When Positivity Becomes a Parenting Problem

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👉 In this eye-opening video, Teal Swan exposes the dark side of positivity in parenting. While positivity is often seen as desirable, "positivity parents" can inflict severe damage by using it to avoid painful realities. By creating a fantasy "overlay reality," they emotionally abandon and gaslight their children. The child is left alone in pain, unable to get their emotional needs met.
This can lead to major problems like self-harm, addiction and suicidality. Teal shares a poignant example illustrating how toxic positivity parenting plays out, with devastating impacts on the child. A must-watch for anyone who wants to understand this crucial yet under-recognized parenting pitfall.
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[@Theodoric3]

I hear you talking to us genX folks, I do love you because you make me realize what happened to me. I do feel some of the same feelings.

[@seanlicht6083]

RAWWWWWW YES... good vibes only is bad. it is ALWAYS BALANCE you never learn if you arent questioned. you never learn if you are restricted to death. balance. all things in the universe teach this. it is the common denominator.

[@kellydawn1432]

This is my mother. 100% Thank you for this video. Thank you for your wisdom. Thank you for giving me hope. 😭😭😭

[@specialstar111]

Teal Swan never said she knows everything, that she is God, she is a human being like the rest of us. She never claimed to be perfect or better than anyone. She has positive and negative traits,archetypes and shadows. She is a person like most of us, and off course we dont give our energy away for free. This is her work,and she is dang good at it,we all get money for the work we do! I know a narc when I see one,I got a pretty good radar for that. She is not a narc or a psychopat. She has the right to be angry,hurt and everything just like others. Cudos to Teal for putting so much effort and energy to spread and share all the wisdom she has. Did you guys know that ALL lightworkers became that,because we were traumatised as kids. Yup thats a fact. Another fact: Nobody does as much shadow work as us! RESPECT!

[@Ronald-u5i]

Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.

[@Carol-r7v]

Its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 5 years ended, but i couldn't just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back.

[@Ronald-u5i]

Intriguing! I'm curious, how did you find a spiritual counselor, and what's the most effective way for me to reach him?

[@Carol-r7v]

Meet Owen Abiola, a renowned spiritual counselor acclaimed for his talent in bringing back ex-partners.

[@Ronald-u5i]

Thank you for this valuable information.

[@Carol-r7v]

Dr Owen abiola is a very powerful man

[@MarkAble8]

The world lives in overlay. Individuals are living in overlay, a programme from the external influences. Very few people on earth are internally governed.

[@pr00009]

yup...

[@mountainspirittribe161]

Thank you for pointing it out ❤🙏🏼. Not being able to attune to the needs of a child is a serious stuff. Even worse, to deny their own reality. Some might be using negativity as well, as a coping mechanism. Not being able to see how the child feels is unfortunately too common. When we accept our own pain, it is easier to see and recognise the pain of others.

[@lushgreenbean]

Positivity is also misused in law of attraction so often as I heard/ seen

[@queserasera87]

💯

[@Elizabethpepper8]

You hit the nail, Teal. It's my life story. Exactly what i concluded after spending almost 3 years isolated, confused, and completely broken. Ives been piecing myself back together alone, and its been a living hell

[@shreeyasahu1731]

I see this pattern in many people who come from, as I call it, the "sugar-coated" families. They always have to see some kind of good/sweet/positive side of things and follow the herd that also holds the same mentality. Instead of seeing the apparent flaw in something, they would instead persuade others to be 'positive'. I used to hate these kind of people...maybe I'm still critical of them but atleast I got to understand them. Thanks to you!

[@miha39688]

I was born into this type of family. My pain was never acknowledge , Luckily pain from real life push me too look at dark side of life. When you are in the state of "always positive" you are always afraid people to judge you if you judge others, all you need is someone to be around you without put pressure too pretend, just other person presence that there is no need for competition who is better human being. Is terrible, because you just want to be accepted, but in your family you were only accepted if you ACT like "everything is super great. Its destroy you from inside out and you left with nothing and alone. + The people who are interesting for are ussually the one who have no morality to abuse your lack of connection you get double down on life. For everyone who find in that situation I recomending you to embrace your hate towards people who hurt you, that will help to destroy unhealthy connections and bring you peace and strength to your soul.

[@Paula-ho9id]

This is my mother. The way she's made me feel growing up and still makes me feel today is like a living hell because I feel so damn isolated, in a parallel reality. I described to my therapist not too long ago that growing up I felt like I was in a river full of crocodiles and that they were eating me alive, while my mother was on the outside of the river looking at me and smiling at me and telling me to look how pretty the sun was today, and the grass and the butterflies. That's how my mother has always made me feel. Thank you so much Teal for making this video, and make us who have lived this reality feel seen and understood. Thank you 💜

[@colleencondon1991]

As a mother and a daughter, this insight is so valuable. Painful and invaluable. Such an important reminder for me to attune to my sons over all else and then I can know the right next steps. And such helpful guidance for me in my self-work and resolving past experiences. Thank you for this clear and direct video.

[@TheeStarQueenDrea]

I’ve experienced this in my life with my own children when I first awakened and tried to use positivity to cope with my life…thankfully I’ve become aware of this and am working to be attuned to my children’s actual experiences and even if it’s uncomfortable to feel, facing it and co-regulating with them. This is such a helpful video and I’m amazed at the wealth of knowledge and wisdom that come from Teal Swan 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@AfionFada]

My parents delusional positivity makes me sucidal quite frankly. They completely dissmiss the real me by denying their own feelings. Gotta love the scapegoat life 😂

[@davycrockett8886]

It's only delusional if they fail to see, accept, and acknowledge the problems. That's probably your situation. 🙄 It must be painful for them to accept the problems. Everyone has different levels of pain tolerance.

[@EtsukoAmi]

Makes me kinda relieved that my whole family is full of grumps lol

[@KweenAzaa]

at least they don't Overlay' ....lol

[@Misslotusification]

@@KweenAzaa They do, actually... Even when things are ok, or neutral, grumps' default setting is (overly) critical, and by focusing on the negative, they're narrowing their vue on reality, creating lenses through which they experience life. It's just the other side of the coin, really.

[@xhanametz4422]

😅😅😅

[@EtsukoAmi]

@@Misslotusification unfortunately that's true 😅🤣 I've become someone overly sensitive to criticism and developed a praise kink 🤣

[@Misslotusification]

@@EtsukoAmi Good to notice, very good.

[@davycrockett8886]

I agree with this, but positivity in the face of the reality of a problem is a very healthy attitude imo. Acknowledge the negativity and also look to the positive in the problem.

[@helenpauline7]

I'm guilty of this. Bypassing and disconnecting from pain. Going through the pain to get through the pain. Time to evolve from the past powerlessness.

[@jjdiambrini-palazzi]

You are clearly someone capable of growth - thinking ability

[@koalaed]

I hear you. Me too. This is very timely as I come out of my healing cocoon. You’ve got this. And me too. Feel the fear and do it anyway 💖

[@infjness]

This is so painfully accurate.

[@christyfig]

That was my life growing up. Teal you are changing future generations thank you for your work ❤

[@Francisays]

This is something that runs in my family 😕 it’s painful sometimes when talking to them. In fact it has led to dysfunctional relationships and emotional neglect. I’ve been working on myself in the past year on the damages this has done to my mother and others.

[@katieandnick4113]

Teal is so spot on, except for when she says people, including small, totally helpless children, are CHOOSING to do this or that. If our survival and/or sense of security depends upon our ability to deny reality, we are not making a choice to deny it. I mean, I guess we could choose to die, but that’s very much against our nature, so I wouldn’t say it’s a viable option.

[@Noraa893]

Always remember who says it. Teal believes life itself is a choice, she comes from a different perspective.

[@BeckyJB]

I swear she made this video for me when I needed it the most 😂❤❤❤❤

[@ThatGirlKay]

so true, almost brought me tears. As woman we really have to do that self healing to bypass this❤

[@Xianne027]

Good point! Thanks for covering this subject, Teal 🙏

[@kristinasolen4053]

This is exactly about my foster aunt parent and her husband.

[@kostapapa1989]

If believing she is an angel sent from heaven is an overlay then also believing you are a starseed or sent by aliens must be a coping mechanism. No ?

[@michaelselz3389]

No. If you don’t believe why are u here ?

[@kostapapa1989]

@@michaelselz3389 Well Teal does not believe either. She just said the girl fantasizes she is an angel and that is toxic positivity. So it is a very logical conclusion to say what I asked. Other supernatural beliefs that even adults have may as well be overlays and coping mechanisms created for making them feel good. It is just a reasonable conclusion based on Teal's claims.

[@mv-id2uj]

Yep.

[@soulinlove369]

🐲 could there not be both possible at the same time? Both perspectives are valid for me; coping as well as world's we are not used to perceive, since our senses only can interpret around 3% of the possible frequency bands of energies... as science likes to portray officially 😂 was wondering if 🤔

[@kostapapa1989]

@@soulinlove369 sure, we don't really know where the limits of reality vs nonreality lie !

[@leiaduring3512]

feel like you just told my story. glad to hear this is a thing.. a thing we can work on

[@juliemt1117]

I started to struggle with panick attacks due to my high amount of isolation, and from my mom I would simply hear "you got it from your father" 😂😂😂

[@michaelselz3389]

How the hell does isolation cause panic attacks? I’d think the opposite makes wayyyyymore sense

[@satdaya]

@michaelselz3389 No. Isolation is one of the quickest ways to make a human go crazy. That’s why they use isolation as a form of punishment in prison systems. When a person feels alienated and alone within their family or community they are alone even when they are with other people. They are always isolated. Even a few weeks of isolation can lead to depression, anger, cognitive disruption, paranoia and obsessive thoughts, and psychosis. Prolonged isolation can lead to long term mental health issues. If this person’s body and psyche are always registering that they are alone even when they are surrounded by people, it makes a lot of sense that they would be having panic attacks. Imagine if you were screaming and bleeding out in the middle of a crowd and no one even looked up or acknowledged you dying on the floor in front of them. That’s the experience they are having, that’s what triggers the panic attack.

[@joanna0988]

​@@michaelselz3389 Seriously? Humans are tribal animals, we do not do well in isolation.

[@michaelselz3389]

@@satdaya I live alone and try to stay as isolated as possible and it’s amazing. Being around people makes me angry and pissed off like I want everyone to die. Being alone makes me feel zen and relaxed, happy, calm, and overall amazing and free. What u just described makes ZERO SENSE.

[@michaelselz3389]

@@joanna0988 speak for yourself.

[@_timurguseynov]

Thank you, Teal, great video as always!

[@pallinagialla97]

Such a bomb this content 🤯. I really needed to listen to this before making mistakes

[@thegrayfortress8788]

I've always been the problem in every relationship - and believed it - Until I learned to listen within to every part that needed to speak. Avoidant and frightened we are still working on becoming complete after starting this process when we let go because we couldnt work anymore in 2011 - The better it gets, getting ready to be ready, all begins within, mindfulness and patience are now daily practices along with leaarning to listen to all our parts has given us new moments of clarity so we could release old programming. - Now we only have ourselves and we hope to find a life partner who has some patience and can show us they can hold themselves accountable for all their parts as we are now doing. - You can do this brothers and sisters in spirit. - Thank you Teal -

[@torezalexander3697]

Gratitude ❤

[@simonesommer8895]

Love having these videos! Would be great to have more solutions presented rather than analysis the wrongs, please... xxx

[@TheStarrySky-sb9df]

Analyzing the wrong is necessary to give you awareness to what is the root of the issue, and that’s where healing happens

[@jaimyklever4574]

Omg. This is my grandma to a T and she legit is still in this head space while my dad is in prison for murder

[@arinavogelbacher7262]

Thank you so much for your inspiring videos, Teal&Team 😊 for me it would be helpful to hear examples also of how things would be done right to get an even clearer picture

[@evadebruijn]

I cannot thank you enough for todays video and this one. Somehow I could not write a comment under todays video (on toxic positivity) To me the most dangerous toxic positivity people are the insidious, wolves in sheeps clothing people, regarding themselves as highly spiritual but it is all spiritual bypassing which is an incredibly lonely and painful and crazymaking experience, but, you cannot put your finger on it! And yes it comes out as symptoms of mental illness! No wonder antidepressants and therapy never worked. If karma says children chose the parents to incarnate then karma says as well that these gaslit children will burn bridges to a parent if that is in the best interest of their mental health. ✌️

[@Brutarii]

i hate that i had a feeling my parents were like this, before i was sent this video or ever looked into this type of stuff.

[@Marisolcym]

Thank you!

[@vikramsinghparmar9946]

Teal you're a Goddess ❤ Just realising that you exist gives me joy❤

[@The-Oneness11]

How do you stop being positive if you have been doing it so long?

[@valedro]

You just described my life and my relationship with my mother. ☹️

[@ЯнаБ-ы5е]

Love you Teal , you are the best 🎉❤ thanks for opening people's minds for more than a decade

[@sophiependragon2467]

Thank you for this video, it really helped ❤

[@owenL]

1) Teal S is a ‘one-(wo)man remedy’ for Humanity. This video is SO insightful and relevant and healing on a macro-scale. And it’s one of many many many. 2) I was on a membership forum for Gigi Young and for simply posting Teal’s astonishingly good Parental Alienation video I was thrown off the website and club. CANCELLED! 🤷‍♂️ 😮

[@starr404]

Powerful message.

[@brunolima8506]

AAAAAA !!! parents create kids to be loved its so simplistic that it match, a kid to serve and do has they say. What better occupation after retirement its like to play their own Big brother game.

[@evandroredfield4421]

Teal Swan just explained why I am such a loser with no hope

[@hectorignacio-nx1dm]

are you a motherless soul with absolutely no father worth his or her salt?

[@kal9th]

I love the shirt Teal the frequency joy painting ❤

[@animegirl16091]

I was supposed to live up to my moms expectations/fantasy of a perfect daughter i could never live up to it. I was addicted to video games, cartoon and anime its where i felt safe and forgot about my painful reality of it being boring and hateful parents fighting all the time then they take it out on me when i just started to mind my own business as a got older and complain that i dont engadge with them.

[@soulinlove369]

🐲 Sorry to read that, my parents hm ... when they finally divorced, well it was good! and I counted for that with thanks as a 8year old. Since my dad was not good with my mom together, abusive alcoholic and unfortunately both were very toxic at that time and further. Seeing him as being more menacing than her... so I went with her, while they both tried to make me take sides; well that did not go well and at 17 I had to sue him for aliment. Best part was, when I was not reaching the false expectations of my mom, I was compared to my father as nice reminder. Sorry for i did not want to bother you with my crap, just wanted to give some examples, that might eventuall help by relating. The best advice I can fathom here; I can forgive but I do not forget, put in perspective there is some understanding for them. And the love for the better parts of them. That remains after their path here in this world ends. It will help me raise my child more aware as good as humanly possible❤️. My grams o copium 😅 . Best wishes to you 🙏🏻

[@truthseeker2248]

​@@soulinlove369 Nah your comment is appreciated, helps to see things from different perspective. Sorry you had to grow in such bad circumstances. wish you well

[@arianasha]

BRILLIANT TEAL ! Thank you..

[@hectorignacio-nx1dm]

Bravo! After ten years of contemplation it has been deemed that you are, indeed, the most beautiful human ever. Signed, the most ugly person North of the Rio Grande. ❤

[@clarily-561]

Please make more videos about parenting ❤️ thank you for this though-provoking video

[@veronicapryor-faciane2244]

Grand Rising Queen Teal!!

[@RLDRemembrance]

I love this video, this has been my tirade on Facebook the last 48h and it doesn't get to feel that much better...

[@idaliamainello7709]

Can you do a video like this but with autism. Or an updated video about autism. I have 3 autistic boys and have been struggling trying to find the how and why and what is best.

[@tribalkoala]

I love you Teal Swan 💕 TeAlAyLiN 4EVER!

[@MargheritaOrsoPletti]

Ouch this hits right home 😅

[@ZenSpencer-eo4vg]

Wow love this and everything I have watched so far.❤

[@inglestherightway]

Gosh, I just looooooooooove Teal!

[@ZENergyTarot]

Realism over optimism.

[@melissavalentine9771]

Yes🎉 it dismisses their true feelings

[@AfionFada]

Forever truth-seeking 💪

[@LeahBreHappy]

@@ZENergyTarot positivity and optimism are not the same. Acknowledge the emotions going on and don't just dismiss them with positivity is what Teal is saying. She never said "be real not optimistic" she's saying that ignoring the situation and not addressing the reason for why your kids are upset is toxic!

[@0wenfox]

Thats so funny I just made a big post about positivity today! Thanks Teal❤🙏😇🌟

[@Yes-bk9cl]

In Geopolitics - "toxic positivity" - is related to something called "Hopium" - e.g. "Stay passive" - because Trump will save us!"

[@danielnickerson5561]

I feel as if everyone does this in society! They compromise and live in a delusional state! For example let's say they I wake up this morning and decide I am going to care anymore and act as if stuff can't hurt me even though the trauma and pain still exist!

[@carlosvonderheyde]

Thanks

[@seykai]

Thank you Teal!!!!

[@kloassie]

I thought this was gonna be a video about how children grow weak when the parents are too 'positive' towards their wants. Like continuously giving presents and candy and treats and rephrasing every error the child makes to something good (or at least 'not very bad') and always shielding the child from all consequences. By which the child will grow up to be like Cartman, or worse - a snowfake

[@sabionmiller6464]

I seems as though children have to be the bigger person in situations their parents rule. Directly contradicting them being child so a like solution is growing up faster if possible. That’s not always easy if there small. How do we not get squashed (when they were 15 they didn’t have phones & now they think this is we need) there has gotta be physical child necessities with actual consequences if not met because we have to thrive with them & they can all agree on that. Also once again you’re awesome & I don’t mean to stress you out

[@shorakhajavi1178]

Thank you for this video Teal!🙏♥️🫂

[@colebeardshaws4634]

I had this in my first relationship. Hellish

[@swagsukeuchiha7599]

Im hypnotized by you

[@SammyVideoPlex]

Love you Teal you look beautiful in yellow ❤

[@Ibeturhot42069]

Why is it that your videos makes me feel homicidal towards my folks? Like, I know I've been through some stuff but I should be over it by now. Instead I'm still grinding my axe and I can't let what happened to me go. I've tried self help, I've tried therapy, none of it makes the hate go away.

[@mv-id2uj]

Unexpressed and unwitnessed rage? And or other suppressed emotions? Also, if you live with or live near people that have hurt you before then it's natural that you will be somatically triggered.

[@0wenfox]

❤

[@Notavlogger817]

BTW you look amazing Teal

[@Bastet32]

Brilliant.

[@inglestherightway]

But I wish she had also talked about the child who does make herself to fit the parents parallel reality and becomes a full-on neurotic like them...

[@rodrickbel7555]

Thank you

[@harrystadier8005]

It seems like a problem of not being able to be the parent of the inner child in some of these adults. As Sigmund Freud would probably say it started as children with the ego construct

[@edwardbarnhart1698]

She’s been swearing at me for hours, and saying she can. You decide.

[@amymartin7272]

Again, there is a willful denial of the Socio-Economic factors that are a discriminatory hardship.

[@selmasvast9911]

I love your videos, they helped me face my emotions, but I hope to see some more fun recipes food preparation .

[@benjaminbleacheriii1724]

👂♥️👂 the paths need to cross in order for the magic to happen 🤔♥️

[@jesslaughs408]

This is teals real life story about her and her mom

[@brunolima8506]

Grateful .

[@underwaterlilies]

Damn.

[@dameanvil]

- 00:00 ❗ Positivity isn't always beneficial and can be toxic. - 00:15 👨‍👩‍👧 Parental positivity as a coping mechanism can harm children. - 01:17 🛠 Recognizing and using positivity correctly is a valuable skill. - 01:39 🚪 Misused positivity, especially as a coping mechanism, can lead to denial of reality. - 02:03 🧠 Some parents create a positive overlay to escape their own painful childhood experiences. - 02:46 🎭 Example: A child pretends to be an angel to cope with an abusive household. - 03:59 🔄 Children create positive overlays to manage powerless situations, which can extend into adulthood. - 05:13 ⚠ Using this coping mechanism as a parent leaves children in pain and alone. - 06:24 🔄 This leads to an intergenerational cycle of harmful coping mechanisms. - 07:01 🪞 Children are gaslit and abandoned in their painful reality. - 07:54 💔 Failure to recognize a child’s reality leads to severe emotional distress and negative behaviors. - 08:51 👩‍👧 Example: Bonnie’s coping mechanism leads to her daughter Chloe feeling abandoned and neglected. - 11:47 🚨 Bonnie's denial of reality exacerbates Chloe’s mental health issues. - 12:55 🌌 Bonnie’s positive overlay results in emotional neglect and a broken mother-daughter relationship. - 13:31 🌟 Key to good parenting: Attune to your child's reality and avoid coping through toxic positivity.

[@scottcox9108]

Hey kids Teal really wants you to ignore her, not join her. Victim mentality is the classic play and hand she pretends is necessary for her survival. Sit back and enjoy the calls from within You're not strong enough to actually win against positivity, soooo, Not even teal and her mechanisms Have a great day!

[@LeahBreHappy]

Did you watch the video? 😂

[@IAMHEATHER.C]

Hey Teal!!🥰

[@bAa-xj3ut]

Respect! 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌

[@Vinchinz]

I don't want this betrayal

[@lamanana6951]

👌

[@silverlining5796]

❤

[@pancechband7296]

Hezká kultivovaná žena

[@Nimwen]

Funny thing is Chloe grew up to be worse than Bonnie. Chloe grew up so detached from reality that she says things like : "people don't like me because I'm a powerful woman and people don't like powerful women." Whereas people don't like Chloe because she literally does not allow her employees to have children which is something her employee said on camera that she wishes to have kids but she can't because Chloe does not allow her. People also don't like Chloe because she's certifying dangerous people. People who abuse people's inner children and force their clients into sex. Just 2 examples out of MANY. But because Chloe is Bonnies daughter and apple doesn't fall far from he tree and she absolutely refuses to take responsibility over ANYTHING (except if it's something that boosts her image in public). Chloe is just as delirious and dangerous as Bonnie.

[@lalawhite9657]

Did you witness this firsthand or is it from a show?

[@ericramirez1438]

Hi Teal. Should I go?

[@CuriousCat_4]

Wait, in the example Bonnie knew about the sexual abuse of her daughter and chose to ignore it?? Or she didn't know? it's not clear, but it seems like it really changes things whether she knew or not...

[@Seamannon]

It doesn't really change that much, because even if she didn't know what exactly happened, she knew that her child "was very unhappy all the time" and she failed to find out why, because she already created a story for herself, that there's NO apparent reason for that unhappiness, so it's "just a phase". Nobody is expected to magically "know" everything, but there has to still be a responsibility and willingness to find out, to ask and to do your best to understand the other's perspective and the details of an issue. We can't just make assumptions about other people and pretend they reflect the truth, we have to ask, listen, understand, accept and address issues if we want to have meaningful connections with other people.

[@OharaChan-qk7uy]

Feel like you're given excuses to parents 🙂

[@Vinchinz]

I'm sorry we didn't work out

[@simonesommer8895]

How to respond correctly?

[@LeahBreHappy]

Acknowledge the pain, acknowledge the emotional situation and validate it. Unconditionally love all aspects of all the emotions your kids experience and validate how they feel. Sometimes my son freaks out so bad because his tablet turned off or something like that... I've found saying "that would be so hard and frustrating but we can fix it" this way doesn't dismiss him but acknowledges the situation.

[@visiochannel2]

objectivily observed this deniyng behaviour also makes the actual trauma or broblem to extend from it´s original severity . If some problem would be discussed or EVEN noticed when its at hand it more likely is muchs lesser then when it´s eventually gets SO big that that it´s existance can´t be denie-ed . when this realisation of some problem or trauma is covered over with a positive overlay , it will not make it disapear if it´s somethig that is observable with the senses or with more scientivig methods. If dad or mum has a alcohol problem the situation will be muchs worse over time .... or climate chanche ... if it´s not recognised . probably the ukraina russia conflict is also in this category of unsolved issues ... by the time they then ARE regocnised as a problem things have overtime got wors and wors and wors ... And then comes the realesation that if the thing had been observed and acted acordingly upon ones it appeared it had not mutated and got much more worce overtime when it´s a lot harder to dissolve ....

[@alexisscarbrough4083]

Wow, it's like religion stepped into a family. There's a level of delusion a person has to have to fantasize a savior coming to save and take them away from this miserable life and sinful world that surrounds them. The amount of real life reframing and delusion. It takes a lot of disassociation from reality to envision a loving father out of the one that's described in the Bible (it is definitely not loving, using threats to gain compliance and promises of relief and joy, but only after death). My mother was raised by an alcoholic father and enabling, complacent mother. She used manipulation to gain control with us kids, and when things got really tough, she turned to Christianity and became a zealot. For the first time, ever, she had hope -and she could continue to be as negative as she liked because the bible confirmed her reality & the world was evil and short lived. Having been suicidal since I was born and before, christianity offered her hope that life wouldn't last too long...