Why Black Men aren't Marrying Black Women: A Terrell Owens Case Study

[@linkny2914]

I’m married to a BW, but I agree that ppl tend to downplay BM experiences, especially when it involves our interactions with BW.

[@williewakawhistle9058]

Right

[@TheDarkAdventure]

We have to eat everything and never take anything personal. Basically, act in an inhumane manner.

[@keenansmith7176]

An American black woman?

[@linkny2914]

@@keenansmith7176 we’re both Caribbean Americans.

[@thewordsmith5440]

Because it's a lame excuse. Black men and boys are notorious for bashing dark skin girls and women even until this day yet many black women still date black men even though they are quick to rush towards the whites or lightest looking women.

[@naamanmagnusanthony9035]

A woman will never cry for the things she has done, but will always cry for the consequences she has to pay.

[@luvbig41]

This is BillBoard worthy.

[@blaxpoitation8528]

Straight facts. Well said bro

[@reboot4357]

WOW!

[@tupactargaryen]

Bars.

[@andrejones5441]

I'm stealing your whole comment for research purposes.

[@TruthFLA]

I find it funny that the response to Terrell Owens saying he was bullied or made fun of by black women is more bullying or being made fun of by black women.

[@jamesdicker2962]

You noticed that too? The B-Dubs love to re-enforce stereotypes.

[@kellygreenii]

That’s called “no self-awareness” in action.

[@GeeB-bi8id]

That's what they do

[@MojoMicah]

I'm not into Hispanic girls in particular, but there's nothing like being called "my love" Instead of mah nigga. Butterflies vs "f@ck I look like telling a nigga good morning "

[@asdfdc1946]

or papi while getting a home cooked meal from scrath. black women don't do that shit unless its for pookie.

[@DoDahhhhhhhhh]

😂😂

[@tupactargaryen]

"f@ck I look like telling a nigga good morning " 🤣 🤦🏿‍♂

[@MojoMicah]

@@asdfdc1946 it's difficult enough just to get a glass of water. Gotta ask when they're distracted to get them to do it, otherwise at best you'll get a "you know where the fridge is"

[@hazeljust7001]

How sad that you think you have to date out to experience that. I’ve never called a partner my nigga.

[@AnnoDomini97]

"It's easier to build strong children than it is to repair broken men"..... Frederick Douglass

[@zyruemusic]

THATS A LIE AND DECEPTION BECAUSE IF IT WAS TRUE THE CHILDREN WOULD BE STRONG…..BUT THEY NOT!!!!

[@Kturn2010]

This is why an organization is needed to train and raise a far better community of people than we have today but it’s gonna take men and women that are willing to be strong enough to get it done and it would only take 10 to 15 years working with kids 10 and under 🤷🏾‍♂️give me 100 to 500 kids to build into a powerhouse and they’ll serve as a blueprint for who we COULD BECOME

[@Kturn2010]

@@zyruemusicwhat society serves as your example to refute that statement

[@zyruemusic]

@@Kturn2010 THE USA ALABASTER AMERICAN SOCIETY OF SCHOOL HOUSE SHOOTERS AND KARENS!!!

[@zyruemusic]

@@Kturn2010 A NATION CAN RISE NO HIGHER THAN THE MORAL CHARACTER OF ITS WOMEN!!! HONORABLE ELIJAH MUHAMMAD

[@user-nf7nu3bl6q]

"Our community habit is to dismiss men while begging them to communicate more." 🔥 🔥 Fire

[@marluma]

All i gotta say is, I got almost 5 nephews and they all play sports, when KS was blowing up with Average at Best video they were finishing middle school.. Their mother found out they were hanging out with girls from different races, whenever she had to go pick them up from school or sports practice.. when she asked them why they werent hanging out with girls from their own race, they simply said, black girls arent nice to us.. Currently 1 is headed to college and the other about to finish HS, guess who theyre dating? Its no wonder why you always see black athletes on draft nights always with different race of females other than black.. We lost this fight a long time ago..

[@Conquerer.D.K]

This is the unfortunate truth. Those boys won't ever be loyal to the opposite gender of their race if they don't appreciate them. It's totally normal. Go where you're celebrated, not tolerated.

[@acewilliams7917]

I grew up with 3 ststers and ley me tell ya, they weren't nice. They were hard on BM.

[@ghosttemplar6989]

We share that I'm common good sir

[@richmondwotters]

My son is 13, we moved from AR To WA state about 3 months ago, and he told me the other day “I’m not talking to no black girls”. I was like 🤔 what do you mean? Why not? He told me “because most of them are mean and fat” 😆 No exaggeration. We both burst into laughter! That was a good bonding moment between us, but you know I had to give him the white supremacy lecture after lol. Edit: I’d also like to add that my son is already 5’9 at 13, he’s athletic and what most might consider a “pretty boy with good hair”. He’s never had a problem talking to black girls in AR, but he did have the same complaints. Saying the girls would always “talk crazy to him” or threaten him. It’s just interesting to see the internet and actual events in my real life intersect. It’s crazy.

[@Conquerer.D.K]

@@richmondwotters because not everything in social media is false. Specially about men because men rarely speak up.

[@MaruTheGreat]

I was nerd growing up in the Bronx in the 2000s where being such could quite literally get you beat up and robbed. I was teased and bullied mercilessly by the girls in my neighborhood (all black). They’d call me horrible names (“Oreo”, “f*ggot”/“g@y”, etc) and some tried to get their gang-affiliated brothers to jump/rob me and my friends at knifepoint. It was very rough growing up at that time. I got no play from BW in my teen/young adult years. I’ve never discriminated, but the only ladies that have shown active interest in me are white and Asian women w/ a few latinas here and there. Unfortunately in our culture a lot of us are taught that there’s only 1 way to be black and if you deviate from that you automatically become the “other”.

[@samadgriffin6853]

I feel ya, mane.

[@CharlesDorsey-ov2ht]

Bullshit! Yes our people act on THEIR insecurities. The was a black woman who was made for you before you were born! Cut thru the we bullshit and claim your prize! Black women thruout the world!

[@Ordinary_Operator]

I understand your experience completely. I was treated that way but conformed to the “one” way to be black, just to get a semblance of peace. Sadly a lot of black men have done the same because of the terrible treatment from black girls growing up.

[@Igboman87]

How about experiencing this as an adult? Yes, that toxicity goes beyond childhood, and I experience it. I've been called a f*g several times from ghetto Black people both men and women (moreso men) for speaking proper. It's happened so much that I hold animosity towards Black people from the hood because those are the types who have ridiculed or attacked me (verbally and physically) while doing it. I'm not trying to be a savior for the community at this point due to the heartbreak and trauma I've faced from others within it.

[@ktg5713]

I say go where you're treated better.

[@paulduncan3032]

The sad thing is that they don't even respect the man as a work horse. If a farmer had a good work horse it would be his prize possession, he would care about its well being and do maintenance and up keep for it. Women in general could care less about the man who is providing for them.

[@jinchuu04]

I was a blerd growing up before being a nerd was cool (the 90s). Black girls wouldn't touch me with a 10 ft pole, meanwhile I got attention from white and asian girls all day everyday. I underestimated just how much those experiences as a teen would influence my dating preferences as an adult. I didn't intentionally date out or avoid black women, but I felt more comfortable around asian women and white women because they liked me as I was. Black women made me uncomfortable because it felt like they disapproved of me (being called an 'oreo' on a date because I 'sounded like a white man' when I spoke is an experience I won't forget). I didn't meet/date a black woman I felt I could be myself with until I was almost 30 - she had also grown up as a blerd, and we shared similar experiences (including the ridicule and rejection by mostly other black people).

[@kalebwelch5799]

It was Mexican and Philippina's at my school that were into me, that's it. What's crazy is like you, though I lost my V-card to a BW it wasn't until I was 32 before I started dating BW 😂😂

[@adio.5189]

My experience is almost exactly this.

[@ian_ford]

Very similar experience, growing up in the 80s and 90s. Ridicule for my disposition was almost exclusively at the hands of Blk women. As the generations have passed, black girls and young women are exposed to fewer instances of Blk males leading the household. So they only know a world where big mama, mama, aunties and female cousins ruled the house. And they've all denigrated black men behind closed doors. Todays black women are outward manifestations of the "private" conversations Black women use to put down not just the black men in their parochial environment, but nationwide! These women may look like women, but they sound and act like men. And, no offense, I'm not dating or marrying a female that moves, thinks, acts or behaves like a man.

[@Laughing_Individual]

And to make it even worse, it's the blerd women that shit on us the most.

[@renzopeterson153]

The wild part about it is female blerds are in awe of whyte men, especially whyte male nerds.

[@truftelar2580]

I'm not a Passport Bro or into Beckys, but I understand. Salute gentlemen!!!

[@HELLcoming-wc8hs]

BANG BANG

[@wnttalk]

Same

[@TyrillCelestine]

Same here bro I don’t even own a passport but I did a year overseas Korean women were awesome but I love my bw I just need 1 to act right 🤣

[@joehunter7936]

So do I my friend, so do I. 💯

[@erickqwesibentilmanie2382]

@@TyrillCelestinewish u the best bro🫡

[@berlingray8058]

I know exactly what he means, I wasn't treated badly by Black Girls/Women but I can say that I wasn't their preference growing up. More specifically, 9 years ago I was working in at a mall in the south suburbs of Chicago (For H&M) after my first year with the company I transferred to the H&M in Downtown Chicago. As soon as I got there the Latin/Hispanic girls that were working there were extremely open and welcoming and were interested in knowing about me, overall just really sweet and they basically were attracted to me off the rip. The Black girls were very standoffish, didn't really try to interact with me but 2 years after working there we were all talking in the stockroom and the Black girls told me straight to my face,"the reason we didn't talk to you for a while when you got here was bc we were trying to figure out if you were Gay and we found out that you weren't and that you were actually a really cool person that's when we wanted to be around you."Truth be told they only started fvcking with me bc of all the attention I was getting from the non BW both sales associates and managers.

[@charlesirby1643]

Bro that’s bull crap. I’m so tired of black men always being called gay. If you don’t fit an archetype they throw you in the waste basket with the gay men. I had a few black women call me gay because I didn’t want to sleep with them after knowing them a few days. If you would bust it open for me that fast I’m not interested.

[@johnnybjudah8889]

Thats an excuse Bw love gay bm.

[@berlingray8058]

@@charlesirby1643 I grew up in the burbs, I didn't have any tattoo's (still don't) Not the tallest person but over the average male height, I was fit (still am) but not muscular. I dressed really well and I speak good English lol Bc in their minds, if they let a Black dude work downtown at a retail spot where mostly women work he has to be gay lol

[@berlingray8058]

@@johnnybjudah8889 BW do not love Gay BM, they only like being around them bc the think Gay BM worship them. They use their sexuality as an insult bc they don’t believe Gay BM/Gay Men in general are ‘Real Men’ hence why they use “You must be gay!” Or “If you’re gay then say that” as an insult, they’re not terms of endearment to encourage men to live in “their truth”, it’s literally to emasculate you bc they don’t like you or agree with you.

[@asdfdc1946]

@@berlingray8058 if you're not a pookie or tyrone, black women aren't interested in you unless you getting the bag.

[@TheloniousP]

These case studies are fantastic.

[@kraiden3]

I graduated in 95. I had never had a white girlfriend. The sistas I liked in college , didn't like me because I was scrawny and nerdy. I remember the sistas making fun of me because I spent all my time in the lab learning about that new thing called the computer.... In the lab I met a WW. so now it's 28 years later and I am an IT engineer in NYC. I was told I CHASED WW because I hate myself and because I have a good job. By the way, the WW I met in the lab stayed with me for 15 years

[@Asfghjahsgf]

Strange because scrawny nerdy black men don’t even go for nerdy black women and girls

[@taylorthenatural5509]

​@@AsfghjahsgfThat's absolutely right! Where was the love for black fenale nerds

[@Ordinary_Operator]

@@AsfghjahsgfBS nerdy black girls women do not want anything to do with black men completely.

[@dwf6431]

@@Asfghjahsgfthe nerdy black women aren’t going for those guys either

[@gintoki_sakata__]

​​@@taylorthenatural5509they had crushes on the white nerdy guys

[@tupactargaryen]

Terrell Owens’ experience is that of a lot of young BM experiences. Normal, regular, blaq boys get no attention at the very least to clowned and humiliated by blaq girls when they’re young(ages 12-28), The females want the thug, the guy with “swag, the drug dealer, or the wanna be rapper. It’s not until these women are in their 30’s and 40’s and have been ran through with 3 kids with pookie do they want a “good black man”, especially if the man has little 💰 now. But by then it’s too late, the BM they want now are jaded by BW and have moved on to other groups of women or getting their passports and looking overseas for wives. That’s why even eboni Williams is saying that BW need to find a husband in college or while their still young.

[@thatimokoena8357]

True you said nothing but the truth

[@loulousworld92]

The same way you say, feel entitled to black man. You also feel entitled to black women there are you attention. If I’m being completely honest we don’t owe you anything if she doesn’t like you she has that right for you to hold onto that and have more animosity towards teenage girls is absolutely insane. A lot of you have horrible interracial relationships , your relationship statistically do not last and often end in divorce that again, there is more smoke for a teenage black girl that there is a non-black adult woman

[@ian_ford]

Because Black women today carry themselves with a lot of masculine energy. So it makes sense they are attracted to what they perceive to be "masculine" traits. But those are truthfully "chaos" traits. There's a video of a chick who was reckless with her womb, finally landed a good man and was urged by her friends to settle down. She did, but she got bored. Sex and boring to her. And the marriage eventually fell apart. Her pair-bonding instincts were destroyed from years of getting smashed by thugs. She didn't know a good situation when it was staring her in the face. And she ruined her marriage over craving a wanton lifestyle she once lead. Do not be the fool in thinking you can domesticate a wild animal. You can't take a 10 year old feral ally cat home and turn it into a house cat. It'll always revert to primative instincts.

[@MegaMie77]

@@loulousworld92 Not true. Married black men tend to remain married more than most other groups. That means, that BM just need to find the right woman and they commit. BW remain single or divorce at higher rates than all other groups. So, we can deduce where the problem lays… it’s not the BM.

[@camden336]

​@@loulousworld92what stats you reading you way off! You talking out your azz

[@sircharles820]

I remember someone said years back in these KZbin streets. Often times as a black boy the most feminine woman in your life is the teacher. I was watching last chance U on Netflix about Eastern Mississippi community college. And I'm sitting there watching the white lady (Brittney Wagner) interact and essentially become a mother figure to those players. And I'm thinking... This is why black athletes date white women when they make the league. Them young players probably never had anyone that feminine in their lives until that point. 😆

[@wnttalk]

Wow! Excellent observation💯

[@raharmonnelson7537]

They do not care what he went through.... how they treated him.... all they know is he has money now and they find it offensive he won't give them the chance to cash him out.... he can explain it all he wants .... they do not care .... open your wallet and let them in.... have grace to forgive what he went though because again they do not care 1:49

[@jeremiahgiles3593]

FACTS

[@neonicblader]

I can't lie it's like you understand young black men so well. Every time I watch your videos I feel so understood. In high school I was a nerdy kid who watched anime and was made fun of lot by especially dark-skinned women and to be honest that hurt, it felt like my own people didn't even want me. Then when I got to college on a track scholarship now all of a sudden, I'm cool enough. Well now I'm an electrical engineer at a gov't contractor and I'm really hesitant date a black woman and don't get me started on marrying one. Anyways please keep up the great work man I'm really proud of what your doing and I will be sharing your content with my close friends.

[@wnttalk]

You’re the reason I do this brother✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿

[@Ghragle-]

I was gaslit into thinking I had self hatred. Everyone assumed my dating out was due to preferring another groups skin. When it was all about treatment. My mother brow beat me (I was raised by only her) and made me feel like I had turned on the black community and her. So I broke up with the love of my life. She was sweet and kind and got with a black woman who was what my mother preferred. Never listen to black women. My mother now regrets what she did. My life, my career and my family was destroyed by that black woman. My mother couldn’t understand the lack of grace, she just believed because she was black she’d be best for me, but never asked or thought about how this could affect me. I have never not been attracted to black women, but these bw today do not prefer me, nor would they give up anything for me. Every woman outside my race who’s dated me, wanted me. All of me. The goofy parts, the disciplined parts. I was never called gay, by a non black woman, or white, or less of a man. Only black women speak this way. The only black woman id date is if she had a white mother and culture behind her or was from outside of western society.

[@asdfdc1946]

"So I broke up with the love of my life." --- smh. "and got with a black woman who was what my mother preferred." --- is your mother dating her or are you? smh women make decisions emotionally, not based in logic. thats why men need to be in charge in a family. your story is why black fathers are important. your mother had you up here taking orders from women smh. tbh i can't believe you stopped dating a girl you liked, just to date a girl you didn't like as much just to please your mother & because she was the same skin color as you. & you did it because someone else told you to. this is what happens when men don't lead & women take the lead. bad decisions get made. the qu'ran & the bible put men in charge of the world for a good reason... this is the reason.

[@queenbae6396]

How old were you when you broke up with the love of your life? Can you not get back with her? Seems sad.

[@queenbae6396]

You would only date mixed women now? Black women don’t have white mothers.

[@The-L-Factor]

That's sad. I'll never date a BW again. I dont consider them mating options. They think it's about color, its not. It's all about behavior.

[@MillionHiers]

My son is 15 lives with his mom and I’m always redirecting him from her horrible advice about this already, I can attest if I wasn’t there to add perspective and logic he would have a much much worse time, with the opposite sex.

[@terrencelee9366]

The main reason a lot of bw hated Kevin Samuels was because he had platform that put on full display on why most black men aren’t choosing them, now that the conversation has gotten broader and more known it’s only a matter of time before there’s endless examples of why bw aren’t getting chose by any race of men . The question is are bw as a whole going to choose to care or stay stuck in their ways . What’s going to happen in 4-5 years when the marriage rate of black goes to single digits? Is it still going to be the Man’s fault or will they realize that they play a part as well?

[@sickofguysnamedtodd2293]

It’s always gonna be our fault. They’ll never take accountability for the part they played in it.

[@humus4000]

Hey bro I could definitely relate to that situation, I too got that Experience that why to this day I married a white woman who do appreciate me for being me..

[@HELLcoming-wc8hs]

CONGRATS

[@aferg76]

If you marry white why do you still come to black spaces especially a space for black couple/families when you don’t have one? It’s like y’all step out and still long for a black community 😂.

[@direwolf1977]

Salute to your peace!

[@kinnyboy]

Even with knowing how you feel about interracial relationships, I appreciate you making this video. I feel like you give the guys like me a voice. Contrary to what other KZbinrs say a lot of black men that date out weren’t “looking” to do so, a lot of us were bullied and made fun of by black woman our entire adolescence for nothing, and when we ran into the white/Asian/Latina/etc woman, they made us feel human so we stayed. It’s crazy but if u listen to men who date/marry out, over 90% of them will have the same exact story

[@IntrovertidoTieneFlow]

I prefer black women, but for me and the lifestyle that I want and work towards I have to keep my distance from most BW. It’s sad, but it is what it is and I’m not bothered by it.

[@luvbig41]

Bingo!!!

[@keithanom187]

What he said!

[@Dwei99]

At this point people just have to accept it is what it is. These conversations have been going on decades on some level, with no noticeable changes in outcome.

[@j-short5431]

No it hasn’t. Black men just started speaking out after decades of staying quiet.

[@ThatChristianFamChannel]

I was doing a youth bible study at my church. Somehow we got on the topic of dating. All the black males said they don't date black girls, only Mexican chicks. Of course I asked why, they siad becaue the black girls are mean, act like dudes and care too much about clothes and material things. They went on to say the Mexican chicks are nice and could care less if you wore a pair of Js. Rhis was at least 15 plus black male teens. I was blown away!!!

[@asdfdc1946]

idk why you're blown away, this has been the norm for awhile now. what? you thought black women could just constantly treat black men like shit & it wouldn't have any societal repercussions? now you have a whole generation of young men that just don't deal with black women at all. & a lot of black men, once they get the bag, they end up with a white girl or latina. it is what it is.

[@loulousworld92]

Lool even in church, you are preaching hatred towards black women and girls😂😂😂. When I tell you BM are the supremacist of the community!! I am, I don’t know how you think you’re going to make it into heaven carrying animosity and hatred towards black women and girls and preaching discrimination and prejudice

[@suziepickes702]

No wonder we are seeing more nonbw out here becoming single mothers with mixed kids

[@myeka1273]

My problem is when people ignore or damn straight recreate the reason African Americans men are leaving African Americans women to the wilds, it’s like a lotta dating profiles say:”If you can’t accept me at my worst then you can’t have me at my best.” American men are now taking this advice to heart and African American men aren’t exempt from doing so because what are the consequences?

[@myeka1273]

@@PrinceInawRakah And that’s the problem: this “group think”, meet the millennial black man, most of us don’t give a single f about it. I have never gave any credence because I’ve never seen any benefit or even a future proposal I can agree with, the few of us that do I truly feel for your hearts because there’s more black American men abandoning the “black movement” than joining it. Can’t blame us there’s nothing worthwhile for us in it, why would we care?

[@myeka1273]

@@PrinceInawRakah Don’t know your code or crew but most of us disacknowledge the expectations/image associated with black Americans, we live as human beings nothing more or less. Whoever thinks otherwise is welcome to empty their brain on the concept until they’re comatose.

[@asdfdc1946]

@@myeka1273 "”If you can’t accept me at my worst then you can’t have me at my best.” American men are now taking this advice to heart" --- so you think you can reject black men for 20 years all throughout high school & college when he is on his grind, has nothing & is a regular guy & then try to come to him in your 30's when you got 2 kids by Tyrone when he's successful & has his own real estate business? you think you deserve him then? no. the latina women that rode with him while he was in the trenches are going to get him. this attitude of entitlement from black women is the reason why black men become successful & don't deal with black women.they feel entitled to a successful black man just because he's black. black women feel like they shouldn't have to compete for a good man. black women feel like the best men should fall into their lap & come to them. it don't work like that. meanwhile, every bad experience he's had with women has been with a black woman. they'll make fun of how he looks, how he dresses, how he walks, how he talks if he doesn't talk "hood" or with slang. shame him for not having tattoos & not indulging in the club scene or lots of smoking weed & drinking. it says a lot about black women that this is most nerdy black men's experience with black women. those nerdy guys that black women didn't want are the smart men that end up becoming successful & the ones that end up becoming good fathers. black women don't choose them. they choose pookie & then get mad that pookie didn't stick around to help raise his own child. in the words of the late great Kevin Samuels... "you can't make this shit up" smh

[@asdfdc1946]

@@PrinceInawRakah "is @myeka1273 a woman? I thought it was a grown man" --- idk. its either a woman or an emasculated man. either way... doesn't matter.

[@myeka1273]

@@asdfdc1946 Gotten thrown off with the first part there but you got the gist of it well I said the gist of it you expounded upon the issue; many black American women believe they need not to compete for black American men but in 25 years when we’re far away from the woes of them guess what then they’ll desire to listen. It’ll be too late then, the only negotiation that’ll exist is business related and I don’t think they’ll want to adhere to that business.

[@hometowngirlncurls5669]

This was good!!! As a BW, I can admit that I was a part of the problem too. Dismissing the BM's experience but expecting them to understand my experience and sympathesize with me. Once I became more open minded, thanks to my husband while we were dating, I realized that there are tons of BW that are the same way. I had to explain to my friend that men deal with double standards just like women do as she was complaining that men don't have to deal with any. Unfortunately she still didn't get it. This led me to your channel and many conversations with my husband to understand the BM better. Please keep this going! It's helped me to really see y'all.

[@wnttalk]

Wow!!! This means so much! Thank you for the encouragement sister 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿

[@thewordsmith5440]

I realize that there are black men who have a hard time dating but Terrell Owens was once in his prime and had plenty of money the same white women who only dated him for money he could find a black woman who would want him. This would be an acceptable excuse from an average Joe but not a professional athlete and isn't this the same situation. Black men regardless if they are bullied are not have a tendency to not like black features. The most popular black guy in the school usually only wanted the mixed girl. The reason they want white girls for very light skin women has nothing to do with bullying and more to do with most black men don't like their black features and don't want to reproduce with women who look like them.

[@hometowngirlncurls5669]

@@thewordsmith5440 he talked about his experience with BW before his prime when he was in school and was skinny and wasn't the big man on campus. This made him gravitate to non-black girls during his teen years. He literally explained all of this in the video. What he did wasn't necessarily the right thing but we can't dismiss what he went through as if his feelings don't matter.

[@loulousworld92]

@@thewordsmith5440 I agree with you, black women are constantly gaslit about our experiences with colourism. I’ve said multiple times under this comment section that black men turn into the colourist bullies they complain about, which makes it very hard for me to emphasise as they are also guilty of the same prejudice and discrimination amongst women. I’ve also said that I don’t understand how grown men can hold 15, 15 and 17-year-old teenage black girls accountable for things they said as teenagers . They refuse to get therapy. They refuse to let go, they hold onto grudges, where into the later stages of life and project. All of this hatred onto women.. Let’s be very honest a lot of them hate their mothers they hate the way their mothers are treated in society. They are very aware of beauty standards and they see that their mothers are the opposite of what western society regards as beautiful as a result a lot of that they internalise . They hate their mothers, and they hate anything that is in her image. To say that 24 million black American women have pushed you away is absolutely insane. Black men have the same supremacist talking points.

[@tangoalpha94]

Thank you. That’s all we ask for. We not asking for y’all to like us just understand where we’re coming from

[@TheArenaRevised]

I have a college close friend who went on to play six years in the NBA as a starter before injury ended it. He won a national title at our school. The first few seconds of the T.O. segment is HIS story. I've heard him tell that exact story, even to Black girls. This was 1995, '96. I have a particular episode maybe I can relate in a discussion with you in a Live, Allen. In fact, I have a bunch from college. But needless to say, we were always TOLD why we had certain dating habits, but never ASKED why. The Black man who excludes Black women from his dating pool really doesn't exist, he just likely got passed over, as the procreation data illustrates

[@SteadilyGrinding]

Lol we all still got that one genre of sista that we still adore, and yet, still have trouble keeping 😂

[@alextrebek5237]

It makes sense. BW online and in TO's case, in person, don't want to look in the mirror and ask themselves why they're the least chosen. Look at how they treated Kevin Samuels. Denigrating submissive women as "pick-meishas" is a part of it as an ego-defense mechanism. Therapy helps, I hope TO finds the wife who RESPECTS him for his virtue and not his cirriculum vitae or cash (materialism). And if you believe in God, then you believe in Adam and Eve. So our white, asian, latin, african brothers and sisters are our extended family, it doesn't matter which race you choose. Only racists care

[@6time686]

LOL.. calling white, asian and latin your brothers and sisters. NONE of those would ever trade places with you, not even for a day. And NONE of those refer to black folks as a brother or sister. Only black folks like yourself think of all others as brothers and sisters and pretend racism doesn't exist. But hey, knock yourself out.

[@CodeFatherX]

I definitely understand where he’s coming from. I went to an HBCU hoping to find a black wife. As a lighter skinned black man, I’ve never felt less valued to the opposite sex than I did during my time there. It definitely shaped what I typically look for now

[@joejett5084]

Too much silly going on. Women clowned TO over complexion and then devalued you over complexion just to in the long run claim black men are colorist. 😒

[@mariejane1567]

This is cap I went to NC A&T and there was no issue.....

[@CodeFatherX]

@@mariejane1567 that’s not the school I went to. I’ve literally been told by BW that they only want a dark skinned man. But you seem to know my experience more than I do…

[@genenehopkins5085]

The same thing happens to darker skinned black women. Colorism is an issue in our community for men amd women. Our community needs healing.

[@visiow2691]

Dark skin women don’t have any problems getting a man! They just ain’t peddlestolised as they want to be.

[@marioshort6574]

We’re not talking about women like damn can we talk about men without women it’s sad we can’t have a space w it without someone saying well women

[@ktg5713]

​@@marioshort6574so true. Just keep it on the men.

[@JaylaGoggins]

Uh oh! You on fire bro. This one gonna hurt. And this is a Tyrone!

[@mrmrsplummer3526]

It's not about race, colorism or anything like that. It's about the nurturing qualities that a lot of non black women have due to their upbringing and culture that a lot of black women were robbed of due to certain situations and trauma. Add that to the trauma that black men have with their experiences with black women as far down as their mother and women around them growing up. No matter what the race men are drawn to nurturing feminine qualities that they probably didn't receive from their mothers, unfortunately a lot more of non-black women are raised that way compared to ours.

[@luvbig41]

You hit the nail on the head about the mother of some Black men exuding Masculinity and being overbearing. I was dating a female who pretty much had a masculine voice when speaking to her sons. I once told her that her sons are going to grow up hating Black women. She took offense. I suspect she doesn't understand.

[@r.walker7986]

Women tend to do what they have to do to get a response, seems to me like a lot of black men just want to be babied, Big strong leaders/heads, who still want a woman to talk baby talk and be completely submissive but a mother cannot be submissive to her child. She is the boss. A lot of men simply see that as bing masculine and it is not, its authoritarian because.... she is the authority.

[@andrejones5441]

... I just find it hilarious that (straight) black men are shamed/insulted, and even threatened, for speaking about how badly we're treated by BW, but there's NO PROBLEM whenever BW say, "non-black men treat me better." (I have proof).

[@ddavis8988]

Problem with TO is that he didnt go to a different group and create a strong household. He went and created baby mamas and broken households. He recreated the same situation that made him.

[@lastnamefirst9423]

Exactly 💯

[@rodb66]

Exactly!

[@ddavis8988]

@@rosemaryterra2865 Amd those same white women had him on Dr Phil looking crazy, but notice he doesn't have that answer against them as a group of women.

[@wolfdna788]

In the movie friday Craig liked the girl he wanted (the soft one that smiled) but his sister was the (you ain't s*** type thatll fight you or look at you like what the F is you). And for some reason black women are 90% his sister and 10% the beautiful girl that was in shape and you'd actually fight to be with.

[@wolfdna788]

I've only got brothers but my best friend in elementary school and middle school his sister was the scariest woman I've ever met. Made me look the other direction forever

[@pure_sweetnes8685]

I was also teased by black guys for being dark skinned in school. Everyone wanted the light skinned girl. In college i was constantly told by black men. “ you’re pretty for a dark skinned girl”.

[@Chiefteeth1]

Who cares? Why don’t you go to Chrissie or Cynthia g to cry? This video is about bm and our experiences

[@queenbae6396]

Same, not only bullied but I was SA’d at school by a black boy. No one helped me, no one cared.

[@pure_sweetnes8685]

@@Chiefteeth1 is everything ok with you?

[@wnttalk]

This wasn’t a productive response bro🤦🏿‍♂️

[@wnttalk]

I’m so sorry you experienced that sister🙏🏿 my hope is that one-day we can empathize with each-other’s trauma without minimizing the other’s.

[@906lane]

This is some of your best work and i just want to congratulate you and thank you for sharing and posting BM experiences and our voices. This video speaks volumes about my same experience growing up and dealing with my own grandmother, mother, sister's, dating BW and non-BW. I'm now married to a BW and we have kids and at times i feel like she truly doesn't care about my experiences, my sacrifices or my emotional needs and always plays the victims card when she doesn't get her way.

[@wnttalk]

Im honored brother 🙏🏿

[@906lane]

Please continue to share and tell our stories. It's so many of us out here that can't make moves due to marriage, kids, financial obligations and more. All I can do is continue being the best version of myself not only for my me, but my kids and build myself up financially so I can make the moves I know I need to do.

[@demiremoorman8011]

I love the breakdowns. My hope is you breakthrough.

[@wnttalk]

Yessir 🙏🏿

[@camden336]

Had a few sisters say to me "you look like you date white girls " like wtf does that look like??

[@ubedet]

As an Ibibio Man from Nigeria I understand this message. It's a shame that black American women don't understand this message..

[@ChaosKnuxxx]

Ill be honest, I'm not super against black women, theyre up there, but the LAST race that made me feel attractive were black girls growing up. I got them making fun of my big nose and dark skin, which really took a toll on me. It wasnt until middle and high school that the white and latina women would be looking my way and i realized how attractive i ACTUALLY was. I cant say it didnt do its work on my selection of women.

[@loulousworld92]

What I find difficult to understand is some of you will have the most unsuccessful interracial relationships, (according to actual statistics) black men and non-black women have the highest divorce rates You have so much animosity and so much forgiveness for these non-black women who divorce you who you also experience hardships with but have more outrage for BLACK TEENAGER GIRLS!! Terrell Owens is someone who has been in and out of relationships with white women. Currently single and has not been able to keep a woman since Meanwhile, he is still harbouring onto his experience with a black girl in his teenage years. The standard black males have for black women are through the roof, and I have to be very honest, a lot of you are not innocent because you later turn into the bullies that bullied you . You hold onto a lot of bitterness and resentment towards black women. So when you enter these interracial relationships, the foundation is always disingenuous because you’re not going into it for the love of that woman, often times your relationship is disingenuous and built of a distain for black women, you are going into the relationship to spite or “get back” at black women.

[@loulousworld92]

When I speak about my experience as a teenager, I make no mention regarding black boys because they were BOYs (who are recognise, was still developing) who were also trying to discover themselves and figure themselves out. My references have always been regarding grown, adult black men. Black men have so much animosity for a teenage girl who probably did not understand the gravity of her insults, only for you to grow up and become the Anti black woman bully, who bullied you !!

[@Lilbro901]

​@loulousworld92 just like any typical black woman you don't listen at all. You're just so eager to run your mouth. Nowhere in the comment did he say anything about the relationships working out(a huge amount of black relationships end HORRIBLY) he literally gave the reason WHY he chooses who he chooses. Yall mfs need to do better at being attentive listeners instead of always trying to argue

[@Conquerer.D.K]

​@@loulousworld92Mike Jones said it the best "Back then h*es didn't want, now im hot, h*es all on me" . Men don't easily forget because its our past and experience thats forged us. It's not bitterness (maybe a little), its more common sens. Like who like you.

[@GeminiPeach81]

@@loulousworld92 💯💯💯 exactly

[@sano1062]

My first girlfriend's mother refused to come downstairs and greet me because of my complexion. Our relationship sort of went downhill from there. We only went together for a summer and I never met her mother! Ok! I'm copper-colored but so was my girl. She was about 2 shades lighter than me. I guess her mom didn't want any dark skinned grandchildren. I kept running into "colorism" among bw. It's was years before I opened up to other races but I quickly understood that my success rate with dating "Latinas" was way above 80%. The Latinas were prettier, nicer and more feminate than the BW that were constantly rejecting me! Plus they didn't need bbls, fake this or that as enhancements. I dated European women, Asians and Latinas. I found more commonality with Latinas. The sisterhood condemned me for not pursuing them but it was a result of their actions. Once I crossed over there was no turning back.

[@nacholuva_]

i haven’t a dog in this fight i came for the male POV❤ thanks for great content and education

[@wnttalk]

Thank you for listening 🙏🏿

[@PLxT0]

Been a athlete my entire life and my dad also has three NBA players. And I can tell you from personal experience "it's not all black women are bad and all white women aren't great"... It's more so that as an athlete you have to be solely focused on you and your work. While everyone was going to school at 7:30 or 8 I was at the school at 5:30 for 2 hours of practice then School. Typically athletes want women who are going to be a helping hand not somebody they have to spend their time focusing on outside of what they do...ex. when Tom Brady wanted to play his last year in the league and his wife left

[@themarathoncontinues4211]

Facts. Someone like brons wife

[@yoshispeaks.77]

Im A black woman and black women are taught to be mean and nasty early on its almost a culture yes black men do have their faults but its true i go through it with black women being unnecessarily mean and nasty

[@traindawg21]

I remember my nephew telling me how when he was in school black women treated him like trash. But at the same time got mad at him cause he always hung around the white and latina women. He said unc, black women just don't want me and it hurts. I told him you can't make someone want you. Just be where you are respected. fast forward he joined the Marines and ended up marrying a gorgeous young lady from the middle east.

[@mariejane1567]

My 13 year old nephew said he ain't dating a dark skinned girl because they are ugly.....no other reason.

[@joefromdc]

The psychological warfare that was done and continue to be done on ADOS is a master class.

[@wnttalk]

Oh no brother this shit is INTERNATIONAL!

[@Will008]

Dennis Rodman went through the same issue. That’s why he never dated black women either.

[@queenbae6396]

His current girlfriend is a black woman. They've got a youtube channel together

[@kemmyoluwo4732]

I’ve said this a while ago too… This is why the attractiveness of a man’s glow up is sexy to me. I’m a women and I definitely understand the current dynamic and branding of BW hasn’t helped the community at all. It’s grievances on both sides, but a BM glow up is alll tooo real. Remember Michael B Jordan and the interviewer that used to bully him at school???

[@DoDahhhhhhhhh]

He looks the exact same but not a kid anymore 😂😂

[@EB-fp8ep]

Seems dark women and men tell the same stories regarding being teased for their dark skin an yet can't seem to get along. An yet seem to find peace with folks who also have grievance with their dark skin. So it seems to go both ways just my observation

[@blackfire5179]

Black women in the community always had the right of 1st refusal, so they fumbled the bag when It comes to dating successful, competitive BM who date outside their race.

[@dontrebiggins4052]

You can be a Christian. You can be a Feminist. You can’t be both!

[@DeadricSummoner]

There’s a lot of childhood trauma that black women put black men through as minors that honestly requires way too much work to go through to just be comfortable dating black women instead of taking it at face value and moving along with it. I remember freshman year of hs this woman posted some unfavorable pics of me on MySpace. One of me being sick which I was already had a face that hasn’t fit into my head yet and some explicit pictures that A, I have no idea how she got a hold of and B, backfired on her since a friend of hers took my v card. It was straight hell for the rest of my HS life to the point where up until I’ve graduated HS I refused to associate with black people and to this day the women I’ve went to HS with don’t understand why I’m not really much enthused about dating black women like that MySpace album wasn’t the talk of the school for the later half of the school year. Sure I can always go back to therapy but with the volatile market of women, especially of our AA sisters specifically, I don’t think it’s worth confronting childhood trauma where not hating black women, but not too enthused about dating them is where I believe is the best I can do.

[@ampollard7041]

So........ ONE woman determined ur entire view of an entire group of ppl. Hmmm..... sounds a whole lot like racism

[@DeadricSummoner]

@@ampollard7041the rest of my high school was hell from a result of it. From fellow blacks I was barely called by my name or it shortened, just the name from MySpace. If it played out differently to at least where it was ignored sure, but after the self deletion attempts and years of therapy I’ve given up on being at peace for what it is and possibly never dating a black woman because of that trauma and not simultaneously bash black women is way more progress than most people. My only beef is that whenever we share our traumas we are never given any grace. Never mind the fact that I never officially made any black friends until I was 20 despite being in predominantly black areas. Nevermind the fact that I do not hold all black women to the same standard to that incident. Nevermind the fact that in adulthood I’ve made the initiative to actually date black women. Never mind the actual studies that you’re less likely to recover from childhood trauma compared to trauma as an adult. Sure I may be somewhat desirable towards black women now, but growing up not desirable towards them and have it thrown into your face isn’t just something you can just get over.

[@ampollard7041]

@@DeadricSummoner Everything u're saying is completely understandable. All ppl will make life decisions based on their experiences... positive ones hopefully. As long as we're not allowing ONE person to shape our perceptions of all others. So I understand. I was teased & often viewed as undesirable growing up due to my mom not buying me name brand clothing & having ance. To the point of getting into physical fights with boys. Both changed by high school tho when I got my first job & the acne cleared. But what has never changed is my size.... I come from slim ppl & I've been skinny all of mine. Which in the Black community isn't desirable for women. BM pick thick (and nowadays chubby & fat) women no matter their personality, then complain when she isn't the epitome of womanhood. While ignoring the slim ones b.cuz our asses aren't big enough..... fuck whether or not we make great partners. That hurts. It hurted when I was young & still hurts now. We even get dogged in music. And now even other women have shit to say. BUT it has not, at all, made me want anything other than a BM by my side. NO ONE can understand my plight as a BW like a BM. NO ONE wants to BM win like me.... a BW. I will never waiver b.cuz I know who the Creator made BM to be.... the righteous protectors of EVERYTHING on this planet.

[@DeadricSummoner]

@@ampollard7041oh yeah, parental frugality definitely hurt me as well along with being short. Not ruling out black women completely but I do not have the time to get over it like nothing happened while as a single man the pool gets worse. And even when I do meet a black woman who check some critical boxes it’s always them shooting the shot after we meet at a tech event and we all know why they are there.

[@ampollard7041]

@@DeadricSummoner Enlighten me.... what is the reason that they are there?

[@shantiafrazier7059]

14:50 That's always been my whole argument. Thank you!👏

[@davidsimmons4731]

My wife is jamaican, so i am married to a black woman, just not an american one. That said, I, and I'd surmise, many other brothers can relate to Terrell Owens and his experience. When i was in high school in the late 90s, black girls for the most part, especially the ones I wanted or at least attracted to, paid me no attention. So, like most boys, I liked who liked me, and at that time, it was usually non black girls. I noticed back then and it still seems to hold true now, is that when I moved differently such as dressed nicer, was into anime, video games, and because I spoke properly, i wasnt seen as "black" enough for a lot the black girls. Simultaneously, I think those things made me seem less threatning or more approachable by non black girls, in my case specifically white girls, and hispanic and asian girls to a lesser extent. When i joined the military and lived abroad, i was exposed to foreign women en masse, and again those are the women that showed me the most interest. So, again i can understand where is coming from. Sadly, black men's experiences, especially with black women are never seen as valid.

[@handlebars3085]

Notice what most black are saying when they say this abut black women, it’s not that black women in all didn’t want you it was the ones you wanted (popular, light skin most likely, good hair, 7/10 the fast ones ) were all guilty of wanting what we know is out of our league. Let’s not get mad there’s plenty of others in the sea that wants us

[@davidsimmons4731]

@@handlebars3085 Why would I, or any man care about women that they dont want think? Of course I wanted an attractive woman. Why would I not? You assertion, at least in my case, is wrong. I didnt know what "good hair" was until I was grown, ive always prefered darker skinned black women, and I didnt care about them being popular. The simple truth was, as I said, that the things that I was into then and still are now( anime, video games, comic books, science, history, etc) wasnt as appealing to the black women I had access to as it was to the non black women that I had access to. It is what it is.

[@brucegrover8658]

Grew up in a rough environment but I wasn’t hood. Got straight A’s and was a star hooper. But the black girls were getting picked up by older guys after school and chased after the hood dudes who weren’t going to class. They expect me to wait around and save them at the end? Naw I’m good. Our community is broken.

[@abukikabal]

Magnificent work bro

[@wnttalk]

Thank you brother

[@CbusRon]

I would never date an American black woman serious again. Got me a traditional Haitian woman and haven’t looked back since. She cooks every single day multiple times and does anything I ask. I love her and will marry her soon fellas!

[@raharmonnelson7537]

I don't even think it's about leading the family..... women are dumping all responsibility and roles on men.... and then telling men you don't get to make the decisions.... just clean up the mess if it goes left.... no one would sign up for a job like that..... 14:43

[@germiatejenkins4772]

Willing to complain but is she willing to give up custody

[@CorneliusSmalleliterealtor]

"If his status aint hood, I aint checking for him" This is from the good girls who grew up in nice homes with fathers and/or in the church. They are rejecting their own fathers. In school, I had my fair share of rejection for superficial things out of my control. But since I was well rounded there was always some level of intrigue which presented an array of options. besides a couple latinos I've only dated black women. Those who rejected, overlooked or tried to friendzone me couldn't see the value in me. Meanwhile they couldn't then and still can't hold a candle to my wife who got me and needed no convincing.

[@r.walker7986]

They saw what their mothers went through and they don't want it. Women really do live and learn. if they have the mind to think ahead they usually try to avoid pitfalls they witnessed. Those men, those church going fathers did the same dirt as the guys on the street, so sometimes they choose the devil they know.

[@CorneliusSmalleliterealtor]

@@r.walker7986except the street guys aren't close with the same dirt, they come with compound interest. multiple BM's, back c-support, not committing, bad credit, bad habits, poor gainful employment. f's on their record. penitentiary chances for both he and her and life and death situations from their past. absentee parenting from long distance when they get caught and mom left holding the bag, plus the debt they accumulated from lawyer fees and bondsman. and when they get out . for the entrepreneurs, she has to fund his legit business venture(s).

[@primeva7579]

Living in Hawaii youll see a lot of bm married to asian or Polynesian women. There are plenty of women outside of youtube world who appreciate black men despite the narratives people like to push online

[@deeolusanya9325]

I’m 45 yrs old, fit, single, no kids, educated, successful. My biggest challenge with finding a quality black women is weight/health, attitude, & kids out of wedlock. Typically there’s no reason to even consider them as an option if they can’t make it past these 3 points.

[@KR-df5uy]

Excellent job. I am 56 years old and just ended a relationship with a BW. Woman is intelligent, fine, and professional. While I have a good job (six figures), and the woman makes more than I do. She kept mentioning a number of things that indicated she was high maintenance. Her making more money than me was not an issue to me until she talking about what type of lifestyle she wanted to maintain and needed to recognize her value. She was argumentative and interrogating and excessively. She was never wrong in spite of evidence to the contrary. She began insulting me until I had enough and called it off. The crying and gnashing of teeth was outrageous. I was called a quitter on the relationship, we only had a few arguments, and in my mind, you ignored the 70% of arguments we had. I was worn down and could not take it anymore. Fellas make sure you maintain and keep your peace. Do not stay in a relationship and suffer in silence. When this woman cause me to have a spike in the blood pressure, I knew enough was enough. The young guys maintain your peace and to other men my age don’t lose your peace.

[@MrK.A]

New subscriber here. Fantastic content bro. I agree with many of your points.

[@stephenfoster1257]

The clip about the social media or marriage choice was a perfect example of catastrophizing."If l have to give up one thing then he's controlling everything. "

[@ListenTwiceSpeakOnce]

The irony behind colorism in our community really stems from which celebrity is being fetishized at the time. Lighter skinned women during the 80s and some of the 90s (Lisa bonet, Vanessa Williams, etc.), lighter skinned men during the 2000s-10s (Chris Brown, Bow Wow, etc.). Now its switched lol.

[@thewordsmith5440]

Light skin people have always been in style colorism has never went anywhere. An attractive and fit dark skin man has always been in style but dark skin black women were always considered manly or less attractive again all those other groups. There was never a time when dark skin women were over light skin women.

[@inkyandthebrain]

The fact that most women would chose Instagram/social media over a healthy family and a man is one of the most eye opening things for these youngins to see. Social media and attention is God to a lot of women these days 💯

[@loulousworld92]

You live in a dreamworld full of Instagram models I think you need to specify that the women you want choose this lifestyle, But average black woman is at work a teacher, a nurse a healthcare assistant, maybe working incorporate, or has a small business, if she has a small business, she utilises her platform for customers and clientele. If she’s a teacher or a nurse, those women are barely on Instagram because they are working 12 to 15 hour shifts. So if you were talking about the average black woman, you are completely wrong . We choose a healthy relationship where we feel heard safe and secure. Our opinions and views are valued and respected. We are not undermined. We don’t live in a household with a dictator who is abusive who believes he has the right to cheat because he makes over 50 k, who is not trying to force us into a life of polygamy. If that is what you call a healthy family, then no we don’t want that!! If you can’t force us for not choosing that life and you can’t bully us for it, either, you can’t force us into your idea of submission, especially since most of you have no fathers and no idea what leadership is . The black man’s idea of leadership is to be a bully to his family . Leadership also requires you to listen, going from 0 to 100. When you receive push back is crazy and this idea that a woman who disagrees with you is unsubmissive is absolutely insane. Black women are allowed to have their opinions. It doesn’t mean that it’s the final rule but they are allowed to express themselves. You want to live in a household where you are a dictator , most of you are abusive

[@ampollard7041]

In this day & age ppl actually use social media as their entire business platform. The lady with the blond hair expressed that clearly. Anyone of either gender that expects u to give up ur entire way of financial gain is not worth being with anyway. Unless that person is going to 100% take care of u unconditionally or make a way for that business to thrive without being online

[@humus4000]

Good content 👍as always

[@ziphonxumalo5410]

Its beginning to be the same here in South Africa with our women. We have the same problem, mostly because we consume the same western content, it's causing a big rift between the genders.

[@AngelInAHoodie]

😂 2 things need to change women's respect for their fathers and fathers leadership for their daughters because the fatherless are the ones disrespecting and infecting everything else.

[@hkimble2]

Love the case study videos!

[@Frenchyk]

Man you strike fast. I'm glad you made the video. This can help some of us.

[@KingaMoor]

You are a very intelligent man and I enjoyed listening to this video. It's rare to see creators eloquently speak on relevant matters and relationships between black males and females in a nuanced way. Specifically about black males. This channel's topics are introspective and take an appeasing approach compared to the repetitive celebrity opinion drama-based channels used by other content creators.

[@julesgordon1109]

If u listen to some of the rappers' lyrics carefully youll hear the same sentiments about black talking shit to them when they were younger and broke but when they get the riches then the same women be all on him.

[@keithanom187]

The first person to call me a 🥷was a blk girl in hs, The first person to disparage me about my skin color was a blk girl as a little boy, I've never known the whip of the white man but have felt the sting of the belt from gleefully abusive blk women. I received my most significant career opportunities from other races while on 2 separate occasions BW acted as a hinderance to my career success. All of this is to say that my story is NOT unique. Many BM have never known any warmth or kinship from BW. For many of us there are no fond memories or positive interactions, just trauma, and it carries through to your adult relationships. BW demand A LOT of the men they despise, it makes sense for BM seek the love/affection/respect elsewhere

[@Seancarter2010]

This may be unpopular to say but I think more of us (black men and black women) should date outside of the community. It doesn’t mean we abandon the community but it’s very clear we are not in a space to give each other what we need right now (some not all). Culturally speaking black women at present are softer and kinder to other race of men, they don’t treat them like how they treat us. They feel safer and more feminine with other men. Maybe it gives them the skin affirmation they can’t get from men within their community. Black men (some not all) want to be around women who are not combative or dismissive. Becky and Marisol are softer and kinder to us (individual to individual). Why should black men not be happy?

[@aferg76]

They thing is black men and women talk this interracial stuff but for some reason y’all find yourself back in black spaces because y’all really want community and a black family.

[@themarathoncontinues4211]

Nah bro, gotta disagree. That won’t solve anything as a collective. On individual level people can do what they want, but that theory has already been tested out in multiple black diasporas like Brazil. It doesn’t end up solving anything, Brazil is best proof

[@asdfdc1946]

@@aferg76 who is y'all?

[@asdfdc1946]

@@themarathoncontinues4211 sorry, but black men are not your slaves & are not coming back to the plantation. at the end of the day, people should go where they are appreciated. black women keep telling good black men that they aren't appreciated. they keep choosing pookie over good black men, so now black women are stuck with pookie. black men are chilling with bog booty maria in a cabana with their curly headed half breed kids & doing well for themselves, while black women are struggling simgle mothers by pookie who is an absentee father because of course he is. not our problem. it is what it is.

[@Chiefteeth1]

@@themarathoncontinues4211who says bm want to “solve” anything? If bm dating out for the sake of their own happiness is what we want to do we’re gonna do that. Worry about your own dyck fam.

[@dathip]

Great video! Subscribed! My experience growing up with black women thankfully had nothing to do with "I'm too dark skinned" or "muh hood enough" nonsense. It was incompability when it came to interests, hobbies, and personality. I am a hardcore outdoors person. I like skiing, snowboarding, camping, fishing, hiking, kayaking, etc(want to learn how to hunt and skin animals and get better at farming, rock climbing too). The average black women was not interested in any of that stuff with the exception of farming. They wanted to go to girls night out, clubs, concerts, parties, etc and I am not into that type of stuff. I also like the countryside/rural side, homestead lifestyle, while more black women are into the cities. White women are ALWAYS open to doing that type of stuff. Can't comment on hispanic or asian women, have no experience in that regard. So..yeah.

[@ThatChristianFamChannel]

TO's experience was my experience with black girls growin up. They were mean as fyah! The latinos, hispanic, Native Americans, Asians and WGs were nice. I wish it were different, but it wasn't. You could copy paste TO's experience to alot of young black boy's experience comin up. It's just sad.

[@aquarius-woman5364]

But you want black women support when you end up like George Floyd

[@asdfdc1946]

"I wish it were different, but it wasn't." --- damn, that line hit different smh

[@jerryyoung19]

@@aquarius-woman5364what support?

[@PsycheDolo]

Black woman and even some men will always be Dismissive of this

[@ramtransportllc6818]

This is the first video I've seen/heard of you. I love the balace and insights subscribed

[@wnttalk]

Welcome brother🙏🏿Checkout some of the videos I recommend on the end-screen

[@9chilidog]

In regards to stay at home mom and the green- this is why you can't marry a girl who didn't come from a 2 parent household. I've noticed that most black Americans women think being a stay at home Mom is akin to being Kim Kardashian, and not a "real job" well, being a homemaker is a real job

[@RonKraftwerk]

This is so deep. My godson was raided by his single mother and 2 sisters. I tried to spend a lot of time with him because of that. Father was ran off. 17 years later. He dated everyone but BE. I asked him why one day and he told me that the other girls listen to him. Almost brought a tear to my eye. Mother had beaten him done so bad that he speaks so softly. Crazy thing is I told his sisters this info and they knew, but could not say anything. He doesn’t speak to me now because of his mom. Lol. He will figure it out one day.

[@Iamnije]

Same... middle/Highschool and my fist two years of college. I loved black women. I still do, especially Dark Skinned Women, at a time, when it wasn't "cool" to like dark.skinned women. Got swerved. But, without asking, I got attention left and right from White women, unsolicited compliments left and right from white women. I was also taught, go for someone who likes you, who you also like. I found and have been with a blk woman for 10 years, but for the first 22 years of my life, the only blk women who showed me any kind of love came from.inside my.family...

[@r.walker7986]

you are on when you are on.

[@eimajinc]

It’s interesting you acknowledged “wasn’t cool to like dark skinned women”. It seems many young black men and women (particularly dark skinned) experienced similar rejection during their upbringings but women chose to move forward. I’m glad you found someone to love you now, it takes time. ❤

[@mariejane1567]

I keep trying to figure out what competing looks like. He was with his black girl friend for five years..... she paid for herself for everything so what is Taylor Swift doing differently???

[@consciousra5281]

I'm a millennial and I do come from a time before the social media stuff and I have to admit I'm super blessed to have met my wife well before this stuff. These women are way different from the era I grew up in and I don't blame men for assessing all options to find a long-term partner

[@dr.manhattan6278]

My personal experience with black women is that First meeting/dates were never enjoyable for both parties involved. I always felt like I was on the couch, and they were the therapist/shrink. WW on the other hand enjoy the moment/ride way more. I'm not here for a job interview. And I don't need mental therapy.

[@lastnamefirst9423]

Why do you think they felt the need to therapatize you? Thats oddly specific? Did they give reasons?

[@dr.manhattan6278]

@@lastnamefirst9423 Simply put, most Black women in general believe that some black men are dealing with some form of emotional trauma. So they ask questions like. What's the relationship like between you and your family/Mother? Are you a man of God? Do you drink/smoke? These are questions that are not asked to men of other races. Unfortunately many things about black men are based in Assumption and or stereotypes. I've never had a WW ask me anything along those lines because again, they're enjoying the moment along with me.

[@jwdoublej]

Yes. They go put of their way to try to find fault in you. They have to convince themselves that they are better than you. I noticed that a long time ago.

[@reds.a2076]

Colorism?? I thought BW only wanted the tall dark and handsome? Now I’m lost.

[@Brotha.B.M.O.G]

I was bullied by Black women for not being gangster enough in high school or talking too proper lol i was basketball athlete and college and pro and now make over 6 figures ive done well i love my sistahs but often i was never allowed to be human with them but with other ethnicities i could without judgement

[@xman740]

More case studies!!!!

[@Shuntora21]

Also I have been that woman to be with a man that was raised by a single mother, taught him how to love, how to have better communication with his mother (his mother actually thanked me), supported him while he was in the military (danger zones), while still checking on 3 generations ( his mother, grandmother, and great grandmother) while he was away ( yes we were engaged during this time). A woman’s intuition kicked in and I found out about the strippers, the pictures of females he sent to his mom and other things. I have tried to date black men outside of my norm ( meaning less attractive, with kids, making $25k-30k range, on dating apps🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️😂😂 it didn’t work. So I stopped dating and start enjoying my single life.🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️Best decision ever. I did this project to see if my standards was too high; it wasn’t. OAN… So it seems as if good black men and good black women are tired and dating more outside of their race or culture. If it makes you happy why not. Please do not put all of your bad experiences on a complete group of people, meaning ALL BLACK MEN/ ALL BLACK WOMEN. We (GOOD BLACK MEN/GOOD BLACK WOMEN) are out here, it’s just like finding Waldo or a needle in a haystack. Pray about it, but make sure you are ready and are prepared for him or her.

[@dathip]

As a single black woman what are your hobbies. I like camping and outdoor activities.

[@Shuntora21]

@@dathip To sum it up anything that I can do with my hands and being with nature. Gardening, designing my yard, climbing the mountain, taking walks/jog in parks/ bamboo forest, art, concerts, spoken word, museums; just to name a few things.

[@tangoalpha94]

If your mentality on these men is that you gave them a chance then you probably projected that on them subconsciously and they picked up on that. Nobody wants to be given a chance.

[@marioshort6574]

@@Shuntora21you said you gave them a chance tells me everything I need to know you weren’t really genuine you probably were looking for a reason to not like them because it’s impossible that no bm you out of all the bm you meet were no good I think that’s a you problem

[@Shuntora21]

@@marioshort6574 🤔 okay let’s try this so I can break it down some more. There are podcast/articles that states why successful women or women of color are single…maybe they say attitude, multiple kids/baby fathers, time management, work-a-holic, too much makeup/BBL’s, whatever the case may be; something to blame a woman why she is single. Now if she has reasonable standards, what’s the problem? A man can have standards, but a woman can’t🤦🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤔🧐. Please notice that I did not state all men that are in the category that I mentioned above are not suitable for me to date. I was trying to see if my standards was too high. I look for character traits, leadership, purpose, drive, future plans, and more. If it doesn’t align, it doesn’t make sense to continue.

[@davidcaldwell5420]

At this point, I often wonder what is going to happen to the ADOS / FBA ethnic group within the 2070's and 2080's in the near future? Because, when we look at the statics of both Millennial and Gen-Z Blacks males and females, their sexual preferences are drastically changing; it seems to be that 50% of the current ADOS / FBA population wants spouses from other ethnicities. That's most likely a broad generalization but take a look outside and see who young (18 - 30) Black people are parried with. It makes me wonder, what will be the relational and sexually preferences of the upcoming generation Alpha? The Black community (if we can even call it that anymore) is in a postapocalyptic state, the fallout of this apocalypse started way before many of us were born. We are the generation that is seeing the radiation and decay before our eyes, give birth to an entirely new ethnic group. "People of Color," as they're called in North America, who are many races mixed together. Much in in the same way that Brazilians are a mix of various ethnic groups. With the way all this is going from Passport Bros and divestors, to never-ending gender war. We'll be lucky if ADOS / FBA people make it to the 22nd Century. The current form that ADOS / FBA is now won't exist in the future. Much like the current state of the Native Indigenous Americans, we'll be so diluted that those future people will have a hard time identifying with ADOS / FBA history. I've got nothing against people and who they ultimately choose. It's their choice as free-thinking adults and individuals, but we must not be naive. We must ponder the potential outcomes this might lead to in both the near and far futures.

[@DoDahhhhhhhhh]

Extinction and ppl will continue to steal our culture and history

[@jahbless4ever]

Passport up

[@brownsugaspark9811]

Sorry to say but Black America or FBA/ADOS are done as an ethnic group. You're all going to become mixed and the mixed people will mate with the dominate society and become white like in Brazil. The continent of Africa will have the most amount of black people left. It will change the face of media and probably reprogram the rest of the Black world to want to do the same. When America sneezes everyone else catches a cold.

[@DoDahhhhhhhhh]

@awesomepost3542 You are clueless as hell using the word "dispora" Black Americans will go extinct if we continue at this rate and Black immigrants are up to 3rd & 4 th generation passing themselves off as American

[@bluewave3417]

I think we are heading toward a gradual erasure of the African American identity. It may take another century. But that's what it looks like. We're only 12% of the population now. Unless the Black family makes a comeback I don't see how our culture survives. And when I say family I'm not talking "alternative" families. I'm talking fathers, mothers, and extended family together raising children. If we keep in the direction we're going now, then its a wrap. And that would be the ultimate letting down of our ancestors.

[@ninjambita5090]

Go where you are appreciated NOT where you are tolerated

[@d0m3ll0tt4]

I just hate it when black men and women are fetishized or glorify dating outside your race. Other then that marry or date who you want.

[@asdfdc1946]

who says its a fetish? if black women ain't giving nerdy black men play, what are they supposed to do? hold out on their virginity until the black women are tired of fucking with pookie, then at age 35 they're like "ok i'm ready to settle down now" lol fuck no... ain't nobody waiting for black women. if black women don't want good black men because they're not thugs or pookies, those good black men will go elsewhere where they are more appreciate. at the end of the day, go where you're celebrated, not tolerated.

[@MrHammer2088]

Michael B.Jordan is also a true example..

[@mrt094]

I think we all understand the issues that have been expressed about a lot of BW. Through my own experiences and just looking at the stats White women appear to be a worst alternative. There is plenty of talk of the Divorce rate among black women but the divorce rate between Black men who marry white is even worse. My experience has been like this channel is stated unless you are a pro athlethe the option you have of white women are the ones most eligible white men don't want or the ones you are their second or third choice. And even pro athlethes are you going to tell me if those guys looked exactly the same with the same personality but were middle class or even upper middle class they would be able to attract the white women theu do as an athlete? Also think TO is a hyprocite he will call out dudes like Stephen A Smith for not being Black enough then have these complaints.

[@Kinard_901]

Dr. T Hassan Johnson is amazing. Highly recommend his channel.