What Women REALLY Want: Sex, Money & Love

[@john-griffin]

Let me know if you think I missed something. I tried to keep it short and its still 20 minutes. But I'd love to tackle this subject again if you think it's worthwhile.

[@ScientificLee]

dating apps are like casinos...full of broken people.....casinos are not full of beautiful women.

[@gerry742]

You covered it quite well!!

[@meorme6603]

Can you make a video on dinners, and dating. What do they think I am a buffet or a cafeteria or a food bank.😂I'm 40

[@bassioelmucho]

Hey John..Many of us guys are doing ok financially nut not well off necessarily..I have modest savings investments etc but try to balance it by being extra fit working on game etc..I'm thinking be realistic in the quality of dating prospects or just go for what I want and see what happens?? I think I just answered my own question...lol

[@mysticone1798]

Well, you're right about the money part.

[@KJ-pu8dw]

Women need two things from a man: 1. More. 2. Something else.

[@john-griffin]

Very true!

[@ididthat1st]

I thought "more" too lol

[@jacksquat4140]

No truer words have ever been spoken.

[@Brian-qg9bm]

Oh yeah?! Well... you're only saying that because it's true.

[@grantyentis5507]

Gentlemen! Silicone love dolls may cure all. I spent nearly 2 years trying to convince a friend to get a silicone girlfriend. He thought it was silly and kept dismissing the idea but one day to my surprise, he actually bought one. He is totally in love with her and now he never shuts up about how great she is. I've never seen him so happy in the time I've known him which is half a century. It's time I take my own advice and I invite you guys to do the same. All the good with non of the risks.

[@MrMSBranham]

Older men are finally starting to realize that pretty words aside, women want an early retirement plan based on the man's assets. Legally in marriage, women can leave for any reason or no reason at all. Men assume way too much risk in the contract.

[@Bubbagump871]

Never enter a contract with a party who is rewarded for breaking it.

[@okfrostman]

Never get married . You never have to get divorced . We all know that is one of the most costly mistakes a man can make . You will be made to pay regardless . It's a business, really . Lawyers $$$

[@jacksquat4140]

Marriage is the leading cause of divorce. I would also suggest never cohabitating with a woman. Depending on the State, you may wake up one day - married.

[@solalee4693]

@@okfrostman never have sex

[@9911GT3]

@@okfrostman Yeah a friend of mine taught me that in Young life. The reason i am 33 years Old i have an 16.000$ Rolex a 150.000$ Porsche and a view appartments for rent. I compromised my love live to hookups and high class escorts. No head ache and no heart ache. Modern women and modern society isn‘t worth it. It is like giving a rolls royce to an alcoholic bum as a present. Not worth it at all.

[@BOSSDONMAN]

@@okfrostman you lose all leverage

[@the1972bulldog]

You don't have to be married. Just being a Defacto for 9-12 months in court counts as a relationship so you've still got a process ahead. It's insane and Trust Me, I've been there a couple of times.

[@Dan.50]

The dirty little secret is that YOU can't make them happy no matter what you do.

[@mafp22w]

If men didn’t have a strong sex drive, would they have anything to do with women?

[@john-griffin]

Probably not

[@nickrossetto7804]

@@mafp22w no

[@brianmeen2158]

That is a great question that I brought up a few years back. It was on a forum where 90% were men. I asked it and 75% of guys said they would not get into relationships with women if it wasn’t for sex.. I was curious about the 25% that acted like they would. Little did they seem to realize the main motivator that propelled them to approach their future wife was their sex drive. Oh and that same sex drive makes them do all the daily things to keep her happy. Most guys have never thought about this too deeply and that’s a bit concerning

[@Looksmaxxedat41]

Coming from someone who get tons of matches from dating apps, work on your physical attractiveness and you’ll be surprised how many women are out there who are equally willing to just look for sex.

[@mjaybee]

The old joke is if they didn’t have vaginas, we’d hunt them for sport….

[@OziBlokeTimG]

Good morning from Australia. Love your conversation. Keep it rolling....

[@john-griffin]

Thank you! Will do!

[@ivanvarykino8202]

I've observed that friends and acquaintences who lead with their money, will attract gold diggers. Lead with you, yourself. Not your crap. Not your car. Your house. Your bling.

[@WhiteGhost21]

technically a woman that is an 8+ will be a golddiger and she will use you unless you are an 8+ yourself.

[@christopherrobin361]

@@WhiteGhost21 You could be surprised that even women that aren't very attractive want to follow suit and grift.

[@Susan-fg3nv]

Amen!!!! Absofreakinglutely!!!!

[@sirg-had8821]

Keep telling yourself that

[@andre1987eph]

By age 59, I have learned that a man should be focused on what brings him joy and peace. If youre in your 60s and still feel its important to understand "what women want" youve lost the Game of Life.

[@WHOTHAFUCK]

very true. i've had around 10 girlfriends and LTRs throughout my life and i can really say that by now (im 55) i am looking for friendship and companionshipt much much more than sex per se. Its still fine from time to time but it isnt what it used to be. The urge is weak and im very content with that. so much more to life. I enjoy my big house, vacations small and big and wellness/sauna trips with my current girlfriend:) No kids, pretty wealthy together (she has her own place as well). men need to really get the sex thing out of their system and focus on life itself more. To me its a sign of losing when you are still so sex-focused and superficial at older age. I was actually beginning to feel this when i was in my early 40s. I enjoy a good relationship with a woman but sex is not priority anymore since quite a while. cheers

[@NoOne-hq9cp]

Women only want one thing its called everything

[@john-griffin]

😂👍

[@NoOne-hq9cp]

@@john-griffin "she got the whole god dam planet in the divorce"

[@WhiteGhost21]

two things actually - more and something else

[@milliekozary5667]

I’m a woman and not all are like that. Yes some feel entitled. I support myself and am self sufficient and I certainly would not rely on a male to take care of me. Just to have nice company, conversation and mutual understanding. So that’s my bit.

[@WhiteGhost21]

@@milliekozary5667 the ones that are not like that typically are not universally appealing, sorry to say

[@daveboise_2222]

Thanks man, great video. Nice to see someone my age sharing some wisdom.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks for the feedback. I genuinely appreciate it.

[@hump1953]

I’m 71 single, never married and on the dating apps… I got asked by a lady last week to go out for drinks and we went out and had a great time… she’s well traveled and has some money to do so also and this could get interesting but I will never marry or cohabitate.. got too much of a good thing going on now….

[@richrivers1232]

It took me 41 years, two divorces, to realize that sex is so overrated, as are the incessant needs of women. You're better off to go without any of it. Or at least if you want sex just pay for it outright, because well...we are anyway.

[@jamilibrahim884]

If it floats, flies, has an engine or 2 legs. Rent, don't buy. Why buy the cow?

[@adouloslabelh2957]

That and ED on a postpartum phat beer belly

[@Panthersigma]

Really glad I found this channel, so far it seems much more grounded and informative than most MGTOW / Red Pill channels if you are even labeling it as that , thank you Sir I appreciate the content !

[@john-griffin]

Thanks

[@leviathon2]

Get comfortable with your own company. Buy in services when you need them. Enjoy your new peaceful life.

[@howardbarrett9131]

At mid-fifties and beyond, be careful of the young beauties unless you have a money printing machine.

[@matchhunter7012]

I rent😂

[@HamidHamid-hp3bf]

@@matchhunter7012 how much you her to leave😂😂🤣

[@dou40006]

the downside of being a wealthy man is to be sure that woman don’t ho after you just for your money. I know a guy who is the rich from his parents but is still single at 55 cause it is too risky for him to get married.

[@samohtnotslar]

I really enjoy John's talks, he is good at communicating his thoughts and has a lot of wisdom.

[@jamescraft8979]

In the past 10 years,I’ve watched hundreds of You Tube videos on relationships, how to get girls , etc. This is by far the best synopsis I’ve ever seen. I divorced 10 years ago ( late 50’s) , & have had a blast since. Will probably never move someone else in , I enjoy being single. But I have great dates every few weeks. The biggest challenge is the most attractive girls ( to me),the best looking , most energetic, magnetic, magical girls are all younger! But they’ALL either have kids/ or want kids. I never want to go back to Florida Theme Parks lol .Raised 4 kids when I was married for 20 years. Those girls still catch my eye/ heart. Lol😂.The cost is way TOO HIGH!

[@jesserosas88]

Step one..avoid dating apps. Its best to meet in real life.

[@MichaelPrudhomme-u7x]

They really are like doing drugs that instead of getting you high, get you low. Dating apps = depression. Hard to avoid, this I understand. But if you must use them, open them once to get some great pictures and state your clear goals. Then, never open the app again. Never doom scroll left and right. Hypergamy has you doomed from the start in this game.

[@Tebanovich]

I´m SO GLAD I never got married. I´m 54 and single, it´s so peaceful!!

[@johny5454]

@@Tebanovich Same here.

[@fudogwhisperer3590]

I'm 57, retired early, almost 10 yrs now. So glad I never got married. I wondered if I'd regret it, so far no.

[@oldradioguy65]

I'm 59 and glad I never got married. Peaceful indeed!

[@truthboomertruthbomber5125]

Not one mention of the #1 thing women can’t get enough of !! Something to eat!! Food and lots of it.

[@john-griffin]

That’s hilarious! Most people use food in much the same way that alcoholics use alcohol or drug addicts use drugs. They’re trying to kill Pain. Plain and simple. Women are not the only fat people.

[@howardbarrett1125]

It’s like feeding a damn horse.

[@howardbarrett1125]

I’ve kept good horses that cost me less to feed than a woman.

[@angelamarie88]

@@truthboomertruthbomber5125 Nope, we hardworking independent women can afford ozempic now, which eliminates foods cravings that used to fill the void in our souls. Now there's no more void to fill, other than this damn biological drive that makes us crave love & sex.

[@MichaelPrudhomme-u7x]

It's well understood that women love to date for this very reason. Free meals and then give nothing to the suckers. They'll TikTok later how stupid men are or how outrageous some of us are to not play that game. It's hilarious watching them hit their head against "the wall" so keep laughing boys. We are the guardians of the relationship. All they bring to the table is shared sex and they'll think it's a prize. Nah. Unless she is crawling under the dinner table to service you then you know the game she's playing is unkind. They'll surely be confused and even have a term for it now called "flipping" where men who seemed into them suddenly ghost. That's called reality of the wall and it's not up to us to teach them. Be kind, be centered, and maybe, just maybe, one of them will get lucky and you two can share some good times.

[@JeepWrangler1957]

Great video. While I’m 67, 6’02”, 220…I’m pretty fit, one thing I have found is that while many women say that it doesn’t matter, they prefer a guy with hair. I shave my head rather than have the horseshoe look. So far women that I have found attractive don’t reciprocate. And I don’t want to get involved with someone that I am not attracted to just to get laid. So I’m resigned to living my life with my dogs and enjoying the peace. Maybe someday I’ll meet someone but if not no worries.

[@john-griffin]

You’re more likely to find someone when you’re not looking.

[@ooomsweis]

3-4k USD for hair transplant in Turkey.

[@mysticone1798]

If you have money, they will want you. If not, you're invisible.

[@jeff7712]

Hair doesn’t matter, grow a good beard, keep it neat and shaped, have good overall hygiene, dress good, carry yourself in a confident matter and your good to go.

[@kylekullin2520]

Patrick Stewart is cool 😎

[@goodisonpark5987]

The Beatles sung a song.. ' Can' t buy me love'... How true is this. Guys, love is exactly like Christmas to a child when someone tells you the truth about Santa Claus. Life and the reality of love is that you as a man will end up divorced and bankrupt paying for a child, often not your own. There is one constant truth in life that will never stab you in the back. Stay single and only back yourself and you will never be disappointed. Friends, family and lovers will often fail you but you will always have your own back. Dating and Marriage today is like walking through a minefield of eggshells, is this really what you want. Live your life and be happy.

[@jacksquat4140]

Well said, my friend.

[@bailey309]

7:43 omg as you went through this list of things to do on a date I just felt the life force slip away. Why bother? 😅

[@MaxPowerHouse23]

I was exhausted halfway into the list. 😅😅😅.

[@AllenLifelongTexan]

I love your channel! I'm 60 y/o, divorced for 6 years, I'm looking to find some FWB casual relationships. Your channel is giving me hope. Much appreciated!

[@john-griffin]

I’m sure you will find what you’re looking for. You may have to go to places where you can find it though. Good luck!

[@KJ-pu8dw]

@AtheistAllen_escorts are your way forwards

[@keithpalmer4547]

What women really want: Money, Money and Money. Everything else is "extra".

[@TheMiraleah]

Women will not like me then, I have no Money😂

[@Nitronerd]

Not true. That's such a fallacy. And you'll never have a healthy, meaningful love relationship with that foul attitude.

[@JB-kx9bx]

I’m in the top 5% of wage earners for my age group where I live and I can ensure you beyond being able to provide a stable life women don’t really care about your money. Women care about feeling safe and loved with their partner which largely plays from the mans personality.

[@waterbug1135]

@@JB-kx9bx True, but this money thing is not binary. Money is the first bar. If you don't have at least some basic level you're not going to get a chance to show the other things. Women are not going around picking up homeless dudes. The more money you have the more other "requirements" are reduced. Bill Gates never had a problem getting women after Microsoft took off. But yeah, a guy still needs game. In the West if she doesn't feel safe and loved she's unlikely to stay. If a US guy moves to a poorer country money reduces other requirements to the point of almost disappearing.

[@dale116dot7]

@@JB-kx9bx That is not true when they get to divorce court. Then only the money matters.

[@iampicasso1811]

Love your thoughts John. We pretty much share the same ethos… recently met a super kind women… direct, honest open with her… great masculine and feminine polarity, vibes etc… enjoying each other’s company… just enjoying life together… you are so correct… one must keep frame and set the pace and steer it in the direction you want to go… in other words lead the relationship, situation etc… be your authentic self… Thanks so much!

[@john-griffin]

@@iampicasso1811 thanks for sharing your story. I only wish I had known this 30 years ago!

[@iampicasso1811]

@@john-griffin me too, on the flip side these younger guys have the benefit of our wisdom and experience (not that they will listen 😆). Love your channel, it feels like you’re hanging out with an old high school buddy… What differentiates you from other channels is that you don’t come across as bitter. Your advice is pragmatic and honest without this extreme negativity that is prevalent on the internet… nuanced too, which the internet doesn’t generally understand… keep doing what you’re doing. ☮️ by the way, nice drone segues.

[@jesseforce9933]

Hearing this is a great alternative to the red pill manosphere space which has become infected with negativity dripping off of everything and I'm pretty much tired of it. I'm pretty sure a lot of those videos raise depression and anxiety on a micro level. I'm 38 tomorrow, paid the house off this year, got three cars paid off, a job making over 28 an hour, a nice nest egg and no debt. now I am looking to getting back into working out now that I have the time and focusing on retirement investments. I can attest that everything in this video is true cuz last night I went out and met a 22 year old girl and we just vibed she had no idea about my finances, but she was into spirituality and we just had a great conversation. A few months ago I met a very attractive adult woman who was barely out of high school and she invited me to sit with her and her friends after I approached them. She told me she liked my outgoing personality and she loved that I spent my teenage years taking karate, studying self-help, traveling. Her and I were giving eachother the side eye while I were shared food and her friends were doing the talking. 😆 Hopefully I see them both again soon. Happy rest of 2024 to you men out there that read this!

[@anthonys.7334]

I really resonated with you / your content. Straight forward and laid back at the same time. Thanks very much. Bless you.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks I’m really glad you liked it

[@thomashilmersen711]

Stellar video. Yes, this is very much the problem with young women. They either want kids or want you to take care of their existing kids. Better to be with one whose kids have already left.

[@drebelx5061]

never ever bust inside when the girl tells you‼️ its a trap happened to me true story 😂😂 stay single no wife no kids happy life 😂😂

[@fairplayer7435]

Men are in love. Women are in business.

[@john-griffin]

Yes they are, and they seem to be doing quite well. If they formed the corporation and traded publicly, I think they would be the biggest corporation in the world.

[@MichaelPrudhomme-u7x]

And yet, as an older guy you now understand that the limerance of youth is a lie that nature throws over your intelligence. The imagination and hope that you adopted when you were young and hungry are the things older women will still try to use on you. Just don't. We know the house always wins and so keep your investment very low as you weed out those looking to take while giving as little as possible.

[@jamilibrahim884]

Men pay all the time

[@vullerseris5372]

LOL !! 😂 A when he said, " And you think this is heading in a good direction"

[@kiddytube3915]

I just sleep with escorts now. I don’t have the emotional energy to invest in another woman.. They are all time sinks and drain after all. My ex wife was really an emotional drain and all for what? The relationship wasn’t that much of a fun.. I meet and date plenty of women post divorce and while it’s nice to chill and chat with them, the majority are looking for something (marriage) that I’m no longer wanting to offer. So we move on from each other eventually.

[@naturevideos.8802]

Thanks for this video. I grew up believing that my life would unfold in a traditional way like previous generations. I never could have predicated how complicated women are. Too hard.

[@john-griffin]

I’m right there with you man. Everything seemed really simple when I was a teenager. What the hell happened?

[@naturevideos.8802]

Feminism, the sexual revolution, and no fault divorce.

[@Chucky-w]

they are complicated only if you trying to please them, never do that, they love jerks and problems

[@nathangilles2839]

🎉this guy is great ❤ Good perspective in our modern times I like him

[@john-griffin]

Thanks!!!

[@felipepereira3283]

Great video, you gained one more follower! However, about 2 points I think differently: First, women in general only get interested in a man's emotional needs until page two... (seems that she loses a beat of repect and admiration due to man's weakness) Second, when it comes to meet a woman, I think it is safer and cheaper an on line envairoment. Im in my early forties, divorced and had no children.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I agree with you on women's interests. The online thing is also true in terms of being cheaper. It just consumes so much time. Thanks!

[@timdow8589]

Hey brother I really enjoy ur content. Please keep up the good work man. Thank you bro

[@john-griffin]

Thanks!!

[@akwall47]

every guy i know who is married has the same relationship dynamic with their wife/spouse. their wives run their lives; every decision is negotiated at best and dictated to them at worst. they have also lost the ability to truly be themselves anymore. maybe im just a child, but ive seen the patterns in these lives so consistently i cannot come to any other conclusion than their wives truly are their bosses and dominate their lives in a sad way.

[@johnwp573]

Quite accurate overall. Men may indeed want sex , yet many men shack up or marry women because they sub-consciously believe they need a surrogate mommy or some person always around them. Frankly, many are just lonely

[@peasantlaborer6084]

I think there is some truth to what u have stated. Getting married is like asking your Power Hungry Narcist Boss to come live with you permanently, or till Death or Divorce which ever is first.

[@yoelfamilia1675]

Just refreshing to feel into your conversation. Great wisdoms.

[@john-griffin]

I appreciate that!

[@SuperQdaddy]

Money is big..especially with older women...sex n love fade out

[@adouloslabelh2957]

Xy ain't lovable my dude

[@ChristopherHawkins-j5m]

So sad I have lost everything 3 times almost homeless each time for love/sex and everything is so confused

[@Scorned405]

Yup I’m sorry to hear that but I bet they did not even feel one second of remorse or empathy because they are women

[@robertc801]

Hey John, do you have any videos on how to get out of a relationship, particularly one that was friends with benefits that went on too long and evolved into an assumed romantic relationship? I know, it sounds bad, but it does happen to a lot of folks out there. Thanks!

[@john-griffin]

I haven’t made one, but that has happened to me, so I will make one soon.

[@boxergirl7293]

I surfed onto your channel and I find it interesting as a women I do agree with you in regards to men needing to be fit. I work hard to stay fit at almost 60 so it’s great you mentioned it as I find most men my age to be doughy and out of shape ! It’s a turn off. Thanks again.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks for sharing!

[@Panthersigma]

I’m 49 and in above average shape , yoga , calisthenics, weight lifting etc. I told myself at a very young age I wouldn’t allow myself to just fall out of shape like so many people seem to do. Everything in life is better when we are in good health and able to enjoy ourselves

[@stevenkrupka3670]

Look at women hour age and younger..... Makeup freaks Smartphone addicts Man / boy haircuts Your in shape? Not like me !!!! Or ever will be!

[@BastHoen]

Excellent advice for young men! Thank you!

[@john-griffin]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@dogburrito]

The word "no" is an aphrodisiac

[@dbcooper7359]

Well thought out points/discussion. Liked your ideas about how women are wired for seeking security/commitment, also money, status, and power. Versus just being a gold digger. A short story. Dated a woman in my early 20s. Was blindsided, and dumped. I moved on. She had two sisters. Both college grads. She was skilled blue collar. Both sisters married educated professional men. She married a divorced business man who came from money. Not college educated. But successful. She knew him for 5 mos. Her family/friends couldn't understand why she married so quickly. Wasn't pregnant. I think she wanted money/status/security vis a vis her sisters. Her husband didn't want more children. So she gave up that option. Then followed an apparently unhappy marriage for years. She's now widowed and largely alone. But, she did get the 'bag'. She contacted me recently, out of the blue, years later. So we meet occasionally for companionship and seggs. Its suits me, for now. She seems pleased. Her life choices seem to have worked for her. Think she regrets no kids. But, she got the 'bag' and a 'higher' life style. People are complicated. 🤔🤔

[@MarinaM-o6p]

WHAT WOMEN TRULY WANT . LOYALY , LOYALTY .

[@HealthWyze]

Things would be so much easier if only that were true. Women only want men who other women want, so men who stay true are less attractive. Women unconsciously feel that other women don't want their men if the men are always loyal. Women don't so much want to win the man, but to win against the other women. It's the dark nature of women. The man usually ends up being just an object of status and power. Men can either love women, or they can understand women, but they cannot do both. It's rarely about love or loyalty with women. Although, some are much better than others.

[@realhi-fihelplarry8047]

Have fun yes. But most people in the world most likely get divorced because of the lack of fun. And fun is generally a temporary thing we chase in order to NOT deal with life. So yes have fun, but even better advice is to get used to being comfortable outside the "zone of pleasure", so that the little fun you have gets to be a lot higher quality.

[@RJG340]

What's just crazy, I Googled the average weight for women in the US, BaHaHa I almost had a heart attack 170.8 lbs it also showed average weight of men in the US 199.8 my god our country has a bunch of fatties for women, I thought the average would've been like 140 lbs😅

[@john-griffin]

That’s insane. They out weigh me!

[@WhiteGhost21]

two words - seed oils

[@jfnuyen]

@@WhiteGhost21 How about this: "They eat too darn much food!" 😂

[@gunner5125]

​@@jfnuyen: They'll eat your soul too!

[@oldrandon]

You meet these women in the grocery store.😆

[@passporttrucker9280]

A lot of women in the U.S. cost to much and start gaining a lot of weight after high school. I've noticed that the best relationships I've had where with women that were born outside of the U.S. even though I met them in the U.S. I would like to retire in other country. Dating and cost of living would be lower.

[@williamread8186]

I think attractiveness is more than looks. People say I look good shirtless and all that but I don’t get much attention. I am 67 and have flat abs. Maybe I am still too skinny though. I think the most important thing is personality and this is where I fail. Mine is rather bad.

[@john-griffin]

Developing personality can be a lot easier than you think. The trick is to look at situations from the perspective of the other person. Once you understand, what’s important to them it’s easy to seem very engaging and interesting. I’m sure there are tons of books written on this topic. But if it’s just your ability to have charisma or to have an interesting conversation with someone, I think you can fix that. Good luck, man.

[@36handy]

Will, put yourself out there. You ever take up dancing?

[@JohnnysWorld777]

Women will always trade up if presented with the opportunity.

[@vinconssier4224]

or if not, they'll just resent you and fantasize about others lol

[@WeeklyHealthShow]

Excellent Information!

[@SFSraptor]

At 2:31, a crucial aspect of commitment that may not be explicitly communicated is the prerequisite for women seeking commitment. They seek assurance of your capability to provide for them, but this assurance is contingent on you being a good provider. The key aspect to focus on is the ability to provide for her well-being, as this is the basis for her desire for your commitment.

[@rharald7539]

Great to see you laugh😄🫡🙌

[@john-griffin]

Oh, I crack myself up all the time. Thanks.

[@sherzodtursunov1542]

Truth that every single man must know

[@philipramsden4975]

Met one woman at the grocery store and one at the mall. The one at the mall approached me asking me if I knew where Lululemon was. I said "Do I look like I know where Lululemon is?" I was going the same direction and we were chatting and joking around. Before I went on my way I gave her my number. Easy as that.

[@john-griffin]

You know, I really think that meeting people in real life is so much better than using an application. They’re just something to that human connection that is so critical.

[@gregorylatta8159]

Buyer's remorse 😆

[@john-griffin]

👍

[@jacksquat4140]

How many times do women pull the old "bait and switch" routine? How many men have married a woman only to wake up to a perfect stranger the next morning?

[@riseup902]

This was a cool video. I've been entangled in the red pill stuff quite a bit, but I have no hate for women. I've been burned too so I can relate to the guys who have been burned by a woman. Perhaps the best way to think about things is just have fun with the woman that you're seeing and see how it goes. I like the idea of dating someone older who just wants to have a partner and have fun. And it's true the younger women generally want commitment but you can have fun with them too. And if you find a gem of a girl then you have potential to create a really nice relationship with her and get married etc. All in all have fun, go out and meet people, and enjoy the process

[@john-griffin]

I can see how easy it is to react to a bad experience by rejecting the whole idea of dating etc... But, I have to believe that there are some good ones still out there. Thanks!

[@davidhasselhoff619]

Everything you said was 💯 True

[@john-griffin]

Thanks! This video has been more controversial than the others.

[@davidhasselhoff619]

@@john-griffin men need to hear the truth. They need more videos like this.

[@Jay-ef2ii]

Special comment: Women want someone like David the Statue! They want perfection in their human love! They are not seeking the 3 sixes, but they are seeking that beautiful man who can get their inner world. Happy Holidays! Monday, October 14, 2024, USA

[@kmmeer7706]

Thanks John for your video iam single for a 53 years somtimes happy sometimes sad, what i don't understand is this some people are in a bad relation, and guess when they get divorse afther a time they have a new relation. Why they can keep single i don't understand this. ( sorry for my bad english).

[@john-griffin]

I think that there are a couple of reasons they do that. First, people are afraid of being alone, more now than ever. This fear is existential. The second reason is that people often forget the worst parts of the past and only remember the good things. Thanks for your question.

[@kmmeer7706]

@@john-griffin Thanks John i also think the same not sex but loliness is the reason.

[@dannyrwagamba]

man thanks for the clarification.

[@ezr168]

I really appreciate your wisdom which confirms much of what I have experienced, luckily I have never married, enjoy existence

[@john-griffin]

Thanks!

[@kludgedude]

More…mostly more

[@paulsz6194]

Becoming a regular customer coffee shop, where many women work as Barista’s is a good starting point. It’s worked for me a few times now. But the trick is, don’t show ANY interest for the first 3-4 months , unless they show it in you first. I’ve gone to coffee shops where it’s taken over 9 months for a certain Barista to show an interest in me. You only gradually increase the lengths & topics of conversation as you become a more frequent customer over time ( that doesn’t mean going there daily, perhaps just keep it to two visits per week, and then increase it to three, keep topics very general, no personal questions in the first few months, unless she opens up to you first. Throw in some dry , perhaps even sarcastic humour about what’s going on locally in you area…. Of course have interest/sport/ hobby and engage in it regularly, so that when deeper conversations follow, you have something else to talk about.

[@john-griffin]

Great strategy! Thanks

[@SKBottom]

They don't really know what they want. They just know they want more of it.

[@BradBannister-n8b]

Excellent info and viewpoints.

[@john-griffin]

Glad you liked it!

[@mars56100]

💯% right.

[@charlesterrell2507]

John, you are dead on it all the time you make me laugh, but you’re so right carry on my friend

[@john-griffin]

Thanks

[@diegocollazo4078]

Fantastic video

[@john-griffin]

Thanks! 😃

[@Lawrence_of_Asia]

Which state do You do your walks? Looks nice. 👍

[@john-griffin]

Im in Northern Vrginia. Very nice area.

[@Nitronerd]

Much appreciate the content and beautiful wooded area you're walking. I agree with all your observations, suggestions and advice.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks for your feedback. The forest is beautiful!

[@bassw1758]

Game is everything, it changes the rules

[@AnthonyShaw-ty9pi]

Very good points/info!! 👍💪👍

[@john-griffin]

Thanks! 👍

[@inikkor520]

Costco? Haha, only Indians and Chinese at least in my area. Might be different where you are. I enjoy your monologs as I can relate on many levels. Something to consider is also about where you live which ties back to the Costco comment. Do your research and figure out where you can maximize your chances if you have the freedom to relocate. I did and very happy it was not too late.

[@john-griffin]

I enjoy being an asset to my kids. Even though they’re all adults, they all call on me from time to time to help them with any number of things. I consider it a privilege to be so important to them. It allows me to continue helping shape their lives, I have had a good fortune having many short term relationships with women over the years. Having an intimate relationship with one right now is a little interest to me. If I want to have a friend with benefits, I am pretty sure I can manage that. Recently a woman offered me such a deal and I’m considering taking her up on it, thanks

[@Carolina480]

Im an older woman but im Not looking for a friendship with benefits and im looking for a soulmate

[@john-griffin]

I’m working on a video for you!

[@derekfrost6949]

That’s a fantasy that does not exist.

[@jacksquat4140]

@@derekfrost6949 : According to Briffault's Law, women only engage with males who they find attractive, provide a service or satisfies a need.

[@nowhereman7413]

@@derekfrost6949 It is a fantasy that is very expensive for the man who have to work very hard in order that the woman can experience that soulmate experience.

[@jacksonripper-mp8dr]

@@derekfrost6949 Yeah it does not exist in the world of pervert old man who want young immature chicks....

[@Ladislav1993]

What is love? Jacque Fresco when before he died, he said : Love is bullshit. He meaned love what we think what looks. Its something, what makes people frustrating. True love had no conditions, and its carry together like a humans body. And words I love is empty words, what means nothing. So, love doesnt exists.

[@paulinmontreal8076]

Well said thank you

[@john-griffin]

Thanks I’m glad you enjoyed the video

[@kbeautician]

💰Extra money. We want your dough. Your cookie dough. Your bread dough. We do a lot of shaking and baking♥️💕

[@john-griffin]

Sounds great!

[@boratlion8613]

I’m willing to pay but the hour. I can’t stand the horse and pony show fakery of dating. I don’t care about “showing her a good time”, making her “happy” excited etc. At 41, i could care less. My ideal relationship is a situationship or friend with benefits at best.

[@john-griffin]

Be careful about the friends with benefits relationship. It’s like the camel who put his nose in the tent. Before you know it, you own a camel.

[@boratlion8613]

@@john-griffin lol what an epic analogy. I live in Canada, in 2019 or 2020 the Ontario Superior Court here ruled in favour of a $33,000,000 “palimony” to a gf who never lived with the guy, and declined his marriage proposal because it contained a prenup. The feminist judge ruled, she will get $300,000 a month alimony because “she deserves it” and he “should pay” (he’s a wealthy man)… First of it’s ruling but, lot of gfs now have cause to extort $ after a break up. So we’re just friends full stop is the furthest I go.

[@zodiacleo5865]

I suppose you just have to be clear about what you want and what you don't want.

[@john-griffin]

It seems so simple, but it can be so much more complicated when you're in the middle of it. Thanks for your input!

[@waterbug1135]

That's what being a man used to mean. Males in the West have been so feminized the concept of what we want has almost disappeared.

[@nowhereman7413]

You can not be clear, the mating game is all about not being clear.

[@Urbanoidepeluciano]

Going to divorcie, you divorcie from yourself at the beginning. At the end you pay for everthing she wants, and you pay for everthing she could have without you. You the furniture to be replaced at some point.

[@hlm0302]

I'm a woman who just found this channel and find it fascinating. John is doing a nice job. I insist on going dutch because if we don't click I can't be called a gold digger. Relationships take time at least for me but I find guys fall in love over one cup of coffee. They want more even when they don't 'pay for it'.

[@john-griffin]

I’m glad you’re enjoying the videos. And I love that. You’re making comments and giving your side of the story. Thanks very much.

[@Ducati007]

How am i going to be in a relationship & stay single?

[@john-griffin]

Just don’t get married.

[@peterboy1438]

Seems undeniable that sex and making love are healthy for myriad reasons. If it's possible to be intimate with a woman without too much potential downside then why not? When we are older relationships need to be more creative since we become more set in our ways and probably want more time for ourselves. John, thank you for bringing up about FWB. The way you described it seems like that could be a good way to go if possible. Major respect for you and all your wisdom. Thank you.

[@john-griffin]

I think that most men get into trouble in relationships by becoming too emotionally entangled too quickly. Women want that commitment from you and the sooner they get it the sooner they lose respect for you. It’s very important to make your commitment, a very precious item. Even expressing strong emotion to them can be, extremely valuable. Also men don’t understand that women are extremely emotional and they pick up on emotions much more acutely than we do. Women are also much less likely to honor a commitment or an oath than a man. Women do not take those things very seriously, and finally women are not very rational. if you can keep all those things in mind, I think you can safely have a relationship with a woman.

[@davegayaldo]

i paid 1000 a month for 32 years , in a lump sum !!!

[@john-griffin]

Holy moly that is unreal!

[@Horseman1966]

@@john-griffinI thought he goof lightly! I have mates that lost millions!

[@BOSSDONMAN]

Hi John, appreciate the video. Question, are you retired?

[@john-griffin]

I don’t like the idea of retirement. I don’t think life is about sitting around on your ass watching TV. I prefer to be an active participant all the way up until the very last minute. So I do run my health coaching and training business for my home plus this channel. I also do some online coaching. I think I’ll do that for as long as I can. Because I really enjoy it.

[@BOSSDONMAN]

@@john-griffin Retirement means different things to different people for sure, but I don't see the point in protracted indentured servitude to an employer either if you've achieved your financial destination.

[@sachawisznia9685]

Sir! You are my hero! 👍👍

[@john-griffin]

Glad to help. Thanks!

[@marktweet7395]

Just money

[@ClovisPoint]

Just money and a dummy to dominate and control

[@john-griffin]

The trick is to make her the dummy.

[@mgtowski395]

Yes, good-looking dummy.

[@Nitronerd]

The man leads, dominates her or she will dominate and disrespect him, and rightfully so. Women want a leader. They want to be dominated, especially in the bedroom. Keep researching and learn.what woman really want

[@christopherrobin361]

And have the simp who's an ATM machine think he's alpha.

[@razadaza9651]

You would start a family with a woman in her 40’s? No no no….. way way too old sorry… I guess this channel may be for much older men…

[@ajstockt4832]

You guys put way more into this than it deserves. Women may be complex in their wiring, but they certainly are not complicated in their goals. First of all, its important to examine the reasons, the female psyche requires what it requires. In addressing the notion that they want money, blame this phenomenon on the disparity of income for women vs men. Often they are rendered the sole provider for their children. Despite legislation, child support is not guaranteed. She innately appreciates a fit male because her primal instincts tells her that it will protect her and her offsprings. Even without children, her love is always maternal. Her sing-song way of speaking attest to it. Maternal. It lulls young children to sleep. If she values commitment, subconsciously it best serves her babies. Maternal. Truth be told, if a guy, in her secluded presence, were to behave as though he were oblivious to sex, she'd be first to initiate it. Therefore, I suggest no man go on a quest to find a woman. Rather go about your life as one would while jogging. If along the way, I encountered a bear, I would reverse course. If I found a wrench I'd pocket it for future use. If I encountered someone whose company I enjoyed, I would attempt to nurture that relationship to our mutual satisfaction. If I saw a bag of money, I'd pick it up and put it in my wallet. But I would NOT run through the forest, head down, eyes focused on the ground in the hope of finding money. The odds are against it as the consequence of a one- track mind would be disastrous. After all I entered the forest to run. Towards what end, I cannot say. But I do know that there is a richer purpose to our lives than the pursuit of momentary pleasure.

[@john-griffin]

Great points thanks for sharing

[@ajstockt4832]

@@john-griffin Thank you. Grateful for the platform.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks

[@johncarlson6472]

"blame this phenomenon on the disparity of income for women vs men." Christina Hoff Summers, Economist and Feminist has long tried to get fellow Feminists and other ill-informed individuals from spewing this fallacy. "Despite legislation, child support is not guaranteed." You're right. If he loses his job and can't pay child support or alimony, he goes to jail. It's almost comical how coddled and spoiled Western women are, and we, as a society, good intentions aside, have done this to the detriment of EVERYONE. They're materialistic beyond the pale, entitled, demanding and avoid accountability like plague. Studies have repeatedly shown if you increase a man's income on his profile, his attractiveness to women goes up 30% +. Thanks to Social Media an average Western guy with an average income is an under-achieving unattractive chump to 80% of Western women, who erroneously believe they deserve a top 20% guy. This is why men in droves are saving their money and migrating to Countries where women make far superior mates, want a masculine man to take the lead and appreciate him for what he brings to the relationship. As an added bonus, these Countries still have a modicum of respect for men, instead of viewing them violent, oppresive patriarchal sh*tlords. What an insult. Caveat Emptor, Gentlemen.

[@DN-wy3ud]

You attract what you are, ive been alive for a long time and the only horrible women ive had to deal with are ones I'm related 2. Personal responsibility/accountability is so rare these days

[@Zox604]

Not true ! Prey attract predators. The same is in human relationshits. Anyone good attract predators. Enough with that lie that "you attract what you are"

[@jacksquat4140]

@@Zox604: I mean, I get what DN is saying, but there are many women out there, and men too, who misrepresent who they truly are. You just never know.

[@mariocouture1596]

John, great channel, very balanced and respectful of the differences between men and women. No need to be another man bashing women. I hear all your saying, all great advice but sadly, the world has changed the state of the union between men and women especially when considering the advent of hard-line feminism and social media. This has profoundly changed women of all ages, not just young ones. It is sad because it brings out their worse instincts. Today, it is all about women. We live in a gynocentric world where women have winds in their sails while men and boys are increasingly trailing behind. We often hear that the " future is female". Money, power, status, attention, validation attracts and corrupts many women. So sadly, I prefer to fly solo at this late stage of my fifties because the risk is not worth it. Sex is overrated and I have no desire to contract an STD. Sex devoid of love is not enjoyable so I find many other effective ways to enjoy life away from drama and costly activities to avoid my female companion to get bored... Peace of mind is absolute bliss. Freedom is absolute bliss and no amount of potential sex would deviate me from enjoying what time I have left on planet earth. I don't hate women but for me, they are simply out of reach and incompatible with what I find essential to my life now. To each his own. Happiness can be found in many forms. I found mine and women are not part of it. I respect those who deserve it but I will tell you, that mindset is liberating and unnerving to women... They have no power over me... Women seem oblivious to the fact that for a society to thrive and be happy, both genders need to flourish. The future simply cannot be " female"...

[@john-griffin]

Thanks, I’m afraid you have a lot of really good points. I think that there are enough common sense people in the world that we can hold back the pink wave.

[@mariocouture1596]

@@john-griffin the pink wave as you call 😊 it is powerful, underestimating it would be a mistake. As we speak the ravage done is immense starting with the explosion of the family unit over the last few decades. I am not blaming women for all of it but the family unit is the very core of a society. We cannot have a resilient society with single moms raising boys and girls. Our society is weaker than ever. Most kids today are ravaged by depression, anxiety, and other mental health issues. Women ( many ) are covered in tattoo's and have become just as agressive as men can be. In many instances, roles have been reversed as boys have grown up without a father figure and role model to emulate. So today, many boys are weak and anxious. They lack confidence and chose to game in mom's basement and withdraw from society. This will yield records numbers of single women and men. Already happening. Regards.

[@markjg2275]

I am 64 years old never married no kids no dating no fooling around and not gay either. Since I was a teenager it was never my goal or interest to get married or to have children. I dated a couple of times when I was in my early 20s and found it boring one of them their mother said I will not make enough money and I never did anyway in my life and I am on a fixed income social security today but I am free and happy with my life I could have been a monk, I guess. What John Griffin talks about in this video what women want seems like a lot of hassle annoying and money to please a woman and her needs not yours. I hate weddings and the stupid dancing and all of it after being to a few of them in my life. I like the outdoors trout fishing scenic drives in the mountains in Colorado my state and animals I had many cats and dogs in my lifetime and I have a 16year old cat now that keeps me smiling and happy and does not complain pets are great for single men. My friends are married in their late 50s that is what they wanted, I live and do what I want dress relaxed eat what I want look how I want no regrets I live in peace and happy even though I do not have money and am poor there are more important things in life than money.

[@tres5533]

The number 1 concern all women have on a daily basis is "being/feeling safe" - security and committment tie into or underlay that biological need to put it another way.

[@RodClarkson]

It seems like this video is aimed at older men. I have to say, all women are looking for a man who can provide security and assets. I am 54, and am very successful. I would not date women my age because I don't have to. I generally date women under the age of 40. This video makes many great points. Men need to identify what they are looking for in a woman. For us older, successful, divorced men, having a committed relationship does not sound like fun. Honey-do lists are not on my agenda. Guys, my recommendation is to be the best man you can be. Be a lifelong learner, invest in your health, and make the most money possible. We are not getting any younger. When you are the best version of yourself, you will never have problems dating. Most importantly, figure out what you are looking for in women so you don't get sucked into another bad relationship. Be honest with women and true to yourself, and don't repeat mistakes.

[@inikkor520]

Yes mister bit shot. Wait... one suggestion you forgot, be humble.

[@RodClarkson]

@@inikkor520 You’re missing the point. Work your butt off and be the best version of yourself. When you do, your life improves. Or, just keep being a weak minded simp.

[@sirg-had8821]

Just money.