Why Do Filipinas and Expats Make Great Couples?

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

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[@jimbarton7866]

In 2018, as a widower, I met a delightful lady in the Philippines 33 years my junior. After some time filling out USCIS documents, she arrived in the U.S. in 2019 and we married. The last 5 years have been an exhilirating extension of my life as I've followed her around the U.S. with her work as a travel nurse, the last stint being in Las Vegas. Without question the last 5 years have been the happiest of my life.

[@user-hc3ce7ye6r]

14 year gap and 25 years married to my beautiful Filipina.

[@brucesmith9206]

23 years ago, a co-worker told me to find a Filipina for a GF. I was divorced. About a year later, I met one, a 44 year old OFW Contract Care Giver. I worked in health care, and our paths crossed. The rest became history. I will leave out the little details because obviously she is a Filipino, and I am a Canadian aged 56 at the time. A 12 year difference in age. To make a long story shorter, we planned our future together and are now fully retired in Davao. Today, June the 18th 2024 is our 22nd anniversary. To quote Billy Crawford's song, "There is nothing like a Filipina girl."

[@franklinmckelvie1454]

True words! Also, one of my favorite songs!

[@byronsimpson7024]

I love that song too

[@Lawskipper]

This video is outstanding. It is so true that "having things in common" is not the secret - or even an essential element - in the success of a long term relationship. The spark of fascination and attraction is what makes a relationship with a particular person work. It is a very insightful point that the US focuses on commonalities as a basis for a successful relationship, and yet the numbers do not bear out this long standing belief. At most, it makes a reliable fallback position for western women, once their other ready emotion-based criticisms have been refuted. We are moving further into a new environment where western men increasingly understand that they can do better than settling for the unattainable American princess who, as it turns out, is not worth attaining to begin with. Expectations too high; self importance artificially inflated; ability to be truly feminine often nearly non-existent; modern so-called feminists are living in an illusory world created not by any dynamic of happiness or success in gender relations, but instead by those of their own gender who brainwash them into thinking they should value things that are inherently more masculine than feminine. They have been coerced into descrying their own nature, sadly. The perverse movement of modern so-called feminism - which originally by definition simply meant equality, a concept which any right thinking person would embrace as just and proper - will eventually be left on what I like to call "The Great Garbage Pile of Human History," along with pet rocks, human sacrifice, sun worship, and bell bottom jeans. The proponents of this misguided philosophy are the gender equivalent of brainwashed citizens of communist countries, who possibly read Marx's "Communist Manifesto," and failed to notice that it does not work in the real world. Yet examples abound; the Soviet Union, Cuba, Venezuela, China. Over the course of history, we humans tend to keep what works, and forget the rest. So, what will remain is a just and fair world understanding where equality is the norm, and differences are embraced, just as is the difference between "day" and "night." Fortunately, in the meantime, men have the Philippines - and other traditional countries where women can be educated, have careers, and still be quintessentially feminine - where we can go to find women who actually know what it means to be truly "feminine," and who delight in being so. GO EAST, YOUNG MAN.

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

very accurate and well stated.

[@pogopiratepete]

good read... makes sense. Still not sure about finding a "career minded" philipina. I want a female with the ambition to focus on her family, household and me.

[@murphthesurf3409]

25 year gap. 15th anniversary next year.

[@Listener827]

Very eloquent. Great insight you're sharing.

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

Thank you kindly!

[@mccm1067]

Oh boy. I’m currently in Cebu with my Philippino girlfriend and it’s so awesome. I’m feeling like if I was on Mars - it’s another world for man women relationship. Thanks for all your advice which I find really useful.

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

Sounds great!

[@murrayspiffy2815]

One of the things I enjoy the most with my Filipina SO - is introducing her to music - movies - and TV shows - she has no clue about. For example - she had no clue about England - or the Queen. So we watched "The Crown" together - and by the end she hated Charles - despised Camilla - and loved Princess Diana and Princess Kate. Doing these things with her - makes me feel young again.

[@josiah5776]

Same experience for me!

[@keith-kb1zl]

sometimes total opposites attract huge age gap with my Filipina. the cultural differences can sometimes be challenging, but little things she does makes for an interesting relationship, it’s funny to me , she’s never heard of Elvis or the Beatles or some big name American actors , I get a chuckle out of that, when she mispronounces English words and her accent makes it difficult for me to understand 😂😂 ,also , we rarely argue,if we do, I just say something stupid like it’s part of marriage we have to have an argument at least once a month 😊😊😊lol.

[@RealGaryGibson]

I have way more in common with my half-my-age filpina than my 2 ex-wives combined!

[@JeffjeffJeffjeff-y4y]

🤣 that hit me, my friend. The western experience is a disaster. I don’t care who you are it’s a 50% divorce rate. 65% for second marriages. “Why does it fail?” he asks in this video. And the answer is spot on. Modern love is captured by modernity. Good luck with that 😂

[@TheFox808]

Couldn't agree more. I used to think that way too, until a few years ago. I dated this girl, she was attractive, great body, same nationality as me, and we had as much in common as two people could have. I'm very outdoorsy, so was she, everything I wanted to do she was 100% down for. But after 6 months I didn't develop any real feelings for her, so I had to break it off. Then the next girl I dated, she was also attractive with a great body, totally opposite nationality to me (not Filipina though) and we had virtually nothing in common. And she hated the outdoors. I even took her on a very short 30 min hike, and she screamed when a leaf touched her leg (I'm not even kidding). Yet after 1 month I was head over heels for her, she was with me too, and was seriously thinking about marriage. That ended too, but it had absolutely nothing to do with a lack of shared interests.

[@Badger345]

Congratulations 100k

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

Thank you so much 😀

[@michaellee6167]

God bless all filipinas...I hope one day to meet a nice one some day...

[@mccm1067]

Just buy a ticket and come over there to Philippines for 1 month. Your life will change irreversibly

[@Ron-oe7hg]

In my opinion. Its our differences that make relationships interesting. Opposite do attract. My 10 years with my wife proves it does work.

[@papabear007]

lol sounds like me my wife is from Columbia did not speak English. I wrote letters married 8 years ago so funny but we have a daughter together and we are like friends to this day

[@NewAdventuresAhead]

Nice timing... this is really on my mind at the moment.

[@oahuguy3918]

I would like to point out one interesting thing you mentioned with your ex-wife. And that is both of you guys took the time to learn each other's languages. And to me, that is key. Without decent communication, it wouldn've been an exhausting relationship. And that is why I will continue to emphasize the need for foreigners to take the time to learn their Filipina's native language - although they can speak some English, you will feel like an outsider whenever you get together with her friends and family.

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

Her english is much better than my visayan. :)

[@Kosty19]

I fully agree with this! You need to understand at least some of what they are talking behind Your back! Also to detect scams and traps in time.

[@Kevin-G-7]

So true! The right kind of differences make a relationship an adventure, for people who like an adventure. I do!

[@NewAdventuresAhead]

HA! Finalizing my divorce next week with my borderline personality ex I met on EHARMONY. So yeah, it definitely doesn't vet as well as one would hope. People answer questions based on the ideal version of themselves, not who they really are.

[@petehboy2]

I feel values are very big

[@ntech1507]

Reekay I agree with you. The core values between my girlfriend and I are the same, our cultures are similar in terms of customs, foods and environment. But we do not like the same colors, or have all the same hobbies in common and we get along great. I am excited to come to the Philippines at first I was worried because expats on a livestream were saying $3k a month is too little for the 2 of us or a family of 5 but you cleared things up.

[@CLCIII]

Once again, THE voice of reason. Can you even imagine a world where most people were resonable all the time? It would be awesome in my humble opinion! As Always, May God Bless you and yours! 😇

[@sn0wolf]

I think another key is that Filipinas say outright that they just want you to accept them for who they are and are more than willing to do the same for you..

[@mattsnider5904]

Maybe caring about each other,mutual respect, companionship and chemistry are the strongest factors

[@Panda-gu9wz]

Makes great sense!

[@AnthonyCataldo-ez5ej]

Yup...lots of academic research suggests a top 3 item is the same moral and ethical foundation, which comes from religion.

[@donturner8269]

Common interests may be what brought you together with whoever you married, but it isn't what keeps you together. A couple of days ago, I would have celebrated my 49th wedding anniversary with my wife. Cancer saw to it that our 48th would be the last. I've had many people over the years ask what the secret to our successful marriage was. The answer is that there is no secret. You both have to WANT to stay married to each other. It's just that simple. We had our share of challenges along the way, but we CHOSE to stay together. You have to be willing to pick your battles, fight fair, and find a way to get over your hurt feelings without saying or doing something you can't take back.

[@JohnSmith-ks5xw]

Thank you.

[@JeffjeffJeffjeff-y4y]

I think this is true. For the most part, western men see marriage as foundational to who they are. Western women do not. As soon as the marriage disrupts or violates who they think they are then it’s over. Sense of self is their foundation. You see evidence in divorce when the man is simply lost. His whole identity of provider, protector, husband and father was wrapped in that marriage. She will have processed and grieved the divorce a million years before him. Modernity is a tragedy.

[@jeffjohnston3504]

Sometimes a couple can be bound & determined to make it work. So long as youre not completely miserable trying.

[@rickthompson1422]

....I don't like how the US dating sites match you, control who you can see / not see, divide you up by age groups, they don't let you see people in other age groups, frustrating...

[@scottreesor9859]

Its actually super simple. If she can have sex outside the confines of a committed long-term relationship with the expectation of marriage then being in a relationship will not stop her from cheating or having sex outside the relationship because being in a committed relationship is not a criteria for sex. Now of this only applies if you want a monogamous relationship. As far as having things in common it does not matter if you are a perfect match in every way if she can't be faithful then it will never work, infidelity, cannot be fixed but most everything else can be.

[@larryedwin7057]

Great video. I’m hoping to find a filipina and great relationship when I move there

[@dangersmymiddlename6341]

Good episode

[@amigo2k10]

It funny I see what you look like and right away see Spanish or Latin but when you talk definitely not I actually have the same thing going I was born in the Dominican republic but I'm raised in newyork since one year of age and I'm told I sound white

[@jeffmccord575]

I get what you say about not much in common. The problem I have faced with my Korean wife is that my side of the family does not mesh when we moved to the US. She was 38 at the time. She the kids and I moved. She had to leave friends and family. She had been to visit the US a few times. The first things I noticed were like micro aggression. Things like Spam and liking to drink. That got to be that she has been here long enough she should get American culture and language. That part is always a work in progress. She is very type A. Everything is black or white. Since living here 11 years she has gotten an AS in accounting. She has had numerous jobs. All have been with Korean employers that have moved to the US. There is a comfort level. A lot of those have ended badly. Part of that is being better that everyone else because after work researches everything the business does and finds ways to streamline things and improved deficiencies. That make some people uncomfortable. One thing that family had issues with was joining a conversation about weight loss with one of the aunts that had a serious weight problem. My wife had just studied about the keto diet and explained it and what she does that helps with weight. Weeks later I hear from the uncle that his wife is uncomfortable with my wife. For what I wonder. Also a popular accusation is that my wife is an elder abuser and an alcoholic. Even when I screw up. Family blames her and says to divorce her and send her back. Maybe they have forgotten she got her US citizenship, and more so I choose to be with her. So what has happened is she avoids most close relatives. My kids back her 100% on these issues. My kids are legal adults now. My wife's Korean family is totally different. I was like the son they didn't have. Always good to me. Sure I was spoiled. They love my daughters. I don't like the disconnect with my family, but there is no way to fix it. What do we have in common? Both us had recently broken up with previous significant others and we both taught English. Many more differences; she had a car, life of the party drink and socially smoked. Poor English speaking ability. As for me; all for public transportation, somewhat, quiet, not a great teacher. She quit smoking after getting pregnant. After second baby I said something that caused her to start up again. She would say she wants to quit some day. My response was every smoker quits at some point. She continued when we migrated. a Pack in Korea cost a little over $2. In my State it was $9. Also vaping was starting to become popular. Did that for awhile. Then eventually stopped. Image is important. We are half way past 21 years married. Have watched many of your videos. Always fun and informative.

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

family acceptance (in-laws).. or the lack of it, imo is harder on a woman than a man. men can get by just fine without approval from others. women want to be accepted by the in-laws on a greater level as i see it.

[@bonditltd5346]

Yet another great video. Lots to think about for me and re-evaluate. After a 35 year relationship/20 year marriage, I realise I’m clueless.

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

Thanks for sharing!

[@dovoso5685]

Hi Reekay, what a wonderful episode but look - IMO, You and your ex did have lots in common . You were both young, good looking, energetic, adventurous, hard working, self motivated, and entrepreneurs, that is plenty . As for matching and age differences, you have mentioned many time before a type of happy relations between some one who enjoy teaching and someone who loves to learn. Such a couple will make a strong happy bond, and age gap would become less important. .

[@floribertosousa2251]

True words spoken Reekay. I agree 💯% with what you've said. Take care and keep up the great work.

[@mikesimmons74]

Where do you find all these beautiful Filipinas for your posts???

[@jessejames4967]

😂

[@jessejames4967]

😂 Welcome to the world of artificial intelligence my friend

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

all the images in the vids, i create with AI for illustrative purposes. i often try to pattern the AI model after the person discussed. in the PH.. i'd say about 6% are a 7 thru a 10. with maybe 1% being a 10. but, they are very approachable. using real women means getting model releases for each. not cost effective to be paying models for photo shots.

[@mikesimmons74]

@@jessejames4967 sad too

[@JB-dk8zc]

What rock have you been under?😂

[@paulperano9236]

Having some things in common is a good way to start. Just as important is things you have no idea about. As long as you can both accept that some things you both do may seem silly to the other - you can both laugh about it. Often the reason why we do things are cultural habits are ... silly.

[@alfaeco15]

If she provides the goods, I am happy to provide the money.

[@ricric8348]

Bottom Line, it's a threat to women, as they fear they will lose their man to a younger woman. Soon if he marries a much younger woman, SHE will always be the younger woman. By that he never leaves the relationship.

[@zachary813]

Love is beyond "things in common." Who is the beauty in your video? What couples must have in common is the feeling of love for each other.

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

all the images in the vids, i create with AI for illustrative purposes. i often try to pattern the AI model after the person discussed. in the PH.. i'd say about 6% are a 7 thru a 10. with maybe 1% being a 10. but, they are very approachable. using real women means getting model releases for each. not cost effective to be paying models for photo shots.

[@RobertJones-et7gh]

Just curious…if your marriage with the Mexican woman was so great, how come, in the end, you two are no longer together?

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

when the real estate crash came in 2007, we had several properties by then. i had a plan to restructure so we wouldn't suffer such a big loss. she had an opposite plan that would guarantee we lost everything. there was no middle-ground, no way to compromise despite months of discussing it. her one admitted fault is that she is stubborn. that, combined with each of us working full-time on opposite shifts, plus running a large catering company on the weekends.. it all finally took its toll.

[@samuelaragon3465]

There full of BS opposites attract communicate with your partner be honest with each no drinking have a healthy hobby you well be fine give and take

[@JeffjeffJeffjeff-y4y]

Great topic. I’m finishing up my 2nd divorce here in America, and what became clear is words vs picture. I envisioned Yab-yum and she envisioned more of a growth mindset. While it’s true that opposites can enhance one another, such as introvert and extrovert, if the opposite is what you picture the world to be; what you want from a woman and she from a man, well that’s just a shipwreck waiting for the lighthouse to go off. I married Chinese and had kids because she wanted them (and in many ways it’s wonderful) but never in a million years would I have imagined she would want a divorce for growth spiritual incompatibility. I was thinking ride or die; struggles sure (welcome to life) but joined forever. So for sure: same spiritual path and same understanding of life fulfillment is key. Good luck to me and everyone else on this journey for ❤

[@pogopiratepete]

wait? what? financial issues.... please explain, lol thats a great reason to end a relationship!!! thats a HUGE deal. breaker for me at my age....no joint bank account, im the accountant, approval with me first, budgeting.... nothing worse than being with someone fiscally clueless..NO THANK YOU...next!

[@johnlacey3857]

Opposites attract

[@jimnech5066]

opposites attract

[@Stupidlogins1]

this guy is using your videos......to make money for himself. 5 Minutes With Reekay

[@Lifebeyondthesea]

thanks for the heads-up. "5 Minutes With Reekay" is actually my own, 2nd channel. for those with just a few minutes to spare in the day. www.youtube.com/@5minuteswithreekay/videos i did have one other channel re-post my content, so i had all of that taken down via youtube. but "5-Minutes" at the above link is mine. :)

[@Stupidlogins1]

@@Lifebeyondthesea Well I just watched one of the videos from that channel and I am sorry I did not do my due diligence, before contacting you...

[@papadougpapadougsadventures]

I’m an atheist and my girlfriend is a catholic. She takes the kids to church and I don’t go. It works well