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[@wendylinkem6201]

100% investment 0% ROI. been there done that. Never again.

[@Jhihmoac]

What's good for the gander is also good for the goose... If a woman is single and with no children, and she chooses NOT to be with a man with children, she has every right! More power to her!

[@nikkinonames5265]

Exactly! You see all these videos for women to conform to men with kids , all while you see videos about men telling other men to stay away from single mothers! It's fxking insane!

[@nikkinonames5265]

@A M exactly! And majority of the men who have kids have far more drama then women. Most women the father's aren't around at all! In my case my kids father isn't there, but his issues with his other kids mothers was drama drama drama!!! And every man just about had the same issues with baby mother drama! Other women with or without kids had the same experience!

[@micfail2]

@AM-mw2wu wrong. First of all, it goes against a man's biology to raise another man's child. Secondly, women leave men because they think they'll get the kid AND Mony to live off of. Men only seek custody when it's necessary for the child's safety. You should do some research before running your ignorant mouth.

[@juliathehbic31]

There is zero benefit to dating a single parent when you’re childfree.

[@missxmarvel]

Especially as a childfree woman.

[@MayaMaya-lt7zf]

@@missxmarvel More for women then men you think ? I never reflected about that

[@missxmarvel]

@@MayaMaya-lt7zf Dating single fathers doesn’t benefit women. I usually ignore older men asking for my phone number because they usually have kids. Even dudes my age have kids. Single fathers are eager to make babies with childfree women

[@MayaMaya-lt7zf]

@@missxmarvel why is that ?

[@mrwill1779]

As a man I've found dating women with children over the years was financially difficult they were to needy and emotionally unstable also placing a higher demand on you it's difficult to take trips with them due to the cost to fly hotel arrangements and cost of it all it's best to be with a woman who has no kids

[@HikaruYamamoto]

Heres my advice... DON'T DO IT!

[@marykariuki7381]

Mine too.

[@HikaruYamamoto]

@Hof yep don't date parents unless you are one yourself.

[@kimberly5928]

Agreed!

[@pinkgal206]

I don’t and won’t.:.

[@NAConen]

Whyyy though

[@summerl3433]

Why are people giving so many warnings? I'm dating a single dad and it's going very well. We treat eachother kindly. His kids are a priority (I have no problem with this). But he makes plenty of time for me otherwise, despite having kids. We go on routine vacations together and out to eat a lot, and/or the bar together. And the time he does spend with his kids is usually time I spend doing my own things that I enjoy (its like giving eachother space). I interact with his kids too. My own choice. He doesn't put any pressure on me nor expect me to parent them. They're very sweet. He has a babysitter and a maid. It's all about balance. I was medically sterilized in my teen years, so I have no kids of my own (childless). Besides, pregnancy doesn't sound too pleasant, haha :P By the way, before dating him, I dated over 10 childfree men throughout the years. It was very toxic. They ended up being selfish and abusive.

[@MelaniaRose]

TheTruthHurts L everyone’s different. Most of us young ladies aren’t looking for single dads when we first are looking for a man to settle down with. Young women like to start their own families. Dealing with a mans ex wife is stressful at least with a childless man you can start fresh.

[@summerl3433]

@@MelaniaRose I tried dating childless men a dozen times. Ended up in 10+ break ups, abuse, and toxic relationships. Many people don't truly mature until they're forced to (i.e. kids). Even my boyfriend admitted that he used to be very immature years ago and that becoming a parent changed him into a completely different person.

[@BobbyDigital562]

Thank you for sharing this. Too many women in this comment section have had too many negative experiences, which leads them to hate on ALL single fathers. I am a single father, and my girlfriend doesn't have any kids. Our relationship is almost identical to yours. Not all single fathers are bad. Hating on all of us is just plain ignorant.

[@LK-sy3kl]

It’s not always the men that are the problem but from experience their exes will always be in the background and making it hard. If you can handle that great but a single woman with no kids I just couldn’t deal with his ex always being in the picture...she was very controlling and rude I won’t die early of stress 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@summerl3433]

@boimackhead my stepmother married my father and never regretted it. They're doing very well. Married 20+ years.

[@amazinggrace313]

This is so stupid. NEVER EVER DATE A SINGLE PARENT IF YOU CAN HELP IT. unless you wanna be last priority and always feeling like something is off, or you're so unattractive that only a single parent will date you...dont freaking do it!!! Its a thankless job

[@missxmarvel]

Amazing Grace Well said. They are leftover food that another woman ate from. I always tell women to view single fathers the way they would view you if the shoe is on the other foot.

[@amazinggrace313]

@@missxmarvel single fathers and single mothers are the worst. You will never get the relationship you deserve from either one. I'm sure there are some exceptions to everything, but to be safe and sane just stay away.

[@marykariuki7381]

Exactly how I felt! Never doing it again!

[@missxmarvel]

Amazing Grace I agree with you. They are a waste of effort simply because they expect you to be understanding when they cancel on you last minute or when their kid sneezes they can’t go on dates with you. And you need to put up with kids wether if you like it or not. But they expect you to put them and their children as a first priority. But I treat them like they would treat me, not a priority. I had a single dad ask me out and I simply said to him that he should focus on being a father. Other women say that I should give single fathers a chance but men avoid single mothers at all cost. Which is unfair because both are complete trash.

[@marykariuki7381]

@@missxmarvel I blocked the one I was dating completely. Always complaining about how tired he was from parenting and working. That part about cancelling last minute, he had no decency to even call, he texted, there was no, I will make it up to you. He just thought he was entitled to because he had children.

[@chriskelly509]

I don't want kids therefore I'm not raising someone else's kids

[@joshuabreen]

Chris Kelly84 don’t worry bro...

[@chriskelly509]

@Glamorous Taee lol ok....

[@lilyboyle8662]

Same here lol. My only daughter died 3 years ago and now I just can't stand the sight of kids

[@chriskelly509]

@@lilyboyle8662 sorry for your loss.

[@lilyboyle8662]

It's fine Chris.

[@mrwill1779]

As a single dad of 3 boys I feel while your dating kids are #1 but once you've made the decision to marry your Spouse becomes #1

[@misscamara12]

You are the first single parent that I’ve seen acknowledge that your spouse is #1. A lot of people don’t realize the spouse coming first keeps the family unit together which in turn provides stability for the kids.

[@RenaissanceBSS]

Wow 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@wellnesswomanword]

I think this could lead to lots of resentment from the children though unfortunately...I think that's what so many single parents want to avoid

[@Kuromee_xoxo]

I wonder how many single dads think and act like you. Im pregnant now single dad's baby who already has 2 kids(17, 19years old), everytimes when he talks with his daughter and boy /or visit their city i feel empty and regret that i met him.... even he is a really good guy to me but it is hard to comtrol my emotion

[@gregharn1]

Huh. A breath of fresh air to hear them speaking truth about themselves & their lives.

[@MayaMaya-lt7zf]

A life with a single parent makes you feel cheep and like leftovers, douse nothing for the self worth

[@ageofaquarius8309]

Even dating is not the best. Marrying...... no thank you!

[@Ayixlia]

Some dont care they will make it happen

[@MayaMaya-lt7zf]

@@Ayixlia I'm sure they will but how do they know if it works or not? Is it based on experience or just hypothesis

[@Ayixlia]

@@MayaMaya-lt7zf Some actually works say a older guy dating a young single mother. She looks at him as a father and a father figure for herself and by him being older he has no options and is happy that he is a relationship with a younger woman that wants him.

[@emmaxu5895]

I had that feeling (i was cheap and unworthy )when i with my ex(who is single dad w 2 kids )my normal needs (daily phone calls/messages and emotion needs from him) in relationship was called too much needy .because of his kids and his work and others ...and i questioned myself a lot ,thanks to my friends and the KZbin videos I know there was nothing wrong with me and my needs .I should not date a single dad and I will never do it again.

[@Laoriginal718]

The best advice is don’t do it.

[@Ms.Simone7]

Dated a few single dads. NEVER again.

[@castingdk1233]

I love single woman any women l true partner trust any ladies married again I m ready. I m single

[@MelaniaRose]

Same here 😅

[@silka3738]

This is a difficult situation. Easier not to but what happens when you fall in love with each other? What if he is the right person and you are the love of his life? When I am in that situation I will have an opinion.

[@CeeJay254Art]

Thank you.

[@silka3738]

@Jazz Jackson Maybe as a woman I have a different opinion. I have my own life and make my own money. I want to make a difference, not to be worshipped by a man. Have you heard about unconditional love? Never say never.

[@PaolaHuezo]

How are you all doing right now?

[@MayaMaya-lt7zf]

@@PaolaHuezo not good

[@angelsrosena]

I don’t care how many relationships he had before me because what counts is the experience, what I do care is if he has a past “package” that will always live between us which is children, so no thanx.

[@raindroplounge4427]

Do you assume that man is going to make you take care of his children? What if he told you that he would do anything for you and make nothing get in the way?

[@soleil7259]

​​@@raindroplounge4427A good father will be there for his kids. Which is a great thing but us childless people have their needs and those can be reached best, with a childless partner. Most parents can be in a honey moon phase with their partners for a few months but then reality will hit and they will have to include their children.

[@ivy6179]

I don't wanna ever be someone's caretaker for his kids. Lol

[@XxEtHaN39xX]

Looking at the side of things from being a Single Dad I think it all depends on who the Dad is and who he is being. Trust yourself and trust your gut if you feel like you want to dive in then dive in :) I've dated some women who didn't have kids and loved every minute of our time together. It's all valuable I think it really depends on who the Dad is (Just like if it was flipped in reverse) 💫

[@jessicaashley2295]

send your hangout

[@nikkinonames5265]

The best thing for women with no kids is to STAY AWAY FROM MEN WITG KIDS PERIOD! Why can't y'all date single mothers ??

[@lifeonwheels5756]

Let’s do everything differently! Most sensible response ever spoken..

[@nikkinonames5265]

Men with kids are nothing but drama! You see all this smoke for single mothers and for men to not date them, so we women need to stay on code and do the same!

[@nikkinonames5265]

@A M thank you and AMEN! I'm so happy I'm not alone nor seeing this. I'm so sick of the double standards! I wish more women stop accepting men and their kids! These men do this all the time. They make it for men to have the entire dating pool fit for them all while having s morb of kids by different women or even 1, but will tell women with children they're trash for having kids. It's like we're being punished for being women and built to give life! It's natural for our bodies to do these things as well as theirs! I really wish us women just stop birthing these men into this world! We hold the key to life under GOD! WE need to stop this NOW!!!!!

[@ARedMagicMarker]

Now, they are trying to up the ante with the always and forever "menandwomenaredifferent-isms" and claiming that all single dads are always the _superior_ (who couldn't have seen that coming?) parents than single moms as if it's some kind of competition mic-drop and we should "reconsider". Yah, no.

[@raindroplounge4427]

I’m a man and I would never bash a women for having children, even if I had children.

[@MelaniaRose]

Props to the ladies here ( I don’t think I could do it)

[@Temboz]

Wow the comment section though.

[@erikad1497]

I’m a child free woman in the beginning dates of dating a single dad whom is divorced. This has been very helpful.

[@fishcanon8141]

Same here. And I actually quite like the person. How’s it going with your single dad?

[@sheri2845]

Ah, please share with us 💐💖 same position. I'm 27, divorced 6 years ago, no children. He's got two boys, 9 year old twins, also divorced. Going for a 2nd coffee date next weekend. The kids are naughty 😹 I'm a teacher, don't mind, I know how to cope 🤣 although don't know if I'll endure as long as would be expected. The dad is very sweet, I just think he might be "being sweet" because he's lonely and misses companionship. 😬 Please do share 🙏🙏🙏💖

[@R2d2..]

2:40 I’m so confused on this first priority thing. If he would’ve stayed with his first wife she still wouldn’t be first priority bc the kid comes first. What does that have to do with being a single a parent

[@angelajia3800]

I’m a full time single mother as my son’s dad decided to walk out completely. My now bf is a highly responsible divorced dad who looks after his daughter on weekends. He’s co-parenting with his ex and they are amicable. I admire his devotion as a father. I respect that he needs to raise his only child. Although I do get jealous at times; and I wish we would spend more time together as a couple. However, I’m ready to get through all this with him as he is a great man who deserves love.

[@detox4lyfe]

This is sad and interesting at the same time. If you're a single male and you're over 35, there's a 90% chance you're going to be a stepdad if you take her seriously.

[@MelaniaRose]

Stephen Nimieri depends I guess. Plenty of women out here with no kids. Or you could date someone younger.

[@nikkinonames5265]

So just date women who have no kids! It's plenty of them out there and leave single mothers alone!

[@ARedMagicMarker]

As a woman, NEVER date a single dad, or single parents, period. Fixed it for ya'. XD

[@informedsrthankful2438]

So many in the comment thread have the wrong idea of marriage and family.

[@austind4301]

How so?

[@soleil7259]

You sound like a single parent... It is normal for childless people to seek out to childless people. We are not designed to blend families and raise kids that are not our own. People don't want to commit when they are available but are fast to get married and play family the moment they have children.

[@shakirasmith6454]

@@soleil7259 this!! Every single dad I’ve come across was in such a rush to play house/marry…like huh? Where was this same energy with y’all baby mommas!?

[@relodinge]

When it is the right person, I'd know!! Hard work, humility, love...

[@jandm4ever716]

Guys some people have great experiences dating single parents and some don’t. It’s ok to have differing opinions, but don’t force your opinion as truth. Also, some of the comments here make me feel sad. Clearly people have been hurt.

[@austind4301]

Nobody childless has ever had a good experience dating a single parent. Some people just have a higher threshold for misery.

[@MelaniaRose]

This is reality and some single parents aren’t compatible with childless people. No one is saying single parents don’t deserve a relationship, but that their life circumstances may not be the right timing.

[@arfaelo3674]

Thank you for this video. I don't feel so crazy for wanting more time with him, or wanting to meet his kids more often. He's always said, our relationship is a crookpot not a microwave.

[@HikaruYamamoto]

You will never come first in his life, I could never be in a relationship like that.

[@deelong3687]

Why put up with that?

[@missxmarvel]

Perez交叉 You’re cutting yourself too short. You deserve better. Ditch the leftover men. Create a family not join one.

[@MartellThaCool]

You deserve a family of your own, not join into a one that does not make you feel you don't belong there

[@MartellThaCool]

@boimackhead it's sad what's the modern day women are a disgusting disgrace unlike the women in past had morals, class and decency

[@Laoriginal718]

1 Corinthians 7:10-11, Romans 7:2 you are bound to your first spouse til death

[@devoywilliams3956]

Lmao that’s marriage

[@ChristinaOstil115]

My boyfriend would have me watch his kids while he is visiting his other family or working at the school district.

[@deelong3687]

So you’re a free babysitter

[@missxmarvel]

Christina Ostil Sorry chick but you are a fool. Don’t be a babysitter to a kid that’s not related to you like a little brother.

[@MelaniaRose]

Oh no ! Get out while you can !

[@pinkgal206]

Lol no

[@Lifewithareli]

I can see how you did it out of love but it's important to distinguish that watching his kids is NOT your responsibility. My ex whos divorced and has a kid used to put pressure and try to guilt trip me about being a "bad person" for not wanting to spend time with his daughter when I felt like a fool babysitting and wasting my time when I could be doing something productive that serves ME. It's okay to be selfish with your wants and needs. It's called self respect and self love. You're not a fool if you learned and have grown from this. You're wise, brave and strong.

[@wellnesswomanword]

This was very good. I am very thankful to have found this.

[@obedan3990]

I dont know if my life soon ended up with a single dad with kids but past 2yrs i feel this going to happen coz he is interested at me. I am single never married and i dont know how to get along with teenage kids...and I am not great with these growing-up critters!! Oohh dear this video all theyre saying are 100% correct and aligned with my girlfriend’s statements about them life marrying single dad wif kids!! Teary eyes now...

[@MariaV0071]

I don't think I could date a dad. I don't have children of my own. If I had, completely different story. But men without children are not interested, dad's are. So yes, not sure what to do

[@soleil7259]

It's always like that. Single childless man have no interest in commitment or seeking marriage and family. They just want to have fun these days. But single fathers are fast, when it comes to these things. I had a single father love bombing me and telling me, he wanted to get married and have a family together. But when it comes to his ex girlfriend, he was not married to her and even said the wish for a child came from her and not really from him. Like where was that energy of getting serious and starting a family, when those men were available or when they were with the baby mother. Now that they realize they get older and their "market value" decreased, they are out there looking for a wife/mom to their children, the moment you cross their path. No thanks.

[@teamsalvation]

These examples are exactly why I won’t go for round two. I’m jealous of your daughter, ex wife, I’m. Of your first .... omg, really!? HARD PASS

[@wondernutts]

Exactly....but the miunte they are a single mom....oh....it's different then.

[@jessicaashley2295]

send your hangout

[@Mali-fm3rc]

More of this pls

[@wondernutts]

Reading these comments from women...like wow. Fact is, if you love a person than you should hold dear what it is they cherish. Besides, YOU don't NEED them.. But their child DOES. Becoming jealous or possessive over someone's child is not only selfish, but immature....just like the many men that date women with kids... If you love the person you should be willing to have that family unit with them. I'm shocked so many women are reacting the way that they are in the comments. In fact it just reenforces the stereotype that women are selfish, God forbid one of you have a child....then all of a sudden that child your world in the man has to come in and understand that.

[@austind4301]

Selfish is having a kid and expecting a partner to swoop in and clean up your mess with no return on their investment. And you HAVE a family unit. It's your ex, you and your child. Blended families aren't family units AT ALL.

[@MelaniaRose]

You shouldn’t be offended by what the women have said in the comments section ! Dating a single father when you have no kids yourself is a high risk - low reward type of relationship! Too much baggage and drama with his ex especially ! The most selfish thing a single parent can do is be entitled to child free singles and expect too much from them, when they themselves can’t give it back. People want their own family unit at the end of the day.

[@austind4301]

@@MelaniaRose Spot on!

[@Ranbutch75]

Love Muffin I love you 😘. Lol well said.

[@MelaniaRose]

Rangel75 aww thanks

[@michelleberry3215]

I try to search i fall in love to single dad have 2 kids almost 4 yrs and half and my boyfriend is nice he’s not working but i feel he’s using me for money sometimes i feel that but sometimes he’s real he’s kids really love me and he’s family. I’ll try to break him up but he don’t want me leave him he’s reason is because he’s kids really loves me and he’s family wer almost a years now but he never proposed to me idk what the best thing to do but i love him

[@mantiilove]

Omg are you okay ? I hope yoi left that person ! Hes gonna use the children as a weapon

[@BUSHRAKHAN-yk4oj]

This is one of the best videos.

[@jessicaashley2295]

men what do you seek in a relationship?

[@akbaridea2159]

What?

[@yvonne6629]

Magnifique

[@gigaxon6901]

💯% top advice

[@ajmiddy1248]

So I what I took from that was don't date Americans.

[@Ranbutch75]

MGTOW 🚹 WGTOW 🚺

[@missxmarvel]

If only WGTOW was a thing. At least women can go their own way.

[@angelmeade6927]

Your spouse should come first

[@eclipse369.]

Being a single father is awesome. (Full custody) I'd like to keep it that way. All you need is a dedicated fwb. Most women too dumb/emotional to wanna live with.

[@HikaruYamamoto]

salty af xD

[@eclipse369.]

@@HikaruYamamoto no just cold hard facts, granted my sample size is not very big lol

[@HikaruYamamoto]

@@eclipse369. I dunno sounds like MGTOW type stuff. Where instead of actually just going their own way they just sit around complaining about women.

[@mblazin1532]

@@eclipse369. Don't worry bro people like Tsubasa are just going to simp.

[@eclipse369.]

@@mblazin1532 The bickering is amusing tho :)

[@betoortiz6098]

Mgtow!

[@Mr.Helper.]

Going great so far

[@chingching579]

@She Wolf LOVE IT!

[@DaveyDeluxe]

Lol y'all will be ok

[@josephjoy2651]

Yeah

[@Lifewithareli]

Yes it depends on what their needs and wants are and if both partners have a mutual agreement. Respect, honesty, loyalty, and trust is the foundation of any relationship.

[@jessicaashley2295]

send your hangout

[@XIAXCI]

im a single over 7 kids. its the most amazing thing ive ever had. mostly because they dont exist