Why are Koreans Unhappy

[@ABC-ix1ny]

한국에서 나고 자라며 종종 아직도 내가 어떤 사람인지, 뭘 좋아하는지, 그리고 내 생각을 말로 표현하기가 어렵다고 느낄 때가 있는데, 어릴 때부터 받아 온 교육 영향도 있겠다는 생각이 들었어요. 좋은 영상 감사합니다!

[@mariamyibowei9876]

Can I be your friend😊

[@nirathiruvasagam9158]

True. Because crazy studies is the most well known factor world wide. Because of high academic competition there is also extreme bullying. I did not know how extreme it was till I saw the Glory. Wow! I am very happy in UK as its a very balanced life.

[@nirathiruvasagam9158]

@@mariamyibowei9876 yes

[@dylantech]

저는 한국에서의 시간을 사랑하지만 외국인이기 때문에 한국인을 묶어주는 기대 없이 우주에서 살 수 있습니다. 서울에 살고 싶은 마음은 없지만 부산을 온전히 포용합니다. 한국인이 아니기 때문에 일반 한국인의 마음을 제한하는 가정과 제약에 대해 자유로운 시각을 가지고 있습니다. 대부분의 한국인에게 제한되지 않는 공간에서 살 수 있기 때문입니다. 한국 문화를 크게 존중하지만, 한국인은 이렇게 하기 때문에 어리석은 짓을 해야 한다는 말을 들으면 항상 "하지만 나는 한국인이 아니다"라고 말할 수 있습니다. 당연히 한국인은 이렇게 말할 수 없습니다. 사회적 기대에 도전할 의향이 있는 한국인은 거의 없지만, 사회의 불가능한 기준을 맞추려는 일반 한국인보다 일반적으로 더 만족하는 것을 보았습니다. '헬조선'의 정신은 감옥이지만 정신적인 것일 뿐입니다. 열쇠를 쥐고 나면 문을 열고 밖으로 나가 신선한 공기를 마실 수 있습니다. 김 선수를 따라잡는 것은 쥐 경주, 어쩌면 '오징어 게임'일 수도 있습니다. 게임에 참여해서 이기려고 하거나 전제를 거부하고 규칙에 따라 게임하기를 거부할 수도 있습니다. 스스로 규칙을 만들고 게임을 하면 더 만족할 수 있다는 것을 이해하는 한국인은 너무 적습니다. 예전 방식도 중요했지만 그 유용성이 만료되어 이제는 책임이 되었습니다. 문제를 해결하려면 혁명가가가가 되어야 하지만, 선을 넘는 사람들을 위협하는 사회적 처벌을 두려워하며 사는 모든 사람에게 어려운 과제입니다. 두려움은 당신을 감옥에 가두는 정신적 살인자입니다. 자유로워지기 위해서는 두려움 없이 기꺼이 위험을 감수해야 합니다. 충분한 사람들이 이렇게 하면 사회를 진화시키고 긍정적인 변화를 만들 수 있습니다. 저는 한국인이 집단적으로 의도하는 모든 것을 할 수 있다고 믿습니다. 변화는 무섭지만 용기는 전염성이 있습니다. 지금은 더 용감한 사람들이 필요합니다. 그들을 찾을 수 있다면 방향을 바꾸고 현재 밤의 어둠에 가려진 밝은 내일을 확보할 수 있습니다. 별을 따라가고 곧 태양이 떠오를 것입니다.

[@barbaraoliveira6454]

I loved your analysis on Korean people. Hoping that this consciousness can bring, at least some of them, into a happier life. Loved the way you saw these issues.

[@mimimi5656]

I'm korean american and i absolutely agreed with everything you said. You hit the mark. Thank you for vocalizing this.

[@MatchaJazmin]

I was in SK for only a month, but in that span of time I could sense the immense loneliness there. I could see that others wanted something more meaningful, but for some reason, they’re too afraid to be vulnerable or rejected. They save themselves by all the distractions they have.

[@patriciajackson6285]

Exactly, well said. South Koreans are very private people, and find it hard to trust, no matter who you are. Now, you have over half the country not wanting marriage or children. How do they expect to populate their country. This alone is very said and considered selfish.😢

[@5starliving]

@@MatchaJazmin 💔😭

[@jenniferrassart3054]

They save themselves? You mean they numb themselves.... It's a coping mechanism to flee in other things to numb your feelings and to forget everything for a while...

[@Nadeeyahh]

I truly have never seen a well developed country in this modern day and age that is keeling themselves by themselves and refuse to change how things are.

[@LeicelCarmelo]

The youth of today’s generation is a big change from the generation of our ancestors. Back then when you’re in your mid’s 20’s you could get married and then the wife should stay at home and the husband would work and provide for his family. Now they put their career first and fulfill all their desires in life before setting down. I’m young but I like the old ways of generation because most of the youth are respectful to the elders and especially to their parents. And the young girls, woman are careful about themselves. 🌻💛👩🏻‍🦰

[@bottomethgear9622]

Bro I'm currently almost 1 year in as a gradstud in SK. I felt everything that you mentioned. The isolation, depersonalization, lack of touch in nature, etc. Plus the fact that we're underpaid and the (comparably) more competitive learning/working culture. Felt really bad lately without knowing the exact reason until you brought this. I can't even bring myself up to work and study even though I have finals coming up. I even felt like I lost my goals/reason on pursuing the degree. Glad I'm not the only one who felt this way.

[@rebekah1362]

I hope things get better for you soon.

[@5starliving]

😢❤be strong, and most important DO what makes you happy. We only live once!

[@SamJones01011]

❤️🫂❤️

[@BMaria.Monica]

I think is because a part of us get isoled or been in izolation! We need to understand we are not the body , or our throughts , we are more than that! The body is transgenerațional, imagine inside you are all the ancestors, with Life they had, Sandness or happy ness , good or bad…. Are just our point of view , because we see reality throught their Own eyes ! So ask yourself always …HOw Am I? You will see all change bcs you are not the mind or the throughts You are The Body of light and love ! Just observe and search .. who had this feelings? Maybe your mom or dad have same feeling and they uncharge them in your field! Just observe! Peace and Love! I love me I love you ! ❤ Is a mantra 🥰because we are all ONE!

[@cassialeme3334]

Olá como está você? Não te conheço mas espero que tenha forças renovadas, bom ânimo e coragem para seguir em frente. Deus te abençoe sempre e que você não desista 🙏 Coragem é sinônimo de pessoas fortes e com fé. Tenha bom ânimo. Sucesso.

[@encapseoulate]

A Korean friend of mine that lives in Sydney said how much of a pain it was whenever he visited Korea was that he simply couldn't get all of his friends one venue because they're all separated by peer groups: middle school, high school, university and army mates. Age also plays a huge factor in how people socialise in Korea. I struggled with this over my entire 17 years in Korea, which led to me eventually leaving the country a year ago. Koreans are OBSESSED with labelling and putting themselves into boxes.

[@5starliving]

So sad😓😭❤️

[@hilp1993]

Koreans respect hierarchy and all labels and boxes that emanates from power. Capitalist power is ruinous. They allow media and respect for out of date and demeaning civilities to define their lives. The individual should not get lost in collective unity.

[@chrislisenby2681]

Agree, age is so important to them bc they immediately want to establiish a hierarchy. You don't need age bc a hierachy will naturally establish in a social enviorment.

[@Splexsychiick]

Why would a army person want to hang put with middle schoolers? Same for university students and middle schoolers. Unless there is a bridge for the gap it's kind of weird. E.g. it's not weird if the older person has younger siblings and they all becomes friends. So it's like having more older role models and younger sibling type people relationship. Age as a barrier makes sense. Adults it's less restrictive. Like a 20 year old can be best friends with an 80 year old and it's not weird or unusual.

[@bethe006]

​@Splexsychiick Hey, i think you completely misinterpreted the statement. What they were saying was that it was difficult to get together with all his friends bc they are from different social origins. The friends he had from his middle school days; the friends he made when he entered high school that were new friends; the army mates from his military conscription. They aren't different ages, only different social circles. The middle school friends are the same age as this person. They are grown up now. The issue is, why can't his army buddy friend socialize with his friend from high school? Why can't his middle school friend be invited to have dinner with the friend he made in high school? That's what they are saying. he's older now, grown up & left Korea. When he does go back to Korea for visits, it's stressful bc he can't just say to everyone, 'Hey, meet at this bar.' Or, 'meet at this restaurant,' like we would here in the states. We all mix. It's common to go to events with people u don't know. That's not an accepted practice there bc of hierarchy.

[@rakon4251]

Very insightful Enzo. It's true that problems cannot be fixed until they are acknowledged and you are brave to make your thoughts public, well done! I've seen Kpop bands 10 or 14 years apart, with lyrics calling for resistance against conformity and learning to love yourself. They are generations apart but still with the same issues. Living by the sea, I know that a beautiful natural environment absolutely makes us happier. We do have similar issues in the West, particularly with the crazy identity politics segregating people by immutable characteristics. We used to have a thriving local pub culture in the UK which bought different generations together and ensured that vulnerable people in the community had a friendly place to go, unfortunately that's declining with the result that loneliness and isolation are increasing. Please keep up with your videos, they make way more sense than some of the 'professional' youtubers.

[@judykraska400]

I don’t see the Social Media as a platform to get less lonely, less isolated, less conform, and less obsessed with whiteness, with Western extremely expensive Designer clothes and so on. If you do not start to live to your heart’s content, and your decisive mind, you will be even more isolated. The iPads, the mobile phones are no substitute for human being communications, friendships, and togetherness, making excursions, activities together learning about, what each other’s likes are, what society should be like, and change slowly. I mean, what do you expect from a South Korean ruling class of 5 Chaebols, who have everything under their control, and the few ultra rich, face, and control the not haves.

[@sandraredguard6385]

You're absolutely correct. I am a University Professor and teaching in China for two years, I found that I had to change my teaching style. In the US we teach critical thinking, vs. teachers in the east just give the information and students memorize without the why. My first question is what do you want to do with your degree. No one knew. But, I receive emails and had 1 on 1 conversations where it was explained that they had never been asked. As doctoral students, I found it sad. We (US) people are individualistic and always think about where we are going in life, whereas, as a lover of culture and exploration, I found that collectivists are guided more by parents and societal norms, hence, Asians being more similar than unique. Both have good and bad points. Nice to meet you. Now you have another person to share your views with. Very important topic in understanding others and how they think. 😊 Sorry for such a long response. 😅

[@iiirenee3574]

East Asian's teaching method is mostly NOT based on critical thinking so when I began teaching ESL/EFL to Chinese and Koreans, I always ask them "why". I gave them incorrect sentences and let them explain why so. I gave them lots of essay questions, too, during their exams.

[@thisiskevin1000]

Yet differing circumstance in this age of shifting geopolitical norms. Developing Asian countries like China, Thailand and Vietnam have this collectivist mindset for their societies achieve national development goals and even breaking grounds on technological breakthroughs, maintaining social stability, cultural harmony and securing the hard earned peace. One should even better study Asian history and learn basic international relations and cross-cultural communications.

[@thisiskevin1000]

On the education system topic, why not looking into the ever evolving situation inside the Chinese mainland’s education with newer reforms on after school classes and home-works and increased share on extra-curricular activities? But also remember the resource gaps in terms of distribution of educational resources between urban and rural areas, coastal and inland provinces which their education ministry has been addressing seriously.

[@Mariajbh2]

There is no good point in being a collectivist who moves and "thinks" in a mass or group. You can only think for yourself

[@hilp1993]

Why is America and western countries in such a mess and ignorant if critical thinking was really taught in universities. Most people follow the liberal status quo which has been shown to be a sham. Critical thinkers broadly don’t and can’t tow that line because they are informed and interrogate what passes as information and education. I became educated after leaving Ini.

[@JodeeSteffensen]

Excellent message, and I'm so glad you're exploring this topic. I love Koreans. Whenever I've visited Korea (mostly Seoul), they've been kind and caring toward me. Maybe because I'm an old, American woman. And this meloncholy trend that is leading to suicide and a lowering birth rate is alarming to me. I don't want to lose Korea. 😢 What Korea is contributing is too important. I want Koreans to find the happiness they're working so hard for. Another reason for their depression is a need to work excessive hours, under unrealistic pressure with expectations of perfection. Then I see a cruel and often very public criticism of individuals if they make a mistake. I wish Koreans could learn to be kinder to themselves and each other. They are such a wonderful people. I think this discussion is critical right now. Thank you for expressing your thoughts. I hope people are listening. ❤❤❤

[@gisellemarin5143]

Estoy contigo y deseo la misma Bondad y Amor entre ellos. Desde Galicia, España mi Espíritu está con ese pueblo maravilloso, que aún debe dar pequeños pasos para alcanzar este Reto.🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@dorotaczechowska2752]

Beautiful words. I couldn’t agree more.

[@vickiangus1520]

Brave, courageous and very insightful. I wish you well with your open-hearted gesture to reach out to the culture and encourage a Spirit of openness and less fear in being seen and being heard. Loneliness is so dangerous especially in Urban environments. Well done for not sitting in Silence and suffering!! Call a group gathering and go for a long walk in nature together!! Wish you well Enzo x

[@Nadeeyahh]

I swear I just suggested this to another Korean in the comments that agreed to everything he said. I’m like so why can’t you all change the way things are? Good thing is they can identify that those things he listed are part of the problem&i believe that can easily be rectified, so why can’t they take steps in changing things. Call up different friend groups, twl them this is what you wanna do and go from there, have a once a month hangout or once on two months and diversify from there. I think it can be done.

[@Transfromjapan]

Half korean half Japanese here just shut up

[@pac6664]

Damn, this was honestly super insightful. I speak Korean and am often around Korean people. I've been told that I have the uncanny ability to make Korean folks open up but that's very uncommon (as in I cause this to happen more easily for them). See this is what happens when thoughts are shared and people are allowed to critically think so thank you for making this vid man. I believe treating people like individuals is the optimal way as it's how God looks at us; a community of individuals. I hope to in some way help the Korean people i interact with though..I'm not sure right now what that'll look like... Again thank you for making this man. God bless you.

[@meadow392]

What do you do to help them open up? Besides being magical and charming. Would you say that asking their opinions and taking them into consideration helps, or is there more to it than that? Sorry to grill you btw, I just want to teach in SK someday and I want to know how to make my students more comfortable with western education styles and social structures.

[@pac6664]

@meadow392 Id say I facilitate a lot of conversations by asking them about their life experiences and interests and connecting where I can relate. Then from there I take it a little further maybe some potential solutions to problems I've solved that are similar to theirs. Sometimes they aren't "problems" necessarily but just more ways to be stress free or showing how they can connect with others.

[@nirathiruvasagam9158]

You forgot materialism and beauty standards

[@goldencookie5456]

And the insane amount of study they're expected to do, and high expectations on academic success. There's this ex north korean elite who defected to South Korea. And he's literally studying for a degree in north korean studies just so his opinion matters, since people without degrees in Korea are looked down upon.

[@Nadeeyahh]

Worst part about these two vices you mentioned is, majority of them live above their means just so they can keep up with the Joneses. Which makes you wonder so why care about that right, it’s like setting yourself up for failure. As for the beauty part, majority once again have to get surgery to alter their natural features to gain another features that’s not theirs so they can fit in. SMH I’m shocked how such a developed country relies on the fickle things in life, things that in an instant can poof, disappear. Don’t they have like some strong values to remind them that this life is transient?

[@MECAI914]

Materialism and standards of beauty exist in every country, in some less noticeable and in others more noticeable.

[@nirathiruvasagam9158]

@MECAI914 They exist every where but in south Korea it's crazy bad. The most plastic surgeries are carried out in Korea. In particular double eyelid surgery and a bridge for the nose. People tell you openly if you are ugly. S chool children bully others on a large scale for being ugly. Its because korea has only one gene pool compared to China that beauty is such a huge chip on their shoulders. Korean actors do surgery look more white. True Beauty the global hit kdrama Depicts real life beautifully.

[@Nadeeyahh]

@MECAI914 Koreans worship everything intangible cos they have nothing to direct them to a higher aspiration. Cos this lame excuse whenever folks point out the ills in Korean society is tired.

[@joannebewley1338]

Thank you very much. I'm in the US and have been searching for meaningful content after discovering Korean drama. Who would guess it would be here on youtube. I look forward to more discourse.

[@debbiecaruso137]

This is absolutely brilliant! I loved your mention of cortisol and urbanization. Spot on! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@charstar386]

This really opened my mind to what it’s like socially in South Korea. Thanks for making it so clear. Sounds like a hard way to make friends.

[@yellowshortcake618]

Refreshing to see a talk without crazy edits , intro and all that stuff

[@KennieinKorea]

I have lived in Korea for 2 years now and this is the reality. I barely have friends here and it's very lonely. I'm already thinking of leaving next year. It's not my fault. No matter how you try to keep up and change their mind, it's really tough so I will just focus on myself alone until I can leave. I don't wanna be alone all my life. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. It's very relatable!

[@ethelynpelham4857]

That is sad. What is even sadder is that people are living their entire lives that way. One would think the parents would teach their children another way. I don't think blind dates are the answer.

[@KennieinKorea]

@ethelynpelham4857 yeah i totally agree with you.

[@HumanityForHeaven]

That's strange... Not like am a very sociable person myself, but I appreciate the company of the right people!

[@balford2112]

😮…I had never met someone who would be puzzled by the question “what do you want to eat?” It took me years to understand why this friend found this question odd. Thank you for putting the reason into words. On the first topic, being more exclusive with friends is true in other countries as well. In the States, connections are looser and maybe more superficial but definitely not more inclusive than in older countries. Best wishes on making friends with people whom you connect with.

[@agoj925]

Valid points! I like the candid talks, kinda like how KZbin used to be, not super polished.

[@fondaware8276]

Thank you for your information!! I pray more joy comes to south Korea!

[@nanettecormier8513]

This discussion is fascinating and your analysis is intelligent and sensitive! Thank you!

[@Mylife-clueless]

As someone that has struggled with depression for like 5 or so years i completely agree on the possible causes. I grew up in the middle of nature and the more time i spent in school or on vacations in asphalt citys, the more i became depressed. Around that time covid hit my country so i was isolated and it just didn't get better. I also didn't really know what i wanted to do in life, i changed schools twice but neither of the professions i was tought really grew on me and because of the depression and loneliness i dropped out. Now I'm back at home, in the middle of the forest where i grew up and I'm a bit better and getting my drivers licence so i can go work and slowly figure out what i wanna do ect. Honestly nature and inclusive people (and professional therapy) are the ones that helped me the most to push forward.

[@bernadettepalmer6407]

👍😊 good on you as I have 3 children and they all suffer some kind of depression in their teenage years but 1 at a time so we us a parents, we try and help them with therapy and introduce them to volunteer work that helps others in need and they all got better afterwards all grown and happy 🙏🙏🙏 we are from Sydney Australia 🇦🇺 Take care ❤

[@Mylife-clueless]

@bernadettepalmer6407 thanks! You too, also grettings from Slovenia. I know it was a huge shock for my parents at first but now we are mostly all much happier

[@marcomorales920]

Great video. Agree on all your points. I have heard many similar things regarding the social construct in South Korea.

[@Lola-kn4qf]

👍

[@yagirlmac8651]

For both natives and foreigners, this must be an extremely hard thing to experience💔 Growing up here in Australia, my parents were always considerate of my siblings and me when it came to our opinions, likes and dislikes. We always had important conversations over dinner and had plenty of nature/ open space around us as kids with the safety of a family that encouraged us to always live an authentic and happy life. So, hearing that there are so many people growing up and living their lives without having support like that is truly heartbreaking.

[@ursulawilliams2371]

I know it is!! I just asked is there a way of fixing such a life?

[@labany7421]

Thank you very much for sharing your insights about this ... This explains so much ...

[@KeniLuv]

Very interesting perspective 🤔 Sounds like you've really contemplated these things. I respect that.

[@sherrynicolo3065]

Thank You very calm and straight forward.

[@tw2063]

Wow! You are brave to speak up about this😊Wish you well!

[@user-1mrndslvd8h]

In Eastern countries, society is vertically build, meaning that people serve the system, not the other way round. That is why education is structured in this way - to raise obedient citizens. And everything you said is also important. You are a very intelligent person, and if you study medicine, you will make a great doctor. I wish you to be happy❤Greetings from Ukraine.

[@verenamenzel8958]

my sight after 1 year of learning about korean culture was shocking. There is no work-life-balance. They work the whole day with earning little money. So parents have to work both, have no time and space to raise children. The pressure through own family and from society is immense. Korea is parted into N communism and S materialism, both is inhuman, no human rights regarded, only exploitation without caring for human needs. No wonder, people get depressed, burnout and at last suicide. Such a society is damned to go down.

[@TheresaAnderson-l6j]

I think it’s great that you have found an outlet for your thoughts so they aren’t bottled up inside. In doing so, you have given me a greater insight into the culture of South Korea that isn’t usually portrayed by media or movies, or frankly KZbinrs. I’ve seen beautiful natural park areas in Seoul. Is it not convenient to get there? I also wondered if it’s not convenient to take short day trips out of the city. I’ve only seen pictures, but it looks like most people stay in the city when a large part of the country is absolutely beautiful countryside. Is that how it is?

[@DM-lu8vg]

Loved your open, honest talk. It’s normal to feel lonely sometimes and it should be okay to express it… Sending a big hug!

[@graceababan]

These are really new perspectives that I normally don't hear. Thanks for bringing it to light.

[@veroniquesterckendries9143]

Very interesting thoughts you have. Thanks for sharing those with us. We have been to Korea and I'm still learning Korean because we want to go back and learn more about the culture. We found the people in Seoul and Busan very kind to us and I have to say that we saw a lot of green (nature) but it's more clustered (is this good English? Sorry not my first language)than it is at home. But we agree with you that everything is so focused on work that it's a bit unsettling! When do they live and have fun? At least this seemed so to us, we are Belgians. But again, we liked the parts we saw in Korea and the people we met.

[@almettat5692]

I've just started watching, and I like the realness in your conversation.

[@openranks4519]

Good video! I lived in SK for 5yrs and loved it. I agree. there is a lot of social pressure for people to be alike that’s it’s hard not to conform or stand out as an individual.

[@moreporkowl1218]

You have hit the nail on the head, every time!!... Good on you for verbally putting it out there. A fan from New Zealand..

[@victoiredeleusomme4257]

Interesting perspective. In the West we have too much of the "I " expression now I understand why mother said moderate told us before you say "I" think "us" first then fully understand the expression of "I". Really enjoy your thoughts and help to understand differences. I WISH THEM HAPPINESS because they spead so much joy around the world with their talents. Also wish you find more joy in your life

[@YouBeYouIWillBeMe]

You dude, are VERY intelligent !!!

[@talkingtothemoon.99.8]

Ya agree 👍🏻

[@pammeenta6998]

Since he attended school in So. Korea & the West, I yield to his observations which are insightful. This are based on his isolated So. Korean experience on the social "bubble" "exclusive" culture of his So. Korean young adult peers. But if this is actually a generalised condition of So. Koreans, this is disturbing because this is unsustainable in the long term for So. Korea in the coming decades. A growing population of emotionally unhappy- social introverts does not bode well for the prosperous survival of a nation.

[@CJ-ARMY-4EVA]

Love how in your conclusion you summarized your thoughts, exactly the way I was taught when doing essays or quick writes.

[@sadeiofficial]

Thank you Enzo for sharing this! I live in the US (Hawai’i) and I have always wanted to travel to South Korea and other Asian countries. I can definitely see how everything you are saying is accurate. It’s always good to keep in mind differences of cultures when you’re traveling and see how you can approach and navigate the landscape to meet your comfort level. Thank you for being vulnerable with your experiences and sharing these insights. It might not have been easy to do to compare but it’s great advice!! Take care ✨💫

[@kpopsuprizesmeeverytime3861]

Socializing is important...even though some friends can be draining. Learn a hobby that has no limit to how far you can take it. Grounding has importance...please look it up and find sand or grass to earth yourself as often as possible. Thanks for sharing

[@absolutetruthgirl]

From my limited experience of Korean culture I understand the culture to be more of collective rather than individualistic in nature. There is a rigid social hierarchy with many expectations of behaviour. Societies with class systems easily exclude people not reflecting the preferred norms and restrict access to privileges in order to keep power in the hands of a selected few.

[@Mariajbh2]

Society and culture are not synonyms, but people use them as such. "Culture" is a myth, a propaganda term devoid of meaning, everything and nothing can be clasified as "culture", whose only intention is to supplant science and technology. The correct word in this context is "society", Korean society

[@laviedekimla]

Insightful and resonated with my 9+ odd years in the ROK. Keep it coming!

[@susanjordan4516]

Thank you for sharing! 😊 I pray that things will change for the better.

[@cris_here]

I've been here for a month and it's so lonely here. people aren't really open to meeting strangers here so it's hard to meet new people. I can't explain what I'm doing wrong but I don't feel I'm entirely to blame. I look forward to going home soon. thanks for this video

[@peterjabattack1]

Go to meetups. It's literally the same in NYC and probably any city in the world. Korea isn't going to fix your problems but it's a heck of a lot of fun....

[@TraceyJean]

Very interesting discussion. I'm Jamaican, born and raised, and it's hard to imagine this culture because mine is so very social that it's stressful for an introvert like me. But thinking about growing up isolated like this makes me sad. I hope there's a culture shift in South Korea over time to help alleviate the loneliness.

[@AnitaMonical]

Thank you. Subscribed. My Kid married a Korean man (whom I adore.) This type of insight helps me to better connect with her new culture from 6500 miles away.

[@annatoth9478]

SO fascinating. Thank you for this glimpse into this aspect of SK culture. I love learning about other people in the world, and this is a really personal experience to share. Each culture has it's own set of customs and boundaries which make them unique, and of course challenges that unite the culture as well. I wonder if some of these limitations on self expression for the culture there will change over generations....wish I could live long enough to see!

[@sedumplant]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and reflections. I appreciate what you say. You are well on your way to living a thoughtful life. May you discover what makes you happy! I look forward to more videos from you.

[@cynthiacascante4422]

Your direct, thoughtful sharing is refreshing. It's like you are a good friend sharing heartfelt observations with the intention to help others live well, as you said at the outset. I like seeing you think, followed quickly by a logical reflection. You illuminated an interaction I had with a person learning English who wanted to know how to pronounce a name in English. They said their teacher was mispronouncing it but they would not feel comfortable correcting the teacher. 감사합니다! 안녕히 겨세요

[@ginadeacon9920]

Thank you Enzo, thought provoking insight, I believe you are on the right track, when it comes to differences in identity. Great chat, not everyone can go down to the Han River, every day. I noticed that in Dramas, so much concrete, you are right, even if wealthy family houses have gardens, more of a yard. Greenery definitely in short supply, sad 💯👏🤗

[@rosesmith2449]

Hey, Enzo, I just spent 10 weeks in SK, and 3 in Japan. I had a date with a Korean guy and what he told me about the work culture and the competition between companies was crazy - that must contribute to the unhappiness. I saw so much beauty in SK, hiked on Jeju (Hallasan), in Seoroksan, in Jirisan, and a guided walk on Bukhansan - I saw a fair number of Koreans hiking in Nature…I did get the feeling in Busan and Seoul that it would be easy to feel trapped in a lifestyle without much work/life balance.

[@kelliethequeen]

Interesting perspective. My Korean teacher (born and raised) and others on YT that now live in Seoul are all smiles, but I constantly hear the same thing. Makes me wonder if I ever move there temporarily how "welcome" I would be b/c in TX we are definitely more welcoming. And no UT shirt today, but I'll still say Hook 'Em :) - Kellie

[@rozgaszpic]

It’s all make sense to me tbh . Great analysis of the issue 🙌🏻

[@mireillederuyck937]

Thank you so much Enzo for your very interesting view and thoughts of South Korean people. I have 3 make friends in Seoul and because of your video, I can understand them better. Take care and good luck in your career. 🤗🙏

[@isobellahobbs1597]

I totally agree with you about us needing to be one with nature to feel at peace,awesome ❤

[@Bowdji-fono]

keep going man 😍

[@ally4675]

❤Oh sweetie pie I just want to give you a hug and help you feel better❤ Youth is really hard on the young. When I was young in the 60’s and 70’s the cruelty of people was devastating in school because I was so unprepared to deal with it. We had cliques in the U. S. schools too, and still do but I see shows on these days that would have been so helpful to me back then. I’m glad Facebook wasn’t around because it might have destroyed me. A lot of us have PTSD from our youth. I read somewhere that Life isn’t the survival of the fittest, but the survival of the most adaptable. I’m much older than you but I’m still having to adapt and negotiate life, though I’m a lot better at it now. I understand finally that life is a series of challenges that I need to deal with, in some positive way, without choking the crap out of someone so I can feel good about how I handled the situation. I know I’ll survive because I have a 100% survival rate up till now. So do you! The surviving is freaking hard though. Voicing your thoughts is good for you whether or not you share them publicly. It does get better. Thank you ❤

[@193950mm]

When you are young you don't know how to play the game of life as you get older you learn but at the end of the day you find out a little to late just be kind and try to enjoy life hard at times though

[@gaelrynswiftbalde]

Thank you so much for saying this!

[@alperry02]

Very interesting perspective! Thank you for sharing your thoughts

[@mommaarc972]

This is so heartbreaking to hear. Its always been my absolute dream to visit south Korea. You will all be in my heart and prayers. I sincerely have always admired koreans for being just amazing and such a hardworking nature. It shows how much i dont know. Ive always admired other countries for keeping in touch with ancestrial roots and taking great care of older buildings and land. I know it doesnt help but theres so many of us around the world that would be more than happy to be a friend to all💜🙏🏼

[@priscillascanio2163]

Hurray Enzo! Brilliant analysis & hope to hear more soon. Your delivery & personality are so morish....

[@marilynfoster5279]

Yes here in the west as long as I can remember we always had conversations around the dinner table .We intereacted with your siblings and parents.We even had conversation with our parents after school before school.We were allowe all the time to express our thoughts .And that carried through into adulthood.When my kids went off to college they always brought home kids were from other countries.And we had fascinating conversations getting to connect with one another.And some of these students have become life long friends.And you also mentioned something about nature.I think nature is very important to ones life.I do think it keeps us grounded and us from becoming to materialistic.It is nothing like being able to watch that mighty sunrise.Or go up the mountain12000ft.❤❤❤❤😊😊😊😊

[@paulrobertson7650]

You took the words out of my mouth..well said..

[@Laura-xk6li]

As a brazilian we are very friendly and open arms with people. So I know the moment I move to Korea I'll feel it.

[@MichelleMouldArtist]

really interesting and I can see you have thought about this difficult topic. I think they are very valid points. You speak very well. Many of us here in the UK are big followers of Kpop and Kdrama and because of that have an interest in what life is like in South Korea. Sadly we hear of many suicides and how hard it is in general life. I'll try to find your discord as it sounds a really connective community.

[@talkingtothemoon.99.8]

Wow man U described everything in my heart, u totally right. , but regarding nature, such as grass, trees, greenery, and so on, there are many pretty places. Go to the forests, they are rlly the most adorable thing..yep💠

[@ckbrowne9243]

Very interesting indeed. I guess it's like that in many cities. Where you don't touch nature, but here in NYC there are parks all over the place. But I think you have to make it a point to go to them. When I visited Korea, I did find places to be with nature. But as a visitor you make it a point to do these things when you visit.

[@extraordinaryworld4002]

Great explanation! I lived in Texas and Taiwan growing up. You hit the nail on the head:)

[@dominicbrant1968]

Nice observations. Same applies to central London too. Also noticed it in Singapore.

[@dominiquehouleemc1044]

After watching dozens of films, documentaries and TV series, I've noticed that people in South Korea are afraid of how others see them, afraid of being judged, of being criticized. As a result, any attempt to be 'oneself' is non-existent. At least... that's what I've found.

[@francescafiordimelo1968]

Hello! Your analysis is quite interesting and well explained. Good to know, thank you for sharing 💗.

[@D.Enzokim]

Hi! Thanks for the comment! *did you draw the eye on your pfp?

[@francescafiordimelo1968]

​@@D.Enzokim Hi, no, it's not a draw, it's actually a photo of my own eye 😊, edited by an App which performed the color change 💗.

[@NoneYaBsnsPeeps]

Interesting perspective 🤔 Wow, a lot to take in. I'll ask my Korean friends about this. I have some nature near me and enjoyed lots of parks while in Seoul (there was probably more nature in Texas... I'm near NYC). I agree that urbanization makes people more stressed but no matter where you are it's all about perspective (once given the chance to develop it, of course). Happiness is also a choice that starts with positive thinking and gratitude. Comparison to me (especially with things on social media) is the killer of joy and gratitude and a huge reason why young people everywhere nowadays are more suicidal. God centers me and nature is a way to feel His presence but there are other ways as well. Exercising also helps with stress. And I agree that the more friends, the better, but you should always have a handful of trusted friends you can count on. I pray you aren't lonely and find your bigger purpose

[@somename152]

very insightful, I hope you rub off on the collective of people there and help encourage healthy change

[@arlesto2468]

Thank you for posting this video and for your sincerity.

[@shalemuranikoppula]

Yes👍i agree with your point of mean🥺Anyways GOD change this situations in your country.be worship GOD✝️❤️😊 And I'm indian and also pray to GOD for your country 🙏❤️✝️😊

[@LizVH-c6b]

Excellent video. Thank you for these insights. (For the past couple of years, I have watched 20 hours of K Drama per week and am very interested in the culture. I will look for you in other social media.)

[@annemahauariki9394]

I agree with you on all points. On holiday for a month in Korea and joined English classes in order to meet locals. I travelled with a 19-year-old granddaughter. Although my granddaughter was younger than most attending, her attitude to life is totally different. Should mention we're Australians and New Zealanders. We were there to make friends. They were there for verbs and adjectives. Heres me, struggling to remember which was which .😂 After 3 classes, we felt like we had become teachers. When I asked for opinions, they clammed up. Now I get it. On nature or the lack of. I was constantly touching plants and trees whenever we were out and about. Even went into an enormous drain, which had a creek type waterway and trees growing in it. Maybe inadvertently craved nature.

[@HanaKingi]

Hi, from Northland New Zealand. I learned many insights watching your video and am grateful for your honesty, sincerity, and clarity. I now understand the Korean exclusive social culture and how different it is from the inclusive social culture in the West. This surprised me, especially because Koreans have small families, one, two, or three children. In New Zealand, it is common to have three to six children. Even so, we are curious about other cultures and embrace each other's differences. Having said that, Korean people here keep much to themselves. We think it is because their English is limited or they feel awkward around Kiwis. We tend to express ourselves openly and are an affectionate, talkative bunch. You mentioned that Koreans have no or a low relationship with nature. This is sad as it is a strong component of life in New Zealand that we are known for worldwide. Our cities must have a certain percentage of green spaces, and light pollution is carefully regulated. Regardless of culture we also nurture our young and our old people. This helps to overcome loneliness and of course, our Korean immigrants are part of this. According to statistics loneliness is a global problem possibly because more people admit to feeling lonely now. I don't think it is a crime to be lonely. Nor should happiness be a universal goal. This happiness business is a very Americanised thing which I find annoying because marketing agencies use it as a tool to sell "comfort and luxury".You deserve that holiday, that spa treatment or that horse. Most of these things bring fleeting joy and are soon discarded. In New Zealand, as long as you work, have something to do and have someone who loves you > that is enough. I see in Korea there is a declining birth rate and many younger people staying single, with an increasing divorce rate among the older age group. This may force a social change in Korea - I hope so.

[@rcplease]

By the time I got to the end of your video, I felt tender for you because you were finally able to express your own point of view like you longed for during high school. The summary at the end made me smile because it reminded me of every good essay. Well done! So lovely.

[@anarbutalid9029]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

[@CeylaLu]

Thanks four your insights.

[@ChoiSeoJunb]

✅This is relatable about having no voice until you are 20. The honorifics are intimidating.🙌🙂

[@dasandbox2555]

Great insights. Wow.

[@rapturesoon6567]

Texan here....we ❤ humans, and the more the merrier!!!! HOSPITALITY, and welcoming/including others is a good human trait!!!!! ❤🇨🇱🤠🇨🇱❤

[@Blerta_XK]

I never knew this. I wish younger generations in SK or wherever will decide to break the chains that bind them and be their true self without worrying what family members, family, teachers or society in general thinks of them. Growing older you will learn that you will have less and less friends every year, family members will die or continue their life without including you for whatever reason, however, you will need every one of them around you to grow emotionally and psychologically. You need the bad, the ugly, and the good around you in order to become YOU, the best version of you. Travel more, see other cultures and decide what's best for you. Free yourself!

[@lovingevg]

very interesting video, I knew a lot of things already because I have seen more videos where people talk about this topic and I just want to share my opinion on here I was always wondering why parents in South Korea forces their children to study and find a job they want their child to do and not let the kid decide what he wants to become If the kid becomes an adult and work as a doctor or as a high level degree businessman but he isn’t happy with his life… you have failed parenting to be honest because what does life even mean when you are not happy with what you doing? if you have a less successful career (like famous or wealthy) but you are soooo happy with what you are doing, really nothing else matters anymore you are your own person you are the main character of your own life and no one has a say in it It’s just unfortunate that society is like this if you are happy luxury brands, the top careers doesn’t mean anything really Do what you love to do don’t let people control your life

[@amandasutton3717]

So, 05:32 when you were talking about an idea to the teacher, it was seen as more, like insubordination? Huh, that's kind of wild.

[@OsmonArtist]

Wow dude this sounds very sad. And makes so much sense. The things you mentioned are literally things that make me happy. Very sad.

[@JavierHernandez-pc3gu]

Great video, fills in a lot of gaps from what I was thinking but couldn’t put my finger on. Makes sense why the culture is so superficial. Everyone is just trying to fit a mold. The idea of having an individual mindset is so foreign.

[@yumyum10101]

exactly…

[@rachelding5682]

This felt like a chill video talking to a friend somehow, cant believe u only have 1k subs!! keep posting :)

[@kathleenloverde1030]

US education is to encourage students to think and reason. My Dad was Dr of Child Psychology, we were ways questioned on what we thought.

[@MarianNelms-id9ye]

I think all go through a period of not knowing which direction they want to go! That is why I’ve always felt that the college set up allows people to pursue different avenues and make the decision in what direction they want to go towards the end of their college education. By exploring different avenues, it’s not surprising that many people will take a different route, but a happier route for them. Being young is just a difficult time, think about all the years ahead of you. It can be over stimulating. It is important to live in the moment with mild perspective towards the future. At least for your sanity. Those are my thoughts.

[@TamBeauProductions]

❤thanks for sharing this I really enjoyed this and loved the music

[@malskie18]

Koreans for you to be happy hang out with filipinos😂 surely you'll laugh all day. No dull moments when you're with filipinos. 🥰

[@npcimknot958]

I think thisi s what he means be exclusion. If you are open to being friends with everyone.. they would have the opportunity to experience what you are saying ‘ fun times with Filipino friends. This is something the west is good at.. and it was encouraged.. which is why we have friends of all ages, all back grounds.. most of us don’t’ have problems saying hi, being friend ( close or not) The simple smiling at a stranger.. is already a way of making a friend.. but sometimes some cultures they are very cautious who they become friends with. I htink thats what hes saying.. aka.. you will be judged who you’re friends with

[@오성연-j6l]

Insightful! Looking forward to your new uploads 😁

[@dammyrealofficial]

You speak so well ❤

[@heikebullmann8064]

I have already visited South Korea. There are many people who were very open to us. But it was the older generation, not the young. That is certainly due to the intensity of work and then there is the family. Korea has over 70% forest and mountains. There are enough opportunities to experience nature. But it is not used that way. For the reasons mentioned above.....

[@rapturesoon6567]

YES....INDIVIDUALITY is key for human emotional growth, since GOD created us ALL DIFFERENT!!!!! GOD BLESS YOU...❤

[@Umii_7636]

The moment you give up , is the moment you let someone else win ⭐ ~fighting💪🏻🔥

[@mafiaxgirl]

I think i learned a lots of things from this video that i didn't knew about korea. thank you for sharing