What You Need to Know About Raising Biracial Kids (2020)

[@TheMomPsychologist]

Thanks for watching! Please don't forget to give this video a thumbs up and subscribe to my channel. It really does help to support my channel. Next video in this series will be about raising anti-racist children so be on the look out for that video. Let me know in the comments below what other questions you have about race! ❤

[@larenzojohnson1064]

Just a thought and opinion , if you have mixed kids ( with black ) and your not black please please learn how to take care of their hair 👍🙃

[@Laurita-ev8me]

Why don't you just stick on yr own?

[@hunglu4330]

Yes I want to hear the different models!

[@TheMomPsychologist]

Thank you for letting me know!

[@kimd4225]

I'm currently 16 weeks pregnant and your videos are so informative. Thank you so much !

[@TheMomPsychologist]

Ahhh, i'm so glad to hear this! Congrats on your little one.

[@arjunaadjinna]

just curious - what's the baby's mix? and how did the baby's features come out with regards to you and the baby's other parent? :) i have a half indian and half colombian 3 month old boy. he definitely got the best features from both sides! he's super light skinned like his mom but looks like he has my hair and eyelashes. he's going to get the indian cheapness for sure though as well as the love of spice lol.

[@kimd4225]

@@arjunaadjinna our son is African American, Japanese, Irish and German. He looks more blasian to us. He's darker skinned like me but, his eyes are almond shaped like his grandpa. Your child will enjoy some amazing food and cultures 🙂. Cheapness is always a plus 🤣

[@arjunaadjinna]

@@kimd4225 what an awesome mix! So much cultural richness. Also so much heritage to be proud of. Thanks for sharing!

[@trxphywaifalt]

as a younger black woman who has always dated white men, im pretty sure my future kids will be half white. but i never really thought of what raising biracial kids would even be like. Thank you for this!

[@tarafirkus7181]

Thank you! I wish there would have been something like this for viewing when I was growing up. Being biracial really wasn't talked about outside of the house, at least not in a positive light, so I was never confident in calling myself or in even just being biracial. The video reaffirms what I've been doing with my own children while encouraging me to become more confident in myself. Thank you again! It's been a blessing!

[@TheMomPsychologist]

Aww, I'm so glad you found this video helpful! Race wasn't talked about much for me either growing up. What a missed opportunity! So glad you are feeling more confident and comfortable discussing race with your children.

[@emilyglover523]

Thank you for this video and for your recent Instagram post on how to talk to mixed children. I’d love some more insight into ways of keeping my daughter’s Black heritage/culture at the forefront of her identity when her Black family is not involved in her life. I’ve been teaching her to be proud of her beautiful hair and her brown skin. She loves her brown dolls and we read lots of books that include kids that look like her. Any other recommendations would be so welcomed if it seems to warrant your efforts 😊 THANK YOU for what you do ❤️

[@TheMomPsychologist]

Definitely recommend immersing your in the culture such as museum, festivals and racially diverse play groups and schools (if possible). Sounds like you're already doing amazing, mama! Keep it up!

[@inrdating2011]

Thank you and I will be watching all your videos I am going to be given birth to a biracial child black/ white and I’m so scared of my child dealing with racism but I also am confident in preparing my baby for the real world. I have already decided since her dad is not in her life, I will put as many positive black role models in her life as possible. I can learn and teach her the black culture but I can’t give her everything I need to for her to learn and know her black side I just want to raise a powerful confident beautiful child that will be happy in her own skin

[@TheMomPsychologist]

Love hearing this mama. You totally got this 💪🏽

[@Laurita-ev8me]

​@@TheMomPsychologistHow can she prepare her daughter to live in a country where she will be rejected by both Blk and Wyte ppl? Why being so selfish to bring in the world human beings who will suffer their whole life with identity crisis, low self-esteem and full of resentment? Because WW in America say their mixed kids as trophies, they have a f 3 t i s h for it but then they call them the n word, they spit their poisoning hatred on BW (not realizing that the BM chose them only because he has conflicts with BW) and will instill in these kids the wyte ideals even if WP will never accept them as a wyte girl. Why y'all are so selfish to give life to yr babies just to make them suffer? They'll be obliged to pick one side and of course it will be the Blk one.

[@ulaland]

We're expecting our first baby and this video was super informative! Thank you!

[@TheMomPsychologist]

Aww, so great to hear! Congrats on your new baby!

[@mortalkombatarcadelover4479]

I’m having a baby on the way. She’ll be half black and half West Indian Guyanese. Me and my significant other don’t plan to take our daughter to school and plan to teach and raise her at home (not gonna keep her in the house 24/7)

[@MKSpeakz]

i'm biracial (i'm black and white) and my partner is Hispanic. I'm super excited to see how our son ends up looking. Growing up my parents did well in building security of my identity, i def will pass that on ❤

[@tinasun537]

I'd also like to hear about the models. My older kid is almost 3 and I'm just starting to think more about the challenges they might face because of being biracial, and it's making me a bit anxious because I really don't know much at all. Any more information would be helpful!

[@TheMomPsychologist]

thanks for letting me know!

[@daniellejohnson2373]

Same my daughter is also 3 and is biracial

[@tuforu4]

@@TheMomPsychologist i have SON in KENYA and speak to him on whats apps his mother thinks i am a BANK.

[@arjunaadjinna]

the multiracial population will continue to rise singificantly over the next couple generations. with inclusivity becoming more prominent than ever, racial biases are becoming a thing of the past! I'm a proud parent of a mixed baby - Half Indian, and Half Colombian

[@twocents7509]

Currently pregnant with my first kid, I’m Irish and my husband is Asian. We’re very excited, but them being bi-racial and how that will affect them is something I’ve wondered about. Thanks for the tips!

[@elaboratesmile]

This. Is. Needed. Thank you!

[@TheMomPsychologist]

So glad this video was helpful, mama!

[@samrojodog]

Yes! Thank you for making this video!!

[@TheMomPsychologist]

Aww you're so welcome! Thanks for tuning in!

[@diane7352]

Race (white or black) is not the same as being Mexican. Mexican is a nationality, not race.

[@p1nkfangs]

Really?

[@AlexandritheGr8]

@Diane, how about Hispanic or Latina? Btw, there's a right and wrong way to correct someone 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@mixeduniverse111]

Thanks for your insight. I really enjoyed your video.

[@TheMomPsychologist]

Aww thank you for watching. Glad it was helpful!

[@kimrichardson7221]

Thank you so much for posting this.

[@tanna1508]

Thats so confusing for a child. People need to think about this when having children. Cultures are very exclusive because they don't want them to change so biracial people will find it hard to be accepted.

[@TheDivineStyles]

Accepted.

[@AlexandritheGr8]

Who cares about that? Isn't your job as a parent to love, support, and provide them with the tools they need to be successful in life?

[@KeymaJ]

@@AlexandritheGr8 what do you mean who cares ? Someone would care to think of these things before procreating . That’s common sense . Just because children are a blessing doesn’t mean they should be born into mess!

[@jays-move8803]

I am mixed. I agree it would be responsible, but responsible people don't have unprotected sex at age 17 with the "hot black guy" or "cute little white girl" at school, and that's how biracial people show up. Unexpected. By accident. We just have to live with the fact that our parents fought the system and won. But we lost because both black and white people hurt us and that's who we are supposed to be 😢

[@v.a.993]

@@AlexandritheGr8 In a perfect world, sure. But, I am hearing a lot of biracial children who are angry because either the black or white dad is /was absent or the white mother was racist toward them. So, identity crises abound.

[@Queen-of-the-Burbs]

I would like to hear more about the idea that kids "have a duty" to stand up to misconceptions of racial identity.

[@TheMomPsychologist]

It's great to encourage our little ones to explore their racial identity and confidently speak to others about it AND/OR excuse themselves from the conversation if they do not wish to engage. They have the right to excuse themselves politely if they feel uncomfortable. Let me know if you have a specific question about this.

[@BeckywiseTheDancingClown]

I appreciate all of this information. As a white woman I am aware that it is not your job to educate me on antiracism so I'm very grateful you're taking this time to inform us on how to be better allies x

[@TheMomPsychologist]

Aww, it's an honor to be able to use my platform for GOOD. Thank you for supporting my work!

[@MrDMC11889]

As a black guy I take issue with this "not my job" narrative. When we tell people google it we take for granted the rabbit hole that can lead down. Once you search something a plethora of results will come up. There's something called confirmation bias so it's likely that they'll click on what confirms their deeply held biases. That's not to say I'm a walking encyclopedia on black culture. There are boundaries but I disagree with shutting down possibly productive interchanges. Unfortunately, not every black person sees it that way. We're not a monolith.

[@jays-move8803]

As I continue to listen, I did decide to drop a comment before I finished, but it is just to say that the growth rate of bi and multiracial people is kind of being misconstrued. We are still very much a very small number of the United States population. That exponential growth makes it look like there are a lot of us, but we are less than 2% of the US population when you're talking about folks who are mixed with black, which also includes books who are mixed with black and a race other than white. That is important because to say that we are taking over does a disservice both to us and to the general population because they like to use those concepts as a tool against us.

[@kdub-st8tm]

Shes a doll

[@edinamibia]

Mixrace capital of the world is Helsinki Finland....... Beautiful mixed race women, I have a mixed race daughter myself🇳🇦❤️

[@po.po.poquito]

My 8 year old is at a crisis… she is heartbroken and wants to be just white. The main family she is around is mine (white) as her dad is from the West Indies and his family is still there. Her friends here are white.. she gets called the n word at school. We are PROUD of her Jamaican roots and Austrian roots, I teach her patois and celebrate her hair texture and how mine is similar.. But she hates being different and I wish I could fix this for her.

[@po.po.poquito]

Also she is very close with her dad. But she’s almost rejecting her Jamaican side and I try not to be critical of her for it.

[@artisticagi]

Move to Jamaica before it’s too late or get involved with local Jamaican community.

[@mramirez5239]

I like this video, but I would say, at least in my experience-teachers do not want this kind of questioning. My kids learn plenty at home.

[@milesgiehtbrock8510]

Do you think raising a ginger child would be kinda similar?

[@milesgiehtbrock8510]

oops kinda realized "ginger" is a bit offensive

[@bbrev106]

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