 ngl I had some today and I agree with you

[@BeingLolaStar]

@@nataliedeyton6829 There are so many different flavors, at least here in Canada there are, with many different levels of spice. Some are really mild while others do have a kick.

[@tonic.1917]

Maybe have some scrapbooks/photo albums out. Sit down with the kiddo, tell them you think it's time they know. Explain how everything happened. Let him/her know you're always there if he/she has any questions or just wants to talk. That being said, I think it's also important for the adoptive parents to get comfortable with uncomfortable questions and be open-minded to helping the child find the answers he/she is looking for.

[@janchecksfield8814]

Great advice Alex. You are a smart young man.

[@kimgeorge1534]

You look great Crystal...so proud of you..so hard to do

[@ILikeBirds]

I’ve been watching you guys since 20k subscribers and I’m so proud of how far you’ve come!!! Your content before was great but it’s even better now. Good luck and I hope you guys hit 1 million soon

[@kspang656]

I loved the look on Alex's face when you told him about the email. ♥️

[@scrappingscootergirl]

That is amazing Crystal!! Love leggings but glad your jeans fit again! I believe that kids should be told as soon as they can understand because otherwise it is looked on as a bad secret and makes them feel horrible and ashamed! Hi sweet girl! Logan hugging Aurora melted me! Good answer Alex! Its so sweet that you are open to Aurora calling Jamie mom and have a good bond!

[@joannewall5499]

You kids are smart, the explanations on adoption showed good maturity

[@jackjames3741]

That is very interesting. Honestly, if the mother and father are okay with sharing their story of telling their daughter she was adopted (with the daughters consent, of course) you should do a zoom call with them, because I would love to hear a follow-up. Only if everyone is okay with it though. Your family is amazing! I love my daily dosage of Crazy Pieces!

[@Kade_xk]

I have a friend who's adopted (since birth) and she discovered it at 18. She didn't seem to care so much and told her mom shes would always be her mom and that the woman who gave birth to her was someone she didn't know and really doesnt want to meet. But that's her. Shes very independent and open minded, free thinker and just amazing in general.

[@Kade_xk]

@Alexa it doesn't get inside my mind that someone could just stop talking to people they love that raised them educated them fed them sheltered them. Idk ur cousin but theres a reason for her reaction and she should definitely see a psychologist or a therapist to work this out.

[@Kade_xk]

@Alexa i honestly have thought about it. If today my mom told me I was adopted I wouldn't be mad at her. Truly. I would be upset she didn't told me sooner but I would never stop talking to her.

[@Kade_xk]

@Alexa that's such a limited/teenager way to think. Everybody lies. Parents have to say "dont lie" cause if u grow up and became a big liar no one will want to be friends with you and they'll be the ones to blame. It's like when they say u cant curse but once ur an adult cursing is just another thing you do. Parents are human just like you and me. They make mistakes cause they're not perfect. It helps when u put yourself in their shoes.

[@Kade_xk]

@Alexa why is it a big deal? I'm not adopted so I have nothing to support the way I feel about this but my mom is my mom even if she didn't gave birth to me.

[@Kade_xk]

@Alexa because like I said parents are human and make mistakes. It was not their intention to hurt you or lose ur trust. The world isnt fair nor perfect things happen things change people get smarter and realize their error. Parents have fears and feelings.

[@Heytheredelisandwich]

I’m 19, I’m not Mormon, I’m not white, and I certainly don’t have kids but I honestly love watching your videos. You honestly make me smile. Like when your tried on you pants and were happy they fit. Thanks for being my entertainment ❤️ love the family.

[@amycutler3685]

I was adopted at 3 days old. I actually can't remember NOT knowing I was adopted. My parents always told me I was special because I had two moms and dads while other kids only have one. Because my adoption was never hidden from me, I grew up loving that I was different! I think that level of honesty is so important to children. When I was a teenager and asked about finding my birth parents, my Mom told me she would support me. She told me she knew she had raised me with enough love in my heart to love them all.

[@alainaolson8661]

I love Crystal soo much she is Soo nice, and inspiring, and she loves her kid sooo much

[@ernestinemoody-brandt8170]

I was raised to believe that honesty is the best policy. I have an adopted daughter and can’t think of a “good” reason not to tell her the truth. Maybe if she belonged to an older child of mine or someone close in the family. Then the secret would be kept for them....not the child. I think she will feel she has been lied to her whole life and may never fully trust you again. Hope she is able to accept your reason(s) for not being truthful. At one time in this country it was pretty common not to tell, but those days have been long over. I will be 74 next month and it never even crossed my mind to keep my daughter’s adoption a secret.

[@mr.andmrs.arguijo3792]

I just love little Aurora she is too cute my 2 and a half year old is non verbal too and we go through speech therapy every week for him and some days I feel like I'm going crazy it helps to see yalls videos and know im not alone. Love your videos!

[@tiuskadiaz7941]

It's nice to see that jamie still gets to see Aurora grow up.

[@yamas6132]

If u are thinking of adoption, please tell ur kid when they are really young. There are ways to tell kids that are age appropriated. The longer u wait the worse it is. Please read books about it, blogs, foruns, talk with adoptees that went through this. There are groups with people that discovered that were adopted late in life, talk with them. My parents always told me since i was a baby, so i grew up knowing this and i don't remember a day where they told me, cause i always new, and because of that i didn't have problems with it. Please do this, i talked to many people who are late discoveries and can be really damage.

[@annbednarczyk1006]

I'm adopted and I've always known that I was adopted. I think its horrible and not okay that adoptive parents with hold that information. Honesty is ALWAYS the BEST policy!! Just my opinion, and because I am adopted I think that's why I feel so strongly about this question/topic!!

[@cassiejoanryall]

I think it is really important for this lady to know that telling the truth to her daughter will not undo the 16 years she spent building their relationship. Love does not vanish like that and while it may be hard for everyone involved, it is the right thing to do. There are a lot of things I wish my parents had done differently (some pretty big things) but I still love them wholeheartedly.

[@emmienicole9942]

i was adopted as a baby and always knew this growing up. my “real parents” are the ones who RAISED ME even though they aren’t my biological parents. i feel like if i found out at 16 i’d be more mad that i was lied to than being adopted. :)

[@cheyannehawk1085]

I love this family and everything you all have done also I love the crazy middles

[@larablakemore9482]

Aurora is the cutest child ever . She is a princess. You are an amazing mother and inspiration to all your beautiful wonderful children and family. Wish I could meet you in real life 🥰

[@atbestplayedloud]

I agree to tell as soon as possible, even just to say something like “you came out of another ladies tummy before you came to live with mummy and daddy” etc as young kids are usually very accepting of situations and will just get on with it. They will then have some sort of idea/seed planted and understand more as they got older. For the mum from the email I would say something like they appreciate it is probably going to be a shock to her and completely understand if the daughter would have preferred to know sooner but they genuinely did what they thought was for the best at the time to wait until she was older. Be prepared the daughter might feel like her world has been turned upside down or she could even be completely fine about it. We know someone who was in that exact situation and I don’t know if they’ve told their daughter yet either. She’s just turned 18 now. Best wishes to the mum (and her family) if she is reading this xxx

[@mrinalinijayakumar2289]

One more addition to my life goal! ♥️ thank you for showing me what we people can do and not to think twice about anythg u set your mind to! LOVE YOU GUYS AND BE THE SAME AND KEEP CHANGING PEOPLE’s life ♥️♥️

[@allisonmontes117]

Aurora is adorable!! 😙😙

[@tracie2741]

OMG I can not imagine how that poor kid is going to feel.

[@stuartfayle8515]

Ikr I feel so bad but it must be so hard for the parents aswell

[@annbednarczyk1006]

As an adopted child I'd be pissed and not trust my parents again!! And honestly not to be rude to the parents but I don't feel bad for them one bit, they had plenty of time to say something and they didn't!!!

[@tracie2741]

@@stuartfayle8515 thing is its the parents that caused the situation. The poor girl is going to feel betrayed like her whole life has been a lie.

[@Nat_R45]

The thing is that Jamie gave aurora in good hands and that makes me so happy I lv your channel is very interesting and like we get to hear some much story about the kids/teens like what happen in there past because I like to hear interesting stories/ what am so happy I found this channel tbh (love you crazy pieces)

[@Catspolanco]

I LOVE THIS. I knew i was adopted since always. I loved it because i don't look anything like my mom and people always asked and i try to be as open as possible

[@countryprincess25]

Aurora is sooo very cute. I love you’re family you’re videos and you’re channel.

[@RhonyLynn]

I’m adopted, and I always knew. Yes, a big part of that was because, even though I have been with my family since I was 11 months olds, I couldn’t be officially adopted until I was 7 years old because my bio-mom was causing issues. I know others who are adopted that weren’t told until they were “ready to understand” and it never turned out well... bad feelings, feelings of being abandoned, lied to, etc. I say make “adoption” part of your family vocabulary from the moment you adopt a baby. Most parents love to tell “the day you were born” stories... instead you need to regularly tell “the day you came into my life” stories.

[@jenndac2]

Love you crazy pieces family crystal Aaron thank you for sharing this video as you tell Aurora’s birth mom some thing love watching it love you all you all have a good day

[@TheDonna519]

i feel that 16 is far too late and being such a challenging time for a lot of parents at that age. I found out I was adopted at 28 and it shattered my world, I am 55 now and still carry that trauma. I lost my identity and have never been able to trust anyone. She will need a lot of support via counselling and so much understanding from the adoptive parents about how she is feeling. I feel so bad for this girl, she will feel so betrayed. I know they can't go back and change it. Support her through finding her birth parents if she needs answers about her identity. Don't take it as rejection, you can't know yourself unless you know where you came from.

[@donnaturnbull1190]

In our family we have always celebrated "Gotcha" day. The day the adoption was finalized is their "birth" day into our family. Of course we celebrate their actual birthdate but just our immediate family we celebrate their Got You day. The family asking you should maybe cook a special meal the day of the Gotcha day and ask the girl, "do you know what is so very special about this day? and let the conversation go from there.

[@itsanttv550]

Alex is sooo adorable and I’m sooo happy for you and your family and your such a blessing to all these kids 💕 cause I know how it feels to live with adoptive parents they saved me and my sister💕 plus I feel like you should tell them before someone comes along and tell them

[@kathrynaraguz4816]

they waited 16 years to tell the child they were adopted? ummmmm I would expect the child to have a little bit of a conniption fit because I feel they should have known a lot sooner than now. I would be VERY careful about waiting THAT long to tell a child they are adopted..

[@annbednarczyk1006]

Exactly!!

[@ashleydeeble1397]

Most of us agree but its long gone and been too long .. too late now so they need thoughts on how to move f

[@tamarasunanda6492]

I love your videos! I just found out about your channel two weeks and have been watching your videos a lot since

[@mackenzieb2218]

to the family that emailed: please dont let her do an ancestry swab until you tell her.

[@genlowe3453]

you are the greatest mother

[@janeenandersen8697]

Thank you for the questions and answers.

[@karlysaeks7718]

I really enjoy watching your vlogs and your family

[@allisonisaacs5213]

Great job Crystal

[@nickidanielle8785]

Aurora’s so cute and I love you all crazy Pieces

[@alyssalynne3238]

I just love your attitude about life. You all are an inspiration to me! 🥰

[@morrisonsrocks]

My two cents: Tell her as soon as possible, rip that bandaid off, but not in a formal setting in the public. Give her space, tell her, you are willing to answer all questions to your best knowledge and follow through, whenever she wants to. Honesty is key. No one can tell how she'll react (and every initial reaction is valid), but if you created a safe environment for her, you'll eventually be fine :)

[@annbednarczyk1006]

Ariana's face said it all!! Why would you wait that long to tell her. I feel you Ariana!!

[@imYessica]

the patience and love this family has is something I wish to acquire for mine and my self❤️