America Ferrera tries to find more about her estranged father

[@OddWomanOut_Pi81]

Knowing that that "divorce the wife, divorce the child" mentality takes place across all cultures really just makes me very sad. There's no triumph, just disappointment...I experienced this as well, and I absolutely ADORED my father. That break has telegraphed how I have interacted with men my entire life. FATHERS... Your children need u just as much as they need their mothers! 🥺

[@breek.8678]

I don’t know that it’s really that they divorced a child…. I think it’s more that these men don’t know how to be fathers at all. Comfortable with the idea of passively being a father, meaning the child lives with them but they have no real sense of responsibility of consistently rearing a child, apart from paying some bills. And then there’s the other side of the coin, intense shame. Feeling like a failure, … unable and unwilling to answer future questions from their child of why they are not with their mommy. As if kids really care about stuff like that. It’s a made up problem in their own head. Super sad. I’ve watched my dad chase my mom for 25 years. Only able to be around us kids when my mother seemed like she may be giving him another shot. Currently my father will say my mother sabotaged his ability to be a father to us., when she never blocked him from being a parent, she just didn’t want to be in a relationship with him. Imagine that delusion

[@AutoReport1]

Not all. Some cultures no matter what the reason for divorce the father retains custody.

[@janetslicer3637]

I am so sorry you had to experience your Father like this. My Dad wasn't perfect but to have never had access to him would have been unbearable to me. I send you positive wishes.

[@wanderinggeri8477]

Often it isn’t the Father doesn’t want connection with a child but the new wife wont allow it! She can discourage any interest he shows in the children of another woman. This is not a rare occurrence.

[@PinkHawk191]

@@wanderinggeri8477 That has happened with me. My step mom gets mad if he does anything with me or takes care of me. She is a very jealous person. I finally told my dad I need you. It's been hard to watch the relationship fall apart with my dad. She needs to realize when she married my dad that me, my brother, and my dad were a packaged deal. It's hurts me that she tries to take my dad away from me. He is coming around every so often.emotionally I don't know how much more I can take. I deserve better from him.

[@hs964]

What an authentic woman.

[@kcourtney6826]

That man is a good friend, to share this information with her, a real friend that will speak kindly of you even when you're gone.

[@polloloci21]

The dad’s best friend is still hooking him up- making sure he tells his buddies’ daughter what she wants to hear. Good dude.

[@gregoriamolina1332]

Yo pensé lo mismo el esconde algo.

[@lillyess385]

Sometimes the truth doesn't set you free. He's probably doing her a favour.

[@luwamalem9537]

I agree, seems like a good guy! :)

[@veronicao4643]

You think he’s making it up to spare her feelings?

[@kikikeel7695]

​@@veronicao4643 It's possible. He could have kept in touch even if by phone only. Unless he was behind bars or was completely physically unable, there's no reason he couldn't have made a little effort.

[@laetitiavisagie-gg6kk]

The way her father's friend explained her father's difficulties to her was so touching ❤

[@LaChicaconSuerte-1111]

Yes, but he didn´t really tell her anything.

[@oliviarogers2808]

This gives new meaning to her Carmen peformance in Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants.

[@Sdority905]

That was my first thought too!

[@TwiFiveGirls101]

Oh my yes, her storyline broke my heart cuz my father left too.

[@sandrastaygold]

I got so emotional watching this my father is also Honduran and i never really had the opportunity to have a relationship with him i was 9 when he died in Honduras. One day i will find you dad and visit your grave 🤍

[@lisalking2476]

I pray you are blessed to visit your father's grave one day 🙏 ❤

[@janetslicer3637]

I really hope she finds what she is looking for. She is a lovely young lady; I wish her the best. She deserves this.

[@Blisscent]

My biological father died without me ever meeting or speaking to him but I didn’t have time to process it because my real father, the one that raised me, was sick with cancer. I didn’t have time to feel bad for a stranger that never sent a birthday card.

[@IndomitableT]

That sounds so sad, and I am sorry for you. Without knowing you, I do feel that having no time to address the death of your biological father seems like another loss. Unless you know why you never saw nor spoke to your biological father, and it was a conscious decision on his part and/or your part during his lifetime, you may never know why it turned out the way it did. Anyway, I do hope you had time to mourn for and/or address your real father’s illness, and cherish(ed) your time with him. Take care.😌

[@dragonfly4484]

You feel the palpable pain of the loss of her father. I know it too well. Glad she was able to get something out of it.

[@Nogoingback424]

So sorry.

[@deewhitd]

Just love America. She was the key note speaker at my BSN degree at Navy Pier in Chicago.

[@Cassxowary]

that’s a sentence that was uttered…

[@Cassxowary]

but she seems nice, to humans at least…

[@anaaragon8733]

I can’t wait to see the second part of this story

[@risingjustice]

​@@Cassxowary never heard of her being not nice to non-humans?

[@bellavee4096]

What a gracious human being she is. It's extremely difficult to have your parent far away, but even more so when the parent is close geographically but yet so far away from you emotionally. I was not as forgiving as America...I chose NOT to go to my father's funeral. My daughter's will most likely do the same for their father. So sad.

[@nilnil7325]

I'm not saying this applies to you or to America's situations, but in many circumstances the mother keeps the children away from the father on purpose and the children grow up thinking their father is the one who abandoned them. Sometimes the father abandons the family, and sometimes the father is forced out of his children's life.

[@jb-ze1yh]

Sad for the person who chose their own “ stuff” over you and your kids. Give that cross back. ❤️

[@dreyes397]

I'm like you. I rejected my father when he came to visit when I was young. There was no point in maintaining a relationship and I felt betrayed bc it didn't seem he cared or wanted to stay close to me and my sister geographically speaking

[@jb-ze1yh]

@@nilnil7325 not many … some… people need to do better.. if they can fight for their job, their new partner, their health etc, then they can for their kids. Period..

[@alexandreleite2541]

One of my favorite Actors. She’s so sweet and has a calming voice.

[@refra1046]

SUCH A BLESSING AMERICA! THAT YOU HAVE YOUR FATHERS FRIEND EXTEND HIS FRIENDSHIP AND TALK ABOUT YOUR PATERNAL SIDE OF YOUR FAMILY!

[@lovinglife95]

America the sweetest!

[@victorialopez9717]

Oh wow - this got me crying. I have known a lot of families where the child and the parent were in two different countries for most of their lives and similar situations where the parent died in the other country without ever seeing their child again. This makes me think of them.

[@julierauthshaw8556]

I am so glad she learned Spanish. Ihave no Hispanic background, but between high school and University, I took 9years of Spanish. I lived in South Florida for 34 years and it helped me immensely.

[@eb4676]

Spanish isn’t Hispanic originally. Its from Spain 🇪🇸 a European country meaning Spanish is a European language not South America!

[@lady8jane]

@eb4676 Hispanic just describes someone who speaks Spanish. People from Spain are Hispanic too. You might be thinking of the word "Latino" which describes people who come from Latin America.

[@teresalegler2777]

I’m certain Spanish was her first language. Obviously, she has continued to use her language skills her entire life. I’m certain her father would be very proud of her and her siblings.

[@aaronxalapa]

@@eb4676 Spanish is literally Hispanic, España comes from Hispania.

[@MabelRD08]

😍😍😍😍Loved this comment. Qué bueno que pudiste aprender español. Nunca está de más aprender un idioma nuevo. I'm bilingual and want to improve my french.

[@mariacristinabravo4681]

My papa passed suddenly too a year ago. I was thrown exactly like America. I went back to my father's village we always came there to visit family my grandparents celebrate and playing with my cousins and eating laughing singing and dancing with them. Although he's gone I'm glad I had that time with him.

[@mw2swrosa]

I had a strong bond with my dad and lost him at an early age. I'm in tears America I'm glad your connecting with your roots. Looks like your ancestors are definitely looking after you too.

[@stellajacobs2115]

is it possible the man suffered from depression (the friend indicated this when he said the father had emotional issues )and was unable to cope in a new country, America, a strange land, many people feel worthless in such situations, feeling their children are better off without them. Please dont judge some one without knowing the exact facts, 'while we may feel there is no justification for abandoning your children, remember people with mental issues think differently just a small thought

[@p.h.5752]

Either way, depression or no...the result is the same. An abondoned child with a piece of their heart missing.

[@audibletapehiss3764]

I got the feeling there was a whole lot packed into those few words, when he said something like, "you have to understand, because he's with God now." I took that to mean, there's a reason he's not still here.

[@tatianaallen913]

👏

[@theedesertmermaid]

🎻

[@PearlsandRoses]

Depression within immigration is very real.

[@nativeskin7819]

You instantly knew that was her dad when they showed the picture of him when he was young. She looks just like him.

[@passionfruitpassionfruit2034]

How does a father or mother abandon their kids I would never have the heart to do that. Cried for America. Glad she had some closure. I would forgive but have a hard time coping

[@scottphardin]

He may not have had a choice. He certainly didn’t leave for more money.

[@jessicasalinas3841]

Some of the excuses were "I didn't have a dad how could I be one" or "my mom was never there how can I love" the plan is always to become better then not equal to

[@teresalegler2777]

As the friend tried to explain, her father had a deep sadness in his heart. Probably suffered from depression. New country, disconnected from family and friends. Life is rough for many immigrants.

[@bellami9605]

Based on her fathers friends own words, it is very likely her father was dealing with mental illness and perhaps even passed because of it. He remembered and loved his kids and seemed like a decent man trying to rebuild his life by sharing knowledge with his community and becoming an educator. Lets not judge so harshly, we don't know how much he was suffering.

[@risingjustice]

Did the mother ever try to reach out or want him to leave? Not clear on the mother's separation from him.

[@lupechacon-florez7520]

You resemble your father so much. He never forgot you and he always loved you. It’s obvious. I hope you get closure, my dear you’re a very special person.

[@J.J.-hz5fv]

My dad died when I was 3. Before that, my dad and his best friend met my mom and her best friend in Spain in the 60's when they were in the Navy together. They both brought their Spanish wives back to the states. Ralph and Maria (my dad's best friend and his wife) ended up settling just a few miles from us. They were unable to have children. This man, Ralph, was a part of my childhood, adolescence and adulthood. For years, I thought this man's interest in me was because, he'd always wanted a son and couldn't have one. It wasn't until years later that i realized that it went much deeper than that. Ralph was honoring his dead friend (my dad) by looking after his son. Sadly, Ralph passed away in February 2022 from Covid. I was devastated. I wish i would've spent more time with him like he wanted the last time i saw him. It's interesting where a random youtube video will take you in your thoughts. This story took me to him. Te extrano tio Ralph. Te quiero mucho. Dios te bendiga.

[@lisalking2476]

I feel your father's friend was one Great Best friend of his indeed ❤ and a very special friend to you for sure honorable ❤ 😊 🙏 May both of them RIP 🙏 🕊 ❤

[@J.J.-hz5fv]

@lisalking2476 thank you!

[@thinkaboutit2137]

Just a reminder that fame and fortune are not enough to heal the pain of the loss of a father. Parents are very important to a child. She will never have the answers to all her questions. All she can do is forgive and try to be at peace with the absence and loss of her father. 💔 America seems like such a genuine woman.

[@irlTany]

I cried with you America Georgina 🩷

[@mayraa457]

aw I wanted to give her a hug

[@melissalove2463]

America seems like an absolute sweetheart !

[@suselleaciego5790]

I'm from San Pedro Sula , Honduras last time I saw my father I was 6 or 7. I came to the USA , I went to look for him when I was 33 never found him. They told me where he would be , I went and he just left 😢 Hopefully he is still alive and may God give me the will to see him again. I'm still searching for him.

[@lisalking2476]

I pray you find your father one day soon 🙏 ❤ God bless you 🙏

[@justsayin5609]

Personally, I wouldn't bother. You'll just be disappointed. He evidently has no interest.😢

[@joselingcastro8538]

At the end of the day, her father still chose not to reach out to his children. And she DOES NOT have to “understand” that. At the end of the day, no matter how much he “missed” his children, he still chose not to be present in their lives in ANY capacity. At the end of the day, he gave more energy and attention to his students than his own kids.

[@risingjustice]

We were not in his shoes so we can not say what his experience was like in the USA and we do not know what the separation from her mother was like if she tried to keep them together. It could be really scary for a man in a new country not speaking the language and pressure of providing.

[@Mildredpotka]

And… who are you ? Did you know him or you’re just speaking from your little sad life ?

[@Nogoingback424]

You don’t really know what happened. Sometimes a parent will block contact and brainwash the children as a way of getting back at the ex, it’s happening now to millions of people.

[@helloMerrMerr]

This woman doesn’t understand how much she’s given my generation specifically. The only America I love wholeheartedly 🥲

[@_adrian_sean]

😢 Sounds like her father struggled with his mental health. That's how elders sometimes say it "trouble in his heart" usually means depression. Even though it's sad he separated himself from his children it might've been for the best.

[@Susan.I]

How sad he never got back to his children!

[@i_palindrone_i]

This one breaks my heart

[@sonydav356]

I hope one day she finds the answers that she seeks so that her heart can somehow heal & that she will find peace as well.

[@charlottewood4933]

America and Jennifer are beautiful inside and out

[@the_glitter_is]

They are both so beautiful

[@rayromo7222]

Very cool, I went to high school with her

[@jorgem50]

Sometimes it's better not to know your father after they leave. My dad sent my mom and 5 kids back to Mexico in 1984. His reasoning was to send money to us while we live in Mexico City and within two years he'd move with us in Mexico. The truth is that he had another woman and sent us to Mexico so he could live with the other woman and marry her. My mother, my siblings and I returned to the US in 1985 and my dad never wanted a relationship with his kids after that. We saw him every now and then but he treated us like step kids. When he died of cancer in 2016, I was there months prior to his death just to be there for him. Before he sent us to Mexico he was a good husband and father. I was 12 when he sent us to Mexico so my good memories of him is before I was 12. Those years that he treated us like step kids were hard, especially for me as I was the oldest. I would have prefered not to have seen him again than to be treated like a bad step kid

[@___David___Savian]

It is obvious that America's father's best friend felt deep pain in his heart seeing America on front of him but knowing she would not be able to ever meet her father. You can see the pain in his eyes. He wanted to cry too. It was his best buddy and here was his daughter desparate for information about her dad. It's so heartbreaking.

[@jayr3053]

Love America! ❤

[@srecko2673]

America is very sweet and warm. Her father was a very handsome man.

[@tpjohnson6304]

To lose a parent is difficult. To lose one without realizing it is traumatic. It's sad that her father couldn't have reconnected with his children.

[@comealongcomealong4480]

@tpjohnson6304 I do not know their story. But I get a sense, from his childhood friend, that her father felt that he had failed and was not good enough in some way.

[@tpjohnson6304]

​@@comealongcomealong4480 I can relate to feeling both of those too. As a father and as a son.

[@comealongcomealong4480]

@@tpjohnson6304 As a species, we humans are mostly hardwired to measure those around us and sort ourselves in the rankings. That's why some kind of therapy can often help to identify how realistic our self judgements are. > One thing about getting older, and you may relate, is that you recognise that we often rate others too highly and minimize our own personal qualities, skills and achievements. 👣🌻👣blessings on your own journey. We only have today and tomorrow to change course, and maybe do a little better.

[@tpjohnson6304]

@@comealongcomealong4480 That's very thoughtful of you. I rarely compare myself to others; more often to a standard. Which as humans, is probably unrealistic. And therapy definitely helps. It continues to help me. Sometimes it's hard to see the benefit of humanity as a species. But I thank you either way.

[@comealongcomealong4480]

@@tpjohnson6304 Encouraging to hear your thoughts about regular therapy 😊 Your reflection on comparing yourself to 'a standard' is interesting. Perhaps you are wired (or trained!) to aim quite high, to know your potential and maximise that. > I guess many of these traits are cultural, of course. But also relate to the survival of our species. How does an army identify who will be the foot soldiers, and who the captains and generals? > Have you ever participated in a Fathers' Skilling Up or Support Group? Sometimes engaging with a group helps to ease the pressure on the individual. Good to share some laughs as well! Best of luck with your fathering.

[@r3d5ive87]

Una mujer muy linda

[@elizabethmencia6027]

When can we see the rest. Guess ill search on KZbin. Thank God for Americas Mother that raised her children and didn't run away from her responsibilities. Lets study her Mom's ancestry too. She deserves it!! ❤❤

[@mariaconsuelo5030]

If you were a child w a father that crosses borders for you im w you. This shattered me❤.

[@mybrainismagiccity]

Love her ❤

[@latonea]

I didn't get to see my father before he past as well. I know the feeling. He divorced my mom when I was three. I find out later that his new wife didn't want him to have a relationship with his kids. So, I gew up without him not truly knowing the true story. No father around was pretty hard.

[@aaliyahraghnal]

Seeing this makes me think of my Honduran grandfather who was from Tegucigalpa. I remember my Grandpa telling me how big the tarantulas are in Honduras. He had an estranged relationship with his father as well and funny enough my Grandpa worked on computers when he got to the states. He was always trying to fix someones laptop or computer even if it was working well lol

[@beckscald3855]

I'm pretty sure many can sort of relate to this in some ways.

[@francishollingshead2134]

Notes: 1. You can see the 2008-2023 Pepsi logo on the side of the bodega shown in the town. 2. The vehicle America Ferrera was driving is a Toyota (although the logo is blurred, you can still see it). Japan actually attempted a trade program with Latin America (China is doing something similar), and a lot of people in Latin America, the Middle East, and Africa use Japanese vehicles, especially Toyotas, because the vehicles are more reliable and the repairs are easier to perform then most American cars.

[@Sharibaby80]

ok.

[@christcrucifiednowalive]

I ❤Honduras especially San Pedro Sula

[@westminster860]

The Royal family of england have used this as recessional music during church events for a very long time.♥️

[@loverb304]

Omge this is supper i love it

[@LollieVox]

I could sense her wondering why he didn’t try to contact her thru the computer :( 😢🦋

[@boogiedownbronx73]

I like that she has a like-able face and personality, not your stereotypical prima donna face and yet an a list celeb..she seems very down to earth...

[@rev.valeriehamann4049]

I hope he gave her the photos

[@asabifatosin1150]

Funny she doesn’t state what her mother said about his leaving. And how many children did he abandon to be raised by his wife? Of course, his friend knows why he left…He also knows if his friend started/had another wife and family upon repatriating to Honduras. He was young and handsome, so it’s not likely he remained alone.

[@biancaalvarado7113]

Wow ❤

[@Untilsheputherfootdown]

I just feel like any person that abandoned their child is not bueno and even though he said he had problems it’s still doesn’t justify hurting your children.

[@Nogoingback424]

You don’t know what happened. It’s usually more complicated than presented.

[@NicoleWSimone]

La esperanza wow que coincidencia

[@lind2592]

She let her father off the hook too easily. I would have straight up asked, " Was there another woman, did he abandoned us for another woman?

[@MsMak03]

What would that change?

[@lind2592]

everything. A man that abandons his family does not deserve the sentiments that America is showing. Americas mother was probably wife #2. You can forgive but not forget.@@MsMak03

[@stargazer5073]

What lovely daughters, he missed out on them. No tears America, you are better off. If he left, it was his problem not yours. When men leave it is usually selfishness.

[@johnkimber2509]

Women alienate men from their children out of revenge or spite...that truth is being exposed more and more.

[@amylee8969]

So we can safely say that America was NOT acting during that scene in Sisterhood of the Traveling pants when she was crying while calling her dad.

[@apedradasygarrotazos.yunaq6068]

😢😢😢

[@jennyferrios245]

What America the little girl wanted to really understand is why he never reached out to her? Could he had reach out to her? Hearing he was successful in his computer business leaves a bitter sweet taste. She will forever feel like a little girl waiting for a call from her dad.

[@deeobrien5417]

She looks just like her dad

[@Solskin60Tina]

Where can I see the rest? The other videos here are private?!!

[@lmc2375]

He didn't really tell her the why of her father's difficulties.

[@teresalegler2777]

He probably just wanted her to know he hadn’t forgotten his family. Also, that he had some issues he struggled with.

[@jillcampbell8019]

She looks like her father.

[@_LaNica]

😢

[@ZenBenzineX]

new season?

[@francesjolly5106]

Taken or not given? We all long for our ancestors

[@louiseaori]

❤❤❤❤

[@mrboatshoe]

WHAT WERE THE ISSUES????? HIS FRIEND WASN'T OF ANY HELP 🤣🤣

[@eyeswideopen7777]

Edited out of the show

[@jb-ze1yh]

Idk why do many people want to connect to a parent who abandoned them? Clearly they made their choice. And then why didn’t the friends and family say “ where are your kids”.. make it make sense

[@ke11yke11z]

6:35 primero mundo problemas

[@PILATUS1968]

honduras no se ve tan mal porque entonces estan viniendose para aca?

[@angecali]

Honduras tiene cosas preciosas pero hay mucha pobreza y delincuencia culpa de los gobiernos

[@gail9299]

​​@@angecali even I knew that and I'm not American. So why didn't PILATES1968?! 🙄

[@dancemaniac3868]

A parent who abandoned their children don't deserve these tears.

[@lukemallory7832]

Who knows what went on between mother and father. The mother may have been vicious and made all sorts of threats unless he didn't leave. You don't know. The fact that she is crying would suggest she feels no anger towards him and might be aware of another side to the story.

[@variousJnames]

You don't know the whole story

[@lukewormholes5388]

"My name is Florida! That's the name of a state!"

[@anesarivera1174]

Where is her mother in all of this. She could have probably provided her with a lot of details herself instead of making her travel the world trying to learn something about her father

[@sassmaster1]

He wasnt a father, he left. People crying over parents that didnt make a choice to be there for them is sad. Exploring your background yes being emotional over a man or woman that didnt care enough to stick around no.

[@emily9603]

Now we see the root of that Barbie monologue.

[@jennbbosslady7238]

The faces

[@lisanevins3605]

Wow her father just never bothered with his kids when he left USA.

[@bettytrembly6538]

If he was good with computers, why didn't he reach out to his daughter to reconnect to his children, especially when they became adults?

[@boybawang1981]

Going with Older Sister Of Wednesday Addams looks I see...Shoulda been like..."No mucho gusto!! Entonces, conocías a mi papá ausente"!!

[@Kamella772]

Wow how she lost weight she become 😮stunner 😊 I remember when she start acting first time .

[@justinq1977]

Struggled with his heart.. sounds like he had another family or something

[@octavioespadas7959]

"yo quiero taco bell"

[@eleidal]

I really like this story and the video, but wonder why an enormous SUV has to be what takes her around. Those streets are crowded, it looks like a monster among the streets otherwise empty of cars. It's not normal.

[@CityLadyLA]

super Dangerous. Especially when they know you're from the US...kidnappings.

[@TransformacionTotal]

It is a secure car and it may even be bulletproof. It is a very common suv used in Honduras.

[@sonydav356]

True, Honduras is known to be very violent but the topic here is what she’s searching for not what kind of car she’s in.

[@80spurple13]

Didn't know she spoke Spanish

[@vanessaamankwah9501]

This is so random, but her talking voice kinda sounds like Demi Lovato

[@ArikLensher]

She said he looks like her siblings, but she and him they like copy paste

[@socorromarin9564]

😂😂 lloraba y queria regresar a USA y ver sus hijos. No tiene que entender que los abandono.

[@witato1]

so she's a nepo baby

[@lv4230]

Coward of a parent. Your childs pain is more important than a parents given that we brought the children to this world.

[@Passion84GodAlways]

🇭🇳 🫂🙏🏾

[@beachrose88]

ITS WHAT MEN DO. THEY FLEE AND JUSTIFY IT TO THEMSELVES .HEY. HE COULD HAVE COME BACK..HE CHOSE. NOT TO. ITS MEN

[@krakenwindzstorm961]

This what happens when women had a divorce and wont let their dads see their kids. Some equality and empowerment move their by a lot of women.🙄