Why Aren't You Over It Yet? Part I: The Inner Critic (Masculinity from the Inside Out Ep. 14)

[@dearhorse085]

It is important for me to comment on this video, because it's hard to wrap my head around this topic. Or maybe this is simply a reach for self validation. But you see? I can make it as complex as I want, just so it won't be easy for myself. It's as if I am never allowed to be "not-conscious". I am scared to give you my hand. Obsessing over my decisions, double checking switches in my head, settings on my computer, constantly wondering if every one of them is in order. Procrastination is the only thing left to do, after the mind becomes so tired. That keeps me away from closure. I've dissected every inch of my brain, yet I do not have permission for take - off.

[@dearhorse085]

Ironically, this is an unconscious thought cycle 😂

[@RickBelden]

Hi Hippocrates. Thank you for watching and commenting. That sort of looping into inertia and inaction that you described is a very common pattern for a lot of people and something with which I'm personally familiar, which is why I talk a lot about pattern interrupts. If you can take one action that will interrupt the pattern, even something small and even if only for a moment, you may find that you've introduced enough disruption into the process to break the spell. Perhaps something to try.

[@stephensmith5949]

i hear this. it resonates.

[@bobo650]

I appreciate this topic. As I'm doing my work, I thought that once I dealt with the unresolved trauma, that was it. But as I go deeper I realized that the behavior patterns that developed because of the trauma need to be addressed as well and that "Getting over it" is going to take time effort and patience, especially with myself.

[@RickBelden]

Thank you for watching and for sharing such an insightful comment. Patience is a challenge for so many of us, but as you said, it's essential if we're going to be successful over the long term.