Why Are Older Men Staying Single?

[@danielb7660]

As an older man, I am not going to have more kids. I am at an age where I want to do what I want to do. I have no desire to listen to someone criticize me and then want me to agree with her criticisms. Additionally, I want to keep my money and when I do spend it, I want to spend it on me.

[@Shirley-v3g]

@@danielb7660 - sometimes - there is value to be found sharing the right company - enjoying some humor or even affection , that is precious when it happens - some things are priceless... We all need contentment in our lives...🙏💕

[@jamest2861]

Once I got used to being alone (took about 3 years). I couldn't go back to being coupled again. There is no criticism or judgements of me anymore. I don't have to answer questions. I've have the freedom to just be myself without worrying what someone else thinks. Don't have to worry about being used or other men encroaching. I'm not controlled by my sex drive like I used to be so I don't have to "have it" anymore like a drug, jumping through hoops for it. It's absolutely the best time of my life. If I ever need it, I will rent it. She's being paid to be nice to me (like most women). But this one leaves in an hour. Lol.

[@cptcosmo]

I can not begin tot ell you how happy I was when my sex drive started to wane. It was a relief. Now I no longer need to chase women, managed to stop watching porn, and am getting stronger in my faith with Yeshua Messiah. If you get lonely guys, get a puppy.

[@tracerfacer6234]

Would you jump out of an airplane if the parachute had a 75% chance of failing? And the one who helped you pack the chute is the one who cut the straps?

[@deadreckoning6288]

Good analogy of entering into a romantic relationship.

[@His_Name_Was_King]

Its not complicated...just study and talk to your average woman. And after you pick up your jaw off the floor look at the current laws.-

[@TheExpatReview]

@@His_Name_Was_King my sentiments exactly…

[@PastorBobby2023]

People think they have older men figured out, but most don't have a clue...being an older man, I can use myself as an example of one who worked hard all his life to retire in peace with a comfortable income, no debt, no baby momma drama, living in peace in Panama...in fact, I like being single...there's the myth that single older men are lonely...what a joke!...I'll leave it at that after saying I have no problem whatever finding dates for anything and my social life is as active or inactive as I want it to be...alternatively, I can sacrifice my comfort zone to give all of my attention to women who can never get enough of it...they also can't get enough money and think it is the solution to all of their problems...even if they have their own income, savings, etc., they think men are obligated to pay for their hair and nails and makeup, along with 'shopping' allowances...many bring children along who also have needs they feel a man should "step up' to cover, even while they want the man to have nothing else to do with 'raising' the kids except paying the cost...many also use 'intimacy' and moods to manipulate men into emotional turmoil that will be everlasting...of course this is not the case for all, but I think I've checked enough boxes to express my personal case...I've posted often elsewhere that I have no plans whatever to sacrifice my solitude and peace of mind to some woman's misery and self-centeredness...

[@TheExpatReview]

@@PastorBobby2023 I totally agree that the life you’re living is by your own design, and that you have designed it well for yourself. I was wondering how things are going for you down in Panama. Are you having any of the “gringo go home” issues that are happening in Columbia? I was wondering with the additional stressors between the US and the canal.

[@PastorBobby2023]

@@TheExpatReview Thanks for your response...if there are "gringo go home" issues in Colombia, I'm sure they are sporadic and only continue the trends that have been on and off there for the past few years...they also have little to do with expats in general, but focus on so-called sex-tourists while having no real support among those who benefit from it...anyway, Panama is not Colombia...I've been an expat for more than 12 years...I've spent extended time in Panama and just returned a little more than a week ago to complete a pensionado residency application that I had started but withdrew during the Covid pandemic...I have relocated here permanently...I don't see any 'stressors' regarding the Panama Canal and I believe Trump's bluster on it will go nowhere...as a veteran it's a little more clear to me that there's little chance the U.S. military will invade to "re-take" the canal...take it where?...such foolishness...Btw, I think it should be made clear that being a tourist and being an expat--a real expat, that is, one who has left the U.S. permanently-- are two entirely different realities with different mindsets and concerns...ijs...

[@TheExpatReview]

@ I am really glad to hear that the surge of expats moving to Panama hasn’t created resentment towards expats and that the bluster from the US hasn’t created a negative sentiment towards Americans. You certainly have the right mindset and give expatriots living abroad a positive representation. The passport bro movement has given some people a very negative impression upon all people that are hoping to find a more loving and traditionalist relationship where there’s respect and family amongst the couple and not the contrast of competition and disrespect between the couple.

[@PastorBobby2023]

@@TheExpatReview The Passport Bros movement is also misunderstood...most members only want to share the message that brothas disillusioned with the attitudes of women in the U.S. have discovered that they can actually find more rewarding relationships abroad...again, we need to separate that class of travel from those who are new to international travel who have discovered countries where prostitution is legal and these more salacious aspects are what draw the attention of detractors who have no idea what the movement really represents...I'm not mad at any of them, and I'm not here to criticize what others do when they travel...every traveler discovers something new, and I think the freedom to learn and grow from it is what matters most...again, as to expats, those considering relocating need to focus on a whole new range of issues and stay focused on those...where to live, why, doing what, and these things require planning and research...I have no intention to control the conversation, but I've learned from decades of travel to remember why I thought to look abroad as a living option in the first place...for me, it comes down to two things; quality of life and cost of living...moving to Panama after visiting almost all of the most popular and recommended preferred retirement destinations is because I've found what I need for my own peace of mind here...I've been living an increasingly rewarding life in virtually crime-free communities that have the best weather on the planet, the friendliest and most welcoming people, and I'm happy about that...

[@pokemercenary6511]

I’m happy with my dog. Wife not needed.

[@jvnb-y9e]

The guy says maybe you're talking about your truck or something like that, and she gets bored. Well, WTH is she talking about? Women call most men boring. It goes both ways. Perhaps that's why older men stay single.

[@kurtschlichting1903]

Peace and quite is golden.

[@sandybeach3576]

I'm glad to be alone.😊

[@TheExpatReview]

@@sandybeach3576 I find that with more people than I expected.

[@rondyechannel1399]

Been used and divorced to 4 golddiggers that were only interested in what they could get from me. It was plenty, and in the end, it came down to saving what I had worked for that was left. Sad day for familys in America. Find a traditional woman in another culture. (not western)

[@george-n2m2ig]

They are the same, they just hide it better and take care of you better.

[@timothyjohnson5062]

Four!!!!!! Oh my.

[@jonhardin6726]

Because starting over again at our age with a 304 isn’t a plan

[@johnwhitney6736]

Because..no wife..happy life !!😂

[@johnr7237]

After financial suicide 18 years ago (DIVORCE) I mostly dated Latin women. However they all have the same agenda they want to get married move in ur house.. went through some rough years financially. Now I get my social security, I'm not looking to share it with anyone. I want to do what I want when I want with who I want etc. I just find in general that their headaches

[@firmaforex]

Older men has experience of marriage hell and when you are 60 to 80 most women in their 20 to 30 years are not so interested and you are not so interested in 50-80 years old women I guess.

[@george-n2m2ig]

Just apply the 4Fs rule. I don't care about their age, hair color, weight, eye color, intellect, or skin color. There's only one question; what can you do for me? And I'm paying for the answer.

[@kirkjohnson6638]

Such a silly question. There is only one reason to get married and that is to make a commitment to a woman that you will stick with her and take care of her in exchange for her giving you children. Everything else that generally comes with a marriage such as sharing the tasks of cooking, cleaning, laundy, lawn mowing, home repairs, runnnng errands, grocery shopping, and sharing the expenses of housing, food, utilities, etc. are all things that one can have with a housemate and without making a long-term commitment to that housemate(s). And, given that old women cannot give you children and most old men aren't interested in having children, there's really no reason for old men to marry. I suppose being a gold digger and marrying a woman with money still makes sense. Or maybe you want someone to sleep beside you every night so that if you have some sort of attack there's someone there to notice and call an ambulance.

[@TheExpatReview]

@@kirkjohnson6638 I find there are other reasons to be in a committed long term relationship where marriage is an aspect. But I am seeing it from a perspective that if I am committed to that person, and she is my life partner, why wouldn’t I be married, and make sure she would benefit if I were to pass on before her. Though marriage in America with the current laws and how marriage is treated is not the commitment that it is in other places of the world. But how I feel certainly is personal for me, and not for everybody. We all deserve to live the best way we see fit, and as long as it does not hurt another, then live that life to the fullest! Thank you for your perspective.

[@kirkjohnson6638]

@TheExpatReview I'd love to hear what your other reasons are to want a committed marriage vs, say a relationship where you could make use of contracts like tenancy in common for home ownership, naming your housemate or "significant other" as a beneficiary in your life insurance, will, and/or trust, executing power of attorney agreements related to healthcare decisions, and naming them as the executor of your estate. Perhaps your reasoning is simply that you like having someone share practically every aspect of your life - eating meals together, shopping together, gardening side by side, watching TV together, and such? I'd contend that you CAN do all those same types of things with a housemate, but admit that it's certainly less likely and would generally omit sleeping in the same bed and physical intimacy, which would essentially make them a spouse, albeit not a legally recognized one. The only other areas where I see marriage commitments as being big is in necessitating a relationship with inlaws and in making joint ling-term commitments like buying a house together. But, as someone who was married with both inlaws and my immediate family on the other side of the US, that wasn't a big deal to me and when it comes to things like buying houses, I had co-owned one house I lived in with three co-owner friends and had also purchased three other homes to flip with those friends before I got married. I guess that feeling of commitment probably has a lot to do with how much the investments mean to you. My friends actually putchased the first house we owned and lived in without me ever seeing it or knowing that we, as a group, were shopping for a house! I went snowboarding on a Saturday and on Sunday, my friends asked if I'd like to see the house we all bought together! I guess we discussed the idea in principle one night when we were all drinking and they took it as serious and ran with it. To be fair, they did say that I didn't have to buy in if I didn't want to. But, what the hell, we were all in our twenties with no other commitments outside of car and student loans so we went for it and then ended up co-buying three houses to renovate over the next 1-1/2 years.

[@TheExpatReview]

@ You are absolutely right, and for some people that makes total sense. But for others, they view that commitment involves marriage. Be it for religious reasons, or to share the same name, there are quite a few ways to live their lives. I firmly believe in living by your own truths, and going to where you are treated best. If you do not like your current situation, then change your situation.

[@kirkjohnson6638]

@TheExpatReview That's cool, just know what you're getting into. I actually like the idea of marriage based in religion because it is intended to be permanent and not just convenient. I just think that the government should be kicked out of the marriage game because, while courts exist in part to administer civil justice in regards to contract law, they also have the audacity to allow people to enter marriage "contracts" where there are no defined terms and where rhe courts will determine what the terms were only when one or both parties seek to dissolve the contract. That's just bad legislation!

[@deadreckoning6288]

Yes, he hits the nail on the head. In my later phase of life I've been feeling it's too late for the partnership I've always wanted. I've had my opportunities, but I'm not known for making very wise choices. And, finally understanding what women want in relationship (it's taken a lifetime to even begin to understand that) I feel I have little to offer the modern day woman to be honest. It sucks for me because I absolutely love sex and giving pleasure to my partner. I really want a lover. It's frustrating because at 60 my libido has had very little drop off. Sometimes wish I could just shut it off completely.

[@Shirley-v3g]

Can you afford the entrance fee of upkeep of another person - besides yourself ???😢

[@joevet4308]

After a lifetime of marriage, they eventually learn.

[@seventy18]

Older?? Younger, middle aged... Nobody wants them now

[@pokemercenary6511]

I haven’t experienced a relationship overseas but I just don’t think it’s that easy.

[@TheExpatReview]

Any relationship is not that easy... but the chances of finding someone that genuinely care about you, and would be committed is easier due to their culture and how they view relationships. It is hard getting out of our past experiences and carrying our feelings into a new relationship. I too have a dog that has given me alot, so I totally understand.

[@george-n2m2ig]

It isn't. The mentality is remarkably the same. In the beginning it's all about you and very quickly changes to all about her.

[@johnr7237]

A pickup truck, a fishing rod and a dog is all we need

[@pokemercenary6511]

@ and the number of a low-mileage escort 🙂

[@roymccloure7391]

Neither have I and I bet you are correct

[@AkulaSpawn]

Why not?

[@ras9875]

It's not worth it

[@BLACKWOLF-1911]

Because it's quite.