What You Need to Know Before Dating Younger Women - Philippines

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

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[@DavidPaulNewtonScott]

I have raised 8 hyper sucessful kids. Two boys a Phd physicist and an engineer. My two daughters of my ex-wife, a civil engineer and a lawyer. I loved being a dad, so why not again. So I have targeted women with kids. Now I am with a Philippina with a boy 8 girls 6, 4, and six months. So far, so good fingers crossed she doesn't dump me for some spurious reason.

[@kennethwelsby2143]

I totally agree with you. Help her grow, education and encouragement. Gently and lovingly. 😊

[@liquidmath4045]

I like how you stress being a mentor and helping her to be a better person every day. That says a lot about you. I'm in a 30 year age gap relationship with a Filipina and I am amazed at how well it works on so many levels. We are a great couple. I enjoy teaching and helping her.

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

while it can be taxing at times, i much rather teach someone who is teachable than to contend with a woman who is set in her ways. that's me.

[@eastcoastnews9529]

This man keeps it real. I dated several Filipinos and this man is telling him the truth 100% but also know that female nature is female nature.

[@MichaelPeters-s7u]

I am 46 years old and my Filipina fiancée is 28. Nothing wrong with it.

[@etfremd]

That’s perfect.:.not even an age gap really!

[@Rustsamurai1]

She's too old.

[@windellchapman8397]

I m now 71 and my wife of 20 yrs is now 47 .. We re quite happy and we have a gazzillion likes/ dislikes in common !!!! She is a light in any room she enters!!! She had a very good Dad , until he passed away !! Two previous wives had abusive dads and they didnt trust men at all !!!! 😵‍💫

[@windellchapman8397]

A lovely Filipina that has a genuine smile and personality , cannot be topped by any other race of women !!!!!

[@christopherbradley5575]

Lol! Here in the US, the average 45 year old woman has the maturity of a 14 year old boy so dating a young filipina should be easy. 🤣🤣🤣

[@twoweeledsoto6072]

In other words. Don't be selfish! Great info. Something to think about when going after young women.

[@youview5023]

The important key here is his stressing long-term relationship..if that's not what you're willing to sign up for, you're better off being upfront that you are just 'dating' because once you're intimate, as in most relationships, the dynamics change with a permanent expectation. Take you're time, haste makes waste and babies !

[@SuccessiveApproximations-Intl]

Another thoughtful video, with great advice, thanks Reekay! What you've said before is that many times an age gap relationship is a sort of mentor relationship, and that's really resonated with me, and that's what I'm doing with my girl. I intend to help her develop her entrepreneurial skills in the case that I'm no longer around, so she'll be independent with her own income producing abilities. You're right, we have much more life experience, and we should be willing and eager to share it.

[@dougparson4407]

I met & married my filipina when she was in her mid 30s. She had never been married but had 1 child and had worked abroad 4 years to help support that child and her parents before we met. I found d conversation with 20 year olds very silly and conversation with my 30 year old much more realistic and genuine. Her child us a very good kid and never had a father growing up so I got to be daddy again. I have enjoyed that as I was not allowed to be a real father to my biological kid thanks to western divorce processes and her mother playing manipulation games all the time. I find the Filipina women and the. Children are playful but want to learn and know what older western men know. My wife is 25 years younger and she makes me very happy and I am showing her hiw to run my business so she can maintain that income after I am gone. Hopefully that legacy will continue to her child and so on.

[@roberthertel5565]

Clearly you ended up with the ideal woman , Very glad things are working out very well for you and very nice of you to prepare her for when the time comes when she is without you, let's hope that will be many, many years down the road ! :)

[@GBU61]

The most important thing is keep it to yourself. You already know it will not be acceptable by the West. I have dated a few 20s-something women but I never advertised it to anyone outside my close friend where I live.

[@NewAdventuresAhead]

There does remain that wonderful option of telling them to go fully eff themselves. 🤣

[@gahmivolka]

It is also insane how if an Older woman goes finds a 20 something boy toy. She is empowered. I have never been able to understand this logic.

[@dbuck1964]

@@gahmivolkait’s because it’s not logical at all. Self-awareness in women is a myth.

[@RealGaryGibson]

My sister was mad at me for moving in with a 37yo filipina. I can't imagine how she would react if I found a 20's filipina! lol

[@jamesloerzel4377]

That's unfortunately because modern western women have become toxic... They would rather push their own agenda ahead of your happiness... So I return the favor, and ignore them. How to piss off the vast majority of Western women... Be a man and be happy...

[@ericpowell4350]

At your age and status, why in the world why would you care what anybody thought of your decisions let alone your sister?

[@davefarnsworth3020]

I just had a talk with my youngest sister this morning on this very topic.

[@etfremd]

I’m 57 and found a 20 year old…very sweet…she will be 21 soon and I’ll be 58 in a couple months also…

[@JeffjeffJeffjeff-y4y]

When I was a young 47, I faced the orb of Eros and thought I could make two choices. Be responsible and honor this with marriage (which is forever, right) or I could “passport bro” and FK tradition. These rules we have are all written by the dead. People who came before us with very different circumstances and life challenges. We feel that pressure that “this” is the “right” way to live and navigate life. But “this” is dead in modernity. Things are changing so fast that we really have to make the rules up with fresh boots. Any advice or Shane talk (internal or external) must be discarded or at least measured as inhibition against living the one life God granted us.

[@JeffjeffJeffjeff-y4y]

Woah. “What have I done today to prepare her for when I’m gone?” Beautiful moon right there ❤ And yea, she may change her mind and you may change your mind. Love fades like tears in the rain. There are no guarantees FACT and so an older western man can’t become trapped by imagination or hope as a younger man without a 1000 miles of pain and disappointment. I don’t know man. Great talk today. I’m just in the place (post divorce) where I know two things are true. We have an infinite potential for love but like that old song goes “I tried so hard, and got so far, but in the end it doesn’t even matter.” It’s going to be an interesting year. I’m 61 and I did the math for retirement at 62 vs just keep going and going. Both options are fine on a spreadsheet. But damn is it boring here in America. An empty bed wasn’t on my radar and I don’t think I can endure that when one option exists.

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

to me.. when i looked at the math for retirement (i'm also 61)... i came to the conclusion, "more money by waiting is nice.. but tomorrow is promised to no one." i'll be starting my benefits when i turn 62. with $1500/month.. you can easily start a whole new life in the PH. have some backup money for medical emergency of course.

[@markdanielsmarksinspiratio3547]

@@Lifebeyondthesea Yes I started at 63, I talked to other older men and they said I best get it while the government id still giving it out. They could stop anytime. I don't need it but it is a nice bonu

[@waltgreen8759]

excellent segment. you hit the issue perfectly.

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

Thanks! Glad you found it helpful.

[@trujefe7367]

This is a very valuable video, this applies to all age gap relationships worldwide as well

[@themacker894]

Very wise words. Help someone and make a life with them. Don't play around.

[@pascal2378]

Like the respect you talk about relationships with younger women.

[@hardmanst]

Thanks Reekay for passing on your life experiences in the Philippines

[@arentol99]

My preference is also 20s. I’m 52, my girlfriend is 24. Great relationship, having a wonderful time, great chemistry.

[@78swats]

Very helpful discussion and thoughts as always Reekay. Thank you .

[@jimhayd7857]

“I’d rather have two girls at 21 each than one girl at 42.” - WC Fields

[@Evetttte]

Woody Allen says the same. He showed his young wife everything. She plays piano and it very sophisticated.

[@theblackboxpodcastshow1791]

I wouldn’t ask her to give up her dream of having a baby, being a little selfish if I’m asking her to give up her most fertile years of her life just because i want to date / relationship/ marry a very young woman. If I go into a relationship/ marriage, that is a fundamental part of it, bearing offspring, anything else is just pandering to my desires, if I don’t want kids I’ll grab a post wall woman that cannot have kids and “ blast away “ without worrying. But ( for me) if I tell a young woman I love her, then I have to give her everything she wants ( within my power) . Mentor her ? Yes plan for her future without me when I die? Yes but also give her something more, a human being that looks like the both of us, so my legacy lives on with the woman I love

[@UNBRIDLEDLivinginCostaRica]

You the man! I wish more men thought the same way...unfortunately...most are selfish. Just saying.

[@JeffjeffJeffjeff-y4y]

Thanks man! I’m thinking of going over there next year and it’s the one thing holding me back. I’m kind of trying to ignore it because it’s so powerful that it’s giving me inertia. I can just stay here, be comfortable, work, retire in 10 years and then sip lemonade on the porch until I die. Sounds bad but can’t I just fill the void with consumerism

[@MrEnglishRevolution]

I think you guys need to think more broadly about your position. 1. I was married to a woman who was 38 with one 12 year old when we met, and after marriage she became determined to have a baby. I already have two, she had one, I said no! The point is, a woman wanting a baby is not about her being "younger" than the man. A woman might decide she wants a baby at any age before menopause. It's not selfish to say NO! Or is it only selfish if she's under 30? I mean how do you justify the judgment of "selfish" and when is it not "selfish"? The answers to those questions are not black and white. So your position is not solid. 2. There are many good reasons to not have a baby nowadays, given the state of the economy, the price of houses, the costs involved with having one, and the fact there are already millions of unwanted, unloved, uneconomically sustainable babies and children in the world. It actually could be selfish and even reckless to insist on having a baby. This leads me to disagree with you that it's selfish to date and marry any woman before menopause, whether she's 15 or 40, and have as a condition of the union that "we" don't make a baby. It's simply not necessary. If she can deal with it, no matter what her age, then it's not your business to play the "hero" and call out "selfish".

[@mikepit5112]

What's amazing is that now sounds like you got choices.

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

so many choices in the PH. it's amazing.

[@ervinalexander1734]

You're right because there maybe a day when we as men may not be able to do it later in life

[@ericsoto99]

I really appreciate your advice. I’m a little concerned that you’ve gone through so many women. Why do you feel you were not able to find the right one for you even though you tried so many? I do appreciate the way that you respect women and your goal is to help them along in life.

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

dating is a process of getting to know a stranger, to see if the two of you are compatible for the future. that takes time. you don't just marry someone because the first 5 dates went smoothly. in my particular case i had some very tight criteria. and i wasn't in any rush to be married. i wanted a good wife, not a quick one. my first piece of criteria; a woman with no kids. that alone ended quite a few relationships once it came out she had kids. in the PH, you may not find this out for a month or more, even when asking them directly. another requirement i had was; a woman that was fine without having kids in the future. again, that eliminated a lot of starter relationships. it takes time to see if that is really what she's ok with, or just mouthing the words to keep the relationship. another must-have was; not committed to a job, college or place. i want a wife that will travel with me. not in a hurry to "settle down" in one place. so when you say you're concerned that i, "went through so many women" it doesn't factor in that i wasn't about to marry the first pretty face with a few kids to be responsible for. it took me 7 years of dating and searching, and now that i've been with my wife for the last 5 years... i am SO glad i to took them time to find exactly who i'd been looking for.

[@Ziryabproductions]

That was excellent brotha

[@MegaAlex010101]

😂 I love it, we don't age discriminate. we are Equal opportunity.

[@chrisbunka]

Teaching comes naturally to me so I would see no problem there. As I follow IG somewhat and have some exposure to TikTok, I can understand the playing on the phone. Heck, I run these YT videos on my phone at work! We need to at least bond over Kpop or Kdramas😄

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

my wife (age 26).. we both love a lot of the same music because it's the 70's, 80's, 90's she grew up listening/singing to on the karaoke machine. :) and we each will watch international movies (w/subtitles) at the drop of a hat. she doesn't like Star Wars, but i married her anyway.

[@chrisbunka]

@@Lifebeyondthesea One thing I have learned from watching your channel and other men’s channel with a balanced view (ie like them but will set boundaries) is to look for women who have a lot of similarities. Even if I am not in any relationship Stateside, I still vibe better with those women who like anime because of my time in Japan and Kpop. And they also just happen to be younger Millennials and “older” Zoomers.

[@magnuswayne7002]

Truth!💯

[@guynouri]

You do this well

[@simmitysam1397]

Do you have any videos about about owning property, or house, land, condos, for foreigners?

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

here's the link; kzbin.info/www/bejne/qpyTZGeNbNh8nKM

[@jabba0975]

Asking a woman to forgo being a mother.....that's a big ask. If you care about her, it's too much.

[@BobbyLoo-jr8ys]

well said, good information. Men is the provider in the east and women is the giver.

[@gaboristvankiska7655]

The best is to date a filipina between 20-24! I agree with Reekay absolutely,I am above 60 and have one 😊

[@stedye]

62 and my girl is 23 , in her last year of college. I Agree with you 100%

[@rogsolaris7411]

My only concern is due to differences in life experiences based on age difference, and a probable language barrier to some degree, that there is nothing in common and nothing to talk about. I'm early middle age and have chatted with dozens upon dozen online, and they can't get past "Hello." How can you spend all your time with some young girl who can only say "Hello."

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

my wife and i are 35 years apart and we have always had plenty to talk about. same with women i dated in their early 20's before her. and same for my friends who have a wife or g/f much younger than themselves. if the 'only' reason a man is with a younger woman is for the attraction alone.. good luck with that. in a real relationship, there is the present and the future together shared in common. that is where the conversations are.

[@Harleyluyah]

That’s great mate - your a decent man

[@Rod-jn1om]

So well said!

[@henrymann8122]

Spot on! Brilliant Rekay. I agree 100 percent.

[@MarcGomez-b8m]

Btw I love your coverage of the the topic I’m interested in. I’m a father who’s only daughter is away at school now. I got hurt working and have been talking to a Filipina for 5 years and have no doubt that we’re completely committed. Can you give me some advice on how to mentally mentor her about having all her chores done before aerobics time. Sounds silly but my condition is obviously im disabled. I have tbi focussed cerebellum. My brain hyper focused on details. Besides the point. She will be of age in 6 months. I will be going to meet her in April and we’re going to get married The main reason why I’m doing it is that I miss my father daughter bonding time together. We would have gym time together but separated. I want that time back and I want to be able to help her a friend. What is your opinion

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

the particulars of 'why' you want a relationship are not as relevant as your hurry to arrive and marry her. a much wiser plan would be to spend a year dating her, in-person for a full year. do NOT move her into your home. date on a daily basis for a year to see if you two are even compatible. explore her expectations regarding having kids, how many, living near her parents, supporting her family, religion. you have a massive amount of ground to cover before even thinking about making a marital commitment. arriving and marrying a young woman who doesn't even know what she wants in life yet is a horrible idea.

[@stumboguy]

Thank you.

[@Seadreamer_]

6:45 💚

[@Chattanoogachoochoo_0105a]

Any thoughts on dating Filipina women ages 18 to 25 years old? Would the same views from this video apply here?

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

yes. absolutely. the approach in this video is very much for this age-range.

[@danielp6066]

Hi, do you know if there is a reputable dating service in the Philippines? Not a dating website - Thank you

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

no, not seen anything like that in 12 years. not needed really. just get out in public and approach women that interest you. kzbin.info/www/bejne/nmPKZadpfJ2Kd8k

[@Abelius]

Sounds to me being a good dad would be a good practice for this kind of relationship.

[@okumakamizu3030]

Good thoughts.

[@MarcGomez-b8m]

I’m not sure about marriage. That’s only for ease of immigrating her?

[@MickeyMousePark]

ironically it is the reverse here..alot of expats get married that want to stay in the PI ..being married to a filipina opens up alot of doors here for the expat..Visa requirements change..you can work here if you want ...lots and lots of things that are not possible on a Tourist Visa...

[@eastcoastnews9529]

5:34 so she brought nothing to the table?

[@K1600-l7f]

Does anyone seriously believe that 20 to 24-year-olds really think of these things at that age? Is their mindset seriously that utilitarian?

[@michaellewis3747]

I'm 53 no way could I go with a girl that young I don't want a hormonal child

[@eastcoastnews9529]

A good MAN is like a father to his woman. Guide protect and provide was of life, not necessarily Money but all things .

[@JulienSorelEatsSabras]

Oh. YMMV but -- Caveat Lector: THEY'RE INSATIABLE.

[@RandallGlatt]

25 or younger to me is a little girl. I like a WOMAN...

[@USA_to_Asia_in_2024]

25 or older to me is a used up girl. I like a woman with purity.

[@buzuxi]

Under 25 (presuming age gap of 20+ years) can work if you are living in the Philippines, but if you are looking to bring her back definitely over 25 and have a frank discussion of expectations.

[@MrEnglishRevolution]

Each to their own. It's not your concern. You date and marry who you want, and I'll date and marry who I want. Deal?

[@michaelmallal9101]

Find out how many kids she has and how many she wants?

[@ReynaldoOchoa-t7s]

✌️🤠🇲🇽

[@richardduncan3044]

Can they travel outside of their country? This is of utmost value, the man may need to travel with his female friend somewhere.

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

they can, but will need an interview to avoid being 'off-loaded'.

[@MickeyMousePark]

a filipina with a Philippines passport can travel to these countries without a visa: Asia: Cambodia, Hong Kong, Indonesia, Kazakhstan, Kyrgyzstan, Laos, Macao, Malaysia, Maldives, Mongolia, Myanmar, Nepal, Pakistan, Singapore, Sri Lanka, Taiwan, Tajikistan, Thailand, Timor-Leste, and Vietnam Middle East: Israel Africa: Barbados, Cook Island, Ivory Coast, Dominica, Kiribati, Micronesia, Niue, Palestinian Territories, Rwanda, St. Vincent and The Grenadines, and Suriname Getting her passport can be a long process due to lots of paperwork and different government offices she has to deal with ..if she is lucky enough to have a National ID it helps alot..although even that can be problematic because PI are have troubles with counterfeit National ID's

[@dlhanson51]

Waiting a year to get married doesn't work for me. I am a 73 year old widower( married to a Chinese for 51 years) who is Christian. I am committed to no sexual relations outside of marriage. I am moving to Thailand not the Philippines. I hope to marry a lady 3 to 6 months after meeting her.

[@PerfectInterview]

Think about what you’re saying here. 90% of younger Filipina women are going to want children. This is their way of life. Older men have no business marrying these women unless they’re willing to be raising a kid or two in their 50s and 60s. Anything else is just pure selfishness.

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

you missed something. the other 10% of young filipinas that do not want kids are fine with it. nothing selfish about that at all.

[@MrEnglishRevolution]

That a judgement based on your world view, your values, and your beliefs. If the woman can deal with, then it's none of your business.

[@frosty3693]

I guess the second timeline would work for a much older man. He can marry a much younger filipina love and mentor her and when he passed away she is still young enough to have a child/family she can, but with the years of teaching her how to live and, hopefully manage the money the man left her. A wiw win for all.