Why Are Some People So Judgmental?

[@glenngriffon8032]

OMG "when it comes to small talk and gossip I'd rather watch paint dry. Because at least I know at some point it's gonna stop drying." Oh wow I'm gonna need to remember that one Rick. I like that a lot.

[@rickgreen4131]

Thanks. I'm learning to enjoy small talk, or even bigger talk when it's not me doing the talking. It doesn't come naturally. Ask my family. LOL

[@glenngriffon8032]

@@rickgreen4131 i feel you. I come from a family that loves it. I learned as a kid to slip into an acting mindset. So when I'm outside i don my alter-ego of "Kay the extrovert" I do enjoy going out and travelling i just don't like to do it with anyone but my bff.

[@davidthomas4065]

Literally read this comment right after he said it! Yeah, that’s a good one! 😂🤣

[@theunusuallife2456]

Get to the point or get lost right?

[@glenngriffon8032]

@@theunusuallife2456 Something like that. But you can't say that because it's rude.

[@Old52Guy]

Like Mom used to say: "If you're ugly inside you're going to be ugly outside."

[@rickgreen4131]

Oh, I've met some very good looking people who were not very good. What's the song by the Northern Pikes... "She Ain't Pretty, She Just Looks That Way." kzbin.info/www/bejne/i3iWdqt-d5Zmac0

[@soniczforever5470]

My ex is an ugly person he's got a nasty expression

[@creature_of_the_dark7487]

This dude is genuinely just being my parent/grandparent rn, and it's really comforting ngl

[@rickgreen4131]

I'm your Grand-dude. Is that a thing? If it's not and I just invented it I'm going to patent it and get rich. (Glad you find it comforting. The thing that I've learned, or, okay, one thing I've learned, is that adults don't know nearly as much as young people think they do. They may have lots more experience but you know what, it's often making the same mistakes over and over again.)

[@Ponk_80]

AINGTL when it comes to telling the truth.

[@creature_of_the_dark7487]

@@rickgreen4131 Ok, A) I'm hella honoured that you responded and that you're my grand-dude

[@glenngriffon8032]

"Why are people so unkind?" Good sir, you answer that question and you will achieve world peace.

[@USERNAMEfieldempty]

knowing why people are unkind won't make them stop being unkind.

[@glenngriffon8032]

@@USERNAMEfieldempty true but once you know the 'why' getting through the 'how' is easier. Note: _Not_ "easy", just "easier".

[@kimsullivan]

Similarly, I've spent a lot of my life wondering why life isn't fair, not just for myself, but overall. I think those questions are really statements, such as "people should be kind" and "life should be fair". It's true maturity and rootedness in the world to let go of those question/statements, and just live in the moment for what it is. I'll let you know when I get there....

[@janicefeny2223]

LOVED this video 😁! Totally know a person that is like that, coming across as perfect & pointing fingers. Great insight that it's probably their OWN insecurity and guilt. Thanks, Rick👍!

[@rickgreen4131]

You're welcome! I think we're probably all a bit like this. It's human nature. It's a universal mechanism to handle our mistakes, guilt, shame, poor choices...

[@hedleybutler9706]

We are ruled by our contradictions. Acutely aware of the terrible thing we can't resolve, they are scarcely ignored when we're confronted with them in other's behavior.

[@rickgreen4131]

Our blind spots. Which everyone can see except ourselves. And vice versa. "Why is she still with him?" "Why does he try so hard to impress people?"

[@SilverHawk214]

I'm a very judgmental person. my dad and siblings are too. Only 2 of us are vocal about our it though. My dad (Who we learned this behavior from) and my oldest brother. I don't know how to stop being judgmental. I just judge first and then I have to force myself to ignore those judgements. I judge myself too and I haven't quite learned to ignore that. I'm scared to make a wrong move or look dumb in front of others. (Again, learned from my dad) I fear judgement because I judge. My social anxiety controls a lot of my life.

[@TheBlueClover2012]

same here. Because I've been hurt a lot so I internalize all my judgment and anger. I don't say it but it's in my head. especially about myself. I also struggle with SAD. I think us being self-aware already makes us better than our parents/siblings though. N the fact that we aren't vocal about it counts for something. I try to learn through empathy.

[@rickgreen4131]

I highly, highly recommend a book called 'A Complaint Free World' by Will Bowen. It's miraculous.

[@PuppetMasterdaath144]

its the same as being in a cult, you need to free your mind...

[@little.lite_star]

you say that as if you have no self control? Why don't you just stop doing what you aren't meant to be doing and then your anxiety will go away... or if it's something health related then you have to take on whatever it takes to confront that and then of course you wont have anymore anxiety and then you can just be a more confident person and be bold about things and have the courage to be the person you want to be rather then just sitting in the shadows judging people who have put themselves out there to be known. I have to deal with people who have this whole judgement complex and it does my F*#$@n head in... and then if you call them out on it they turn into the most cowardly kind of child like minded person and just run away... It's absolutely cowardly... and no one wants to be a coward! and everyone deep down must know when they are becoming like that... so anyway... I just want to end this little rant by saying... you also deserve to be commended on the fact you actually admitted to that... it's a brave stance to just come forward and say it so you're obviously strong enough in yourself to take the first step and admit things... now you just need to have the same kind of bravery in yourself to say "I'm a coward and I should be more courageous!" and just willfully engage in the conflict that you should... and you'll feel better in yourself... and then you wont even have to be judging others all the time.

[@rizwanrauf4940]

Dear you are judgemental because you give attention to others too much instead give attention to bigger things in life, remember your attention is your life as prophets said blessed is the one who is preoccupied with his own mistakes

[@GoADHDGo]

“That Rick Green guy is a lot like you.” - my friend “That’s an absolutely terrible thing to say about him.” - me #felloweirdos

[@rickgreen4131]

Bordline cruel! (HA HA HA!)

[@decree4644]

Great video. Watched the whole thing, i promise.

[@rickgreen4131]

Good for you! I got about halfway through and had to get a snack.

[@JediBunny]

Thank you, Good Sir! This message is sorely needed and impeccably well delivered

[@WayToVibe]

After spending literally 6 hours working alongside a coworker and chattering away about every political notion that befell our bored mineds I can't help but look back and wonder what my views have to say about me.

[@glenngriffon8032]

After four decades on this earth I've learned this much to be true and I hold to these views: Respect others but don't expect others to respect you. Be kind to others but don't expect others to be kind to you. Show others acceptance and understanding, even if you don't understand them. Do the things you want to do when you want to do them, don't let fear of failure hold you back because years later you will wish you had done the thing. (Also known as Frizzle's Rule: Take chances, get messy, make mistakes.) You're never too old to act like a kid. Eat pudding, have candy, enjoy cereal and cartoons. "There's no point in being grown up if you can't be childish sometimes." - Fourth Doctor (Tom Baker) Contrary to what some might say, you can pick your family. It's relatives you can't pick. You can choose to acknowledge relatives as family or you can decide they're not. You choose your spouse and they become family. If you adopt you choose your children. Your closest friends can be brothers and sisters to you. You absolutely can pick your family. Time is too precious to waste it worrying what others think about you. Do your best to be kind and just roll with it. You won't know everything and that's okay because one mind cannot hold all wisdom.

[@rickgreen4131]

Good question. More interesting is how your views have changed and will change? That's what's interesting. Views are not very precious. We can have a view or opinion on everything and anything. Every movie, TV show, image, celebrity, politician, friend... we have opinions on anything and everything. Dunno why we need to classify, thumbs up or thumbs down, like/dislike, yes or no. As if our approval or disapproval means anything.

[@kimsullivan]

@@rickgreen4131 I liked this purely for irony

[@pongop]

It's so true! Thank you for another great video!

[@rickgreen4131]

You're welcome!

[@garyn1280]

Thank you for conveying such an important topic in an engaging and fun way!

[@RadishTheFool]

If someone is judging you, but clearly they are secretly talking about their own insecurities and shame, gently point this out to them by shouting "No, you!" Belief me, it will transform your relationship for the better.

[@rickgreen4131]

Ha ha! Define better. LOL

[@RadishTheFool]

@@rickgreen4131 😉

[@Madkalibyr]

Thank you for posting :)

[@rickgreen4131]

Thank you for commenting on the posting!

[@_Gnomeblaster]

Enjoying the new branding. Well done!

[@rickgreen4131]

Thank you! It's been slightly terrifying, but wonderful.

[@TheBlueClover2012]

Funny enough, I just received a comment calling me dumb right before I see this video. N right before that I was reading a number of comments under the trailer video of that new Princess Diana film n a bunch of ppl was already judging Kristen Stewart (someone didn't like the way she shrugs =_=) even when the movie isn't even out yet. And someone even said Princess Diana doesn't deserve empathy (or feel bad for) because she was rich (and a princess). Honestly, people make me sad. Like, can't we all just cut others and ourselves some slack? Why are we like this?

[@rickgreen4131]

Why are we like this? Because we are angry-disappointed-ashamed-disgusted-embarrassed about ourselves. Until each person gets their Sh*t sorted out and dealing with the junk from childhood we will continue walking around verbally stabbing each other. And, let's be honest, it's so easy to be nasty online. People spew garbage they wouldn't dare say to a person's face.

[@ynzmadeleine]

Thanks for this, love your storytelling... assessing everything and funny

[@danieldelgado2795]

ty Rick - helpful & funny at the same time :)

[@dragondreamjln]

Greatest video I’ve been looking for all my life, I’ll be seeing you in East-Bergastania!!! XD

[@DavidJVMusic]

LOL!!! thanks for sharing! I love your stuff!

[@rickgreen4131]

Thank you. I have some very nice stuff, it's true.

[@gregofthedump]

Greetings from East Borgastania!

[@charleneknottsrubini2220]

I always enjoy watching your videos. You are informative while also providing many laughs! In the future please consider changing the term “real parents” to biological parents. It unintentionally gives the impression that only the biological parents are “real” when all four of the parents are her real parents. Thank you.

[@rickgreen4131]

Oh, you're welcome. Apologies. But that's the term she used, which I think, captured her attitude towards being adopted.

[@kimsullivan]

Even I cringed at the "real parents" comment, but I think it was necessary for Rick to use it in this case since his, I mean someone's, grandmother said it verbatim.

[@thenerdygirlnextdoor314]

Like always, a fantastic video!! Thank you for making them! A great reminder we should think of more often, especially when we ourselves fall into the sticky trap of gossiping. Also, something I have been wondering for a while: is that dog on the shelf in the background the dog from "His Master's Voice"? And where can I find one for myself?

[@nellyvelez9851]

😄😄 You made it very interesting, very funny. Thanks for sharing.

[@boredfangerrude]

Great video!

[@gordocarbo]

:025 this is right on the money!! To spot em young just listen to them talk. If they always have something negative to say in general or speak poorly of others...they are doing it to you too. So lose thier number....they will do nothing but be destructive to you, your pshyche, life etc If it means no talking to family, a divorce then so be it. Keep your standards high just dont forget to treat others as if they had the same stds too.

[@coinbowl]

very helpful

[@olafweyer859]

I'm on eye level with everyone, I don't establish hierarchies nor will I ever bow to one (it's different at work were you have an assigned role, so that's a no-brainer). Judgemental people put themselves above others. It disgusts me and at the same time the notion strikes me as ridiculous. We are all human. We all struggle. We all suffer. We are all failures one way or another. Lets be kind to each other and lets try to understand each other. Don't judge. None of us is in a position to judge.

[@knottphreak]

Where is your 10 signs you don't have ADHD video - did I imagine it? It was hilarious!

[@9crutnacker985]

"Full of piss & vinegar..." :D :D :D

[@rickgreen4131]

Phrases we need to use more.

[@lgcacher9205]

😅 rather watch paint dry sooner or latter it will dry . so true

[@I.Z.Phooto]

How do I legally get this man as my grandpa?

[@supatvrd]

Dam East borgastania sounds so cool

[@rickgreen4131]

It's gotten a little touristy.

[@julzhiyas365]

This reminds me of 'anger' and the underlying reasons why you may be....

[@chanuppuluri8726]

😂 I'm losing my marbles over East and West Borgestania

[@PeaceLoveAndGuns]

Why did Dr. Jain have all of the ADHD videos taken off the channel?

[@rickgreen4131]

We are no long connected at all to the old channel. I'm now at RickWantsToKnow.com

[@PeaceLoveAndGuns]

@@rickgreen4131 Hey Rick, thanks for the response. Are the old videos available to Patreon patrons? They were very helpful and a lot of people are sad to see them go.

[@Cymricus]

the red stain story was definitely a gay kid or interracial marriage and not an adoption lol

[@soniczforever5470]

My ex boyfriend was a nightmare he also is violent. He describes people as crazy. I've severe ocd so not 100 percent but told him to get out of my flat. He never had a job who would listen to that. He got out a picture of a labrador yesterday when I got mauled by one. It might be funny! Really. Didn't take it very well.

[@MaxOakland]

You’re funny Rick

[@micky2be]

Did the channel changed? Can't find old videos

[@micky2be]

Saw the website. Seems something happened. Hope it's for the best.

[@rickgreen4131]

@@micky2be We are no longer connected to the old website in any way.

[@PuppetMasterdaath144]

to see a person able to reflect and observe the ego as an object to be dissected and discussed like this reminds me of how stupid the human race is, because i haven't seen this now for like ever

[@randomgirl8078]

I wonder if you are a fellow INFJ with ADHD. Nice to have a brother.

[@rickgreen4131]

Yep. And yep.

[@uclajd]

I don't like the insecurity as an explain-all for criticism. I'm all for iron sharpens iron, and my friends being honest with me if I am exhibiting loser behavior. But yes, insecurities - and envy - do create some of the criticism. But your post reminds me of the Curb Your Enthusiasm bit about a kid who is "special needs". But Larry thinks he's just an asshole. 🤷‍♂️

[@michellebyrom6551]

Have you heard of the idea that what most annoys us about other people is when they do/say something that reminds us of the things we most dislike about ourselves? Or the one that says the people we most admire are the ones displaying the qualities that we'd most like to have? So, what can we learn about ourselves from other people, just by being around them?

[@rickgreen4131]

Why is doubly funny because Larry is such an ass at times.

[@snake1625b]

I don't remember subscribing to this channel

[@rickgreen4131]

LOL! It use to just be about ADHD.

[@JadedGenXer]

Atm im losing my shit as we still have covid restrictions and i actually go above and byond the guidelines because i dont want to be part of the problem yet we keep getting thrown back in to full lockdown because everyone thinks its ok for them to bend the rules/ LAWS. Ive just had a rant on my FB page and a wee one now because just like everyone else , i want this over with but every time i have to leave my home to only access essential services, im met with hords of people thinking they are above the law and i run and retreat back to doing iso solo while idiots dance in parks with no masks on getting in strangers faces and all i want to do is pick up mu groceries and pick up my meds then head home unscathed by covid. Armed with my mask and hand sanitizer, fully vaxed. Tell me how my destress about this is about my guilt ? Strangely my black and white thinking of being on the spectum is working out to make me the most law abiding person in my stupid small town full of overprivileged city weekends that shifted up here full time to escape the cities when this hit and they think its bloody Disney land during this cluster F of 2021 and yeah im upset because no one out my way of all the idiot or selfish anti vaxer , home schoolers , covid deniers, anti masks and flat earthers belive this applies to them too. Yesterday really upset me having a un masked stranger get in my face singing about toxic positivity shit getting their hands all over me on the way back to me car. I burst out crying when i got in my car because i heal my shit together and tried like hell to not follow my first impulse to puch them in the face or scream at them. I actually ran away.

[@yerva01]

I love you

[@PuppetMasterdaath144]

btw to make fun of you I want to say that I learned this whenever I made a person feel like an idiot he called me an idiot

[@SeeYouInHellDad]

I honestly just judge them back on the things they like. If they don’t like it I don’t mind throwing hands.