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[@franciastone5048]

My husband and adopted my daughter 25 years ago. It was the best thing I ever did in my life. She's my love. I didn't have fertility problems but I did have family genes I didn't want to pass on. I did try donor eggs but by that time I was older and so was my uterus. I wanted to be a mom. If I hadn't I would now be one wretched old lady.

[@tamaragarner6769]

Please don't make yourself crazy. You and Zak are a loving couple. You will know what to do. Give it time.

[@kathrynborbacs3380]

When you were showing your coneflower, you said, “is there a bug flying in front of me?”-that was a spider dangling on its web and then it retracted back up its web to the flower head. When you bring cut flowers from outside into the house, you always bring in a few critters as well!

[@ega6976]

Makes perfect sense!!! You’ll know it’s right when “it” happens. Will keep you guys in positive thoughts and prayers.

[@rosemaryphelps2733]

Maggie you will know when the time is right to decide how you achieve your family. Only thing that would concern me is whether carrying your own child would aggravate your condition and make enjoying your baby more difficult once he/she is here, 🥰🥰

[@marianoelmontesdeoca5491]

You are so beautifull, and you will build your family. I admire so much people who work in health care and share the reality of some diseases.

[@patriciaconstantino4669]

Pepper plants look great!! I love the beautiful bouquet of flowers you picked and put together. I really believe that when the time is right and you least expect it, you will conceive. Praying for you and Zak and sending you both positive thoughts 👍

[@LetsTalkIBD]

Thank you!!

[@pinkmonkeybird2644]

Infertility was just one more thing that cancer left in its wake, but I was lucky for once and IVF worked for me - even gave me an extra, lol. I don’t have any advice for anyone going through fertility treatments, other than an acknowledgment it can be pretty rough at times. The upside was pregnancy with an ostomy and disability was surprisingly easy for me, though.

[@LetsTalkIBD]

I am so glad you were able to do IVF!! And you had a fairly easy experience during pregnancy! I can only hope!

[@franciastone5048]

Great news. Congratulations.

[@janecharette9990]

Nurses need more training! my first nurse that i came across was in recovery from my surgery and she was you just peel and stick! What you mean its not sticking you just peel and push it on as it leeks all over me! Then they sent me home saying a nurse will come visit took days and she was shocked seeing that I didn’t have half the real supplies i needed. Yup it peel and stick all right.

[@rawr333r]

I never noticed your new intro before. It's lovely!

[@gemmi1]

Okay who else tried to smell the flower when Zak put it at the camera ✋

[@monicag1768]

Fertility is such a tough topic - I already feel overwhelmed by it due to my having endo, and my partner and I haven't even remotely started trying yet!! I really hope that everything goes well for you both, regardless of how/when/if it happens ☺

[@laura6796]

Your property looks beautiful! Hope you feel better, I had a migraine yesterday and it's definitely not fun.

[@cindydenno544]

Maggie I just wanted to tell you that I just love the newer content of your vlogs because you have included so many views of your beautiful home and outside on your farm. Thanks for showing us your garden and walking around your yard. It is fun to see what you do on a typical day. These videos have brightened my days!!

[@melissapauna8450]

You will be be outstanding loving parents. No worries there. All when you are ready.

[@cblue2]

You are soooo awesome! You give us all encouragement and I hope you feel better soon!

[@rockyusa2012]

The flowers look pretty and dinner looks good. Enjoy the game.

[@angelairvine3091]

I suffer from chronic migraines, I take Sumatriptan and wear travel anti sickness bands on my wrist for the sickness , hope your headaches ease soon xx

[@gonnabeok.]

You are an adorable couple. Love this kind of vlog. 💕

[@valtoton2982]

I've been thinking migraines as well when you were explaining your headaches. I have suffered with migraine headaches since the onset of puberty. Not fun, hope you feel better soon!

[@franciastone5048]

I also started having ocular migraines when puberty rear its head. I am now post-menapausel and they rarely appear.

[@treefrog1018]

In my 33 years of experience with fertility, I have decided just letting things happen and when I am ready is the best decision. 2 weeks ago, I ended up needing a hysterectomy and have birthed no kids. Had I decided that birth children would be the one thing that must do and that will make me happy would be a disservice to me. I would be mourning while in recovery. Fertility is not something that is guaranteed even though it seems like pregnancy is something that comes by pretty easy for us humans. About 7 years ago, I just sat back and decided to let things happen and here I am. I'm okay with it. May your fertility/parenting/whatever journey come gently to you and may you find peace with it.

[@aleshairwin8838]

Definitely sounds like you are having migraines. I suffer from them. The weather can trigger them & you are having rain. Be careful with Excedrine. I used to take that & it killed my stomach!! I am now on Aimovig monthly injection & if/when I do have a migraine I take Relpax (Eletriptan) or Nurtec. Both really help get rid of it within an hour. Love all the flowers!! Very pretty!! As for the baby, we adopted our second baby (first one is biologically ours). It wasn’t easy raising him. He had some genetic issues that we struggled with. He has recently been reunited with his biological family. We all have a great relationship with each other.

[@thewisepowerchair2369]

I thought migraine for the headaches at first but then wondered if it could be dehydration. I have to have an Ileostomy. Seeing you eat those veggies gives me hope that I will be able to eat fish with skin once again after surgery.

[@paulinehawkins2207]

Totally enjoy your talks. You’re such an interesting person. Love all the educational content as well. Take care.xx

[@MarieRhondelle]

Your pepper plants are wonderful!

[@randinatkowitz2487]

You and Zak are the cutest couple ever!! 💕

[@LetsTalkIBD]

Aww thanks!

[@tonkinbray]

Adoption is truly wonderful thing, I was adopted and it doesn't make any difference. I completely understand if IVF isn't for you, but just take each day as it comes. Your still really young. What ever happens you both will be wonderful parents ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@songoftheblackunicorn666]

I was adopted too and it does make a difference. I still have holes in my identity at 43 I had absolutely no medical history til I was thirty seven and I am learning more from my family all of the time. Maybe you had a better experience than me, but did you have a full medical history? If you didn't it was because your legal guardians cared more about having guardianship over you than if you would survive or be able to have healthy babies of your own someday.

[@Ropodog]

As a migraine sufferer for many years sadly I highly recommend getting an ice gel freezer pack that is sort of like a helmet ( best way I can describe it haha). My mom got one for me and it is so helpful and soothing. I tend to get migraines always behind my eye so gel ice masks are also good to try. Your meds/caffeine is also what I do to get relief. Hope you feel better soon! xo

[@jacintasimpson1719]

A tip I was told was to only put a small amount of water in vases to cover the bottom of the stems. I think it’s todo less bacteria in the water, or whatever it is that kills flowers or is at least not good for them. Very pretty and amazing that they came from your garden.

[@hollylanevintagetreasures]

We actually haven't been mowing our grass right away because the clover is flowering and the honey bees love it!! I hate to take away their flowers. Also I freed a butterfly today, we have a net over our baby apple tree to keep the deer away and a butterfly was stuck in it today. I ripped the top open and the butterfly flew away. It was the size of a monarch but was more black than anything. Not sure what kind it was. Hope you get a bunch!

[@pjk1714]

Glad you are preparing videos for nurses. Some hospitals only provide a 15 minute tutorial before putting them on the floor.

[@traceyflater]

I think you'll have a peace about whatever the right way to grow your family is when the time is right.

[@glynisbaglow2169]

I loved this video, loved your flowers 💐 from your garden. It's lovely to see you playing board games 🎲 instead of game on line like a lot of the kiddies do(and some of the parents aswell). Love and hugs to you both. XxxX ❤ ❤ ❤

[@LetsTalkIBD]

We love having board games because you can count on them for entertainment when there is no power! Plus you talk and bond when you play them!

[@nonakabyrd5759]

Anaheim Pepper, are best on the grill and roast them...if you get adventurous, cut long ways,, clean scaping seeds out, use frozen grated cheese to, close them back up, then wrap with bacon, use toothpicks to keep it all together, them put them on the grill, turning as needed to crisp bacon. Sooooo, good, and take much of the heat out. But Don't us unfrozen cheese because the cheese will run out, got to be frozen cheese. Anaheim peppers make good pepper jam too, goggle recipe, then awesome to add to burgers, chicken, really anything😁

[@LetsTalkIBD]

That sounds AMAZING! I will have to try that with the next round of peppers. I am really intrigued by the jam - never heard of that! Thanks!

[@amandabridgman8675]

Your Zinnias are absolutely beautiful, they are definitely 1 of my fav flowers 💐. I love to see your face light up when you cut fresh flowers & get fresh stuff from your garden. Your goulash looked so yummy 😋. Have a lovely weekend 🌞

[@amys5087]

I have 3 adopted now-adult nieces, and y have some adopted children. Very positive! But, basically, pray you doing well healthwise.

[@jeanaboonstra8308]

You need to go to the doctor about your headaches. I use to get migrains and my doc told me to fix a cup of tea with two bags and drink with your meds. I always carried two tea bags with me along with meds.

[@robinp9438]

glad you found time to care for the monarchs!

[@ruggertictac526]

I was like that Maggie..and my magnesium was low..headache like a migraine tired and dehydration is always hanging around too. Take a magnesium oxide..check with your GP first..be warned magnesium makes the stoma output loose. Caroline 🙋🏼‍♀️ PS when you're ready for family matters..you'll know..and miracles happen all the time..and if anyone is deserving of a miracle it's you💞

[@betsybabf748]

I've suffered severe migraines my whole life, needing a daily preventative for 30 years, plus strong treatment meds & frequent hospital stays. Here's a neurologist trick. I know you're a nurse so not trying to over-explain stuff you already know, but where migraines are caused by the blood vessels over-dilating, having caffeine (also in Excedrin) and sticking your limbs....hands, and feet if possible, in ice water, can help the blood vessels constrict, stopping the migraine. If I catch mine in time and it's not already pounding full blast, it helps my meds work better and stops some completely. When my daughter started getting severe migraines as well, this trick my neurologist taught me is how we treated hers until adulthood without having to give her prescription meds. Hope it helps, you or anyone else who may also suffer them.

[@car17yn71]

Lol, I love flowers ... from a distance (major allergies). So thank you for showing me your flowers! Nice bouquet.

[@jackiebeans2689]

Your flower bouquet is gorgeous!! Hope you have some beautiful butterflies!! 💕💐💕💐💕💐💕💐💕

[@marinakhlynova743]

Oh, you both are so cute, have a nice evening! I'm so glad you have smth to deal with nausea and headache and just go ahead

[@car17yn71]

My dad was from a big family. Whenever my mom got pregnant, at least 1 of my aunts would also get pregnant within a few months. At one point, we went to a small elementary school (one classroom per grade) ... and my older brother was in class with his fav cousin, and I was in class with her younger sister who happened to be my fav cousin.

[@nancybentsen9381]

you have a great guy very supportive to you

[@denisecaramore971]

I suffer from migraines. But take migraine meds. I am also a nurse and tell patients that the Best to make a headache diary. What you were doing/eating before headache, how long it lasted, where on head it was, and what you did to help it. For me ice packs help a lot, besides dark room. Then if you see how many have if worth talking to doc about specific meds to take as needed. As excedrin is good but may not be strong enough. For me I also take a naseua and even a dizzy med at times.

[@annegariepy3823]

Say hi to Zak. Your flowers are very beautiful. Your goulash looks good, I would like to have the recipe. 🙂

[@lenac7655]

Great job Maggie! Here's hoping for beautiful butterflies🦋🦋🦋

[@nikkiwunderlich3570]

I suffer from migraines and I suggest if you’re getting sensitive to light and nauseous that it sounds like a migraine that you may want to see a neurologist

[@scarlettk2019]

Good morning love the flowers!! If you add a little sugar to your water the flowers will last longer in vase. I seen thus some place and tried it this year.

[@pjk1714]

When you feel settled, you can test count and track your ovulation. It will shift based on cycle as it changes. If you don't know how, there is help. Zero cost and information your doctor needs to support you.

[@LetsTalkIBD]

This is something I've already done for quite a long time! Fortunately, my cycle is regular and trackable!

[@helengarrett6378]

I've had migraines all my life, my mom, daughter and my male cousin (not as frequent in males) had 'em too. Sounds like mild migraine. Mine last 4 hours, mom's were for days. Nausea and light and sound sensitivity are migraine symptoms too. Aspirin isn't what works for me. I need a prescription. Well, I needed a prescription because I almost never get a migraine, just the aura now that I'm older. If you get the right stuff at the first sign of a headache you can short circuit the whole headache. I used to take Caffergot (caffeine and ergotamine) before the newer meds came out. Triggers can be individual but mine are bright lights and flickering or flashing lights. Some foods can do it too.

[@LetsTalkIBD]

Migraines are no joke!! I'm trying to figure out exactly what works for it - it seems very finicky!

[@pjk1714]

Found mine were hormonal driven. I had clusters and was hard to diagnose. There are different meds for different kinds. I rarely have now but do get aura if I do. Fennel tea actually works well reducing swelling. I drink the entire pot. Calms stomach too.

[@helengarrett6378]

@@LetsTalkIBD You need a doctor's prescription because of 1. Stoma and 2. Appropriate diagnoses. Some of what helps is to track food, stress and other triggers. Mine are light. Intense light, reflected light off bodies of water, flickering light and strobe lights. Tension too. I got a doozy by holding in a sneeze. Now I let 'em rip! Make sure you are not having dehydration headaches. If no aura that might be your problem in hot weather. Not likely because you are so aware of your hydration needs, but keep track of your hydration anyhow. Feel better and stay quiet in a darkened room. Try to sleep it off. You can short circuit migraine by sleeping. Sometimes. New meds that I never took like Imetrex can be prescribed. Tylenol and NSAIDS don't get to the base cause of migraine. Also, I get slightly confused, you know, that head in a goldfish bowl feeling during and after a migraine. Often they are on one side or the other of the head. If yours are sinus, another possibility, then it will be more facial not so much throbbing on one side of head. You need a doctor if you keep having repeated headaches with imaging of the sinus surgery site to see if there is scar tissue blocking sinuses. Hope this helps.

[@baileymclemore6065]

Your garden is amazing, I'm so jealous! I live in Mississippi and we call Zinnias "Zeen- yas" haha! or my grandmother says zeen-yers.

[@gonny417]

There so many baby’s need a good home god bless you 🙏❤️🙏

[@QueenPatty381]

I love watching 👀 your videos 📹 even though I don't have a ostmey

[@LetsTalkIBD]

Thank you Patty!! I appreciate your support on my videos!

[@christinacrusius1278]

Yay for monarchs! 🐛🦋 You're correct. They did just get listed as endangered. 🙁 I'm also raising caterpillars right now. Excited to see the update in future videos!

[@LetsTalkIBD]

So sad!! Hopefully words gets around and people start planting some milkweed!!

[@defonthana]

You know i would be very curious to know how you would feel and talk about a life with child because oftentimes even on youtube from people that talk a lot deeply... i really think a picture is built that misses so much information. Our baby is 9 weeks now... i watched sooo many different people and i felt very bad at the start because pregnancy was not glorious... it was not ... that wonderful time some people are experience it and birth was not like that aswell. i had a lot of trouble connecting to the baby and feeling so lost and overwhelmed ... i learned a lot and i just want to say... IF it happens... and it does not feel like a miracle and wonder right away... its NORMAL and since this is a channel for honesty and the community here is great aswell: i wish more people would say that openly. Because NOW i know sooo many mums that struggled but before...none. It was all "oh, you feel bad? well it is part of that suck it up". And i dont think it has to be that way. It IS a world full of hurdles and if it DOES feel great and wonderful i congratulate you. and you know what...if it takes some time for it to happen... you live you wonderful life to the fullest because i miss parts of my life, i know it will get different and i will feel a different joy and all, but both lives, with and without the baby are worth it euqally i think. It made me look much more thankful for the time i got with my husband just the two of us, meeting friends and going out spontaneously... i enjoyed that very much. I am not english, i hope these sentences mmean the same thing i meant by it: It is not like you miss out... how should i explain, yes, some people wish deeply for children and they love it, but it is just as a real world full of problems and struggles like it is without. Not glorious and mysterious ... just...real. Does that help? Is that understandable? what i wanted to say was, if it happens i am very looking forward to your content because i value your information you share and i wish for you not only physical healt but also mental health because it is a load of stress on its own!

[@Renee1318]

Have you ever thought about being foster parents? The world needs good, loving homes.

[@TheShayde2000]

I used to raise Monarchs as a kid. I lived in New Hampshire. I live in Arkansas now. I've never seen milkweed or Monarchs here.😞🦋

[@annlalonde6809]

My neighbor has a nursery where she raises the monarchs.

[@hannahs4624]

Beautiful vase of flowers you made!

[@susanmavromatis8108]

When it's time it will be time, kwim? I always wonder why fertility clinics don't suggest male testing first. It's the easiest thing to rule in/out and is sort a single screening if it indicates that a guy's count and motility is normal. If so, then a gal needs all the further evaluation. If not, both may have some factors.

[@carmenbaby02]

Anaheim peppers should not be spicy at all. They have intense flavor but not heat. We use them in our Puerto Rican cooking.

[@nadinecooper8709]

I always have to eat a little something if I take extra strength Exedrin, because although it knocks my headache out, it can be hard on the stomach. Unfortunately with a stoma you can't really take the enteric coated ones. Your flowers are beautiful. I miss my Pennsylvania zinnia. Fairly hard to grow in Texas!

[@ibdandme]

Enjoyed this video so much. Your flowers look amazing ♥️ ♥️ ♥️ ♥️

[@LetsTalkIBD]

Aww thank you Nicolene!!

[@adammackenroth2864]

Excedrine migraine has all you mentioned and it works really well.

[@jenniferisbell8584]

I have recently tried something called tiger balm for my headaches. A small dab on your temples really seems to help. I have ulcers so it’s great not to take the pain relievers.

[@LetsTalkIBD]

I never thought of using it for that! I will have to try - I've got a jar of it!

[@mommingpursuit]

Hey Maggie! I’m kind of late to commenting but wondering how you are with tracking your cycles? Have you confirmed whether you are ovulating? I know ovulation can be a challenge for those who struggle to keep their weight up. No need to answer but fertility specialists don’t always give the information necessary for basic fertility awareness. I was completely clueless about tracking my cycles until I started looking into it as a form of family planning.

[@DesMowadeng]

None of my business but in regard to the infertility...have you considered IUI? Also sergacy...is an option. You could also consider foster care or respite care if that's something you could handle with your health. It would be a challenge but you could totally be a really kool foster mama or adoptive mama to a little one with chronic illness.

[@TammysOrdinaryLife]

Goulash is the ONLY word that I grew up and continue to call it.

[@helengarrett6378]

If Dixie has bad breath check out her teeth. Dental problems sneak up on dogs and it isn't good to wait until Dixie is drooling and not eating.

[@bobbybooker2123]

A Kong with a little plain peanut butter inside keeps K9 teeth remarkably clean. Last thing in the evening is a good time for it.

[@ruthgoebel723]

Our greyhound has nasty breath, typical for greyhounds. However she had her teeth cleaned professionally a few months ago and needed some teeth pulled (another issue with Greys). Brushing their teeth daily will help. I also use Plaque-Off.....it is a powder additive for their food which helps.

[@vonnieburt1163]

Having children is a huge amount of work. I had seven, love them all, but it took my health. I have an illy since and m.S. both came at once about age 32. I am 82 now and still struggle with the illy. Without medical I am sure there are better products. I too had migraines until about sixty yrs. Old. They suddenly went away. Advice….do not have more than one child as it will take all of your limited energy. For the first six years you have NO mommy time. Have you considered adopting a child age 3+? They desperately need homes and loving parents.

[@priscillaparkman6967]

Things will be all right

[@Bookwormscififan]

My dad also puts hot sauce on everything. Until his stomach started disagreeing, now he’s limiting what gets hot sauce

[@fransparano1177]

Do you think the headaches is from humira? I get them days after taking it.feel better soon.Cant wait to see the butterflies 😍

[@fionascheibel977]

Firstly I really appreciate all that you share on your life. You are really informative and fun to watch. You may have already mentioned it. But with baby making. Did Zac get his sperm checked. Even though you have had a medical past that could contribute. I've actually been surprised how common male factor infertility turns out to be a thing.

[@LetsTalkIBD]

Our fertility doctor wanted him to get checked as well, we just got overwhelmed and haven't started any of that

[@fionascheibel977]

@@LetsTalkIBD yeah. I get that whole overwhelmed with medical stuff feeling.

[@dkcanada2169]

Yes Monarchs are now endangered. 🦋

[@LetsTalkIBD]

So upsetting!!

[@dkcanada2169]

I was hoping to buy milkweed this year to help them out. My hubby would like to do what you are doing with the caterpillars. You will have to give updates. Especially when you set them free.

[@ChaiLatte13]

Mmm i love stuffed peppers. I've had a terrible headache today too. ugh TCC is overwhelming for sure. I'm already 38 and have to make that decision this year or next. Just don't know if I'm well enough.

[@kristys7172]

I take imitrex for migraines, it works well.

[@natashaw401]

Like that we r not preventing

[@fionabird9598]

Your flowers are fabulous.

[@LetsTalkIBD]

Thank you!!

[@carols4813]

On another note, I have trouble with chicory root and ingredient found in many things including tea and coffee. This ingredient sends my IBS into a full blown mess!! Cramping and diarrhea….

[@natashaw401]

Stuffed peppers is so good

[@elizabethfletcher2980]

My neurologist gave me migraine medication because I can't take the Excedrin because of my Crohn's disease I also get nauseous with my migraines Zofran is my best friend LOL 💜

[@deborahmeyers551]

Ok whatever I'm calling it goulash 🥰🤣 loved this vlog take it in your stride beautiful Maggie thanks for sharing 💜

[@mayanne5409]

Love you both ❤ prayers

[@griffinf8469]

Hey Maggie! I just found your channel. You and Zak seem like an awesome couple!! On the topic of conceiving, would or have you ever considered a surrogate? I know this is a touchy subject but I’m just curious if that’s an option for you guys.

[@ElanaL]

Your "crazy Friday night" sounds just like mine! Out of curiosity, are you able to drink alcohol? Or does it interfere with your stoma/ostomy etc.? I know you'd mentioned in the past that you had a family history with alcoholism but I'm just curious in terms of medically in regards to chrons

[@stormindminor]

Do they grow back every year

[@barbaraangele1062]

❤❤❤

[@natashaw401]

Have u filled out adoption paperwork

[@kadieleesilva773]

Have you run into any issues taking Zofran now that you’re on an SSRI? If so what do you take for nausea?

[@LetsTalkIBD]

I actually don't use zofran often as it seems to be the least effective anti-nausea med! I usually take reglan or phenergan!

[@natashaw401]

Dang Zak taste before add hot sauce

[@natashaw401]

U saved some monarch caterpillar

[@priscillaparkman6967]

There was baby spiders all over the flowers lol.

[@LetsTalkIBD]

Oh my gosh, I didn't notice!

[@ibethwilke]

Mexican Thanksgiving, I almost died please don't!!!

[@natashaw401]

U through together food u say goulash u says Thanksgiving something hey 👋

[@herrmannbarbara9654]

Young married couple playing board games on Friday nights …… what about some more hot 🔥 sauce

[@natashaw401]

Lolll only 2 bill heat

[@songoftheblackunicorn666]

A surrogate is a much better option. Babies need to stay with their families due to personality being 40 percent genetic, and due to it being alot harder to have full medical histories and accurate documentation as an adoptee. I really would have rather been cut to pieces and vaccumed out of my mother than have been adopted as I was.