Why All Our Insecurities Come From This One Thing | Marisa Peer

[@Mindvalley]

‘To heal our insecurities, we have to start by removing negative thoughts’ 🙋 Comment ‘AGREE’ or ‘DISAGREE’ and let us know what you think! Next, check out Marisa Peer’s First hour FREE Quest to teach you how to use hypnosis to start feeling happier 👉go.mindvalley.com/MFb9T1_4

[@jasreetkaur1stgreen789]

sir it would be thankful if the sentences spoken are descibed in written format.so that everyone can get the max. benefit. waiting for ur reply.

[@nell287]

Sorry......totally false this one.

[@bigfletch8]

Mindvalley. Great approach but go deeper and you find a layer from which such thoughts emerge. Like a bubble needs water to come to the surface; the water in this case is BELIEF. ALL beliefs form the true A.I. which is " intelligence" you have been programmed with, whether from the culture, the parent or anyone else you can name. Far more virrulent than ANY virus...The belief mentality is non discriminating, so the danger ( like a predisposition to addiction) is one cause can be replaced by another...believe it or not 😎😎😎

[@johnparker7784]

Hollywood perverts need to fuck off and die.

[@kate_busby]

@@johnparker7784 8ffffffffffffff

[@elizabethcrossley6853]

♡ people have kids so nonchalantly.. you are in charge of how someone turns out as an adult. That's massive. Treat your kids with respect... show them love.. show them that they matter.. that they are good enough

[@adamquinn4677]

yeah tell my mother that

[@banishedfromthedwarfplanet530]

Elizabeth Crossley-- That's all good advice, but there's more to it than that. It's not just a matter of convincing kids they are all wonderful. You must also foster a sense of EARNING the adulation you are given. There is a tendency today that the best thing is to just tell kids they are perfect in every way no matter what they do. That will prevent them from ever growing up. You must teach them that they must also work to earn respect and praise. Kids aren't dumb, they know when you're just patting them on the head in a condescending way.

[@jo.k.4210]

@@banishedfromthedwarfplanet530 Unconditional Love isnt earnable and its a truth everybody really needs

[@banishedfromthedwarfplanet530]

Jovana K-- You misunderstood what I said. I didn't say love had to be earned, I said that praise for doing a good job at something should be earned. You can't just tell children everything they do is wonderful no matter what and expect them to grow into responsible adults. They need to learn a sense of accomplishment that comes from their own hard work. The love doesn't stop just because you encourage kids to excel on their own without the phony, unearned praise.

[@nancyinthegarden3160]

Elizabeth Crossley You are so correct Most of us do have children so casually like it’s expected of us I wish more people would think about if they truly don’t want children and then not have them We all are not stamped out of a mold I was not wanted but I give my life to children because I love the fact that I have a hand in allowing them to be I have a hand in protecting them from others that could care less and can make them feel wanted I can set them free with my encouraging words But most parents aren’t real and have this kooky idea that they have to be perfect and wouldn’t imagine saying I’m sorry to these little people that look to us for their inspiration to become their best I’ve failed but I told my sons I’m sorry and why I flipped out Talk with your children about what you think you know It’s your truth not everyone else’s truth They need all you can give them The communication is so important and will keep the doors open when life becomes too much for them They will search for you My son is I. California at this moment I don’t hear from him daily when he’s at home in his own apt but when he took off He txted me I suppose he needed to let me know he was taking off in case he was not coming home So you see the bond never breaks and I’m still his rock to touch base when he’s fearful as most are when that get on a plane with the idea of what if I had a hard time letting go but I have and it feels good to move on with my life That was another chapter completed My sons are grown

[@Love-sr3nk]

I AM ENOUGH. YOU ARE ENOUGH. WE ARE ALL ENOUGH. I love ALL of you! 1♡

[@ethioqueen5828]

Heather G ♥ ♥

[@cfdby4784]

❤❤❤

[@nidamukhtar8277]

Heather G and we love you!

[@MrBalor1176]

Heather G you're stoned, aren't you. Repete after me" It's enough"

[@jaymejibbs4305]

Love you too!

[@monp.4903]

Yup. Our issues from childhood will always come out in adulthood.

[@chee60]

And sometimes those issues make us want to commit suicide.

[@boomerangsruckflug8513]

Chee C, yes, so did I but I found self-love meditation which helps so much. If the childhood was bad we often suffer from a lack of self-love and acceptance. This goes hand in hand with our perfectionism which makes us feel even more guilty and full of shame. My favourite phrase written on my mirror says: "I love myself and I forgive myself all my mistakes".

[@chadwaldron6329]

Not if you grow up!

[@chee60]

Chad Waldron how about...ur an ass!

[@cessrcd]

Chee C, what Chad said is in many ways right, as because for many people who didn't get a childhood, in some ways although they go through the motions of being adult, they haven't grown up, I grew up some at 45, with two kids, after becoming a high functioning alcoholic, and then going bang...did rehab, but I was still struggling until one day somebody told me in a very appropriate way that I just need to grow up and adopt behaviours of being grown up and my life would improve...it did, I'm now 54, but still not as grown up as I should be. But I am a work in progress.

[@elisaelisa7849]

I can’t stop my tears when I said “I am enough” to myself

[@tectonicD]

elisa elisa YES YOU ARE!!! 😊

[@ABDULRAHMAN-ml6zn]

😄

[@henrylambert8621]

Hi Elisa you are a lovely looking lady you are enough ok

[@elisaelisa7849]

Henry Lambert thanks Henry 😊

[@Melody-yc7ck]

That sounds like a really good thing 💛

[@andresnieto37]

This left me drown in tears... I've fought with depression for many years due to the fact that my father abandoned me and that many times I was rejected in school by my classmates. All my girlfriends dumped me because I had depressive thoughts about myself and I acted like a teenager instead of a full grown man. The last break up has been the worst one of all, because she told me that I was noe enough for her and she has no future staying with me. This made me feel like shit, like I had no worth at all and that it all was my fault. And I've been beating myself up all this past days due to the guilt feeling and that I can't stop loving her. But it's time to accept it, to know that I deserve to be loved, that I deserve to love the wonderful man I am because I am worthy, and that I can be with any woman I want, because I AM ENOUGH for me, and for anyone else.

[@anthonytanner2343]

How’s your life going now?

[@terrycraig6386]

Any updates?

[@donnawoodford6641]

After yesterday's job interview, I felt like I failed, and had been bummed out ever since... until I heard this! I now feel free and happy bc I know that my well-being is not dependent upon that job or any job. My happiness comes from within. I just needed to be reminded of that. And I am so thankful I ended up here!

[@PurviGanvir]

Hey, Donna. Hope you're feeling better than ever before and of course, you're enough ❤️❤️

[@OnlyAnouk]

10 years of therapy and this lady couldve cured me within a day and save me all the drama and rubbish therapists! I will put a post it on all my mirrors and doors and bedside table and also a reminder on my phone. I AM ENOUGH!

[@uzoamakaanerobi9836]

I listened to one of her videos and in one hour I basically changed what 20 years of therapy did not. I am a totally new person now

[@1212LoveAgain]

@@uzoamakaanerobi9836 Pardon me , this video ? Or the video link below the video.

[@dre4505]

Did you stick with it ??

[@JustHindiFootball]

how are you now?

[@Hs5ab]

I did the same thing with my phone. 15 yrs of therapy and no one ever mentioned this. Really it's because they want you to keep coming back to pay them. I put it in front of me where ever i am. Post it to your glove box. Amazingly I AM ENOUGH.

[@amybestbiz1204]

She gets through to people because she believes what she says. She is enough for herself and every nuance she makes speaks this truth - her voice, expressions, body language, appearance, and aura. What a joy to learn from her. We are all gifted in many ways. Yes, we are all enough. Thank You Marisa for being enough for you and giving others a chance to see and hear that it is possible to be enough for ourselves as well.

[@catnipparlour9031]

I was never enough for my parents. Until I figured I was enough for me. They pushed me to a corporate career and I recovered only after I quit, now I paint, roam in nature and rescue animals. This saved my life... I celebrate every small success I have, every lousy painting and dew on leaves... 🍁 my small, precious life 💕

[@iamginaj]

Our childhood experiences definitely shapes our adult life. I AM Enough should be a daily mantra, morning-noon-evening. KNOW YOUR WORTH AND KNOW THAT YOU ARE ENOUGH.

[@melodiebrown8482]

Gina J. Amen

[@banishedfromthedwarfplanet530]

But that doesn't mean to stop trying to better yourself.

[@leonchalita2169]

@@banishedfromthedwarfplanet530 Only better yourself when you knw you're good enough, otherwise no amount of self-improvement will make you feel good enough

[@janevernalia5099]

I am enough, you are enough, the people I love, work with and especially those I struggle with, are all enough!

[@riteshshukla1709]

Jane Vernalia yeahhh

[@crct2004]

I used to find my mother trying to kill herself constantly as a child and then I became suicidal as an adult. When you said the part A child would say to themselves if I was enough why would she do this tears just rolled down my face, thank you so much for this!

[@boomerangsruckflug8513]

Christine Tuttle, I witness you with all my heart's compassion. You are not alone! 😍💮🐝

[@rosemarie999]

Hey Christine. I hope you respect yourself and turn your life around x

[@BreenyLee]

Hey Christine, You are enough! :)

[@crct2004]

Breeny Lee Thank you! ❤

[@crct2004]

Bunni Hugger Thank you!

[@yolandaw.1257]

I think part of why she is so helpful is because we need someone at some point validate us and help fill our live tanks. Positive affirmations do work so far, but having something validate it at some point and be consistent is really key if you ask me..

[@Mindvalley]

Yes! We always feel uplifted after hearing Marisa Peer talk, and remember, Yolanda, you are enough. ☺️ -- Max

[@aandm7772]

Sort of yeah but if you believe and feel that you are enough then you don't need outside validation.. and the more you continue to believe you are enough others will naturally give you that validation but it wont matter because you feel that you are enough already

[@cfdby4784]

Alana R ❤❤❤😍 thank you!

[@heba1975]

Yess... But to be honest.. If u get ur validation externally you will see urself mad at someone who doesn't give it to u... Or you will react violently to those who disagree with your life values... If u get a beautiful thing from external world one day u will get the opposite it is just a matter of time... I wonder ig we could get over the need for external validation so that we can no longer be angry when we dont get it..?

[@nancyteixeira8616]

@@aandm7772 Exactly. Thanks

[@shibaninair]

It's only been one day since I started repeating to myself "I am enough " and I am already feeling an unfamiliar surge of happiness and ease.. Thank you so much...looking forward to continuing back and updating the positive transformation I experience as a result of affirming I am enough.

[@zeenatbava5710]

Shibani Nair well said!

[@nyzahnewton7507]

So happy for you 💕💕💕

[@hermes.trismegistus616]

3 months now, how do you feel?

[@EmpressofChrist]

I also said to myself im enough it tear me the more i said it

[@judy7561]

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[@Psych-ewiz]

Amazing marissa. I'm a psychiatrist and while watching this video I thought the same from the beginning. You nailed it. You are brilliant. Thank you.

[@wenjingsaf]

Parental approval, feeling enough, being grateful not comparing to others, youre welcome.

[@helenpakdijaras7473]

wenjingsaf .

[@freyjawired8488]

So, walk it off? 😂

[@hlovewood5636]

In case you read this: You are enough! No doubt about it!

[@katyp855]

This can all be linked to attachment trauma. So many layers to this and this statement is the beginning. I've been using it with people for years. Words are powerful

[@believeandbeone9937]

This video is about two years old as I write this. I read some of the comments by viewers and so many of you have missed the point. Marisa isn't saying to tell kids or anybody that they are perfect. Kids and adults in our lives want to know one thing. We love them unconditionally. That's what she means when she says "you're enough". You have to let kids know that they are not perfect and that everything they do is not right. They have to know that they have to take responsibility for their actions but you will always love them no matter what. Then they have respect for you. They are loved no matter what. They are enough. Even though they make mistakes. They are still loved. That's all we all want. I am enough and I am love. And I can love myself. Because I am enough!!! Peace be with you!!!

[@user-we7go7ed3l]

Hearing a therapist tell me that directly and now hearing Marisa Peer too. I cried the first time someone told me directly.

[@Chatoyancify]

I was raised to know I'm enough. But what's key is the deeper understanding that everyone is enough. Thinking I'm enough doesn't make sense to me without "everyone is enough." I treat people knowing they are enough because I know to my core that I am - that we all are.

[@user-ee5om8wy7u]

This is what we want to hear all our life from our parents - "you are enough, son/daughter." But we never hear until we become obcessed with proving our worth and earning our acceptance and get depressed as we never can reach that goal. We need to realize that we have to say it to ourselves and not wait for anyone to tell it to us. And then we can understand that we can accept ourselves with no need for approval from someone else because why do we need someone else if our Self(ME) is ENOUGH already?

[@deniseharvey5038]

💕💕💕

[@BriaBarrows]

Facts. This type of affirmation from a mother is everything

[@meredith3588]

Thank you, we all need to hear this ! This becomes intrinsic in the first 5 years when parents make children feel secure, loved and accepted. Rather than having to cure it in the future, lets prevent it from happening.

[@zuleyhakol2464]

Marisa, I have been watching your videos for three days and have never felt better in my life. Thank you so much. I feel like my world is changing. 🌈

[@Youeo203]

Needed this today. Thank you. 💛

[@Mindvalley]

We needed it too! You're welcome, Durell. More inspiring and transformational content coming your way! -- Max

[@elkaydoug8863]

You are enough Durell

[@karishort1891]

I stopped half way through the video to set my alarm to tell me that I'm ENOUGH 💘 THANK YOU 🙏

[@sprintwithcarlos]

Absolutely true, I love Marisa because she helped me to get out of a very dark stage of my life

[@rossykhongsai8665]

This is so beautiful. I had the same experience with my life. When I was young my father doesn't love me like he loves my sister and as I grew older I started attracting older man. I feel terrible but I realize this that I was not enough. Now I am enough. Thank you Marisa for this life changing words.

[@oviaelectronica]

Thank you for sharing this. The real power of working with people like this, is not really the affirmations or any "fake it,´till you make it"-approach. It is in the meeting with another human being, that looks at you and can honestly say "there is nothing wrong with you, you are 100% OK and enough". People can feel the truth of that within them, it is not just a new more useful belief. It simply resonates at a very deep level as being true. We can suffer all kinds of horrible thoughts/feelings, but that is not what we are. The negative thoughts , feelings and beliefs are just like dark clouds in the mind, but when we see (feel) that we are not those, but instead the clear blue sky behind, it is obvious that we are enough and not broken. And it is not a personal thing, it is simply a human thing - that is what is so powerful about working with people in this way (just my experience :).

[@pinantung23]

My tears can fill up a cup listening to her. No one has ever told me that phrase despite all the meetings with different psychologists. It was really like a magic that this video popped up on KZbin video recommendation when I was resting, contemplating and thinking what's wrong with me. Thanks Marisa.

[@varstar1732]

I randomly clicked on this and it was just what I needed. I'm going to give it a go.

[@HannaZus]

Before I discovered Marissa , and the i am enough movement... my relationships were based on the false premise that my significant other was doing me a favor, by being with me. In other words I believed I wasn’t enough. Now I know I am enough I’ve always been enough I will always be enough ❤️

[@krishnav2108]

Thank you for this... I broke into tears while watching this video. Finally realized why my life is fundamentally the way it is... Thank you MindValley

[@rolandbraj5904]

I know what you are saying, it happened to me aswell.

[@powercatsp]

I'd come across the idea of telling myself-- there is enough. In the sense of sleeping-- I've had enough rest/sleep. There is enough time. There is enough to go around. And I had seen a few "I am enough" scripts on nice backgrounds but I didn't realize it came from here. Thank you for extending the idea of "enough" to the self. I appreciate it.

[@kimhay5185]

This should be taught in high school, thank you so much, cheers

[@KamalasNotLikeUs]

Yeah, why don't we lump more responsibility on teachers' plates?!! How about the people who SHOULD be responsible for their ejaculate teach Little Timmy themselves, or are we still absolving the people who create their own mess?

[@simplyfrancois]

School is where you learn that you're not enough! Because of your grades, of what other kids have that you don't, of the friend you don't make, of your performance in sports etc .

[@pegasus5148]

@@simplyfrancois Teachers can be covert abusers.

[@jacquelineglitter4328]

I just went to counseling again and she told me I'm a good person. It changed my mindset after the other day. My aunt said something like that awhile back. Words can make or break you.

[@sagitteaius]

This is such an important thing to learn. Would be great for this to be taught in schools.

[@suzanilindiwekaira9571]

I am enough over and over again thank you so.

[@beverleyroberts1025]

I think it's sad that quite often they way you've been unfairly treated as a child is then the way you go on treat your children. We all need to feel happy with who we are, and value ourselves as this forms the basis of every relationship you will have in your life, work, family, partners. We all have strengths and we all have weaknesses, and comparing yourself to someone else, you actually might have something in you that they don't have. Everyone deserves to be loved, and parents sometimes make mistakes. But loving and valuing yourself are the keys to contentment and happiness 😄

[@localasbestosremoval8392]

I think what Marrisa does is change our internal voice which normally is programed by our parents or caregivers, she has such a validating energy, which all parents n care givers should give to there kids who will eventually turn into adults.... Great work M

[@EuropopTop]

I’ve been studying and practising self help since my 20s and sadly affirmations haven’t reversed my thinking permanently . They provide a temporary boost but my experience is while we are attached to our egos we will always have to deal with challenging thoughts that pop up. It’s just the way it is no matter what quick fixes are put out there imo

[@janiceperez9538]

Agree

[@Laura-we6xi]

Im not sure if affirmations work sometimes I think NOOO but I didnt spend a great amount of time to atest that but I know what truly changes your mind it's turning the belief from true to a lie.For example you think the world onlt sucks then you start to find evidences that prove you are wrong.Once vour mind stop beliving you see change.Its like if you have a belief that you only gonna be happy if you are rich then you find evidence that a lot of people have money and aint happy at all therefore your brain stop the madness around money.It works for pretty much anything but it's hard with our beliefs about ourselves cuz we reinforced that belief so much that it seems to be a feeling..a part of us that cannot be changed.Like I wrote a story about myself that I was a girl that didnt fit in now I need to rewrite this story and show to my belief that this was only a distortion Ive made when I was young.

[@Laura-we6xi]

What story your wrote for yourself?Which lies you told to yourself when you were a kid?Which lies someone told vou "you are dumb" "you are weird" that you accepted and wrote on the story vou tell about yourself?I think the problem of not knowing ourselves is that people tell us what we are (dumb/weird/stupid) and we believe them and that twisted ideas becomes our self-image When you know who you are though you can ask yourself: "it's that true"? and you discard if its a lie before it enters vou mind and becomes a belief.They say that it's not the offense that bothers us but the part of our mind that agrees with that offense.

[@SaimaKhan-dg8jp]

Then u should really turn to meditation and open up ur chakras!!!

[@llkiii3139]

I agree that those who work at acquiring a set of tools and who practice ways to use them will respond more effectively to the challenges faced over their lives. This is compared to those who use an affirmative mantra in a way that prevents learning enough different tools and techniques to adapt to new challenges. Also there are people who work at building some sort of overarching model/framework/philosophy with guiding principals but also a responsive feedback loop to integrate new info that drives improvements to the model. Imo, people who actively work at doing that will live their lives in a more fulfilling way than if they do not.

[@Dr.Achuth_india]

Am in tears ,you know You're right,think it all the time, I even got into self help, reading , finding mentors online, because I felt I was not good enough, because I got low grades in school,lost in competitions,I was fat from my age of 4.

[@Sheilamaizi]

I'm surprised that these depressed hurt people were so willing to say, "I'm enough". When I'm hurting there is no willingness to say this. I'm surprised that she got no resistance at all. This was too easy!!!! I'm not saying that it doesn't work. It just seemed too easy.

[@blackfishgaming7145]

agreed

[@101mahina]

Well... When you hit that low or what she's saying truly resonates with you, you'd be willing to change.

[@Sheilamaizi]

I guess. Be well.

[@Sheilamaizi]

I have been changing. It has taken years and a willingness to look into myself learning to love and accept who I am. I had a lot of anger in me and have learned that it doesn't work to be that way. That love is the answer. However, this did not happen over night. Also, I'm not done learning. Things come up all the time. What she is saying absolutely resonates with me. All I'm saying is that I found it hard to believe that all she had to say was "I'm enough" and they just healed from that. For me, it would START the healing process.

[@MrAnperm]

I’m sure there was more to the talks she had with these people, but that 3 word phrase is the thrust of it.

[@lindacamarata3592]

Marisa Peer you are an angel from heaven ...I love you for your goodness and sharing your knowledge...I wish I had 10k to take your class here in LA this year...I am saying the 3 words ...and feel my life time of a raw wounded soul is finding at strength to rise up...

[@sakurasepuku4374]

Saying "I am enough" sounds good thing, but if someone does not understand the meaning, will it work? What is it like being enough? what does it mean? Does it mean different things for each person?

[@Aristocrafied]

Wow what a powerful statement. This video already moved me but.. I could barely hold in my tears when I said it to myself.

[@kirankaurz]

Thanku. Will try it. I really have no shoulder to cry on.

[@Mindvalley]

We can be your shoulder, Ok Zzz, but remember, you are enough. We believe it. -- Max

[@juliebutler8241]

Yes you do...Jesus died for you because you are priceless to Him. If your heavenly Father is the King, then that makes you a prince. And you didnt even know it. Now believe in Him, and take your place in this world. No better, no less than everybody else...equal. Ask for forgiveness for your sins, and your soul will live beyond this life into next, in the presence of our loving Father. Read the bible to get to know Him and the life He has for you. He turned my life around, healed my insecurities and gave me a future to look forward to. Our identity lies with the One who created us. Not with anyone else. He tells us who we are. You ARE enough, and you are LOVED.

[@silviavazquez9485]

Ok. Zzz. YOU are beautiful... Be strong!

[@kirankaurz]

silvia vazquez thank u. But nobody else in my life ever said that inspite of so many compromises made

[@kirankaurz]

Julie Butler thanku so much

[@j.goggels9115]

9 minutes and I've HAD enough. She's very good at self-talk isn't she?

[@dankonesovic8437]

I am enough, enough with my heavenly Father.

[@nathalie5238]

Thank you!!! I did it! Putting sticky notes on my walls... I believe it now!!! I am enough 😊 Still a long road to go... I am not there yet still improving. But thanks to you I am on the right track!

[@sirinedao894]

One of the best messages I have ever heard. Thank you

[@robbykidman]

i’ve been following marissa peers talks for days now and i just cant get enough of her ;)

[@jordansimpson9519]

I'm gonna do this, "I'm enough" for awhile and find out what happens.

[@Mindvalley]

Let us know what happens, Jordan! -- Max

[@rashaessam9426]

What happen? I want to start today

[@loki112000]

Anything happened yet?

[@rashaessam9426]

I began to feel that "i am really enough" Take the step and try to feel it

[@imbrakingthrough2152]

mark crocker ...he got fired 😆😂

[@victoriatebeest2676]

I'm enough and very deserving to receive what I need and some things I want, as there is a difference. I'm extremely abundant with or without anyone or thing in this universe.

[@magzsara9892]

If we persist in dragging a miserable past with us there is no reason why we should feel happy. Start today and tell yourself you had a wonderful childhood with two wonderful parents. God's gift is the imagination.........use it. Our inner self is pure happiness and joy so meditate and connect with the inner self. We have to go to it, it cannot come to us as we are not consistent and it's always waiting..Happiness is living right inside us we have just pinched off the connection.

[@angelanicholson951]

You've just helped me. A sobbing cry just rose from deep within, it's been there my whole life, and I've covered it with over optimism and "pull your socks up", while always seeking for that item of pure luxury (well, luxury to me) that will make me complete, be like others', be normal. I buy, i have one aim for that "thing" i need to buy next, i hoard, i fear being without, but the emptiness never goes away. I perform, i dread, i hate performing, but i was the source of so many people's anger for being born. They've blamed me, and i tried to make then happy, but it was impossible. Nothing i did was ever enough. I was never enough! Never enough!! I tried so hard. I gave up my happiness because it was my fault. I deserved their anger. I ruined everything. I'm alone now. I stay away even more than before, when i knew i wasn't wanted at family occasions, so worked harder to have an excuse, and worked even harder to keep me from going home to the constant abuses of many kinds. Working hard was my worth. And taking their anger and blame. They never stop wanting me to pay. They lured me there for one thing, to abuse me together every way they could. Small ways, big ways, any way. It's ruled my life, so i stay away now. They are entitled to abuse me. They even said it. They believe it. They try to get me back sometimes, so they can continue their anger. I know, because i went back for a short moment many times, but they soon started after luring me back to the place they need me to be. I like alone. It's easier. People don't understand. No one knows how much i need it. I see the hoarding and get rid of it to charities every so often, only to start again after telling myself not to ever do it again. New things never used, enjoyed or touched. A waste of money, and i know they are not what i would choose to buy. I've tried to find help sometimes, but I'm always told others' have far worse. I already know that, though. Or say i am not normal and have to take meds for mental illness, while telling me i am highly intellegent and have a profound understanding of the situation and how family are. Yet, they, the "experts" don't understand, and clearly medicate for an easy cop-out and their ego or limitations. I hated taking up their time. The feeling of loss never leaves me. I like soft lullabies and the simplicity of baby songs and programmes playing in the background. But i know now. You said the words. How do i stop a lifetime of being what i never truly was? Six decades. Just to know is maybe all i need. Thank you for saying I, and everyone, is enough, Marisa. It feels wierd. I've just subscribed.

[@TRIBECHIEFTAIN]

⛔ Mindset really is everything 🔴⚫‼. In times of struggle, or just in life in general, we are faced with two choices: let life consume you, or consume your life. This may sound like an odd statement at first, so I will break it down for you in simpler terms. Imagine that you are on a tropical vacation holiday, and the weather just isn't going the way you planned on it going. Instead of being sunny and beautiful beach weather, it is raining the whole trip. While this may be a not so great situation, you have two choices: you can either stay in your hotel room and complain about the weather all day, or you can go the beach and explore what the place has to offer, despite the rain. After all, your family paid all this money to go away, and you took a whole flight to get here, right? 🦁👏🏾 From Paul 👊🏾💪🏾👍🏾

[@mayl2773]

I love the last bit. I'm getting so annoyed when asked "how does that make you feel?" Obviously, I am feeling sad, frustrated, upset etc. I don't feel like I need to define it, it doesn't help me in any way. I need someone to get to the root of my problem and offer me solutions. Thanks for calling that out. I'm going to do this. I'm going to tell myself I am enough :)

[@roxy6507]

It's very important to follow her advice after watching her videos for example writing I'M ENOUGH on your bathroom mirror, your phone ect. ❤💚💛💖 BECAUSE YOU'RE ENOUGH

[@Mindvalley]

Let's do this together, Roxy! -- Max

[@katyp855]

Perhaps you can find YOUR version of this statement that will work with your Aspergers. Use YOUR language.🙂

[@llauac]

Just thinking about I am enough already make me happy……I can feel I am smiling

[@Inkdraft]

oh wow! When she says that the psychiatrist told her it was so depressing because he had worked with the girl for 4 years and got nowhere and then Marisa worked with her for a short time and the girl recovered it so resonated with me. I've worked in the mental health field for years and I've always questioned a process that keeps patients trapped in a loop. After many years it seemed to me that the whole system was a just a cash cow for the mental health field and the pharmaceutical companies.

[@sonofhibbs4425]

Of course it is. They take over where you were left, with no real intentions to heal you, otherwise who is going to pay their bills? Biggest scam is this: If you accept you have a mental disorder, continually routinely question yourself over and over, reinforce those thoughts by taking “medicine” for it and see a doctor regularly who also believes with you that your are mentally deficient, how the fuck WOULD you ever heal from it? You will never ever get better, because the idea is (and with diagnosis it’s set in legit stone now) always always always implanted in your mind and will continually be a source of self doubt. You’ll then be fodder to just be content and settle for “management”, when the jokes on you because that’s all ANYONE does in life, with life problems. - manages them. And we all have them and we all cope to manage them- why do you need a fucking label, or be stamped officially by some “doctor” to be eternally weighed down by it? Just that someone convinced you that you weren’t enough, and you’ll accept it, most likely that was what brought you there to a psych! Now, I wonder why they would do that? *sarcasm*. And why people DON’T ever actually heal from “mental illness”. ITS A BELIEF SYSTEM. Like how it’s fashion now to excuse a person’s suicide “because” they had “mental illness”- NO! They committed suicide because they felt they had no hope, because they believed (and got officially stamped by a “doctor” in society as being deficient) that there something wrong with them and they weren’t enough!. Hmmmmmm. Emporor’s New Clothes.

[@katibarth4394]

Hej that is very lovely of you helping people solve their basic problems. I wish there would be more people like you on earth. I love that.

[@tinasong5582]

LOVE, LOVE, LOVE Marisa Peer!!!!! I AM ENOUGH!!!

[@jordansimpson9519]

amazes me how many got it made and yet they're miserable

[@Mindvalley]

That's why believing we are enough is so important. ☺️ Let's remind each other and more people of that. -- Max

[@pattycake8272]

Jordan Simpson I am one you speak of. I think for me it's a brain disorder, I have more than I need with exceptions of a few minor things in life that don't go ones way, or like my car breaking down every now and than, but I have a mechanic and money in the bank to fix it up, so far just enough, I have two great young adult kids and a great boyfriend. I don't have friends cuz I don't want them, I have full control, but something in my head tells me to kill myself, I could walk out my door right now and do it. I figure I would go to the cematary and hang myself. I don't know why and feeling this way is my only fight I have at this moment. My angels fight the demands in my head not to often but to many times and I hope they don't let me go. To me I'm enough would just be a lie my brain thinks it's telling it self, I'm a touchy one when it comes to "lies".

[@jacobjorgenson9285]

You are confusing your idea of “ got it made” with reality. I had a business, Rolex watch , the lot, two businesses, one in London, one in NYC.........still took my 20 years to get it right.

[@ChristaBello]

Yes, I agree with you Marisa Peer, we are enough. Everything we could ever need is actually inside of us, we only need to love and unravel 'us'.

[@souhirchouikha3878]

millions of thumbs up Marisa- I am enough- You're awesome x

[@JoshuaAlbury]

One of the better videos I’ve ever watched

[@Boogernaught]

I think I’m enough. Can’t convince my parents though.

[@AMcDub0708]

miss nomer Your parents opinion of you has less to do with you than it does with them. Their opinion of you is a reflection of themselves.

[@SabrinaDacosta]

Me neither. Not that I ever tried to convince my Mom. Always knew it was a lost cause there lol. I think I am enough therefore i am enough. Do not care what she thinks. Truth of the matter is she was the one who was not enough of a mother or amounted to anything in life. So, she projects her own self-hatred onto me

[@laurenpaterson3475]

You have to not worry about what they think they were there to bring u up let that time go and move on

[@Titina7183]

The most important person to know it it's yourself 😊

[@buck8ab]

Lol

[@cpunykurde]

I did this for around 40 days after watching this video. I was very motivated and optimistic. The result? Unfortunately - not much. I felt a bit deceived after putting so much effort and energy after the promise in this video. And nothing changed. I guess human inner wounds are not that simple. Luckily afterwards I have found other ways to feel more worthy.

[@Goddesskc11]

Thank you for this. I Am Enough!!

[@sakurasepuku4374]

Ok, she wins me with her final comments about it, indeed, I support now.

[@jackjackson3356]

Marissa is telling us about people who have it all but don't feel enough ! What about those who feel more than enough and have nothing !

[@pauls6043]

She doesn't care about poor people

[@Kerrviii]

She’s reading my mind.. I’m crying so hard.

[@nicolecarter789]

Thank you so much Mindvalley, that was exceptionally AWESOME. 😍😀❤️😊. Love Marisa Peer, such a wonderful woman. Thank you once again for an amazing KZbin channel. ❤️❤️❤️.

[@Mindvalley]

Our KZbin community is awesome because of each and every one of you. You rock, nicole carter! -- Max

[@aprilalt8806]

I always feel I can do better than I'm doing. Slowness and tardiness seem to be a problem. I really don't feel good enough at living life, balancing everything, being the best parent, wife, and strong, fast, smart, efficient human being.

[@mel_mordecai]

I'm sure that censor was worth all the damage you did to those who use headphones. They are not only saved from hearing that vile, disgusting word but anything at all from now on. On the other hand, Marisa did a wonderful job making everyone realize this life changing root of all insecurities. But of course, censoring such a disgusting word comes before anything else.

[@anshul_himself]

hahahahaha. I love you man. You are more than enough. Thanks for making my day.

[@stagnantfox3027]

??? It's a word. Not a demon.

[@patriciag9462]

You are just the best Marisa ! With all my love an gratitude 🙏❤

[@emosag]

If you’re suffering attachment trauma check out Lisa Romano, she is very helpful for these issues!

[@dc1674]

Inadequecy is an important driver. As she mentioned, it makes us always want to be better. if we convince ourselves that "we are enough", then we are removing that motivation and drive. I, personally, am NOT enough. I never will be and I hope I never am. I choose to strive to be better every day, not just settle. Contentment can be a dangerous thing.

[@aylins.6992]

But sometimes feeling not enough drives you seek more, to learn more, to read more .. at least that's the case with me :)

[@stefanotano4639]

youcantfind me Totally agree in regards to staying motivated. However, you’re misunderstanding the message.

[@tiffianyb5958]

That's just the (Universe/Inner Being/God Force) pushing you right along to Your alignment, your truth, your love, your peace, your unhinged JOY.. even pushed you to this you tube video:-)

[@JillBollmanPMOrganizing]

I am a peer support specialist family/youth partner in San Diego ca. I have my own dealings, lived experiences to which I remind myself throughout each day that I AM ENOUGH! I am transparent with my clients and implemented the "I am ENOUGH" technique and it is 100% effective. I help others "feel" their whole self. I work with them to "change their blueprint" because they ARE ENOUGH. I am also making a movement of education and anti-stigma by the implementation of NOT asking those who don't feel enough "what's WRONG WITH you?", instead ask "what happened TO you?" It makes a difference. I wish I had someone ask me that when my emotional turmoil began after the death of my mom and long-time sexual abuse by my step-father at age 7. (now 51) Hmmph! Thank you Marisa PEER (love your last name) for your genuine compassion in the human spirit. I'd love to meet you one day! ...and so it is!

[@4120306]

Not antagonizing. Just asking. Wouldn't this impair the urge to improve and progress? I find satisfaction in the improvement of the quality of my work. And the improvements were possible because I myself have improved. And so I often find myself grinning every time I say "not good enough". Because it means I'm up for another round of satisfaction. I actually find the words "good enough" unsettling. Even belittling. "How's my cooking" I asked. And she replies "it's good enough". I'm not sure what I should do with that.

[@Sblljcb]

Just because you believe your are enough, it doesn't mean you can't be better

[@jillianguilford5191]

What if believing one was enough could give energy and allow the motivation to do more to be activated. The other way causes blocks and wastes energy and time doing things that are unneccessary. Because when one believes one is not enough, one keeps unconsciously to prove that it's true, instead of the cruel lie it actually is.

[@4120306]

@@jillianguilford5191 Thanks Jillian. Much appreciate your input. Can't hurt to try out this mentality. And so I will.

[@Chatoyancify]

There are those who tie their identity to goals and challenges so when they fail--and we all fail now and then--they regard themselves as global failures. It's not a matter of practice anymore since they regard it as a personal innate flaw without remedy. "I was not meant to be artist, I guess." If you believe you are enough, you do not use failures and successes to evaluate your worth.

[@MyRachelh]

She is just magical!

[@yeyisco]

I am able to do all things through the one who strengthens me. Philippians 4:13. Who is Him? Jesus!

[@Kyrmana]

This video made me think and I realized I believe I'm not worthy of attention. Many things are starting to make sense now...

[@missygold9315]

For all the people saying that it's not possible to say I'm enough and get better . Let me explain none of these people were healed over night that's why she had them right it everywhere in there house car phone etc. Because if you repeat something over and over and over it will be who you become which in this case would mean that they are enough . Just like if you keep telling urself I'm sick I'm really sick over and over you will actually become sick you ever heard the saying you have life and death on ur tongue it's true because if you always constantly thinking negative thoughts that is how ur life will be but if you think positive thoughts ur a much happier person I suffer with manic depression and alot more and I can't keep saying the words I need to fix my brain I know it can be done I am just looking for help on here on how to let things go how to get out of bed and force myself to do something I'm going through a really rough time right now and I have been in my bed for over 3 months I am so bad right now I'm to depressed to even get out my bed to go to my Drs appointments and I won't go into detail are I'll be here all night but I have been through a lot from childhood to now and I don't want to be this way anymore but I don't know how to fix myself because I go way further than I am enough . But everyone you are enough try to smile and stay positive I love all of y'all I can give amazing advice I have actually helped many people but the sad part is I can't help myself

[@ladybyrd215]

Get out that bed and walk for 10 min daily no matter what the weather is or temperature. As you walk think about somethings your grateful for and pray.

[@britneycampbell7486]

Your words are so true. And for 1, I'm like you. A great motivator to others who in turn have a hard time motivating myself. Just like you, I have days that I don't want to get up out of bed or go to work or talk to anyone. I just wanna sulk. But then I remember I have a purpose. And you're right. It runs deeper than "You are enough". What I see that "Lisa Nichols" another motivational speaker did, is she said these 3 statements: "I forgive you for....." (and she did 7 diff statements-the same statements for 6 mo) "I'm proud of you that..." (and she did 7 diff statements-the same statements for 6 mo) "I commit to you that..." and she did 7 diff statements-the same statements for 6 mo) Try it and see if it works for you

[@sonofhibbs4425]

If you keep saying to yourself you have a mental disorder, how the hell will you ever heal from it?

[@FOURTEEFIVE]

MISSY gold Look into something named TRMS it has 40 percent remission rate for depression

[@shumailamunir9861]

I am enough..things who broke me up are kind of my armor now...I wouldnt be watching this video I didn feel that I am not good enough...thankyou

[@macdy9182]

Was listening intently on headset and then that bleep went on. Stop using it please.

[@Cerafima]

Wow, that bleep was deafening enough even without the headset. I feel for you!

[@baxworld]

I was born with 3 fingers on my right hand and 4 on my left. My dad was killed in a car accident when I was 3yrs old. I have never had self confidence. I have always been "different" As an adult I keep waiting for something to click. Like I will wake up and be and act like a normal person. But as a 50 yr old man my lack of confidence seems to have gotten worse. I can't speak my truth even though I know I must in order to grow.

[@tyrdunbar]

I never idolized my parents. Dad was in and out if jail and my mom did her best to raise 5 kids but she played favorites and was always angry so all we ever did was argue. What does that mean psychology for me? An identity crisis :(

[@berly9397]

Lost guy, Why do you have an identity crisis? Do you mean that you are not sure if you are the son of a criminal or the son of a bitchy mother, or that you can't tell what is your self worth? and why are you lost? what can you do to find your path?

[@clarissejones9353]

I have just learned About you from my natural remedies the doctor I have been kind myself I am enogh for the past two days And I feel completely different than I did when I walked into his office. Five years ago I worked with the psychologist after four visits made me realize That I believed I was not good enough. After I had other thoughts words he pointed out that is what your problem is and told me that we can get somewhere. But after seeing this video I will work my darndest to keep up this good work and share with all I know

[@lindamiliana6053]

What about the guy who sold his Porsche and went fishing in Iceland... please explain how is that a normal life. The guy was living in a mansion and had prestige cars...how’s that normal.

[@martinet1985]

Linda miliana There you go...

[@MsBettyRubble]

It's Beverly Hills. That's normal there. It's all relative.

[@eunicenasimiyu4256]

I feel so lucky to have you, thank you so much, I'M ENOUGH 💪

[@dandannyt4432]

yes great talk...but the stunning outfit..very nice

[@Mindvalley]

Everything about Marisa Peer is stunning, as well as you, dan. You're awesome! -- Max

[@kimberleybarrett6752]

LEGEND so much Love for this Lady!!!!!!!

[@bibilove6277]

In what part of America does a nurse and a construction worker live in a trailer-park and are broke.

[@ananda_miaoyin]

An LVN in a shit town with a semi employed drywaller....yeah...Anytown, USA.

[@bibilove6277]

I am a nurse and have been with my husband through thick and thin. This last recession my husband lost his job. As a nurse I was able to pick up extra shifts as he was a stay at home dad for 7 months. If you are willing to work, a nurse will find work anywhere. If you are a nurse and are not making at least 70 you’re in the wrong city. You have to live within your means. If it’s not working in one area, then move, you’re not a tree.

[@behringer29]

California

[@leoradavenport2569]

Bibi Love the south!

[@janethockey9070]

Back in the 1960s nurses got paid like shit

[@chocolatechick729]

Her voice is so sweet and smooth

[@neilpiper9889]

Louise Hay said it's because we are undeserving in the 1980s. Nothing new here. Still true though.

[@essentiallythis9249]

Do you mean she 'said in the 80s that we're undeserving'?

[@anewagora]

One of the biggest tricks in pop psychology or when the average person misunderstands a new psychological philosophy, is the difference between blind positivity and observation. It's the difference between a suffering, miserable person saying "I am beautiful" to themselves, and "It's okay to be ugly". Shame is abusive and toxic, it creates more of the conflict that causes the problems- this is to say, shame is the cause, not the solution. And that being said, it's okay to feel shame, it just has certain affects, and leads to different outcomes than some people (authoritarians) believe.