Who Is A Godly Husband? // Before I Do - Stephanie Ike Okafor

[@Grace-y6o9]

"Boundaries are not because you don't trust yourself. Boundaries are to protect you from crossing a line as a default response when the lesser you shows up"

[@ManipuraCentreCo]

This was the one!! 💯💯💯

[@PrayingMrs]

"Submit to YOUR OWN HUSBAND." Puts a responsibility on the lady to make sure she chooses a husband she can submit to, a husband that will be a reflection of the Father. Choose carefully, fearfully in prayer.

[@gertrudenabiryo1894]

Yeah, you are right 👍

[@heather7119]

“Learn ur wife don’t compare her”….. words of wisdom ❤

[@ElizabethAkinsola-i1x]

To those who are (subconciously) scared of marriage but are intentionally equipping themselves with knowledge of a Godly marriage. This right here is loaded. Thank you Stephanie Ike Okafor. I look forward to the next.

[@thomasina_ndlovu]

ROLES OF A HUSBAND 1. Leader Ephesians 5:23 Being a leader is a posture of service. To husband is to manage. Mark 10:45 To be a good leader he needs to be a good follower 2. Learner 1 Peter 3:7 Learn your wife don't compare her. Find out how your partner receives love 3. Loyal partner Hebrews 13:4 Boundaries are not because you don't trust yourself. Boundaries are to protect you from crossing a line when the lesser you shows up. Set boundaries to protect your union 4. Provider 1 Timothy 5:8. You can dream and earn. Don't choose to be idle and lazy. Have a vision. A good man leaves an inheritance for his children's children 5. Protector Ephesians 5:28. If you're dealing with self hate don't rush to be married. Awareness brings healing What doesn't define a godly man is his height, income range. Remove the veil of deception from your eyes. Marriage is a beautiful thing

[@simphiwemoleli9351]

Just WOW. I'm 19 and this just set the tone for my whole life.

[@stephaniephoebe5376]

Thought I was weird listening to this at this age,,thanks to you I have company

[@visionarywangary]

You're blessed to have this information this early.

[@paulinemutua2422]

Am 19 too ......Taking notes❤

[@Jasonthehealer]

I truly desire to be a Godly husband to understand and learn my future Wife. To pray for her, to protect and provide for her and sing to her and cook for her and walk with her and sing in the rain of God!!! My hands will be used to hold her passionately and to HEAL HER by the anointing of the Holy Spirit..... my first marriage failed due to lies, and infidelity and not on my end but hers. Whom the son sets free he is free indeed.... I serve a God of a Second chance. Forgiveness is a must but reconciliation is not always made available when the relationship first is not based off a GOD ORFAINED COVENANT...

[@GraceOdoi-e8r]

That's an intentional man . Bravo!

[@Jasonthehealer]

@GraceOdoi-e8r exactly woman of God. Thats my desire sis. Ive been single and divorced for 2 years next month. Celibate!

[@GraceOdoi-e8r]

@@Jasonthehealer Grace will abound. Sending loads of love 💌💌

[@Jasonthehealer]

@GraceOdoi-e8r aawwwwww thank you very much woman of God.. i truly appreciate your kind words and compassion towards me. God bless your heart

[@Jasonthehealer]

@GraceOdoi-e8r keep me in your prayers okay. Grace and Shalom to you my sister in Christ

[@ujukamanu]

Her laughter gives me so much joy 🤣

[@baafibernice287]

😂😂

[@paulinemutua2422]

😂😂😂😂

[@millicentphillips-tp5ml]

For us who aren't married yet, now we know what to pray for... In detail❤

[@ElizabethAkinsola-i1x]

I agree. In detail.

[@Sindiisithole]

Yes🥹

[@gertrudenabiryo1894]

Hahaha, I feel so blessed to come across this before even dating

[@gamuchirainkomazana]

if you don't have boundaries, your default response is to cross the line- that's so true.

[@joycethompson464]

I am a female 69 years now and never been married but I am learning a whole lot.. Thank you for these teaching 🙏 ❤ God bless you always 🙏

[@Jmuwanguzi]

You can still be fulfilled and actually live a wholesome life. Cindy Trimm just got married at 60 yrs 1st marriage . She knew exactly what she wanted in a man and what she wouldn’t compromise for. Find her on KZbin you will blessed.

[@PONYAKFANTUR]

Wow! But that's isn't a problem at all, not everyone is gifted to be married. God knows the plan he has for you just relate with Him closely

[@polescodes]

Hearing the impact of a husband explains to my spirit why I have been so quick to walk away from relationships and slow to get in them. I want what God knows I deserve and while I’m working to get ready, my heart is still healing in faith and hope bc I’m so vulnerable when it comes to Gods way. So many men do not qualify as a husband to me.

[@wallflower777]

This series is blessed. Single, 27, woman of Christ here

[@nadinedominique414]

Marriage is “pruning not punishment” I love this! Amen

[@NyawiD.o.a.K]

You're the definition of fine girls serving Jesus Christ in our generation may God continue blessing you 😍

[@DeborahO.]

The urgency with which I rushed to watch this video might have seemed comical, but it's a reflection of my desire to always be prepared and not miss out on opportunities. I believe in staying ready so that I'm never caught unprepared.

[@charitynyirenda9067]

🤝🤝

[@sarahabe1221]

You and I both sis 😅

[@faithismyspirit]

Amen and you will have the wisdom for that good man when he comes riding on the clouds 🎉❤

[@yolz555]

Me too❤

[@indieb8062]

Yeeeeessss!! The wait is over 🙏🏿 It is 2:30 am my time, and I was awaken by an attack in the spirit.. Started praying in tongues, then decided to come on to play some worship songs, and to my surprise, this is the first video I see. Pastor, you are such a blessing, and I thank you for your obedience to our Heavenly Father 😢 More grace to you, and I pray your strength in Jesus's name. You are helping us

[@RiseUpTheKingdomOfGod]

Amen❤🙏🏼

[@_ofCHRIST]

I heard Apostle Aromi say that if you observe the hours you get attacks at night, they are most likely the hours you should keep prayer watches

[@sanyusarah-mv5jj]

Amen

[@indieb8062]

@_ofCHRIST Yes! Amen! We ought to be Vigilant.

[@charfraser1916]

@@_ofCHRISTi agree, i noticed tht when I started waking up at 12. The attacks were moved to 1-2 when I go back to sleep

[@rajivlewis5895]

love this!❤ I came here after a failed dating experience and these vidoes (both this and the one about "Who is a Godly Wife") helped me to realize that you can try your best to exemplify these traits but if a person is damaged and hasn't healed properly from their trauma then they probably won't be able to recognize your worth because their wounds will cause them to desire something else that might not be what is best for them. Their souls will crave things that they have developed an appetite for based on their trauma. (eg. vanity, flashiness, and sometimes even hostility)

[@muhozabrenda3060]

My favorite pastor, l am from Uganda and l can tell you that your messages have been helping me and my friends grow in the LORD, may God bless you and give you strength to reach more and more people

[@bennyebubeimo7052]

Hi Brenda, it's blessing me too and I'm excited to learn about what godly marriage entails. Take care and have a great day.

[@CathyFlo]

Same here from uganda 🇺🇬 a definite voice in this generation for sure. God chosen.

[@edinahowembabazi8652]

🇺🇬❤

[@violetmusisi]

Am also from Uganda 🇺🇬 😅

[@thejoanokuga]

Same here...🇺🇬🇺🇬🇺🇬.she is indeed a sound teacher for our generation.

[@sipresdubut]

For the man to be a good leader he must be a good follower ❤

[@natashafena526]

If you hate yourself heal before you get into a marriage,i needed to hear that 🙏

[@lucierevignet2131]

first I am sorry for my english I from a french country. I want to say thank you pastor Stephanie thank you for allowing God to use you for the body of Christ. I hope that one day you will come here in Sénégal to blessed the younth here. My God blessed you🙏

[@lindawilson2556]

I’ve been married for 17 years and there has been many lessons, but much more blessings I can feel the love of God through my husband

[@naomimburuh4861]

If you hate yourself, it’s going to show in your marriage. Heal!

[@clove8763]

This is why Marriage is for the mature! #GREATSeries #YAYItsBack 😄

[@MelissaRodz]

Thank you, Stephanie, for speaking directly about the issue of physical abuse. It's important to hear these truths clearly stated. Your message is greatly appreciated. May God continue to bless your ministry. -Melissa R. DeLand, Florida

[@chidozieikpe6013]

I love the emphasis on the weight of a Godly husband's role 💯

[@chiedzalozane2942]

Thank you so much, I am currently single and praying for a Godly man, yes l pray that God remove the veil so that am able to see the right Husband.

[@cassandragrayes6149]

Everything she mentioned happened in my last relationship except for the physical abuse. Literally down to the “T”. I had to pause the video a few times and say “wow, thank you God for this revelation and bringing me out of a destructive relationship.”

[@FormidableMindWithNK]

Wow, thañk God 😊

[@PoSHEmediaglobal]

When the lesser you shows up , triggered by situations where your desires are not being met , boundaries protect you from crossing the line

[@charitynelson2324]

All i can say now is I LOVE YOU MA'AM, i know God took me into a new season and you are one of his own he has sent me to listen to, few nights ago, you came in my dream introducing yourself to me and you said you brought news of good tidings , i was surprised and happy because at that time i was in my low moments believing God for a miraculous turnaround. Your words are soothing and your laughter always makes me laugh along with you. God bless your family and ministry. Am Nwafor chinelo charity from Nigeria hoping to see you in person one day. ❤❤❤❤🌹💐💐

[@anitaamaning5822]

''To be a leader, you must be a good follower'' wise words! Thank you

[@kiberwalise1357]

(POV: you are from Rwanda and you are afraid to comment but you somehow find courage to do so and represent your fellow sisters who love pastor Stephanie ) May God bless you, pastor Stephanie. Love from Rwanda❤

[@neom645]

Why are you afraid to comment?

[@ishimwealine3020]

❤❤

[@mannymedia6311]

Internet is worldwidee

[@priscillachinsembu4669]

Why Afraid to comment?

[@Risper_Njagi]

😢 I'm sorry for this fear courtesy of coming from a country you have a right to live in... I'm from Kenya, love you, and believe in a day where we can all have complete and responsible freedom of expression/speech /opinion

[@nancyuyigue2871]

My favorite teacher, Your teaching has help me grow spiritually…May God continue to strengthen you.

[@ujukamanu]

God please remove the veil of deception from my eyes 🙏🏾

[@Yolocheese]

Stephanie this was so good. Thank you for holding both genders accountable to the WORD of GOD and not culture. May the LORD continue to use you in every way He sees fit! God bless everyone!

[@SpeakYourDesires]

I AM loving this! I have been praying for my husband since 2015. This year I caught the bouquet on May 25, 2024. I have been studying how to be a wife that GOD desires for me. Thank you so much for this series, Stephanie. I love you and appreciate you, Queen.

[@charitynelson2324]

Create boundaries not fir when you are strong but for when you are weak. ❤❤🙏👌

[@Ellen_NanaAma]

I am from 🇬🇭 Ghana and I love Ps.Stephy❤️😭 soo much ,her sermons and teachings have really helped me and my family soo much,,God bless you WOG🤲🏾

[@rhodalinagyei524]

I’m a Ghanaian too and I don’t want a day to go by without listening to her sermons . I thank God for her life 🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@steffeijoma2193]

I am Nigerian, and the way marriage is represented here is something else, I’m so grateful for this information and revelation. Thank you Stephanie

[@yolandahall2615]

I want to truly truly thank😘😘 for this series my Sister!!!! I've been married 30 years this past April heal (by God's grace) of breast cancer and STILL working/investing on keeping my marriage at its blessed best! Yes, its work out here for us married folks😜! Blessing and longevity on your marriage Mrs. Ike Okafor🙏🏾🙏🏾 and over your baby girl. I sent this to my oldest son who has been married 2 years and my sister who is dating for marriage and my younges son and his girlfriend i will continue to foward and bless others as I have been blessed thus far!

[@NellyMoseki]

When pastor soke to the single men at the end - WOW!!! 😭💔 It healed a part of me because I've just had to leave a relationship with a guy who happens to think that way. Hearing pastor highlight this here spoke to aches in my heart regarding this man that I fell in love with but who has this very mentality that pastor describes. Lord, it is well with my soul! Father I pray that You remove the veil of deception from his eyes, in Jesus name Amen!

[@lovejoy6710]

My notes: Stephanie Ike: What is a Godly husband? // Before I Do. Who is a husband? A man who enters a legally or culturally recognized union out of mutual love and a desire to build a life together. Ephesians 5:22 wives submit to your husband Pray for him if you feel he isn’t (don’t give up easy) Don’t rush .. know how he thinks, is he a man that can lead, what’s his views on things.. get into his head. See if this is someone you can do life with 5 roles of a Godly husband. 1) he is a leader (eph 5:23) A mam shouldn’t abuse this role It’s a posture of service. The Lord is entrusting you with this woman , that’s why she is submitting Response for management. Be a good manager of your home Mark 10:45 Eph 5:25 Jesus is the model for the husband Leads by how he loves/leads by example He doesn’t mistreat you he embodies love. Leads as a servant **A good leader is a good follower of Jesus Christ ** 1 Peter 3:7 Deut 5:9 Generational curses fall though the Father deut 5:9 says this Dishonor would cause God to shut his ears to the ears of the man You have to be submitted to Jesus / be rooted in the word 1 Peter 37 2)he is a learner Learn your wife, don’t compare her Ask love languages When you learn them, it will deepen the bond The Lord with give you wisdom Heb 13:4 3) he’s faithful Boundaries are for when the lesser you shows up .. the flesh etc. if you don’t have boundaries in place, then you will cross the line Boundaries are for when your weak 4 1 Timothy 5:8 he is a provider Do what works for YOUR family Dads may have to be stay at home dad instead of the wonan.. he’s not doing it from a place of laziness but a place of strategy.. A man who chooses to be lazy, idol and the consequences is his family experiencing lack. The Bible says you are worse than a unbeliever The lie of the enemy will say a man taking a lesser job to help out at home ..diminishes who u are as a man/husband Don’t let your wife break her back bc you are lazy Know it is seasons in marriage 5 he is a protector Ephesians 5:28 If u have ever laid hands on your wife , she is not the problem , you are and you need help. If you are dealing with self hate, do not rush to get married. If you hate yourself, it is going to show in your marriage. Take time to work on you Heal what is broken No matter what a woman has done, u are the problem if u put your hands on her. Awareness bring healing What doesn’t define a Godly husband? 1) his height 🤣 culture will mess you up! Shared this bc women of the list they have made of what makes a man an eligible bachelor Being a provider doesn’t mean he has to have 6 figures right now. **Prayer for single women** God remove the vail of deception from my eyes The lack of options becomes the things that opens your eyes What motivated my “list”? A man seeing hisself as the prize is not good Marriage is fun Closed with prayer

[@adelaidemarufu]

19:00 Boundaries are not because you don’t trust yourself, Boundaries are to protect you from crossing a line when the lesser you shows up. Mental & Physical Barriers‼️🙌🏾 PASTOR STEPHANIE, you’re teaching good, you’re teaching God!!! You’re anointed for this! And this is convicting me in other contexts that aren’t even about marriage 🥹🙌🏾

[@LITBib]

"You place boundaries not for when you're strong! You have boundaries for when you're weak!" 😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱 PRRRRRREEEEEEAAAAACCCHHHHHHHH!!!!! 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@kababiitoshamim8531]

Much love from Uganda 🇺🇬 Pr. Steph❤🎉

[@74janetta]

This series has been a blessing to me as a single person who is seeking to be married. I have identified a lot of things that I have done wrong in previous relationships. Looking forward to the next episode. May God continue to bless and use you.

[@JvstHere]

“You can dream and earn” just made me LOL 😭😭

[@priscillanyarugoye8966]

I love listening to this great woman of God.

[@StephanieBrown077]

The height thing is so real 😅 "Marriage is pruning not punishment us" Amen🙌🏾

[@sophiaewuramamensah7171]

God bless you woman of God. Your sermons has really changed my life and causing me to grow in the LORD. I love you so much. You don't know how much you've been a blessing to me ❤❤❤❤

[@summerhodges46]

Whew I just took so many notes to turn into prayer points. That you Pastor for this message and for the prayer!

[@fadzo123]

Its like everytime i ask a question to God, you always provide an answer.. love you my pastor❤

[@debrabett3621]

I believe that God is redeeming time for many of us singles through this amazing series. I'm so so grateful for this invaluable knowledge. Glory to the Most High God❤

[@sharriettefinley467]

Lord Jesus, that You would remove any veil of deception I may have. Thank You, Lord Jesus. Amen.❤️🕊

[@njerimaina8891]

Thank you so much Pastor Stephanie.Loving on this series from Kenya.🇰🇪🇰🇪

[@beninfrancis]

This was really good thank you, I’m marrying my best friend in 6 days!

[@annahsjewel]

I needed to hear this!! May God remove the veil from my eyes. It would also be great to see men in these comments.

[@nyadanstephen4089]

Yayyy I am the first person. God bless you pastor Steph for this series. Keep them coming ❤❤❤

[@Lifetogether-t1p]

Thank you Pastor Stephanie Ike ...I'm 19 and you just shifted the way I date and see

[@ThecreativeTolu]

Congratulations 🎉 I wish I got messages like this at age 19. May God continue to direct your steps ✨

[@HauwaBalaHalilu]

Thanks Pastor, I’m learning that oneness is absolutely CRUCIAL in a marriage.

[@FrancisAAfful]

21:10 Boundaries is very important. Especially at the point of weakness when your partner is being unbearable, thats when temptation creeps in. Boundaries before even that happens holds the relationship together. Thanks pastor

[@ems4202]

I clicked on this video with SPEED. I’m loving this series ❤ God bless you Pastor Stephanie!

[@Christy20189]

Stephanie I love you And I love the way you submit yourself to God just to use you. We need to know how A Godly Woman should be? Thank you sister Steph❤

[@watchmenswatch]

This is really good. There is so much information out there for wives from men to be better wives. It’s good to see a woman coming from a woman perspective.

[@phyllisdriver5773]

Thanks for sharing your wisdom about marriage. It is priceless and gives me hope in a time when connecting with a GODLY man is a rare occurrence.

[@lensnlove2772]

Actual Audience - MEN - Loved every word, Amen

[@chidiekeh4637]

I completely appreciate you, Pastor Stephanie for speaking on loyalty in a relationship/marriage spouse, keeping boundaries with their ex.

[@nontuthukogumede1215]

Yay I’ve been waiting. I was checking the page everyday. The wait is over. 🎉

[@odessaknowles4868]

Thank you for this series on Marriage I'm enjoying it I am single and I want to have a healthy marriage and Godly husband love it Pastor Stephanie

[@samukelisiwendlovu4507]

Wow what a word I’m courting and this series is such a eye opener for my partner and I 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 what a time to be alive

[@ruthchigwida4067]

This series is just too good. Thank you Pastor Steph for this much needed relatable content.❤

[@matildanjau1686]

Thank you Pastor Stephanie for this series... It's really been a blessing. I am a young single lady, still in school but learning a lot on what to look out for in a potential mate, and not be so focused on the mundane! More grace to you!!

[@LapologangMaggie-rz2pd]

I am definitely the marriage gang that is really learning alot from this serious

[@Devy7814]

😂 I’m tall too Pastor Stephanie! I desire a tall husband but more importantly I desire a Godly husband. Lord remove the veil of deception from my eyes. 🙏🏾

[@patienceankunda6185]

You are a blessing to this generation 😭 it was boundaries for me

[@RachelAmaka-wm6dz]

Since I started following you pastor Stephenie my life has changed a whole lot, thank you ma

[@jistones]

On time word!! Prayers up for all men, may they come into this understanding of their identity and priesthood. Amen 🙏🏼

[@ChilungamoMmanga]

Thank you for these teachings pastor Steph, they are helping me aloooot!! Your teachings are always timely, thank you!! And I declare that I shall enjoy a godly marriage in Jesus name!🙏🏼

[@christianlubanda3008]

Thank you Pastor Stephanie for such powerful and much needed teachings, still waiting for part 6 and 7, please write a book on these series, God bless you. 🙏🏽

[@jess77surfs]

It's important to date the reality and not the potential.. Especially for anybody watching this over the age of 45.

[@ClarisaMann09]

I'm enjoying this series! As a single woman who desires marriage, I'm taking all the notes and bringing them to God! Stephanie, I love your personality and sense of humor! ❤

[@okoloedwards3303]

Such a great teacher. Message is very insightful and filled with wisdom. I was blessed by it

[@lindiswamantyi6263]

I love Stephanie so much, but I will be honest on these series of marriage, I hear both, Godly and Wordly. I real pray to God that all of us his children can be in one in his spirit so that non of us is confused when we learn from each other.

[@ChildofGod98765]

Heavenly Father you have given me more than I know I deserve. I come before You with gratitude being a single mom with two sons with special needs. I pray that you bless me with your love, grace, and strength, as I tirelessly care for my family. I ask that You provide for my every need and sustain me in my daily struggles. Because Lord I’m overwhelmed struggling to pay rent each and every month struggling to buy groceries. I wish I had an easier life. Lord hear my prayers.❤️

[@Alltingzselfcareandstuff]

“Boundaries are not just to be set when you are strong, but for when you are weak as well. For when the lesser you shows up” If you hate yourself, you ARE the problem. Heal..you don’t have to be perfect just be moving forward and upward in your healing

[@simoiyahector-morales3781]

I refuse to submit to my malignant narcissistic husband and his abuse to me and our three children. I pray God deliver him before it's too late.

[@IntheNowEra]

This was an amazing series.pastor Stephanie touched on issues I have been having as a woman.

[@sethunyakopong6040]

Wow!!! This is DEEP.....❤❤❤❤ Thank you Stephanie

[@omonenobong]

Still haven’t made up my mind on marriage, but I love being enlightened on the institution I could possibly consider in future. Thank you for letting God speak through you

[@sorhayazamor4605]

Oh Jesus I was impatiently waiting for this teaching thank you Jesus for Pastor Stephania Ike Okafor ❤

[@famreact]

Amen! Thank you for clearing the misconceptions held by our generation. 🙌🏾 Thank you God for this message ❤

[@Sadintrovert]

Thank you so much pastor Stephanie, you have been a blessing to my life and may the good lord continue to give you the knowledge and revelation to do his work

[@sipresdubut]

Marriage is a God ordained institution. Say it LOUD 🔊📢🔊

[@marynekesa166]

Thank you so much Pastor Steph for this wisdom. May the Lord refresh you and fill you up with more divine insights ❤❤❤❤

[@ZaneleMahlangu-t4s]

This series is very powerful and educational

[@B.A.Ministry]

It's 5am and I'm wide awake & ready !!

[@JayKing4goodwill]

Thank you Pastor Okafor for yet another excellent biblical-base marriage teaching. Glory to the HolySpirit!🙌

[@KwinBee6064]

Thank you Pastor Stephanie, the way I have been yearning for such, I shared the message with my fiancé, i hope he will take time to listen to the whole message. So enlightening, so true and Godly. God bless you.

[@Heleyna37]

These teachings have greatly transformed my mind. Thank you so much Pastor Stephanie. Much love from Uganda. ❤