When’s the right time to meet your boyfriend’s kids? | Stepping Up: Meeting the Kids | Today

Meeting your boyfriend’s children for the first time can be an anxious and vulnerable process. In TODAY’s new digital series, “Stepping Up,” we sit down with stepmoms to learn how to make introducing children an easier experience for everyone.
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When’s the right time to meet your boyfriend’s kids? | Stepping Up: Meeting the Kids | Today

[@Be1smaht]

I love how respectful these stepmom are I'd like every one of them

[@Banks040]

I needed to hear this more then ever I have a 12 year old stepdaughter and sometimes I’m in a tough spot , raised her since she was 5 .. but this spoke volumes to me today so thanks for this guys 🖤

[@MissTaonesesaTiwanna]

How was it when you met her at 5?

[@optigana]

People, calm down. I think she means kids don't care if their parents are happy as in small children. Of course we all care about our parent's happiness, but when we're kids and specially kids from a separate household, we tend to want our parents all to ourselves and we don't want to share them to anyone. Also, at that young age we don't understand the happiness that comes from having a loving partner to share our lives with. At that age we see our parents only as that parenting figure and not as whole human beings with other needs beyond us

[@kaylanewbill3293]

I care of my parents are happy. My mom is my best friend. I hated it when she is upset or hurt.

[@gloriaramos6443]

I totally love your comment

[@kaylanewbill3293]

@@gloriaramos6443 thanks

[@Evilkitty64]

Yes! 😊 I appreciate your comment as well. I don't like when people make absolute assumptions about a group. All step kids are not going to feel the same way.

[@kaylanewbill3293]

@@Evilkitty64 I am not a step kid but I still care how my parents feel. My parents are still together. I stopped watching after she said kids dont care about how parents feel because it hurt.

[@avamooltrey]

My son is 6 and he loves when I'm happy 😊❤🤗❤

[@paulamariabarwick8817]

My boyfriends daughter is asking to meet me, she called me herself this evening inviting me for tea (she is 6 years old) help..!!!

[@maralinautube]

Children are very intuitive & diserning! That means she really likes you! Sometimes children intervene to actually bring the parents closer together when the parents don't have the wisdom to see certain things!

[@yougotnojams1894]

Why am I watching this I'm not even a stepmom, nor do i have kids or a boyfriend

[@gloriaramos6443]

Just in case 🤔

[@still_becoming]

Me too !

[@Harken4949]

Foreshadowing 👻

[@shacyrachoctaw4621]

🤣🤣🤣 Did you maybe have a stepparent growing up?

[@TheAsh-hole]

This video is nice and all, but the title is very misleading. The video is clearly about how to approach step-parenting and has little to do with simply meeting the S/O’s children to begin with.

[@serryjeinfeld4864]

I think the different perspectives were given because there isn’t a cookie cutter answer. Family is complicated and one method may not one size fits all.

[@liliekarlaj4266]

I actually understand what she meant with the kids only thinking about their own happiness, i dont have a good relationship with my mom but i have a better relationship with my dad but we fight a lot and if a woman were to come into his life and he would have introduced her to me i would ofc be awkward and maybe not like her at first, but my dad has talked to me and my brother about step moms so im open to that for him, but for my mom its different, i hate her bf and there is a past to him i dont like and i overall know he is using her but no one quite listens. Its hard for a kid (espacially teen) to accept a stranger to their own family and its even harder if both of the parents are still fighting or if the kid itself hasnt even healed from the whole split.

[@xokree]

THANK YOU BC IM NERVOUS TO MEET HIS OLDEST DAUGHTER BUT IM READY BC I LOVE HIM DEARLY 💛

[@sherrymerrill1750]

They happiness does too matter to this kid.... JS

[@YoureDoingItPeter]

I'm struggling. I'm 41 have a 7 yr old son. Been with my gf off an on for 2 years total of 1 year together. I'm having a hard time merging and having the 3 of us spend time together. I feel so much guilt for splitting his family and I feel like I'm forcing him into another one. I don't want him to resent me. As I know he still wishes his real mom and me would get back.

[@WitchyCharlie]

Great video. Thank you.

[@IDBL123]

Beautiful Video! ❤

[@talori5417]

This is reassuring. ❤

[@Be1smaht]

I like these ladies

[@brainsbeautycouture38]

Love this

[@dianegonzalez4748]

Little kids are one thing growenup children another

[@Be1smaht]

I love this.

[@Humble_King_Ali]

I know my kids love me because they make fun of me sorta none stop. The cruel cruel signs. I know what you mean! lol lol lol

[@TheSunshinefee]

why would someone choose a man with luggage?

[@سبحاناللهوبحمدهعددخلقه-ص4ق]

Stupiedddtyy

[@katiel1979]

Everyone has luggage past a certain age

[@bufficliff8978]

They're kids. Not luggage. Stay single and childless.

[@TheSunshinefee]

@@bufficliff8978 someone's else's children are luggage to

[@sister0fsin]

It's not luggage if you love and value the person with kids. It can actually be extra younger "siblings" in a way. You love em unconditionally no matter what and try to be there the best you can for them

[@mohammediamohammedia4605]

👍😘

[@bewleyable]

Are you still a step mom if their birth mom isn’t around/present in their life?

[@demetria4339]

Yes

[@shacyrachoctaw4621]

Did a fallen tree make a sound when it hit the forest floor even if no one was around to hear it?

[@still_becoming]

Wtf ? I care if my mom is happy !!!

[@RachelSings21]

They are talking about very young children, not teens or adults

[@betoortiz6098]

Mgtow!

[@AngelsTravelz]

Homewreckers 😂

[@bufficliff8978]

The parents wrecked the home, dude. Dating a single person isn't wrecking something.

[@AngelsTravelz]

⁠@@bufficliff8978is the dude fixing the wreckage or negating it’s possibility of repair?

[@shacyrachoctaw4621]

⁠People be moving on, kids be damned. Get over it.

[@AngelsTravelz]

@@shacyrachoctaw4621 my compassion goes to the children . adults get an ear full, get over it ;)