Who Is A Godly Wife? // Before I Do - Stephanie Ike Okafor

In part 5 of the series, we explore the importance of submission as God's order for the home, the value of friendship in marriage, the application of wisdom to build a strong household, the need for loyalty and boundaries, and the role of a wife as a supportive helper.
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[@maryjaneugwuanyi7951]

I'm 28 years old, and next month will mark three years of marriage. The first two years were full of fights and arguments. I would have left if it weren't for my pregnancy, as I don't believe in single parenting when both parents are alive. The last major argument happened when I gave birth. My husband said some terrible things that day, which caused my blood pressure to spike to 180/120. I had a headache, palpitations, and feared I might collapse, possibly due to the lingering effects of anesthesia during delivery. That day, I prayed to God, who told me, "If you want me to fix your husband, you need to just stay calm and submissive when he talks to you, no matter what he says or how he says it. Your behavior is all I need to change him." It's been a year, and it hasn't been easy to remain calm when I have so much to say. However, the good news is that he is changing, even if not completely, the difference is noticeable. I have found a kind of peace I never thought possible in my marriage, and our home has been peaceful since last year. Praise God.

[@ParisParis-pv9wd]

Thank you for this.

[@Coachchioma]

Beautiful. Wish I understood this sooner

[@C0urtbey22]

Praise God! I too had a similar experience!

[@lashawnw.]

God knows exactly how to handle us. He has taught me when to be silent and how to speak to my husband when I must say something and it does work. Marriage is not for the weak. Prayers for you and your marriage. 🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@janet3313]

Same thing happened to me, I focused on Jesus and he fixed my marriage.

[@beatricewatare]

The quiet posture of your heart becomes the microphone of the Holy spirit

[@keke_do_you_love_me]

I am currently single, I am not dating, or even being approached by men of value but I am going to watch videos in this series to prepare myself because I know that the man that God has planned for me is no longer going to delay. I believe it in the name of Jesus; so I’m excited to learn things about love, mariage, relationships whit you Pastor Stephanie🥰

[@itssLaury]

same here sis 🤍

[@nampijjahope4899]

Same here

[@belindadasilva4661]

Me too i am preparing and really enjoying. Please pray for financial breakthrough for me

[@RiseUpTheKingdomOfGod]

Amen

[@Baibeey]

I love that we are preparing ourselves

[@ChooseLifeDaily]

As a future wife, I clicked so fast like the video was running away from me 😂

[@bildadmesil-rs5qy]

Same sis 😂

[@brittneyjasmiine]

lol same!! I literally screamed!

[@graciejoseph6594]

Same lol 😂

[@kaydengamyplay6390]

Same same 😂

[@themakingsofmahogany1201]

Same sis!! 😅❤

[@amywarner1381]

I have been married for 6 years this year september, and what really stands out for me was when you said that having parents that are in a good marriage is an advantage ... my parents was married for 24 years me and my sisters witnessed countless adultry happening in my parents marriage, constant fights arguments and belittling... we didnt have any example of what a good marriage is just little bits of good moments between my parents. Their marriage ended in divorce.. and that spirit of adultry seemed to have been with me in my marriage even tho i have been blessed with a handsome, smart Godly man but still had this evil with me... God delivered me from that spirit and watching your video just shows me that i need to submit to my husband i havent fully done so... thank you for saying its a process i normally expect God to change me instantly like baaaaaam you are now submissive but that stems out of being lazy and not allowing God to uproot the issues within me so i can fully be healed... Stephanie Okafor! I thank you for your obedience to our Lord and saviour i desire to come to that obedience too one day! The fear of the Lord is truly His treasure! Godbless you!

[@TiMariee]

This is truly beautiful and i am happy for you sis. I am also in a learning process

[@beckywilliams5039]

I strongly resonate with this

[@valeciab.9949]

This is good!!!!

[@cristolhouey8519]

Thank you so much for this word. I truly needed this. God knew this is something I struggle with, and he sent me to your series again. Thank you for sharing an example from your life and making it clear to understand. Thank you for your transparency. Looking forward to next week. Be blessed.

[@indieb8062]

That ponytail experience is a prime example of submission!! Wow! Submit even when we don't understand. Trust God and allow your husband to lead. 🙏🏿

[@GreatIAM-g3j]

Yes! God just answered me many question with this example.

[@DanyellBordeaux]

It was such a great example! I will remember that for sure

[@nyashamadzingira6052]

“You submit because you trust God” “Incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit” ✍🏽

[@pakistanidramasenglish]

To anybody who's reading this, I pray that whatever is hurting you or whatever you are constantly stressing about gets better. May the dark thoughts, the overthinking, and the doubt exit your mind right now. May clarity replace confusion. May peace and calmness fill your life. Amen.

[@sarahshava1403]

Yes and Amen to this

[@flakamulata]

Amen, thank you

[@Risper_Njagi]

"Submission is not a reward for his good behavior" whew 🙌🙌 woow wow wow Passy (Kenyan/ Swahili for Pastor) 🇰🇪

[@Brandirell]

“Babe, it’s a ponytail, somebody there has to know how to do a ponytail.” 😂 Your hubby is a wise man! 🤣

[@londiswamkhize1064]

😂 I'm listening to that part rn and I'm just trying to understand why the hairstylist wouldn't want people to know she can do ponytails lol

[@Kipper3000]

@@londiswamkhize1064 My sister is a hair stylist and she does things like this because she doesn’t like doing certain types of hair styles. So she says she doesn’t do them but she can do and actually very well she just doesn’t like doing them.

[@lashonecaldwell5005]

“Submission to your husband allows God’s hand into your marriage”. Amen 🙏🏽

[@NobleDee70]

"weaker is in comparison to something that is also weak" thank you for that revelation. "The husband is in submission to God, the wife is in submission to her husband. God is a God of order" May the Lord help us to become wives as he intended for us to be. What a powerful word. Cant wait for next week!

[@GodFlourishesNetwork]

Sidenote: I love that your sweaters are also in line with this series LOL

[@samsonjoseph5023]

I thought I was the only one who noticed the lovely sweaters.🤩

[@smileyoumatterpodcast]

Honestly!! I thought I was the only one too ❤

[@Michimel99]

This series needs to be a book!! Such a blessing!

[@StephanieU872]

Yes!! I would love for this to be a book.

[@shannonh2164]

Sometimes your silence becomes the microphone for the Holy Spirit, it's not everything you respond to as a woman, I needed to hear that. I grew up in a single parent home and you're so right about that, your default is to respond according to your exposure. This series is the preparation that we all need, i'm so grateful. In our weakness God becomes our strength

[@judymbuthia6628]

As an independent woman, I really have to unlearn a lot of things in order to be submissive when I finally become a wife. Holy Spirit I submit to Your teaching, I'm willing to go all the way. Thank you pastor Stephanie and may grace abound. You don't know how this series is doing in me. Blessings all around.

[@RiseUpTheKingdomOfGod]

Amen

[@G_Galore]

Something I was taught is that we have to already be “wifes” as the scripture says “he who finds a wife finds a good thing”. So as it relates to submission, we can be submissive to the men and women of God in our lifes now; like pastors, our parents, small group leaders etc.(not bfs)to prepare us for marriage. That way it’s a practiced habit vs something we’re starting upon marriage (I’m single as well)

[@Gorata_Kiki_Nkwe]

A while back God told me, I’m preparing you for marriage, then you dropped the first episode of this series and I knew that was confirmation for me. I never miss an episode and I always go back to re-watch with a note pad because I’m really eager to be transformed by God. Not on only with the marriage series but every preaching of yours. Thank you Stephanie for being someone who helps me navigate my relationship with God. You are really helping me in building a relationship with God. Thank you so much, we appreciate you. You speak to every season of my life and I hope to meet you one day. I’m watching from Botswana by the way ❤️ I love you 😘

[@edidiongakpan9729]

Am very glad i bumped into this video , i realized that submission is a journey for the woman and as a man i should be patient enough to let her grow into it fully and i should also appreciate the little milestones she is accomplishing in submission. I dont plan to make submission hard and difficult for my wife , thanks to you Stephanie more grace ma😊

[@amywarner1381]

1:57am in South Africa and im awake cannot sleep see a notification and its this video thank you Jesus!!!

[@botlehonang]

2:38 am in South Africa 😅

[@adelaidemarufu]

2:54am in Zimbabwe

[@Risper_Njagi]

😂😂 y'all's and your time stamps 😂 2:43 pm Nairobi, Kenya, 14 June 2024

[@mobellohair3260]

GURLLLLL same!!!! In JOBURG and have BEEEEEEN waiting for this notification! CANT wait for the release of the book!

[@muhozabrenda3060]

Thank you LORD for making her a blessing to all of us

[@camilleyoung962]

I learned so much about how there’s beauty in the quiet and gentleness. Silence brings forth a microphone for the Holy Spirit. I always wanna clap back but they may not be what’s best. Beyond marriage, this is good to know for friendships too

[@faithhope4703]

1) Submissive to your husband An incorruptible beauty with a gentle and meek spirit 2) Be friendly 3)Wise 4)Loyal 5)Helper

[@lashawnw.]

God has and continues to teach me how to be a Godly wife to a husband not walking with God, it’s hard. I may not get it right all the time but God has changed me so much. We have been married for 11 years and I feel like I just started to get the hang of being a submissive help meet to him. It takes a lot of prayer and dying to self.

[@jenelleloves]

As someone who has never seen a healthy marriage, this was extremely helpful❤ Being independent for so long definitely makes it challenging to even think about being completely submissive but the way you broke it down made so much sense. Being submissive to my future husband is me being obedient to Gods order. Thank you for this series ❤ Praise God 🙌🏾

[@tiffanysalerno]

I love the ponytail story! I have a recent similar story where I was trying to tell my husband no but I submitted anyway. We ended up both getting blessed in a big, surprising way! The rewards of obedience are a real thing! And obedience includes submitting to our husbands!

[@motsa5343]

We forget that God is working on those around us (including our husbands) just as instenselu as he is working on us. So it serves us good to submit to our (future) husbands and to be good listeners and intentional with our words. When I became a mother I gave so much attention to our baby, that I became 'annoyed' with my husband. God called me out by askind me why are you hurting my child, and I thought but im doing everything for your child, and he said I love my child just as much as you love your baby. I realised he was talking about my husband as his child not our baby. That was a heart changing POV for me.

[@ngwenginini6580]

This sermon is an answer to prayer. In the last 2 years, I've asked the Lord to teach me what a gentle and a quiet spirit is. You explained what it is beautifully. Thank you for saying yes to the call.

[@maryrichard6944]

I enjoy your teaching about being a godly wife. I have been married for 37 years.

[@cynthiashitsukane]

"The response to love is submission"

[@Gorata_Kiki_Nkwe]

The part where you talked about submission and having a gentle and quiet spirit really stood out for me today. That’s the area where I needed a lot of work in and I thank God that after this episode he has really convicted me and delivered me. Thank you Jesus

[@LapologangMaggie-rz2pd]

Wow how I have testimony of how all you said it's true. I am married to an unbeliever'n I really used to be a foolish wife until I just let God be God. Now me 'n my husband a so happy. He owns a tarven, listen to this now he even plays gospel music in the tarven. Nothing is impossible with God

[@valeciab.9949]

THANK YOU HOLY SPIRIT😭this hit my heart so hard and I will have to watch this a few times til I stop crying lol! But SO DEEP AND HEALING AND REVEALING. I've been raised in trauma and this helps me SOOOOO much! Thank You Lord for using Stephanie🙌🏽💜

[@christinestone7732]

Funny story when my husband and I were getting married. And the pastor was going over our wedding vows. I didn't want the word. Wife submit to your husband for me. It was a trigger because I had been in an abusive relationship and was a single mom for 23 years prior to meeting my husband. But as I'm learning and on this walk with God now that I understand more clearly because God has given me clarity on what he meant by wife submitting to your husband's. It makes me sad that I didn't have it in my wedding vows, because now that I understand and have the knowledge and It's like you mentioned having wisdom and knowledge. And now. I embrace it as a beautiful thing. My husband and I we laugh about that now. Because it's just a funny story.❤😂

[@nadykamanga186]

Love this! As a woman wanting to be married when my time comes I’m still working that out with the Holy Spirit bc like you said it triggers me too not bc of a bad romantic relationship but seeing my dad abusing my mum’s submission to dominate her in a bad way… (you know the people that interpret the Bible to always be in their favor).. but like your story, God can turn anything bad into something beautiful and I know He is turning my heart too to see submission as a shelter me and not a sword that will pierce me…🧡

[@DogtorNat]

Wow “sometimes your silence becomes a microphone for the Holy Spirit” #puttingthatinrotation Thank you @stephanieikeokafur

[@nalexander8573]

I love how Pastor Stephanie is so Direct, to the point, transparent and realistic in a meek and gentle way.

[@treisharolle8438]

As a woman who wants to be married...this has been helpful and encouraging. I've learned so much from the series. Thank you for sharing Godly principles for the husband and wife. May God continue to bless you😊

[@thelmawashington4996]

Thanks! Stephanie Ike you are truly a blessing to me, and I thank God for your obedience continue to dwell in the secret place of the most high God ❤

[@User6394-v5f]

There is something about pastor Stephanie...like a nurturing thing. I thank God that your teachings are easy to understand. Something happens to my heart every time I hear your sermons. May our Jesus preserve you and bless you always. Amen

[@StarS-mk3sr]

What I found difficult is when a husband asks a wife to do something harmful to her family; she does it and then her submission is complete but her siblings and family have deeply lost/experienced the harm. Very difficult when that request is harmful. Regardless of my own experience, this video is so helpful & hopeful for me, indeed. I’m glued in to the video and most of all to the Word of God within. Thank you! Hoping this video series goes viral; you’re saving lives, marriages & futures! Amen 🙏🏾

[@StephanieIkeOkafor]

Great point... and we'll address this in the series. Unpacking them one by one.

[@gsaunders8771]

That’s not true at all you submit to Godly behavior if it’s not of God there is no leadership and you do not submit. In submission you also have to submit to God he doesn’t just get cast to the side because of your husband you both have to still obey Gods word. No ma’am don’t

[@thejoanokuga]

This is why he should be a Godly husband too because he wouldn't suggest something that would hurt his wife and in-laws.

[@Nabula-v3h]

​@@StephanieIkeOkaforplease i need your prayers😭😭😭🙏

[@madumerekelechi9667]

@@StephanieIkeOkaforplease Pastor Stephanie,can you make a special video of women married to unbelieving husbands or husbands clearly not walking with the Lord. How do you navigate this? And how do we submit when you know the outcome won’t be right?

[@joann8361]

Not yet married but am blessed with the series... Am 30yrs.. Thank you Pastor Stephanie.. God richly bless you

[@StevenThaundi]

I'm single, but this episode has spoken to me on different areas of my life more especially on the part of me being a daughter to my parents. I really thank God for our pastor.

[@daughterofzionjudah]

This is going to be tough!!! But the Lord has spoken! 😅

[@_QueenBell]

Pastor Stephanie, may you make a video on what this looks like in courtship? You made a vital point regarding how your behavior played a pivotal role into making it in marriage. Thus, I think more knowledge is needed ... like what are the boundaries on showing these qualities (ie: submission) to a man you're courting?

[@kingdomchild03]

As a future wife, I receive this word. Amen.

[@delpino10019]

If you don’t know what the word of God says your default is to respond according to your exposure.. love this❤

[@smileyperlishia]

I love this!! Men love to be recognized and appreciated and not challenged all the time. Wisdom, knowledge and a loving tone of a woman will change their whole perception of everything.

[@BrainfulMedia]

Can we please have part 6, please pastor Stephanie. I’m really enjoying this series and learning a lot, been taking a lot of notes. I feel prepared and ready to be a godly wife all thanks to your teaching. Part 6 PLEASE 🙏

[@iamcolormecourtney9136]

Jesus!!! 🙌🏾 Thank you Father for giving Pastor Stephanie your wisdom, knowledge, and understanding. The gift to unpack your word…🙌🏾 This message is soooo timely. Thank you for your transparency..needed it! I’m willing change and apply what I’m learning..me Holy Spirit🙏🏽

[@XtraOrdinaire134]

Oh my goodness the hair example gave me insight on the mysteries & deep secrets of submission. Wow! the voice of God cannot lead you astray.

[@LiliethHale]

I been married twice both husbands died I am so in loved with this man and he is so in loved with me I learn so much today from your teaching it is so deep I see myself needing to change I embraced the word of God but I truly been to school of listening to be an Godly wife Everything that was said I see God changing me to be submissive to God to my husband I needed to hear Faith cometh by hearing and hearing by the word of God love it!! Blessings to you Stephanie

[@thullymthunzi7438]

I am a woman in my youth years and praying to get married someday, I've learnt a lot in this video. What a wonderful messages you shared. I pray and hope I will apply these aspects and no only keep them in my mind. May God work in me and prepare me for what HE has prepared for me. God bless you my sister.

[@YouDontKnowTheCost_Ministries]

This was the best one yet! Every woman needs to watch this. As he’s preparing me now. The knowledge I’m soaking in I’m grateful for. I’m willing to change to be the best version I can be for Christ, and my future husband. Thank you woman of God!

[@lynn3724]

May we please have the, ‘Does God select your spouse?’ video😭🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@CheerfulChisom-xd5if]

Thanks so much momma for this teaching. I'm a young lady in my 23 years of life but this teaching is a changing moment of my life. I always argue a lot with my fiancee but I've learned to be quiet sometimes. Thanks ma.

[@perrylucky]

Being a Godly wife does not happen overnight its about the willingness to become one and by inviting God to uproot and prune all that is not useful . This is my take home today ❤we love you pastor

[@Crownofsplendour]

Thank you Pastor Steph for this great and insightful marriage series. For comments talking about marriages and issues with regards to submission, Pastor Stephanie's marriage series is primarily addressing singles who are not yet married, so that they can gain knowledge and understanding in order to Choose well and marry well. Because God's original order is that as a woman-you SUBMIT to the man that you have carefully and prayerfully chosen to marry and as a man-you LOVE the woman that you have carefully and prayerfully chosen to marry-regardless of their shortcomings because nobody is perfect. We are all work in progress and we help each other to become the better version of ourselves. Anything less is Disobedience to God. God's Idea is to Choose right and Marry right. If you choose well-Love and submission will not be an issue because you are both Submitted to God.

[@Omooba-1004]

You're blessed and highly favored! Steph might consider doing this with her husband. After all, the "Single Men" could use godly counsel.

[@estrellasyfrases]

Pastor Stephanie, thank you so much for doing this series. I am a new Christian, and my husband and I are going through couples counseling to work through being a partnership and having two different belief systems. My husband is an unbeliever and wants to protect our son from the influence of Christianity. He wants to forbid our son from going to church, reading or learning about the Bible, hearing worship music, and being around other Christians. I am completely willing to become the Godly wife that God calls us to be. I respect my husband's rules and submit to him. Let me tell you, Jesus has transformed our marriage in how He has been working on my heart, helping me to be more submissive and empathetic. Pastor Stephanie, I will rewatch this and take notes. I have also sent this to my sister, who is also a new follower of Jesus and is married with a young child. Father God, thank you for working with and through Pastor Stephanie to reach so many men and women across the world and help us draw closer to you. All the glory and praise goes to you.

[@elenacruz2555]

❤

[@ea4b]

This series just gets better & better. Thank you God for Pastor Stephanie ❤

[@kendi254]

There's beauty in quiet and gentleness . And for sure sometimes silence becomes the microphone for the holy spirit. Wonderful message

[@LapologangMaggie-rz2pd]

I wish I could just unpack my testimonies here cause wow all you said is so true. I am seeing the fruits of being submissive n hey the fruits a sweet n soft❤

[@GracePatrick-pu7xw]

Silence becomes the microphone of the Holy Spirit. Wow! I'm married and this has actually opened my eyes. I had an argument with my husband early this week, if only i had obeyed when i was told by the Holy Spirit not to address the issue (which wasn't there actually)we wouldn't have argued,, the enemy really plays with our minds and it's not all that we see should we confront or complain just be silent

[@ujukamanu]

I love how your sweaters are love themed to match the series 😂💗

[@odomaa1]

I thought I was the only one that noticed

[@nabalayodeidre6862]

Watching and listening to this ,my inner man is in total agreement I now understand that silence is so golden and not everything needs a response ,I almost spoilt a good relationship with always thinking I have to speak my mind and it always made the situation worse .But lately the holy Spirit has been working on my heart and tongue ,submission is for a heart willing to lay down self for the other .Thank you pastor Stephanie for teaching us the Godly principles of living I will come back with a testimony in Jesus name

[@ujukamanu]

Wonderful teaching! I’m learning a lot and praying it sticks for when it’s time 🤭

[@LadyA273]

Your quite posture becomes the microphone for the HOLY SPIRIT!!! Wow

[@sharongold8606]

This whole series has been a blessing to me, I’m learning a lot about the Godly biblical marriage. God bless you pastor Steph!

[@charlie16126]

I just want to encourage you Stephanie as we all need encouragement in this life. This word was well said. I have not heard it said in this way. I also love your example with when your hubby told you to go to the salon that said they didn't do ponytails and the lord spoke to you and rewarded you as well as increased your faith in what his word says. I also like the insight of Sarah's submission and tying it to how God covers her. I love you and God bless and keep you and your family

[@elisabethkalande]

No me binge watching this series today and Pastor Steph posts another episode🥲❤️

[@tangiblespirit]

Love that for you sis! ❤

[@usimaqubela]

Me too!!! Definitely love it😁

[@StarS-mk3sr]

lol 😂😂😂😂 me too!

[@beatricewapalwaluhanga8545]

Finally what I was waiting for❤, I see myself as a future godly wife 🥳🙌🏽

[@carlybmn]

Thank you for sharing Pas Stephanie, I believe God has plans for me to have a spouse and grow up a generation that fears and honors Him. I am currently studying the book of Proverbs as I'm seeking to grow in wisdom, knowledge and understanding, which you touched on a bit here as it relates to marriage (and it really helped put things into perspective). At first, I was really hoping to get married because it is a good thing to do, but now my perspective has changed a bit, and your series has helped me. I have come to realize that marriage is a serious responsibility of family that God orders for his honor and glory. So now I'm more focused on devoting my life to God to build me (and enjoy my alone time lol😄).

[@maerieko2689]

Great word pastor ☺️☺️ I also wanted to add to 31:57 that your husband may not be comfortable with not just some your male friends but also some of your female friends alike…….I have heard of cases where a husband warned his wife about her female friend and the wife being strong headed didn’t listen and that led to the breakdown of the home because the friend was jealous and did everything in her power to end the marriage. Whenever your partner expresses concern about the people around you……PAY ATTENTION.

[@TigerMom2024]

This also falls in line with the fruit of the spirit ( self- control). Something that I am working on.

[@thomasina_ndlovu]

Ephesians 5:25 5 ROLES OF A WIFE 1. Submission 1 Peter 3:1-6. Submission is not a reward you give your husband as a reward for being good behavior. It is a posture that God calls the woman to take in a home. The quiet posture of your heart becomes the microphone for the Holy spirit. Genesis 12:10-20. Proverbs 21:9 2. Friend Titus 2:4. Be a safe space for him 3. Wise builder Proverbs 14:1. Gain knowledge and apply it. Navigate your house with wisdom. Marriage is intentional. Have a willingness to learn and change 4. Loyal partner Hebrews 13:4. You can't honour your marriage whilst making excuses for dishonorouble behavior. You're responsible for how your spouse feels 5. Helper Genesis 2:18. Learn to support his vision. Get involved. Don't give opinions without information

[@sibusisosimelane4247]

Thank u my sister I'm inspired to shake my self from the chain of evil and follow Christ of Nazareth

[@nompilozondo9836]

Stephanie ma’am. Thank you so much for allowing God to use you and equip us through you and this series. May God bless you and your home in Jesus’ name Amen❤

[@SamariaNieves-zu1nk]

Thank you for creating this video. I am married and currently separated because I have not submitted to my husband. I did not have a role model to show me how to treat your husband and I am now learning on my own during this time how to submit to my husband. I am praying for a miracle because I love my husband and I love my family. I want to do things right in front of God’s eyes and I want my marriage back. This video gave me so much hope! Please pray for me as I allow God to build me up. ❤

[@JoyNwodo-jq6cf]

I don't how I got here. now it's making sense. the holy spirit

[@RiseUpTheKingdomOfGod]

Hallelujah. This is a great series I am thankful for you Pastor Stephanie for setting such a great an beautiful example for anyone who is single, anyone who has been promised marriage from God and waiting for their husband: or wife an anyone already engaged or married. Amen blessings!

[@sarahtamba5091]

This is so touching. Lately, it has been really crazy with my marriage and my response has been very harsh. I received this revelation today and I’m taking a new trend in honor to God.

[@Designer1-ProjectManager]

This teaching was truly deep and spiritually anointed.

[@jenny_enemuo]

When I read the story of Sarah and Abraham you cited, honestly I thought he was crazy. It’s really a hard teaching to submit even when you think his idea is foolishness. But now I know it means I trust God to work it out with him or just intervene. Thank you Pastor Stephanie, it’s always a blessing listening to you ❤.

[@iamtammy4eva]

Thank you so much Pst Steph ma! Also something else I see thats implied here is,"Single women should choose with God,its way easier to submit to a man who is really submitted to God and is willing to listen to the spirit of God."❤

[@ThatgirlNYE]

I’m not married yet, but my boyfriend and I are moving in the direction of marriage. There’s a lot her that was discussed that he told me that I have an issue with and the first and biggest one being submission. I didn’t think that I needed to do that since we’re only dating, however the things that he ask of me is nothing to harm us but I figured that I knew more 😂. As I thought about his saying that I’m not submissive I thought about how I grew up. I grew up in a family where the women ran the home because we did not have solid men to do so or there wasn’t a man to help in the home. So I grew up very independent and head strong and it took my bf to tell me that I have an issue with submission. Whewwww! This video read me for filth 😂. I’m trying to work this out BEFORE marriage and also look for a married couple that we both trust to confide in when we need them.

[@ManipuraCentreCo]

This is SO GOOD!! It’s changing me from the inside out and my marriage is benefiting from these teachings. Thank you!!🙏🏽 ❤

[@geehoratio4338]

This has been amazing! Thank you for walking us through this series I anticipate the next topic, it's really a big deal!

[@EvieAswiti]

The way I shimmied with my pistachio ice cream to hop on my couch to watch this. Yessss, Stephanie!!!

[@tracyfletcher1]

“He’s not called to lead himself; he’s called to submit himself before God. I’m called to submit myself to him. It doesn’t change my relationship to God; but I’m also called to submit to him.” “God puts us in position of weakness out of love, not hate, that He becomes our strength.” Revelation…the husband is called to submit to God & the wife to her husband. We’re both weak vessels. We both have to submit to God. We’re both accountable to God. Most of all, not only do we submit to God, but we both need to depend on God. There’s decency and order in God. We still need God. Soooo gooooddddd!!!!

[@IyanuoluwaAdeaga]

This was for me. I never saw that Abraham/Sarah story in that light. Thank you, Pastor Steph.

[@dianejobe8431]

Such a beautiful teaching! I needed this, because my independence rises up and it has been terrible! Been married for 29 years and walking with the Lord for 30. Worked through a lot healing from past abuse etc. but my healing has come and I truly want to be a safe place for him. I love him so much! He was my Boaz

[@peta-anngordon1361]

Pastor Stephanie... It's been two months of waiting... Lord, please help Your daughter to cover Part 6 for us. I pray you lead her by The Holy Spirit! Surprise me please King Jesus. Amen.

[@Rose_gowld]

I really love the intentionality that has been put into the series,Pastor Steph has been wearing shirts that caught my attention 😅I don’t even own anything with hearts…I love it though ❤

[@phinaogueri3799]

Thank you Pastor Stephanie. God bless you 🙏🏼

[@josephineahadzie7155]

I cannot start to describe how these videos have been a blessing. especially this one. thank God for social media. pastor Stephanie this is a word from God straight at me, it was just meant for me. this is the answer the struggle in my marriage all along. its unfortunate that all the answers we need is in the word. its all in there but the unwillingness of man to sit still and read to get revelations by the interpretation of the holy spirit causes us to run around in circles. i know i have lol. my submission to my husband is going to be the turning point i have been looking for all along. divorce is not the answer submission is. God bless you. God is good.

[@tinaressemackenzie5490]

Like I always say Pastor Stephanie is truly an answered prayer. Thank you for opening our eyes, ears and hearts. We are so blessed to have you. 🙏🏾❤️

[@Whoisthatgirl2121]

The ponytail story is adorable

[@ToffyOlowo]

I’ll be honest Pastor Stephanie, submission used to be a trigger word for me particularly because I’ve felt I always had to be in control and had grown up so independent. However, God has been intentional about teaching me submission and I’m grateful to be learning this now. Thank you so much for this, it blessed me🙏🏾

[@TenaciousB20]

Pastor Stephanie the Holy Spirit was speaking through you to me. The delivery was on point and I receive what you have said about what a Godly wife should be. I am in the preparation stage for marriage. No I’m not engaged yet but in Jesus name I want to take in and apply all the points that you just made for when that time comes. God bless you !

[@Graceandfaith15]

Pastor Stephanie is like the spiritual mother I have longed for. While its beautiful to see people testify of Gods faithfulness and goodness in marriage sometimes it makes you feel like God has delt you a bad hand and then theres Pastor Stephanie who is like the healing love of God to every broken piece in our heart. So blessed to have Pastor Stephanie continued stream of pouring.

[@marykokoana5117]

Woman of God,this kind of advice is exactly what i need currently in my marriage... we're only six months into the marriage and I already felt all those negative things you mentioned women normally do,what makes it all worse is the fact that my husband is so far away from me because of work and it is honestly so hard for me to be so far from him but this sermon is helping me so much I love so much Stephanie,your gentle spirit and relatable preaching, God bless you. I am following your teachings all the way from Lesotho 🇱🇸, Southern Africa.

[@JuiCyNess08]

Wow! The Holy Spirit was sending me shorts of this series and I’m so glad I watched this. Literally was arguing with my husband and I was like I’m tired and I stopped and went upstairs lol usually I get upset but thankful to God to keep my heart open to watch this video at such a timely moment. So many gems and I definitely will pray to the Holy Spirit to activate a change in me because I’m tiyad and hear after watching that it can start with me. Thanks so much Pastor Stephanie.