Stop trying to love yourself! ;) - Jeff Foster on awakening to true self love

[@SteppingintoGrace]

So good! I went on a 20 year self love journey and taught thousands to do the same, until I finally saw the truth of my own error because, after all that time, I still could not do it! Acceptance IS Love🙏

[@moBashurov]

All good, but would not it be better to lowercase Love?

[@steph_burch]

Wow, you have no idea what a synchronicity this message is for me right now 🤯🤯… the pressure to love oneself is exhausting… I find the more I loosen my grip on trying to control the “negative” thoughts and feelings, trusting I am safe to be in the experience of whatever is arising the more I relax into peace and a natural state of love arises on its own… thank you Jeff!!💞🩵🙏 So many false light gurus out there preaching about needing to love yourself and leading ppl into spiritual bypassing often causing more damage and trauma to ppl 🥹

[@jesseweber3376]

Thank you for sharing. It's such a beautiful thing to love all aspects of yourself. It translates perfectly into loving every aspect of the world.

[@abbefromru]

Suddenly, my English is enough to understand each word. And my soul age is enough to accept the message. I think I should proceed with your channel.

[@moBashurov]

Soul age?

[@rick262]

Not every practice works well for everyone, and sometimes it's a matter of timing. The self-love practice was very powerful for me as it transmuted and transformed what nothing else seemed to touch, and it awakened something that I would describe as the universal heart. This changed my outlook, from the way I view other people to the way I view my circumstances and all of life. For example, it brought a beautiful felt sense of oneness with nature and an ability to see other people as innocent regardless of how they express. For myself, I would go so far as to describe it as a fundamentally important aspect of awakening. It's a different awakening than transcendence and oneness. A couple of important keys that I found to the practice of self-love: 1. Surrender. Don't try to use self-love to push things away or to try to force something to heal. Then the attempt to love will be stuck in ego and willfulness and will not have the power of the deeper love that proceeds from Source. 2. Be Unconditional. It doesn't matter how you feel or what you believe. Do the practice unconditionally. Do it no matter how you feel at the time and do it without any expectations of what it will accomplish. 3. If it doesn't reveal anything to you then just drop it and move on. Rest assured that there is a great power to the self-love practice and it's not just some new-age BS.

[@KiwikimNZ]

Me too. I was so damaged that I didn’t know how to love myself. But when I accepted myself and all my flaws as well as the beautful parts, green and peace followed ❤

[@eleinecoutinho2972]

Amazing! I haven’t watched your videos for years and I wasn’t consciously looking for this, but it was exactly the message I needed to hear. Just 5 minutes ago I was writing a letter to myself with a similar content. Then I felt resistance and saw myself ‘running away’ from it. In my running I encountered this video, which completed the message I was looking for. I choose to be the guesthouse. Thank you so much Jeff.❤

[@juanplazas4593]

'The guest house' one of the best analogies ever for Awareness🙏🏻🔥

[@moBashurov]

Would it not be better to lowercase Awareness?

[@xavier4uto]

I started a friendship with myself 2,5 years ago and after an question what haven’t I done. Friendship was one of them. I have a strange relationship with friendships in general, in terms of how to do that or how to be in that. So starting fresh together with HeartMath breathing (I was doing for 2 years) and came up with my own mantra ‘Hi’ what evolved to ‘welcome’,… it’s like a song, repeating the same word or frase. During my inner-journeys I became aware that when I’m fixing and trying to change it always came with the fact that I had to be wrong in the first place to say I need to fix or change. Now I’m approaching myself’s with ‘Hi’ having a beer around the fireplace and just being present. Boy oh boy what a change, without a change. I come across the cosmic joke at times and one of them is ‘I will never ever change’ how can I and why? Yes in this stage of life I’m just okay, nothing is wrong. So everyone is so busy with this whole ‘Now, here and being present, while not being aware that this is ‘IT’ and it is okay, it is somehow in balance with me in it whole-heartedly, right now as I am. Yes this thing about loving oneself is asking something that no human-being has been able to explain what Love is. So maybe friendship is a great start, I think so. It’s all about ‘from where do I start’ because if I don’t know where I am, how can I start from how I am right now. Self-care and mind hygiene is now part of my life. I also discovered that half of my questions where complete BS, all the outcomes of those questions would end nowhere or support me in any way chape or form. Just that alone gave me a lot of energy and space. The friendship with me is ever growing, evolving and it’s becoming more and more exciting and adventurous. I truly wish for everyone a great friend that is always with you to support and grow to the most connected version of you right now. Warm wishes Xavier

[@akatsukispiritual9723]

いつも愛のある動画を出して頂き、ありがとうございます😊 どんなネガティブな波も、愛という海に受け入れられている事。伝わりました💕

[@Dianevan.]

I have been on this inner battle for self-love for some time, infact I made it my purpose! When I didn't do acts of love towards myself, I felt guilty. I realised today I am attached to the guilt, and that is why I sabotage myself all the time, so my mind can feed of the guilt, so to speak. The art of letting go is harder than it looks when you know you've attached yourself to something earlier on in life and used it as a guise so no one else could do it. I didn't realise this till today. Thank you. ❤

[@jimosborne2]

Extremely insightful. Most of this self love hypnosis talk is spiritual bypassing. The task is to accept all of us - all our parts- and not to try to turn our darkness into light

[@moBashurov]

The "task to accept" may occur to be another catch. May it?

[@jimosborne2]

@mo: Probably. Life is full of catches. lol

[@davidalbro2009]

It's actually really simple. When you try to love yourself you are creating an aspect of yourself that isn't loving. If you loved yourself, then you wouldn't need to try to love yourself. You would just love yourself. Fortunately there is already a part of us that is always loving. This is the very part of ourselves that our ego distorts in order to love ourselves. When we aren't loving ourselves it is actually us trying to live ourselves through the filter of incorrect thinking. We learned early on that if we minimized ourselves and were self-deprecating, then we would experience love from others. The intention was pure: to receive love. The method was flawed. Everything we ever do we do because we believe it will benefit us in some way. If we didn't believe it would, then we wouldn't do it. It's that simple, and that's the core of us that is always loving. Get in touch with that easily found center and you will more easily be able to untangle the beliefs you hold that do not bring you the experiences you prefer.

[@mcluvin6557]

Man i was having a big anxiety attack rn and this is truly helping

[@lisamamajama]

Jeff, you have a way of speaking about the way life actually is, not trying to change but simply accepting and loving every aspect of what it is to be human. Thank you.

[@agnesbonnet4136]

So powerful, so loving, so free, so life enhancing, so true, thank you! Decades ago, I realised that the huge rage I felt sometimes was not my own creation, rage was at my disposal, and it surely had a function in life... cute insight! I do not remember who said that we are here as humans to experience everything that we are not as divine beings, an incredibly liberating statement.

[@deliadanielamatei7616]

We are all good like you are.All the meditations ,,let go of..?

[@sneha1207]

You are right. I used to think there was something wrong in me because I could not love myself the way they teach in videos or workshops.

[@דליהאליה]

😂

[@דליהאליה]

😅

[@blupatches3030]

Thank you beautiful being. This speaks to my soul, and tears just happened Bless your heart.

[@CoachPriyaRani]

I love you! You’re amazing Jeff. This has truly changed the way that I see life. It’s a calling from the divine feminine to integrate her

[@AliTwaij]

Brilliant. Yes i think it’s about accepting how things are within us. Getting to know them better. Being at peace with them. This awareness of them brings change too. So it’s a very interesting experience overall. You witness yourself develop. Beautful

[@AnnaKarenina23]

I think, instead of forcing to love yourself fully, it could start by accepting totally who you are. And from that point, start walking the steps towards what you want, meaning knowing yourself deeper, planning best things for you and start making changes with love and patience, understanding it is a process and it takes time and help.

[@justnow4846]

What a insight! I also judged the thoughts and emotion arise in me. But they are really just like clouds(guest) that comes and goes, its our mind try to capture them with judgments and even more thoughts. ..

[@JusticeInForgiveness]

I've been trying to love myself and it hasn't really worked, it's actually always immediately brought me to feeling worse, so there's something there. Dude, you are my new mentor.

[@steph4160]

Thank you from my whole heart, Jeff ❤🙏❤

[@alienoverlordsnow1786]

Thanks for sharing! Great talk Jeff! I agree 100%: Meditation is experiencing our actual experience and not just an ideal or pleasant, or self-lloving experience. Self love is a temporary mindstate and ungraspable and unsustainable. It shouldnt be the goal. Also, self-love doesnt make a lot of sence, when there is no self. Why focus on loving a deluded sence of self, when one can pursue the realization of the true self!? No need to love onself, just remove all of the delusions that result in self-hate and the hatred of pain. When the self-hate is gone, and when pain is accepted as natural and neccessary, then the suffering is gone, and then peace of mind can be experienced, no matter what thoughts and sensations are our guests at the present moment. Cheers!🙂❤👍✌💯

[@LONDONFIELDS2001]

Heidegger put in an amazing way. one of the most profound statements written, in my view: ""We don't come to thought. Thought comes to us."

[@christinec4156]

What made me love myself was surrendering, letting go & i stopped chasing the self help endless cycle, also what helped was coming off all social media & do things I love read,sing, music write, create, cook, spend time in nature, spend time with my family, kids, do kind gestures & also love listening to Sarah blondin especially her heart minded on audible 👌

[@joaquinlopezdegea5052]

Thanks a lot for this wonderful video

[@jacquelinegilmour8856]

Suppression our emotions is were the danger begins ❤

[@moBashurov]

Or is this suppression another experience to look at?

[@Arkankraft]

I want to say thank you to you. Because i come from an Jim Carrey Interview about Depression. And that Deep Rest thing is simply brilliant. Thank you that i know that now because of you and Jim Carrey the funniest Comedian ever for me thank him for his movies and Humor too. Maybe you can tell him and it helps him feel better. Like he makes me feel better in my Depression without Money to make me happier. ❤✌️

[@lisaduhrssen7741]

I think it's more valid to not compare yourself to anyone else

[@cherylwilsherlimberlife7210]

Thank you, building, radical self acceptance and self compassion

[@marmarc464]

Finally, someone who makes sense. Im 54 and have been in recovery for a few years and the amount of people who Have it so wrong, yet seem to have it all right. Or sound / look like they "GOT IT" And by their consistent talk of getting or finally knowing self and loving it, is BS

[@jacquelinegilmour8856]

Being human it to exspress and experience every emotion even if its just to feel it inside Thank you

[@hanne1606]

Thank you so much ❤

[@kareemmohammed5270]

resonates, much appreciated Jeff for your insights.

[@nowbeing1]

Its even simpler. You are love.

[@moBashurov]

No, you are not.

[@zhennilin5794]

So powerful Jeff ❤

[@melindakenton8307]

Thank you for sharing this poem, it really was insightful for me x

[@patricia-sz1kj]

Thank you Jeff! You’re the real deal! I enjoy sharing your words of wisdom…. I don’t know if you read the comments here or not. But for whatever reason, I absolutely HATE the word love😢 I wish I truly understood the word love. So many different meanings but in today’s world that word is everywhere. I honestly don’t ‘feel’ love. I assume I’m at war with myself because I haven’t gone deep enough into my shadow 😢

[@Julesyoutoo]

I feel for you. Love is a feeling and not a thought.

[@patricia-sz1kj]

Love is what everyone on this planet is. Pure consciousness. I have a form of dyslexia which makes it very difficult to express myself clearly. I’m going through one of the most difficult phases of my life. I was very annoyed when I wrote that…. And it didn’t come out very well. I adore Jeff. It wasn’t about anything he was saying

[@Julesyoutoo]

@@patricia-sz1kj Thank you for sharing your feelings. I, too, am going through one of the most difficult times of my life. Sending you my very best wishes, Patricia, and here's trusting that things will get a little bit easier for us soon. xx

[@patriciagonzalezschutz2929]

So relieving, I understand now, thank you so much.

[@freshkoolaid]

yes, no need to accept or reject the current moment ... just acknowledge it as the starting point to accurately map out direction to your desired distination.

[@judithkahn7143]

Thank you so much Jeff😊

[@kobalt77]

Thank you Jeff , this is very helpful :)

[@kareemmohammed5270]

much appreciated Jeff.

[@henrike34]

I love your hair, Jeff 🥰 I’d love if you had none, too ❤

[@JulieSilverTheVitalityFairy]

Great video Jeff. Totally resonated and it’s what I have been feeling for many years ❤😍😇🧚‍♀️💫

[@agnieszkapiskorska3153]

Thank you!Short but do great!

[@mariaclemente2930]

Thank you just knowing that there is no one ❤

[@Eatgrass10001]

Thank you for sharing this perspective. I'm struggling with self love most of the time, when I'm doing "self love" things I always judge my actions. How do I deal with someone who hates themself? Should I just leave them with their thoughts or what can I do to make them less hate themself?

[@laurencem6448]

Ho, thanks. It makes me think of a book I read one day where it was mentioned that God asked questions to those who came to him. In fact, it was certainly something metaphysical since it talked about revenge, anger etc. And he listened to his guests who wanted to sit on the throne and to their pretensions. Each time he refused them because he wanted only intelligence coupled with wisdom to reign. I ll will question who want to move my body mind... Thank you for this reminder!.

[@charlesdenny3318]

Thank you, Jeff.

[@KaSi-y2y]

... and so we become the observer of our thoughts. No identification with them

[@SerpentLightDrums]

Self-love isn’t something you just have-it’s something you earn. Start by fixing your morning routine and eating clean. Morning discipline and a healthy diet alone can make you feel better about yourself. If you’re stuck in addictions like gaming or overeating, it’s because you’re avoiding yourself. That pain you feel is a signal-it’s Love calling you back to who you truly are. Align with your passions, face the pain, and let go of distractions. Then, have compassion for yourself-like a mother nurturing her child. When you start living a life that aligns with your true nature, it’s like shedding an old skin. Self-love stops being something you do-it becomes who you are.

[@sueyoung2839]

Thanks for this, love it

[@ohadvik]

Thank you for the reminder ❤❤❤

[@cordulakagemann5091]

thank you! ✨🙏✨

[@elizabeth_of_lore]

I feel like we are in the same vibration right now - thank you for this mirror

[@moBashurov]

Vibration? Are you kidding?

[@elizabeth_of_lore]

Invite them through the door laughing 💜👽💜🤣🤣

[@weareallstars1267]

I was considering to attend a workshop on self love in 2 days. Something was keeping from pre-paying and your video came up. Is it divine synchronicity? Maybe. You have helped me realise that I do love myself I just keep fighting and judging me when i do something that i know it's wrong for me. But that's ok, cause sometimes we make mistakes and that's how we learn. Thank you!

[@RitaRosado-zv8ce]

Thank you❤ for this.

[@AaronMichaelHatefi]

Wow this was so helpful thank you This resonates with me a lot

[@SJ_Waves]

❤ helpful

[@goodnatureart]

Way to grow Jeff. Nice way to break down the idolatry.

[@jacquesboutelet8643]

Je t’aime Jeff ❤

[@Kimoto504]

Like so much, we tend to have the worst, most false definition of the best, truest things. Love and Loving oneself is probably the top instance of this. We see "love" as favor (bias toward), conditional allowance, spoiling (not caring), and just not being ugly towards (while keeping it as an option depending on conditions). It's really just accepting and opening the heart towards, which sounds simple but is very much against our collect late western conditioning.

[@catiegeidl853]

Wonderful, thank you!😍❤️

[@aasevallevikhjukse1403]

Thank you, this is so good.

[@AlmaNaturaleza]

Lovely video❤

[@tony1007]

thanks! Love you brother!!

[@ashleegoodrich513]

❤love this. Thank you

[@rocio9845]

❤❤❤gracias, gracias, gracias.

[@RavaAtto]

أكثر الناس لايعرفون معنى حب الذات وانا كنت واحدة منهم اعتقد بسبب معلمين التنمية البشرية الذين فهموا الناس بأن حب الذات هو أن احب نفسي وأفضلها على الكل لكني بعد قراءة كتاب مرداد للكاتب ميخائيل نعيمه فهمت معنى حب الذات وهو عندما تحب الجميع بغض النظر جيدين أو سيئيي يعني احببت ذاتك لاننا كلنا واحد الله يمطر سماؤه على الأخيار والأشرار (لأنكم ماأحببتم إنسانا او شيئا إلا احببتم فيه ذواتكم ولا كرهتم إنسانا او شيئا إلا كرهتم فيه ذواتكم) كتاب مرداد

[@anniecouillard482]

Thank you ❤...

[@samstaker230]

Timely ❤

[@JoD279]

Thank you ~

[@MatschinHandstand]

Thank you :)

[@darrendavis2933]

Loving yourself becomes automatic when you live in a way that is true. How can you kick your dog and practice self love.

[@mgn1621]

Spiritual bypassing….avoiding the unpleasant emotions and parts of ourselves.

[@RetoBuri]

beautiful

[@pritirobynross8870]

just joined your latest workshop on disappointment 💥💥 Jeff, Are u gonna talk about the biggest distraction of all!!??? TIME ON OUR PHONES and SOCIAL MEDIA please???💥💥

[@cherylwilsherlimberlife7210]

Then... we need to understand what our body needs

[@KellySnow]

Please do a video on being heart broken….im just so heart broken idk it’s all it boils down to finally and loving yourself I keep trying but it’s not working so…please do a video on just being heartbroken

[@nathaliea.9953]

Maybe don't try to love yourself... Maybe let yourself feel what you feel when you feel heartbroken. Let whatever you feel be what you are feeling right now. Feel the sadness, the grief. Or feel the resistance to feel if this is where you are. Begin with where you are.

[@malcolmmax2989]

Thanks

[@Haishingwa]

Sometimes my guests get in fights with each other 😂

[@moBashurov]

Your comment is quite unique - everybody is SO serious in all other comments. Love you joke.

[@sarahjohnson1248]

What do you do if your guests go too far and say really hurtful things to you or things get heated and you hurt people. How do you deal with that situation.🖤

[@Bsowow]

🙏

[@jannie6359]

Maybe change it to "Appreciate Yourself", because i know damn well anyone watching this is a good and mostly kind, human being. Really. I know that . Even if i may l never know you

[@Astrobiomancy_Energy_Healing]

First realize that there is no one to love. What we think of as "ourselves" or even "parts of us" are just mental constructs. Without thought they all disappear, and so does the sense of a separate self. There is only creation, which is love, so just be that.

[@renatakrystian3886]

❤❤❤

[@naturelover1284]

"where's your husband, what happened, where is he now, whose he with, is your mom married, lets go over your kids and their relationships starting with females, how old are you and them...." this is what most "creatures" are once they are set to the grave, they pick you apart at work while you strive to survive. no do not welcome them and learn to deflect

[@annahenderson4127]

❤

[@tatianapassosterapeuta]

❤

[@awayene8626]

I do not agree. You can observe dark thoughts but not wellcome dark thoughts at your table. If you wellcome dark thoughts they will take power on you in your home. The same if you deny them. Just observe the reality and then act. It's difficult. You must be a tiger.

[@XenosFiles]

Are you 25 or 45?

[@ginahellyer3880]

No ..don't welcome the guests of evil ...they don't leave! Only Jesus can send evil packing You haven't had to deal with evil obviously

[@moBashurov]

What you, Jeff, seem not to welcome to your Guest House are mind games. But wait a second-are they not a part of the experience, guests as they are? Are you welcoming the ones making the person fake and artificial?

[@Oceanolibero]

Ma c’è bisogno di leggere se si parla della propria esperienza? Il risveglio è capire che non esiste un io nostro e nemmeno degli altri.

[@mikeregan3265]

Your own failure need not apply to others.

[@shanegilberthill]

This is so sad......just love yourself, you don't need to listen to nonsense like this.

[@OsvaldoBayerista]

the only sad is you thinking it is sad because you don't understand the concept

[@Barbara-gv2vw]

Yet one can judge oneself for not loving oneself, so it ends up being a negative spiral: self compassion makes more sense! So it’s not that simple!

[@JoKempt]

...hm... Sadhguru explain this similar way, interesting... hm.... I need another 200 years to ponder about this "topic"... or maybe not... I wonder...

[@moBashurov]

Right from his pink Cadillac?