When my father died ... where did he 'go'? - Jeff Foster

[@steph4160]

Jeff, it is SO good to see you again and hear your lovely voice. Your videos are a soothing balm for my soul. Thank you.

[@victorvalkenburg238]

Thank you so much for the way you put this passing away of your father ... into words. Allthough I realise its very difficult to explain this proces into words. Our son died at the age of 18 caused by cancer , I experienced almost exactly what you are telling us. This time you are talking slowly enoughnot for me to understand almost everything you are saying....❤ I am very greatfull for this . I am a father ,talking about his son 😊

[@matthewgerwing6520]

You are loved Victor. And you are not alone.

[@SoZen08]

I had a very similar experience when my dad died. I wasn't there at the moment itself (he let go of life when no one was in the room). But I sat by his side on the day before and when he passed over, it didn't feel like he was gone. It felt as if his presence transformed and his essence was all around. I felt it was very much his own process. And that he never can leave me. As you said: present in the trees and all of nature again. In my experience, it was a beautiful transition.

[@DesertBloomVines]

Hi Jeff, I heard of you in one of Jim Carey’s interviews when he mentioned your view of depression. I’ve suffered from depression and anxiety all my life and it’s getting worse. I too lost my dad a few years back so I understand what you’re saying. This life is so hard and I’m constantly thinking about death and want to know what happens when we transition. I’m so tired of living that it physically hurts. Your videos are amazing, thank you.

[@juanplazas4593]

"Ramana Maharshi was dying, and a disciple asked, 'Where are you going? Why are you leaving us?' He opened his eyes, laughed, and said, 'Where can I go? There is nowhere to go.' Although this is beautifully true, we're still operating as a 'separate' self in Maya. I know my parents and me are ONE and we're just a projection, a dream. But I will still feel immense pain the day they're gone and afterwards 🥲🥲🥲 That's one of the reasons I don't resonate with neo-Advaita. There's not a sense of empathy for what we feel (yeah, I know there is no 'we' and this is just an illusion), but here I am struggling to live on a daily basis, and it hurts no matter what.

[@marija068]

Spirituality is illusion, life is real. My mom died about month ago, and I am devastated.. that is real. 💔🖤😭

[@nickibinski]

Thank you for sharing. Your description inspires me to exhale with complete relaxation into my true self with every breath.

[@TheBayAreaBackyardsBee]

Thank you for sharing the knowledge & wisdom. You are greatly appreciated 🙏🧠♥️☮️💯

[@2000Elisita]

Thank you Jeff! I loved this video very much!!

[@mariescieller4312]

Thanks very much, Jeff ! ✨💎❤🎉🙏

[@rooperautava]

I felt this "they were more there than before" after my grandmother died.

[@juliennenebig2798]

Merci Jeff 💝

[@Forestfairy_888]

Thank you, I do believe that we are love and we return to what we are ❤

[@pamchesler242]

I so relate to what you are saying and how you expressing it. I just lost my mother a few months ago to dementia and my father now is in the advanced stages of Lewy Body Dementia. The painful part is watching them decline and then the peaceful part albeit quite painful is when they take their last breath because it is a tremendous relief. Because you know now, they are peace ….❤ And my mother experienced trauma all her life it got passed down on to me, and that was the very thought I had was now she said peace, but I went there as a Hospice worker in my state and took care of her in the home that I grew up in . For five months, I physically took care of my mother, but in those five months we had closure and we connected and it’s just incredible how people are before they pass … In my case, my mother opened up like she never did my entire life, and she was kind, and she was loving, and she was appreciative that I was caring for her . It’s still so very painful. It comes and goes in waves. It hits me out of nowhere cause it was just a few months ago and now I face the passing of my father. It’s so difficult to physically separate but at the same time now that their soul was still within you and they are still alive but in a different place … It is difficult to put into words because in my mother’s final days I felt the presence of God all around us. It was extremely peaceful is the only way to describe it and at the same time, the physical of separation from her was very painful. It’s a paradox. I have heard that “about grieving being the equivalent of love from Elizabeth Kubler Ross, but I don’t know if she was the one who originally stated that quote

[@pip784]

Peace to you and your family. I recommend you this book called Kitab al-ruh by Ibn al-Qayyim Jawziyyah

[@abbefromru]

Maybe, it's not "he was present everywhere", but it came clear that (the thing that we use the word "presence" for) is now has him in total. Presence is all we have left from our beloved ones.

[@kenkaplan3654]

So I don't know the technology of the "other side" but I wonder the interrface between oneness and appearance of subtle form. A friend of mine died, a mentor, we were very close. She had a difficult death. So we were at the funeral, a very small gathering, I could not understand so little recognition for such a great soul. They asked me to play a song on guitar and I chose "Wayfaring Stranger". But I was pretty tense and agitated. Suddenly I felt her right above me and she sent this wave of peace down my entire body. I said "wait, we are here to mourn and think of you and YOU are sending ME healing energy? How bizarre was that?" At that moment I did not experience her (two days after her death) as a presence everywhere in oneness. I felt her as HER, as distinct with the sme energetic imprint she had while alive in form. This is not a contest or right or wrong because I don't know how these things fit together, but as a medium it seems to be almost universal. Is there a "focusing atribute" when necesary? Who knows? Beautiful evocation of your father.

[@113zorba]

well said

[@vegetablepolice1]

changed into the worlds energy

[@greensleeves7165]

But does the ocean *remember* the waves? I think this is in many senses, the KEY thing.

[@vegetablepolice1]

all you need is love❤❤❤

[@forestofechoes]

Jesus

[@deni0404]

🙏❤️🦋

[@renatakrystian3886]

❤

[@sillawatcht]

🙏

[@DirkMarcelis-p3e]

Hi Jesus

[@Dominic-d9c]

its strange the way tears come in the presence of beauty and how socially unacceptable they seem to be . it should be studied

[@silviagiesbertz4911]

Where did he go? From so many almost death experiences we know that we leave our body and go to the astrale worlds. They are near us. See us.

[@PetrieRobert]

And if the parent in question was an abuser or otherwise immature and incapable of fulfilling the role of parent? Take the case of my father. When he died, I felt nothing but a vague relief. In the decades following the old trauma is still there. There is no sense of love permeating as Jeff describes. It's interesting!

[@stevehalls9689]

Yes I understand your feeling. I felt bullied and terrified of my father. Weakened into people pleasing by him and my mother. When he died I had a big exhale and started to breath and feel safer. The idea that he is still here and all around me is far from comforting. I also lost a dear friend and mentor and would love to feel his presence. It's an odd thing to try and resolve. I suppose we can say that the parents inability to parent wasn't our fault, had nothing to do with who we are, that it wasn't personal. There are definitely some very messed up minds in this world. Just look at human history.

[@kenkaplan3654]

My experience as a medium is those who were abusers, not all of them but most, move into expansive remembrance and their essence pretty quickly. Generally they see what they have done and are deeply apologetic. My father was like your father and was extremely neglectful and abusive. I did reconcile with him very late in his life.about two wweks after he died. His second wife tried to seize his assets which triggered me badly. I had seen a female Guru that day and had an apple she had blessed.I was waliing in a park with a highly intuitive friend who was clairvoyant, She bit into the apple, went into a trance and saw my father right in front of me. She described him perfectly. She then saw him grt down on his knees crying and begging me for forgiveness for how he had treated me. It was one of the most startling expeiences of my life. Doing readings, this appears to be the norm for abusers, deep regret. It may be we merge into oneness burt there also seems to be a technology of accountability. Especially in "life review". I feel toward my mom the way you felt, disconnect. I too am still working out the trauma. Now i feel it is more on me than her and I have the tools to help dissolve it. But your process is your process. Hope this helps.

[@janetmcbride2020]

Beautiful description of passing over put into words. So many don't know the love of their Father like you describe .I did ..... even though my parents split up when I was 4 and my father became mentally I'll. I loved him and knew in heart he loved me . I wasn't there when he passed😢. Your compassionate description of you're Fathers last moments made me think differently Thank you ❤

[@robbiepeterh]

He’s dead He was never here But the hair always was, is and forever will be

[@sasac7385]

Is hitler also ever present with you then? in every tree? Every flower? I See what you meaning but its kinda self illusionary. That what you called dad, never existed.