When You Discard The Narcissist

[@christinehaigh9807]

The Narcissist is not good in any aspect of anyone's life. He truly believes he's a celebrity. He's a joke in everyone's eyes.

[@mbborylo599]

Christine Haigh lonely superstars 😹

[@metfanmetfan1477]

If you can accomplice that i would celebrate on that one!!!!

[@truthexposed839]

Christine Haigh exactly ! Trashy!

[@Richard-vq7ud]

For sure, they actually do believe they are a celebrity. Can you imagine how bad the actual real celebrities are? They must be worse than we can imagine.

[@Novaknet]

Omg say that again.

[@ilovemexoxo5720]

they are adult children who tantrum and rage

[@kevindavis1281]

At the end of the day...yes. That is exactly what they do. Our job is to control our response and not give them the satisfaction of a reaction.

[@sonicfoxxmusic4281]

WRONG "I love mexoxe". They are "adult children who tantrum and rage and will happily ruin your whole life, chewing it and spitting it out in front of you just for the pleasure of one thing......the pleasure of watching you see your life RUINED"... .....i lived it. Anybody who doesn't totally agree with my words above, SAYS they have LIVED it but hasn't. WHEN A SNAKE ENTERS YOUR BUILDING AND IT BECOMES BETWEEN THE SNAKE AND YOU....DESTROY THAT SNAKE. IF YOU DON'T, THAT SNAKE "WILL" DESTROY YOU....short term or long term...try allowing that snake to live to fight another day. That WILL be the same snake who will one day HAPPILY destroy you given a single moment in it's life once more... .....OPPORTUNITY!!!!!

[@jogriffiths5766]

@@sonicfoxxmusic4281 Right there.

[@spotteddog1716]

I discarded my N on MY BIRTHDAY! We were in Vegas, I finally snapped, packed my stuff and left. I rescheduled my flight walked out and I haven’t seen him since.Everything is blocked- I moved prior to that anyway. He has no way to get in touch with me. I feel amazing. Best birthday present ever.

[@msdemeanour]

@Mary Carroll 👏👏👏👏👏

[@valerieriggins3184]

MINES EVERY DAY! 🥳

[@LisaBoz]

Savage! Yes!

[@anonymousanonymous4238]

Ahahahaha! That is awesome! Discard them on your birthday and and send the message that they aren't that important LOL!

[@apureenergyme8573]

Yes, I ended with him on my birthday. He can’t even give me a birthday a basic nice day anymore, so he need to get the fuxck out of my life.

[@InSpadez]

I discarded my Narc just yesterday. It felt so empowering! It gave me ALL my power back.

[@karenovalasiti7819]

What a narcissist wants is what amounts to WORSHIP. AND WE CAN'T SUPPORT THAT. ESCAPE QUIETLY

[@msdemeanour]

"You cannot put a crown on a clown & expect a king."

[@cayennerose8555]

yes he told people i was suicidal and called 911, they ended up arresting him. lol

[@matrixdropout3077]

Fucking dumbass lol

[@emilkadd]

Lol. Fucking dumbass.

[@lollypopnarcy7585]

😂🤣😅

[@saysHotdogs]

Mine turned fake suicidal and started up once I was out of the country. I had the cops pick him up. He’d told me he took 90 OxyContin. He was just drunk. The terror that put in me was unbelievable because I have the children and the thought of going to my children and having to say “your father is dead” is one of my greatest fears. Mind died when I was 5. He knows this. He used it.

[@narcicide8814]

That must have been hilarious.

[@bbelizy9627]

I NEVER would have been able to discard the narc without your help and this video. I've watched this video many times, and when I get weak, I watch it again. When you say "If you discard a narcissist, you better not take them back". The look on your face reminds me of how serious this really is. And the way I did it after he used, abused, exploited, and terrorized me for 8 years, was humiliating to him, and in front of his flying monkeys. Not sorry!

[@Jennifer-hl4ls]

I am "proud" to say I have discarded two narcissists. I will never do it again, because I have healed myself and I believe I will never be with one again. Their response was anger. With #1, he tried to get revenge legally and trick me and take my money. With #2, what he did is moved on ASAP to his next supply and tried to flaunt it in my face.

[@venusallegrayerkovich592]

Jennifer so sorry for what happened to you. I understand. Your a strong person.

[@daviddemars]

Jennifer Good for you Jennifer, now never open the door again for them!

[@lyndiex4215]

Jennifer u go girl😃 smh..see fuck coward ass Losers like dat! Still tryna one up u eh??? Outrageous...never knew Arrested development was this rampant!

[@metfanmetfan1477]

That is verry goood indeed 😉 i hope i will be able to think like that some day

[@metfanmetfan1477]

@@TrinketStarz 👍👍👍👍👍👍

[@chanceyharrison387]

My whole family cut off contact with my mother at the same time. 10 months later she killed herself. We stood strong against her evilness, and now we feel so much relief. She can not torture us anymore.

[@sharhughes1086]

I am proud to say I did the final discard before he thought he was going to do the emphasis grand finale, I got the last word, so if he ever think about returning he better think twice about messing with me ever again! Im so done that his goose is burnt and over cooked, if he has it in his mind trying to come around I will never talk to him ever again real talk!

[@sharhughes1086]

Roxy Bolt they are worthless, pieces of scum that will never win @ anything, They think their the best thing since sliced 🍞 not, their Kool-Aide without the Sugar, sour pusses very bitter! We are champions every last one of us. Hugs and lots of 💋 to you Roxy your awesome!

[@michelleparry8166]

I discarded the Narcissist. It hasn't been that long and I'm working through it. Looking back my gut was telling me something was wrong for awhile I just didn't know what. I think I finally discarded him because I stopped listening to what he was telling me and started looking at his actions only. Then I knew without a doubt that he didn't love me. Now I know he doesn't even love himself that being said there's no way it would of ever worked. Thank God he left without a fight. So blessed.

[@coffycup75]

"Good, you go change with somebody else." Yes indeed.

[@theresemeggitt8455]

Yes it’s over he will NEVER have me back again!

[@metfanmetfan1477]

He will never stop traying though like like the "snake" with Adam and Eve

[@Andrea-sl8wd]

Never stops until it drops dead.

[@kynathomas4809]

THIS MAN KNOWS EXACTLY WHAT HE'S TALKING ABOUT.

[@coryscott5605]

I just want to say I have much respect for anyone who has discarded their Narcissist. I wish I knew about this channel 6 mos. ago. I discarded my borderline wife...yeah wife, only to be hoovered back in 4 months later. That whole time she was having an affair. I caught her with another guy. She even had my 9 year old step son who knew about the affair lie to me the entire time. Some watch these videos and may think that their Narc is somehow different, that they may be bad, but not as extreme as they are made out to be. Completely wrong...they all repeat the same patterns like they have read the same book or have gone to the same class or something. If you can see through the fog they are predictable....thats why you feel so stupid after playing into their hand. Thanks David!

[@bradmcewen]

Cory Scott. Exactly. The fog must disapate to have rational thought & to fully realize the experience. I mean once you know it's all fake living in another's alternative reality with no regard what so ever for your well being it is clear. Just like David said one abusive action uncalled out only perpetuates more to test your limits & is reason for manipulationship over. Done.

[@daviddemars]

Cory Scott Next Thursday is When You Discard The Borderline Thank you and welcome to the channel!

[@thehotcoffeehouse6081]

Cory Scott they are all warped clones of each other. Silent treatment, sucking up supply, luv bombing, ghosting, cheating, lying, manipulating, devaluing, stealing, flying monkeys, discard, smear campaigns, etc etc...all same boring routines. They do have to "win", in their minds, but: they are *all* 100% losers. No contact! Its a lifesaver.

[@metfanmetfan1477]

You nailed it! ❤😉👍

[@metfanmetfan1477]

@@thehotcoffeehouse6081 you said it that is it and nothing more nothing less you said it right!

[@judyanne3563]

The narc doesn't really care if you discard him.....he has several supplies in the shadows that he's had while he was with you....Been there

[@ravenburneskushner1825]

My narc must hate my ever-loving guts because I "discarded" him twice. Not really discard because I did everything I could to save it. But, perhaps in his little mind, I discarded him twice.

[@vickilangone7824]

I was so close to discarding mine multiple times. I just kept making excuses up for him. The last time was when I caught him in a lie about some girl. That’s when he knew he was done. I tried talking it out thinking this was a normal conversation, and of course, didn’t work. After we went out for his birthday maybe a week later is when he discarded me. Honestly thankful because seeing the true side of him so heartless and cruel, finally woke me up to not giving too many chances especially to those undeserving. Unfortunately one of his exes did commit suicide. It’s truly sad how horrible they can be. Stay safe everyone and always protect what’s best for you ❤️❤️

[@felixwashington8627]

I've been going back and forth for a year and a half with my narcissist ex and thanks to David I finally truly understand why they do what they do and he's helped me stay strong and stand my ground. She acts like I don't exist and then once she shows me I'm worthless that i always break up with her and block her and she would always beg me back and manipulate me. This most recent time I discarded her once again and i get about 20 calls a day from unknown numbers for the last 2 weeks but this time I've stayed strong and haven't responded or answered a single call.

[@herLRFness]

Wow, Felix. The games they play and the lengths they will go to are astonishing. I am so glad you're standing your ground and refusing to be sucked back in.

[@daviddemars]

Felix Washington Thank you Felix, she may be borderline. Next week is When You Discard The Borderline

[@felixwashington8627]

Thank you and Yes I believe she is borderline based off what you described and for so long I always thought she was truly going through issues an I would always believe she would change and as soon as I take her back then I act sweet and nice to her then she acts like she wanted nothing to do with me.

[@nancycrosby7391]

CNXG CrazyNarcissistXGirlfriend

[@victoriaholden7774]

Felix Washington well done! Be proud of yourself! It takes courage and determination! Keep strong!!!!

[@DJ-ij2sy]

I told the narc.. The only change you made is in your pocket

[@daviddemars]

Deanea Jones Lol perfect!

[@pjeanettemariejonesnavarro1898]

Deanea Jones Hahaha😊

[@vesseltalk2984]

So true! I discarded mine - it's been an entire year of no contact for me. Yet he will not go away, he makes video after video insulting me, calling me a dog and completely disrespecting me. I've made a police report, changed my number like 3 times... yet- he's still managing to hack, stalk and made clear he's not going anywhere. It's sick!!! This man told people.i was a crackhead, I did coke, had other women thinking i was some kinda sociopath that was going to get them, had mental health workers trying to reach out to me on Facebook. Yet in the same token he's buying me movie tickets ? Wtf.... these people are nuts get out stay OUT!

[@kevindavis1281]

When you are discarding a narcissist (or borderline with narcissistic traits) you are choosing life! Your life is more important than filling a bottomless pit. They represent the pit and you represent what you are willing to do to fill a pit. The learning curve with this has boggled my brain. My heart hasn't completely caught up to it yet... These videos David... have helped more people than you may ever know! Cheers!Kevin from downtown Canada (Southern Ontario... We're a small country!).

[@daviddemars]

Kevin Davis That's right Kevin, we must seperate ourselves from unhealthy people and it is choosing life.

[@kevindavis1281]

And that's where the hurt comes in. It goes against the grain because we are soldiers. The separation process is the hardest part of all this. Let me tell anyone that there is a reason these people tested us so vigorously.

[@bradmcewen]

Kevin Davis Clarity only comes once one has gone no contact with the toxicity. Then the absurdity comes to what have we done to our selves. Too much compassion, too many chances, the triangulation & humiliation. Still mystifying that a cerebal narc can mask up & play nice to strangers then lock you in a mental torture chamber. It's just a game to them. Sick as hell.

[@bradmcewen]

Terra. Nor can anybody else...it is ok to bail out to save yourself from certain harm.

[@leighdunford6015]

Kevin Davis 11

[@Bintang221]

I really needed to hear this today. Still very hard. I discarded him once and for all, after 5 years a week ago. Blocked from everything. I told him to stay away and that it was over. Today, he was outside my front door Telling me how bad he was feeling and that he needs me. That he has never loved anyone like me. That we have to get back together again. That he is sorry for what he did and that he won't do it anymore. He insulted me until 1 week ago....oh, no, but now he's evolving he says, cos he's going to therapy. I know I shouldn't trust this bs...but its messing up with my brain

[@jessicalenny3768]

It can get deadly. He's very violent

[@PetarVodogaz]

A very good video David and one I reflected back on. I remember when I 'discarded' my ex. After successive emotional eggshell incidents, numerous silent treatments and gaslighting, I remember feeling 'tired'. Mental tiredness. After my ex again for the thousandth time disrespected me and lied to me, one morning I woke up and said to myself, "I've had enough". That same morning I texted my ex and said I could not continue this relationship. And it felt good to say that. I knew it was the right thing to do. There comes a time, when the body and mind knows it is time to move on...forward. To start to heal...recover.

[@lyndiex4215]

Petar Vodogaz Exactly how it happened for me....u get sick n tired of being SICK N TIRED✌good for us!

[@PetarVodogaz]

So true Lyndie. Glad you are out of that situation as well

[@deeflowers6096]

David hi , I am sorry what happened to you. You are so right I will never take him back, I discarded the narcissist , he want me back, just to pay me back, oh I am staying no CONTACT.

[@daviddemars]

dee flowers Good, it gets easier and easier.

[@castrochristian103]

I love the honesty in this video because I definitely saw all the red flags you mentioned on here. I dated someone who I thought really loved me but then day by day I started realizing I was with a narcissist. It's no joke! It's all about them. She still tries to contact me after I changed my number.but still recovering from it and not going back.

[@EnchantedMirrorTarot]

I watched and rewatched this over and over

[@memphisjuju3361]

Out of all of the narcissistic abuse channels I’ve watched, yours is the best by far. I’m gettin more closure here

[@rachelbarnes3415]

Thank for those words “it’s over”

[@secureconnection5245]

When I discarded my ex narc, he turned around and accused me of being narcissistic. Expect those kinds of comments from an injured narcissist who just got one-upped himself. Knowledge is power. Thank you so much for your work, and the education and support you provide.

[@daviddemars]

Secure Connection Great comment, thank you. You're right, many Narcissists accuse others of being one. For many reasons but you're right and think about how long it takes us to figure someone out but they throw it out like week old trash. Take care of yourself.

[@phoenixfyre3465]

Makes sense David, his Dad left his whole family which is estranged, and his mom glorifies him knowing his behavior.

[@daviddemars]

jen m So sick.

[@linaoussaf9662]

just like my ex

[@rivkacoverdale400]

This is very helpful. I discarded my narc this morning.

[@cindyc.1572]

Great advice. I walked away. Will never look back

[@Sam-cf6qv]

Best thing you've ever done if you dated a narc.

[@janiemiller825]

My ex - also was trying to drive me crazy- push me to suicide. So odd. Then I recalled he had once stated his ex girlfriend had tried to commit suicide as he was breaking up with her. Sadistic!! I think perhaps they desire to murder you but prefer not to get pinned for the crime so try to get you to murder yourself thr suicide. It’s odd behavior, it’s so sick/ sadistic. Luckily - I went no contact 100% & dodge him every time he tries to come around to Hoover. Tricky- you have to really know Narc traits & then stay one step ahead of them to know their moves & dodge them properly. Much like mental chess game. It works though so worth the effort. Narc free - 1 1/2 Years now- yay 😁

[@jakesteeve]

Janie Miller weird when I left my narc she changed her Netflix name to Bo$$ an had been watching some show about how to get away with murder. Glad I left.

[@janiemiller825]

Wow 😮

[@deestol5789]

Janie, mine also described how he had to call the police when his ex threatened suicide. And the story he gave me was that his exes all cheated on him, so he played the victim role the whole time. Now I know why.

[@deestol5789]

Lol. Jake, I watch that show too. It is just very glamourous and nothing to do with planning a murder.

[@metfanmetfan1477]

I don't know if they would murder but they shure like to torture 😉 I'm so glad you made it and are still alive 👍💪

[@katjalexandra]

one should NEVER understimate the creativity a narc is able to put into hoovering activities. they will find your personal weak spot most of the cases. So what you say here David to don't even think about the content of the hoovering, but to ignore them and keep them discarded as a reflex like way to deal with it, is absolutely right and a vital message to all who have to handle this kind of situations, great lecture as per usual, thanks.

[@daviddemars]

Katja Zer Thank you Katja!

[@janiemiller825]

So true- exactly the way they act- just like they are discarding you like garbage- literally. My ex Narco-path felt my vibes- that I was starting to dump him for his awful bizarre behaviors & flipped the script & full fledge smear campaigned me & pulled the major discard act on me. Crazy 😝

[@daviddemars]

Janie Miller That's it, thank you!

[@jackbonning]

Live that exactly....to a tee.

[@gracie4135]

I discarded my narc so he jumped into a new relationship posted all over social media. Eventhough im devastated my life becomes more amazing its all over social media too liking by his relatives 😂

[@nodeal4791]

My ex narc said his parents left him alone alot with his nan and he had no siblings or friends. Yet I think his mother spoilt him alot to make up for that and he told me she treats him like one of her pet rats and he hardly speaks to her. He was very envious of me and then discarded me a couple days before I was due to start a new job. Then a year later tried to hoover me but I told him I know what he is.

[@renee4864]

he sort of discarded me then kept me around an additional two years. little did i know he was leading a double life. whenever i tried to get rid of him during those two years the hoovering would commence and i would get sucked back in. after i discovered his double life i exposed him discarded him and the narc rage was in full effect. it was like hearing from the devil himself! these people are so evil! to know they only pretended to care and took years away from our lives is mind boggling. sick and twisted is all i can say. i pity the woman that was involved in this double life of his. she has no idea what's going to hit her one day.

[@bio3m]

My ex accused me of domestic violence when i finally left her.

[@chrislambert1617]

Nick, its not unusual, but do She prove any of it ?

[@chrishumphrey5897]

Hahaha my ex did the same when she left me... even though her manipulative best mate convinced her i was abusive when mh ex she mentally abused me gas lit me made me think I was paranoid and convinced me I was mentally ill but i was the one abused.. she her narc friend also convinced her i was beating her up,bearing in mind I never raised a hand to her or any other woman

[@noelhoffmann6057]

Lol! "Good. You go change with someone else." LOVE this guy!

[@lilgbgd633]

His mother omg she is a psychologist at one point she was joking with me .she said he acts crazy I looked at her and said no he is crazy literally.

[@theveganvillainess]

My narc ex would flip out everytime I broke up with him, but he constantly threatened to break up with me. I even called him out on it, but he didn't have an answer as to why he constantly threatened to leave. He was even cheating on me after we got back together and said it was my fault for breaking up with him the first place (he was trying to get back at me). The last time I ended things, he started punching at my shower curtain and screaming at me while I was in the shower. I was scared. I had to leave my own house for several weeks because of that and the fact that he was becoming physically abusive to my daughter.

[@victorysky1933]

This video was super helpful and right on the money. Especially the part about not ever going back once they have abused or devalued you. "You've changed yeah well go change with someone else." Love it! Thanks.

[@angelsky729]

I discarded him. Not easy but it was necessary. Always false promises. I thank God I am save. I just don’t want him to look for me just like he did last year on august through my friend. He wanted drama only, I know it now. THANKS DAVID!!

[@herLRFness]

Angel Sky, it is incredibly difficult to end it, isn't it? They make it profoundly hard to leave. I'm so glad you did. I hope you're doing so much better now! You deserve good things. ❤︎

[@patriciawhite9509]

@@herLRFness They are demons, that is why it hurts

[@jenniferwinters]

Discarded my Narc for the final time today, this video helped me not regret what I said to him, thank you so much

[@anatino]

This is exactly what happened to me! Hurts still after 6 months but I know it gets better

[@phoenixfyre3465]

Annatino Joy I'm sorry hun

[@phoenixfyre3465]

He shouldn't have treated me like a bag of dogshit or I wouldn't have left

[@herLRFness]

Annatino Joy - it gets better, I promise. There really does come a time when it no longer hurts. Hang in there. ❤︎

[@daviddemars]

Annatino Joy You're making better choices and you will reap what you sow. Thank you Annatino!

[@deanndrake6004]

Exactly right. I am living that reality now since I discarded the narcissist 2 months ago. He is really one messed-up dude.

[@gitaramjitsingh9530]

Love your video . You just give me so so much strengh . I feel i can fight a LION. Thank you'

[@christigilchrist6068]

Yup, you know your stuff. Thank you for sharing!

[@annmariesmith7879]

Thanks, i have been broken up from a narc about almost 2 months know, he claims he is going to therapy and is sorry for the emotional abuse but my gut tells me its not true besides i feel so much better since the breakup and will continue no contact Blessings to you..

[@carolynfry5219]

Dont go back ..please!! Get out of the narcs hold on you..live life and be happy! You deserve it!!!

[@patriciawhite9509]

Pls stay NO CONTACT!

[@susanp.t.1306]

I have lost my father and I was devastated. My husband was given me" support" and one day when he was upset he yelled at me that hes is happy that my father's died :( I was in shock ...I can not believe that a person that " Loves you" can be so cruel and hurtful. When I get upset he diagnose me with several mental health and he said that I am having an episode, that I destroyed people's life and everything is my fault even when he had hurt me physically. I feel stress and deeply hurt by him- he walked away without saying a word- narcissist can cover very well really who they are until something wake us up to know who they are- my husband was different with me... he have played me very well and I couldn't see it - and now I am affected by his games. My heart hurt.

[@isabelizzy9130]

Well, he would of discarded me but I catch up with his game. While observing and listening to my narc on during the narc rage after I call it quits, made me realized that NO MORE was the only way out. I really would of prefer him discarding me. I have no control on time or actions. Even if he has an injury that he caused to himself, of course he will never take reponsabilities for his actions. He went to far and there is no way back. Cheating and lying its a deal breaker for me. It's over for our own good. Wish him well, the best of luck, thanks for the time shared, did not work out, were are not compatible. Its over. Over to the point of looking at him or talking to him repells me.

[@metfanmetfan1477]

That's verry insightfull you made it succesfully good to hear someone ecualy overcome the narc that gives me faith amd courage thank you

[@Willa4420]

Thumbs up and GREAT video !!! The holidays are the time many narcissistic parasites try to latch back onto their former narc supply host. Thank you for helping people get through the Holidays.

[@theresemeggitt8455]

Yep he is very angry- broke my rear view mirror & stole from me. Then took things from my patio. Now he Is calling me constantly etc... I don’t want him back he knows it- furious!!!

[@annamariehewitt3173]

I liked this video because you explain everything in plain simple terms... I told my Narcissist to "Go look for me in someone else."........

[@Scott-kq2iz]

I never knew people could be like this but they are real. Crazy isn't fun at all. Driven by darkness the narcissist tells you you are no good, no one likes you and you can't do anything right then get super pissed when you know none of that is true.

[@obiwan9236]

It's funny when you discard your narcissist without knowing they're a narcissist. I was suffering npd abuse, but couldn't figure out what was triggering my sanity.

[@MANDYLOLA1]

I outted mines affair on social media. He took a girl 25 years younger than him on holiday a work holiday I was supposed to be on. She was the spot if his ex wife. I publicly shamed him as on social media he was still pretending to be married, even though he’d taken me and my parents out for dinner and want us to be married. I’ve had 2 decades of narcissistic people and one who destroyed me and I now have adrenal fatigue. No way was I going to ever let that bastard back in so I publicly blew the lid on his affair his relationship with me. He was a solo world champion in his sport! The worst type of narc. He wanted me for 30 years, perused me all that time, in the end I was nothing to him. I made sure he hated me for good in the end so I pray he won’t come back. After educating myself in these videos I will never entertain him again.

[@jeanbutler6585]

Thank you for your video. My husband has mentioned many times that he thought my golden child narcissistic sister was jealous of me, but I didn't think she wanted to destroy me. Thank you for shining a light on how sadistic they really are.

[@brenthartness5654]

I love this guy😂lol, he hits the nail on the head like it was a script! Thanks brother!!!

[@iamu2247]

When some one goes out of their way to hurt you and you accept them back... You better believe that they will do it AGAIN and WORSE the next time you consider putting up healthy boundaries. I went through it once with my first narc. I did all the wrong things as I didn't have the information I do today to defend my pysche against them. My ex narc is currently living with her mother, and has been through about 8 bfs in the last 5 years we have been broken up. Even her own mother warned me about her and I didn't listen. I was so trauma bonded and thinking she would change for the better. Nope. She became meaner to her new bfs after me.

[@bhavanishankar7182]

Thank you so much for this video. It really spoke to my soul directly. It spoke about everything that happened in my life. Thank you for this.

[@daviddemars]

Bhavani Shankar Thank you Bhavani.

[@poisoneddog2967]

THIS DUDE DAVE HAS DONE SO MUCH FOR ME THRU THESE AWESOME VIDEOS - i went from A NARC STRAIGHT TO HER SISTER SUPRISE SUPRISE SHE WAS ONE TOO - ive had a year from hell thanks dave your a star thanks for doing what you do and so well

[@patriciacardwell2587]

My ex tried to get my own mother against me, but she defended me . I discarded the narcissist first. When my mom and grandma knew about what he does to me or says to me. He got mad because I told my family the truth about him . Now he's calling me the user and other bad names. He used me when asked me to move in , because he wanted me to take care of his kids. He had me meet his parents a day after we knew each other

[@MakeCannabisLegal]

Thanks for posting this video. I fell for a classic hoovering tactic on 14th Feb, having been no contact since Nov. I now see him for who he truly is & I’ve blocked him from my life. Keep up the good work 👍

[@daviddemars]

MakeCannabisLegal Thank you so much, keep going you're doing what you're supposed to do.

[@showglowshowglow488]

oh boy this is good stuff!!

[@Pattie-o7f]

When I discarded him he went off the rails. He went online dating sites to hook up with anyone who would go out with him. He met up at hotels and come home looking disheveled while I was worried about him. It was out of character for him...at least I thought at that point in time. He eventually went back with his old supply and after 3years he did hoover me. It lasted 2 1/2 yrs then he did get me back and discarded me. I'm now healing my CPTSD and in therapy.

[@msthang5366]

I will never go back

[@prometheuspredator7971]

Thank you for your awesome video. I subscribed. One thing to mention is that narcissism can also be caused by a parents who spoil their kids. They enable, coddle, and rescue them over and over again inorder for the child to avoid life circumstances, responsibility, and accountability. They become spoiled brats and bullies. The parents instill in them a since of entitlement and superiority that follows them into adulthood. They expect to be treated as entitled and special, because their parents raised them to expect such treatment. If they don't get what they want, they will through a fit which can easily lead into a anger or rage episode, just like a child until they get what. You don't have to be abused or mentally maimed to become a narcissist.

[@katarinatibai8396]

I actualy meet know a narcissist 4 jears ago - he desidet to buy a aquarium and some smal fishes. He really told me that he want to have fishes as hause pets because they ate quaiet and cant run aeay, hsve to wait to become foof from him and he's gonna be like god for the fishes. 😢😢😢 - It was so disturbing to hear that kind of messed up thinking. Normal people have pets because they loves them and naturally cares for them like a mom for child whitaut grandiose attitude - 😠 After he told me that disordered bullshitt - I gone no contact - from a other "friend" - I heard - the fishes are oll ded after 3 weeks - in his "care" - they oll jumped aut of the wather - because he distegard the wather temperatur. 😢😢😢😢 poor helpless fishies. After a time I realize that "friend" was also a narc - a covert one - also no contact with him. --------------------------------------------- God for the fishes - 😢😨😱😵😳😩😷 - jajks ! - that's so syc.

[@Willa4420]

Narcissism is basically the perfect crime . When I asked about Narcissism and murder/suicide ...narcs form soul ties and often never want to let go. My neighbor's Father committed suicide by shooting himself in the head in the garage. My older cousin's homosexual lover of twenty years refused to take his HIV medications. A female relative of mine...her first husband took a flying leap out of a 17 story apartment building. I suspect all these partners felt this was the ONLY way to get away from Narc abuser is by death. :(

[@bxndo5ive]

So true. My mom is a narc and when I was forced to live with her for years I would think about suicide daily. The only thing that stopped me was having a son to live for. They inflict the most torturous pain upon you and when you can’t escape it you rather die than continue suffering.

[@Willa4420]

@@bxndo5ive Get away from narcissistic people no matter who they are.

[@bbelizy9627]

You are fantastic! I just discarded my vicious Narc and he is FURIOUS! Thank you for this video. I am going to hang on tightly to your words!

[@ms.budgetmom8472]

I discarded mine early December and blocked him from social media and phone. I have not heard nothing from him. I do expect he will pop up somehow. But i am done as i now underway how they think 🤔

[@vesseltalk2984]

Christina Rodrigues they never go away so be prepared and keep him blocked

[@kristinahamilton2526]

This man is speaking word for word how and what my ex was like and said...

[@sungirl9951]

Wow this makes perfect sense on my situation with ex husb. I so called abandoned him a bunch of times but I didn't know I was doing it at the time.

[@b.reginawilliams7073]

So glad to have rebuked, blocked and deleted the toxic people in my life. Thank you for sharing this video.

[@le-annelarsen9400]

Thanks again for this great info David!.....sometimes we need to be reminded that once someone devalues us....... there is no more relationship! My story is a very long time relationship with an overt and a two year that I just ended promptly with a covert......I have never been at such a fabulously strong, free and happy place in my life. Thank U for reminding us to love ourselves first! I can feel such good things are in store moving forward ......🤗

[@stephaniecollins3573]

THANK YOU!!! I am NOT crazy!!!! 😅

[@venusallegrayerkovich592]

Thank you David your a champion of life. I'm gonna be a champion too. BLESS YOU ABUNDANTLY.

[@daviddemars]

Venus Allegra Yerkovich I LOVE YOU VENUS! Give your son big hugs for me!

[@venusallegrayerkovich592]

CNXG CrazyNarcissistXGirlfriend ok I will. Thanks big hugs for you too. Love you my friend.

[@marshaburke1816]

Hi, David, I just Lov U, I'm cracking up laughing and crying your just telling 100% truth God Bless You Thanks for your truth!!!!!!

[@tinnnn1]

David this is what I'm going through now...thank you! He won't be coming back. And I will watch your videos every day, twice a day if I have to, to remind myself of what I walked away from.

[@user-us7vw3yq8p]

Spot on. I've left a note in my door tonight, it's getting to that hour when they knock. It just says "don't" 😂

[@Axess-sv8nq]

It took me a while to fully get my most recent abuser out of my life. I finally detached from her mentally and emotionally. She's pathetic to me now. She lives in her mask and it's getting lonelier behind it for her. I found out from mutual friends that they left her behind as well. They got sick of how fake she is. They got sick of the nonsense. And they saw through her lies about what a wonderful person she is. I didn't have to do or say a thing. They figured it out for themselves and dropped her.

[@manuelavalencia4855]

Im so thankful for this videos, they are giving me hope in the middle of the chaos. I was in a relationship with a narcissist for almost 2 years, she did all kinds of stuff to me, but now that everything is over Im surprised of how she acted at the end, I decided to break up with her because I was finally seeing her true colors, one day she started yelling at me for no reason saying all kinds of stuff before leaving me crying. Then I blocked her from everything, I was DONE! That same night she called me asking why I had blocked her and saying how sorry she was, she invited me for lunch that week and said she was going to change, that she didnt understand why she was acting like that, the next day she gave me flowers and started to act very distant once again. When I asked her why she was acting like that, she turned everything around to make me look like the one who wasnt interested in the conversation, so 10 minutes later she says to me I cant keep going like this, I need peace, this is never going to work. to which I replied ok, bye and then blocked her from everything once again. Why would she say she was sorry and how badly she wanted to be with me just to discard me 3 days later?

[@daviddemars]

Manu Valencia. They are emotional children. You hurt them and they have to hurt you back. They must have the last word and if you leave them then they are bad but if they leave you then you are bad and they're still the victim.

[@albertamantey8217]

Sick people

[@illusionalfilms3792]

I know my narcissist ex will never contact me again. lol. I discarded her for cheating multiple times. But yeah, no way she's coming back.

[@amberholland85]

Thank you for reminding me why I left.

[@ranikalakaar]

Kute.

[@sidesaddle001]

Absolutely brilliant! I can’t thank you enough for this video. In the three year relationship for want of a better word I knew after a few months that he was narcissistic I have him down as a covert narcissist because he operates quietly and behind-the-scenes in a sly but obvious way. To those around him and his workplace they just think he he is laid-back some think he has issues but can’t put their finger on it and think he’s just had a bad dose of life. A comeback go away relationship. Are used to be beside myself with pain and sorrow at his hurts and it took me a long time to understand that this quiet man could be so hateful and ghastly in a very subtle way. I guess that is where the saying comes from that the quiet ones are the worst. I walked away from him a month ago And my emotions have yo-yoed around like you wouldn’t believe but I come back to being strong again. He has been in touch but totally emotionless and not saying the right things basically he has offered me half a crumb to see if I will accept and come back under such awful offers. He wanted to meet up for a chat I told him I’m not interested. Hopefully he will leave me alone but I do feel he is watching me and stalking me. He already is working on his next supply which sadly appears is his son who is 22 years old. Whenever we broke up in the past is the only time he bothered contacting two of his four kids. They are all over 18 and the eldest being about 24. He wants his son to live with himBecause he seeks only companionship. He is using his son and I pray for his sons sake he does not take up with his dad because he will feel his self centredness after a while.

[@chefmanrashidchannel88pl3]

Say man i really enjoyed this video i recently had another added trama. Episode wit my ex which now it all adds up there heartless um fearless i was good to hear this peace bro.

[@nl-wu4js]

First of all I admire how you convey complex ideas in such an easy way. Thanks for all of your videos. They are really helpful. I'd like to know the following: -Can a narcissist open up about his insecurities? Like for example a rather major physical flaw? I met mine online and he displayed this fact now almost two years later. -Can a narcissist hurt himself intentionally? He mentioned some foggy suicide attempt prior to our acquaintance but I considered it might be a ruse to make me love him more (even though it's a nasty thing to think I wouldn't put it past him) I discarded him (blocked everywhere but superior forces seem to be mocking my will and we're sucked in the cuckoo circus again after eight months of peace). He already carried out his protracted revenge with utter consistence and no remorse, including cold treatment and such unbridled lies it makes me twitch how I still love someone that twisted and spiteful. At this point I really feel sorry for him, because of the truth I found out about recently though it's pointless to go into details... I know there's no excuse to put up with him but I really miss him. I'm aware being such a goober only feeds his rage because he wants me to be broken, but I'm not and I still enjoy his company... We haven't spoken to each other since the middle of March. I'll let him be, but I don't know how to give up on him when he comes back... I just see the good part much stronger than this façade he built himself and can't get out of.

[@daviddemars]

nico las Thank you for your comment and support. If you really examine a narcissists choices you will see that they are self saboteurs. You must reach out for any support you can get.

[@mochibi6035]

I discarded the narc around 30+ times and all the time he would come up with love bombing, crocodile tears or tried to buy me with gifts. Sometimes it was as if he knew I was going to discard him again and he would give me gifts out of the blue. Lol What a glorious day when he discarded me in the 'grand finale.' Praise be to GOD always!!!

[@wtpattonjr]

My narc doesn't often Hoover me when she and I "break up." She stays occupied by lying around in her house, drunk, on her phone, teasing the legions of guys she has lined up on Tinder. It's my dumb ass who gives in and calls her because I know that I can have sex with her "one last time" just by bringing a couple bottles of wine to her house. I need to be deciplined in 2018.

[@lyndiex4215]

Thor Lol n smh jus do urself nxt time n keep the wine. Narc devils aint worth it...neva

[@angelasharp6869]

Wow that's the first time I've heard someone talk about how the narcissist tries to convince you and others that you are suicidal. My mother has been telling others for 25+ years that I am suicidal and I'm going to kill myself even though I've never said or done anything to indicate that ever! In fact I'm in complete defiance of ever killing myself, I wouldn't want to bring that much joy to my mums world.

[@lilgbgd633]

He would make me cry yet he never held me I found that as a marker of something mentally disturbing about him.

[@lorihoppa9970]

Awesome! Thank you Thank you Thank you! God Bless!! 😇💪❤💙💚💛💜💓💕💖💞👍👏👐You make me so so very happy So Glad that I have Found you! You get iit! They are Kicking me out! My Own Brother! Gotta Stop! Big Help to this world!! I only trust God! Who Knows! So good too see!! You have hit the spot!

[@sherifsherra]

You're awesome man!

[@claudiawalker4224]

David you are a blessing. Your videos have saved me. I'm in the process of healing. I cannot believe how close to total loss and destruction I became. I almost lost EVERYTHING ! I cannot thank you enough.

[@phoenixfyre3465]

David, he waited for awhile then hacked into my Facebook messenger and posed as a few of my friends and I have blocked every single one of his attempts. Back in September, when I tried one more time to see if things could work, I eventually got to the point where I felt like I wanted to die, the darkness I felt from his psychological mind fucks and horrible words got me so hopeless, I will not forget that, he doesn't want anything good for me, and I know that today, thank u for this video

[@primulamiguelshuggana2054]

The dam narc I discarded tried to get my partner to make me apologize. Glad my partner wised up. Bye bye narc.