When does 'self care' turn into self destruction?

I just wanted to open up a little about how I've been feeling this past year. Self doubt is kicking me in the arse but I will do better :)
Thank you guys x
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[@sou021]

Just remember that your audience will back you, no matter what you do.

[@fleurpalmer-paquis8226]

I think your situation is similar to mine of being a uni student xx I really struggle between doing nothing at all (and convincing myself it's self care when it's just me becoming sad and depressed) and feeling guilty for doing nothing and then doing work and getting exhausted and burnt out very quickly.

[@FreyaNightingale]

my god. i think you explained it better in 1 sentence than i did in 13 minutes

[@fleurpalmer-paquis8226]

@@FreyaNightingale 😂😂 no your video was great! It was really relatable for me and great to see (like you said) that I'm not the only one feeling this way xxx

[@victoriafleming5970]

fleur flxrsl i can relate to this so hard

[@berbafan67]

I am approaching Uni exam session, so burnout is nearly inevitable for me

[@Ritzynco]

This sounds exactly like me in college. I feel like I'm almost stuck in a cycle.

[@dudeimhnm]

Routine and work is a very therapeutic thing for humans, we're designed to handle daily stress and once we breakout of that for a few days we will like it at first then we become sad and sadder and sadder with time. Routine is the thing you need.

[@obliviousgrizz4672]

"when there is no enemy within, then the enemy outside can do you no harm"

[@nima7386]

ngl i want more GIRL TALK videos from you discussing most thing maybe with Kirsty or someone 🥺

[@8x6apexdoubledoorshed37]

Took me a few seconds to realise this wasn't about the Dead By Daylight perk...

[@FreyaNightingale]

crying hahaha

[@user-vi1fz6xp9m]

Same lol

[@louis_c_7557]

ikr same lmao

[@katjarode8766]

I relate to this soooo much Freya!! I have been thinking about this for so long and I don’t know what to do about it either. Because I procrastinate so much by doing things like cleaning my room organising my closet and all these “self care” things but to what extent is that procrastination or me being lazy. Like if I’m constantly worrying about doing work by not doing it is it because I’m just lazy! I honestly struggle with this soo much!

[@Dwilly345]

Switched from the sidemen to this

[@fayehammond3466]

donald wilson same

[@kylie3269]

donald wilson same

[@annaelk723]

Faye Hammond same

[@kavnmd7281]

donald wilson I’m going from this to sidemen

[@reconcommando3278]

Faye Hammond same

[@vitkozusky6630]

I start feeling "doubtful" when I'm not doing anything for like 2 hours, so I totally get those feelings. Everybody needs a break, it's literally impossible to work 24/7. What works for me on those lazy days is to find little things I should do. Clean my room, cook a nice meal, learn a few words of Japanese, even watch a Netflix documentary (I do believe watching good shows or movies helps you grow as a person). Basically, meaningful things that'll make me happier, expand my horizons, or help me make the transition back to work easier. The workday gets so much easier when you don't need to do extra steps like doing laundry on top of it.

[@JoeMama-lq8gy]

"In dealing with those who are undergoing great suffering, if you feel "burnout" setting in, if you feel demoralized and exhausted, it is best, for the sake of everyone, to withdraw and restore yourself. The point is to have a long-term perspective." - Dalai Lama This qoute applies to alot of things in general but I think the applies very well to KZbinrs.

[@loreanabrown6834]

Frey I can relate to this.. Firstly our minds latch onto things that are our worst fears, so if you hate the thought of the fact you are lazy and are not like your friends and that worries you, your brain will feed off that and provide you with more thoughts of self doubt again and again. To overcome this, think of yourself as the parent of two twins who are arguing (one twin being the thought of 'I need to take a break' and the other twin being the thought of 'you're lazy, not good enough, can't succeed') and instead of listening to both twins explain their point, say to them 'I'm not listening to this, I'm not going to even engage with answering back' and turn your mind onto something else. The less energy you give the negative thoughts theyll eventually die away. Also, with the self doubt, tell yourself 3 things you're proud of before you go to sleep, whether that be 'I made myself a nice bath', 'I made progress editing' or even as little as making yourself a cup of tea. Just reaffirm your positive attributes and behaviours every night before sleep which in turn can help to build your own self efficacy. Hope this helps xxx

[@HANGEZ0ES]

what a video to end 2019. this is gonna be helping us think it through for the next decade .

[@victoriafleming5970]

as someone who has a lot of self doubt in general i completely understand. it’s important to take time out when you’re struggling so you should never feel guilty for doing that. you need to find the right balance between pushing yourself and knowing when to take a break. if you’re pushing yourself to make videos and you feel like it’s taking too much out of you then that might be a clue to have a break. if you’re making a video and you’re really enthusiastic about it but are feeling doubtful about whether it’s right, then that might be a situation where you should persevere because it’s something you’re passionate about. that legit probably made 0 sense

[@thelegitnutjob7681]

Doubt has a huge impact on a lot of people, whether it’s to do with work or with yourself personally it effects a lot of people with their actions. Because of situations that I’ve had over the past year I’ve done exactly the same in taking a break to help myself get to where I want to be, doesn’t mean that I’m lazy but you are working on yourself to help you in the long run which is a huge thing to do. You explained a lot in this video very well and hope all is well now so you can get back to the content we originally subbed for 😊 all the best

[@jumana...9806]

I really like this video because I feel like everyone goes through this. Everyone reaches a point where they aren’t satisfied with what they are doing even though they are working hard, so they take a break but it doesn’t help either. I think it’s just the emotions that come with change and bettering yourself because that is scary and stressful. But don’t worry we’ll be with you through everything Freya!! ❤️ you’re amazing!!

[@Jasmadisen]

I felt literally all the stuff you’re saying in the run up to my GCSEs so I can totally relate. Obviously GCSE time is when people (are supposed to) work really hard so I think that shows that you aren’t just being lazy, you are probably under a lot of stress.

[@iola4451]

Jas Walkee this is so like the comment I just wrote. I get stressed and tell myself I’m not stressed until I’m so stressed that I don’t do anything and I blame it on my laziness. And I’m going to fail because of it ahhhhh

[@Jasmadisen]

iola don’t worry! EVERYONE goes through it. I talked to people who got full 9s and they felt the same. You will do really well GCSEs are horrible

[@iola4451]

Jas Walkee thank you so much. I hope everything goes ok. My brother got nearly all nines last year so it feels like there’s a lot to live up to 😅

[@oliviacranex]

i just had my ppes and i literally felt like i did nothing to prepare but i was revising every night for a month until 11

[@sky-ip2gc]

i 100% get what you mean. i’m often in a cycle of procrastination bc i’m scared of not doing good enough and the idea of actually getting things done scares me and stresses me out but not doing anything has the same result. and often, due to this cycle, i end up in a cycle where i hate myself because i know i’m not doing my best with that. it’s hard for me to get out of the cycle, but i try my best, and i’m continually trying to become better. i know overall, being able to fix this will improve my mental health so much

[@Comic3247]

Honestly honey, don't worry about being "deep", if you have something you wish to address, then you have every right to discuss/express it

[@fayehammond3466]

This title speaks to me Frey, nice to see you back beetch ❤️

[@anniefarnham4027]

I actually really enjoyed this very serious and open Freya! its nice to see this side of her as well as her silly side! we love you girl, keep doing you and we will all be here to support you along the way :)

[@E3boss2003]

Very wise words freya and it's so true. If you feel you should push yourself you should just do it, that's the fine margins between being successful and not. Freya we will always back you no matter what.

[@kathleenforster8139]

I've been a non attender at school for a while due to my issues with anxiety and I TOTALLY understand this, I get the whole feeling like you're taking too much time off or you feel like you're pushing your luck a bit, I still struggle a lot with procrastinating and leaving things to the last minute and of course it makes things worse, thank you for sharing this video, its made me feel less of a loner in this situation. x

[@steph0sims]

holy shit you put what I’m feeling into words. I feel so spiritually contented rn LMAO

[@vigogamer]

Maybe something simple like creating a schedule for yourself so you can have your "me time" and work time will help a lot, because it will give you some sort of routine and you'll stop overthinking about how long of a break you're taking or if you're overworking

[@fayehammond3466]

Frey I feel the exact same way, ever since starting year 13 I’ve literally been the same. Especially in my creative subjects (Art and Photography) I’ve taken days off and not done more work because of self doubt and I feel like when we are relying on ourself to do things sometimes we doubt our capabilities to do things and procrastinate because that’s been me these past few months. It genuinely feels like you’ve just read my mind and spoke what I needed to hear. I just don’t know how to get back into not being lazy because I know deep down I’m a hard worker and I know my capabilities it’s the self doubt holding me back. Thanks for sharing this has helped ❤️

[@loupayne5346]

Thank you for sharing this with us, it means a lot. That title resonated with me because I have also been feeling like me prioritising my mental health has been slowly turning into self destruction. Since summer, my anxiety has been horrible so during the first semester of uni, I have been working a lot less than last year and I have been watching lots of youtube videos and shows to try and calm down/forget. But me not working that much has turned me into a stressed out mess and I'm not proud of myself - in other words, I'm feeling insecure now more than ever. Which saddens me because I had started working hard last year and I felt so proud of myself. Hopefully, we will both find the correct balance :)

[@madeleinerose3602]

I relate to this SO much. I am 24 and have dealt with medical issues my entire life that hindered me doing a lot of normal things like going to school or work. I have done a lot of work on myself dealing with my loneliness and not feeling guilty for resting. The problem is no one relies on me to do anything because “I’m the sick person” so I’m basically off the hook, which for a long time was a relief but now I’m at the point that I get a little offended. I’m almost over all of my health issues now but it’s so easy for me to say “oh I don’t feel good can someone make me food” but I make it a point to really see how I feel beforehand and think to myself “do I really feel like shit or am I just pretending because I feel lazy?” It is the perfect excuse but I’m at the point now where I’m sick of laying down and being sick I want to enjoy my life and do more things and I think that is the difference. You can reach success while still letting your body rest here and there but at some point you just get sick of being “lazy” and want to do more for yourself and your goals. I know that’s what happened to me, I can be classified as a lazy homebody but now I try to do more and push myself out of my comfort zone and if I don’t feel good I go back home and rest. It’s a slow process but it’s all about listening to YOUR body and not comparing to others and what they are doing. 🌹❤️

[@freyawwfc]

you need to set a routine for yourself, don't push yourself too hard, when you feel like you need a break to spend time with your family and quality time with your friends you do it, just remember all of your subscribers will help you along the way and we'll always help and support you❤️

[@abbie6338]

*showing off her outfit* Is the reason why no ones better than Freya she was like e e e it’s cuteee

[@goldribbons8738]

i fully understand your point. I've actually been feeling exactly the same recently. And me being someone who struggles with anxiety and constant sadness, that line is soooo blurred. Sometimes i think i deserve some time off to chillax and focus on my mental health but at the same time, my thoughts are telling me that i'm just being lazy or exaggerating and that i don't need all this time off and so i'm kind of just stuck in the middle, not knowing what i should do. But i'm honestly glad you've decided to upload this. I thought i was losing my mind questioning this but it feels great knowing i'm not the only one thinking this, thanks :)

[@gracechan8386]

i completely relate with the feeling guilty for having a chill day as i've got so many things coming up and sometimes i don't know my priorities (i'm juggling a levels, musical theatre training and outside of school shows and it's a lot ngl), and i've come to the terms of it that i think we all should have downtime to ourselves and it's so important to take care of ourselves and our mental health because that's the foundation of our success as well as hard work and we have to learn to balance both and it's different for every single person so don't beat yourself up about it

[@lewisyoung8190]

I think you’ve explained it so well, i feel like this all the time. For example, I go to work and by the time I get back I feel so tired that I want to do nothing, but then I feel so unproductive or lazy when I do nothing (there’s more examples but I’d be writing this comment forever lol). I think it’s important to not burn yourself out, like when you finish a stream, you should be able to have time to chill out. Nobody should feel guilty about it, but I guess it all comes down to what your mindset is like at the time. It’s such a hard question to answer, but if this video means people can relate to it and discuss it more then there might be an answer sooner or later 💚

[@phoeniix111]

You’ve genuinely just described my past 2 years. Just trying to find the balance between taking care of your mental/physical health and just doubt yourself and what your capable of. I’ve not been able to put it into words so this has brought me into some knowledge I didn’t have, thank you for being so open ❤️ luv u

[@Elisa-jz9rd]

‘I generally cant do that anymore because i would feel guilty’ - same, i get so stressed whenever i do not revise for my as levels. Such as school ended 4 days ago, i would be stressed that i didnt do any revision. Even though, theres two weeks of holidays. I have been stressing so much and having someone to post a video about this is such a coincidence. ❤️❤️You have all my support❤️

[@pranavmathur9114]

I can relate to what you're saying. It is difficult to figure out if you are working more than you can handle or if you haven't worked enough and need to push yourself. The difficulty comes when you look around and try to compare your experience with others around you.

[@lilyb2034]

I've been going through the same thing and honestly, it comforts me so much to know that I'm not the only one, you're never alone Freya. You'll get through this and you got your point across perfectly

[@BillyJayGaming]

Great video Freya! I agree with all the things you said and your smashing it lately!! Should never doubt yourself cause you got so many people behind you that know your doing such an amazing job!!

[@ffionsheppard]

thank you so so much for talking about this openly with all of us, i struggle with self-doubt too but you are so strong and i love you a lot 💕💕💕

[@kevinspindler]

I really needed to hear this today. Thank you Freya! I’m glad to see you back

[@MrStoney]

Yes, what you said made sense to me, and you're not alone in the feelings you are having. Not at all. Self-doubt is a big obstacle stopping us as humans from proceeding and reaching our goals. This year my depression has peaked due to life events, but with it, it has also brought crippling anxiety along for the right. I've never had that before. The feelings of wanting to proceed towards something, of being excited to do something, only for the something to arrive and feelings turn on an instant into 'how can I do that?' or worse 'I can't do that!'. I think sometimes however people can become confused between the debilitating feelings of self-doubt / anxiety and procrastination. Two very, very different ball games. People need to remember that what other people are feeling is not always obvious in the eyes of other people.

[@aaronfox2599]

Thank you so much for making this video Frey! I’ve been having this argument constantly with myself since leaving uni. And I’ve found it really difficult so thank you for this video x

[@yxram495]

Literally relate so much to this and totally understand where you're coming from. I think a key is balance which I can understand can be SO difficult to find for someone who is self-employed but I feel like you don't have to be in that mindset that you can only succeed if you are constantly working. It's about working smart not hard. It is so important to take days and time off, like you've said. I've heard you say before you want a schedule and I think that is the best way to go. Despite being self employed have differentiated time of when you're working and when you're not to avoid that guilt of feeling like you should be doing wor, whilst still being productive. Look forward to seeing what you do next xx

[@rubes4870]

thank you for this freya and congratulations to you and josh for 9 years xx

[@josephgarcia5828]

I saw the name of this video and clicked it immediately. Been struggling with this for quite some time. Thank you so much Freya! Keep it up and I’m certain everything will get better :)

[@tanishasmith5672]

Balance is the key, pushing yourself to do stuff is so important but too much is definitely detrimental to inspiration and motivation to do something. Everyone has a different balance take your time figuring yours out we’ll all support you and no one thinks your lazy or selfish for taking time for yourself! Don’t force yourself to do more and end up feeling resentment towards something you love. I’ve definitely felt like this and I’m sure loads of others have too! 💚💚💚

[@DearbhailHogan]

you’ve no idea how many people you’ve helped with this video freya. i know exactly how you feel and it’s nice to know from this video and the comments that i’m not alone ❣️

[@amyandgrace3985]

Omg you checking out your outfit is the funniest🤣

[@HANGEZ0ES]

thank you for deciding to do a video like this. for me, i have this trouble so much especially for school. i can have a whole week full of stress and work overload and then when the weekend comes, i have the opportunity to relax and enjoy the time for myself but, my brain brings in all these different tasks that i don’t need to work on but i overthink about all the future tasks that I have assigned to myself. i fully understand what you are saying and you did put your point across. this is a topic that not many people talk about but i am grateful you decided to point it out.

[@leaho7118]

you articulated the topic so well ! i feel like i really needed to hear this so thank you

[@hacksawhavoc7807]

Good to see you back happy anniversary with josh 9 years is nuts

[@leeann7351]

I’m so proud of you for speaking out about this! Please don’t feel bad about taking time off to relax, we get it and it’s important for your health. Please put yourself first and don’t push yourself too hard just for us. I love and appreciate your streams so much, and that won’t change if you take a day off to relax. Love ya Frey! 💚💚

[@lifeofpriya976]

I’ve been in that “I need to take care of myself” phase for a long time, but actually letting it get so long that it is an excuse, in my head, it never kicks in, because you are the kick that you need. So many things outside of my mind has triggered little kicks to try but it doesn’t mean much when your mind still does the same thing, I honestly admire your attitude Freya, whatever you would say to a friend who needs a kick in the arse (tough love) say to yourself

[@kristy8246]

I feel this! Thank you so much for sharing about this topic, and I know that it feels like you're alone and that everyone has their life sorted out (probably not true in reality). I left my previous job a few months ago due to stress and the fact it was destroying my mental health... need to start looking for another full time job and it's getting to the point where I'm kinda being lazy and know I need to start looking / applying again. Please allow yourself to notice how you feel and understand that you need to take time for yourself... maybe try setting some goals, planning certain videos and booking it all into your calendar - this way you have a visual view of your week, letting you see how much you're getting done and where you have time to chill and watch some Netflix (really hope this makes sense, and your video did completely make sense by the way).

[@anastasisnikol1845]

Almost everyone has been told to to be the best. It's really hard to make a difference and that's the reason why you are always thinking that you are doing something wrong,when you take a break for example. I believe that as you said, it is a personal matter. Everyone knows what is good for themselves or not. And you must not forget that everyone is different and no one works the same way as others. Everything will be Ok if you sit down and sort out what you are doing right, or wrong. My opinion, simplified. Keep up the good work. Glad to have you back strong!

[@libbymay7397]

I can 100% relate I'm 16 and the fact that people older still have this problem with no solution scares me in that it will just never go away

[@AbbeyGwen]

I relate to this so much so no matter what, i'm here for you Frey!

[@Cruzin105]

I’m on the same boat as you and I procrastinate heavily. I say I’m gonna do something I need to do but never follow up on my word. I’m at the point where I know I HAVE to do something and I get motivated but something’s still holding me back. Not sure if it’s an issue of confidence, laziness or depression.

[@phoeniix111]

Love you girl, can’t wait for everything next year ❤️❤️

[@tomfenner3691]

Amazing and totally relatable video Frey, thank you for sharing 😊

[@maddyd26]

I definitely don't think you are lazy. Especially if you are now coming back stronger in 2020. You took the break you needed which helped you a lot to come back ❤

[@SyanaAngel]

Can't say I'm an expert but I would suggest doing a calandar/planner for the month or week (for let's say which days to stream and which days to film videos) and then to get it approved by someone else. It's hard to judge for yourself sometimes and when there's someone that can help provide that guidance and mental support, it could definitely help! Love you Freya and your chill DBD streams have been apart of my self-care and they are helping me get through uni 😊💚

[@ashleighj977]

I experienced this with uni and feeling doubt that I’m not as “smart” or “mentally strong” as my peers in regards to study etc and taking “a much needed break” (which was never ending) at exam times etc. I would lie to myself but you’re right deep down you know that it’s due to self destructive behaviour and doubt even if you don’t realise it at the time. I think setting a routine and small goals for yourself is something that’s helped me with this, and making sure my goals/routine are suited to myself and not what those around me are achieving/doing as making it focused on how I “should” be doing it( aka what everyone else is able to achieve) just worsens my self doubt and leads to more of the self destruction you mentioned. Your audience loves you though and will support you even when you are feeling doubtful of yourself and your abilities. Ps I love the jeans where are they from?

[@darrenhatfield4578]

Ashleigh J How did you focus on yourself and not your peers? I’m also studying at uni but, I’m literally going through the same situation. I’ve had a break over Christmas and now, I need to get back into the spirit to revise for exams. How did you get out of that mindset that you’re not smart enough to succeed with your course? How did you manage to push yourself that much further? I really hope you or anybody else responds to this Ashleigh and people! Thank you

[@taylorfio3581]

Definitely feel ya and completely understand what you mean, I tell myself this shit everyday. Especially with studying, I procrastinate so much but I think fear comes into it all the time. Love this video

[@thomasreek1583]

I 100% feel you. I'm an aspiring DJ/Producer and self-doubt and fear of failure make it difficult for me to get started on new projects, put music out there, and go after dj gigs.

[@katv2538]

This is one hell of a title geeeeeeeeez. We support you Freya! Excited to see what's to come for you 😊

[@amrelfallah7303]

I Don't Know What To Say Because Everyone Already Said Everything Good About You Except That I Watched Your Gaming Stream Because I Enjoyed 👍 Every Single Moment Of It ..Your One Of The Kinds People I Ever Saw And The Bravest Don't Gave Up No Matter What ...Thank You Freya So Much For Every Thing 💙I Hope You Feel Well 😇

[@arhetype]

I work a job with long hours and an irregular schedule and I'm struggling to be productive in the free time I have between shifts. I used to write some, do macrame or sew and now I just procrastinate and play games. I was much more productive when I had set hours and could work out a schedule and I think that could help you, too. Set a time during the day to stream, a day to film and edit, that sort of thing. Might help. Either way, I'm really glad to see you back and I hope and wish you a good new start to being on youtube again.

[@Maureenn_]

we always got you and support you ! love you frey💚 i relate tho i keep wanting to start youtube and streaming and i keep doubting myself so much. so i do relate.

[@JumbaLoveForLife]

we love you so much freya! You are a gem

[@whoiskiz]

Freya, true followers will wait the fakes won’t, look we don’t care how long it takes you to feel right we will wait until it’s right for you, you produce the best videos for us and it’s worth waiting for, we all love you Freya know that and you are so sweet, I met you at witc and I was over the moon, we will stay with you through everything ❤️

[@darrenhatfield4578]

Freya, I relate to this immensely. Being a uni student, I struggle between doing too much research/revision and too little. I struggle finding that balance! It fascinates me when I see people with that perfect balance. I have no idea how people manage their time so well. I try to do two hours every other day but, it normally turns into 10 one day then 20 minutes another because I literally can’t concentrate. So frustrating!

[@littleekayyy]

I think I’m going through the same thing, it’s hard to know how far I can go without doing something for a period of time and if it’s too much for my mind. I have saved this video because it’s very inspirational to me and I want to be able to come back to it. Thank you Freya 💜

[@AnaNSr]

You're an amazing streamer and person

[@rhyshawker279]

Yeah I’ve felt like this my entire life, basically since like the age of 8 I’ve not been the healthiest and it’s lead to me being fat for the majority of my childhood and now that I’m 21 I decided that it was enough and wanted to try and lose the weight I’ve gained throughout the years and every time I’ve gone to do that I’ve always said to myself well what’s the point, It’s never going to happen which has lead to me quitting every time. Even when I’d start a gym membership I’d always feel like I couldn’t go because people would laugh at me or I’d never do enough in there and it has really affected my happiness over the years. I have now decided that 2020 will be my year and I’m going to push myself to put in the effort and eat healthier and go to the gym more or at least just be more active and actually lose the weight completely! No more just sitting around and wishing I could do when all I need to do is actually do it.

[@gunnareichler1908]

you aren't alone. thank you for sharing this, I go through the same struggles.

[@emmanuelh674]

I think you should continue making videos of topics such as these, atleast consider it since it really helps alot of people, and yeah just push yourself to grind and work harder then it won't be so hard, to the point of liking it. No matter what we got your back Frey. 💚💚💚

[@katiecox5024]

i'm so happy you did this video man

[@sophie-pj8hc]

can't wait for next year and your full time youtube!!

[@shanicahaguirre2200]

I’m glad you told us and didn’t keep to yourself, who knows this might be the first step to getting better :) 🤍

[@FilippaW]

I needed this, thank you

[@mrcoconuts809]

It’s okay fam, as long as you find a balance of self-confidence and constructive criticism, you’ll be okay

[@lozamelia7075]

so much love for you frey, got you always beetch💚

[@KO4092]

It may seem you are the only one struggling and feeling this way but you really are not, there are many of other people feeling the same and im sure they are the very people watching this video. I'm always experiencing self doubt and no self belief which ive been trying to work on and im actually doing well. It takes time and always remember Frey you are not alone and I and the rest of of your audience will always have your back and support through it all x (Sorry for the paragraph)

[@TDallz97]

We’re always here for you Freya! ❤️

[@maddiehayes4200]

Love you,hate to hear you’ve been feeling like this but everyone knows your a strong gal

[@Finchy15WMT]

I feel the absolute same. Personally I think you being happy is the most important, I am currently in a shit situation with a depression and all that shit. last month I definitely learned that happiness is the best success, by far better than being rich or super successful with something like YT. So my experience tell me to set clear goals about what you really want very deep inside! and go for it.

[@kyleighmcclain8357]

You are such an inspiration to me Freya I admire your thoughts you have and everything you have to say, you are honestly such a beautiful woman on the inside and out, keep up the amazing content 💗

[@nima7386]

honestly can’t wait for the 2020 Freya uploads. i can see 1 mill subs coming your way and i’m not even reaching.

[@diorhowlett7709]

It’s is ok just try to remember to try and always be yourself and try and think on the positive and all yours fans will support you on your way and it is normal to worry just try and be you :) 💖

[@dania4056]

freya always remember to do what makes you happy.

[@kunthala8590]

I understand exactly what u mean, I find myself having similar thoughts when it comes to my A-levels & self care, I end up stressing my self over nothing half the time. Thanks u for this video Freya, least Ik I’m not alone on feeling like this ❤️

[@charlotteclipston9951]

Thank you so much for this video Freya it’s kinda helped me to realise stuff I love you ❤️

[@georgerobinson47]

Thank you for this, I needed it x

[@beth954]

I have never heard anyone talk about this before, thank you for sharing xxx

[@dominique7520]

I have learned from this just by being on both sides of the coin really. Ive grinded myself into the ground and burned myself out and learned that I shouldnt have pushed so hard but I've also not tried hard enough and wish that I had. Dont compare yourself to your friends I know its hard, I do it myself still, but just listen to your body and what it needs and you will know what is balanced for you ❤

[@retr0_208]

All of your fans believe in you and try to make you the best you can be ❤️

[@dragonborn2410]

freya i love your vids and they improve my day...if your reading this, just know u have a huge impact in my life ....keep smilin always..

[@fionafraser1620]

I feel you Freya. I work 2 jobs so that I can go and do the things I wanna do while I’m young, but it comes at a price in that I never see my husband I’m always tired and it really brings me down. I feel like our generation get labelled as being lazy, not working hard enough to get what we want and in a way working the hours I do is to keep everyone else happy. It’s so difficult :( I totally appreciate this video as you’ve just explained everything I’m feeling. Thanks Freya :) x

[@spareaccount2076]

i love you , thank you so much for speaking about this

[@DemiJessful]

i‘ve been struggling with a similar thing for the past year as well.. and it is a bit of a vicious circle because i think about what i could have done if i hadn‘t taken time off but at the same time it was necessary but overthinking makes me procrastinate more and worry more. aaah the mind is a crazy thing...