What You Should Learn from Taylor's New Album

[@skyraider1656]

A year before my wife passed away I told her that my biggest regret was that she didn’t have a group of women friends that she could have shopped with or had lunch with because my of my work schedule. Her response was, “If I had wanted that, I would have had it. What I wanted was you and the kids”. What a wonderful woman. I miss her dearly.

[@marcmcphee]

What a beautiful story…she sounds like she was a wonderful woman. ❤️

[@marianainesairaldi5517]

That's so sweet ❤ she's an angel!

[@dianabodemer1889]

My condolences. Never forget love, thank God for your kids. As a mother , that is her best gift to you. The only thing you couldn't do yourself, by yourself.

[@el_killorcure]

Guess she was too wise to spent her time (like most women) drinking in the dark and b¡tch¡ng about men...

[@allys744]

Your wife sounds like a remarkable woman. May she Rest In Peace

[@dontstalkmedeltoro8816]

My husband said he knew the day he met me. We were together for 19 years. He recently passed from cancer. He selflessly gave to us every day. If men want to ... they will.

[@robtucker6303]

So sorry for your incredible loss… but happy for you having your time together with your husband. I lost my fiancée to cancer after two years together… we were both quite young and I was devastated… but I was Blessed to find a wonderful woman who also had lost her Fiancé to cancer… we’re been together for over 25 years now… life is a journey.

[@dontstalkmedeltoro8816]

@@robtucker6303 that's lovely for you. I have no need or plans to remarry or even have a LTR. Financially I will be very comfortable and I have 4 kids that will need me more than ever. I'm looking forward to my new life. It wasn't how I wanted it. But he wouldn't want me being miserable and doing nothing with my life.

[@ganjelaaa5312]

So sorry for your loss. ❤

[@Thebloodydamnreaper]

I’m so so sorry for your loss, but so happy you two were blessed with 19 wonderful years together ❤

[@dontstalkmedeltoro8816]

@@Thebloodydamnreaper thank you. He was an amazing man I was blessed to have him for a long as I did.

[@bibasik7]

It finally happened, Brett knocked over her coffee with her hand gestures

[@RachelJayne92]

It was inevitable. 😂

[@wowza8901]

Underrated Comment 😂

[@newman716ET]

I have been waiting years for this 🤣 it took me 3 weeks at my new job to spill coffee on my keyboard and finally Brett is one of those too

[@sarawinterling9907]

😂😂😂

[@PinsPuzzles]

We all knew it was coming lol

[@sheeplenk]

Nice to see a conservative who doesn’t pretend that Taylor Swift is awful. She speaks to a lot of people’s experiences, and knows how to tell a story. Not liking her is fine, but hating on her just for being successful is embarrassing.

[@afhostie]

I don't know anyone that hates on her for being successful. All the criticism is that she's delusional with some of her songs, like If I Was A Man.

[@Dr.Reason]

LOL, just because you are not as far left as a rabid leftist, doesn’t mean you are conservative. I like Brett, but she isn’t conservative. And as a conservative, Swift is awful.

[@sheeplenk]

@@Dr.ReasonGood point, all conservatives are tryhard edgelords.

[@Dr.Reason]

@@sheeplenk let’s go back a bit to word definitions: conservative by definition means to retain what is being diminished. Therefore your declaration regarding all conservatives simply exposes your distaste for what they are conserving rather than the honesty that they are in fact trying to retain what used to be the standard. I’m not making a judgment, just an observation. I can call Swift awful, not because I just don’t like her, but because she is presenting a new standard that destroys what I want conserved.

[@sheeplenk]

@@Dr.Reason What is she destroying that you would like to be conserved? Not saying you don’t have an answer, I just want to know what it is, so I can consider it.

[@HaterSinceDay1]

Fresh Out The Slammer states, "At the park where we used to sit on childrens swings Wearing imaginary rings" clearly marriage was on her mind. But it was not reality. Because he didn't want it.

[@Jasminnnnnn-jt5vd]

And she also said in the song ttpd that “he took the ring off my middle finger and put it on the one people put wedding rings on” so I think he was leading her on

[@mono8476]

@@Jasminnnnnn-jt5vd apparently that track is about matt healy, not alwyn

[@VICTORIARAFAELLAMARIASILVADESO]

​@@mono8476 No it's about Joe

[@piratesfan123]

@@VICTORIARAFAELLAMARIASILVADESO It's definitely about Matty Healy, the song the tortured poets society is literally dripping in references to him

[@greatminds1017]

This whole album is about Healy, not Alwyn

[@queenseabee8113]

My husband was honest and told me from the beginning that he wasn't ready for marriage. Neither was I. But when a baby became part of our picture, I knew I wanted to be a mother, and he knew he wanted a family. Wrong order, I know, but we're still here and strong after 21 years.

[@Sami-k-shya]

Well good for u your life and Taylor life is very different. It isn't same, even when she writes so many songs but we don't know anything about what happened

[@vintageaddict4552]

this is exactly me and my husband only we are 10 years in lol 😊😊

[@PhiTheSimp]

@@Sami-k-shya you’re creating the connection here not her. She was more-so talking about what Brett was saying, not Taylor…

[@GREG_Khar-NÜ-Metalhead2000]

2003??

[@je__.]

❤❤❤

[@0000zz2]

the way she shaded EVERYONE EVEN THE SWIFTIES in this album

[@LinTV12]

HONESTLYY

[@elephant1871]

As a swiftie, I LOVED IT! The crazy swifties especially deserved it!

[@roseseatencandles8570]

Love that for her tbh like GET THEM

[@elephant1871]

The media, the swifties, Joe alwyn, Matty Healy, KIM KARDASHIAN! EVERYONE was called out!

[@IntrepidIanRinon]

Dropping bombshells and taking names.

[@becky0905]

I once had a guy friend tell me, “If the President has time to tweet, someone has a half hour to meet you for coffee or a drink.” When this one guy was giving me the run around. That always stuck with me! People make time for what they WANT to invest their time in.

[@Fearlessly91]

“If they really want to, they will” is the best advice I’ve ever gotten.

[@becky0905]

@@Fearlessly91 Oh absolutely!! And it’s soooo true!!! I’ll share one of my favorite coincidences with this exact dude that was leading me on. 😂 I was telling my parents what all was going on and my dad sent me a text later on that night saying, “One day some lucky guy will thank his lucky stars that he met you.” I thought it was so sweet but such a dad thing to say. Well, a couple months later, I met my now husband and about eight months into our relationship, he got me flowers and a card that said, “I thank my lucky stars for you.” on the front of it! 🥹

[@amany247]

May God (Allah) guide everyone astray. Whoever searches the books knows very well that the Trinity, divinity, and humanity are not present in them, and there is no mention of them or of Christ’s confession that he is God, God forbid. They are all interpretations of priests, as if God needs explanations for the basis of his divinity. In all religions there are differences, but the origin is clear with regard to God, except for Christianity. God. There are throughout history conflicts over his divinity and identity. Christ himself was calling on God and asking Him like any human being. God guided everyone to His unity and satisfaction Whoever searches for answers to doubts about Islam will find them, but most people want what their priests allow

[@JustMeeZZ]

I understand and agree with the sentiment, but realistically, the president has staff to handle his social media.

[@anti_fragile]

@@JustMeeZZ I don't think Trump did. though to be fair when it comes to presidents Trump was kind of a wild card

[@bryonmartin8463]

My wife and I met later in life and I told her upfront that my intent was to court with the intent to marry. Making intentions known upfront was a devotion to her and to myself, and made it easy for both of us to relax as we spent time together. I also made it clear that sex was for the marriage bed, and not until then. It was further proof that my intent was to honor and respect her, and consequently drove our passion for each other through the roof.

[@brianna_monique_williams]

Your wife is blessed to have you! How great you found each other.

[@Kylelongwest]

you're a rare breed

[@Smashingblouse]

What do you consider later in life?

[@autumnrein1203]

I just wanted to say thank you for being someone on daily wire that does not bully or shame Taylor for writing about her life, not being married yet, or having children. Candace really shamed her when she was on daily wire for no reason and now Ben jumped on the bandwagon. Thank you for actually caring about other women and not being the cause of Taylor having more bullying in her life.

[@simranchopra6479]

I'm am an Indian who has nothing to do with America.....but I just love seeing brett cooper breaking down things...then I tried to see other hosts and honestly they were very toxic (except Michael Knowles)

[@hhpmelanie]

“At dinner you took my ring off my middle finger and put it on the one people put wedding rings on and that’s the closest I’ve ever been to my heart exploding” She definitely made it clear what exactly happened…Very sad!

[@drownzi]

she deserves a happy marriage and babies!! agghhhh

[@Sandy-of6gq]

That seems almost cruel and torturing ... what the heck

[@charlottelove6351]

icl im so lost

[@a.3761]

Please explain if you don't mind

[@WhitenwildFlower]

@@a.3761 basically he was dropping hints about marriage and that's why she stayed for so long because that's what she wanted. but he never actually did anything and was wasting her time.

[@jowiens32]

I met my husband at 19, married at 21, and this year will be 34 years. I’m so happy I’m not dating in today’s world. My sister introduced us and we were together from that day forward. Simple and sweet.

[@Pikawarps]

I’m 29, was engaged from age 18-25 and i feel cheated because she lied and said she wanted kids and marriage, she never wanted those.

[@hollyloomer7667]

Congratulations! Honestly, that is commendable.

[@maxinefreeman8858]

​@@Pikawarps..No engagement should go that long.

[@Laurens_World6]

how sweet!❤❤

[@olaoluwaolaogun8828]

how do you marry at 19 tho genuinely

[@Jonathan_Collins]

The fact that taylor is probably WELL into the making of TS12 haunts me at night.

[@robbyten100]

The fact you care and think so much about a singer or band you dont like is truly pathetic.

[@DavidZ4-gg3dm]

If that's your biggest worry, you must have a great life!

[@ryleeeeeee]

@@robbyten100it’s not that deep

[@thatguy720]

Mate she’s already planning TS13 that one is gonna be crazy since 13 is her lucky number 😂

[@ellagallagher9877]

Haunting in a good way or bad way?

[@rhh3828]

As a guy I can say that if a guy says that they are “unsure about getting married” before or during the relationship, they aren’t that into you/marriage. Don’t waste your time

[@Blania.6610]

Time is absolutely priceless. The lyrics are really good. But she also was in a lot of relationships, she lost a lot of time. Hopefully she will accomplish her dreams with Travis.

[@peterpanagopoulos6698]

Her and “a lot” relationships is kind of misleading. Yea she went out with a bunch of people, but if you follow the timeline of each and what she was doing (recording/touring/hosting) she spent very little time with most of them. Joe was the only “real” relationship she had. And he was never committed to it other than the “free milk and a cow” analogy!!

[@tiffanyg6298]

She really has not been in that many relationships. She dated like a normal teen and girl in her 20’s.

[@npats550]

@peterpanagopoulos6698 And you know this for sure how exactly? Do you know them personally? Did they speak to you about the issue? Is it obvious that she wanted that at 30? Or you just going by lyrics. Unless y'all have forgotten, "Champagne problems", on Evermore? About a guy proposing and the WOMAN, said no. Or "The only kind of girl they see, is a one night or a wife...damned if I don't give a damn what people say...no deal, that 1950's sh!t they want from me..."? Or "I broke his heart cos he was nice...he wanted comfortable I wanted that pain, he wanted a bride, I was making my own name, chasing that fame". You can find lyrics for and against the singer/songwriters intented. But we don't know what conversations are happening behind closed doors. And they are not obliged to let us know. Although she also said that the songs are very hyperbolic. Perhaps she means the marriage symbolism and references. Point is, we have one side of a story, by an unreliable author that everyone suddenly believes is about [___insert subject ___]. So it seems strange to me that people believe that every thing she does and says is 💯 true. Is she talented- extremely. Is she rich? Yes she's a billionaire. Has she herself said that she wanted to marry Joe specifically? Is she working with the Eras Tour, re recording, dating an NFL player, and still have time to collect a ton of awards, and drop a double album that will keep things go along nicely. Who knows. Or cares in the grand scheme of major current events.

[@MichaelCooney-zh8je]

If after like 5 years you are wondering if they are the one. They aren't the one.

[@72586jejones]

I would argue six months, and even that is a stretch. You can determine someone's character very quickly. If you need 5 years, you are just stupid and in denial.

[@dacripe]

You don't even need one year. I proposed at 6 months but knew at 3 months. If anyone needs more than a year, then they are not ready to get married regardless of what they say. You either love the person quickly or not. Oh sure, there are people who dated forever and got married eventually that worked out in the end. But that is rare.

[@Gamespectives]

After a year is already enough

[@Gamespectives]

​@72586jejones in experience, I feel that if you're not seeing each other everyday, haven't met their friends or family: 6 months is not enough. To know who they really are.

[@thatelmoguy1911]

My uncle married my aunt after being with her for 30 years. You don’t choose how people pick the one

[@Lauren_3000]

Honestly as much as a lot of conservatives beat up on Taylor for focusing on immature relationships rather than marriage and children, and blaming men for her bad decisions, this whole album (+ the anthology) really goes against that. It's incredibly self-critical, continuously talking about her desire to be a wife and mother, her regrets about past relationships, including being a forever girlfriend and getting caught up with flings, and really puts the blame on herself. She's probably the most influential celebrity for young women and girls, and I think her making a whole album dedicated to her sadness about where her decisions have left her is actually a great message and warning. I was a little disappointed that Ben ripped this album just because he thought the title is pretentious, without acknowledging that the subject matter is actually culturally beneficial, much more than most female popstars, like Ariana Grande who just released an album about how getting a divorce was a great thing.

[@Jorge..Waio.]

Bahahaha her albums trash

[@rimmka29]

Can't take ben seriously at all. He contradicts himself and finally exposed himself with the whole Candace Owen situation

[@dnastrand9922]

Ben is a trash ​@@rimmka29

[@britt9355]

Ben is so full of hot air that it we can hear it in his voice.

[@whitneysanders6996]

As someone who liked taylor in her youth and am not that much older. I have to say it is sort of weird because i grew up got married had kids and she just isnt really relatable to many of her original fans in my opinion. And honestly i think the worst part isnt immature songs as a christian it is how anti christian her music has become.

[@Diannabelitskay]

I love how Brett is talking to us like we’re her friends

[@Peaceful_Zen_Life]

I want a girlfriend like her!

[@williambenner701]

In a way we are.

[@meep7979]

@@williambenner701no what you have is a parasocial relationship

[@simplicityd8703]

​@meep7979 we do pay her paycheck tho 👀

[@littleblizzard7591]

@@meep7979I think it’s a parasocial relationship both ways. Brett speaks to us viewers like an individual when we’re actually a collective because she can’t physically see us and doesn’t know us. She knows us as statistics and comments. It’s probably cool and overwhelming to do live in-person speaking events. “Oh crap that’s actually a lot of people”

[@hp.the.tigerpop1816]

"Even statues crumble if they are forced to wait" - The Prophecy "Talking rings and talking cradles/ I wish I could unrecall/ How much we almost had it all.” - loml Its just so heart breaking to hear all of these lyrics :,(

[@oliviasmith5888]

Loml is just devastating.

[@BB-ed4om]

Omg it’s so not relevant to the lives of regular people. This is called Swiftie manipulation, making her fans feel pity for her is her oldest trick. She’s a billionaire and could have one baby every 9 months from any guy she wanted and more proposals than she could handle. But the guys she wants, men with money and fame and talent and resources, they run far far away and always have. Because they see through the manipulation. Total narcissist.

[@priiifrg]

​@@BB-ed4omyou're projecting.

[@laattardo]

​@@priiifrgnot really. Go listen to the lyrics of Fortnight. She speaks of having an affair with a married man and wanting to take out the wife. On the same album she lamates about a wasted 6 year relationship on. Taylor is shallow imo. She has riled her base up and then tore them down if they don't agree with her. When you're that outspoken and a celebrity, expect the commentary, it's part of the "fame package"

[@charzard1000]

@@BB-ed4om you acting like just cause she has money means she doesn't have the same basic human desires of every other human to ever exist is wild. So many people could have a kid with whoever they wanted but it doesn't mean they do like wtf??

[@alesaccount92]

The theme through the whole album is “I was ready to marry you, you entertained the idea and made me believe you wanted it too but at the end you didn’t.” The lines “You swore that you loved, me but where were the clues? I died on the altar waiting for the proof. I’m pissed off you let me give you all that youth for free.” Clearly state that. It’s heartbreaking. I hope things do work out with Travis.

[@EphesianRose]

I think they will. I’m not a Swiftie but admire Travis and Taylor as a couple.

[@ProdriveGT]

I dont think people should lookup to "celebrities" at this point. Truth is clearer than ever, dont get distracted no more,time is almost up

[@surlespasdondine]

Well they are just normal people. Neither look up at nor down at them.

[@babyboyivy7464]

LOL IT'S NOT THAT SERIOUS

[@elisabethbennet2095]

It is not that serious: it’s just life experiences talked in songs. You can enjoy them freely without looking at celebrities as Gods.

[@gayezilla]

​@@elisabethbennet2095 Thank you ive been saying this to many people like its so simple😂

[@chrissyscholl816]

It's normal to look up to people who are successful. I mean whether it's your parents, grandparents, siblings, friends, etc. Celebs are people too. It's ok to look up to them. But to worship them or act like they're anything more than flawed humans, sure, don't do that. But it's ok to look up to celebs.

[@Nat-gf3ll]

Shout out to Taylor’s lyrics in “But Daddy I Love Him” where she sings “I’m having his baby / no I’m not, but you should look at your faces”

[@LongStoryShortItHitsDifferent]

I just about screamed hearing that the first time. It was such an eye opening lyric

[@camilledammasch3648]

I cackled, a witchy cackle... so unhinged 😂😂

[@alishameyer3868]

Explain?

[@greygorygaming]

I'm confused. Elaborate please

[@lydiapiano24]

​@@greygorygaming me too🤔

[@LadyAKA]

Some more lyrics of her being stringed along is "you talked of rings, and cradles" She is tellling us not to make the same mistakes, she thought the love was "golden" but it was false gold that tarnished "maroon" and ended up a "sepia hue". Tragic.

[@meriricci684]

She wrote also this: "at dinner you take my ring off my middle finger and put it on the one people put wedding rings on And it’s the closest I’ve come to my heart exploding”. Heartbreaking album 😢

[@landongmcallister]

brett cooper acknowledging taylor’s pen game is my favorite thing ever

[@rooo358]

Brett’s little scream when she spilled her coffee 😂😂

[@EvanLauOfficial]

Unplanned humor, always appreciated

[@Itsdasummer32]

Lol 😂

[@Howaboutyes11]

FRR lmfao

[@natha9412]

The funniest thing I saw today

[@annabanana4046]

Wait what part did she spill her coffee?

[@MargieM10]

My husband said he knew two months in he wanted to marry me. He had to drag me there a little but thirty years of marriage and eight kids later I'm pretty glad he did.

[@Pikawarps]

I wish i could have this life. I’m 29 and there are no good women left.

[@technom3598]

8 kids????

[@MargieM10]

@@Pikawarps Don't give up.

[@MargieM10]

@@technom3598 Yes, eight. Grandbabies too.

[@ashlynnstegall8237]

Awwww how sweet. I’m a 28 year old female and never dated. Waiting for God to give me the signal for Mr. Right. 🙏

[@oh_k1w1vods]

In this episode I learned that Brett’s mug actually does have something in it, I was somehow never quite sure

[@rashmimathur5318]

I heard someone say when someone says no it means no and if they say i dont know it also means no.. if he was not sure, she shud have stepped back. My heart breaks for her. But am also glad now she knows better and has healed and has someone who shows her effort

[@YoStabbaStabba]

The Queen of the ad transition. NO ONE does it better.

[@uchihaman1478]

I think we also need to speak about the other end as well. I was in a situationship with a woman who wouldn't commit because of her work. I waited and was wanting to marry her, but she she told me she wouldn't say yes because her career was going to take her on the road anyday, to which she never has. She just continued dating me, and I held out hope that maybe she would have said yes, but after two years I finally said a prayer and felt like it was time to move on. I wept over the time I wasted on someone who I had hoped would be the mother of my children, and through that pain and sorrow I was able to move on. A month after I cut off that relationship I found my wife. We dated and got married. We couldn't be happier. You all deserve someone who values you, your time and holds your same values, and know that if you are scared of the pain, it will be worth it for the happiness you are striving for.

[@Belmont1714]

What happened to the other person? Did she achieve her dreams?

[@mfsweatshirt6237]

My relationship is rough right now What did you pray for

[@uchihaman1478]

@Belmont1714 No, she didn't. It has been sad that she has been putting her life on hold for 5 years now. I do hope she will either realise her dream soon or find a new one.

[@uchihaman1478]

@mfsweatshirt6237 I prayed to know if she was the one I would marry or if I should move on. I felt like I should ask her one more time, and she said no, but wanted to continue dating. I felt like I was sucker punched in the gut and knew that it was time to move on.

[@CrazyGamerDragon64]

I don't usually like Taylor Swift's material but this song really sounds relatable, I just want to say women aren't the only ones who experience this, there are good men out there who want to move forward in a relationship (such as marriage) but it's the woman who doesn't know what she wants, I know because this happened to me

[@entropy3615]

I don't know both sides but I hope you find your person 🌻

[@Csr2317]

Its so sad for anyone, but I do have to say that in this case, at least you don't have a small window of opportunity to have healthy children. Women are so pressed for time that it's absolutely anxiety inducing in your thirties

[@etherspin]

She is on the last leg and should only (at this stage) be courting men who want marriage and kids and soon (if she wants that)

[@brianthesnail3815]

Yes, I did when I met my wife. She though didn't like me at all. Then two years later demanded to know why I hadn't yet made a move on her. Well my dear, being plainly disliked and ignored for two years does that to a man. Gaaaaargh..... women!!!! 🤨

[@lunasonata3645]

Agreed! She’s actually wrote a song about a man wanting to get married but the girl didn’t. It’s champagne problems.

[@garymcgowan4057]

I knew the moment I saw her I would marry her. That we would be together for the rest of our lives. But I also that neither of us was ready. And so I waited for years for her to become ready and then physically come back to our town. In that time I worked and prepared myself. When she did, I immediately asked her out and we laid out our plan to be married. Before we had ever told each other I love you or even kissed. Got married a year or so later, and Another 11 years and 4 children later and couldn't be happier.

[@KarlieStarrSings]

As a Taylor swift fan, I'm pleasantly surprised at the fact you actually listened to one of the songs and gave a thoughtful analysis without straight up bullying her like some of her other critics. Props to you on that 👌

[@tlohry570]

Your never ready. People need to understand that. Youll never have kids or get married if it depends on certain benchmarks. Find someone wonderful jump in and grow up together and watch love blossom.

[@exo8935]

I really think it has a deeper meaning to it that we are all missing. I have been listetning to it on repeat for the last couple hours and i still havent found it. Give me 10 more minutes and i will cook

[@danishson97]

Did you cook, lol.

[@danishson97]

Are you busted?

[@NikkiV.]

Have you marinated enough?

[@FolderName92]

8hrs now, grilled enough yet?😅

[@donkichonky]

😅😅😅

[@alisariley7730]

I have wondered about her knocking her cup of coffee. Every video, and thought maybe she’s just more careful than I am. Thank you for leaving it in.

[@r.l.bookreviews]

My husband and I were honest up front with each other before even dating. We both know our “end goal” was to get married and we did. In our own time. We married in our early twenties and have been happier as ever.

[@missalese]

My ex lied to me… said he wanted marriage…then kept saying not ready but soon… need a better job, want to pay some debt etc, finally towards the end of our relationship he was like “it doesn’t benefit men to get married this day in age”…then I said bye but he said wait I’m just saying that for men but I’m a maybe… for the last year together I admit it was my fault to stay that year when he said maybe at that point, but the rest of years….wasted and was lead on BIG time. My fault for trusting…. My five years, my 20’s gone. I hope it’s not too late for me. Any younger women reading this, please please don’t wait too long if marriage and kids is what you want… sometimes you have to let go even if you don’t want to. 😢

[@katemaloney4296]

Wprd of warning to women (and men, too): If the person you're daring has reservations about marriage and commitment, dont shack up and play house thinking you're going to sow the seeds to change their mind. All you are doing is getting them comfortable so they wont ever want more. Without a ring, you are the live-in maid/cook/landscaper/fixer-upper who warms the sheets at night. If you ask your partner to marry you and they say, "Why would we want to ruin what we've got with a piece of paper?" RUN! To borrow a Gibbs Rule: Don't waste good.

[@tiannad1378]

💯

[@Langley_Ackerman19]

Agree 100%. Why would they buy the cow, when the milk is free?

[@meleebrawler6462]

Wouldn’t it be really funny if Taylor marries her current bf and then it causes a sudden uptick in marriages across the country?

[@TheKatarinaGiselle]

Idk...I can see her views on politics influencing people...but _marraiges?_ I don't know about Taylor getting married influencing anybody with marraige 😂 I just find that to be unrealistic.

[@MA-yc7pz]

You think they will get married?

[@Rev3rseAuto]

I actually think what’s going to happen is going to be a lot darker. Men choose when to marry. Females are ether going to ether PUSH marriages or break up QUICKLY after they notice things aren’t going anywhere. But you are correct. She does have a big push in the world.

[@DavidZ4-gg3dm]

Which celebs have ever caused an untick in marriages?

[@DavidZ4-gg3dm]

@@Rev3rseAuto Marriage has been out of fashion for half a century. She's not going to revive it.

[@monicaolmos4889]

I also spent 6 years with someone who never loved, respected, appreciated, valued, and maybe wasn't loyal to me. I do regret it, but thankfully I found my mate doing all the things my ex-partner never did, and guest what my current boyfriend does makes me feel like a woman! TAKE THAT!

[@HelloBombshell21]

ME TOO!!!! During the same years as Taylor!!! Time wasted! Youth and fertility wasted!! Should be illegal

[@1SarahEliza]

Same except two 7 year relationships…talk about deep regret.

[@HelloBombshell21]

@@1SarahEliza They need to serve time. It’s so wrong.

[@angiechristinefitness]

Also to be fair we lost 2-3years to the covid 19… our lives seemingly stopped but time didn’t. People coasted trying to survive the world including in relationships

[@RandoMuser-h1o]

excellent point.

[@spilledsalt]

I do feel bad for her because it must be humiliating to write a whole album begging her boyfriend to marry her and then 6 years later he still doesn’t want to lock it down.

[@OneInAMillion31]

Got married at 18, so many people tried to tell us we were too young. College educated men said "most people I know don't get married until 35...18 is just too young..." Sir, we've been together 16years, married almost 14. Have 2 beautiful babies, living in Europe for the next few years. My life is beautiful and at the top of my gratitude list is my family ❤

[@ASMRthouse]

Lol he is for sure cheating on you and you are too deep in your Christian all is great bubble that you dont want to see it. Being married for 14 years means nothing. Your marriage is meaningless. That happens when naive ditzy woman like you marry to early

[@antoniobanderas7810]

No one cares. The majority of relationships are not like this and end up in divorce. The exception is not the rule.

[@OneInAMillion31]

@antoniobanderas7810 okay you cared enough to leave a comment though and read my post so 😉

[@antoniobanderas7810]

@OneInAMillion31 the narcissism is high in this one. It's all good. Getting married young is never a good idea. Most likely, one of you is checked out already or outgrew the other one. It's natural. But it's okay. Stay together for the kids. We all know how that ends up. 😵‍💫😎

[@OneInAMillion31]

@antoniobanderas7810 says the person trying to tell me something about my life which you know less than .0000003% of from one comment I hope you heal from whatever it is that hurt you. And have a blessed day 🙏

[@Rose-oq2zc]

We can all agree though that “ I look in people’s windows” sounds so good

[@Jorge..Waio.]

Chile chile chile no

[@AlltooTaylor-lj2ky]

One line that was in a different song on TTPD that Brett didn’t talk about was in loml she says something along the lines of “you shit-talked me under tables, talking rings and talking cradles” which is so sad especially since it talks about kids and that false hope that Joe gave her. And in peace (2020) she says “give you my while give you a child.. give you the silence that only comes when two people understand each other” which again quite sad

[@Rose-oq2zc]

@@Jorge..Waio. why what do you like better?

[@Vizible21]

​@@Rose-oq2zcall of them literally sound the same.

[@urfavzofia]

FRR

[@am3thysts]

My boyfriend and I made sure fairly early on that we were on the same page about important things. Waited some time to get a little older and more established, and now we are engaged! I’m so excited for our future ☺️

[@jamiecone9151]

Wish you guys the best !

[@betsysanders4524]

Congratulations!

[@Selahkelly]

I immediately thought of brett when I heard that line, "gave you all that youth for free" 😂😂😂

[@Mamasparky86]

I met my husband in May 2012, I was 26. After 3 months of dating, he told me that he didn’t want to get married or have kids. Seeing how his family dynamic was, I don’t blame the guy; lots of divorces and kids in the family with no discipline. I was on the fence, but everything just felt so right with him, I loved him and he was my first boyfriend. I told him I would agree to the terms and we could stay a couple as long as we were faithful to each other; he agreed. Then in December 2014 he asked me to marry him. In the 2 years we were together, I had unintentionally convinced him that he wanted to have me as his wife and have kids too. I never tried to change his mind, and he just suddenly dropped down with a bridal set ring set, and said he wanted marriage and kids. In July 2016 we were married. Now in 2024 we have three kids under three and been married 7.5 years. Still very happy and in love

[@juliaraem]

I’ve grown up liberal my whole life, and I’ve always disliked Ben Shapiro and all those other super right wings, but I’ve never been able to dislike Brett, and this video sums up why. Ben just totally trashed the whole album, and even though Brett may not be a Swiftie, she can appreciate good lyrics and songs and singer. She doesn’t hate Taylor just because she has liberal tendency’s, she just connect Taylor to the videos she makes, and she is more open minded. Keep it up Brett.

[@juliaraem]

@Daisy-le9tr Exactly! She doesn’t just hate everything that has a basis in liberal beliefs!

[@kassadystrickland]

I’m not sure if anyone else saw this but in the song the tortured poets department a lyric is “you told Lucy you’d k!ll yourself if I ever leave” so she also probably felt trapped

[@kristinazubic9669]

was it Joe or Matty who told Lucy that?

[@kassadystrickland]

@@kristinazubic9669I think Joe based off what that song is abt

[@melyorlido4986]

The song is about Matty Healy.

[@nmariekuu]

The assumption is that Matty told this to Taylor

[@kassadystrickland]

@@melyorlido4986 why is it about Matty? I thought it was abt Joe bc if that part where talks abt the ring

[@kamakazecam]

Do you know why the universe didn’t allow our pets to speak? To teach us that love and loyalty come through actions and not words.

[@MiaJiyar_XOXO]

Finally Brett talks Taylor Swift’s new album!!

[@Jorge..Waio.]

Yeah it’s terrible your honour❤

[@ElusivG]

@@Jorge..Waio.what?

[@LoveandMisses]

Gag

[@MaddieMeade]

@@Jorge..Waio.then why are you watching

[@ReganO.]

I knew as soon as I listened to the album that she was going to talk about this lol

[@crotalus6662]

I recently got out of being a forever girlfriend and when I first heard So Long, London I cried. The song captures that feeling perfectly.

[@Lunalix]

So true! My man wanted me as soon as he saw me, he said that the more he got to know me, he wanted me more and more…we got married after three months of knowing each other..that was six years ago. 😊❤

[@alexisbeach5452]

Thank you Brett!!!! I am a conservative and a Swifty and I just know the haters are gonna rip her but this is actually her most conservative album yet! She is making it very clear she wants marriage and babies and the whole album is her admitting how delusional and crazy she was in previous relationships.

[@Rootedhoney_mama]

Wanting marriage and children doesn’t make her conservative…..

[@alexisbeach5452]

@@Rootedhoney_mama never said she was conservative lol it is her “most conservative” in the ideals and values presented in this album. She’s obviously a default liberal

[@aaronpatterson2369]

Being an adult and callin yourself a "SWIFTY" is the most childish thing a person can do. Yall "SWIFTY's" are annoying. Grow up and act like an adult. - fed up Chiefs fan.

[@alexisbeach5452]

@@aaronpatterson2369 sorry I forgot that as a conservative I can only listen to music artists that agree with my politics and worldview. Oh wait no that’s the left that does that. Just let people enjoy things. Look up the statics of Ts fans. The largest majority of her fans are millenials. It’s nostalgic. Most are women. If they enjoy someone’s music but disagree with them politically it’s ok. On the right we have the cognitive ability to separate the 2.

[@ThePenguinBro]

@@alexisbeach5452 Preach it, I dislike her politics but my fiance and I can still enojoy her music

[@Pikawarps]

I’m a dude, recently convinced to listen to Swift’s evermore and folklore albums because they were ‘likely more my speed’ according to a swiftie friend and she was right, i actually enjoyed them

[@ev_green_]

They have a creepy vibe

[@Userwtv]

@@ev_green_how😭

[@s.a.6082]

They are so good

[@danika437]

@@ev_green_lmao how are they creepy

[@Pikawarps]

I took EV_Green’s comment to mean like, darker vibes. Not like 60 y/old dude hitting on 18 year olds, creepy

[@Diannabelitskay]

I still can’t unsee jojo dancing like an angry Chihuahua❤

[@anna-mariageorgiades3628]

Dorothy on the Golden Girls said to her Stan 'I gave you the best years of my thighs'.

[@BrielleMarie]

I spent almost the first year of our relationship being long distance. We met right before Christmas of 2018, on our 1 year anniversary of being together he got me a promise ring saying he will always choose me and only me. I sortve always hinted I wanted a ring, but he mentioned he wanted to get a house. He proposed at the place we met in November 2021. We planned our wedding for almost 2 years and got married November 2023. Been together little over 5 years now. He knew how much I wanted to have my dream wedding and we made it happen. We still haven’t bought a house yet mainly due to the market and our financial situation, but we couldn’t me more happy. I also have 2 step kids and it feels amazing sharing the same name as them and my husband. I hope every girl finds a man that will cherish and love them like they deserve.

[@lellyt2372]

I met my husband at 27 (had one LT relationship at 17 until 22 and didn't date anyone again until my husband) and by 35 we were married with a house and two children and if we hadn't gone through the 2008 global financial crisis we would have been married long before that (bought our house at exactly the wrong time lol). We were both honest and upfront from the get-go and knew what we wanted and that we wanted it from each other. This is essential and it is very wrong for one or the other in the relationship to hide that they do not want that while also knowing the other one wants that and thinks you do to. We've been married for 14 years this month and together for 20 years this year

[@michelleduncombe9675]

At the age of 30 I had been living with my boyfriend for 3 years. I gave him an ultimatum. He had 2 weeks to decide if he wanted to marrying me soon and have kids, or I was going to have to split because it was going to be harder to find someone else the older I got. Straight away he said he loved me and didn’t want to lose me. I have now been married for 24 years and have two amazing adult kids and my husband and I still love each other as much as we did then. It is a different love, because we have had to weather some storms along the way, but he is still my best friend, my confidante, and my rock, and we will be together until one of us dies. The way to get through life with one partner is to marry a friend and person that you just love to be around, then never try and change them, and just love and support them through all of life’s challenges.

[@saltycat662]

Only God should be your rock, not a man. Idk but your story brings up some red flags. I've seen women give a man who is dragging his feet an ultimatum and I think if you had to go that far, he's just keeping you for convenience. If he loved you as you claim, he would have done it on his own. He wouldn't have needed you to threaten him to do it. The length of a marriage means nothing, it's the quality. I know plenty of dysfunctional couples who have been together 20-30+ years while there's manipulation and cheating behind closed doors. No offense but you sound a little codependent and that's not a good thing.

[@michelleduncombe9675]

No you have this all wrong. Not everyone believes in marriage. He would have just been happy living together, but he just didn’t know if he wanted children. He has been a beautiful honest loving partner to me all these years. No dysfunction at all. I am an atheist so it has nothing to do with God for me. I am surprised you got such a negative thing out of my love story that I shared. I guess that teaches me to not get involved in the comments section.

[@BlueDauntless]

@@michelleduncombe9675You missed the point. You forced his hand in marriage because you wanted it, not because he also wanted it.

[@XMissGX]

@@michelleduncombe9675 You sound really desperate lady.

[@haliefaith35]

How did Taylor Swift write so much so fast? Because it is REALLY easy to write music when you are heartbroken, as a music writer myself. I am very happy to have found my fiancé and I know this will last until death does us part. But if I had not or if he had broken up with me before he proposed I could have easily made a career as a songwriter.

[@glorypi27]

I have a cousin who has been dating her boyfriend for TEN years.....they still split everything and she still pays for her own stuff. She is almost nowhere to be found on his social media and most of the time she's the one posting or talking about him. Her mother is concerned, her extended family is concerned, yet she refuses to see the red flags.

[@katiecreager492]

Brett you forget that people think you have to be together for years before marriage. My husband and i got married after two months of dating. We had known each other since i was 14, so when it felt right, we went with it. We wanted go build a family together to mirror the family we both wanted but never had. A loving family. 17 yrs later, 3 kids, and i think we did it.

[@nr7701]

Marriages after just two months don't usually work out, yours is a different case because you knew each other (for years) before dating. I won't argue against "When you know, you know", but from if someone is getting married before the sixth month mark from meeting someone, then that usually means someone's rushing for the wrong reason(s).

[@NY_CountryGal]

​@@nr7701 definitely, the 2 months for them isn't that bad when you look at the big picture. If I married my boyfriend...a complete stranger (we met on a dating app) after 2 months people would say that's insane.

[@nogames8982]

There’s never a perfect time to get married. Never a perfect time to have kids. People want to get this done or get that done or achieve this or achieve that before they do either one of those things. Change your mindset. Get married, if you want to, of course, and think of it as a partnership, will, you will both work towards goals. Not achieve a goal, and then get married. That’s how it used to be. And it worked out pretty well. Yeah there’s still issues but change the mindset a little bit. Work as a team. It’s always great to have somebody there where they can support each other.

[@thatmichigangirl90]

Yes! And you will become a better person in the process. Marriage helps you grow.

[@charlottemckinley8041]

Finally Brett talks Taylor Swift’s new album!!!

[@marsis_cool]

Wym finally it came out yesterday

[@arwenstrong2818]

I think she misunderstood Taylor saying, "You LET ME give you so much youth for free." To me, it's a self-aware lyric. She knows full well how dumb that was. She's really mad at herself. This from someone who doesn't really listen to pop or like Taylor.

[@grosbeak6130]

​@@arwenstrong2818and?

[@grosbeak6130]

Calm down guy 😆

[@MrsRight1122]

Finally??? 😂😂

[@ToastyNova]

As a white liberal guy in his mid 20’s, I’m a total Swiftie. I don’t watch all of your videos as we disagree on politics, but I do watch all your apolitical videos and I trust your judgement and morals regardless of politics! ❤

[@rachel..michelle]

I totally agree with everything said. I wished you had also talked about the lyrics in “loml” because it backs up what you were saying. Some of lyrics include, “talking rings and talking cradles, I wish I could I unrecall how we almost had it all”, and “oh what a valiant roar, what a bland goodbye, the coward claimed was a lion, I’m combing through the braids of lies, I’ll never leave never mind, our field of dreams engulfed in fire your arson’s match your somber eyes, and I’ll still see it until I die, you’re the loss of my life.” The part where she said talking rings, is her referencing marriage as well as her calling Joe a coward for not committing and saying she would never leave and never mind really paints a picture of the permanent girlfriend situation and the way she portrayed it made my heart break for her.

[@kaylaanderson9102]

As someone who is Taylor’s age and used to be a fan of hers back when I was in my 20s and single (when she was actually somewhat relevant to me, before I grew up and she just stayed juvenile), I don’t feel the same “oh how awful for her” feelings that the Swifties on here do. To quote one of my favorite chick flicks from my awhile back, “No one is going to want to buy the whole ice cream truck when you’re giving out the popsicles for free.”

[@ElusivG]

I don’t think she gets sleep. I’m pretty sure she has adapted to always be awake

[@Daggss-ej8jr]

Not me coming to comment to tell Brett to do a video on So Long London about this topic……. lol, love ya Brett!! I find you inspiring! And makes me feel better I’m not the only one who believes this stuff!

[@b80011]

People seem to be afraid of marriage for some reason, getting married was something I dreamed about as a kid, I mean meeting a girl, becoming best friends, falling in love, so always seemed so appealing. I don't get the fear of it, crazy how much things changed in just 10-15 years

[@crystalsnow1138]

Maybe it's not necessarily the fear of marriage, it's the fear of divorce.

[@b80011]

@@crystalsnow1138 yeah that’s probably true. Sad though.

[@monaural2.988]

People have too much and too high expectations of marriage. They all want what the movies, tv shows, books and music have described. And it’s simply not that way.

[@thelourensfamily8048]

My husband also had the same dream ❤

[@Sandy-of6gq]

I agree. People are scared of marriage but are not scared of having sex and highly likely bringing in a new innocent life into a vague uncommitted relationship. That's actually pretty immature, selfish and cruel for the kids.

[@ReaP1886]

This is a great review compared to Ben Shapiro’s.

[@EvelynGarcia-yk9pg]

When I met my husband, we dated for a year and he already knew he wanted to marry me since then… I had set the terms that if we do get married, that at least one of us has to be graduated with our degrees before getting hitched. He agreed and that’s what we did. The person who wants to be married to you will always tell you from the jump and not wait. ❤

[@Kringlord97]

Honestly I’m not the biggest Taylor Swift fan but I’ve been enjoying the album

[@bookdragon4622]

If you like this album I definitly recommend folklore. It sounds very similar and is a lyrical album.

[@Jorge..Waio.]

Lmao this just means your taste is terrible

[@bookdragon4622]

@@Jorge..Waio. You win more people with honey than vinegar, and insults are definetlly vinegar.

[@liabright1245]

@@Jorge..Waio.Don’t project that your insecure and don’t like real music

[@lynninfinite]

Glad you enjoy it! Don’t let anyone dull your joy.

[@sarahchoo1]

IT has to be mutual 100%. Me and my fiance were in 13y relationship not wanting to get married at all! But now when we both over 30 it seemed Like it would be beautiful and secure for our future children but also - us! And we decided to get Married this year. We are having a small party with only our closest family and friends 🎉 im so happy we got to spent our whole life together ❤

[@user-soon300]

i love the way that you criticise her it's really respectful😂❤

[@CarrieJohnson-yr4bu]

Taylor actually acknowledged in her post and poem that after review, she realized a lot of her wounds from the last 6 years were self-inflicted😔

[@leahc8119]

She also own this new album writes about a 10 year Situationship in which she was ultimately hurt, showing that she is now ready to move on and stay with someone who genuinely cares.

[@BadgerandCoon]

Begged my then gf (now wife) for a kid. She made it clear she wouldnt give birth unless she was married. I was massive idiot, hurt her, family hated her ; 11 years later im so grateful i married one hell of a fighter and strong woman. Will always feel like crap for hurting her in our earlier years, will always be grateful she held a mirror up an showed me how to be a real man who protects whats his and what he made. A real woman takes no nonsense and knows what she wants. A real man keeps what's his and proudly shows the world, he doesn't hide behind a simp status.

[@roses_are_rosie4684]

You are so self aware for this

[@Black-Rose12]

She deserved better than you…. Ney deserves better than you

[@NewYearOldMe]

She said she carried the relationship on her back in the lyrics, if that's true he probably wanted to break up but she always found a way to bring him back. Men and women, if your partners want space or they want to leave, let them. Stop acting out of fear of being alone.

[@Grace-to6hn]

Would explain her lyrics in cardigan where she says "and I knew you'll come back to me". He's left before

[@KarinAllison]

The sad and ugly, hard truth is, many of us women are just so stupid. We make all kinds of excuses FOR HIM. We're GREAT at putting our own hopes and dreams on the back-burner (lest we're a "nag"). It's messed up. The truth is, he would if he wanted to. And once we have proof he just doesn't want to, we still don't cut our losses. For whatever reason. That's on us.

[@davidbobowski3604]

Usually artists have about 20-30 or more songs ready for an album and cut like half of them. She just didn't cut as many, which is how she gets so many songs out.

[@emmarose6590]

She’s always cute tons of songs. When she redid all her records she included some cuts on the them. I’m sure there’s many’s more we aren’t hearing

[@niallk9336]

Imagine being Travis Kelce, and she's still singing about the ex before you. Girl refusing to move on by living in the past. Know she did it to the last guy too. Every time.

[@TheBaumcm]

A simple question you ask if you’re more than a year in:where do you see yourself in 5 years? If they don’t say with you, they’re not all in.

[@Autumn567]

I think that Taylor’s “youth” meant the time she could have gotten out and have fun but Joe was so private and wanted to stay in all the time. She felt like her best years had gone to waste. Not about childbearing

[@hcdemoman]

I just want to point out that one of the main reasons why some men aren't sure about marriage is because it is literally stacked against our odds. Statistics point to women initiating majority of the divorces and men getting screwed the most in divorce. Some men have drowned so deep in debt that they kill themselves. And as for prenups, it SHOULD protect individual parties, but a judge can over rule the prenup.

[@gautamimeherkar]

Also, When she had started dating Joe, After a year or 2, in her lover album, she literally has a song called paper rings that says: I like shiny things but I'd marry you with paper rings, You're the one I want. When a woman is literally writing a song about how she wants to marry you, and you still dont tell her that you dont wanna marry and drag it for more 4-5 years, its on you.

[@rhythmsteve]

What’s the common denominator….Taylor Swift, a person who never had a childhood and will forever be stuck at 15 mentally, despite her success. I give her 5 years before she has a Ferris wheel and bumper cars in her front yard.

[@RandoMuser-h1o]

you know she actually addresses this in her lyrics, so you're not as insightful as you suspect. She knows this, she knows her life isn't normal. she said at 30 she didn't feel grown up enough to become a mother.

[@josslyn_shayne]

YUHHHHHH and they Taylor’s voice trembled when she said the youth line too

[@emblem647]

I was wondering when she was gonna hit her cup!! It's been something that I've wondered if they had to edit out a few times😂😂

[@kleefairy]

I don't think it's wise to immediately bash Joe Alwyn because of this song though. We don't really know what happened and Swift's just showing us a one-sided perspective since Alwyn doesn't really talk about the relationship.

[@annastarss]

I normally don't like Taylor Swift songs, but that song hit me hard. I just got out of a 17-month-relationship (which at my age is long enough to know if you want to marry someone), and I stayed longer than I wanted to because I thought that eventually he would propose to me (he was the one to end it and I'm glad that he did because I don't think he would've ever proposed to me). Anyways, the line of Taylor's song where she said that she was waiting at the altar for him...I felt that deeply. My ex would say that he wanted marriage and kids with me, so I would tell him that I was ready to take that next step with him. I was essentially "waiting at the altar" for him while he pulled me along, not caring about my feelings or desires. Now, I didn't waste 6/7 years of my life with him, but I'm annoyed that I wasted that time when I could've been with a man who actually wanted to propose to me.

[@magdalynrobinson7]

Brett you should watch Jubilees conservative teens vs liberal parents

[@Judethehopeless]

She already did a year ago

[@tatianaberghold1206]

She already did that video

[@laneyporter1514]

Oh my goodness! I have never been so early! Love you Brett, congratulations on the marriage by the way!

[@lilshrek369]

People's fascination with celebrities is crazy to me, worrying about people who don't know you, nor care about you, just your money, is crazy to me! Celebrities are nothing more than distractions in the grand scheme of life! Y'all stay safe

[@nfbconnect]

I disagree. When we have pop culture phenoms that have integrity and values, who create art that spark conversation, it is really important to have those conversations. You can consume and talk about someone like Taylor Swift and it's actually a valuable experience. It helps us create and shape our social fabric, what connects us all.

[@amaras5321]

The problem is that sometimes the girl doesn't believe when the guy tells them he doesn't want marriage. They think they can change the guy's mind if they work harder, dress better, etc etc.

[@RubyChiang]

My issue here is that we only hear Taylor's point of view and we're only here making assumptions based on only what Taylor is telling us with her songs. Considering the kind of past Taylor has with relationships, you gotta wonder why a guy doesn't want to marry someone like Taylor.

[@vashtinayagar1325]

I’ve heard a lot of people say that Joe Alwyn didn’t like being with Taylor at her best. He met her when she was ostracised from the rest of the world, and after they got together, she stopped going on tours and events a lot. Once she felt ready to make a come back in the music industry, he didn’t want her anymore? IMO he had a saviour complex and from past relationships, it’s obvious Taylor has a victim complex. They were never meant to work out in the long term, but she sure thought so. Joe Alwyn was definitely closed off in their relationship, and that caused problems.

[@christinacatalano]

“We only hear Taylor’s point of view” ..right, bc it’s her album? lol.

[@aliceinbookland1]

No, actually, you really don’t have to wonder. Because you will never get even remotely close to her and is it none of your business. Hope this helps!

[@vashtinayagar1325]

@@aliceinbookland1 people only want to know to understand her music bad, and if it’s for any reason other than that, you shouldn’t know. And Either way you shouldn’t be prying. She’ll let us know when she wants.

[@gayezilla]

And you will never ever hear from him. Not when she was with him. Not after when they're broken up.

[@mrhumpty]

Married since 22 here. About to celebrate 24 years. I have friends who are my age. Friends who have girlfriends. Girlfriends they've told, explicitly... I'm not getting married. I don't want kids. Those girlfriends still stick around... for a long time. Just want to get it out there... women need to realize, guys aren't asking for more time in those situations. They're telling it straight. Both sides screw this up. Sometimes guys pussyfoot around and don't say it.... that's on them. Sometimes they say it outright... that's on the lady.