When You Grow Old: 7 Ways to Handle People Who Don't Respect You

[@annieknight71]

I’m an older woman, I easily can ignore people who disrespect me especially if they aren’t family. Even some family I ignore, I just won’t deal with them. Life is easier when they aren’t in your every day life.

[@amazingLife-a]

Everyone who reads this, we don't know each other and probably never will but I wish you all the best in life and all the luck in the world

[@WiseAdvice93]

What a beautiful message! Wishing you all the best and good luck as well. 🌟

[@BlueNavy409]

THANK YOU 🙏🏼 HOPE FOR THE BEST FOR. U AND FAMILY ! WE DONT NEED THE NONSENSE OF THOSE PPL ! THEY ARE NARCISSISTIC PPL . I’M DEALING WITH TWO . MY DAUGHTER 24 yrs old and MY SPOUSE WHOM I’M GOING TO DIVORCE HIM SOON ! 🙏🏼💥🙏🏼

[@cynthiad3024]

Silence is GOLDEN!!!! Respect yourself ! Honor your worth ! Living life on your own terms ! Thank you for your words of wisdom!!!!❤

[@WiseAdvice93]

Your sharing is wonderful! Thank you very much ❤❤❤

[@RobNiser]

Especially when dealing with a narcissist , Ignoring and silence is golden 👌👌 They don`t like that. and you stay in your power .

[@tanyabell7748]

😂amen!!❤😅

[@WiseAdvice93]

Your sharing is wonderful! Thank you very much ❤❤❤

[@christinesalyer600]

💪😬💪😆

[@LaoSoftware]

You look good for an old man. You look good for an old lady. I'm 50 years old and people make that comment to me all the time. It hurts my feelings.

[@gerardinewoods5809]

There is without a shadow of a doubt power in Silence and to embrace the silent stare.Thank you so much I've learned a lot from this,now I must put your advice into practice.

[@WiseAdvice93]

Silence truly holds power. Embrace it-it sounds like you’re on a great path. Best of luck! 🙏

[@SarahMCamp-i7k]

I need to show my family that I deserve respect. Thank you for teaching me this. ❤

[@WiseAdvice93]

Your sharing is wonderful! Thank you very much ❤❤❤

[@T-KRD]

Being ignored and dismissed is the most common, in my opinion. Its not about having earned respect though. Giving respect to each and every person, no matter the age, should be the default.

[@WiseAdvice93]

Your sharing is wonderful! Thank you very much ❤❤❤

[@LaoSoftware]

The older you get, the more invisible you become. I'm 50 years old and I experience it.

[@Find-Your-Bliss-]

As an older woman, I am daily reminded that I am now invisible.

[@Curlyblonde]

Then if possible, become inaccessible to them. Just like The Queen. People can only abuse you if you allow them to.

[@peterware5173]

@Find-Your-Bliss- as an older bloke the same but I like this and stopped dating many years ago cause I'm not prepared to be a service provider and the woman is the customer, no thanks as modern woman are looking for a retirement plan,no thanks.

[@sparkytoday8455]

Me too, and I’m okay with it ❤

[@j.taires5889]

Understood about “ invisible” - however to who? I dress for my own comfort and happiness as in wearing something that makes Me smile : ) I inevitably am visible to those who have similar leanings - kids, other artsy people, teen boys and even older guys who love to see a feminine presence pass by - and to those who I remain invisible to…. So be it, I’m good! I have no cuddly family to enjoy, but I meet people I would never meet if I dressed like everyone else - some like the hat or the scarf or the flowers in my silver hair Go for it! Have fun - covid taught me not to waste the day, but to celebrate each one we get to have! I’m 71 and have never felt more beautiful, unlike years prior - I hope a fresh perspective can bring anyone to their happy place ✨🌿🌺🌿✨

[@nicolemurphy2629]

Great invisible is perfect. You think us older women require validation ? Nope!!

[@closerexamination4314]

Here are my 7 Ways to Handle People Who Don't Respect You: (1) Leave them alone (2) Leave them alone (3) Leave them alone (4) Leave them alone (5) Leave them alone (6) Leave them alone (7) Leave them alone.

[@ClaraBrown-o2o]

Facts

[@ClaraBrown-o2o]

Facts

[@trishg8852]

Right! 😅😅😅

[@Curlyblonde]

❤ And be very choosey who you spend your precious time with. Some people and situations are not worth your time and energy. People settle down with their bad behaviors when you become inaccessible.

[@closerexamination4314]

@@Curlyblonde Oh YES! Not everyone that comes to you in a pretty bow and ribbon has good intentions.

[@shashankgaikwad8929]

Excellent...Self esteem is very important to lead a dignified life... Thanks

[@WiseAdvice93]

Your sharing is wonderful! Thank you very much ❤❤❤

[@patriciacestare232]

Its so horrible when it is your own child....it hurts bad😢

[@carolalvarez3925]

It does. My only child, daughter, is a narcissist. I've learned the tools to deal with it but it is still very painful.

[@scwheeler24]

I’m experiencing that now simply bc we voted differently.

[@WiseAdvice93]

Your sharing is wonderful! Thank you very much ❤❤❤

[@oozy-e9b]

try not to take it personally...it really isnt about you.😊

[@Privatenospying]

@@carolalvarez3925 you’ve done your job of raising her now is your time. I’m spending the precious years I have re-parenting myself, healing, getting back the hobbies I loved and learning who I am and what gives me joy without my daughter. If the pain outweighs the joy it’s not a balanced relationship boundary setting now is hard but worth it..

[@msgvpercy]

This is something I’d like my sons and granddaughters to hear…it’s not just for the “elderly”.

[@WiseAdvice93]

Your sharing is wonderful! Thank you very much ❤❤❤

[@Barbara-gv2vw]

I like that, “because this is what works for me now”. Perfect!

[@WiseAdvice93]

Exactly! Doing what works for you is the key to happiness.

[@milagrosalcuaz5278]

I am grateful for your advise. Makes me feel good.

[@maureensamson4863]

All wonderful advice so long as you're not dependent on others ...physically , emotionally or financially !

[@marysmith8638]

You can be dependent on someone, but still demand respect for yourself.

[@dorismahoney1440]

Not if they won't be respectful U dont want to be in fight node everyday.​@marysmith8638

[@elw6150]

True, when you are very dependant, you keep your mouth shut and take it, so humiliating.

[@maureensamson4863]

@@marysmith8638 They could stop assisting if they wish !

[@tanyabell7748]

RIGHT!!!????😢

[@solitudefarm360]

I do what my Granny always told me...."If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all."

[@WiseAdvice93]

Your sharing is wonderful! Thank you very much ❤❤❤

[@SeniorwisdomUk]

This video reminded me of a time when I felt overlooked just because of my age. Your advice on staying calm and asserting oneself with dignity truly resonates. Thank you for such valuable insights!🌟🙏

[@WiseAdvice93]

Well said!

[@teresamalone7555]

What I'm taking from this encouragement is that I'm going to use a lot of space between myself and another person that's what I need to do with this particular person is to use a lot of space thank you😊

[@WiseAdvice93]

Your sharing is wonderful! Thank you very much ❤❤❤

[@dianedutrisac5829]

It’s good to listen to such information to remind ourselves that our quest for respect begins with us.

[@WiseAdvice93]

Absolutely! Self-respect is the foundation of everything. Thanks for the reminder! 🌱

[@jimmy2060]

I take no crap, I give no crap, I am 81 and nothing to lose, won't be no trouble if you don't cause any trouble.

[@WiseAdvice93]

Love your strong spirit and no-nonsense attitude! Keep shining at 81! 💪✨

[@Pamela-pm9hn]

Ignoring; silence is best and distancing.

[@WiseAdvice93]

Thank you very much ❤❤❤

[@patriciacestare232]

I made the mistake yelling at my daughter for the way she was talking about me..I always defend myself. It wouldn't have mattered if I was silent. She already made the decision of pushing me away...her body language told me that

[@WiseAdvice93]

Your sharing is wonderful! Thank you very much ❤❤❤

[@Sakun0610]

God bless you 😇😇 thank you 😊🙏

[@WiseAdvice93]

You are so welcome!

[@phillipteagarden7259]

Excellent video! Everybody needs to "learn" the lessons embodied in this short video. Not just for the elder person!

[@WiseAdvice93]

Absolutely!!

[@achys6301]

I wish i had heard this video in my you ger years, but never too late, thank you!

[@WiseAdvice93]

You're very welcome!

[@christinehenwood4411]

Thank you for this video, I will take your advice as they don’t listen to me anyway.

[@WiseAdvice93]

Glad to help

[@martaescobar7625]

.... A well-spoken "excuse me?" with the stare works for me:)

[@WiseAdvice93]

Your sharing is wonderful! Thank you very much ❤❤❤

[@Nortongroove]

I have a neighbor, a “Christian” lady, who I met at a church social function where we are both members. Upon our first meeting, she asked me if I was 72yrs old, and that I looked 72 (she is 72). At the time, I was 67yrs old. I have been told I look younger than my years by a few people here and there. I interpreted her comment as a backhanded insult. This person has made other snarky remarks, and rather than feed into the toxicity, I have remained silent. I handle this person by totally avoiding contact with her, but we live in the same building, so if I happen upon her, I smile and say hello. This seems to be an effective of fielding her negativity and limiting contact with her. Am I being oversensitive, I don’t feel that way.

[@Curlyblonde]

Church Ladies are known for their toxicity and rude behaviors, all the while quoting the Bible and being frequent Church service attendees. I would have acted like she paid me a compliment by her guestimation of my age by saying, "Actually my dear I'm 95 and that face-lift sure was worth the money!" But then again I'm an Old Rascal who is repelled by these Church Lady Busybody Creatures!

[@Lemarchelesa]

Possibly she didnt mean it that way, although always awkward to volunteer what age someone looks like. Maybe she is looking for a peer to be friends with, or maybe she was being passive aggressive, hard to tell from one incident.

[@WiseAdvice93]

Your sharing is wonderful! Thank you very much ❤❤❤

[@jangriffin-fi1yx]

Yes be you don't be drawn brought down to level of others who can't help themselves by being disrespectful in someway. Doesn't mean you have to become them. It is their problem & loss. Rise above, best to sometimes dismiss, leave & walk away. Anyone who belittles another comes off looking worse & is the loser.

[@WiseAdvice93]

Your sharing is wonderful! Thank you very much ❤❤❤

[@Lyrielonwind]

When I was a child elderly people were highly respected, sometimes too much because abusive people also get old but nowadays it seems it's team sports for many.

[@WiseAdvice93]

Your sharing is wonderful! Thank you very much ❤❤❤

[@maryriley6163]

Thank you very much for this. My father was a narcissist, demanding, critical, and belittling who demanded an explanation for everything, then would accuse us in a snide tone: “Now you are just making excuses!” It became a knee jerk reaction for me to try to explain something that often needed no explanation that I took with me into a marriage to an abusive husband. Now I know what to do if I have to deal with people like my father who would say “Well SOMEONE has to tell you how wrong you are!” He’s gone now and so is my husband. There is only one habitual critic left in my life. I love that person but they are quicker than me and can spin my explanations against me quicker than I can defend myself yet again. Now I can stop taking the bait.

[@cynthiad3024]

@@maryriley6163 I learned in life you can never convince a narcissist they are wrong. Not worth wasting your time. Don't engage, do your best to stay away. They hurt you and move on while you are suffering . They will gaslight you, trying to make you believe it is all you, you will always be wrong . Do yourself a favor, don't give them the chance. If you must deal with a narcissist, never tell them your business. Short answers like oh or hmmm, maybe talk about the weather. Believe me, the best thing to do is avoid them. Sincerely I wish you the best, God Bless you.

[@Lyrielonwind]

Same here. Slowly but surely, I'm learning to fight my default setting and stop giving explanations.

[@HollyFayHolverson777]

Im glad your abusers are no longer in your life. It's easier to work on self improvement without having to deal with people who seemingly exist just to ensure that you never feel good about yourself. My father could be impossible to please also. Let's just say helping his children develop self confidence and self esteem was NOT atop his list of priorities. I still struggle with self esteem but I know I've made considerable progress over the last 10-15 years. I figure as long as I keep trying to better myself, I'll continue to make progress

[@ClaraBrown-o2o]

Excellent podcast 👍

[@WiseAdvice93]

Your sharing is wonderful! Thank you very much ❤❤❤

[@mariaphoomahal3675]

I love it it talk me sonti very important to think on my self too thanks very much.

[@WiseAdvice93]

You are so welcome

[@Iamnosey]

Always make sure your brain is engaged before putting your mouth into gear! 😊 There is no need to be hurtful.

[@WiseAdvice93]

Yes! Thank you!

[@callicordova4066]

Wise advice for any age.

[@WiseAdvice93]

Your sharing is wonderful! Thank you very much ❤❤❤

[@LloydMajor]

Thank you for the class! This is right to the point.

[@WiseAdvice93]

You're very welcome!

[@susancazier8244]

Good reminder, helpful and validating.

[@WiseAdvice93]

Glad you enjoyed it

[@rasabernota445]

I'm taking this advice ~ thank you for this message.

[@WiseAdvice93]

You're welcome! Wishing you all the best as you embrace this positive mindset! 😊

[@cb664]

Sometimes I just tell them straight out. I really hate being called "dear" or "sweetie" or "honey" or "young lady." It's condescending. So I just say "please don't call me that." I usually get a shocked expression and an apology. A lot of people are disrespectful without even knowing it. So I tell them! 🙂

[@Curlyblonde]

Legally speaking silence as a response is not always as effective at offensive remarks or harmful actions. Under English Common Law it can imply agreement, acceptance or an inability to refute what was said or done to you. Not always the best way to handle prickly people or situations, depending on the circumstances. So must be used selectively. Otherwise I have employed all of your strategies in various interactions with distespectful people.

[@WiseAdvice93]

Great point! Silence can be powerful, but knowing when to use your voice is key to handling tricky situations effectively.

[@JudithSchoner]

So true 👍.

[@WiseAdvice93]

Yes indeed

[@JohnDoe-jc3cl]

@@WiseAdvice93 Very good advice. I would suggest that it would be for young kids starting out maybe in 5 th grade, not just for older people.

[@dorisbrown3622]

Some time s I respond with the statement,KEEP LIVING. Meaning at some point in their life they will eventually face a turnaround in their life also.!!!!!@😅WORKS for me!!!!!!🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@WiseAdvice93]

Your sharing is wonderful! Thank you very much ❤❤❤

[@FranklinHanover]

I understand your comment. They may reflect on your words when that time arrives for them.

[@TerryAndersen]

do what makes you happy in joy remember playing how cares what others think

[@WiseAdvice93]

Joy is the key to life. Keep doing what makes you happy, and don’t worry about others’ opinions! 😊

[@sandyepps8260]

Very good listen

[@eric.gardenerextraordinaire]

1 very good video!

[@WiseAdvice93]

Thank you very much ❤❤❤

[@luv2bud]

Thank you! 💚

[@WiseAdvice93]

You are so welcome

[@pennywingate70]

Thank you love this

[@WiseAdvice93]

You are so welcome!

[@mariw1298]

Y'know some people don't mean to be disrespectful, they were never taught courtesy or respect as they grew up--they simply barge in! It's important to realize that not all of us, in fact these days, not many of us have been taught courtesy and respect. Certainly, today's politicians don't demonstrate it--which is odd seeing that "polite" is the beginning of their job title.

[@WiseAdvice93]

You’re absolutely right-kindness and respect are learned behaviors. Let’s continue setting the example for others. 🌟

[@whiteysrides8204]

Your videos are so good,I’ve can see now how I recked my life ,thanks .

[@WiseAdvice93]

You are so welcome

[@TerryAndersen]

your wonderful. be good to yourself remember theres a-lot of idiots out there

[@WiseAdvice93]

You're absolutely right! Stay kind to yourself-there's so much wisdom in that. 🌟

[@rajenlama.6850]

Nice motivation.

[@Privatenospying]

Thank you this was perfect 🙏. Quiet composure with eye contact takes nerves of steel.. I tend to look down with nasty in-laws I must practice lifting chin. Spouse insists on keeping the phony tradition and has no idea what it takes to do it but he will invite his family whether I want it or not. I’m not lifting a finger this year and the house prep doesn’t have to be perfect. He controls the food throwing big money at catering to compete with his brother I’ll just watch and accept the reality I created.

[@wendymoney2043]

Brilliant! 😁🙋‍♀️🇬🇧 Thank you

[@WiseAdvice93]

Glad you enjoyed it

[@gailbird100]

What I have found out is, the nicer you are to someone, the weaker they think you are, and it will get worse. I directly tell people off then walk away forever. If they call me a nasty name and say how nasty I am, I tell them you are so right, now make the smart choice to stay away from me or I will be your worst nightmare because you haven't seen anything yet.

[@mohammadfarooq8115]

Very useful information. Thank you.

[@WiseAdvice93]

Glad it was helpful!

[@CherylFreeman-bf9rj]

Thankyou

[@WiseAdvice93]

Thank you very much ❤❤❤

[@ninavongunten122]

How does a somewhat attractive, respectable, decent Christian senior who was very beautiful during their younger days avoid being propositioned for sexual favors by both old and young alike? I find it highly disrespectful and nasty towards older women in an attempt to use them for their own self gratification and needs! Their behavior is very demeaning and you mean nothing to them! Examples: a neighbor, a business owner, a car loan officer, employers, movers, sales managers, insurance salesmen, etc.

[@leniberzins3539]

Very good advice

[@WiseAdvice93]

Glad you think so!

[@sellhomes]

I wished I had this video before my incident of someone belittling me and talking in a condescending manner to me. 😔😮‍💨

[@WiseAdvice93]

Your sharing is wonderful! Thank you very much ❤❤❤

[@IndiraAK-g6e]

Thank you

[@WiseAdvice93]

You're welcome

[@victorpascual3007]

Love ur insigths

[@WiseAdvice93]

Your sharing is wonderful! Thank you very much ❤❤❤

[@sukarichristian9039]

Thank you.

[@WiseAdvice93]

You're welcome!

[@silviaangelo4345]

Great video👍😃

[@WiseAdvice93]

Thanks for the visit

[@mikemclane8821]

Hell will freeze over before I stop verbalizing how I feel about thins -- staying silent is baloney and hog wash

[@Find-Your-Bliss-]

You’re very young, or you desperately need to feel understood. That’s okay. It can feel important to be right, and to be validated.

[@WiseAdvice93]

Your sharing is wonderful! Thank you very much ❤❤❤

[@DottieStanley]

No splain! No splain! An older friend of mine would yell that if his kids bugged him about what he was doing in his life.

[@WiseAdvice93]

Your sharing is wonderful! Thank you very much ❤❤❤

[@jocquemorrison9785]

Very good.

[@WiseAdvice93]

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[@missmerrily4830]

Why the upper case captions? It’s almost as if we’re being disrespected for being old!

[@WiseAdvice93]

Your sharing is wonderful! Thank you very much ❤❤❤

[@minnieleec]

Thank you for your inf, really smart and very helpful, as we get older there are those who like to pick on us. A lady friend, will she not that great of one anymore, gets up out ofcher chair across table from me, stands over my head and puts her hands on my hair, and says oh it looks terrible, she has dobe this 3x times, i want to tell her iff, but am limiting my time with her. There is nothing wrong with my hair. And she has gray roots all over her cgeap dye job. She has done this to me now 3x in 6 months. I am 77 and sge is 69. I went home and broke down later that night and crued over the hurt and meaness she inflicted on me. Thank you for reading this.

[@WiseAdvice93]

I’m so sorry you experienced that. Limiting your time with negative people is wise-you deserve kindness and respect. Stay strong and confident in your beauty! 💕🌟

[@gerardinewoods5809]

If she said that to me and if I were you I'd take the advice given here on WISE ADVICE.I'd hold my head high stare her in face,give her a huge smile and say....Oh thank you so much for the lovely compliment of my crowning glory and then say to her,,,have a nice hair day yourself.Walk away and don't cry.I have cried from the nasty remarks from people but never again.Keep strong.

[@Barbara-gv2vw]

Very helpful

[@WiseAdvice93]

Glad to hear that

[@FayreeenAarow]

I disagree with that. Silence just causes you to shut up and let them have their way. They’ve won they got away with their insults. I feel most cases it needs to be corrected on the spot as excuse me I was speaking…. oh that was rude. You’ve just cut me off…… maybe it would embarrass them a little to show others how ill bread they are, but to ignore it only gives freeway to them. That’s my thought on the matter. But not every case, of course or not ever comment or not every slur…. should be handled in the same way. But to remain silent, and most cases would let you appear to be quite stupid and actor to the fact that they sent you down as in and rebuke.😢😢

[@WiseAdvice93]

Your sharing is wonderful! Thank you very much ❤❤❤

[@Undermineded-333]

One way stay away from them

[@WiseAdvice93]

Thank you ❤

[@sellhomes]

The video is well described and words so precise. But I cannot articulate beautifully as have on video? Silence is easy to adapt but other ways are to be learned and memory at old age does not remember the words well put on video. Such is my situation. I have been disrespected, belittled many times. Silence and distance was practiced but other words are hard to articulate as well as the video states due to english as second language. 🤥😔

[@WiseAdvice93]

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[@Red23165]

I subscribe ❤

[@WiseAdvice93]

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[@NancyStinger-ll6wt]

This is not only for the aging

[@WiseAdvice93]

Exactly! These lessons apply to everyone, regardless of age. Wisdom knows no bounds.

[@CultivatingTheMind]

15:11 ❤❤❤

[@WiseAdvice93]

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[@joythompson44]

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[@BlueNavy409]

GET ….. OUT ! GET OUT !

[@peterware5173]

Respect is earned not demanded.

[@WiseAdvice93]

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[@kangtang8752]

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