When a Man CHOOSES someone else over You! ( Reasons and what to do next)

[@Sweetpea-2023]

You show a man how to treat you by how YOU treat you, NOT how you treat him. If he cheated and lied to be with another woman, let her have him! You lost a cheater and a liar, not a good man. Whatever you do, don’t abandon yourself and your dignity for someone who doesn’t value you.

[@Chommikenya]

I absolutely agree 💯

[@DaintyAbby]

This goes to show you that men truly cannot be alone. 😂😂

[@RheaMickens]

Precisely

[@heatherchando5873]

Lying too my ex had a side chick, when I dumped him 😂

[@seabreeze4559]

male borderlines are under-diagnosed, fun fact

[@courtney1496]

If he left you for another one, just let him go. Hate it when women embarass themselves when a man comes back cause he doesn't want to be alone till he finds the next one.

[@nofybn7794]

I'm not gonna find the guy. I am done with men. Romantic relationships. That part of my life is OVER. It is only money/job/career/life purpose now

[@PerrySkyePhoenix]

Yep!

[@made432]

Same here. I was single and celibate for 8 years. I accomplished a lot! 😊 give men nothing.

[@EarthQueen-1111]

Detach! Detach! Detach!!

[@hi.goodbye2167]

Yuuuuuppppp

[@jhsemoxitha3821]

How

[@Christina-kt6gc]

How? Stop having contact. Nothing. Nada. Zero.

[@jayviensam]

I’ve learned it’s not of a reflection of your worth it’s their reflection that wanting someone who will tolerate and settle less with them. He knew you were amazing but can’t meet your expectations.

[@UberZambrotta8]

That happens, but sometimes it's just someone who's more compatible. And that's okay. That means there's someone else more compatible with you out there. Why would I want to be with someone who wants to be with someone else anyway?

[@jaredmatthews7988]

I don't know that there is any end to feminine expectations. Enough is never enough. Getting one just makes you desire two. Two to four. Four to eight. Unless a women can price cap her own expectation every relationship she attempts will end in failure. Relationship Inflation, growth, deepening, will eventually make it unattainable. There is no such thing as infinite growth, everything has intrinsic limits. You are correct though. Women that place their self-worth solely on the value of their relationship are doomed to fail. Individual worth and relational worth are not the same. It one cause of relationship inflation. You can't find your worth in another person. It is an inside job.

[@bellanelsa8]

He left me with 5 kids for this girl. Now woant to come back . Hell no. I move far away from my ex husbans and serve divorce paper✌️

[@Niqua10023]

Not married but, plan once. Had 3 kids but, he was a bit of an idiot. But, it's all good. I moved on and got away. It's best that way.

[@diamondbolton2944]

When someone mirrors or copies you it’s not always a form of flattery but identity

[@MsNieshaBean]

🎯🎯🎯

[@TM-nb9zf]

This is why I never recommend dating someone who is separated or actively divorcing. They aren't ready. And also the guilt will set in and he will likely want to talk to or see his ex again. Its weird with men. They need time between women and won't admit it

[@PerrySkyePhoenix]

Everyone needs time. Women too.

[@ThePinkUnicorn1683]

Or Widowers 🥴 Seems like once a man falls in love, he CAN'T AND/ OR WON'T fall with anyone else ever again in my atmosphere... 🥴🥴

[@welisanerich5376]

Why do you care if he loves her or not? He showed you he does not like you. Move on

[@Centimilli]

PERIOD POO!!!

[@jhsemoxitha3821]

Logically it doesn't. But you can't just change your feelings immediately. Sometimes your mind knows it but your heart takes time to accept it. And you try to move on and eventually you do , it just takes time. And in the process it hurts.

[@Dean_Winchester__]

It’s usually an ego thing

[@vibrantnubian27]

I hate when ppl post dumb ssa comments like this! You’re going to move on anyway doesn’t mean you don’t question.

[@BabyFaceRose]

Lawd.. just let people learn😂

[@gigichica]

Girls, a lot of times, it's because he's a narc and has other women, he's a cheater to you and everyone else he goes out with. Be happy he dumped you because you dodged a bullet.

[@PrettyNchildfree]

This 💯💯

[@annterashita1770]

You dodged a cannonball!

[@gwendolynbradford4922]

Never tell a man he confuses you..Women have the decision to accept or reject the bs a man brings to her.

[@lmusima3275]

This has been my experience for a long time. I went through a period of bitterness and jealousy. Now I put myself first and set boundaries

[@BrendaTorres-w1x]

Yeah, the guy I was talking to, he left for 2 weeks, and when he came back, I said nope go where you were. And never come back. Don't never accept them bc then they will keep doing it and use you.

[@MarinaM-o6p]

JUST GIVE men 6 MONTS OF DATING WITH NO SEX TO TRULLY SEE IF THEY WANT YOU …..AFTER THAT IF HE DOES NOT MARRY YOU ….LET THEM GO ….YOU ARE NOT THERE TO SEXUALLY AID THEM …..OR ANY man OUT THERE ….WOMEN DO NOT OWN SEX TO men .

[@cooladultkidontheblock1882]

I was thinking 6 months instead of 3 as well. If they cannot hang for 6 months then they had no intentions on being around. No $ex, exactly!!

[@DaintyAbby]

I AGREE. 33 year old virgin here. I vouch your statement 1000%. Also, you get to walk away scotch free with your morals and dignity HIGH.

[@MarinaM-o6p]

@@DaintyAbby …YUP .

[@cassie8844]

Guys I know we're willing to wait years for that and we're still not worth it. Men have patience and can act very well in order to achieve what they want. They will literally lie to your face every single day and once you're married their facade falls off because they have accomplished their goal. That's so sad and makes it difficult for me to trust any man now.

[@lmusima3275]

If they’ve left you and choose to come back why accept them back? Why let them crash in your house? Leave them for the streets

[@Melisa-g1j]

The first girl was so real lmao

[@teenieweeniemimie]

Here's to healing🔥

[@jaredmatthews7988]

Love it. If you choose the girl, you lose her. If you choose a different girl you keep the one you got. As long as women want the guy that doesn't want them and doesn't want the guy that wants them then not much will change. If Love aint boring and secure, then it isn't love. Its pure desire, Lust. . Men can handle Love but not Lust. Women can handle Lust but not Love. Let's stop parsing and conflating the two and admit they are different and separate experiences. Women's power is found in Lust. Men's power is found in Love. It would take two really mature individuals to have in a relationship. Currently most women get bored with Love and most men get bored with Lust. I suspect it requires both. Men feel Lust very easily and get bored with it. Women feel Love very easily and get bored with it. Eventually we may develop to an adult cohort where Men can have committed Lust and Women can have committed Love and not be searching for their next hit like an addict. As it stands now Men commit when Love is present, and Women commit then Lust is present. Its a balancing act for sure. The security of Love Kills the passion of Lust. The passion of Lust kills the security of Love. There must be balance of the two. He is not good at Love and needs it to stay invested. She is not good at Lust and desires it to stay invested. It bears constant watching too make sure that the relationship has subtle balance. It is also highly ironic that when humans trade out relationships, she usually only does it to "Trade UP", and he usually does it to "Trade DOWN." THen she wonders what does she have that i don't. He traded down. It wasn't that the new girl is "better" then the old girl. It was that the new girl has a lower cost, less expectations, and less drama. Not better but definitely more manageable. As near as i can tell Men "Buy" relationship and women "Sell" relationship. It makes sense the the man buyer is going to get the best relationship he can for the lowest price, while the women seller is going to get the highest price for the least amount of work. Failed relationship are often that he can't afford the price she knows she to deserves. In many ways as a relationship progress her price goes up and the benefits she provides goes down. Men expect the same benefits they always had in relationship but dont appreciate the rising prices and cost of relationship. Sadly most relationships start out really good and degrade over time as both parties get more interested in their own self interest and less interested in what's best for both involved. Watching the girls in this video they halfway get it. They totally understand their own perspective but seem to not have the ability to see from both his and her perspective. As near as i can tell women seem to have zero awareness that they are providing less benefits and requiring more investment. It like the cable company being like " Okay you only get three channels now and you have to pay ten times as much." Well the cable company next door offers 100 channels and only costs ten percent. It sad that most women put themselves out of business by treating their one customer poorly. Women have got quite good at the "lust economy", they can get new customers pretty easily by offering great deals but are horrible at customer retention. They simply have to keep jacking up the rates. Men have got quite good at the "Love economy". They promise its forever and they are in it for the long haul to attract new partners but eventually the "Love bill" just becomes more then they even have in the account, and they have to switch providers... not because they want to but because they have too. So here we are in the apocalypse of modern dating. Historically dating worked when you have five options in your village. Now that we have the illusion of infinite dating options nobody gets to have a long relationship because there are so many buyers and sellers in the market a man can always find a lower price and a woman can find the promise of an eventual higher price. As near as I can tell women have lost more in these modern times then men have. Once a man gets over the inconvenience of having to switch cable companies every six months he reaps the benefits of a lifetime of rock bottom prices. Women will never be able to get the prices they once demanded historically. Women went from "oppressed" to more "oppressed" and think they have won some victory. The real loser in this scenario is not men or women but humanity, society, families, children. We now live in a a world filled with women that are "strong" men, but there are few "strong" men men and no "strong" women. Eventually perhaps Men will become "strong" women and fill that gap, and women will be okay with that. They will become the buyers of relationship and men the sellers of relationship and society and humanity will equalize. As it stands now woman still want a man that brings more to the table in order to have relationship with them. It's an unfortunate set of events. She wanted the ability to bring to the table too (to not be oppressed), but is now oppressed with bringing more to the table. Out of the Frying pan and into the fire. All i can say Ladies is welcome to Man world. If you want relationship you have to give more then you get back. Freedom is not free and comes with attached and intrinsic responsibilities. Having the Freedom to provide means that you must provide. You can't divorce Freedom from accountability and responsibility to think otherwise is pure juvenile fantasy.

[@martian6201]

All of this advice is blabber blabber. Relationships only work when you young, naive and inexperienced. You only have 1 or 2 shots at getting it right. If you fail during that tender stages you basically done for. You need to be naive inorder to trust and build a bond. If you lose that naivete and become too all knowing, you will be too rigid, damaged and cold to form a bond with anybody. So basically, have to try and get it right the first time and stick to that one person. Or 2nd person. Anything beyond that is going to fail. Even if you heal after multiple heartaches, its not enough. You will only be healed enough to build a relationship with yourself or a pet. Which is really not that awful. Its great. Not everybody is meant to be all coupled up anyway.

[@mabinogidrws]

Sometimes, he's just a narc/psycho and no behaviour change in you could make him behave better. You just have to accept that, no matter what, it's not about you. You're better off without a man who's constantly cheating on you, and she's worse off. Hell, I've even told women their bf is a ho, and they (a) don't respond and (b) end up deciding to stay with him. It's nauseating on all levels. Decentre men from your life because the women who centre them, waste their love, their sanity, their lives, and backstab their female friends.

[@thetarotdetective3363]

We grown we set boundaries or leave

[@FavoredE]

I don’t even see the need for these think pieces 😂😂😂 if someone chooses somebody else over you detach and move on it’s just that simple.

[@UberZambrotta8]

Imagine being there with open arms every time a man gets dumped by someone else. Couldnt be me... YIKES

[@mariabrown6926]

Oop

[@Graciela-pb3ef]

🎶 🎵 How much better can I show my love for you Than say "I do, I do, I do"? I do, I do, I do You may not know right where you're going, but I do, I do, I do And all the times you wasn't chosen, well, I'll make it up to you All of the feelings you're not showing When your river's overflowing, mmm It's the truth, swear to you I do, I do, I do, I do, I do And all that you are, I do My single line of stars in noon Reflection of the very moon, I do I do, I do, I do Show my love for you Can I show my love for you? (Can I show my love for you?) 🎶 🎵

[@br5797]

Needed to hear all of this!

[@tootsiepop5611]

I’m non of the above of what you described I think I actually intimidated the men I’ve came across the women they choose over me are low quality and bums

[@its_pouring_reign5422]

Not to mention they usually resemble Jabba the Hutt😂

[@jamieisntreal]

Exactly

[@veebliss1266]

They lie by omission and hide their partners or that they went back ! They try to be shady and have both by coming back nooopeee!

[@trudy-annsmall9600]

16:30-21:10....I feel your pain similar situation I suspect I might be heading down the same road but you are a 'chosen one' the universe has someone genuine in store for you just be patient and work on your self worth I am working on me because I already know whats up in my case

[@Clearbluesky771]

Geez! that guy with the twist dread, the long beard and those top side burn whatever you call that is doing too much with all this hair. Dude pick one.

[@corimoon3360]

I couldn’t take my eyes off that patch in his beard too. 😂

[@Kissmytailfeather]

His channel is Stephen Speaks and if you watch him long enough you stop noticing.😂

[@Bluesmoke4200]

HOW DARE YOU BADMOUTH MY FUTURE HUSBAND STEPHAN SPEAKS?

[@BridgetCamagu]

The second babe is making excuses for men ...why should a person change their nature to accomodate immature men?

[@answerthephone666]

I wanna give the girl from 21:07 a hug :(

[@SelenaSecretShow]

That girl at 21 minutes into the video girl you need to get off the internet you literally sound like a joke

[@Godsends1978]

Let them go x lol

[@whatthefkiswrongwithyoutube]

Vickita!

[@proofteacher]

😢

[@shayalexander8296]

I didn’t say yes enough.

[@LLove-fi9xp]

All these women are giving super desperate wow

[@lmusima3275]

I used to be like them. A lot of these guys are players. I used to give them a chance because i was of age and fell hard for them. I tried to control the narrative forcing them to be the one. Most were platonic situations that were becoming romantic interests. I was never sure if it’s a relationship developing. The most common trait I noticed was how they went from regularly communicating with me to ghosting and silence. Then I found out they were interested or dating someone else.

[@seabreeze4559]

@@lmusima3275 plate spinning

[@AliciaSkylar]

Do he has another woman? Was i the sidechick Did he not love me 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 We WILL NEVER KNOW 🤷🏾🥱 WELP ARE YALL GOING TO WATCH THE APPLE DROP TONIGHT FOR JANUARY 1ST