When does a man fall in love?

[@deborahdouglas3988]

A very wise man told me once when I was seriously considering "shacking up" with my then, boyfriend. He said, "If a man is really in love with you, he will marry you. If he isn't ready to do that, he's just stalling, waiting for "whatever" else might come along."

[@hermenahardy6008]

❤❤❤

[@jklmnoqr]

@@deborahdouglas3988 The very wise man was ABSOLUTELY CORRECT! 💝💐💐💐💐💐💐💐

[@daniterry4922]

@@deborahdouglas3988 true, but as Tony is saying men do marry you if they love you..the “in love” comes when a man surrenders all

[@starbright2683]

A man I dated for three years, and was engaged to, dumped me for another woman. At that time, he told me that he wasn't in love with me and that he didn't even like me except for the first two or three months we were dating. This was shocking to me. My dad said, while seeing me crying, "Don't ever give your heart and soul to a man unless you are MARRIED."

[@latifasaeed2546]

Married man also gonna cheat unfortunately 😢

[@gigibrown_wright]

Close your legs, open your eyes, close your mouth, open your ears!!! Thanks for the word Tony!!!

[@sylviathomas8268]

Yes

[@tammyhairdoctorify]

Wow needed this 20yrs ago ! I appreciate u 🙏4 me.!🙈🙉🙊

[@carmenchambers6175]

Very very interesting message

[@cccole7944]

I'm blessed you blessed

[@ZawadiBirya]

That's right and close your wallet.

[@toniwilliams9817]

A man will fall in love when he’s ready to stop playing games and stop playing the field...he has to want to fall in love...it has nothing to do with the woman...

[@zoeelauren4649]

@@eniepresley5867 bc we put up his antics bc most women are not secure within themselves FIRST and settle for just any ole thing vs being be alone

[@cherh]

And if it has nothing to do with a woman, who's making him want to fall in love? 🤔The desire of other women NEVER leaves a man. So again what's making him want to fall in love? You're not making sense. It has everything to do with a woman. You're a woman thinking you know more about a man than a man. Just stop.

[@cherh]

@@eniepresley5867 at 61 I'm sure! He's older and stuck in his ways. And you don't know what happened in his childhood that probably caused him to be that way. You or whomever is dealing with him should have gave that up 30 years ago.

[@cherh]

@@eniepresley5867 spelling Toni with an I is how a woman spells her name

[@cherh]

@@eniepresley5867 🤷🏾‍♀️there u have it.

[@maiangellove8949]

It's refreshing to hear you speak so highly of your wife. 🥳

[@dastunnachick3077]

MAI ANGEL LOVE very

[@MyCrownstar]

It gives me hope. All the hatred being thrown at black women nowadays, from calling us bulldogs, thots, bed winches,etc.

[@laydeebee3174]

Be blessed...I enjoyed the wisdom you shared🙌🏾🙏🏽💯

[@happz88]

This is beautiful.......can't wait until my husband speaks about me.

[@ogbarss2230]

Everytimeee

[@arleciawhite7510]

I definitely know the difference, my first husband loved me, but my second husband was in love with me. My second husband's actions were so different, he brought all my walls down. He was a man of good character.

[@MsAldil]

Why did ur marriage with 2nd husband end?

[@jahmaykan3560]

@@MsAldil great question 🤔

[@tigerpaws111]

@@jahmaykan3560 I'm guessing they passed away?

[@MsEvonU]

Amen! Thank you Tony! When does a Man fall in Love? 1. When he Adds to your Life and not subtracts from it. 2. When he is trying to Provide for you and family, not living off of you. 3. When he is showing you love and working at keeping you Happy daily. 4. When he is being Transparent and Vulnerable with you. His Character is his Currency! When he is LOVE and showing love and is Led by God, then his Currency is invaluable. When he is rude, disrespectful, bitter, trifling and lazy than he ain't worth a penny! As a woman know your Worth and stay spiritually motivated by the Word of God. Know that God has a man who's Evenly Yoked with you, for you! Be Blessed!🙏❤🦋

[@leahveal5470]

Amen!

[@anointedstilettos]

Thank you for this 🙏🏽❤.

[@MsEvonU]

@@anointedstilettos you're very welcome!🙏

[@MsEvonU]

@therese fassie you're right, I am not a man but Tony Gaskins is! And he did explain. And for the record...I never assume. Be Blessed!🙏

[@gloriajjackson5035]

Thank you Evon U.....well said in written format! 🤗

[@alicea561]

LOVE IS INTENTIONAL LOVE DOESN'T HAPPEN BY ACCIDENT :its DELIBERATE : its INTENTIONAL : its PURPOSEFUL Try not to confuse attachment with love. attachment is about fear and dependency and has more to do with love of self then love of another. Love without attachment is the purest love because it isn't about what others can give you because you're empty. It is about what you can give others because you're already full.

[@missmarymack3457]

LOVE THIS!!!! This needs to be on a billboard somewhere!!!

[@Queenwithinmysoul]

Love that

[@anointedstilettos]

This comment is the T-R-U-T-H 💯

[@Blessingbeyondborders]

Wow 👏🏽

[@gloriajjackson5035]

Amen, David Alicea! Ladies, our mission is to be already full of Christ, and not empty! 💜

[@nikkirowland]

Be blessed In the name of Jesus, Lord please send me and everyone woman watching this video a man that will fall in love with us on the level Tony loves his wife or greater. Lord may we all do the work that we need to do in the meantime so that we can truly accept and receive that love when it comes in. Amen 🙏🏽

[@nikkirowland]

LaFenice Forbes yes sis 🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@nikkirowland]

LaFenice Forbes be blessed as well sis 🙏🏽💕

[@22danewb]

Nikki Rowland sis yes! I receive that Thank you

[@michellecoakley-goff5177]

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 Amen, Amen, Amen

[@SameRiéxoxo]

Nikki Rowland you are so sweet mama bless you 🥰🥰🥰✨✨😌💅🏽💎 you are beautiful ♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@toniwilliams9817]

That’s why I don’t know if I want to be in another relationship...I want a strong man, who is secure in himself, and ready to be totally committed: mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically....in every way. They’re hard to come by because people are emotionally immature and weak.

[@gloriajjackson5035]

Toni Wilson.....call those things you desire, not what it looks like. Romans 4:17. Trust in God.....lean not to your own understanding! He will come through for you; He is Faithful & True! 💜

[@klickingkayasmr7585]

Gloria J Jackson Yes, God is faithful. However, not everyone is called to be in a relationship. And that’s perfectly and beautifully ok.

[@felishapittman2778]

Be blessed...I knew my ex-husband was not in love with me. In fact he told me he was no longer in love with me. So I set him free and we're divorced. I didn't want it but I know you can't make someone love you.

[@ladyb129]

Boss move. You are your own champion! 🏆

[@rdot8869]

A lot of men deal with this to "Love You But Not In Love With You" While she does Care about you somewhat emotionally, she no longer LUSTS for you or respects you.... also, there's usually another man in the picture.

[@rozh8321]

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💪💪💪❤❤❤❤❤

[@anointedstilettos]

I tried to love my ex into loving me and that doesn't work either. Now, we're not together anymore as well.

[@belindalarissa311]

Girl I feel your pain same thing happened to me ! God bless you ! Good souls will always find love don’t worry you’ll find your true love one day

[@Amegla1976]

The more I hear the more it seems us women need a Psychology degree to understand and deal with men these days...

[@ugonnae5504]

☝🏻i agree

[@jojocluddy2534]

😂😂😂😂

[@kelleybright3113]

Hell naw simply simple ...that save the world shit stops 4 us queens

[@tainachapman9486]

Its a VERY CONFUSING thing to say the Least!! And thats kind of because this Man/ Woman Relationship thing has truly gotten off the track over LOTS of years ago and women have put up with so much for sooooo..... long , and made excuses for his foolery!! Now its past time for RELATIONSHIPS to BE SET BACK ON TRACK and it CAN HAPPEN!!! We all (Men/Women) have to do the work!!!

[@overcomerbtboj]

@@tainachapman9486 💯

[@AllThingsTiffanyTV]

“If you’re waiting for him to know for certain certain, he may die first” 😂😂😂😂! Oh my god this is a lot. Thanks Tony be blessed

[@jasminemartin6998]

TiffanyB TV lmbo!

[@mistybleu8589]

😅

[@abriajohnson-kinsey4099]

BIG facts 😂

[@reneepaulettemarshall8000]

TiffanyB YOU are HILARIOUS!!! ... BUT you're telling the Sho Nuff TRUTH.

[@trustnothing4400]

I fell out like "sheeeeeeshh die tony he might die first!!!"

[@magnolia2]

Everything you’re saying makes complete sense. People just don’t want to accept it and be true. I’ve gotten to a point in my life where I’d rather receive and accept the hard truth than to be naive and get hurt by these actors. Thank you.

[@gloriousjohnson1807]

Absolutely!

[@zek280]

Facts

[@adelafirme]

To the straight point!

[@thefacewhisperer6870]

That statement at 7:50!!!!! "She's getting more like wine instead of soda." Love it!!!!❤❤❤

[@itskadimusic]

I never comment, this time I have to... out of all the video's I've watched in the past 3 weeks, this video in particular made me relax and understand the meaning of falling in love from a man's perspective. Thank you for being here for us, we're really lucky to have you, continue sharing your gift no matter how hard it might be for some of us to hear... they'll be the same one's coming back to thank you or listen to you when it didn't go their way.

[@rosesareredusa]

I don’t want a man to marry me if he not in love with me...period.

[@RealLadi228]

I feel you...but how would you really know? If they are acting and pretending 🙂

[@eastenderlady2773]

@@RealLadi228 Thats the thing, you may not really know at first there are a lot of manipulators and liars out there. But a person should always go with their instincts and pay attention to red flags🚩....it definitely gives the game away.

[@melmel7011]

@@RealLadi228 Not even pretending, they can love you but not be in love with you

[@jcymngo]

It's better a man enters into marriage from a pragmatic place.

[@roshandawilliams3689]

As a 30 year old virgin (waiting until marriage), my "relationships" didn't last. I couldn't understand why i was giving all of me and guys gave me absolutely nothing in return. No date nights. No birthday or holiday gifts, never met families, etc. I was left depressed and brokenhearted each time. Your videos really helped me understand more about relationships and how men think. The MAN that i have now (been together a little over a year now) is amazing, treats me with respect and supports my decision and vowed to WAIT WITH ME. I am the happiest I have ever been. He's beginning to talk marriage. God bless you and your family.

[@faithayeni204]

*#*Hi dear| if you seriously want help to get your ex back or a specific person I know of a man| who helped me bring my ex back he can also help you*#*

[@faithayeni204]

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[@faithayeni204]

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[@faithayeni204]

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[@faithayeni204]

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[@kadythompson4538]

Here for my daily dose of truth. It hurts but not more than the alternative. Thank you Tony ♥️

[@DevAllDay]

Kady Thompson Yes I agree!

[@MzSoulll]

Yep! I'm being reprogrammed and it's great! Lol

[@LatriceSkye]

Kady Thompson Amen!

[@anointedstilettos]

This message right here is the unadulterated truth and it's so eye opening.

[@nikkinikki1644]

be blessed

[@proudblackwoman4824]

I honestly cried listening to this. Literally CRIED. All these things no one teaches black women when we are younger. I can't help but think of all the pain that I could have avoided if my dad would have taught me this at an early age. It could have saved me so much heartache. I had no idea that men play so many games in dating .....when women are just simply trying to be loved. Thankfully I never had kids with any of the men in my past. That was actually the one thing I WAS smart about. Childfree and grateful. I know that it's never too late to make better decisions in regards to men. It hurts to hear this, but I'm glad someone is finally warning us as women. You are appreciated, brother.

[@Tilee-x4m]

I too wish I knew what I know now... could've avoided so much pain. This video hits deep❤

[@sabaspeaks1260]

I can’t remember who said it but “ We don’t fall in love but GROW in love” This is a great message, thank you Mr. Gaskins!

[@PinkiePPearl]

Bishop r c. Blakes

[@TaylorMCross]

I've never heard a man say these types of things... never thought a man was capable of sharing this type of information. 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯

[@victoriamccoy409]

Your videos brings understanding, understanding = Healing

[@CUBACHINA1986]

Exactly 💯

[@Glorytogod86]

This is the only relationship vídeo any woman will ever need in her life period

[@OnyxxRose]

Honestly yes

[@Tilee-x4m]

Facts!!!

[@yeahthatsme921]

Sometimes when men experience near death situations they fall in love real quick

[@ZoePat123]

🤣

[@RealLadi228]

Scared straight 😬 😅 🤧 😫

[@kelleybright3113]

Shit he need a care provider so uhh yeaa

[@qjay8793]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@kerryc8637]

I'm not even 15 minutes in on this video, and I've got to stop and say thank you Tony. I literally have not ever heard a brother speak so candidly about the nuances of love. So glad I came across you channel. Many thanks to you, and God Bless🙏

[@donzellaharris709]

THANK YOU TONY!!! FOR MAKING THIS SO CLEAR FOR ME AND OTHER WOMEN, IM OVER 50 AND I NEED THIS I LIKE A LOT OF WOMEN NEVER HAD A FATHER OR JUST A MAN LIKE YOU TO SPEAK INTO OUR LIVES THANK YOU AGAIN.

[@DevAllDay]

Donzella Craig yes so true!!!

[@Moonpiebye]

Key points LADIES toxic..lying..cheating..keep ex's around..on a come up..abusive..RUN

[@marieaug9322]

Just told my friend days ago no one falls in love unless it's two of you. You may feel love, but you aren't truly in it until you both are.

[@mariadaskalakis9317]

I can say tony I had a more than honest conversation with my husband in his final days and he dropped some serious wisdom with me before he left us - let’s just say we had some things to work out - his conversation almost mirrored your video - and quite frankly I understand it completely- we are built differently- I don’t think there has been a time in my life I understood that more. Great video I’m not sure that every single one of us can appreciate the amount of truth that you’re spitting out here!

[@drea4373]

Love in and of itself is PERFECT. However, humans are imperfect and do not always operate in the space of love, or come from a place of love. When you say you cheat, yet you still love, ok. But your cheating caused pain. Love does not hurt. Your choice to cheat HURT. Your wife was in love, and loved you despite the pain you caused. A husband’s bad choices HURT. And bad choices are not coming from a place of love.

[@northernroots6807]

So many women need to know this.

[@notthatvashti8127]

@@northernroots6807 ,yes sis you're right. It comes from a place of lust! A need to satisfy a carnal desire!

[@northernroots6807]

@CHC4669 you know all women now?

[@jarayshaw9928]

I agree.

[@jarayshaw9928]

Can you find self love through the teaching of the Bible?

[@talicialee]

Wow!!! As you were speaking I got a revelation. When I gave my life to Christ, I really didn't love Christ, but a few years in I love him with my whole heart and seek to please him 💙

[@girlwakeuppodcast4622]

Mannnn this was DEEP DEEP!!!!!

[@amandasutherland2631]

Oh my gosh he's so good, this is wisdom y'all. I learned so by 28 yrs old, I didn't devulge my life story, I hid my weaknesses for at least 2 yrs into a relationship. First date he asked ,WHY I WAS SINGLE?!? LIKE what's wrong with you...your too pretty to be alone, like..you must have a man and your not telling me or what's wrong with you. And, I stuck ta saying, oh I just wasn't compatible with whoever I dated basically that's it. That ish works y'all. He was NOT getting into my weaknesses with me, and he was way more guarded than he let on. He said I had a wall up, but he had fort Knox up and canons up. So they will preach be open right off the bat, but beware that stuff he's digging for will be used against you until he really surrenders. It's like that movie War of the Roses.

[@ebonyflowers7599]

Be blessed! I had to stop, rewind, and And stop again. This video was hard to grasp and one listen. But I got it now and I’m taking notes. I am determined to date differently this go around because my way had me jacked up! Lol 😂

[@TonyGaskins]

Thank you for doing the work Ebony!! #BlessedTribe

[@ruthwells3990]

Men to me feel with their 👀 and women with their ❤️. Let me explain. We are all flesh, but men love Eros; physical attractiveness lust fully and women are more agape; vigilante, enthusiastically. If we can learn NOT to allow our brains to trick our bodies we will be okay. And mind you, your mind CAN and DOES play tricks on you. EVERYBODY!!! Unless you learn to discipline yourself mentally and physically and emotionally. The one who controls their mind and body and tongue is MOST POWERFUL!!!! Be blessed.

[@notthatvashti8127]

Mrs. G. might not be perfect, but it is obvious in the way you speak about her that she's perfect for you!!! Surrendering/letting go of ego to be able to really fall in love... a nice nugget of wisdom!! Be Blessed!!

[@safiyaprice8215]

Thank you Tony for sharing your continuous wisdom and knowledge. As single woman, I feel more empowered and better prepared for my future relationship, by watching your videos each day & being more intentional about doing the work (to improve myself). Be blessed!

[@justsomeideas9594]

Be blessed! You explained exactly what I experienced when I finally realized, that my spouse was never in love with me. It was a very hard pill to swallow. I knew the truth but refused to listen and didn’t pay attention to what my intuition told me. It hit me instantly like a ton of bricks 3 years ago and that’s what started me working on myself. That’s when I started working on the 3B’s! Wow another confirmation of what I felt!

[@shelleybullard601]

Yeah, just don’t live with them or have relations without marriage. This will help him with his decisions, step up or give up. Or else this message will have you willing to live with a man indefinitely until he’s “ready “.

[@myfingoodies]

I had to clutch my invisible pearls for this one. Be blessed man of God in the work that you do.

[@ThisIzKena]

Everytime you imitates an "upset woman"...I die..🤣🤣🤣. Lowkey sounds like me..🤣😔

[@nikkirowland]

This is Kena 😂😂.. I wonder if he realizes how funny he is lol. He’s so serious with it but I stay cracking up

[@mamalasting5085]

I asked my self for the last 10 years; if my husband is in love with me? :( God Opened my eyes today!!! Thank you Sir! Blessings

[@urielflores458]

Omg same !

[@channapooh]

Be Blessed! Ladies listen to him, he is 100 percent correct. It’s all in a man’s actions. Do not simply fall for what a man tells you, make sure he is putting action with the words. Thank you Tony for helping change the world!!

[@nakooshaalbert8884]

I watch your videos more than once to make sure I didn’t miss something. Breaking it down like a Math problem!

[@cynthiareynolds1941]

I’m so glad I found your videos. Because I was that woman that would share my life story less than 6 months. I have close my legs and I have been moving slowly now. My dad would say Actions speak louder than words “.

[@lotussunnamoonawebb9783]

When a women fall in love she falls deep she loves hard and when a man cheat he breaks the essence of that women who love him. A moment of cheating changes her life forever it take years of building and trusting again . The depths a women whose in love will look far beyond what she has gone through and love again and again .l thank you for this high frequency massage l now have what’s need. I don’t think 💭 that man was in love with me 28 years ...l love him more than he love me . I will never love someone more then me again .Mr Tony this massage was indeed a hard pill to swallow but l gotten it down . I type as my eyes filled up with tears 😭 the truth is freedom. Thank you 🙏

[@idearing]

Preach it! I needed to hear this. That's me all the way. I'm crying my damn self. Its bringing it out.

[@janiedavis477]

Powerful truths, be blessed🙏

[@narcsurvivorbythegraceofgo9426]

I am all tears.😔😪☹😓😣😩

[@danielle9342]

This was my last relationship! My ex was definitely not a “man” or in love with me.. and we were together for 7years 🤦🏽‍♀️ But God is a good God, he opened my eyes wiiddee!! Be blessed!

[@yeahthatsme921]

Don't feel bad your still young now your smart

[@traquilasmith2275]

Danielle I understand what you saying. Same thing with my ex in high school and my last ex God open my eyes to see who they really are i walked away from them and i learned and grown from my mistakes. We have to do better and pay attention to the red flags more lessons learned. God knows who best for us. God bless you and stay positive and strong. 🙏

[@cheekscheeks5840]

Y’all here listening plz join the Blessed Tribe we welcome you all 💯

[@iyolaagard784]

It seems closed off to international folks

[@cheekscheeks5840]

Yola A what do you mean

[@iyolaagard784]

@@cheekscheeks5840 I'm from Trinidad and Tobago (the Caribbean) tried the link on many occasions and this keep coming up "Sorry, this content is unavailable for purchase" I hope this is a glitch!

[@cherylwhite2566]

All i gotta say is...keep it comin! Lol im eatin up every word i gotta be wise in these streets!

[@yeahthatsme921]

In your home to

[@MsDrich2]

This is all a process but I feel better equipped for my next possible relationship when it presents itself because of your videos. Thanks Tony! Be Blessed 🙌🏽

[@queenofthesouth4205]

Facts

[@shereses.3298]

I hear the way this man talks about his wife, it's beautiful. I was married for 5 years to a narcissist and it literally makes me so sad to think my ex-husband would make me feel like and speak to me as though I was worthless.....well, thank God, my daughter and I are free from that bondage, and in the midst of my divorce God blessed us with our first home!

[@elamay8042]

👏🏾👏🏾 Hallelujah!

[@thebeautyambassador5200]

Yaaas your wife is Jamaican!!!

[@melbamartin9781]

I love you for saying that . Your wife is your life. You get it. Thank you for sharing your fidelity, love and attitude towards union between man and woman.

[@jacquelinewilliams6572]

Thank you Tony! I’m 55 in a 8 year situationship. He’s 48. He is financially stable always takes care of home. We both are gainfully employed. People think he’s a good guy. Never curses me out or yells always comes home. He is a serial cheater and master manipulator. I’m working on my exit strategy I understand what you said. I’ve been married twice he’s been married once and I’ve been proposed to at least four times by different men during my lifetime.However I am tired of the games and just ready to be my best person if that’s alone that’s what it means. I wish I could’ve watched this many years ago. I’m ready for change. I’m in school and will be graduating with my bachelors in psychology this year. I’ve enrolled in Tony Gaskins University. I feel like I’m on the right track and I will continue to listen to you and take heed no matter what your age

[@l.s.d.washington3943]

This brings me back to when people either married for stability or had arranged marriage. They wasn't in love but most of the marriages survived because the love came later.

[@thecontraceptivesschool5612]

So true. It ends up working out really well

[@nikkyshamz2696]

This is God's honest truth and I've seen this play out in my relationships and in a lot of my friends marriages cos I'm thinking ain't no way someone that loves you will do that or act this way, ain't no way. This video articulates it so well. Makes perfect sense. In love versus love. I'm going into my next relationship super equipped.

[@ericablige9449]

When he is wealthy cause of his CHARACTER!!!!! Love this💜

[@mistybleu8589]

Tony: “He will cry when you die” 😂 Boy, you rough! 🤣🤣🤣

[@HighlyFavored333]

@mistybleu8589 😅🤣😂I know right. Tony is really tough!

[@dellaboothe4696]

God bless you, I am 66yrs old, got married at 18 because I was pregnant. We had no say in the decision. Our parents made it for us. High school sweethearts, he died at 36yrs old, in1990. You have blessed me with your honesty. God sent you to help me heal and complete my grieving process. I have been wondering if he was in love with me. Thank You.

[@5alive388]

There is a difference between falling in And being in love!!! If u fall in u fall out Luv is action, luv IS!!! Commitment, understanding, agreements, etc. And u DONT fall. PERIODT

[@takeauthority30]

Be blessed, yes it's true a lot of us get married in faith and grow more into love. Unfortunately some men jump ship when it begins to get to that "dying to self" part of it. It's too scary and if the woman allows him to "stay the same" he'll stay.

[@jewellfairweather5411]

💯💯💯

[@friedastewart1330]

God bless you Tony! I’ve forwarded this message to a couple of young ladies who really need to hear this message. I also find this message beneficial to my spirit as well. As I’ve stated before you’re a very , very wise young man! May your family’s journey continue to be blessed! Thank you. Be Blessed! 🙏🏽😊

[@TonyGaskins]

Thank you for sharing it!! And for being a member! #BlessedTribe

[@JaneDoe-dn4wk]

I love when you post these. I listen intently every time. I think love is a lesson that you learn a little more about everyday. You mess up and then you try again. Love vs in love is two different things. In love is a comfortable feeling. It’s a certainty and you can feel it. It’s not desperate, it doesn’t cause anxiety. It’s a choice. When you personally make that choice there’s no turning back.

[@cardiac711]

This is an awesome vid. This was explained so well and I am so appreciative. A man getting married before he is in love reminds me of endurance athletes. Despite the obstacles, the pain and the unforeseeable challenges they still enter the race. They will put their will aside to finish the race. I have coworkers who have married, divorced and remarried. My nieces have married. Sometimes I feel God has forgotten about me. I am almost 50 and 19:20 - 19:29 has been my conversation with God since I was 40. He's said, My grace is sufficient. 24:47 - 24:58 is my mindset. The guys I met in my youth thru my 30's didn't even try to hide the fact they were after one thing. So now I am guarded. But Tony you've been a blessing. I am learning to lower my guards, but stay aware. Be blessed and thanks for sharing.

[@joec691]

Thanks Tony I been listening to you for a while my relationship with women is a lot better bro thanks.

[@jewellfairweather5411]

That's awesome

[@monicaisberto]

Man . I can’t stop listening to you. Feels like the big brother I never had.. someone to really put me on game and give me a different perspective. It’s so valuable to me. I just turned 24 last month. I’m still young and not looking to get married anytime soon but this helps me weed out folks before they can even begin to waste my time. I envision myself to be a very valuable woman, especially when I hit my 30s. I wanna know all of this before then! Lol thank you T!!!!!!!! We are so lucky to have you fr

[@mst675]

"Overstand instead of understand"! As an educator I am definitely going to use that line :) Thanks for this vid, and be blessed!

[@KAAT2239]

One of the number one reasons I continue to listen to your videos is because you take your time to make us “overstand”!!! I really appreciate how you take your time and give us examples to further our understanding.... you are truly a gift! Merry Christmas and happy new year !!

[@ericabostwick4033]

This is one of those messages I had to keep listening to because I didn’t want to miss anything. Thanks Tony!!! I’m meditating on this one! Be blessed!!!!

[@daniellemitchell7977]

Tony I believe what u saying bc it just made 4 years and I am now seeing this fool acting like he falling in love I am kinda pissed 😤

[@lillianpitts9853]

Mines as well I am sad though so basically they deceive us until their ready angry and sad it's been 3yrs for me he actually showing love but now I want to walk away he put me through alot

[@TuBella14]

Danielle Mitchell 😂 better late than never.

[@DevAllDay]

Danielle Mitchell Right!!!

[@simeoda]

Lillian Pitts are you going to stay

[@lillianpitts9853]

@@simeoda he actually showing change I will ,if he switch up again I'm gone life to short to waste my time were married also

[@DevAllDay]

This is sooo deep! The way Tony explains this is mind boggling IMO, I have so much clarity and feel so empowered after listening and learning from him, FINALLY I get answers that make since and that I can understand, Thank you so much for helping all of us who are so lost! Bless you ! ❤️

[@jalisadavis983]

Thank you for that Tony Gaskins my boyfriend and I been together for 5years we meet throw facebook and through the ups and downs we managed to stay strong and I see a little bit of faith that my man is going to change and love me more than ever and marry me one day I just keep on praying and trusting in God that God will change his heart in mind and thank you for the advice you are truly a blessing to others and me and continue to spread your gift anybody that needs to hear your word ❤️

[@angelamoore261]

I'm blessed so be blessed 😊❤

[@Tresieeeeeeèe]

Can you do a segment on women who have fear of marriage?? How to overcome that? Would that be physiological

[@evka24]

i think u may have fear of getting married to a wrong man....take ur time to get to know man well...ur fear should be lessened

[@RedHybiscus]

I know this is 3 years old but I am watching this for the first time and really taking it in. I can understand understand how this happens. Getting vulnerable is a process. It takes trust. Trust is earned. So yes fully opening myself fully would take a complete commitment and then proving to me that you can walk that talk. I definitely understand and makes sense. If a woman is honest and healthy mentally and emotionally- she will have the same experience

[@ladyb129]

I understood every word you said. You broke it down so clearly. Thank you for your insight. A real eye opener. 👀

[@rlmcclain1]

Consistency!!! If he is lacking that alone he isnt in love...always grateful to hear you speak Tony thank you

[@NaturallyNerdeeNicol]

I have concluded, I will basically never understand men and maybe in my twenties, I would have tried, however now, I am just literally too tired.....

[@rachelleenterprise8072]

That's how I felt but just keep listening to him. He's so calm, you can't help but accept what he's saying and then your fatigue will die out because you'll stop internally contesting what he's saying. This is what I used to do, contest because it don't sound right. Just let go & listen to him. Remember: This is for our knowledge. What men do may not make sense or even be right; it's just what they do. He's just giving us the 411 on that so at least we know how to move. (Not saying move like a man though). Just having this knowledge saves dating lives.

[@NaturallyNerdeeNicol]

@@rachelleenterprise8072 no, it's no slight to him at all. I appreciate his candor.

[@debbiemontgomery6020]

Wow, this makes so much sense to me and gives me so much understanding. I am a widow and my husband and I loved each other more with every passing day. Now I understand those first few hard years. Thank you. You are truly gifted with revelation knowledge.

[@denisejohnson7789]

Yes, that is the West Indian way. Being raised by West Indian parents you’re not going to hear many apologies face to face. I’ve learned in my adulthood it’s ok to express a sincere apology and in doing so it doesn’t make me a weak person.

[@ruru9400]

I have West Indian parents also so I totally relate 😩

[@darleenthompson3803]

I'm from the caribbean also. That's true . 🏝️🇻🇮

[@MrsPetal]

That’s the way a real man should behave, my boyfriend is the same with me. You protect the people you love how by keeping them from harms way, by nurturing them, by providing for them, by respecting them, by being loyal and devoted to them.

[@elle353]

Truth = clarity, ty & be blessed

[@iponderwonder1279]

Thanks for sharing with us wonderful knowledge of a man's perspective of the way he Loves and the steps it may take him to fall in love. I usually get upset that men are so emotionless, meaning they don't express their emotions at times, but now I understand it has to be with not wanting to drop his guard. This has reveal so much I will be alert and cautious when I start dating again. Right now this Chica is growing. My growth has been a beautiful journey.

[@MSFREE2U]

Thank you Tony. Although it can be confusing, I understood everything you said and I appreciate the message. “Be blessed”

[@cherh]

God I see what you're doing in the first 4 minutes of this video and I'm ready for my King to be just like that...protective! lol be blessed 💫

[@dailydevotionals2405]

And that's why you blessed Tony. I've noticed your videos are a little longer now and I appreciate your sacrifice. Sending all my friends your way. 🧡🙏🧡

[@sharonjennings5732]

Be blessed...a revealing, difficult message to absorb YET Beloved be encouraged God does not just have love for you He IS love...live from the abundant place that you are loved... Thank you God. Mr Gaskins Bless you

[@sunshinelady3954]

Men before the age of 30 have to mature. It may take some men longer. Tony! This message is resonates. Be bliss! Thank you so much!!

[@Rocanala]

There men in their late 40s that need to mature!

[@sunshinelady3954]

Tenisha true! I stated that it may take some longer to mature

[@ivy6179]

Not about the age but upbringing.

[@em77775]

Just divorced a 42 year old, was with him since he was 21. He didn't mature at all lol but he's also narcissistic

[@meek0514]

This all makes PERFECT sense. Thank you, Tony Gaskins. The light bulb is getting brighter, for real.

[@tadasmom1]

I like when you say...... “Listen.... “Listen to me now”.... 🙂

[@charisngozichukwuka2339]

You are such a gift to this generation. I'm so happy I discovered your channel. Your teachings has really helped and blessed me so much

[@mapeppers04]

I am seeing this with tears.😭....Thank you for sharing.( had no one to teach me this)..How do you recover from the let out?(opening up too soon to fast?...no sex, just revealing my vulnerability too soon.) I need to understand His MINDSET.. I want be there for him and him for me....

[@MahoganyClark]

This was a blessing..this is the first time I have ever in my life seen and heard a man explain falling in love from a man's perspective on this level, gaining all this knowledge at such a young age has got to mean something, thank you

[@alenachavez4342]

My husband fell in love with me way before we got married. We have been married since 1986 & still going strong. 13yrs ain’t nothing

[@MsAldil]

Wow 🤩🤩😍😍🤩

[@michellerogers5582]

I understand completely when I love someone I could cheat but when I was in love I would never have that desire to be with anyone else!!!! Facts Tony u are a excellent Coach learning so much at 61 ready to coach and spread knowledge

[@sheilaverdell1370]

Love alone 'don't'' pay bills. 'Thank You' Tony.......Blessings.

[@margaretahogberg6869]

I love the way you are talking about love,the difference between be in love and just love someone. You are talking about your wife so lovely, I can see how much you love each other and it fills My heart with love too. Love to both of you 💗💗💗

[@LakeishaGoudy]

Be blessed! Thank you for this Tony! It doesn't always feel good to hear the truth but it's needed in order to grow.

[@jarayshaw9928]

I haven't been to church in probably 10 years. Not gonna share my story, but you can read it in my book one day.. your videos have inspired. Going to church on Sunday. 🙏