When You Don't Feel Like Doing Anything..🌸 feeling stuck & unmotivated

[@DarlingDesi]

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[@beastylime4]

to make a slump feel whimsical is truly a skill

[@MsCherries30]

I love Jared narrating at the beginning, it feels very magical. Your videos are always so beautiful ☁️🌷

[@DarlingDesi]

He did such a good job 💗 I showed him this comment and he says a very deep thank you!! 🫶🏻

[@FoxFireFarm]

I agree

[@roksannastephens4375]

Yes, yay Jared

[@piper_lori-williams-tudhope]

Yes, it’s so sweet! 💝

[@alwaysgrace2215]

Haha I didn't notice that was him 😂❤

[@jessicajordan680]

I've learned recently that there are two types of burn out. The first is the one we've all heard about and experienced. Too stressed, too overwhelmed, too unmotivated too... everything. But THEN there's the second one, where it is the LACK OF PURPOSE that makes our energy burn out. Think about it like having an energy drink or a cup of coffee and getting all hyped--- and then not doing anything with it. Not looking forward to something or finding something fun to do or being purposeful with our time. Inertia can be burn out too.

[@Mythriftedhome214]

I recently saw a quote essentially saying that every moment we spend on our phone is a moment we aren’t spending with people we love, we aren’t reading, we aren’t being in nature, we aren’t doing some hobby, etc. I think technology is wonderful and yet a challenge to being present in our lives. I think sometimes we all need to get back in touch with nature, the part of ourselves that just enjoys doing something and not doing it as a post or to possibly even share with anyone but simply for the simple joy of experiencing it❤

[@Horrorzeit]

Beautifully said!

[@ForestFoxBistro]

I definitely think that phones are the #1 thief of creativity

[@stephoso]

It’s really sad, the state of everyone’s mind. You can tell everyone is anxious because they don’t feel they’re living to everyone’s expectations or because they’re in fear of putting one foot wrong in front of the world. I was reading Tom Lake and there’s a segment where the mom and daughters are in the middle of their orchard and they feel anxious to use politically correct language even though there was no one around. That segment really demonstrated the reality of our new world. It’s good to be compassionate and use gentle language but it’s also good to let people be human. Someone being insensitive is not reason enough to spend all day trying to ruin their lives.

[@havocwoods]

sometimes this isn't an option tho. i have extreme chronic pain so i can't just do things. i have no friends, no one to talk to. no way of having hobbies, etc. i can only read so much before i get sick of it. if i didn't have my phone, i would have nothing, my days and nights would be spent staring at the ceiling. don't get me wrong i'm not exactly a fan of social media or the internet, but sometimes it's the literal only option of not being cut off from the world completely. i wish i could do things, but it's just not possible.

[@John-316URLOVED]

I made the decision to get off social media 3-4 years ago...the only thing I allow myself is watching KZbin. When I quit the apps, I read more, wrote more, painted, sewed, gardened, walked with my family & pets, and, overall, became present and enjoyed life much more. For me, apps did not make me a better person; they did not make me smarter, kinder, a better wife or worker, they did not bring me joy or peace, or create feelings of contentment. There was a recharge, but more toward what really mattered. You take your time...take all the time you need :)

[@mistymoonbeam6274]

I’m working through this change myself. It’s hard and I honestly think the world needs to start seeing our phones as a similar addiction to drugs. It’s not easy to let it go, and I also think it’s okay to be off some and only allow for others like you do. Thanks for sharing your experience

[@LauZalve]

I am proud of you

[@Supercalifragil]

Im working on that I have a horrible social media addiction more that 10hrs of screen, I graduate from university a couple of months ago but getting my life in track has been a strugle for me

[@John-316URLOVED]

@@Supercalifragil Short goals help you reach bigger goals. Can you do 5 minutes? Yay! Only 1? Yay, still a win! Make small goals and take time to increase the interval as weeks go by. Eventually you'll get the 10 down to 9 and so on. :)

[@Supercalifragil]

@@John-316URLOVED tank you so much, I will try and you are a big inspiration, I hope I can do it

[@wildoctober1513]

“I want to feel like a fairy” is going to be my summer feeling this year

[@TerisaYoung-pb2gw]

We forget how to play as adults and I truly believe it affects our health, time to actually rest, be bored, breath, is so key to a healthy immune system and mental health! Perfect video as always! ❤❤❤

[@DarlingDesi]

Thank you!! 💗 And yeah I completely agree that play as an adult is so so important!

[@janeburkhart4051]

I'm not a creator of anything, but I'm definitely feeling burned out, unmotivated, and overwhelmed by life. I'm so happy that you've been able to find joy again, Desi. Thank you for another lovely video. Sending lots of love. ❤

[@longevity-u1z]

maybe this women working idea was not such a good idea?

[@littlelifeofbooks]

“HURKLE DURKLING” obsessed with that term. 😂

[@DarlingDesi]

Truly an incredible phrase I will be using as often as I possibly can 😄

[@23Dakini]

“Create without expectations, your expectations are the only limit”

[@judiebritt5741]

It is so funny when you talk about having been inside all winter and looking forward to summer. I live in FL and I feel like I live inside all summer due to the heat and humidity and around the end of October I come to life and spend fall, winter, and spring outside. For hot climates, seasonal depression is real during the hot months vs cold and dark months further north.

[@beccamartin5533]

I’ve been suffering so bad with depression lately but when I watch your videos, all the black fog seems to dissipate for a short while and I feel a sense of belonging. Thank you for that ❤

[@IndieAnnieJones1]

Imagine being in my situation, waking at 5:30 am to face a full-time stressful job, 3 hour commute, being a single mom, figuring out how I can save or make more money, and coming home to start crafting late at night, editing and doing voice-over into the wee hours of the night just to create content weekly. Then waking up to do it again the next day. I have been doing my channel for 6 years now with slow results, but still proud of what I have achieved. I don't have time to have picnics, I don't have the chance to sit and read, I only look up to the clouds to see if it will rain, but I am always creating in my mind, taking notes, trying to find the time to do it all. I do treasure the moments I get to watch you do all these wonderful things .I envy you it's true, you are what I wish I would have been 25 years ago but now in my mid-50's I am reaching to become everything I wanted to be. From a YT crafting channel, to an indie actress, to an author, to a non-profit writer and most importantly a mom. (and yes I achieved all this after the worst days of my life when my ex left me.) I look forward to your content to relax and recharge, to give me hope and to dream of a simpler life - so if anything I hope that motivates you, because you inspire me to keep at it, week after week, and find new ways to share my creativity with joy and passion! I plan to go to the UK soon too! Keep at it my dear girl - never forget that we await with bated breath to see what our whimsical friend will do next! Big hugs!

[@TheMisabv]

Wow, You are inspiring 😮! What's you channels name ?

[@chantellucky4565]

You are a role model to NEVER GIVE UP!!! You inspired me! Sending you ❤ and blessings…and a brighter days ahead!

[@chantellucky4565]

Would like to see your channel too…what is the name please?

[@missfairbanks8661]

Literally just click on her picture and it brings you right to her.... ❤

[@IndieAnnieJones1]

@@TheMisabv it's my username but it's thanks to Desi that I keep going realizing that everyone needs something different when they come to KZbin

[@booktime90]

This is what it feels like to be rich- good food, fresh air, a book...I LOVE THIS!

[@stillfedup1758]

yes, me too! That was a moment of profound brilliance.

[@nerdmaid1240]

I didn’t realise until I moved to the coast that parking with a view was a thing. I’m in Cornwall UK, and it’s the cosiest winter weekend activity to take our breakfast and our book, grab a Starbucks on the way, and sit watching the waves (and the wild swimmers!). It’s so peaceful and great to recharge. We sometimes see seals too, and there’s nothing more magical.

[@amandalandvlog8438]

Oh the end was everything to me. This weekend I was pushed into the idea of getting "just any job". Right now I'm not working. Only my husband is. Him and I are okay with this. But, its other people around us who don't get it. I have some work experience trauma and toxic things I'm healing from. The end of the video confirmed that I don't need to go out and do what others wish me to do. Im healing. I'm resting. I'm doing what my husband and I think is best. being creative in ways that bring me joy. which make me no money lol. BUT, I was in a theater play this year and it was amazing. People asked me if I got paid??? Can we not do things for joy? Yes, I think we can. I can. Thank YOU for resting. I needed to see this!!!

[@greti17]

I went through this, I graduated with a degree, didn’t have a job for 10 months and people would judge and ask me all the time. People just couldn’t understand how I couldn’t just do anything to get paid. It made me feel so low about my career and life choices. I tried doing other jobs. Well, after the 10 months I was able to get licensed in my field of mental health, and found a job right away. It is since then that I know for a fact that what is meant to be comes at the right timing, not when you want it to. I also realized that people will never understand unless they are going through it. Do what you need for yourself as only you are experiencing these feelings.

[@heidisunshine3326]

The push to be productive is absolutely immobilizing sometimes. Thank you for this inspiration and reminder to “do stuff purely for fun” 🌸

[@DarlingDesi]

Love you!!! 🫶🏻 I hope you’re doing well! I know we briefly talked about you feeling a little burnt out creatively at work too. Sending you so much love sweet friend! 💗

[@Celine-iz3ws]

I love the idea of a "Could Do List" rather than a more rigid list of things to do. The "Simple Things" Magazine always had great ones.

[@bloodorange9]

Thanks for the tip!

[@imaginationsmusic1985]

My best friend just sent this to me, knowing I've been struggling to find motivation to make content myself 🥺

[@crobinrush4254]

🫶🏼

[@imaginationsmusic1985]

@@crobinrush4254 love you Bestie!💜💙🤎

[@DarlingDesi]

Sending you so much love! 💗 You got this!

[@Emmalineofficial]

Omg what a surprise!!!! I hear my own cover of “My Girl” at 15:25 🥹❤️🥹❤️ I was literally like “IS THAT MY OWN VOICE I HEAR?!?!?” Been watching your videos for soooo many months now! Thanks for using my cover :)

[@kayannajones996]

I was just thinking how beautiful this version was when I stumbled upon your comment!! an absolutely lovely cover, you're so talented🩷

[@mistymoonbeam6274]

@@kayannajones996agreeed

[@1966HeidiHO]

Thank you for making this video. I am trying to hard, like you, to find a balance between life and a chronic disease. I am 58 and was diagnosed with Leukemia January 2023. I have always been busy busy and I find it so hard to rest and not to feel like "I need to be doing something". It's depressing and I have to choose everyday not to let it get to me and do what I can and be happy with that. So thank you for your grace. And please continue to take your days off. Life is so short and finding joy should be our number one focus. I just wanted you to know that I applaud you and your not alone.

[@kaylaballinger495]

In November I'm getting married. It's something I've wanted my whole life and something I've worked toward and waited for since I was really young. I've worked on myself so I can be the best woman and wife I can be, and waited for the right man to come into my life. I've been feeling the burnout for many years but haven't been able to do anything about it because I have to work to pay rent and eat food. But my fiancé and I have been able to work out a way I can go down to part time and eventually fully be a stay at home wife and mom who contributes time and energy to the family and home in ways that better suit my strengths, like growing our own food and spices in the garden, and I would be so, so giddy if I weren't so exhausted. 😅 I can't wait!

[@agnesskibicka]

@kaylaballinger495, hello 🤗 to you from Poland 🇵🇱 and my rural living - channel! You will enjoy it!

[@KarmicAngel]

I wish life was as beautiful for everyone as it is for you. Unfortunately, for some, life is very hard and sad and dark. I wish light for everyone. I'm happy that you have a life you love, we all need and deserve that.

[@reneevandevander5581]

I'm a teacher and this school year just burnt me out. I would wake up and wonder how I was going to drag myself through another day. And I basically shut down every day to get through it. I turned myself off and just endured. The only thing that made me feel better was sitting in the yard after school with my cats and either watching the clouds or reading. Even though it's summer now I don't think I've completely recovered. Watching you roll down hills and run around, being a kid again, makes me want to do the same kind of things. I'm so tired of just struggling to exist. I want to feel some kind of joy again.

[@BethanyPlatt322]

The juxtaposition at 17:46 is astounding. You're talking about the beautiful sky and this man in the background walks by, head down, looking at his phone. It was almost jarring to me because I am that person. I used to be always outside, but lately I've been tied up with my phone and to do lists. I've realized watching this video that I've lost my whimsy and appreciation for the small things.

[@aubreezily13]

Stop, this popped up on my feed while I was procrastinating my studies for finals this week. 💀

[@DarlingDesi]

👀

[@ManishaOjha-o8v]

I have my finals after 3 days and All I do is sleep and feel so demotivated. I try to get out of that zone but can't. Idk what to do at all

[@Aira-st6vz]

I love your note about being barefoot and being outside. its very true that humans should naturally be outside it benefits your physical health as well mental health. and just gronding and connecting to mother earth I's such a magical and wonderfully expirence

[@debratarte8204]

As a girl mom the one thing I appreciate most about your channel is that it is, your channel. I really hope you keep this channel centered around you to include the stories and narration. You have spent so much time and effort building your channel, I hope that remains the primary focus.

[@imthemaid]

My Darling Desi: you don’t know how much this video has touched my heart. I am currently going through, what will probably be a very unsuccessful battle with cancer. To see your vivaciousness and your wonder in the every day things brightens my day. Never stop being you! You are so special and bring such joy to others lives. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!

[@samanthamoore2294]

Sending positive and healing vibes your way ❤

[@ericab8705]

Sending you hugs, love, and healing.

[@imthemaid]

@@ericab8705 thank you so much!

[@glitterandducttape]

Peace, blessings and so much healing to you.🙏🏻💐💜🕊️🕯️

[@imthemaid]

@@glitterandducttape thank you!

[@katka5407]

That quote with justifying your existence... it reallly hit me. i am often so disappointed in myself for not really having any special talents with no prospect of doing anything great that would be set in history or something like that. It would be so nice to feel comfortable just existing without expectations.Our grandparents often did not think about life so often so deeply and they feeltless depressed and more comfortable with living just ordinary life without having to be successful in everything.

[@elsag34c]

I’m not a creator and I know how it feels. Last year and part of this year has been rocky! I’ve taken comfort in God, knowing he has a purpose for us all. It’s one of those moments where you grow a little bit more. Prayers for you and such a fan of your videos 🤍🌼

[@agnesskibicka]

@elsacg33, blessings from Poland 🇵🇱 and a fellow Christian and my rural living - channel 😊

[@Guguchina]

Thank you. I suffered burnout and needed a break with bad anxiety but now I totally feel like I'm in a rut

[@AngelLeosAdorkableUniverse]

This is the type of video I crave, honest, fun, relaxed and just every day stuff that you like doing. I think you should just let yourself be lose. And by that I mean make videos that make YOU happy, because when you are happy, we are happy, we like seeing you enjoy life, it inspires us and relaxes us. Thank you for being on of my favorite people here.

[@anyamironova]

this could not have come at a more perfect time. i have a 9 month old baby and it has turned my life completely upside down. i am stuck in routines I've never had to have before. i am constantly burnt out. my energy is drained, my battery is low. i love my baby so much, but I'm struggling to figure out this new life. i want to find joy again. and motivation. and to learn how to LOVE this new life. thank you for what you do. for showing us that we're not alone. it means more to people than you might know 💕

[@LizzyCat]

Just wanted to say, you GOT this Mama. It’s okay to be burnt out AND in love with your baby. It’s okay to be exhausted beyond comprehension AND so grateful that you’re in this season. You can do this. You were MADE to do this. ❤ hang in there.

[@anyamironova]

@LizzyCat I so appreciate the sweet and uplifting words! it's really nice to be reminded that I am capable and I can do this no matter how hard it can be 💜 thank you for being kind to a stranger on the internet 💕

[@hsoderberg6505]

Have you've seen any of Michelle Reed's vlogs? She is the first-time mom of a 6-month old seeking balance between being a wife & mother & not losing her identity in the process.

[@anyamironova]

@hsoderberg6505 I haven't. I'll have to check her out. thank you

[@racheldee8361]

I just want to encourage you by saying this is just one season of your life as a new Mom! This is not your new normal, but instead this is a season. You are amazing!! 💙💙💙

[@user-kl9yi2ns5z]

Just watching this video makes me feel better. I totally resonance with this feelings.

[@BelgianBisous]

we all have our own needs and sometimes we can't prioritize ourselves the way we need to. This is no hate to Desi, health and mental challenges are real, painful and hard to overcome, and a period of great change like a big move is frightening and paralyzing and overwhelming and you'd get stuck creatively for less. I'm glad she's able to take the best and healthiest course of action but this won't be possible for most. I wish for everyone struggling your life will soon ease a bit and you will have the time to find yourself again❤️

[@LorraineBjork]

What I love is that you just kind of decided that you needed to get out of your "slump" that is such and encouragement to me that we can create an intentional happiness, like a mindset. Like you always say, joy is about the little things, and those things are always there, we just have to look for them. Thank you, Desi!

[@Moonys_Star]

You don’t know how much I needed this today. Sending love from Connecticut ❤️❤️

[@DarlingDesi]

I’m so glad it resonated with you! If you’re feeling at all similar to how I’ve been feeling, just know it WILL pass 💗🫶🏻

[@gretajones7107]

“As you wish”😂😂😂 I love that movie

[@CherryDreamer96]

Wow this came at a perfect time! Recently ive been in a total slump. 🌸

[@DarlingDesi]

It can be soooo frustrating, but I think in hindsight it can be a great period of growth! Take time to listen to yourself and know it won’t last forever 🫶🏻

[@piper_lori-williams-tudhope]

Same. 😢

[@bookthoughtswitheilish]

Thanks for this Desi, your message at the end is so so important! I have started taking Sundays off for the last 6 months or so to just read/relax/do anything I want and put my to do list away. It has changed my life! I am definitely less stressed and more joyful now 💕

[@Julie-si3hi]

Im not unmotivated but i have chronic pain and disabilities...my body won't cooperate 😢 i llnow being a content creator must be hard but honestly you have an idylic life...books! Doing what you want when you want! Picnics! ❤

[@serendipityblooming1244]

I feel you sister 💖 Being in pain all the time is so exhausting! I never had any idea before experiencing disability the sheer torment of WANTING to do the things but not having any energy or brain power at all. It takes an extra amount of self love and patience to not get lost in the darkness. I have to remind myself my body is speaking in wise ways with the symptoms and reminding me to rest and recover, but it's so hard not to just get frustrated! Sending some hugs and healing vibes your way 🤗💞😺

[@Littleonesmicrosanctuary]

Yeah, me too!!! I have so many interests (barely any get a look, and if they do mere sitting is draining without the added focus needed, and work to do but it is chronic pain and ease of injuring myself, and the way my brain works that can slow me down, take away any want/motivation or sometimes stop me from doing things. I want to exercise a bit but it is my body. I have a sanctuary also but have to force the basic housework every now and then, after the animals. Then throw social media app into the mix but not an influencer....unless you call hugging a goat influencing lol

[@serendipityblooming1244]

@@Littleonesmicrosanctuary Yes goat hug influencer is a VERY important title!!! For real!There isn't much social media content good for the soul, but animal content and cozy stuff like Desi's are so healing and the WORLD NEEDS MORE!! It's funny you commented because having a small animal sanctuary is actually my dream, working on getting land now. I am so happy you're surrounded by animals, they are truly the best healers! But I am also so sorry to hear you can relate to the being slowed down by pain and body not cooperating. Sometimes we just have to take it one day at a time, or even one hour or minute at a time. Just remember the body can always heal! Sending all my love your way and please hug one of your goats from me?! 🙏💖🐐

[@bluesash10]

"As you wish" rolling down the mountain...🤣🤣 That was Epic!!! Lovely video as always. Sending you hugs.

[@mitzywebtoons]

OMG YES!!! BEEN REWATCHING ALL OF YOU'RE VIDEOS TO GET ME IN THE MOOD FOR SUMMER. usually I get a little depressed during the hot months so u are a literal godsend. I hope flowers bloom when you walk bye, and that baby ducklings follow their mother in front of your house during your morning tea! love you desi!!! my sophomore finals are coming up soon so this video will definitely cheer me up!

[@lislmadeleine8463]

I do believe this is my favorite video you’ve ever done. Gratitude, the beauty of the grass, exhilarating feeling of fresh air - it’s *all* so important! 🎉 Well done and thank you for sharing!

[@DarlingDesi]

Wow, thank you!! That makes me so happy to know you enjoyed it! 💗🫶🏻

[@lauraa1345]

Seeing this notification just made me so incredibly happy🥹 I missed you a lot, Desi! I hope you're feeling at least a little bit better❤️

[@DarlingDesi]

I’ve missed being here!! So so much! Thank you for still watching 🥹🫶🏻

[@cdal1621]

“Vloggy” Desi is such a vibe! You seem so relaxed, spontaneous and happy just being you and enjoying life and what day to day has to offer. Lovely message and take away for everyone to slow down and enjoy “the birds” 😅 thank you beautiful soul

[@sallybennett5758]

Hi Desi...while my problem is not what you have been experiencing, I LOVE the part of this video where you allowed yourself an "adventure" and do all the things you love. I plan on doing that soon myself. I NEVER have a day OFF! ...EVER...even when I am off. Cause there is food shopping to do, paying bills, laundry...always SOMETHING!! And sure I will find time in between, say washing the clothes, with coloring or crocheting (my favorite hobbies), but I still don't feel like the day is ALL mine. So, on my birthday this year, I will not exist. I will take myself away from my duties/responsibilities and claim the day just for ME alone! Thank you so much for allowing me to take a peek into your fun day, looking forward to mine. I'm going OUT! My favorite park and a Library with a hiking trail, that's where I will be. Thanks again for this wonderful video and good luck, with finding your muse ❤

[@sonja229]

Oh, Desi. I love this style of video. I love seeing a different look into your life. You can seriously never go wrong with your videos. You make my day every single time! You and your work/passion are such a gift to the world! 💟

[@farrah7748]

Lovely Princess Bride reference ❤

[@DarlingDesi]

I was hoping some people would get it 😄

[@boeghanna]

The part where you roll down the hill in your frilly skirt and your hair bow and pink shirt just genuinely made me smile so much!

[@yellowzora]

I've been feeling burned out for a couple of years now, and after many drastic changes, I think I'm slowly coming back to myself. Money is not plentiful at the moment but hopefully that will change again soon, and in the meantime I will use much of my free time to try my best and be whimsy. To go for that picnic, sit on the grass, learn how to sew my own clothes, volunteer in the charity shop, dance to music. I have faith that we will all get where we need to be, if we are only willing to work towards it. Beautiful video and message, thank you so much for filming and sharing!

[@tarabartlett2184]

It was classy of you to acknowledge that mothers can’t usually take a day or even a half-day of rest. That can sometimes feel like a cruelty to receive advice for self-care that we know we need but simply can’t take. However, I hope moms (especially of tiny people) can find ways to reduce the workload. Yes, you have to feed and change your small ones. You have to keep the house at a basic level of decency. But it can stop there. I took many days when my kids were little to read a book lying on the floor while the kids crawled all over my back (bonus free massage 😉), take time to only enjoy their sweet little souls, etc. Productivity and perfection are the thieves of joy in motherhood. You can’t be a power mom all the time-and the children won’t be happier if you try to be. Focus on happy you and happy kids. The house will still be there tomorrow.

[@rainbowpeapod2796]

please don't be so hard on yourself, everything has a season ~ sometimes right when we are about to breakthrough and expand our lives in ways we didn't think was possible we can reach a wall ~ sometimes by breaking through that wall we cultivate the growth that's needed to all of the new in our lives :)

[@NorthlandHomestead]

I really relate to this Desi! I also have a KZbin channel that I love to work on. But sometimes, especially lately, it feels uninspiring, and like a chore. I don't want to feel this way. But when you are busy in life, and work is hanging over your head, it can feel depressing. I've been attempting to give myself grace as well, for wanting to enjoy the beauty of spring after such a long winter. And your videos help me do that. Thank you so much!!!

[@magdalena7477]

The bloopers are literally becoming my favourite part, I love it because it’s so real and thus relatable 😋🔥🩷😍🤗

[@DarlingDesi]

I’m so glad you enjoy them 😅

[@Beanomorph]

Art is a journey and a struggle. You’re a charming creator, Desi. Take time to yourself sand don’t worry about documenting everything. Your life is for your own living, not to cater to everyone else! Kindred spirits want you to feel and do the best for you, because the happiest version of you is what we want 💕

[@ambarrose]

Thank you for being so honest about it all, dear Desi. People on social media should talk more about these moments. This is a real struggle.

[@VirginiaCanas]

When I get into these slumps I remind myself of this Marcus Aurelius quote from Meditations: At dawn, when you have trouble getting out of bed, tell yourself: “I have to go to work - as a human being. What do I have to complain of, if I'm going to do what I was born for - the things I was brought into the world to do? Or is this what I was created for? To huddle under the blankets and stay warm? So you were born to feel “nice”? Instead of doing things and experiencing them? Don’t you see the plants, the birds, the ants and spiders and bees going about their individual tasks, putting the world in order, as best they can? And you’re not willing to do your job as a human being? Why aren’t you running to do what your nature demands?" It's way better than the girl boss rhetoric that just makes me feel bad about myself and gets me feeling like a lil fairy comparing myself to bees and birds and plants going about their business, just with my lil human to do list!

[@cottagecore_cambria]

Oh Desi, I am someone who looooves your romantic and beautiful content and eats it up so much. BUT THIS!!! ♥️♥️♥️♥️ the vulnerability, the honesty, the way that this feels like a conversation you’re having one on one with each of us. This makes me (and I’m sure many others) feel so incredibly validated in how we struggle and push ourselves and how to move past that. Sending you so much love and so many hugs ♥️🫶🏻♥️🫶🏻

[@themoderndaycottage]

We understand what you're going through. My daughter and I both have dealt and deal with autoimmune issues. Dealing with adrenal fatigue and creative block can be so challenging. It sounds like you're doing all the right things to take care of yourself, and I commend you for that. It's important to prioritize self-care and find what works best for you. Remember to be gentle with yourself and take it one day at a time. We are sending positive and healing vibes your way. Keep up the fantastic work, and thank you for sharing your journey with us.❤🙌🏼❤️ PS: We are Swifties too!!

[@arlenecoury9976]

Venerable Bishop Robert Sheen said that often times we "busy" ourselves or surround ourselves with costant "noise' and distractions, such as To Do List, Work, Social Media etc. in order to avoid being alone with ourselves and recognizing that perhaps we are lacking internally. I often think back to the times, growing up, before we had Social Media and 24 hr. television. What did I Do? I was outside more. Spending time with myself, thinking, writing, drawing , riding my bike. Gazing up at the clouds. visiting family or simply sitting on teh front porch , sipping ice tea.

[@Gemamp]

i just put down my tablet, i was working and the end of the video got me. I already work! i dont need to do extra. THANK YOU, i will just go and make a puzzle or watch something that i truly like

[@kittyquinn004]

LOVE the intro!!! It feels like Jared is reading aloud a picture book about you to us 💚💚 Also, this video is SO encouraging, like a light at the end of a tunnel. I know I’ll be coming back to it anytime I reach a “slump” in my life 💚💚

[@liadanducky]

I definitely feel like creativity is a muscle 💪 It needs rest! But it also needs exercise! You can’t only grind away or laze in bed but struggle to find the balance❤

[@Lillyjoy]

Desi! 🌸 thank you for sharing this with us, it’s comforting to hear someone else’s way of coping with burnout. I feel like it’s ok to rest as long as you need to and I wish we could all do that, like I wish every job would just let you take breaks you need when you get burnt out. I love your charm necklace you made also!! And your annotating is so cute, I really want to start annotating like that too 😊

[@victoriasmith6827]

I’ve tried to intentionally rest more this year- find things that recharge me and set aside time to rest instead of being so exhausted and just being on my phone. This perfectly encapsulated that! I’m so glad you found rest 😊

[@julieyeoh4593]

Hello Desi! I just recently discovered your channel and its become one of my favourite channels!!- they make me so happy even when it's something so simple so please don't pressurise yourself with your videos!- anything you film is so enjoyable and like meeting a friend! And just like with friends- sometimes sitting and doing nothing is already enough and so special! Thank you for making your videos and being you! 😊

[@annag8448]

For a 'creative rut' this is the most creative video that I've ever seen! I know it's frustrating when you want to do something but can't find the inspiration you desperately need, but it's wonderful that you've shared this with us- it's nice to know that you're not alone and other people go through this too, and if they can survive it so can you! I'll agree 100% that spending more time in nature can help you heal in all sorts of ways, my tiny veg patch is my sanctuary, whenever I'm stressed I go down and talk to my plants and the earth listens and suddenly my problems don't seem so big anymore.

[@pattyjacoby6749]

I started highlighting in my books and making notes, I’m a bit older but it helps me remember things or people in the story, plus it’s fun bec I love markers

[@ChelseaMaeStage]

I thought this video was going to make me feel unmotivated. It did just the opposite. This might be your best video yet - or at least most real and helpful. I always love your other videos but never have time to utilized the tools you give us. Thank you for inspiring me to enjoy life. Sometimes winters are beautiful and magical… sometimes they are long and hard. Thank you for this video!

[@lydiajkdr]

Thank you for making this video despite how you've been feeling. It is so normal to get stuck in a rut and lose motivation. I love all of your content but if you are wanting some ideas on content, I personally love your cooking videos and home makeovers. Lots of love from Sydney Australia ❤

[@maryanngierke4277]

I love that you keep on trying to feel your best. So inspirational

[@cathyhogue9180]

Maybe going to a ball in England was like one of the highest emotional highs a girl could have,and now nothing u do can top that experience.

[@MarikoIchigo]

It makes a lot of sense, actually. I can't say it's her case at all, however, the addiction to constant stimulation may create a certain imbalance in our brain that may lead to a state of boredom, and lack of motivation among others, making us seek for that same emotion all the time. It is important to detox from that dopamine addiction, to understand what's causing it. The book "Dopamine Nation" explains a lot about this. It was so insightful for me, really changed my life!

[@_Lane_]

She didn't go to a ball in England, she went to a ball in Vienna (Austria)! 😁

[@thatswhatisaid8908]

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[@cathyhogue9180]

@@_Lane_ ok so she is moving to england thanks for that

[@cathyhogue9180]

@@MarikoIchigo simply an observation from my perspective of my own experience. after a huge vacation i always come back to a lack luster life lol takes awhile to get out of the wonderful fantasy. love desi!

[@donnarakitzis2719]

I think creative burnout is normal. Sometimes it can last for a long time, the more you focus on it, and force it the worse it gets, in my opinion. Nature and simple little excursions can help overcome this in time. This was a lovely video as always. I loved the partial narration from Jared

[@Angelaleeahava]

I am concerned for you moving to a place that has grey cloudy days the majority of he year might really increase depression. I really hope you find peace wherever you are.❤❤❤

[@nerdmaid1240]

As a UK girlie, I completely agree. You have to make your home cosy because it rains all the time!

[@dianaragub-schwartz4416]

This is why I'm glad I have a 9-5. 😅 I dont think about what to do for my job. It's created for me. I can be creative outside of that box. I tell you, people think having a 9-5 is dreadful but it's not. I dont understand the movement towards doing something on your own. I have never been burnt out and sleep deprived than when I was self-employed. Yes I own my own hours but I was awake working too much! I had no energy to do anything else.

[@DarlingDesi]

I love that you shared this! I completely understand. I was felt less stressed and burnt out when I worked 9-5. Do I prefer creating videos and working on what really drives me? Yes. I know I’m so incredibly privileged and blessed. But there definitely are downsides to working for yourself.

[@msbbdarling1328]

What’s your job Diana? I’m so jealous I’m always burnt out in my 9-5. Dread it a lot and it interrupts my sleep. 😩

[@dianaragub-schwartz4416]

@@msbbdarling1328i work for the NY state. I work for the DMV. I love it soo much! There are sure days when my energy for people pleasing is zero but I always get compliments when I smile so I smile until I feel like genuinely happy. But I'm happy with my job because it's done at the end of the day. My coworkers are amazing!

[@lauraknecht-fw6nx]

Ditto to your comment. I know the you tubers make it look so easy but clearly it is a grind.Looks like passive income but what a tough road.

[@dianaragub-schwartz4416]

@@msbbdarling1328 I work for the DMV. I'm super grateful for it. At the end of the day, the job is done and I dont take work home.

[@kaitlynkenney5417]

Oh my goodness, your crossing your fingers that the ticks aren't here yet was so relatable. I try to have love for all creatures, but ticks make it so hard-- I would give anything to just live barefoot in a meadow without worrying about getting sick!

[@NymphetamineGirl]

I'm in sleep psychology rn and I recommend looking into our circadian rhythm, it's basically our body's master clock which tells us when to sleep. When that is thrown off by staying up late into the night, it can cause a cascade of different issues for mental health and physical health. Staying up past 12am is unnatural, so if it's possible to change that schedule for yourself, then it could be the key to making yourself feel better! :)))

[@deRose03]

What to do if you can't fall asleep no matter what? I go to bed, toss and turn, lay in stupor, eyes closed, mind active. Awful. I have to get up and do something instead, but then I get only a couple of hours of sleep and feel exhausted during the day.

[@wandering0wonderland]

​@deRose03 I've been relying heavily on Audiobooks played on .75 speed from my library, youtube mindfulness sleep videos (also on .75 speed), relaxing ambiance music, falling asleep listening to your favourite calming youtuber. I find the lower speed allows the brain to slow down, and the focus on the external stops the overactive mind. I had to try them all out, now I know that depending on my engery it indicates which will work out that specific night. I found the .75 speed audiobooks from the library a great way to start. I used to rely on it every night now i do only when I'm stressed or anxious, so it's actually helped my sleep overall a great deal. Hope that helps

[@NymphetamineGirl]

@@deRose03 For me, my psychotherapist recommended a low dose of melatonin for up to 2-3 months an hour before bedtime (as that is the safer way to use melatonin and if you use other medications or supplements, ask the pharmacist or your doctor if melatonin may interact with it) and lowering indoor lights as the night progresses. I think I'm gonna buy a lamp or lightbulb that has multiple light settings, and reduce the phone screen brightness as my lamp lights go down too. Also, if you can check your thyroid via a blood test done by a lab through your doctor or a walk-in, sometimes thyroid issues manifest sleeping and anxiety issues. This is your main starting point, and if that test comes back fine, then speak with your doctor and ask if they recommend a 2-3 month round of melatonin. If your insomnia is only related to anxiety and stress, then it could be an underlying mental health concern which could require medication, CBT therapy with a psychotherapist, exercise or relaxation techniques(falling asleep to a book/podcast/video that isn't anxiety-inducing). The last resort is typically the polysomnography test which is done in a lab overnight but it's noninvasive. It can be recommended by a doctor. But definitely check your thyroid as your first starting point since that is relatively common for people to overlook.

[@deborahmicallef6100]

It's such a joy to see you back. I hope you are feeling better. Keep life simple - that has been my motivation. Some things can wait, others are necessary such as eating healthy, having a good night's sleep (I have been sleeping earlier and it does work for me - I have always slept late), and arriving a bit earlier at work so that I can watch nature and recharge myself for a day's work, finding some time for meditation (it could be a prayer, breath work, listening to music... ). Be flexible. We are humans, not machines - some days we're productive, some days we're not - it's ok. It's just our body or brain telling us to stop a bit and recalibrate life. Take care dear.

[@dehelwig]

Please be sure your lack of inspiration and feeling unmotivated isn't playing any part of your wanting to move abroad, Desi. Uprooting your household is a huge deal and causes much stress. And if you go through all of that just to find out it didn't solve any issues, you'll regret it.

[@geenagr]

So many of us are having a hard time and most of the times we don't need you to do sth super creative. I personally feel better watching people live their lives . Noone in my friend group or family shares my hobbies or likes what I like. So when you show a mug you picked up, your new pretty pjs, a book you loved, a song you listen to on repeat I feel happy. Like I have someone to talk to.That's why I like you. None of us here will ever have a "dance clown" attitude towards you. We just appreciate the company and beauty in the smallest of things. We think of you as a friend. We appreciate the creativity but equally enjoy the simple "let me show you ! I bought bed sheets in a pretty colour!". I'm the creative director in my company and most people look at me for new ideas. They think I'm some sort of a generator.Which I'm not. I'm not some creative genius. It's hard being stuck or having to bring out new things. I find that the things that help me the most are new stimuli. I arranged an entire fashion shoot because of a modern painting I saw, combined with a MV I liked. That's how it works. When your hobby/passion becomes WORK you'll eventually reach a point where you'll feel stuck and like you cannot feel the joy in it. Noone talks about that, but we've all been there. You'll find a way out of it too. Take care, friend. Sorry for the long paragraph

[@froggie211]

I wish I could take a break from work by saying I'm not motivated and in a slump. But that doesn't happen in real life, I have to go to my stinking job every day no matter what, lol!

[@DarlingDesi]

Creative slumps, writers block, getting stuck in a creative rut are common among artists, creatives and writers who push themselves to constantly be creating. A lot of the advice that I got from my writer and artistic friends was to take time away from it, which is what I tried to do in this video. I know that’s not something most people can do with most jobs, unfortunately (we really should have a 4 day work week.) I do still work when I need to though. I just spent most of my recent vacation working because I had a contract to get the video up by a certain date and I work most weekends. But I love my job, I know I’m so privileged to have it.

[@theelegantcatholic]

I love how, as the video goes on, you can see your creativity coming back. 🥺❤️

[@spinstercatlady]

Sometimes, too much rest can lead to being even more unmotivated. It gets to be a habit. It's a bit of a fine line we have to walk between getting enough R&R to feel recharged and reenergized, but not so much that it's hard to get back on a regular schedule again (particularly for folks who have jobs or responsibilities that don't afford the privilege/luxury of spending a month in bed lol).

[@DarlingDesi]

For me, I wasn’t truly resting. If I went to bed at 2am and woke up at 11am, I’m not giving myself the right type of rest. And even then, I wasn’t letting my mind shut off. I would be stressing about filming and editing and other life stuff. Real rest that I needed was mental test and going to bed before midnight. Those things helped so so much. (I didn’t spend a month in bed. I spent a month working through creative burnout. Most of which was not in bed 💗)

[@spinstercatlady]

@@DarlingDesi 9 hours sleep is still a good amount whether it's from 2am to 11am or 11pm to 8am 😁

[@charmeineca]

What a beautiful video. My passions waiver from time to time. I go from art, music, writing to food and plant life. I just try and go with the flow. It's funny how you can feel so productive when you get up early in the morning.

[@JacQui-nice2meetU]

I have been going to bed around 6pm but don't really fall asleep until 9 to 10pm, living in Apts suck. I have no peace with new mgmt company moving in ppl next door and downstairs that are so noisy. ID theft caused my credit score to go down to 475 so moving not an option. On top of that my brother is dying, when it rains it pours but when I watch your videos keep me sane if only for a moment.TY❤

[@emmamemz6514]

Give yourself grace girl 💖 I think for myself I also get burned out from doing too much of the same thing even if it's something I love. It's important to change!

[@ggguillemette1375]

French girl screaming at her screen: "it's not a croissant it's a PAIN AU CHOCOLAT!!" Just kidding, I always love your videos

[@margjec7508]

This video couldn’t have come at a more perfect time. I feel so tired and unmotivated all the time, even though I just landed my dream job. You made me realise I haven’t made time for myself for doing things I want to do WITHOUT having to justify the activity. Thank you so much ❤️

[@lwalt7120]

I just don't have any frame of reference for this. I've been working for 38 years doing basically the same thing everyday. Lovely that your generation doesn't have that reality I guess. I never woke up and imagined not being motivated was an actual reason not to do what needed doing.

[@Imelda123]

Yeah, I get that, personalities are so different! Some people are motivated by routine and thank heavens for that, because life sure involves a lot of routine.

[@sarah1957]

Yeahh this is peak American millennial mentality. It has its positive and negative aspects but tends to lean towards selfishness.

[@UselessHumansMusic]

@@sarah1957she’s selling depression (sponsor included). It’s so hot right now. 🙄

[@leighness1988]

I’m a millennial mom with two young kids, a job, a marriage to a wonderful man that I fight to prioritize, and a house that I work to keep spotless. Burn out is my middle name these days. I wasn’t put off by her message in this video. We have very different “frames of reference” but I get it. I still get up every morning do what’s needs to get done. But I don’t condone someone with a different life than me for feeling overwhelmed. But I guess that’s a “your generation” thing. Not mine.

[@laurarwhittaker]

8:19 in car performance of Guilty as Sin while driving is the vibe 🙌🏼✨😩 thank you for sharing such a raw, honest passage in your creative life. Jared narrating your memories at the beginning was so special. Feeling burnt out myself, this gives me so much hope. Thank you 🤍

[@laurarwhittaker]

Hope you and Jared are both feeling better soon ❤️‍🩹

[@ForestFoxBistro]

“follow your bliss and let the ideas come to you”🥰

[@Jane-xm9mp]

I just wanted to say that Jesus loves you and when you feel like no one else could ever understand how your feeling, He does and He cares for you so much ❤️✝️

[@katiemaki5740]

Ugh... I don't understand you religious people. Jesus is a made-up story in a book! Fantasy! Myth! People who are actually here, living and real who are close to her love her! Guhhh.. it's 2024. Religion is a brainwashed cult.

[@ainamilena1074]

LOL 😂

[@cindyrasley627]

OK, I’m very confused? I thought you were moving to England.❤

[@DarlingDesi]

We are! It’s just a very long process. We announced it at the beginning of our move abroad journey ☺️ We’re still in the very long paperwork process.

[@cindyrasley627]

@@DarlingDesi oh wonderful! ❤️thanks for the update! I can’t wait to go on this adventure with you and live vicariously through your dream coming true which would be my dream also! Nothing better than the English countryside❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@LoopyLovely]

I just love what you said at the end of the video! This is so relatable to me and I should put out my inner child more often. I'm a creator myself and you aren't really free if you create as a job... you always have to watch your engagement statistics and all of a sudden you totally loose your plot... So thank you for your kind words Desi ♥

[@donnapecoraro3126]

So confused, I thought you were moving to England?

[@LeahFairfield]

She is

[@brookie.cookie89]

Dang I wish I had the health wealth and time to cure my burnout. But I'm a disabled single mom with grown up responsibilities that I can't just toss to the side. 😭

[@MaryamYazdi-cl5yw]

Hey Desi! I developed Lyme disease roughly one year ago, so I definitely understand a lot about what you have gone through. It made me afraid of the outdoors, that used to feel so safe enjoying. Many people in my life don’t understand how afraid I am of reinfection. It is a joy to watch videos of you frolicking in the grass, because I have not been able to bring myself to do that anymore. Thank you ❤️