Why Are Over 40% of Older Men in China Staying Single?

[@VelvetSky1102]

this is becoming the norm not only in China but everywhere globally

[@supernovaversion3.05]

Thanks Goy tube for removing joke.

[@shirleygriffin7672]

True

[@vvcc-kg9dp]

We don't need to be married to be happy. Society's pressure to marry is outdated. I'm happier living alone.

[@CIST3]

Good for you. People were created to be in a community. I you don't want to get married, don't. Better than making yourself and someone else miserable.

[@juliansearcie1758]

​@@CIST3 yeah mostly himself since men bring everything to the tables women don't .

[@OptionSpreadProfits]

You are so miserable

[@loneranger66888]

Live alone doesn’t mean not having friends…😊😊

[@Bunny11344]

I think weddings are a waste of money and just for other people to enjoy not really for the couple themselves. It’s a waste of $ honestly, and kids

[@Natascha1979]

As a woman, I support this message

[@riffraff521]

My single life is so peaceful and rewarding. You could not pay me to take woman into my home. I’m 72

[@TellthetruthaboutChina]

I’ve seen too many men in their 50s and 60s regret getting married. It’s not that they couldn’t make it work, but they realize they gave up too much.

[@John-c4r1o]

Correct, women expect you to enslave yourself to a mortgage and putting children first. The man has to give up all his dreams, he must stay at that safe job because wife and children depend on him etc.

[@Erin-te8bl]

Don't have kids, that help a marriage alot

[@RohitOneWho]

​@@Erin-te8bl No who marry have to thousts as him if not he gona nagging and from kid well and there are risk of divorce and demand of half of property So im not that waek but i also feel there is point if Ur resly poor and u can't even eat food relax then u don't have to be so like that Yep but most of women who last long are divorced or complexes like guys fredome and them so why should sacrifice Yep I'm poor so ik also don't reay want marrage its better if i stay helth and improve life qality Yep im not planing staying to old to live im gona make arrangement u know 😅 If um not able to move like old man in there last breths im gona consume poi@n or May be hevy sleping pills Or thre many way to peacefully pass away Don't scared its not oain like u think its bit but uts better when u grew ild ur senses are geting laking And u cant fell that much Blood in body its best u feel pains of hour But uf old and can't like be able to move freely then u done for it

[@smcdonald9991]

Never got married, never wanted to. Not for me.

[@dassemultor2980]

Men are expected to do their duties until they are dead. They don't have to protect and provide only when they are young, but until they are old and they feel already pain in the morning when they wake up. Women's duties are only optional. If she doesn't want to be sexual with you anymore you shall respect it, when she expects from you that you also do household cores additionally to working full-time and paying every bill, you shall respect her wish, if she doesn't want to cook for you anymore, you shall respect it. Of course you can divorce her, but then she will with the help of the state transform you into a pay slave.

[@NaturalDisasterObserver]

Why do people assume single men are lonely? I've got everything I need-money, health, and independence. I don't need a wife to complete me.

[@saltydriver3722]

Marriage is for women. It's what they do 2 secure a man. A man don't need a woman. A woman needs a man. That's why you find a man at 18. You trap him with purity and marry him 2 lock him down. THIS IS THE END FOR MARRIAGE. ENJOY

[@kendall9758]

Everything a traditional wife provides can be outsourced via capitalism.... Horny? = Professionals Hungry? = Uber eats Cleaning? = Cleaners Kids? = Surrogacy Loyalty? = Dog

[@jeremiethomas8005]

Because they can’t see past themselves, and just assume you feel as they do. The same reason they think the things they look for in a partner are the same things you want.

[@springwaterusa2195]

Because people are planning for the future, not the present. Trust me I work in the hospital and have seen so many olders are struggling with no relatives.

[@moonshadowsong]

But you need me😂 we can hang out and play online games at your home

[@The.End.Begins24]

Being alone doesn’t make anyone lonely. It’s truly a sign of enjoying your own company.

[@shirleygriffin7672]

True

[@annabanana50]

Instead of getting married as a woman I took care of my elderly mom. Best choice I ever made. She was always there for me and the only loyal and loving person to me. No one else deserved that from me❤

[@mengho7230]

That's a perception. Wait when she's too frail and need constant healthcare.

[@AAAA-vu7fp]

You are a LEGEND That is so blessed

[@annabanana50]

@@AAAA-vu7fpI am blessed I had the chance to take care of her and make her happy❤

[@YoTrizzy]

The first guy is an absolute legend 🫡

[@nailboy7370]

I agree!!!!! He hit every point with a sledgehammer. He didn’t miss nothing. So right on 👍🏽 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽

[@TheDragonofRevelation]

The first man is the one that's correct.

[@manifest2203]

All these are good reasons. But anothr important factor is China has 30 million more mn than wmn. So these mn can’t ma5rry even if they want to. Acc to estimates, even if all wmn marr5ied (which wmn don’t want), it is estimated that 30% to half the mn can’t get marr6ied. Apart from marrge rates, brth rates are low too. In their society, fatherhood is a hobby. Motherhood is unpaid, hard labor with no time off for good behaviour. Plus everything is the mother’s fault. Always.

[@shirleygriffin7672]

Exactly

[@marymimouna]

I’m an older woman and really enjoyed this thoughtful video.

[@Markanimation-t2v]

Chinese men are smart

[@Ace1000ks19751982]

I am 48, and I never got married. I had many chances to get married, but I choose not to because I wanted my freedom. My mother keeps nagging me, and say I should get married. Says stuff like don't you want a woman to be near you and eat with you? I said no, I like being alone.

[@manifest2203]

This is the same for wmn too. Except as soon as marrge happens the dude wants her to do all the wrk at home. It makes mn even less desirable as companions.

[@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj]

@@manifest2203The same goes for women too. They make their men ATMs and slaves. It goes both ways.

[@v816333316351]

Thats extremely reductive. It needs to be a partnership.

[@kgyapper]

You don’t need to be married to still enjoy another’s companionship whether male or female …. What’s wrong with friends‼️ Or living together⁉️ Just keep your finances separate‼️

[@kgyapper]

Having kids are not what it’s cut out to be …. Lots of kids grow up and leave parents alone or they’re estranged from them‼️

[@Layput]

I was married. Married the love of my life at 22. Then we fell out of love. I gave up a lot. I wish I never married.

[@thephotochad]

Marriage isn't what it used to be. The game has changed for men.

[@25Soupy]

Exactly, it's a whole different ball game now. All the rules have been changed through feminism, government laws, everyone moving to cities, Women's expectations of being an independent woman yet want men to be traditional at the same time. A woman's money is for her and a man's money is also for her. The first gentleman said it the best, "Women see marriage as a resource they can exploit."

[@moy9022]

Very smart and practical men. 👍👍

[@TomNook.]

If you've spent your entire life saving to buy a house, car, pension, then find a girl, she's going to keep all that AND a bridal price. Once married, everything will be in her name.

[@BobbyLoo-jr8ys]

run! Not a good deal.

[@manifest2203]

Yes as it should. Mn are the pr6viders in pat5chy.

[@YourHineyness]

@@manifest2203 Who hurt you? Damn, so bitter!

[@rothschildianum]

I was too poor to get married when I was young. At the time, I could get married, but I knew that the problems will arise from lacking of money. Now, I have money, but I do realize that I made the correct decision not be pressured by society. I have a very peaceful life. There is always time and place for everything. I sometime do envy those people who have kids, etc, but also at the same time, their life is not as rosy as it looks. There are more problems than the fun. Those men just have no choice. I am not far from the retirement, I have the money to live till I die.

[@Sean-sk3nq]

About 10% of children have major health issues. It's not always fun.

[@agnesw4189]

Moral of the story is NO marriage!

[@James-mc5hc]

No one can be happy living alone. But getting married and losing your properties house car and children anytime is suicide. Moral of the story. Cohabitate don't marry.

[@jaijai5250]

Speak for yourself. Don’t judge others by your own standards. Just because you’re codependent, doesn’t mean that the rest of us are. Some people can be fulfilled and contented living alone. Being single doesn’t mean you don’t have contact and interaction with other people.

[@SunnyLin-j9w]

This is happen all over the world. It's because of how off balance the masculine and feminine energy is in each person. We are in soft times now. It's sad how now days men are giving up there men hood so a woman can be the head . That's what is off balance.

[@KennTollens]

51 single, never regretted my freedom.

[@Andy-uj1fe]

Same here!!!!!

[@jaytso1883]

There are always pros and cons to any one particular consideration. It's up to each individual to think hard and decide whether marriage is suitable for himself.

[@TommyDJr45]

As an American living in SEA I thought this was an American thing. But I'm starting to see that this isn't a cultural issue. People in general, all over the world, are going the same thing. Idk what the issue is or how it can be "fixed" but I think we are experiencing something really interesting. We are leaving behind certain traditions and beliefs.

[@AlaaNasinza]

As a Ugandan,I believe in what you are saying but it's done in both sides, for men and women

[@daniella8400]

Everyone is tired! Especially women!

[@MasticinaAkicta]

Smart and wise men! Definitely with how dangerous marriage is.

[@NightmareManX]

Everyone keeps telling me I should get married, but they never consider the emotional toll it takes. Being single gives me peace of mind.

[@shinrinyokumusic1808]

It's impossible to date modern women anyway

[@RohitOneWho]

Whenever I worked 3 to 4 years i also experienced just loked at old peoples miserable life Im not sure but in job they everytime i see them they sems like angey and pain Well its not full of family is reosone but what its related to all that Just after 59 69 its tough if u not fit and only drink alcohol Well but u take care of urself and manage so i think its not that bad

[@imagoodlistener2730]

Never put anything on your name that eats while you sleep.

[@CtrlAltDelite]

Greetings, fellow Never Married Gents. Stay strong and happy!

[@poodlescone9700]

Wow. these men are wisdom incarnate.

[@kokoyaro]

Men don't have the natural urge for human connection and/or group belonging as women do. That's why men don't feel lonely when we're alone.

[@vaguincolombia]

You are right.

[@4evertrue830]

Even when men decide later on in life at the age of 40, 50, or 60 to get married, you will realise that the women who are single, are still picky and nag a lot. Is that the woman to get married to? 😊

[@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj]

That is actually not true. I see men who are lonely long for connection more than women do overall. But it still depends on the person.

[@kokoyaro]

@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj Men long for 5ex, not emotional connection

[@manifest2203]

@@kokoyaro yes and wmn form other social networks which aren’t about smex. And wmn don’t prioritise smex.

[@litecoinawarenessphoenix34]

Basically "You came empty handed and you will leave the same"..

[@shlee3120]

One can be fulfilled as a single,travelling holidays n free to do as one pleases! 👍👍👍

[@nonenothing8648]

Hard to say. I am never destined to be unmarried. I want children around. I am now 63 and my children are no more with us except for the youngest. I have not received any money from my children and never will I ask. But I told my wife, that we got to find an alternative income because our children can not be depended on to support. Unfortunately my wife is not the type to do business. So I have to learn everything without support.

[@Bunny11344]

That’s why I will never have kids. U can’t expect your kids to take care of u or help u when you’re old. Parents are no different than those with no kids at the end, they just sacrifice their life more

[@thepassportog]

Bouncing back from a divorce with kids will take about a decade. Remember that.

[@saltydriver3722]

2 much risk. Not enough reward. Easy answer.

[@rross27]

True... The juice is not worth the squeeze...

[@MultiLinda42]

I m an older European woman and single and happy!❤

[@VMChannel588]

those men are make sense 😊😊

[@GoogleUser-td1ic]

A lot of men fully awoke during the three years of the pandemic.

[@warrior29363]

Here in Colombia, it's the same. First, you must secure a professional career; second, secure a house; and third, live your life. But getting married is not worth it (if you are male).

[@georgecrawford6869]

2nd guy's dad wanted a grandchild to continue the family line or name.

[@anguslaing6611]

Love to our Chinese brothers

[@xzyeee]

Look at how young he looks for SIXTY!!!!

[@shirleygriffin7672]

Yesssssss

[@fritz3388]

The Asians have more melatonin in their skin. That's what makes them look younger in comparison.

[@shirleygriffin7672]

Yes he looks young

[@nb4394]

We must respect each person's choice, but we must accept that if we are in this world, it is because our ancestors took on the challenge of marriage and sacrifice. A truly brave person will accept this struggle, because the noblest act , is to give life !!!

[@lowbloodprsure]

His father wanted him miserable as well. Bad parenting.

[@manifest2203]

Exactly. This dude will only spo6il the life of anther woman. Thank God he didn’t ma4rry. These are the men who make bad hdbnds. And then gaslight the wmn. It’s good that his dad pushing him onto some unsuspecting w6ma8n didn’t work.

[@BonnersFerry]

Amen my Chinese brother

[@MukadisAymen-ui8fy]

I Think if all people wants to live a single free life human beings will go extinct okay the program is marriage of become business for more women that is why men are losing interest that's all

[@picklerix6162]

There’s a shortage of women in China due to the one child policy. Chinese women know this fact and demand high value men.

[@normancowal8269]

THERE SMART STAY SINGLE THERE NOT WORTH IT👍

[@CalebSpirit124]

Had family member , who watched argue with argumentative wife everyday. Glasses breaking; slamming doors. Because one of them, didn’t know how to let the subject go. A horrible experience. He ended up marrying another; lil more peaceful, did some traveling. Able to create a life. He asked me, when I was going to settle down with someone; I being married and divorced, 20 years in .. by this time. I said “ What for “. He stated “ For Companionship “. I ended his questioning, with “A companion for who ?” So many get in relationships, to satisfy other people’s dreams for you; not your dream, for yourself. Note: Someone bringing More Peace; then I am 100% all for the companionship. But, if all it is stealing time and allot of drama … to me, better off temporarily alone. I believe, everyone’s added peace is out there. But until then.

[@akula9713]

The way he carried the food at 13:08 🤣 he was obviously looking forward to it. Good for him!

[@rexkenley]

This guy is BASED

[@Erin-te8bl]

Yea, it's alright for men to stay single forever, they can survive well. It's different for females. Being a single female in this world is hard and it's really lonely.

[@Guitar6ty]

Men just get on with it and accept being on their own.

[@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj]

That is not true as I know many single women who are happy. But yes, some need a man to survive.

[@Erin-te8bl]

@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj not all women are strong enough to lift and carrying, shifting all heavy items, or feel safe being on their own. Men really are valuable help alot in certain aspects in life.

[@supernovaversion3.05]

​@@Erin-te8blInteresting time is loading.

[@Bunny11344]

That’s not true actually. Men don’t do well alone women do. My man’s mom is a widower and she has a full healthy happy life with friends and family. If it was an older man he’d be depressed and wouldn’t last long.

[@stanleysalters1195]

Very good video 😊.

[@nicolascanale4877]

I'm single and definitely not lonely or depressed. I'm happy single and I'm 38 no kids never been married. Dating is a constant give give give nowadays, it's exhausting and keeps me down. Women aren't willing to go in 50/50 anymore. It used to be, but is no more. And to be fair, there are women who still value the traditional way over money and material, but they are tough to find and that's why most dudes in the USA are staying single. Life is simplified and cheaper. Sux to say but it's true. If a good opportunity runs my way, I'll definitely take it, but I'm done looking and hoping.

[@AlaaNasinza]

But even serious women are there, who are looking for serious relationships

[@flyonevilwings]

this dude's glasses are sending me. im addicted to these videos, even if they are quite sad

[@josephroth8761]

I enjoyed your video as I am married for the 3rd time and only learned in my older years it is better to be single. Men as far as I know marry for love and women marry for security but after some time women want something else and a man will lose a lot of what he has worked for. I would tell men not to marry and enjoy whatever you like to do. Whatever little you get from a women you will pay for many times over . Women are beautiful and very desirable but what they offer once in a great while is paid be a man many times over.

[@TJ-bs4wv]

I'm a European man, and the older i get, I know that women are women and men are men, no matter where we are in the world. Listening to these Chinese men, I really understand them. Who wants to be with a woman, that only wants the man's resources. Women needs to step up, for to long, they had been put on pedestal, with few expectations and no accountability for there actions. Relationship will be great again, the day woman learning about accountability and humility

[@MPeaches1958]

So, In other words....never.

[@chilipepper9938]

Woman won’t step up, until subsidies stop, and government laws change.

[@Monster-ks2yx]

Women are srpping up, they just aren't settling anymore.

[@MrTheologianscafe]

Damn preach it brother!

[@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj]

I agree and my parents taught me that as a woman from the beginning so I know how it is. Many women are too arrogant!

[@irenetalan8593]

You are a smart man.

[@MonchoDeLaMota]

These bros do eat like kings, can’t deny that.

[@shirleygriffin7672]

Just subscribed

[@voodo0983]

UK here. I wanted children so took the plunge in the 1990's despite reservations that ultimately came to pass. Divorced after 26 years with her. Not sure how society can perpetuate if we don't have children in a stable partnership but losing half my stuff late in life has been brutal. Ex-wife has a fully paid off 5 bed house, and I am renting a small terraced place. I would love grand children but couldn't recommend marriage to my son.

[@billlewandowski-e9y]

Different strokes. Some people crave marriage and 6 kids. Others prefer to remain single all their lives. Others still enjoy being married without kids. Lastly, we have couples who enjoy themselves without the benefit or burden of marriage. As for me the best formula is having a beautiful wife that adores me for no good reason, as I do my best to justify her adoration. Good luck out there!

[@Hanna5859]

Older men are happier being single. Older women, well, that's another story...

[@arkansharif5135]

Older women are happy too being single.

[@BobbyLoo-jr8ys]

Single man needs a computer, internet and a bunch of games and lots of p0Rn. Women = they need to social and spread gossip to keep them happy.

[@ArifWiwitan]

​@@arkansharif5135 nope women always prefer to have someone else provide for them

[@gstlb]

Here in the USA a higher percentage of men over 50 get remarried than women. It seems more women want to remain single. I’m just sharing the statistics.

[@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj]

@@ArifWiwitanThat used to be true but not anymore as women can provide for themselves these days.

[@Splittechfeelings]

I will say though myself life has kinda put me in a position of being alone. I've got one close friend and a few loose friends. I'm just trying to aspire to make as much money as I can and be free. I don't want children and honestly the older I get the less I want to get married. Part of me doesn't want to be alone forever, but slowly I'm starting to find the joy in being by myself

[@PCAseniorcareservices]

Not Good...Wowwwwww Chinese Men No more Singleness For you... I AM MIX WITH CHINESE LOVE YOUR WORK ETHIC... If You Are looking to marry From the Islands...Message Me...SINGLE NO MORE.

[@pwu8194]

Who needs a spouse when you can have pets? They never argue with you. Okay, you can't travel around the world without a pet sitter, but it's cheaper to hire a pet sitter than divorcing a spouse.

[@AlphonseWeebay]

I will NEVER have somebody telling me whatnot

[@romeoandjuliet6522]

Problem is we are living in End times thats why marriage are not working out too much greed ppl are not thankful

[@BobbyLoo-jr8ys]

bc, too many gold diggers, women with feminist ideas, bribe price, insane standards at 30+ yrs old and etc

[@teoleno4019]

Why should settle just because they a 30+? We live in different time. Many women have their own money and need men like fish needs a bicycle. The life of a women is way more stressful when you have to take care of a male and his offsprings for free. Nothing is free in 2024.

[@BobbyLoo-jr8ys]

@@teoleno4019 Good, let them continue to live independent, no need a partner in their life. Hope their life is good when they are sick and old and on one to visit them or take care of them.

[@BobbyLoo-jr8ys]

@@teoleno4019 Yet, why so many 35+ single women regret not marrying in their mid 20. Also regretted rejecting those men chasing them, saying their careers are more important. And now their career is establish and they are ready to settle, no man is interested, other than 50+ and divorced man. Wonder why!

[@MikeHunt-rh1rp]

This old guy is very smart... never get married!💀

[@raymondhumphrey2749]

Little Round Eyeglasses Man Is spot on.. Excellent Explanation 👍💯🎯

[@shirlebryant9427]

EXCELLENT

[@25Soupy]

Facts!

[@jo_elvis2805]

👉🏼We've reached that point when the risks of becoming old alone - outweigh the stress and risks of being with the wrong mate.

[@frikandelkroket9335]

When parents nag, then tell them to stop.

[@Mulesoftuser]

After watching many videos like this, i observed that single men who realise that its ok to not get married are very happy and content. But single women are saying they r fine, but are really stressed out.

[@BigJoe-g3o]

yeah because guys are just their tools lol .

[@shlee3120]

This is most sensible outlook in life! it's both sides working towards same goal!! Partnership n companionship!

[@addis.temari]

My Asian Brothers!!!!!! I've always had a deep respect for philosophy, especially well thought lessons. Be Respectful. Eat/Drink Well. Leave No Burdens. Great Lessons, Brothers. Black American.

[@kalasatwater2224]

I wish many old men going to the Philippines thought like that man from the beginning

[@abfab2517]

people from philippines are way too atractive and friendly and excellent cook !

[@cm-lv1bu]

Awesome chinese wisdom. I'm getting married though. C

[@WickedParanoid]

Because they found peace and don't want to let it go, I'd wager.

[@choonlianchee8601]

1st single man is very smart. Knows how to protect himself.

[@dakinejeb7890]

That first bro was spot on. 😊

[@akula9713]

The food looks delicious 😋😛

[@shirleygriffin7672]

Sharing post immediately, HERE JOHN in the USA, Griffin KZbin channel supports men WHO DO NOT MARRY. Whooooottttttt JOHN encourages men to stay single and childfree, healthy too....from the Ozarks USA 🇺🇸

[@sebaslek38]

do we live our life only for our self, or is a part of us also connected to others, a shared community existence and responsibility? If there's this connection, then we must consider what's best to be happy in that context, and marriage, family, friends, God can help us to grow and be happier

[@unknown-xf4ko]

Lots of young men in the West are choosing to remain single due to many risks of modern marriages and relationships.

[@shirleygriffin7672]

Exactly, John Griffin divorced in the USA supports men who are childfree and single. John encourages men to stay healthy and single

[@angelxtasy]

The way i see it is, whatever floats your boat and works for you.

[@Angelhelo227]

It’s not that men don’t want to get married; there are not enough women in China, and many cannot afford to pay a hefty dowry.

[@ДмитрийКузнецов-п8ч]

I love my wife and can't imagine life without her.

[@laihwatan2119]

So true what those men out there are saying. There is no need to please your partner constantly, in marriage there has to be equations balanced. Maybe some men has not give himself a chance to let their relationship flourish, they are too quick to judge others mentally. God bless those guy there

[@anguslaing6611]

I'm from Australia. We had to vote on whether it became legal for gay people to marry. I voted YES... I think everyone should have the right to be miserable.

[@Sean-sk3nq]

But the lowest divorce rate is with gay couples at 25%. Imagine a couple with two rational minds.

[@memphiskim6721]

The fox said the grapes must be very sour.

[@BigJoe-g3o]

or maybe the grapes are sour lol

[@VitaInDC]

China's 'One Child' policy was from around 1979 to 2015. The oldest of the men born then are 45. But let's consider boys already born who were up to 15 years old, and born in the mid-to-late 1960s. Many of these men witnessed their pregnant mothers harassed, coerced, and forced to have an abortion against the family's will, right up until she was in labor. Imagine that trauma. Imagine seeing her and your father, completely helpless to stop it. This surely had a huge negatively impact of your psychological-emotional-sexual development. Instead of thinking of the pleasure in making a baby, the act is complicated with traumatic usually unconscious memories. There was no therapy back then to process these feelings. And to compound the problem, there was (and still is) a huge shortage of women born in that time period of 1979 to 2015. So it is not a surprise 40% of older men never married. They had little choice.

[@tamjeff1751]

Hire an assistant instead

[@donaldwu909]

I really don’t know where you got the figures from.

[@kubasniak]

I have the same mindset as this man. Too bad there are not many or probably any women at all who want the same especially in adulthood.

[@rcardoosuna6491]

These seem like smart practical old dudes that have figured out being single the best way to go to avoid high risk and stress associated with marriage and children.

[@Splittechfeelings]

I've known men who love being married and I know men who feel like the person they're married to will always be in their corner. In both of these situations the men have cheated. I don't see that as a relationship worth maintaining if you're willing to cheat.

[@pandereodium]

Although I won't get married again, I gotta be honest, it is still hard to separate the word "marriage" from "family". I may create a family someday, but I won't sign any papers that will turn me into a soulless slave.

[@GandalftheWise]

09:50 hell yea. I like this dudes style!

[@jimbennett3788]

They are better off as single economically and likely emotionally too