Why African women are drawn to Nigerian Men

[@olove8337]

I am Trinidadian and I have 4 cousins who are married to Nigerian men and are happy. The men treat them very well and hold down their part. My cousins have businesses and the men still hold them down.

[@ruleso]

You looking for one?

[@eugeniaasamani8752]

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[@casmirifeanyi7788]

You guys are always doing a good job. Keep keeping it up

[@jahskidogundu2682]

this episode made me subscribe great conversations kudos

[@NicholasGodday]

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[@ikennaamaechi2054]

This is one of few podcast that provides intellectual conversations.

[@Chidi-l6x]

Intelligent discussions... echoo room coming through.

[@patrickedosomwan2357]

Thanks I love your show watching from united state first time subscriber.

[@ogbolor]

Thank you🙏🙏🙏

[@boakyebb]

Very good podcast ... love it ...

[@ikechukwukaubabudike]

Beautiful discuss. Generally thank you for this.

[@obiflex]

In pre colonial African society, the man was NEVER the only provider, he was just the primary provider, while the wife was a co-provider in addition to cooking, taking care of the kids and keeping the homestead clean. Men did more work, did the hardest and riskiest jobs, and took less time off work, but the wife also farmed and kept domestic animals like goats and chickens! The concept of the housewife and the sole breadwinner mentality was introduced by the colonial masters. Our women loved it and our men, who were already used to being the pillars of their families in terms of work and productivity, embraced it and it was swiftly elevated to tradition. But the truth is that men have never been the sole providers in our history and in most families it's unrealistic to expect men to be the sole providers. Trading was mostly a woman's job in Igbo society while more difficult jobs like hunting, construction of houses and clearing of pathways and defending the village from invaders were left to the men.

[@tspen4128]

This needs to be highlighted more!! The corrosion of our cultures and adoption of all these foreign concepts, are slowly crippling the black race- we see it with black Americans who in past decades were considered the best amongst us blacks. Today, their society is slowly disintegrating and it is primarily due to their women who have lost their cultural and moral values and their men who are equally lost and trapped in the colonial trap and cycles.

[@Bozzcity]

Things have not really change. The nature of men and women will always remain constant when it comes to gender roles and dynamics. Just as women in general seek for men that will provide security for them in mostly every aspect in life (shelter, clothing, food, safety, protection i.e physically, emotionaly, mentally etc. all the whole 9 yards), men in general seek for purity, sexual exculsivity and submission from women. The current season is demanding for both gender and that is why we think things are changing and we also think times have change. But when you look at it critically humans have always remain the same.

[@Lorenzo-e7m]

Thought African women were drawn to white men

[@nananyantakyi1549]

​@@Lorenzo-e7mYou have been lied to but some do though, for money.

[@TYETYE14]

😂​@@nananyantakyi1549

[@jaewiebowatz6379]

I don't know why this is the same thing I see and experience every day; our human nature has actually remained the same. Deep down nothing changed, it's just that internet has made it look like it changed.

[@kayodeakinyemi708]

Qute unfortunately not too many people are on this discussion, I just found out about this channel and I subscribed straight away

[@_derekbuchi]

Who else screaming jenifa’s voice when Adaku said I’ve always been a giver?😂😂😂💀💀

[@patrickedosomwan2357]

Very Educative ❤❤❤

[@norrynehsuh324]

I love Lolo, very expressive n open, I don laugh tire

[@skyline8222]

Calling all South African men lazy is insane. She needs to come back and explain what she meant

[@uzomaunebu1768]

that is a very careless statement from an adult I mean...the fact that this is a topic of conversation is actually quite worrying Lol

[@zainabbusari120]

South African men are lazy.

[@ferdiugude9689]

It is not your responsibility to provide for your girlfriend. Two of you must be willing to support each other. Do not allow any girlfriend to use you as an ATM machine. Save that money for your future investments and family. Be wise and do not allow yourself to be used.

[@sammyboi5685]

Like that saida bosh who dey make mouth for social media.

[@KayK_Eleven]

Everything these days on social media is illusionary, exaggerated and damn right stupid, and moreso, when you have to bring it on a podcast for conversation. It shows how desperately, we need to upgrade our IQ. It is a shame how degraded and how we have guttered out our ability to bring engaging, educative topical issues to the burner.

[@rosebellewaihenya4888]

I’ve been in the Uk 28 years and I’ve never been interested in Nigerian men. All the other Kenyan babes I’ve seen date them have suffered.

[@EstherEbubeogu]

Nigerian born who grew up in Nigeria (i.e they came over to the UK later) or Nigerian men born in the UK? They are veeery different people sis😂 Most likely the former. Those ones I believe u

[@africaine4889]

They are asking why african women are drawn to nigerian women. Like all 54 african countries are drawn to Nigerian women. It's mostly kenyans, Ugandans and south African women because their men don't spen of them. When you have men like my country men who were raised to provide for their women and spend on their women because they saw their dad do it too there is no way we are going to look at Nigerians like that.

[@EstherEbubeogu]

@@africaine4889 ehn. I dont know sha. Lemme not generalize men from these countries but u probably have a point. However, that provider mindset they have also comes with its own problems. Nigerian men are usually very toxic. In the beginning when they are trying to get u,they entice you with the fact that they spend on women and talk about marriage and blah blah blah. Then after marriage or after sometime, they will now show their true colours which is veeeery black. This is not everybody's story but more often than not, it is usually bad stories especially when they are with foreign women.

[@zainabbusari120]

You people are unfortunate to fall Into wrong hands but generally, Nigerian men are super.

[@tspen4128]

​​@@africaine4889don't be fooled. Kenyan, South African & Ugandan men do provide, to say otherwise is just your ignorance in the cultures of those nations... What we are seeing today is the "hot girl"/club girl era and simp boys...African women in those countries are influenced a lot by what they see from their American and European counterparts and Nigerian men in particular, are playing the role of simps who are telling these women that all they have to be is good looking with nyash and they will be given the world... This is a foolish and corrosive mindset and will ultimately result in the destruction of black societies globally...look at how blacks are in America. That is where Africans are heading and Nigerian men are leading the charge by being mindlessly driven by their toto...

[@oduduwachurch7589]

Money is a killer.

[@AINewsInternationalIOO]

It is not alone South African Women??????

[@aomojola1]

The anti-patriarchy argument is superficial. Without the patriarchy you don't have a driver for civilization, a structured society, law & order, infrastructure, and the security that allows society to flourish. Decades ago, men were able to handle 100% of the provision. Feminism demonized patriarchy, exaggerated/misrepresented gender issues, and manipulated women to think that being homemakers and producing children is not sufficient value, that if they don't work for cash, they have no value, as if there was anything more valuable than birthing humans and focusing on nuturing the next generation. Women then rushed into the workplace, flooded it with more labor supply, reduced the economic value of workers, so that in most cases, it now takes two incomes to run a home. Even worse, many women lost traditional values along the way, especially with the sexual revolution, bringing less to relationships than previous generations, and still expecting men to cover all the expenses, as did previous generations.

[@thespiritualartofwar]

Summarized perfectly

[@KidRipable]

That is pretty much exactly what’s going on right now ! Society will be going downhill if we keep going this exact same way

[@oluwagbemigacs]

You are very articulated, but very wrong. Patriarchy is not a driver for civilization, the drivers of civilization are Geography, Food Security, Innovation, Economy, culture, etc. Women have just been overshadowed by men so much that there is a smokescreen that makes it seem like the patriarchy is the one driving the civilization. If civilization was driven by the patriarchy and as we all know, the African culture is patriarchal, why did it have to take the white men to make us civilized? You got the meaning of feminism all wrong, do your research. Feminism is the advocacy for gender equality. If don't support feminism, that means you don't think women deserve to vote (for instance). We have seen 'virtuous' women taken advantage of by the society, their husbands first, and society has proven times and time again that a traditional woman is setting up herself and children for suffering. E.g. A traditional Igbo housewife whose husband dies is in trouble, you know why. And if I get you right, you are blaming women for 'reduced the economic value of workers'? Think of your daughters and ask yourself if you want to blame them for this, as opposed to inflation, bad government, parasitic economic policies, and globalization? Feminism is here to stay because I want my daughters to be accorded the same level of respect and value as their male counterparts.

[@greateneberi2006]

​@@oluwagbemigacsguy you are completely wrong

[@MaziCalvo]

That shouting lady is missing the point. The man will go with the woman who gives back and adds more value. Accountability is difficult for many people. Being loud does not make one right

[@oduduwachurch7589]

Helper met for HIM… if you change OYOIWA/GOD laws. Women should support Men in the way they can. But she’s not the Head. Man is the Head so cant cut the Head off.

[@ogbolor]

Nice one

[@aham-nezesochukwuma6550]

Tit for Tat.... if you are expecting traditional ,become traditional. Issues arise when the latter is not the case.

[@aham-nezesochukwuma6550]

Also, Sex is typically between two consenting adults. The comment about "warming your bed" is just a fallacy, not a strong argument.

[@edwardbanjo5146]

As in

[@gshawnuk3625]

The old definition requires the actual context to show the shift... Let's simply say in the old concept patriarchy ruled at its highest. MEN Werre full bread winners whilst the women were full time house wives.. Hence men were the full provider's.. Even at that point , don't be fooled wifes who were working contributed a %age to the upkeep of the home. Now in today's context, men and women work and almost have similar access to same means of capital.. hence the shift. In as much as men still have our traditional roles, the most sensible thing in both earning household is also for a fraction of contributions to the house hold from the wife.. This is the new context and new dynamics of marriage .. Then the variables of percentage contributions now depends on the couples and their earnings.. It's just that simple.. full stop

[@timothychimezieatasie9547]

Most elderly women want children and not MEN. Most women do not develop deep relationships with their partners yet wonder why other ladies enjoy certain privileges.

[@JohndrupsKhalifa-fx3gm]

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[@omphemetsechake2839]

South African Women are enterprising women😂and the buyers are Nigerian Men. South African Women know their customers😅lol Why would you buy Ice in Iceland, I'm a South African man, I don't need to do much to get a woman here but our Nigerian brothers which I love I forced to do much. Again an average 5/10 South African woman in Nigeria is a PERFECT 10/10😷🙈 Nigerian gender ration dictates how Women are treated in Nigeria. There's more MEN in Nigerian than South African ratio, we have more Women here. Why should we be treating women like Nigerian men do? By the way, I own a private practice in Accounting and Taxation😂😅 Most Nigerians own businesses and not employed, but which entry VISA do they use to get to the country😂🤭it's not BUSINESS VISA FORSURE. I still think AFRICA should be ONE to stop this comparison business❤ One Africa

[@siphamandlamkhize9766]

Nigerian men are the ones that always want to compare... I wonder why

[@kelechiakalanze7170]

Very fluent in yappanese I see... You really just had to write a whole epistle of balderdash because your women prefer other men?.

[@yannickingermany]

Stopped listening at 6:36. Elderly woman but not critical thinker.

[@ogbolor]

Hey chief, everyone has a perspective dats different from urs, sometimes its ok to listen to ppl who oppose ur views. If u stayed a few more minuites till the end, ul probably see how it all comes together. But anyways thanks for leaving a comment. We appreciate u bro

[@yannickingermany]

@@ogbolor Completely agree with you about listening to opposing views. And I do that all the time. But time is also precious, only fixed number of hours in a day. To start such an open discussion with such a veiled was not something I had time for at that time. Also age matters. We don't judge children for doing the same things we judge adults for. So yeah I expected more from her. Obviously wishing the podcast the best. Let everybody eat :)

[@mummysweet8422]

Your bitterness couldn't allow you to follow the topic. She make it clear Nigeria men take care of their women because is a cultural thing. It has nothing to do with scamming . So shameful some African can't give opinion without attacking or insulting.

[@munachi98]

This lady is annoying. Trying to destroy African family. Bye bye with Ms shouting feminism

[@africanzone2646]

Many smart woman on this planet will not settle with a scammer that spends other people “s money to impress women and call themselves big boys 🤦🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️

[@goldenfestus4033]

Scammer is a nickname you envy people gives to those who are better and richer than you. Stop your hatred and envy to progress in life.

[@erhunse76]

No smart woman on this planet will settle with a scammer that spends other people money to impress women and call them big boys