Who Knows Kids Better? Mums Vs Maids | Inspirational Video

[@evasmithturton5208]

“She doesn’t like people to know... so i don’t tell you” respect

[@some1else688]

Y E S

[@eevieaaa759]

She's a real one

[@khaela9255]

She'll have your back no matter what

[@alisaintannandaputrigyza8059]

F

[@citysc4pes916]

Justice for me whos crush always got leaked😭🤚

[@erniegillo3535]

I love the last kid for she calls their maid "Auntie" it sounds so endearing than calling someone as nanny.

[@notlikeyouneedmyname.4378]

I'm just gonna assume this is Malaysian (because I see Chinese Malay and Indian representating this) and I wanna share another thing, we usually don't call maids as maids but we rather call them kakak as in "big sister" and idk but it sounds kinda sweet to me.

[@emilynshimmi785]

umm not to be rude, but asian's do not really call their "maids" "maids", but auntie. It is just a name and a way to respect

[@milklychee6277]

YUP Asians just call every woman older "auntie" I do when I visit mt parent's boyfriend

[@jacesdiary6512]

I call my nanny "mama"

[@notlikeyouneedmyname.4378]

@@emilynshimmi785 yeah, it's actually weird when I see people call maids as "maids".

[@angieliang8475]

“She likes the boy Darius” “She doesn’t want people to know so I won’t say” idk I found that really sweet of the maid to respect the kid even if they’re super young

[@noel6133]

When the impostor is sus!!!!!!!!!!!

[@andriwahyudani1302]

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[@aicerg]

That's a basic idea that, believe it or not, many adults don't understand: children are people, not pets. They deserve respect.

[@ihavenoidea2805]

And also that's a kid, it's kinda weird when the mom said "she likes a boy" when the kid is like 10 and herself said she just wants friends

[@pianohelper8873]

"She likes the boy Darius" And that is how the rebelling phase started.

[@5T4YM4D]

1:35 this should be hurt the mother, the kid look after her aunty instead of her mom. It's not aunty's fault either

[@liv143]

It’s not the moms fault either, most of them work the whole day and week, that’s why they have maids to take care of the kids when they’re not home, it’s heartbreaking to think they have to work so much to feed their children, but end up not having proper time to spend with them :/

[@LaurenIsabelTeh]

@@liv143 its true its no ones fault its just life but the moments with ur kids while their young is what creates their core memories it makes us

[@user-ix7rj3pc7r]

New mother here not trying to judge as I do not know the mothers in this videos true situation but if my child said that I would be so upset. I would want them to come to me not anyone else.

[@itsgonnabeanaurfromme]

​@@liv143how do you know? Weird you assume that. Many countries have working moms and no maids.

[@itsgonnabeanaurfromme]

​@@user-ix7rj3pc7rthen take care of your child

[@bandungaye-aye758]

And the cruel thing is, some of peoples still treat a nanny just like a slave even when that woman loves their kids like their own

[@miylx8396]

Yea and it’s really sad people think that way cause I have a nanny and I see her as kinda like my second mom

[@jottamartins]

It's been more than 20 years and I can still remember vividly when my mom told that a lady was coming to work for us. She was going to clean, cook, and take care of me and my sister, but above all to care for our grandparents that lived with us. "She is going to care of our home and our family, and that makes her very important person. I don't even want to hear about you being rude or disrespectful to her!". A decade passed, grandparents passed away, we grew up, and my parents decided to move to another city.....how my mom and her cried holding each other. My mom had no illusions of the role she played in her daughter's lives over the years.

[@bandungaye-aye758]

Yeah its hurt me. At restaurant in family dinner. They just make a nany or house keeper sat on the other table just to hold their litle baby and dont even treated them meals. The family just make them wait and watch the family having a good times enjoy the food. Rich peoples!

[@rocky-jy5nx]

what about grand parents? ur parents dont live with em?

[@tee3835]

@Patronus what a horrible thing to say about these lovely women in the video

[@jed6043]

Got teary eyed when the nanny protected her little girl's secret. Too precious.

[@Milky_mans]

When?

[@Sol-fo2zu]

LOL

[@Milky_mans]

@Nic Bai thanks

[@introusas]

@@Milky_mans the video is less than 2 mins long...

[@rrrreeeeeeEEEEEeEeEeeEeEeeeee]

@@introusas attention spans are no longer existent

[@sunflowerx4723]

The one maid that said "she doesn't like other people to know" has my respect.

[@meowlinae1480]

Right!! Finally someone said it She really cared about the kid's feeling and respect than the mom

[@gargi4330]

Same

[@Devi_Seona]

Same, I almost got emotional with this one, pure love, while the mom gave the name without thinking about it.

[@ZC-hi8ir]

The maid kept her secret 😔

[@dayakwarfighter7477]

Yep total loyalty , Alfred pennyworth level

[@chantararix]

You know what's sadder? These nannies know more about these kids than their own children.

[@nemoali2626]

Maybe they don’t have kids, that’s way they are with them 24/7

[@Myra146av]

I think they do

[@anastasiavoit409]

@@nemoali2626they have children, and sometimes these maids work with those families until children grow up, have their own children and maids take care of Their children as well , while maid’s own children receive only money from their mom and no attention or presence.

[@ThinkerNinja]

Heartbreaking

[@sheilaolayo2155]

So true, for most of them it's a sacrifice they have to make for their children, they're forced to pick between being present or providing.

[@marianabarros6565]

The saddest thing is that the maid's kids probably miss their mom so much while she's working to be able to feed them

[@keacarter8392]

I know right? I mean spending some times with your child should be normal but I understand those mothers that have to work. So seeing people in the comment section saying they're not good mothers or that they should not be mothers is saddening. Like, they can't judge them on a 1 minute video

[@marianabarros6565]

@@keacarter8392 Yes!! It's a loop that is difficult to be broken

[@dontmatterrr]

Wow. So very true.

[@nicolaablett7790]

grand parents parent it happens all over from Singapore to Beirut and Lagos Whole generations parented by their grandparents and the same the generation before You don't parent your own you parent your children's So they can have education MESSED UP WORKD WE HAVE CREATED

[@b2st836]

@@f.b.8700 but I think that would lower the maid’s salary income

[@jeevajebarose2046]

At least these kids got good care takers who love them and understood them.. Not worst ones.. glad

[@vLogPhase]

Yeah

[@nuzhasajjad8112]

Yeah True,not every Child is Lucky enough to have a good caretaker!

[@Srisky]

yeah thats true

[@sumaiyyahmahaaz191]

Oh yes I have to agree with you.

[@Af-le3pd]

@@nuzhasajjad8112 Yes. B4 is was even born my mum hired a type of person like that. At that time she would just cook for the family and I had another person to take care of me.she was nice and all but she got married when I was 2. So the women who cooked for us started taking care of me and my sister. She wouldn't hit my sister but hit me "specifically" and blackmail my sister that if she told our mom she'd get spanked too. My mom worked as a doctor. I told my mom many times, but she never did anything as she had no proof. She believed the maid more than me as she said that I was lying and would leave my mom was desperate for someone to look after us as no one was there to. I still hate the maid for the time she somehow managed to put a cockroach in my water bottle. I opened the bottle in school and I fucking hated it. She did tell me she'd put a cockroach in my water bottle tho- but I thought of it as a joke. I was in playgroup that time and I was thirsty for 5 hours. When I was in nursery she hit me in the shower so hard that I slipped and my back started hurting really bad. She got scared once Someone told her that she might get caught as my mom is a doctor and might figure it out. So many stories- I am happy it's all over with 🙂

[@s.j.warlock4901]

Take a moment to look how proud the last woman is when she says "She looks for me". Very sweet.

[@peggingbatman]

its sweet but sad, seems like the mother doesnt pay attention or hang out with their own kid 😔

[@priam9376]

Her smile... you can see how much she loves that child

[@vivianareyes3671]

@@priam9376 yes

[@thewhisper8798]

That part almost made me cry

[@_Dreamay]

They all look very proud

[@Mylo-gn1tc]

When I was a nanny, I was taking care of this girl (an only child). When I first came to her family, her parents constantly get a note from her school teacher of how poorly she behaved at school. She was a very emotional girl. She would even kick me or spit at her mom whenever she doesn’t get what she wants. Whenever I would put her to bed, she gets restless and anxious; she doesn’t want me to leave her room. I didn’t know how to deal with it so I would just tell her Bible stories to divert her mind, and pray for her. Later on, she would pray on her own. She also liked to ask me about God. Her parents were very busy so I was the one who would also help her with her homework most of the time. We played a lot and spend so much time together just having fun and be silly at times. I saw how she changed so much. She eventually became a role model in her classroom. Her mom cried when she first became a role model in her class. Eventually, I had to leave the family because I was to get married and had to move to another state. The girl told me that I was her mom. It really touched my heart but I had to explain to her that her parents loved her so much and that they were doing their best to give her a good life. I also told her that I was not her mom but I could be her sister from another mom. She told me to not forget her even when I become a mom myself. She said that she was my first child. I’m a mom of two now, and up to this day, I still think of her and pray for her. I hope she’s happy and well. Children just want to feel loved. They want to feel that their parents like them, want to be with them, and enjoy being with them.

[@pipsipop4525]

Nice ❤️

[@awhoreforjk]

Your history reminds me of my first nanny :( I miss her sm. I bet you still being really special to that little girl.

[@AishwaryaSingaravelan]

The child is too sweet, "I'm your first child" ❤

[@AG-ym6iw]

I am crying

[@DoyouevenknowtheTruth]

Thank you xo

[@kinedj699]

The fact that the one mom doesn’t even think her kid is waking up when in reality she does and immediately looks to the maid for comfort....

[@Sevencatsinatrenchcoat]

Yeah

[@diogenesofsinope7465]

You don’t get a maid when you have enough time to spend with your kid

[@dontmindme9046]

@@diogenesofsinope7465 People shouldn't have kids they don't have time for.

[@diogenesofsinope7465]

@@dontmindme9046 that’s a progressive belief, these people don’t have the same values as some other countries, they only want to see their child succeed (usually) you shouldn’t tell someone how to parent if it doesn’t really do much harm. They still have someone taking care of them and have someone to look up to so why care?

[@yoongi7854]

dont mind me i’ll say it depends an example is like a divorce and the. the mother has to work full time to make enough money and arent able to spend time with there children

[@haikalmunawar1720]

"she doesn't like other people to know, So I won't tell you" Seriously everybody need someone like her in they're life

[@Helloknight]

Some parents can’t fathom not showing their kid off to the world and this maid has enough common sense not to talk about it

[@peach8079]

that is so deep

[@ujjwalraisolidakiba9737]

I really respect that.

[@razberrymist9475]

The amount of respect that this maid gives this child is so admirable.

[@islarichard2851]

Not to be that person, but to be that person- it’s THEIR

[@anuno3242]

I started to get teary eyed when the women said “she doesn’t like people to know, so I don’t tell you.” she got her back, we should all have each other’s backs

[@recnews2003]

Same

[@starfruitiger]

🥺 omg i completely agree, and this comment is so wholesome, i dont even know you but i got your back, we should all do this, we must, please people ✌🏽💜

[@sunandflowerpots9931]

Auntie passed the vibe check and we're all sobbing😭😭😭

[@AddBowIfGirl]

*woman

[@TheSereneCat1000]

i started crying too when she said that

[@matthewgumabon7498]

I had a Vietnamese classmate in college. He was born in Vietnam and spoke English and Vietnamese, but I was surprised to learn that his first language was actually Spanish. His parents both had demanding full time jobs, so after they had him they left him with a maid for most of his childhood. The maid spoke Spanish to him everyday, so that was the language he naturally acquired. Whether this is a good thing is bad thing is hard to tell, and I think it’s a really hard balance to find. On one hand, his parents worked hard and earned plenty of money, so they never worried about finances. But in the process they let their son grow up with a someone else.

[@graceysarah23]

thats a little sad but still he learned Spanish so its okay

[@marimo66666]

​@@graceysarah23as someone who grew up under the care of my maid, once you miss the time spent with your children, it is never the same as trying to compensate by spending time later. i feel more gratitude than kinship towards my parents 30 years today

[@naomix7738]

Its Kind of cool to speak another language like that

[@bauhausliker0]

that’s kind of sad but actually pretty cool

[@TheFakeyCakeMaker]

​@@marimo66666agree it's a short window to create those bonds

[@hannah_129]

The one who said "she doesn't want anyone to know so I won't tell you" is very trustworthy wow

[@lunablossom5354]

I know I literally cried that is so wholesome

[@tomsdolly7661]

Yep.

[@reemchan6880]

Yeah

[@RunningManFanmily]

Not my children needs her. I NEED HER 😩

[@laura.the.explora]

I know she’s showing the little girl so much respect that normally we don’t give to children

[@TheDreadedZero]

“She doesn’t like people to know... so I don’t tell you.” That woman’s got your back

[@chocolattefeverdreams4228]

You find few trustworthy people like that.

[@ava_.staticc]

@@chocolattefeverdreams4228 Yea! When I find people like that they are always so nice :D

[@some1else688]

yes

[@Sevencatsinatrenchcoat]

@Hun Bun yes

[@kjones3748]

My mom would tell the whole world my business which is exactly I don't say shit to her no more😐

[@sahana4498]

1:01 "She doesn't like people to know, so I don't tell you." Ya'll someone give this queen an award cause' she deserves it

[@murrkii]

@Hello Bruh u cant be serious right now OMGPSJFOS

[@StrongestLibrafluidAlive]

@Hello Bruh same difference

[@PoemFromAnAngel]

@Hello Bruh girl bye 💀

[@Twelve_Thirteen1213]

@Hello Bruh grab a snickers dude

[@Moya3003]

@@StrongestLibrafluidAlive If one's financial balance decides one's position in this society of 2021 then I'm sorry but you seem like someone from 1396

[@toniyoung623]

Mom's "she won't wake up but she'll scream and cry" vs their "she looks for me/I tell my auntie".. that one broke my heart.

[@thereal47bullets]

"She doesnt like other people to know" Ma'am i think you dropped this 👑

[@camilaalmiron5588]

Yes

[@nezuko-chan824]

Fr

[@fumiko.cup1d]

@@lokifrostpaw2976I hate that guy

[@pratiksharay685]

exactly This may not be true but since I have seen some like that i say this theory :- While the mother was occupied with winning that she knows everything about her thus saying what she shouldn't, the maid more cared about the child's feelings and it literally breaks my hearts when these nanny's are first doubted for anything bad happening to child but that's how it goes.

[@indybruggeman1293]

Absolutely

[@livdil98]

As a former nanny, this is kind of true. You learn all the secret codes and inside jokes because your job is to be focused on the kid all day

[@honestfriend767]

The sad thing is that should be the job of the parents. They are giving you their responsibility.

[@3StarLogo]

@@honestfriend767 the real sad thing is parents have to work a lot to be able to afford the roof over their heads let alone a nanny to help care for their kids. I would LOVE to be with my kids all the time but it's impossible, I can't do a lot I want because I can't afford to be at home.

[@SPDcru]

@@3StarLogo I don't think this is the same case for these Singaporean parents.

[@pomberry3591]

@@honestfriend767 maybe instead of shaming parents we can start having a conversation about why they need to work so many hours to give basic necessities and opportunities to their children?

[@honestfriend767]

@@3StarLogo but the times that you are at home you can spend maybe 30 minutes with them. Kids don’t need you to spend a day, they just need to see you make an attempt and try to be there for them when you can. When they grow up they will remember that you tried.

[@Ejiro__Kirishima]

She seriously thought her kid just didn’t wake up when she had nightmares because her daughter went to her aunt(maid) for help. That, just wow.

[@amc_12345]

She said her daughter would cry and scream so why didn’t she go check on her and comfort her??? Terrible mother and terrible person. No wonder the daughter looked for the maid instead! That’s so sad it makes me angry

[@monicapetitebonita218]

@@amc_12345 bet the mom angry at her for waking her up 😂 that's why the child went to her maid

[@maricruzavila2747]

This just makes my hurt 😢 it's just like wow😥

[@lovewins1072]

Wow

[@han-eh7ih]

i did that too when i was younger. the contract for the nanny that worked with my family has ended so she has returned to her home :( seeing this made me miss her more

[@LilacDeiji]

"No boyfriend for me! Only friends." WHY IS THAT SO CUTE

[@XinjianDynast]

ikr that girl won so many hearts today ❤

[@temmie31]

It was a sweet line , but why does her mom think it's ok to have " crushes " at such young age AND exposing them to everyone watching ....

[@XinjianDynast]

@@temmie31 i think it is because didn’t we all?

[@temmie31]

@@XinjianDynast i can understand that some people might have crushes at a young age , but its not ok to expose them to the internet .

[@Neurodivergent-k6f]

@@temmie31 idk, tiny children have crushes sometimes. It’s not like an uncommon occurrence lol. Nothing wrong with liking someone and thinking their cute

[@batsnghostz]

“She wakes up and asks me to sleep beside her” really speaks a lot

[@skyazullopez6726]

If I am the mother, I'd feel a little hurt. Reality bites...

[@_how_arethey1official818]

@@skyazullopez6726 i can tell that kid doesn't trust her mother, so she asked the "maid" Instead.

[@divrasyabros6150]

@@skyazullopez6726 i mean, why did the child said that because her mom probably didn't give her much attention, so the mom shouldn't feel sad, i mean its her fault tho

[@borki7469]

Yes. Definitely her fault.

[@marianavarro4704]

😭🫂🥺

[@ArtByJUSTSAM]

The last one, with the nightmares, broke my heart. The fact that she runs to “Auntie” when she’s scared is very telling.

[@judithsauchsecanell34]

And the mother doesn't even notice which tells me she probably doesn't go check on her child when she is screaming and crying :/

[@Kalani_Saiko]

I mean my youngest brother runs to me but that has more to do with the fact that as a seven year old I didn't know what a baby was despite having 3 other younger siblings (born consecutive years except for mentioned youngest brother and my second youngest bro) so I watched him sleep

[@tracik1277]

I wish I had had an auntie to run to when I had nightmares, it could have stopped me getting beaten for it.

[@brzana4689]

Why somone would beat you because you had a night mare? Thats terrible!

[@dit3731]

I remember doing the exact same thing when I was a child. My parents' room was closer but I'd walk down the stairs and encounter some bugs walking to the maid's room rather than going to my parents' room. Probably because I knew that my parents would be cranky and sent me back to my room while my maid would let me stay there until I'm sleepy again. I'm still grateful for my parents for hiring a maid and not leaving me alone, though.

[@filmeyara]

“She doesn’t want anyone to know so I won’t tell you” HUGE RESPECT RIGHT THERE!

[@sanisura6997]

Yesssssssssss agree

[@saranghaeyobts5231]

@One of eight billion yea😭

[@amarisrosalette3694]

YES

[@miri4963]

Lmao bkg's soft side 💀 wish to see it even more

[@yourtypicalfeminist1621]

yea huge respect for that lady

[@candyflosstiger7777]

The “she doesn’t like people to know” maid seems lovely. You can tell she loves the girl

[@gukane4573]

I love how the maids says "i think" even if the kids probably tell them directly, cause probably they considered that the kids maybe change their minds already

[@rosettastoned3567]

They also might feel more comfortable telling their secrets to a friend or a maid (in this case) cause there are subjects we prefer to share with friends rather than our parents mostly because of the age/generation gap.

[@aini6570]

it also meant that they’re being considerate and careful as well as being understanding to what the kids thinking while the mothers on the other hand might just say things that they want their children to be

[@zmenaczzz3165]

Low-key feels like the moms are answering what THEY want their kids to be rather than what the kids really want themselves to be.

[@marinettedupaincheng4749]

Yea true

[@chompchump1739]

true •́ ‿ ,•̀

[@nelliedawnmccarley4220]

Yep

[@goobigi]

the teacher one, the boyfriend one espically.

[@Kiki15578]

At least one of them said that her son's mind is not set yet which is quite nice since it indicates that she's open with her son's decision to pursue in any career Edit: Just to make it clear, my comment is referring to the original comment about parents projecting their children to pursue in their desire career, not about neglecting their children, which the video talks about.

[@realcyrusjohn]

This is wake up call to all parents that your kids need quality time.

[@clod8]

@Cassie K And covering everything with plastic.

[@ningen6392]

People think that making money would give the kids a good life and it’s true but also sometimes kids just want to spend time with their family 😭.

[@florm4193]

Well, it’s not that easy as it sounds. Especially in poor countries. My mom had me and my 2 brothers. My dad left us and gave us very little money per month for the 3 of us. There were times that my mom had to work 15 hours daily. She worked in a school, from 07:00 to 22:00. She had to left us with a neighbor while she was working. In my country is not that expensive to pay for a “maid” or a “nanny”, because they are not working “”legally””, they are not registered most of the times, especially 15 years ago. During our childhood she didn’t spend that much time with us. Maybe she didn’t know who was my best friend or that kind of silly stuffs but she worked her ass off for the 3 of us. I’m not saying this is the case of these moms, but non of us know. It’s 2 minutes long video, you can’t judge, specially if it is a culture so different than yours.

[@tinybubbles1673]

@@florm4193 MAD RESPECT FOR YOUR PARENTS. AND YOU FOR UNDERSTANDING

[@florm4193]

@@tinybubbles1673 Thank you so much! But just my mom. My dad didn’t even ask if we need new shoes for school. My mom is the only hero. I don’t remember exactly how I felt when I was little, I have some memories of me crying when she had to go to work but that’s all. But now that I’m an adult I understand everything and I’m so grateful.

[@alfnoakes392]

Used to know a nanny (in the UK, she was English) and she talked about how 'distant' the parents were from their kids. The parents will get a nanny when the kids are small, then send them off to Boarding School when they are old enough, then wonder why there is a lack of close emotional relationships within the family.

[@vihaze6725]

This sums up almost every well-off British family.

[@artist_rae0160]

“I am your parent, I know the most about you more than anyone in the world”......ok

[@stillvisibletoallusers]

For most parents this is probably true until they're teens at least. Parents with maids are a minority.

[@user_508.]

Ok

[@tanigawaisamu]

But isnt it supposed to be u knowing the most abt u?-

[@icedlatteeeeee]

@az_koala no lol i dont think they know im gay

[@frootiloops1704]

@@tanigawaisamu 👁️

[@hiimain7932]

"She looks for me" "She doesnt like people to know, so I dont tell you" Sweet 💞

[@Gone29364]

Finally, people who don't spoil the kid's privacy

[@ayeshcia8772]

Aw-

[@andriwahyudani1302]

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[@adrianasafiya1643]

@@Gone29364 yes

[@anonymousina9210]

The "she looks for me" is kinda me, cause I remember having a nightmare and I ran into my maid instead of my mom...

[@BirdieAJ]

The ending quote is "Let's give domestic workers their legal days off" This video is about domestic workers' rights and the fact that they have to spend more time with someone else's child more than their own.

[@s0Shi]

This.

[@SomebodyWon]

Thats susp AMONG US IS HERE 2

[@otakumangastudios3617]

Exactly! There's in fact very much this kind of culture in america, and I can think of a few examples off the top of my head. The parents really think they're doing the best thing for their child, but I think our world has really gotten caught up in the materialistic idea of money is love, and I know these particular families were restricted on what they could and could not get, so they got financially gluttonous when they became adults themselves, and then so they perceived love of their children as having a job that takes away all their time from them to make enough money to buy them super expensive toys and such. I know that as a result, the oldest child has behavioral issues due to a sense of feeling unloved and unappreciated, although that was rarely addressed most of his childhood, and mostly treated as if he was purposely trying to be a little devil, which I know he was not, the middle sister is the most mature of all, warmer than her own brother, likely she developed that way because there is no one else mature enough to really be the head, and then there's the baby sister who is just shy in front of everyone in a way that seems, at least from my conversations with her, that she does not trust adults. She did not trust me at first, but after talking to her for a little bit very gently and kindly and openly, she opened up to me as well, and I saw a lot of pain in her heart. I feel bad for all three of them

[@ASmith-jn7kf]

Well that's because for some reason society is for maids and nannies having a job raising children but not their real parents.

[@Lourdes-wf9hm]

Exactly, also another sad thing is that they get fired when they get too old to work, even if they feel more like a mother than the child's actual mother.

[@erinforster9953]

This happens everywhere. My mother has no idea what my degree is in, and she would tell people she didn't believe in my school instead of saying she didn't believe in me. The janitor woman at work knew what classes I was taking, and she was so encouraging! Shout out to Julie!

[@ladieuhang91]

What is also ironic is that a lot of domestic workers cannot take care of their OWN children, because they are busy taking care of other people's kids in order to raise their families :'(

[@janemagsayo3997]

It's a sad reality. I just hope these domestic workers get paid reasonably.

[@loveyourself814]

Sadly truee

[@loliberryyydeadaccount8735]

@Stella Li (li_1502) it's not strange, it's just normal, like how your mom works and gets money to support your needs too. Maids work normally too, just far from their own children

[@joyuri7155]

Why do you have break my heart like that.... I miss my mom

[@heavenlysadist]

Exactly! It had been 10 years I've been treated as a domestic violence victim in my family. All of them never get along each other. I always tell myself, why did my dad marry a narcissistic jerk woman? Probably the looks? Yeah I guess. In the end, he doesn't know that the reason why I'm so quiet and mute already was part of my mother fault. I got fed up so bad and i wish if i could do the hand signal as a sign of victimized in family. I was an abused and bullied child. I was born with social anxiety ever since I reach my child age. All thanks to my mom, i feel mute now 🤭

[@terradactyl]

The fact that the daughter wants the maid to be with her after her nightmares instead of her mom... that says a lot.

[@grey984]

The fact that the mom thought she would just wake up, cry and go back to sleep without cheking on her or asking her about it later Pretty much the only way she could have not known she looked to the maid for confort

[@deliciousnoodles5505]

In Singapore working hours are among the longest in the world so parents have a hard time having ample time with their kids, esp if they can afford a maid = more time spent in office. That's why maids spent the most time with kids.

[@jakandaxter1]

@@deliciousnoodles5505 why are the hours so long

[@sisterspot111]

@@jakandaxter1 Unfortunately that's just how things roll in Singapore. Like how 44 hr weeks are normal in some areas. 55+ are normal in others

[@nathaliehaaksema9697]

@@sisterspot111 wow 55+ In my country the work weeks are 32-40 hours.

[@someslayingbody4813]

The last one, when the girl called the maid auntie was very touching

[@creatrotera]

UwU idk if you know, but Auntie is actually the common term we use when we refer to domestic helpers in sg.

[@someslayingbody4813]

@@creatrotera ohh

[@nurainnajhan2367]

In case u didnt know, most people here in south east asia (since i lived here) usually call strangers with common family terms like uncle and auntie

[@creatrotera]

@@nurainnajhan2367 lol yeah, it's always, uncle and auntie no matter if you are taking the bus/taxi or like buying food XD

[@megan0209]

The same in Zimbabwe

[@strawbsforavii]

“A teacher.” “A princess.” There is such a big change between those two answers.

[@orangejuice782]

i wonder if it's because the mother Wants her daughter to be a teacher someday, so she projects that as something her kid wants to be rather than what she wants her to be. meanwhile, the maid probably has played some sort of princess games with the girl when they had time to. this all is so bittersweet to think about, knowing parents dont know their children and have the closest person to said children be someone the kids could lose contact with forever due to the nature of them being a "replaceable employee".

[@pragy17]

The one that kept her privacy and said "she don't like people to know so I will not tell you" huge respect!!!

[@Viki_Hale]

totally agreed😌

[@putriameliah9250]

Omg, i like ur pfp

[@_..jolene.._]

Yeah. And the fact the mom said a name, but the maid said that really shows that the maid cares abt the little girl more than her momma does.

[@andrea-fv8my]

can we appreciate that “maid” that said “she doesn’t like people to know so i won’t tell you” she doesn’t need to prove she knows, she respects the child’s privacy and won’t take advantage of her trust.

[@andriwahyudani1302]

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[@-Saoussene-]

I actually found that so respectful from her

[@alenalaw6941]

That truly is beautiful

[@charibelsaw8664]

Up for this.... ❤️

[@Hi-ky2wd]

Why would you reveal someone’s crush on the internet in the first place?

[@NOOBMASTER-yn6dv]

The fact that the last kid seeks out the maid for comfort after having a nightmare instead of their own mother just tells you everything.

[@iulianaghimici7579]

The fact that the mother knows her child cries and screams during the night but doesn't check up on her tells you even more.

[@NOOBMASTER-yn6dv]

@@iulianaghimici7579 it's just straight up neglect at that point.

[@Modishstar]

@@NOOBMASTER-yn6dv how do you know that tho?

[@Modishstar]

@@iulianaghimici7579 more about what all she said was she scream and cry but she never said if she went or not

[@iulianaghimici7579]

@@Modishstar She said she screams and cries but doesn't wake up, but the girl said she wakes up and goes crying to the maid. Does that give you the impression that the mother went to check up on the kid?

[@renae3857]

Same when I was a kid. The lady who looked after me called me “my child” and I did chores with her all day and had no memories of ever seeing my mum.

[@Cakie-o2b]

Poor you, hope you finally saw her as you got older.

[@kinedj699]

Something that I find really interesting is a couple of the moms were really unsure with their answers, while the maids all had little to no hesitation.

[@xsargantxshaftx7997]

It shows who truly is involved in the kids life :/

[@cockichioumaigod2805]

I hereby give you the award of having the audacity to comment two comments in one video and have both of them blow up. (This ain't sarcasm, seriously, congrats lmao)

[@esmeray9704]

Yeah it does show

[@hekr0029]

almost like the maids were coached and were told the right answers to make a point mmmmm

[@anncabras3961]

Well they especially hired them for that

[@rowdyghatkar]

Most of the parent's answers are what they want their children to be rather than what children want themselves....

[@knitwitchpgh]

Yea the one mom said "it should be English" very telling

[@hinaansari302]

Yes...

[@kylaaakarii6694]

Exactly

[@AddBowIfGirl]

Rahul Ghatkar Well maybe the dads should work harder so the moms can afford to stay home with the babies then. Tf? Of course working parents won’t be as close to the kids as the live-in nannies at these young ages. What I’m not seeing though is the fathers being held accountable in any way. I wonder why they didn’t test any of the dad’s’ knowledge of their kid against the nannies’. 🤔

[@coleyhead9242]

@@AddBowIfGirl They are probably toobusy working.

[@死辜]

“A teacher” “A princess” You can see something in their answers

[@PyroGothNerd]

Yeah, the Mom seems to be projecting what she wants her child to want

[@jesusRamirez-xv7xp]

@@PyroGothNerd Projecting is really bad its a form of sickening control. Control land order is important for children but not these stupid fantasies such as princess or astronaut. Lets be honest they aint opening astronaut positions every 15 days

[@jesusRamirez-xv7xp]

@impulsive creep Exactly people live in a little bubble and cant see things clearly. Bubble

[@jkardi9803]

That one didn't surprise me actually and I can see her saying both. Most young children have a dual image of themselves and what they want to be in the future. Typically one aspiration is responsible, well-regarded, and positively contributing to society (teacher, doctor, fireman) and the other unrealistic, fanciful, and without limits (unicorn, batman, fairy) Fun activity, ask any 5-year old what they want to be when they grow up and after they answer say, "or....?". Unless you have a child with unusual psychology, you tend to get at least one of each. 🥰

[@dari.08308]

@@jesusRamirez-xv7xp listen, the child wants to be a princess, obviously the maid knows she won’t be a princess when she grows up bc like duh, but she knows that’s what the child WANTS. The mom is saying what she wants her child to want and become

[@noseraph]

I was born in Malaysia but grew up in Singapore. My father was a surgeon and was out of the house for most of the day until late into the evening. My mother didn't work but she spent most of her day at cafes and tennis clubs. My nanny was called Alma, and she was from Laos. When she began working in our home I was 3 and called her Ah-Ah, but she never corrected me so the name stuck. She would cook for me, took me to school and to the park, and would often sing to me when she put me to bed. When she came to live and work in our home I began to see my mother less and less, and only at breakfast. I called Ah-Ah "Mama" once by accident, but she began to cry so I was careful never to do it again. She raised me until I turned 13, then she got sick and went back to Laos and I never saw her again. I cried every day for a month after she left. I didn't shed a single tear at my mother's funeral.

[@user-kk9hp6sf3t]

I’m so sorry to hear this. Every child deserves to be loved and cared for by their parents. I hope you’re doing okay now though ❤

[@sadlotus851]

Mine was nani. I was ten when my mom fired her, said I didn’t need her anymore. I always will. I found out she had dementia and she still remembered me until the end. She was my real mother, not my mom who just had kids for status

[@DoyouevenknowtheTruth]

I feel that.

[@patriciazandilencube4597]

My nanny was Lindiwe. she stayed with me and my mum. She took care of my sick mother until she died. Then Lindiwe and l moved to another city to stay with my dad (my parents were divorced and my dad had a high paying job that required him to change cities every three years). Unfortunately my step mother hated Lindiwe (jealous of her I think) so after a year, she was told to leave. I will tell you this, loosing my mother had been a horrible thing. But when Lindiwe left, I was devastated. I lost 2 mothers in a year. I'm 35 years old now but I still cry when I think about how we both clung to each other before she was dragged away. But good news is I've found someone who might help me reconnect with her. Apparently she has a loving husband and kids ! I wonder if you can find out what happened to Ah-ah ?

[@blehblehblehhh]

@@patriciazandilencube4597that was so cruel of your stepmother and I hate her even tho I don’t know her… I really really hope u reconnect with lindiwe and I’m sure she’d be over the moon to see u again and the person u grew up to be❤️

[@RS-fp7jb]

"She doesn't like people to know, so I won't tell you", she ain't her nanny she's her bestiee 🥺💓

[@bellakim9169]

:)

[@la-kv2jr]

💜

[@cintiyanuzila2159]

it is sad that the maid's children problably don't have mother or maid in their side to listen their stories :(

[@arunav2361]

True..this didn't strike me. The maid is a working mom too for her kid.

[@sabibarahman7278]

Apparently their children's well being does not matter cause they're poor. I honestly don't understand what is video is trying to prove.

[@shslsomething8195]

@@sabibarahman7278 at the very end it says " lets give workers their legal days off"so pretty obvious.

[@shortstamil6030]

My mom left me (11yrs old) and my brother(7) to Malaysia because of poverty we met her after 9yrs.. currently working as domestic worker in Singapore for 5yrs. it's true they r a mom to other mom's child but for their own children only Hope remains... My mom shared funny things kids said she even cared about their pet too. Entire childhood I had to be mature enough to handle everything alone. We can't blame her. her kindness to those children indirectly we got from other people. Wherever we are someone treat as their children. Luckily my husband pamper me treat me like a baby whenever possible 🙂I am getting mother love from him. My mom's love to other kids comes to me finally😍

[@kinawa2845]

Right... It's an ending cycle huh?

[@nandinick365]

There should have been an interview of fathers too!

[@sharmilaacharya2224]

Totally agree

[@juveriyahashmi4897]

Yess...because most of the fathers know nothing about thier children. Just like mine. He knows nothing about me. He doesn't know my likes and dislikes. He does not know how i feel about people around me. He does not know if i am happy or lonely. But still he knows how to care and love and in my opinion a father should also know about thier children besides loving and caring about them

[@nandinick365]

Yeah! In all such videos the mothers are blamed and shamed. As if none other in the family has a responsibility. These maids may also be mothers who is spending most of their time taking care of others’ children, which is their job, which they do for their family and children. Dear society, can we stop judging women, please!

[@gulafshan6806]

Pretty sure they gonna get their genders wrong

[@deadinside8719]

They gonna Oh! I have a son when

[@BodiBaghead]

I grew up with an abusive mother who would hit me call names and scream at me. But I always have my nanny and this video made me cry so so much thank you. I love her so so so so so so much she is my real mom

[@GlowinqMimi]

“She doesn't like people to know, so I don't tell you.” She doesn't want to prove she knows, she just wants the child to be happy. Round of applause

[@Abyss_Trips]

Indeed.

[@joemama6710]

Indeed.

[@miuiswaifu]

@Jesus is LORD shut up

[@LittleRedMads]

@Jesus is LORD this has nothing to do with this please excuse yourself

[@coy_fish]

@@LittleRedMads a lil harsh but I see what u mean

[@karensmyth1215]

Shout out to the maids who due to economic disparities leave their own children to take care of other people's childrens. You are amazingly strong and hope all your sacrifices are worth it.

[@yourstepsister2018]

my mom was one of those nannies, she went to take care of I think, a toddler, from 6am until 10pm. She got paid a lot to do the job tbf, but she said it was a nightmare working there. the child would scream and cry all the time, she would have tantrums, etc. my mom was the only one who could calm her down a little, but even so, the child gave her bruises when she had tantrums and would throw her toys at my mom. The mother of the child was a 30 year old woman who was married to a rich old man (he was the father) and showed particularly no care for the toddler, and she would also give her large amounts/portions of just overall unhealthy, greasy food (fed her even when she wasn’t hungry, over feeding her) :/ the kid had many nannies and maids beforehand, who were all terrible, and the mom would go on vacations with her husband who lasted 1-3 months, and wouldn’t take the kid with her. It really goes to show how neglectful she was. I’m sure not every parent who hires a nanny is like this but they aren’t very involved in their children’s life, which are the only factual things I can assume. However, my mother quit the job after a while. It’s still shocking to me how bad it really was, now that im talking about it again. The whole place was ludicrous but my only problem was that it caused me such low self esteem to see her bond and care for another child more than me, even though I know it was for the best. I was 10-11 years old at the time and it felt heartbreaking imo. Can’t imagine how that toddler felt.

[@blippi9337]

@@yourstepsister2018 You must be proud to be her child

[@fart4453]

@@yourstepsister2018 I’m sorry that must be hard on you and your mother but your mother is incredible good on her!

[@3katfox]

Exactly. I don't feel bad for these filthy rich mom's who don't know their kids. I feels bad for the nannies who are overworked and underpaid

[@-Shibbi]

As far as I know, most of the maids who work 24/7 are in their 20s and unmarried. But yea, I got your point. I hope those parents can realize and change by being invited to this event, and parents who watch this too.

[@chiewolf1935]

The sad thing is, some of the maids probably have their own son/daughters but didnt know much about their own children

[@animelovergirl8461]

Totally agree.

[@sameverglade5854]

@biny8 The video mentions the maids barely getting time off.

[@SodikinGross]

That really sad

[@izukumidoriya4269]

Yup, it's usually like that with people in the lower working class. It's really sad, but they don't get the opportunity to do anything about it. :/

[@UsapUsapUniversity]

You freakin' got it.

[@Julia-xi8mf]

I grew up being closer to my maids than my mother. The fact they kept getting fired meant i had several different "moms" that came and went. My own mother never learned how to be a mother. This video hit hard. I miss them.

[@Ratburger_]

the fact that the last child would go to the “maid” for comfort after a nightmare instead of her mother really says something

[@samanthalau3696]

I used to do that too lmao

[@aayurome1743]

Of course, when children are afraid they go to their attachment figure who is the one who gives them the most security (in this case the nannies)

[@berrybloom2000]

@@samanthalau3696 I hope that you find comfort in your heart to love yourself and others unconditionally, to do what you want to do... There is only love or lessons to strengthen you

[@animoorimi2858]

Right now I feel that I have really been lucky as a child to always have my mom with me .....even though she doesn't usually understand my feelings so I don't tell her , but I am happy atleast I have her by my side

[@shreyadas2100]

@@animoorimi2858 same here 😊

[@boredalicia1147]

“Ya! She likes a boy..Darius” “She doesn’t like people to know, so I won’t tell you” That’s loyalty right there

[@vengefulpianist257]

Unrelated but Darius is a sick name. Props to whoever named their kid Darius.

[@kacp6485]

I don't think that mother wanted to betray the kid :-D she probably just didn't know or take seriously her wish to keep it a secret ...and i like the boy's name, actually

[@lene658]

@@vengefulpianist257 AHH MY LITTLE BROTHERS NAME IS DARIUS :DD

[@patcam8652]

I don't like the name, reminds me of *shudders* league of legends.

[@abiyyufh1566]

Right

[@nurulnabilaaziz6513]

When your own kid find someone else when she had a nightmare. That were the worsts scenario I ever imagined if I become a mother in future.

[@eddie210]

That’s true but it’s probably because the kid didn’t feel like they could rely on their mother or perhaps they didn’t have a close relationship.

[@yippedoodah]

@@eddie210 This is it. I'm assuming a lot of the families shown in this video are more well off/part of a higher society since they can afford to hire maids and thus, they care more for the image of a perfect family without having to deal with the hard parts.

[@lilycha9398]

Back then my youngest sister would often prefer to sleep with our househelper than my mother, not because my mother didn't care for her but because the househelper would brainwash her. My parents were both working so they couldn't do much about it. There were lots of other issues but she was the most problematic househelper we ever had. I was suicidal the entire 7 years she lived with us.

[@a.tiredlesbian]

@@lilycha9398 i am so sorry that happened to you, i hope you have someone better in your life now

[@edwardosaragi]

@@yippedoodah I don't think so, Idk of it's will be the same for Singapore, but in my country, Indonesia, maid is affordable for middle class.

[@Trogdor1365]

The maid not sharing the child's crush because the child didn't want her to is amazing. That child will come to her with everything and be able to be guided, because she knows she can trust her.

[@rajeshbhutia5972]

Ok.. So the lady who said "she dosent like people to know" has my respect... She literally is so concerned for the kids privacy she wont say anything

[@aerybirb8748]

@疲れたレズビアン kinda contradictory, people on the internet also exist in real life

[@bluiessa2022]

yes and actually treating her like a person w secrets

[@bluiessa2022]

@@aerybirb8748 they mean they havent met anyone like that irl. most people show off a different persona irl than the internet

[@aerybirb8748]

@@bluiessa2022 eh, fair enough

[@zee.chiaramonte09]

I know right

[@queentulip]

“A family by heart is a true family, not family by blood”

[@duttocatalina6008]

I agree. Family is not by blood but by choice

[@r3ll282]

You cannot choose your kin, but you can choose your family

[@kidabear2434]

Omg Tohru Honda

[@queentulip]

@@kidabear2434 You watch Fruits Basket too?

[@mrlion728]

Those people who hires maid didn't understand the concept of family at all.

[@JARIA0-0]

My mother didn’t raise me, the maid did. She feed, nurtured and cared for me more than my mother could have ever. It was one of the most heartbreaking moments of my life when she left. It was like losing a mother and being left with a complete stranger (Bio Mom).

[@حليمة-ذ6س]

So sad. Now you know, don't do the same thing with your children.

[@AustinForbis]

@@حليمة-ذ6س I agree

I used to call my maid 'mom' when a child. My mother doesn't like when I comment about it and then says she doesn't remember about such thing. I had other maids during my childhood and, when all of them left, I think my parents had practically very little skills to educate me and my siblings.

[@WayneCXT99]

Still the fact we still alive is the luckiest thing we experienced...

[@zaynmalike3794]

im crying rn. i hope u doing well ❤️

[@mayumimabini2630]

I saw this video years ago and it made an impact in my life. I made sure to get to know my child and spend more time together despite my busy schedule. She is 10 and thinks of me as her “bestest friend” and i thank this video for our wonderful mommy-daughter relationship. ❤

[@princessofpizza6762]

To be honest, I am crying right now. When I was little, my parents also hired a nanny, and she basically replaced them, and, in particular, my mother, since I was born. She was the most important and close person for me. My mother almost never spent time with me, and every time when she actually decided to spend some time with me, she ended up yelling or blaming me and my father for every problem she had. One day we had to suddenly move away from the country we lived in, and I lost all contacts with that most significant person in my life. And now I am almost 20, was able to find her and proud to call her my grandmother.

[@shinybearevidra]

I'm in a similar situation than yours, but over time I got different nannies, so the bond was probably not that strong. Still, what hurts the most is that almost all of them knew me better then my parents.

[@anisrs6743]

Just pray for her is a good way you can.

[@meganallday]

I’m not crying. You’re crying 😢 ❤️

[@agestatsega]

That's Such A Wholesome Story

[@pearlinerobinson8521]

😪

[@cptlevision]

They call this “inspirational” but I can’t be the only one who found it more depressing than inspirational.

[@yasminthespiritsinger7704]

Yeah.

[@_R.T_]

It's depressing... mother don't have to be 24/7 with kids but when they are, even 5min be 100% present.

[@kingoffire105]

Yaaa... This is sad

[@saisantosh8747]

@@_R.T_ Wth are you uttering?!

[@_R.T_]

@@saisantosh8747 you don't understand?? ! Not my problem. 👎

[@daisyx60]

most people don’t know this but these women they call “maids” make the biggest sacrifice by taking care of someone else’s child to feed their own. now idk bout u but i think that would always be heroic to me

[@saoverpeace]

Yes, it's a big sacrifice and also necessities

[@arshiyabegum8556]

Bruh even the children's parents work hard to feed them. All parents work hard to feed their children nothing nothing sacrificial

[@amuto23]

@@arshiyabegum8556 it is pretty sacrificial, you have to put so much mental strength to actually leave your own kid to take care of other, most of maid get paid a shit salary, got to do 4 time what they have to do in their homes, be servicial and clean other people shit, how is that not sacrificial

[@daisyx60]

@Deathbychocolate I don’t really see how acknowledging the sacrifices of the women in this video is dumb. And I clearly did not see anything in my comment that would downplay other people’s struggles whatsoever. You were the one who decided to generalize what I said. Calm tf down

[@Ronald1324]

so they aren’t maids? just people who get paid to be family?

[@KraXoom]

In America a lot of kids with nanny’s first language ends up being the language their nanny speaks. One of my friends is fluent in mandarin because his nanny was from China and she spent 12 years with him and mostly spoke to him in mandarin. She spent more time with him then his own parents. Apparently he knew mandarin before he knew English 😂

[@talkingbirb2808]

I don't quite understand why would they hire a nanny that doesn't speak English. It's cheaper, I guess?

[@AriMon05]

​@@talkingbirb2808 Yeah

[@AriMon05]

​@@talkingbirb2808 But some do it so their child will learn another language

[@talkingbirb2808]

@@AriMon05 then they need to spend enough time with children themselves I guess

[@AriMon05]

@@talkingbirb2808 It's pretty obvious, yeah

[@mirelaoliveira3155]

Mom: "A teacher" Kid: "A princess" Sometimes, what parents think they know about their children is more likely what they 'expect' their children to be.

[@chocolattefeverdreams4228]

And obviously, children are given the mindset that 'ok if I don't do this they won't be happy at all and might yell at me' so they go along with it.

[@user-sg4ov7ng4h]

thought that or she said it once

[@DiamantisHell]

Damn right

[@nannoslonglostfriend9497]

Very true

[@yukis9886]

@@chocolattefeverdreams4228 That was... too accurate.

[@mari.jimgo22]

I am mexican and both of my parents worked full time so even before I was born my mom employed a woman to help us with the cleaning of the house and taking care of me and my older brothers. That woman I used to call my mom, she taught me how to talk, walk and have fun, she was always there in my life. Every graduation she was there, every presentation of singing or dancing she was there. When I cried she was there. She passed away last year in October due to a disease. I will never ever forget her or stop appreciating everything she did for me. "Maids" are incredibly important from a child perspective, they know everything.

[@yeeting8190]

neither my parents nor helper could attend my graduation cause of covd hahah

[@lunalovegood1150]

She sounds like a wonderful woman. Hope she's happy wherever she is.❤

[@JMBBrasil]

You mean mums.

[@Tatusiek_1]

yep i know what you mean, having both full time parents lead me to a very lonely life

[@MzFoRi3]

I’m so sorry for your loss, she sounds like a truly amazing woman 💜

[@jodiemorris3602]

"Ya! She likes a boy... Darius" She was so excited to actually know an answer to one of the questions and yet, the maid still had a better answer to give.

[@yayvids]

yeah

[@ICruz-vq1ze]

huh

[@WiseMysticalTree4]

My name❤

[@ajq4389]

I don't why this was hilarious! Your comment is like nice try mom but take this L😆

[@koifishieeee]

True

[@vidushi4356]

lived in singapore for 12 out of 14 years of my life so far and i was blessed to have an auntie of my own for 10 of those years. she's seen me grow up. my first memory with her was when i saw her for the first time. i was a shy kid and was too afraid to even tell her my name. she bent down and whispered "i have a feeling we're going to be best friends." an hour later, she was already my favourite person. i remember being attached to her at the hip. my parents were very present in my life but she was my safe space. i hated sleeping alone at night so on days when my parents weren't home, she'd lay down next to me until my parents got home. we'd spent hours talking, dancing and laughing. even though she'd have to get up early in the morning, she'd stay awake for me. it was like having a slumber party with my best friend. whenever i got nightmares i'd go hug her until i wasn't scared anymore. i also visited her family in the ph with my brother and those are some of the best memories of my life. in 2020, my family had plans to move to dubai and she couldn't move with us so she had to leave. due to covid, we couldn't move but she already had a contract signed so she left to work for another family. i'd still keep in touch with her and when lockdown rules calmed down, she came to surprise me. she showed up at my house and i remember being so happy. she was in my house again and made my house a home. she'd come over every sunday just to be with me. my family moved to india in 2021 and my last days in sg were spent with her. the only time i'd ever seen her cry was when we left. i still talk to her as much as i can. even though it's not as regular anymore, i'll always cherish the memories i have with her. she recently forgot my birthday and i brought it up as a joke. she texted me "sorry aunty is getting older and always busy everyday" this broke my heart. i hope she knows that shes a beautiful human and my life wouldn't be the same without her. i learnt everything from her. she's not a "maid" she's my family. her feeling was right, she is my best friend.

[@summersalt3629]

that mom at 0:59 really thought she'd show that she knows her daughter more by blurting out the boy her kid likes... but it terribly backfired and the maid's answer was like a huge slap to her face

[@blepblep7245]

i bet u darius is the mom's friend's son and she's tryna set her child up with him

[@kk7926]

@@blepblep7245 fr

[@citrus573]

@@blepblep7245 Woah there,don’t jump to big conclusions. That’s a really big thing to say don’t ya think?

[@brandonchan5387]

@@citrus573 They're literally copy-pasting that same sentence in every comment thread, just ignore them

[@citrus573]

@@brandonchan5387 Yep,I’ve just seen that.

[@PaZuLiTa]

This hit too close home. For my last birthday, my mother gave me a balloon as a present while the woman who raised me edited a whole 8 minute video with pictures of us through the years.

[@lilausar9436]

Wtf a balloon?

[@edadankmemes]

A BALLOON. I...

[@erlenederenecourt1360]

A ballon...

[@erlenederenecourt1360]

Balloon*.

[@kanairo5326]

Damn...a balloon-

[@cathydiane2558]

My mom sometimes doesn’t even know the difference between childhood photos of me and my sister. One time she looked at a photo of a my sister as a toddler and said it was me. I told her repeatedly “no it isn’t.” She wouldn’t listen. Then our housekeeper, who worked for us since I was a baby, corrected her and said “no that’s a photo of Cathy.” Edit. I see what I did wrong. I meant to say that housekeeper corrected her and said it was a photo of my sister. My mother was just too self absorbed to know the difference between us, and our housekeeper was the only one who paid attention

[@cdxst3968]

Sad

[@malow8755]

Well, I don't think of it as that bad when you mix up people. It has more to do with your detailed view of things...your nanny happens to differentiate better between faces. I don't know your story, but I hope you take the situation you described not too emotionally...

[@Colarikal]

Isn't your name Cathy Diane? Are you using your sister's phone? edit : Aight so op corrected it

[@kentucky_fc]

But...your name is cathy-

[@kentucky_fc]

@@Colarikal ah bruh noticed the same-

[@deletedaccount6732]

That "No boyfriend for me. Just friends." Was precious. Omg. ❤

[@quopi7183]

As a kid who grew up with maids, I can say that most of my childhood memories was with her. My mom was always busy because she needed to provide for the familly. Though, I was never upset that my mom didnt spend much time with me compared to our maid, since I knew she was doing other things to help us. Sadly, our maid had to go when I was 10 years old. My maid believed that it was her time, and that I can learn to be independent. During that time, my mom helped her graduate school and make sure she goes into the right path after so many years of taking care of me. Though I cant deny that as I grew older, my mom knew me more than I did. She still works but I'm greatful that even if she goes home tired from work, she still asks me how my day went and listens to my stories.

[@r3ll282]

This restored my faith in humanity by a slight amount

[@emihan2992]

I had a similar childhood. A few weeks ago my old maid called me to check up on me and i almost cried because i realized that missed her so much.

[@addie2816]

Same, my mum was very busy working and didn't get much time with the family. My maids were like mums and older sisters to me till I was in my teens. But looking back, my mum would still put in the effort to find time for us no matter how busy she was. I remember as a kid my mum would spend about 30mins every alternate night, keeping me company and talking with me till I fell asleep - even though she had to wake up very early the next day. I am an adult now and now appreciate that it wasn't easy for her and she was trying her best to be in my life as much as possible. Even though my mum may have known less about me as a kid than my maid, I still knew that she loved me.

[@Guremien]

This! Being grateful is a key.

[@iolemaffei]

🥺

[@sarafwhosthat7]

I used to have a “maid” when I was young. She took care of me since birth. I loved her MORE than my OWN parents and family. I was obsessed with her, I was clingy. Whenever she told me she will go to her village and then come back. I didn’t believe her because I thought she would go away and never come back. Eventually, that happened. I cried a lot. I still do. I miss her. She doesn’t contact anymore but I hope she is doing well. Update: After 5 years, she came back again for a day. I told myself I wouldn’t allow myself to be hurt again. We talked about our lives and I told her how much I missed her. She said she would come back again and stay with me from now on. Never came back…lol.

[@Ajajqiqjaa]

I want to reach out to her but it feels so hard 😔😔 how could i ever?

[@marvelouseditzyt2633]

Same story but mine is kinda little different.

[@sai-vq5bs]

blessing two of you...

[@aylya3380]

i've also cried over maids, but the maids have such a jerk, I don't know why I'm crying over them...

[@hermionesharpay715]

Same. It hurts that I can’t even contact her anymore now. Hope all’s well for her

[@kaelagetz5604]

Everyone's talking about the nanny who kept the secret, but the one that hit me was th egirl who wakes up from a nightmare and cries for her nanny not her mom. It's really heartbreaking when your mother isn't the person you can go to when you get scared. And the mom said her daughter doesn't wake up, but just screams and cries.

[@lisacallan5462]

I can't comprehend not responding to your child's screams and cries. When mine have nightmares where they're screaming I go to them immediately, they don't even have to come to me. I don't wake them up (that always made the memories more vivid for me as a kid) but will soothe them by rubbing their back telling them I'm there and they'll be okay, it's safe now and they typically stop screaming and thrashing and resume peaceful sleep. Sometimes they will wake up as I enter the room and I cuddle them back to sleep or if it was really bad we go get a special snack and listen to a story then get back to sleep. I cannot imagine not doing that. I couldn't bear to do the cry it out method even. I cuddle them to sleep until they outgrow it and they're independent, confident kids.

[@kaelagetz5604]

@@lisacallan5462 I don't have any kids yet, I'm only 20, but for goodness sake, I get up if I hear my gecko squeak in the night nevermind a child screaming and crying. I used to get stomachaches and my mother would sit with me and rub my stomach while I cried even when she had to go to work at eight the next morning. You sound like a greta mother, exactly as it should be!

[@yu_124]

I’m a minor and don’t even have kids but I’ve think about have maybe two kids? But also I’m a kid and it seems very hard to take care of when in the beginning I can’t take care of myself properly,but if I have kids I won’t treat them like my parents treat me and I will respect their boundaries,if they like to draw I won’t say “I am ur mom I can see your Sketchbook because I bought it for you” or compare me to anyone or degrade me. I don’t want to give my child the suffering most of us have to go through..

[@yu_124]

If I do it accidentally I will apologize. My parents never said a sorry when they were wrong,and they _knew_ they were wrong

[@kaelagetz5604]

@@yu_124 Yeah, a lot of parents will just ignore an issue when it turns out they were wrong. They'll just insist that it's over and you don't have to talk about it anymore. The best parents are the ones that openly communicate with their children and treat them like equals.

[@MMh738]

Respect to all the women in the video, both moms and nannies..both of them are going out and working hard to provide better future for their kids, and both women are not able to spend time with their 'own' kids because they need to work and provide better for their families. Nannies are looking after one set of kids , and probably the grannies/aunts are looking after the kids of Nannies in their home country.

[@herasean5720]

The ironic part is that these maid probably are also mom who don't know their kids well too, because they also have to work and gain money...

[@penguin-tc1cx]

i have had maids (still do) and i remember clearly that they frequently video called with their family/children etc to keep in touch- ofc it's not the same as real life interaction but it's still something

[@ko-ul5pr]

Depends on the maid but ive seen a lot of them live in the house that they work in with their children (dont worry, the kids dont do labour)

[@m.alifandika345]

and those kid's moms who hired the maids dont know their kids well too😂

[@Riachanai]

Yes! I saw this documentary about a Filipina domestic worker in Hong Kong, her children (who also now have kids themselves) admitted they felt a little bitter that the Hong Kong family’s kids got to be “raised” by their mom. Ofc they understood why she had to, still doesn’t mean it hurt any less :’)

[@ZombieLeo94]

Struggles of a working mom, not knowing what to prioritize 😔

[@avajung7274]

It’s so sad to think that some mum fired the nannies just because their kids love the nannies more than the mums. Like what do they expect when they barely paid attention to their kids?

[@patiakreles]

My mom did that to us. I remember crying so bad everytime she did it. It happened like 6 or 7 times, whenever she felt that we loved our nanny more than her she made a huge scandal and fired the nanny. It is so difficult when you are a kid. We didn't even have cellphones and the pain was like losing your own mom, you couldn't even call them afterwards. You never saw them again, then other nanny would come and the cycle repeated. It was torture now that I think about it.

[@16tangerines]

@@patiakreles wow, I'm sorry you went through that.

[@extraterrestrial1614]

@@patiakreles What kind of sick satisfaction does she gain from doing that, it’s beyond fucked. I’m sorry you and your siblings had to go through that.

[@Alyssa_aria]

actually I think my mom did the same. I remember, i was crying and she thought i was spoiled when I opted to go to the nanny. and the nanny, atleast in my perspective, was comforting me. My mom said she was disciplining me and all that ... after that "incident" happened, my nanny left a couple weeks after. I was so heartbroken and I got many new nanny's after. Maybe that's why there's this lingering feeling in me, even as a grown adult (20+ish), that somehow everyone just leaves me. lol. it sounds so dramatic but u know that nagging feeling that u try to shake off but is still there? anyways, my mom must have felt betrayed and jealous. I couldn't see that as a child but as an adult now, i can see how this is possible. Humans as we are... well. yea. She still gave the first nanny a few Christmas gifts here and there after a few years... so she wasn't entirely resentful. Atleast to how I see it. I just wish I had a more present parent growing up. It does make an impact. And I hope to heavens I don't get a kid if I am unable to be with this baby most of the time.

[@mikasa2217]

I was a nanny. I was just 18 when i started and the baby really did love me and she would want to hug and her mom would be right there and I'd feel so embarrassed. Sometimes I'd tell her to go with her mom for kisses. But i did really got attached to her. Sometimes i miss her. Her mom wasn't jealous tho she was really nice about it.

[@hanifahdwira1128]

It made me remember the movie about Christopher from Winnie the pooh. His maid said to his mother “even a cow could give birth ma’am, not everyone could actually raise a child”

[@Sartorius988]

Fatality...🥶🥶

[@ericme4767]

I remembered my maid feeding me, at 2 or 3, before wondering who the strange woman was sorting things in our balcony to my right. That strange woman was my mum.

[@amriteshkumar4799]

Well a cow can raise their child better than humans Sad Truth

[@agoosewithinternetaccessan3218]

@@ericme4767 Wow

[@rninerva7917]

B-but a cow can raise her child

[@ardenteodosio224]

The video summarizes such a sad concept that our society is facing. Because of the hard work ethic produced by a prevailing work-based society, most children grow up without the affection and love which is deemed necessary by their psychological needs. The society values productivity more than individual needs. The society treats people as resources, instruments used for the benefit of a select few. This is our society. A society starved of love and compassion. A parasite. Therefore to all parents out there, be with your children. Be contented with what you have and do not be overly grandiose of your future. For in your pursuit of that idea, you lose sight of reality itself. End the cycle of numbness, embrace your humanity. You are not robots. You are people. People who need to produce and reciprocate to love. God bless to everyone! ❤

[@ha5266]

An interview with the fathers would be nice. Parenting is both the mother and father’s responsibility.

[@eviesink6480]

@Truth Teller not necessarily, dads can be just as, if not more involved in a child’s life than the mom

[@amylandry]

It is. And a video with fathers would highlight in most circumstances that they know even less. Yes there are cases where dad's are very close to their kids, but it's far less common.

[@marlenathorvald]

If this was a video about how mom's are super heros who do everything would you still be asking to hear from the dad?

[@wuvharrt]

"World of married couple" drama

[@jae7366]

just because theres a mother doesnt mean theres a father btw.

[@carolinanuccialcala9600]

She looked SO proud that the kid went to her for comfort, my heart is melting

[@Luvfyea]

6k likes without comment? The heck?

[@nefariouspurplebadger]

For those that don’t know: this is about getting people in Singapore to be nicer to their maids who they normally treat like slaves.

[@affhmd]

Rly?

[@Kacangtanah78]

@@affhmd you can see how some Singaporeans treat TKI like shits as examples. Not all ofc, many are nice and friendly too. Edit : that said, I disagree with OP. This video is more about how those maids have closer bonds with the children instead of their own mothers.

[@RozanneMiller]

It's a horrible shame for humans that those that call themselves civilised treat others with such disdain and cruelty. They are the least civilised of people.

[@Idontwantone950]

@aiai Did you watch the video to the end? It says that those “maids” typically work 24/7 and should be allowed time off. So yes, it is about them being slaves.

[@nefariouspurplebadger]

@@Kacangtanah78 Even though they mention giving their maids a day off?

[@gabrielnine7680]

Growing up as a 'nanny kid' as well, this hits really hard. I still feel safer around them even as an adult..

[@leodiyanah9146]

I know right, it hits harder when u grow up and realize the fact they left their own family to work and send money back to them with barely any breaks. Yet they managed to find time in their day to call their family and make you feel loved and cared for. They’re extremely resilient, hard working and I have so much compassion for them. They were born in a hard system which required them to work so much even in later life just to pay for support their families while supporting yours at home.

[@ispaper4051]

_"everyone in your family loves you, but nobody likes you"_ - most pre-teens familes today

[@brigittejoan7139]

That statement hurts, I know, my own mother said it to me

[@bunishrimp]

Fr though, and I'd always refute by saying "Then why do I have friends? And why do they always invite me out to hang out?" Such utter bullshit.

[@whitneyd6827]

That doesn't get better, so you do you. You're the one who has to live with yourself every day. You be who you're most proud to be. Don't be who your family wants to be for acceptance because eventually you'll just visit occasionally and you'll wonder why you ever did that.

[@Miskamouskamikumouse]

@@whitneyd6827 Thank you

[@starryeyed6659]

im sorry, but what does that statement mean?

[@daichisawamura20yearsago64]

Nanny: she doesnt like people knowing, so I won't tell Mum: Darius. lol

[@taslimaaktershathi7561]

Mothers often don't care about your secrets 😒 they just say it without even thinking sometimes 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@baguette4607]

@@taslimaaktershathi7561 yep

[@idontfeelbonita]

@@taslimaaktershathi7561 so true😑

[@gma904]

😭😩

[@Virtual.punk77]

@sousou alger so did I 😭

[@jazmineso]

my mom is a nanny and the kids that she’s taken care of don’t get enough attention from their parents at all, there was this little kid who would basically get bullied by his parents and would always be so happy when my mom would come in the mornings, it was sad honestly

[@diannaexol8349]

Aww it's so sad to hear that . Proud of your mom for doing that

[@pavanamahesh2941]

Did you get time to speak with your mom?

[@暧昧-u8e]

Props to you for not getting jealous.

[@lavelycrow9805]

My mom's an elementary school teacher. When I was a kid, she would receive drawings from her students and display them at home... but she never displayed mine. She always had nice/cute stories to tell about her students and my siblings, while she wouldn't even talk to me. She and my dad bullied me (for not having friends, being an embarrassment until i cried and then made fun of me because I was so weak). I felt so jealous and unloved. I hope I had a mom like yours :(

[@manuelemilioaquinoaraujo3154]

@@lavelycrow9805 Dude, I'm sorry, that seems sad af

[@audreymcknight]

the fathers couldn’t even tell you the child’s birthday

[@amnedits4898]

“his favourite subject *SHOULD* be English” that sentence alone said a lot

[@tracie_c]

To be fair, from the tone, I think the mom meant "should be English" as in "I'm guessing it's English"

[@SayonDDatta]

Typical asian parents

[@cahkentir4647]

@@tracie_c I'm agree with you.

[@jazzydadj6206]

I think she meant like "last time I checked his favorite was English"

[@aridewanta5404]

kinda like "he should be" is maybe like having too much hope for wat u think ur child will be

[@stxrry2173]

Notice how the mum said “i dont think he has set amything to his mind yet“ and the maid said “he wants to be a pilot“ ..............................

[@jorgee_pena]

Wow its like we watched the same video!

[@dezonfilm]

I was about to hit the 1k like but someone beat me to it by a second

[@platypus_zero]

0:54 Iffah is crying right now.

[@wkwkek8675]

Sump ngakak so hard

[@apostropheboy]

Sjksjsksjskksjsdd

[@lof.2247]

🤣🤣

[@camilaisabele5905]

😂😂😂

[@somethink.g]

@@wkwkek8675 wkwkwew

[@beLikeMarch]

When I was young, I hardly recognized my mother's face because she was always a busy woman, but now I spend most of my time with my mother.

[@karenkurosaki]

My mother can’t comprehend when I say I was raised by maids. She will snap back at me. But my maid, I use to call her Kakak, she was my best friend. Now she’s married, has a child and owns her own plantation in Indonesia ❤️

[@sera1143]

that's so lovely for your 'auntie' ❤️ I hope she and you are doing well :)

[@starkitty66]

Ahh that’s so cool! I hope you and your bf still contact each other. I’m glad for her!:)) and yeah, some parents think that having enough money and clothes is enough and it is a huge necessity physical health wise, but being there to teach, discipline, listen , comfort and nurture is one of the biggest jobs of good parenting. At least you and her know the truth. She’s owned the right to be called your “mum/auntie” I think. Anyways you got your best friend to raise you and support you and I’m just glad you had someone there with you instead of rotting alone in isolation. I’m glad you had someone there for you. And you’re awesome for keeping your composure it’s hard sometimes to take what other people drill into your head when you know the truth. You are very strong. Best wishes for you and congratulations on Miss Kakak (if I may call her that rq) on having a child. Sorry for long message

[@GengUpinIpin]

I think its wholesome that you loved her so much that you call her your "Sister" like a real part of the family Or....wait, is her real name really is Kakak?

[@Theodore_in_red]

Tetangga :^

[@lorane_fantasyandfun]

I remembered having 2 Kakaks. The first one, didn't like so much (she wasn't all in the head and ripped a piece my brother's ear). The second one I loved so much. I was so sad when I had to leave her to go to Australia :(

[@downfallmandf9705]

Oh ok, so that woman just said her kid's crush in an interview. And parents still question why we don't tell them this kinda crap

[@gracecastillo2078]

I AM THE STORM THAT IS APPROACHING

[@psychott6]

Exactly.

[@logixalspeed6923]

this is staged tho

[@Rachel-sq8ki]

@@logixalspeed6923 I doubt it

[@enakshiparua836]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@katofgacha4554]

The mom that said “She doesn’t wake me up, but she does scream and cry” really says something about how much effort she puts into taking care of her kid.

[@arteriole]

She never said "doesn't wake _me_ up". She said "doesn't wake up". You do realise that people can have various parasomnia-related symptoms, like talking/crying/screaming in one's sleep, without any external stimulation, right?

[@AMiniki]

@@arteriole did you miss the part where the nanny immediately said the girl does wake up and looks for her because she’s scared?

[@arteriole]

@Miniki Abzurdah I should have been clearer. I wasn’t referring to the parenting style or the video in itself, simply saying that crying in one’s sleep and not waking up while doing it isn’t necessarily something triggered by an external influence. Probably a rather silly comment to leave in the first place though haha.

[@arshiyabegum8556]

Oh maybe she didn't put efforts back then why do you think she came here to do a video? Bc they want to know their child

[@Shiro_Kuma432]

I don't know if the kid is just like that to their parent or its just the parent that act like they didn't know

[@gee7846]

I was a live-in nanny for my nieces for a year, my cousin(their mom) would be on her phone or watch whatever bs on TV whenevershe was home, she didn't care about their homework, interests, what they learned, their health, favourite clothes, colours and everything. When I left, my nieces would sneak out to call me if they needed help with something and their mom had the audacity to get mad at me for interfering with her parenting.