Why Black Men choose White Women over Black Women

#Theofficertatum #Tatrums My basic idea is to expose the fact that the dynamic expressed in my video has more to do with culture and less to do with race.

[@DCfan6767]

I’m a black woman who lives in Chicago and to be honest when I walk down the street 8/10 I see the same type of black man. A man with pants hanging off his butt an oversized shirt and flat bill hat. I look at that man and think Nope he’s not a hardworking man. And no I don’t live on the south or west side. Men need to stop dressing like they don’t care about themselves. This style is some prison style that has been adapted over the years that black people shouldn’t subscribe to. I have a sister who has 3 kids unmarried and only makes $400/week and I never understood why she had so many kids. People act like they have no responsibility for their actions. Those poor kids don’t even have money for school lunch sometimes. Their dad has 3 other kids by 2 different women. And he has no job. He too dresses like this. Which is why when I see men like this I turn the other way. If not just for myself but for my future children. Stop being selfish and lazy. Get a job even it’s working at McDonald’s go to night classes at a community college n get a certificate to make more money. Stop having kids that don’t have money to eat. Be a MAN. There is no real excuse to not take care of your family.

[@ademaya4773]

Why would you talk about your sister like that ?

[@ArtistVicki]

@DCfan6767 I'm an old white gal who lives in a small city. The black men I see here are as you described...Something I did notice though...and maybe this is why black men do not stay with black women...I see black wives/girlfriends "wear the pants"! They yell, shame, belittle their men in public so God only knows what they do at home...They are down-right BOSSY/BITCHY...For years and years, I saw a down-trend in racism...I saw many a white grandparent pushing a shopping cart around proudly with their little black grand babies in it! I saw all sorts of interracial couples, hand in hand, walking together, mushing on each other...I saw blacks, whites, hispanics all working together - WHOLE LOTTA LOVIN' GOIN' ON among people of all color, all races, all creeds...but what I noticed was people like Hillary Clinton, OBama, Black Lives Matter, the Media fueled dying embers into a huge flame, dividing a country and inciting hatred among the people...all people. OBama is not our first BLACK President...He is half white, but you never heard him acknowledge any of that...He was always portraying himself as black. When he talked about white people HE was very racist!...I don't understand Blacks calling themselves African American...Africa is a continent with many countries...So, do they relate to the WHOLE continent...all of the countries there? Like, I don't go around saying I am European-American. It is good to know and remember history of your ancestors...but white people are being forever punished for things that happened in the past...way past. And when people bring up the Native Americans and how whites stole their land, Native Americans are not one nation. there used to be over 450 native American tribes in North America. These tribes were NATIONS...And these nations fought and killed each other. They overtook territories, stole wives, horse, possessions... And as for the Mexican people...there wasn't originally Mexican people...There were native Indians who lived in that area who's women were taken as wives when Cortez (from Spain) and his men came to the region...and THAT is where you get the Spanish dialect...The problems we have aren't about white, black, Christian, Muslim, rich, poor...etc this is about living right, making right choices. Forget the birth control "responsible" thing to do...How about not sleeping with people that we are not married to? It all boils down to LOVE, loving one another...

[@josephjasen1293]

Adeili Maya because it's true!?

[@DCfan6767]

Adeili Maya cause when u love someone ur honest with them especially when u see they are struggling

[@DCfan6767]

Vicki K as ive grown up I don’t like being called African American I’m black American or just American. Ironically it’s black people or immigrants who want you to claim Africa so badly. I’ve had foreigners ask me where r u from and I say I’m American. And they re like don’t u want to know where u are really from. Newsflash being American is not only for White people. My family has been here since the 1600s what do u mean where I’m really from. Black people try to make u feel bad about it. Embrace your African heritage. Okay but I’m American so which do u want me to claim. Obama is as much white as he is black. But too many people still follow the one drop rule. Black people already claiming Meghan Merle’s baby and he/she will probably not even look black. Meghan doesn’t look black but if u read the comments black people act like she’s not white at all. Mixed babies are MIXED not just black. You should acknowledge their whiteness just as much as their blackness. And not all black women yell at their men in public. I’ve never seen that. I rarely seen women yelling at men in public of any race. Unless the man has really crossed the line.

[@cha4ya4ya70]

The funny thing is I am a black woman and I married a white man because of the exact same reasons he stated in this video. I married my husband because we both liked the same things. My husband also showed me what it was to be a man that takes care of his wife and family, the sad thing is I never saw that in the world I grew up in. I wanted a man that knew what it was to be a man according to God's word and I was blessed to find that, he just so happened to be white.

[@djprofittv9435]

So.........

[@christinawoodard3754]

So cool.

[@williemazehaze8673]

You never saw a man take care of his wife and family? Where did grow up....Mars?

[@weignerleigner3037]

@@williemazehaze8673 you clearly don’t live in a bad area or work a blue collar job. Mad people have mad kids, divorced, have massive child support payments in mad debt and just have to work all the time to be able to survive. I’m a truck driver I see it all the time and it’s only got worse over the years. I get bullied all the time cus I’m a young white dude with no children or debt and I drive a Lexus. They Harass me as if I stole this life from them when reality is they aren’t good men. They made poor choices and put themselves in the position they are in. The best part is they will never see things that way and take responsibility for themselves. So they’ll keep working cus that’s all they can do. It’s sad.

[@marilynwillett804]

--He certainly does not just ''happen to be white'', being white was what attracted you to him. I do agree his other attributes are extremely important, I'm white and married twice, both of my husbands worked and bought lovely homes, cars etc. we all grew up in 2 parent households. However people on youtube are loathe to be completely transparent and say they prefer white spouses and mixed children.

[@kathrynhall1136]

First of all we need to quit , referring to ourselves as "African Americans" , we are Black Americans . . . But most importantly we are Americans 💯🇺🇸

[@danielgrindeland6250]

Amen girl. Bless your heart.

[@loorawlsthomas3914]

Are White Americans that come here are they considered African Americans??

[@coastdaze748]

Exactly. The hyphenated-American label is part of the plan to take down/diss America.

[@kimberlyhicks3644]

I am a Christian and an American. I will NOT live my life being a race nor a color.

[@dblue3710]

Thank you!!! That’s like me saying I’m Caucasian American...huh???

[@cynthiascott8639]

I told my kids I didn't care what color the person you bring home was, as long as they loved the Lord.

[@a-ddaigrepont3375]

wow !! amen

[@RaytheGrayt]

Good for you, and God bless you for that. My people as a whole might clown us for dating white women just like Tatum said in this video, but I'm lucky my parents told me the same thing you told your kids.

[@deborahmcgee7970]

Same here 👍

[@luisorazi]

Same here! Lord of the ring! Great movies!!

[@caridadrevilla2439]

Exactly!

[@pilotdawn1661]

"It's CULTURE, not RACE." BOOM right on target

[@bloodymary3008]

the W women want the dhruugz & the BBC, be real dog thats why they with the B men

[@juicy_baked_beans]

Demoness...that response is absolutely ignorant.

[@johnlorraine204]

@@bloodymary3008 The size of a man's penis is not worth all of the bullshit that may come with it. Your comment is ignorant and foolish, and don't call men dogs.

[@bigfootbushcraft2261]

@@bloodymary3008 I guess English isn't your strong suit

[@bloodymary3008]

@@johnlorraine204 & you're a man & wouldn't give a 💩 unless you was ghayy

[@runmyrace7241]

I am a black man with a godly black woman going on 18 years of marriage. It’s actually becoming harder for good men to find good women no matter the ethnicity

[@truthseeker9688]

runmyrace very true.

[@kristenadorno]

And vice versa! God blessed me with an amazing husband however, there are less hard working, Christian men out there nowadays that respect women.

[@sharonparker7148]

Amen

[@brendasykes6931]

That's being FAIR

[@dalemaloney255]

@@kristenadorno amen.

[@caden8986]

As a biracial male who was raised by a single white mother, I can somewhat relate. Their is so much about peoples way of thinking that has to do with their culture. When I was around my white family I was loved and appreciated and color was NEVER brought up. My black side of the family was always, "You too white!" "Harry potter is for white folk" "Man talk normal", and such. Edit: Thank you everybody for all the support in the comments! I greatly appreciated having my story heard! God Bless!

[@hellybelle5]

I'm so sorry that you've had to experience that. You sound like a great kid, and I hope you have an absolutely wonderful life ❤️ Regardless if melanin, working hard, speaking well, and reading etc ... will help you to get a long way in life ❤️

[@caden8986]

@@hellybelle5 Thank you so much!

[@philwell76]

Some day you’ll make your own decisions on what was right...I’d say go with what feels good and celebrates you and your gifts...

[@haleebowser]

Have you tried telling your family that you don't appreciate their unnecessary comments? The things you like aren't for any particular race. Nothing is, really, but by your family's logic, they are just stating the obvious and trying to make it an insult. If they believe Harry potter is for "white folks" and you're half white... wouldn't that meet their standards? I know it's hard when you're family gives you crap. I got that a lot being the only girl. Sometimes you just let it roll off your back, but sometimes you have to say something to gain respect.

[@Davepq100]

Caden, that is so tough. Hopefully you can lovingly teach some of your family members that they shouldn't think that way. God bless you!

[@trinahorton8839]

The effect of the lack of a father in the home is so underrated. It causes problems that can last a lifetime. I never thought about this perspective, but it makes complete sense. We, as a country, need to break this cycle.

[@poppop5305]

But white women are mostly dealing with black men and being left to be single mothers so your logic is off

[@mandybellep230]

Absolutely! My husband works out of town and I don't know how to handle my 15 yr old. Boys need a father to teach them how to be a man, or else they will learn to tske after their mom. Which explains many of the beta males we see today

[@fredriksasaa6969]

@@poppop5305 im from europe, and the rest of the world know that white women gets pregnant with a black guy, and the second the black guy knows that. he runs away,and the girl becomes a single mother. we all know that, welcome to america.

[@mrackz5694]

nah i just think they are not attracted to them

[@jimmycollett767]

Break a cycle is the people them self break for the right reason's and those my friend are called self respect for your self and your future what this man talk about wasn't breaking a cycle but telling black men where their problems lay is with in them self's not what any other color does it's up to your self how you want in life as a man as a man and man responsible to him self and the children he help to create as God has given him

[@brodiecarr9757]

Bill burr was right. "Make friends with everybody." You never know what you'll learn when you explore outside your group.

[@music4allpeople627]

I've be saying that for years.

[@GnomesBeCool]

So true

[@cory8242]

billy ball sack is great!! wish he wasn't becoming such a leftie tho

[@cworld8896]

So you dated it out of your race just because you was introduced to sushi by another race?

[@theempruhstable3601]

@@cworld8896 🤔… Your being Ridiculous 😐

[@johnflorio3052]

“It’s about culture, not color.” - Denzel Washington

[@GetToughOrDie]

What! I just watched a video on the views of Denzel Washington and Morgan Freeman to name a few and it completely contradicted that statement right there!

[@lisaoliver8023]

@@GetToughOrDie Morgan Freeman said a long time ago that the best cure for racism is to quit talking about it

[@GetToughOrDie]

@@lisaoliver8023 exactly.. I just watched it yesterday, and Denzel Washington was part of the video. But it is kinda contradictory for me to even talk about.. I'm pretty sure that's the point you're trying to make. And it's a good one 😉

[@lisaoliver8023]

@@GetToughOrDie Thanks for the comment. I hope you have a great day Frank & God bless you. 💥

[@eduardochavacano]

That is BS! Because race is a factor too... and its okay! If you prefer white meat, that is not racist... some people like Chinese meat and some like Arabs. The only people who are racist are those Who do not have a Choice to Love freely. The race is a huge factor. Media creates our ideals. A black man may want a Disney princess in his Bed and a Girl that speaks like Chris Rock or some Ghetto super star doesnt suit his fantasy, Could you blame him? Since black guys can go fish for white women, why bother to settle for a black girl, who calls customer service hotlines and act like she is a thug of steel. Racism is created by how people choose to behave. People who did customer service jobs would tremble or shiver when they hear the voice of a black women. When a black customer calls it would mean they will lose that bonus or that promotion. Then they start hating and stereotyping. We just all act like we are beautiful and well mannered then less hate and discrimination. No need to act according to your stereotype.

[@aldonna11]

I came from a fatherless family. My dad died when I was three. My mother had four children and one on the way. Even though I’m white it definitely affects your life in a negative way not having a good man around. No matter what color you are having both a mother and father is a blessing.

[@shimmer4771]

Unless the marriage is abusive. That's not so nice.

[@aldonna11]

Shimmer I agree. An abusive marriage can be deadly.

[@graceoverall]

To put more of a point on that, I'm white too and my dad is still alive, and in many ways he was a good dad but a terrible disciplinarian and father. He allowed me to go astray as a teen, which ended up destroying my life. I take ownership for my bad choices, but I'm only trying to highlight how incredibly important it is for young children not only to have a father who is around, but more importantly one why is engaged in your development and guiding you to make good life decisions. Not one who is self absorbed. That's what I now strive for as a father. To love my children enough to care about the fullness of their life experience, from birth until the life hereafter. 🥰☦️🙏

[@jbl5637]

Yes abusive is one thing..but I'm a firm believer that children need both parents in their life

[@scottmccullough4267]

Sounds to men fron your response like your mother did a good job!!!

[@georgehinterlong6511]

My wife says the best gift she ever had was her dad. I was blessed to know him. My own father died suddenly from a heart attack when I was 13. I know he was a hardworking man,but my family life changed for the worse because my mom was not good at disciplining 4 boys and a daughter. It is a myth that single moms don’t need a man- maybe they don’t, but their children sure do.

[@mr.andmrs.killion9612]

My step daddy (from 4 months old) died also in my life when I was 13 suddenly from a heart attack. It felt like the spine was ripped from our family. Men need to know how valuable they are. Women as well. It trickles down to the children. I know your pain and I just wanted to say that I hope you've found some peace. I do most days. Some days the pain resurfaces. I've married a good man and have 4 children with him. Sometimes I don't know how he survives me. I know one thing, without the Lord we'd fall apart. He helps us grow together. We are blessed every single day for our together family time and I pray we grow old together and get to watch our little ones grow and live.

[@sheilabright2091]

@@mr.andmrs.killion9612 yes, ma’am my husband and I fell apart. Divorced. One little daughter at the time. Then separately we let Jesus in our lives. Remarried and only Jesus and his church in all the places we’ve lived have kept us together and growing closer and closer every year that goes by! Love grows as our faith grows! The verse that got us through: “Defer to one another out of reverence for Christ.” Whew! That’s a big verse right there! 🌹🙏🏻❤️❤️ God bless you for sharing.

[@georgewashington2587]

Wow

[@fafnir97]

"It is a myth that single moms don’t need a man- maybe they don’t, but their children sure do." Underrated comment of the year right there.

[@9mmpeter255]

Im a white male and I've dated black, hispanic, asian, and white women. I learned from all of them and it was a great experience. Love people for who they are and not what they look like. If you do this you will learn and experience so many awesome things and learn to love life.

[@ekinandlindasfamily6661]

I’m a black woman married to a black man. We love hiking, eat organic food, travel the world, are vegetarian and so much more. Hubby is a physician, I’m getting my doctoral degree. My parents have been married for 35 years. Just wanted to say this was an awesome video. You were very respectful and you didn’t talk about the typical low vibration ideologies.

[@bustarogers9990]

Ekin this isn't a hard topic, once you simplify it. Pretty much every single race issue for the last 30 to 40 years is all politically motivated. Never once in my youth apart from childish shit (which there will always be) has race ever been a factor. Racism today is a business no matter what race/culture it is, it's what ever is selling at the moment, and today it's you're a racist, sexist, bigot if you're a Trump supporter.

[@a.ffirmative]

Holy crap you do be vibing tho. But dayum i hate how the media just talks about racism this racist that. Rather than fatherlessness. It's so fucked up

[@captbumbler5356]

Good for you and your family, I am sure you are instilling into your children a good work ethic and how to be a family and support each other. please can we have many more like you and your hubby. instead of those who feel they are owed a living without working , That goes for all races

[@slip-n-rollboxing1826]

This guy is a fraud. All he do is down his own race

[@slip-n-rollboxing1826]

@Mark Landrebe lies hurt even more

[@Ciara1594]

A friend who is Caucasian is currently dating a black man, when she was asked why she would date someone of color, I loved her answer she said, "I'm dating a Man not a Color!" 🙂

[@thebestcat9601]

Love it

[@purpleheart1836]

Funny, bcuz when most people of color look in the mirror they see color, how can they possibly not. The worst thing for someone of another race to do is to act as if race isn’t an issue

[@purpleheart1836]

Smiles and the Twisted MD Be nice, bcuz it’s easy!! Actually, everyone could use a little therapy. Clearly you missed the point, you can’t separate a person from their color and to act as if it’s a non issue is what “vilifies” the person by making them a non entity. You can’t erase someone’s race and think it’s ok...while “racism” is a sin, race should be embraced. And just bcuz someone has another opinion, don’t be mean, it’s just not a best practice....you could have asked me for clarity rather than try to read into my message negatively

[@purpleheart1836]

Smiles and the Twisted MD Ive not made one “racist” comment micro or macro...the fact that you get to “ignore” someone’s race is an abomination to that person as we were all created within the confines of one race or another....that IS HUMANITY, to accept and embrace. You used words like vilify and hate when I’ve done no such thing, I’m simply shedding light on one of the issues the world is facing, “race”!! I didn’t take away anything from your friends relationship, on the contrary, the (whole) man, is a part of their union, not just his gender.

[@NameUnimportant]

Patricia Bellinger I really think you’re missing the point. I believe the problem is that you and a lot of other bw put TOO much emphasis on color and it causes issues (obviously). It’s only women I hear who make comments like that. I’ve never heard a man out so much stock in the color of his skin. What the woman was saying was that it should never be a question why someone married someone of another race. She responded with she didn’t marry a “black man” she married a MAN who happens to be black. She’s saying she would’ve married him regardless if he was black green or red. A lot of BW have an issue when WW day they don’t see color or they see everyone the same. Y’all take that as color being dismissed or ignored, etc. That’s not the case at all. They’re just saying they don’t give a shit what color you happen to be. They like that person based on who that person is, not the color of skin they have.

[@freddiebear8793]

This is one your older videos, but you hit the nail on the head for how I grew up. I married my wife 30 yrs ago, she is white/puerto rican, and I married her and moved out of the north Toledo ghetto to a small town in Indiana, (if suburbs had suburbs that's where we now live) saying its rural isn't right because we aren't in the sticks, somewhat. My family called me a sellout, traitor, Uncle Tom, etc, because I choose a different path for my life and now family, but that path was every good! I didn't go to college like my sister who is now 65, and still has, $150,000 in student loan dept that she we never pay off, and thinks I'm an idiot when I retired as a welder making 5 to 6 figures at 51, with a pension and no dept, bought a house and had the time to home school my youngest 2 children from 7th grade to HS. I'm the only conservative born into a family of democrats, and they all assumed I was a idiot that thought the same as them! Boy, were they wrong! Great video, keep it up!

[@tirbomax]

damn good on you sir! it's your life and you need to live it as you see fit for you and your family...as you did.

[@americanwoman445]

They jealous and ignorant

[@freddiebear8793]

@@americanwoman445 The ignorant part I thought of, but yes, jealous they must be because I can sit on the side of my garage(Mancave) with a cold beer and watch the corn grow while they are working at some job with retirement nowhere insight! Thanks for info, FeFe.

[@TEXladydi]

@Freddie Bear ~ Thx, for sharing your story!! You sound like an incredible & free-thinking American man!!! All the best to you and your family!! 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸

[@waynethera2712]

Very uplifting story, except watching the corn grow. You need better hobbies haha. 🍻

[@alicassidy8913]

I was raised by just my Mom because Dad left and never looked back. We (Mom, me, and my brother) lived in the projects. We had everything and my Mom went to work everyday. She cooked all the time and taught us right from wrong. It really doesn't matter what color you are but it's the ideas that you're raised with... I never ever would have looked at a man who didn't have a job, who was a drug dealer and just didn't have ways that were like my mother's. My brother and I were very fortunate to have such a strong mother with good values and ideas considering our father wasn't there. We're white for the record.

[@jaimecunningham2356]

It hurt my heart when he was talking about wanting to have family dinners together and parents and grandparents that stay together. Kids long for and need that family connection and stability.

[@bbonmywaistv2]

dont lose sight of your culture and ethnicity tho

[@hsdeogun]

So, so true

[@foxdelta7]

@@bbonmywaistv2 Mr. Tatum views his culture as American. If he doesn't believe in the ways of the area he grew up, he has every right to seek a life and manner he believes in. I grew up in a drug infested environment. That is the "culture" of my family. Turned 18, enlisted, left home and never looked back. No American is required to continue the cultural practices they were brought up with, especially if you have moral objections to them.

[@handmaidmd]

So true. It was so easy for me to integrate into my late husband’s family because they were all about family. We’re still family even 11 years after his death.

[@ashtongeorge3984]

Taiga people emigrate to the United States to escape different conditions of life too

[@alexiscormier4059]

As long as someone has the same values as me, the color of their skin doesn’t matter. For me, it’s not about race when dating. It’s about values.

[@Sara-ql7jf]

💯

[@maggiemoran7747]

Right- their character. Shouldn’t that matter way more than anything else?

[@IDFK__]

Yep ❤️

[@Sam21998]

I agree, I've dated blacks, whites, asians, etc. I'm with a white man now but I mainly look at interests, hobbies, and values in that man, not the color of his skin, there's good and bad in every race, but it's our job to surround ourselves with good people to raise us up in the world. My best friend is Puerto Rican and married to a black man, they are the best people I've ever met and live in Witchita Falls, TX. I've also noticed in Buffalo, NY there's a lot more deadbeat parents than down south, now sure of that's because of north being mainly democratic but statistically I've noticed that and thought it was strange.

[@goodwilj]

I'm White, I have a girlfriend, but there are some really sexy beautiful smart Black women out there who are really something special.

[@GaryLamb2020]

Thank you for this, man. I've only dated black women and I'm married to one. Our journey was a very tough one due to this cultural phenomenon. We are finally getting headway and are almost on the same page. We still have struggles from our day to day, but I see light now.

[@leegorsuch3323]

I’m white & Native American my son is engaged to a bi racial young Lady and we love her . She’s 1/2 white 1/2 black She’s delightful and fun loving color doesn’t matter . And shouldn’t

[@dcd274]

"It's more about Culture and less about Race".....very well said.

[@blackmenarethemostdesired6163]

Mike Gee wtf

[@dcd274]

@Mike Gee You have issues, man. Thinking like that is Sick, Uneducated and...(shocker), Racist. Go stand in the corner of your single-wide until further notice.

[@kekesmooth5618]

@Mike Gee word

[@aben42933]

I’ve always said that. I’m not blind so I’m not one of these folks that say, “I don’t see skin color”. I DO see skin color. I just DON’T care about skin color. I care about how I’m treated by another person, how that person treats others and themselves, I care about what we have in common, and overcoming what we don’t have in common. I don’t care for people that can’t or refuse to communicate politely with other people or get angry at the tiniest of disagreement. I have a lot of friends and they are all different, but the one thing that remains that same is that we can have a conversation without yelling at one another and we can agree to disagree on somethings. We pick our battles. So nothing pleases me more than when I see kids playing together and learning how to interact with each other and while noticing their differences they learn those differences don’t really mean much when you can accept each other and just have fun together. So I have hope even though there is a powerful race industrial complex in our society where experts, academics, politicians, and media all collude to try to make us hate one another. All of these folks live upper crust lifestyles while chastising the homeless white guy, and being paternalistic towards the successful black man. Neither of those scenarios set well with people because the homeless man isn’t privileged and the successful man didn’t need your help to get his. Robyn DiAnglo talks about white fragility in an effort to make herself a white woman a healthy truckload of the real privilege: money. She’s counting these dollars because she knows when you back a person into a corner they fight and that will create more hate and more for her to write about and get paid a lot to do so. Her speaking engagements already top 10 thousand for 45 mins of rubbish. Even with powerful people like this in the world, I have faith because it’s hard to hate people that you know and they haven’t done anything to you, and it’s even harder to hate friends that you know well, and whether the pocketbooks of these racialists like it or not the world is getting closer today even as the NYT screams racial attitudes are the worst they’ve been in a decade. I look around and I know that it is just anecdotal, but I see more kids of all colors playing together than I ever have. Hope is real and the future is great.

[@jessdatip4152]

Ben Shapiro made the same comment about culture and not race in a debate about black disadvantages. The audience and black debaters reacted and laughed at him and then he dropped the facts bomb about fatherless homes, abortions, crime and education and left the other debaters speechless. It was a boss moment for Ben but sad moment for the clueless debaters and audience who just got a slap of reality. Great vid to watch and pairs with what Officer Tatum is talking about.

[@josephpearson7164]

I taught in an all black school for seven years. It grieved me to hear some black people refer to other black people as "talking white." It grieved me because I knew that the people who were using standard English would stand a better chance at employment and success in employment. It is just fine to use slang words but it is better if you can use both standard English and "slanged English" and, then, choose which language form you want to use, depending on where you are. (I do not advocate using the phrase "talking white" because standard English does not belong to white people. Ironically, many white people today are choosing street slang over standard English.)

[@apriljohnson2728]

My kids are biracial.Ive always told them to speak like a human being ,not to try to speak ghetto..because of this reason.

[@vikingmama93]

Well said.

[@rogerengland2821]

The ability to communicate effectively is essential, the English language is pretty standard in the way its taught so we should at least grasp the basics of the language to effectively communicate with others. The way English is spoken differs culturally from place to place but a good foundation in the standard language bridges the gap.

[@user-to2jw7nb8v]

Yup. I dont associate myself with people who say dumb shit like that. Smart black people need to distance themselves from dumb wannabe "hood niggas." These people and their mindset are what helped destroy the black community in the first place.

[@marmar6764]

Joseph Pearson I don’t consider as “talking white” i see it as educated. Speaking properly is not a race factor... more like lack of civilization - the blacks speaks poor English grammar. Shame, that the blacks sees it as “white talk”...they are under minding themselves as an uneducated individuals.

[@abaddon3946]

Damnn! Baby face Tatum back in the day! Caught me off guard! You go man!

[@snowboarddan5899]

Same

[@Cristian-JustKeepingItReal]

God only made one race. The human race. If the world can live this truth it will be a much better place.

[@billydickens3039]

Aman

[@3llionaireX]

EXACTLY!

[@mikeyf4018]

I dated a black girl and she was wonderful kind person ,I never seen her color , I seen her as a beautiful woman, my family seen her as a person . But the amount of abuse she received from both black men , women especially was unreal .

[@mandybellep230]

That's crazy that she got more flack from her own race. My brother dated a black girl in high school, my mother loved her but her parents were not happy about their daughter dating hjm .idk if it was bc he was white or bc we were poor lol her parents were drs

[@mikeyf4018]

@@mandybellep230 Mandy , I never worry or care what people think anymore ,There is so much hatred allover the world and I see it , I wont let anything bother me and really dont care because it only brings you down , Mandy we are never poor because believe me wealthy people carry more burdens and unhappiness around through life than them that have less , Happiness cant be bought and less fortunate people have so much in common and will always be the same and appreciate the little they have .

[@chitowntexan]

@@mikeyf4018 Well put! 😊

[@ademaya4773]

It can get unreal in our communities. But there are many black people who are above this.

[@uncovidvaxxforthestrongand3582]

most white guys who date black women don't even talk about that kind of stuff lmao why bring it up now. hope you talk about it to her brothers and family.

[@joeschmoe665]

He nailed it when he separated race and culture.

[@claudianreyn4529]

Yeah? Do you think so? I feel like "it's about culture, not race" is a trick card to avoid being racist. What about cultures? Which race has better cultures then?

[@joeschmoe665]

“He nailed it” means he was spot on.

[@lisaoliver8023]

@@claudianreyn4529 Which one do *you* think does Claudian ?

[@katM1990]

I wouldn't mind dating a black man if he had his priorities straight and believed in God and was Republican and stood up for our country and worked hard thats the kinda man I want

[@katM1990]

@White lives Matter I don't have to be single but if I am it's because I choose to be.

[@americanwoman445]

Good luck

[@baetovantv]

@@americanwoman445 stop hating cause black dudes take yall women cause yall dont have rythem

[@mattbecham3094]

@@baetovantv they get our throw aways

[@Tyty1432ty]

Me too but its impossible

[@philsdon8932]

I dated a black man. He was absolutely in love with me. He didn't have one friend he could introduce me to. One of the things that seemed to startle him was that I smiled when I saw him. Apparently the women he knew never smiled.

[@americanwoman445]

Lol.

[@minomokwa744]

...this runs under the category: I love the person who I see.

[@joeblow1805]

What kinda lie is this.

[@thecraplordsell4575]

@@joeblow1805 Lol so a BM can’t be a decent good fella. Why don’t you try leaving that racial ignorant mindset of yours huh. We’re not all thuggish.

[@joeblow1805]

@@thecraplordsell4575 you reading into what i said all wrong. First she said the man had no friends witch i found hard to believe and second she said the women he knew never smile like black women are just angry. All the black women i know smile a lot so that's what i was talking about sorry no a racist.

[@2Oldcoots]

"It's more about culture and less about race". Well said.

[@MrCoontwo]

The right word is VALUES

[@MrCoontwo]

@Shaneef Wright are you an English scholar or professor at Harvard university? Or do you chair the college of English at oxford university?

[@quintaviswiggins2204]

I couldn't have said it better

[@crackcocaine9091]

Shaneef Wright white people have LOADS of culture, look at Europe, The Scandi’s, The USA, The UK. The only difference is white culture is ALWAYS evolving and changing. How can you say pre-raphaelite art or gothic literature, the victorian times, the roman times, all the beautiful buildings, the vikings, the tudor times etc aren’t culture? Please “educate yourself” as everyone LOVES to say nowadays and stop regurgitating shite you see on the internet without doing your own research. I have no idea how anyone can say white people have no culture when everything around us is culture, it’s so ignorant it actually makes me laugh.

[@javierperalta7648]

@Shaneef Wright it Is offensive and you are fucking ignorant for saying that

[@killianmackenzie420]

I’m a white man who just got engaged to a black woman I love her for who she is. I love her self confidence I love her heart her soul I love how she has goals in her life. I love her for she is. I’m in love with her and I’m excited for the day she becomes my wife!

[@yungcalio345]

You should propose to more than one

[@jamiemurphy1173]

Aww🥰

[@Arkkalious99]

are you also excited for the day she takes all your shit, and forces you to pay her ass for the rest of YOUR life ?

[@lindyjourde7411]

Aww, thats so lovely. Congratulations to you both, and may you have a long life of happiness together. 😊💐😊

[@killianmackenzie420]

lindy jourde thank you very much! I know she is the one I waited a lifetime for! Thank you!!!

[@glahut93]

Father's day is most confusing day in the hood.

[@nickyphoenix2470]

🤣🤣🤣

[@americanwoman445]

Lol... actually it's a ghost town

[@butterflywings370]

So true!

[@nickyphoenix2470]

🤣🤣🤣

[@richardd6669]

See, now that`s funny .

[@Tengobaila3]

I had to pay a visit to the 'old' Brandon in his living room days where I first found you. You've come a long way to stardom, Officer Tatum!

[@samuelinayat-chisti4176]

AMEN!

[@cristinad7142]

Yes! Remember when he used to shoot a quick vid right after a bike ride? Vintage Brandon 😄

[@bloodymary3008]

Yeah girlfriend, yous with a lot them

[@dragonslayer7587]

I was doing the same thing!! We all grow and learn as we age, and in these last almost 5 years Brandon Tatum and all of us have changed!! Mostly for the good... It's a struggle these days, but I keep reminding myself, this to shall pass...

[@DIANAS5657]

I am a black woman born and raised in the Bahamas. Most of my leaders, teachers, doctors and local tv stars were black. I have pictures of me with a black Santa as a child. I moved to the US for college and could never relate to African Americans. My parents taught me if I worked hard and got an education I could be or do anything. Life in general is not fair and can be difficult. My work ethic has helped me to be successful in my career. Bahamian men and women live traditional gender roles without any one feeling less than. I grew up watching my mother serve my father. I also saw my father protect and support his family. Both of them took care of the family. I am in an interracial relationship. I was attracted to his love for Jesus, the culture and also not making excuses. I could not imagine being led by a man who felt he could be held back if God is with him.

[@oneperson5760]

Thank you. It does my heart good to hear of a healthy, traditional family. Media tries to say our kind of family doesn't exist anymore, but we do. It's getting hard to find mates for our children from families like ours, so that our grandchildren will also have stable, loving households. So much divorce and abandonment out there, and it really messes with the kids. God bless you and yours.

[@dkrissie2194]

D Smith God bless you and your family

[@bandman83]

God bless you and your family.

[@xrayiiis13]

That's what happens when you fall in love with someone's Spirit over their flesh. Bless YOU!

[@Kathy12Ray]

D Smith the most relatable comment for me. As a black person raised in Africa, I am completely unable to relate to the black experience in America. I come from a culture where personal responsibility, especially for men, is the mark of adulthood and maturity. There's types of defeatist race traps (conversations and attitudes) that, especially, African American males engage in that is distressing and off putting. Plus the communal trauma suffered for lack of consistent strong, driven and familiar male role models is a palpable loss that represents baggage that takes real getting used to. So in such a situation, you'll feel attraction to individuals outside the black race.

[@coxgary9267]

I'm African American and married to a white woman. I'm in love with the woman, not her color.

[@marioriedow3234]

What one do all do the same.

[@bubblebubble365]

The question remains are you a man or a woman? 🤔

[@veravaladez1525]

Well said !

[@jimmycrackcornss]

👍

[@anthonyperez1410]

Of course you're not.

[@Saulgoodmane]

This was in my recommended videos today and I’m more surprised by the fact that Brandon Tatum used to not always have a beard 😂😂😂

[@prilknight]

This was the first video I watched of his back in the day. It popped up on my feed today. I had to laugh at how much he has changed and grown up. Good for you B. Tatum.😊

[@TEXladydi]

@Saul Good and @Pril Knight ~ I’ve been following @TheOfficerTatum for about 6 mos now. This great throw-back video popped up in my recomnd’d list today!!!! So happy I watched it!! What an honesty man he is!! 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸

[@prilknight]

TEXladydi he is a good guy and has so much common sense😊

[@marvelshooter]

"Why do black men date white women?" Because they found someone they love who just happens to be white. There's the answer to your question

[@markthomas7202]

You're speaking the truth. The 2 parent family is a biblical tradition the black family used to have. Before social programs destroyed it

[@stacyr4768]

If I'm not mistaken, he isn't with his son's mother either . So can't be condescending to the single parents, some relationships just don't work out .

[@jeffb5785]

Very true and I hate to get political but it is mostly due to liberal Democrat policies and then they somehow get most or at least more of the black vote.

[@stacyr4768]

@@jeffb5785 what does politics have to do with being a single parent? Also, there are so many kids in the foster system that need love, single people may adopt them.. Are you all going to shame those single foster moms ?

[@henrymorgan3420]

Stacy Robinson politics has everything to do with it. The government historically made it fiscally more viable for black women to have many kids and to be alone. It was deliberate (LBJ great society) and I would say it has been the most destructive thing that’s happened to black families in modern history. If republicans did it, it would be called racist every day and night on the news. In the 1960’s Patrick Moynihan of NY warned his party about the growing issues of the break down of the black families and that the single motherhood rate of blacks was exploding. The democrats did not give a shit and did nothing. At that time single black mothers exploded to nearly 25% and now it’s like 75%. Look at Hollywood and politics today, they praise single motherhood (a constituency) when the numbers prove you will struggle, be permanently poor or dependent on welfare which is the intent. Democrat party is the daddy. Also, they know through science that a married household is the best for children, but that’s not PC so that science is ignored. It’s part of the old democrat northern plantation model where Democrats targeted minorities for handouts in exchange for votes and all done by king racist LBJ. They did it to the Irish and other undesirable ethnicities all throughout the 1800’s and continue today which is why we have enclaves of permanently poor minority enclaves that live in a total socialist dependency. Free housing, free healthcare, free education in shitty substandard schools, welfare, food stamps, government low wage jobs, etc. etc. in high crime, drug riddled neighborhoods, but the problem is they don’t become independent or free individuals and stuck in permanent government subsistence. Sounds like a slave master to me. So to ignore the politics interwoven in this phenomenon is to ignore history and reality.

[@marionkerley8065]

Can't blame the programs. No one is forcing people to take the "free" stuff. Its all on the parents and the parents only. GTFU!!

[@kathygordon4444]

Color is a description, not a definition. Look at their heart and not just the color.

[@andrewoid4711]

Not the color at all

[@MrMakingwavesmedia]

your heart does not prevent you from smelling bad and looking like the missing link

[@andrewoid4711]

@@MrMakingwavesmedia shut the fuck up racist

[@adorabledeplorable5105]

MLK said it best “ character not color”.

[@melaniehall7351]

Agreed. People ask me about marrying a black man. To me I didn’t marry a black man! I married A man I fell in love with. A man who makes me happy! A man who loves me!

[@omarjones1460]

Nigerian and Ethiopian black women are worth marrying if they don't adopt American black woman culture.

[@rodneyholmes6103]

How do you know SMH

[@omarjones1460]

@@rodneyholmes6103 . How do you think I know? Experience.

[@rodneyholmes6103]

You sound stupid is what I mean

[@MrAverageViewer]

"More about culture, and less about race". Yes, indeed.

[@vidabing]

The Democratic Party divided the black family homes ☹️

[@pattielaine2931]

lies you tell

[@summerlandon7414]

This is true it’s called the plantation or welfare. So the women tell social services she doesn’t know where the father is or who he is because she will lose her benefits her housing her medical etc all her freebies My daughter won’t marry her man because she will lose all her freebies. Free wick free medical free dental free vision free schooling free utilities free housing free food free schooling for all 3 kids. So marriage or knowing the father is a complete disqualifying situation for someone on welfare Creating the destruction of family and moral values and also takes the responsibility from the man so he walks away when he feels like it

[@rogerlindsey9446]

Now the Democrats want to keep people divided it's easier to conquer people when they're divided

[@EnlightenedMan]

True. No black man should be voting Democrat in 2020.

[@loorawlsthomas3914]

@@EnlightenedMan shouldn't be voting anyway real talk.

[@phils.4719]

Dang Tatum, you looked way diff back then

[@calvinkennedy9863]

Dusty

[@staceymartine854]

Lol. I thought the same. I didn't recognize him... baby face

[@nthgth]

Right? I think the selfie cam doesn't help, these always make you look kinda weird. Vs. his studio camera he's moved on to.

[@828anonymous4]

Bryan Liguori he didn’t have the money yet , y’all trippin

[@nthgth]

@@828anonymous4 trippin how? I just said selfie cams make faces look weird. Am I wrong?

[@jess4now12]

Omg I'm going to sound stupid, but is this officer Tatum? He's voice is there but is this him or his son? I'm serious! *Nevermind this video is 3 years old! Lord didn't see the upload date* 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@seanlinnan2719]

Yeah! It's too wierd.

[@samuelinayat-chisti4176]

I'm laughing with you - it did me too.

[@prilknight]

Is that not weird that it’s being recommended again? It was on mine too.

[@kristinakilby6798]

He had a baby face back in the day

[@aconcernedcitizen8011]

I think it's the lack of a hat 🤣🤣🤣

[@seanwilliams964]

Have you ever noticed that it’s black people who talk about black love. You never hear white love, Hispanic love, Asian love etc. I’m not saying that other people don’t have dysfunction but a lot of black people take it to the extreme where it’s all about black love, black businesses, black families, black this black that. All you do is limit yourself because you’re thinking one dimensional and not inviting other ideas from other people in order to learn, grow and develop. If you are attracted to someone only outwardly that’s a major error you must look deeper within and check their CHARACTER. It’s the content of the cup (person) not their color. It’s nothing wrong with preferences but make sure it involves character and having the same convictions and principles. We date and marry at the level of OUR INTELLIGENCE.

[@roger5173]

when you hear young men like this you realize that there is Hope for our country.

[@jaredcoleman3002]

yes

[@shimmer4771]

This stereotypes that he's stated are dumb and weak. They make zero sense. Just say you like white women and leave it at that, this video is embarrassing to watch.

[@williamruiz1453]

@@shimmer4771 NO WHAT "YOU'RE SAYING" IS WEAK! He did make good points and just because you don't agree with them - which is your RIGHT! doesn't mean that what he said is WEAK?

[@shimmer4771]

@@williamruiz1453 Assuming that because someone is white they automatically come from a two parent household and positive stereotypes, whilst black women are negative, it's a prime product of brainwashing and social conditioning. The dude has a self hate issue, but won't admit it. These are the type of blacks I'm ashamed to be associated with... smh.

[@khaleedx4268]

@@shimmer4771 listen to the whole video. Don't get ratchet when you hear " white women".

[@justbecause968]

But how do we stop this racism? Morgan Freeman "stop talking about it" Edit: this has way more likes/comments than I expected. Please don't fight. Seeing everyone as equals, and judging people based on their behaviour and actions rather than race is not easy to write into the law on a national level. Please understand that the vast majority of people, from every race. Are opposed to blatant racism and discrimination. 98+ percent of people know right from wrong. Amen 🙏

[@206EmeraldCity]

You really think that’s gonna stop racism 🤣🤣🤣😆

[@monicapearson2264]

Jesse Owens Love him as a actor but that was not smart

[@kyle-409]

i been saying don't talk about it for years and that may not be correct but i think its being taught and passed down generations. talk about it but dont teach it

[@spencerbrown7479]

@@206EmeraldCity so what do you think will stop racism?

[@206EmeraldCity]

Spencer Brown you must be 10 because that logic doesn’t any sense that’s like saying if I want the bill collector to go away stop talking about it you can’t solve a problem by ignoring it

[@billmiller4620]

I’m a white male and think you did a great job with this video. You helped change my perspective on things. Thank-you!

[@AngieeShipps]

I definitely understand this. I am a black woman who is more on the traditional feminine side ( desiring to be a housewife and mother one day) who grow up in a two parent household taught to honor and respect my father and in return I honor and respect the men around me. Sometimes the men in my community don't know how to a a black woman being feminine and kind because they are so use to demeanoring women and it's sad.

[@MsRenaissance]

I grew up without a father and I am a very respectful person. I treat everyone with respect because I know that how I behave is a reflection on me and not the other person. So you dont need a father to teach you to be respectful because some fathers teach it and the kids still aren't. Also, my sisters and I were actually better off that our father left because he was so abusive his presence made me a very timid person and he would be@t my younger sister so much she literally had the shakes and couldn't learn so that we thought she had a learning disability.... until after he left. After he left we just flourished and my sister, who couldn't learn when he was present, is now a high school principal. So Sometimes the children are better off without some of these men.

[@selainestancell6428]

My husband is black, I am white and we have been together for 24 years and have been married for 19 years. He is a kind, compassionate, loving man who adores me and our 5 cats. I am so lucky to have him in my life.

[@thedarknate0845]

I hope your married for 24 more years!👍

[@wassclewabbit]

S Elaine Stancell and you've never experienced racism from black women?

[@selainestancell6428]

Not really. A little when I worked in the city and my husband would meet me for lunch or something. Since we now live in the country, there aren't any black women there to make critiques.😃 It didn't bother me anyway.

[@DreamingDarlin]

@@selainestancell6428 I bet your husband is getting his share of racisim though.

[@selainestancell6428]

No, we live in a peaceful area with a lot of friendly people. We simply enjoy spending our lives with each other and people don't give us a hard time about it.☺

[@karenmonroe1874]

I’m a white woman who has dated a number of black men. Is he cute? ✅ Does he treat me, his mother and society at large with respect? ✅ is he a moral person with goals and dreams? ✅ Is he holding down a full time job? ✅ Does he handle his finances responsibly? ✅ is he a family guy? ✅ These are the same check list used on any potential BF. Who gives a rip what the shade of his skin is? A Douche is a Douche. Douchbaggery does not recognize skin color. It’s that simple.

[@MrBrachiatingApe]

As an American, I totally agree. I have a checklist of character, behavior, and goals, and even after that, all it takes is the wrong thing said early on and I'm out. I wish I'd been more active about sticking to such a list when I was younger. No kids with my ex, since we weren't married, but she was not a good person. We must all vet our mates, our partners, our spouses (and I will only ever marry once; if it doesn't later, then that's fate) with a critical eye and not let your heart drag your head around by the nose.

[@rougebaba3887]

You maybe more unique than other women would like to admit. Women say they want those attributes, but their choices betray them. Those qualities must be too boring and predictable for a huge swath of females.

[@natashka1982]

@LNY There's nothing wrong with having ethnic preference. I'm Jewish, but I prefer non Jewish men and my type is a blonde Nordic type. So I'm not attracted to Greeks, Italians, Serbians etc either cause I love the tall blue eyed look. My husband fits my physical preferences.

[@LHiley]

I'm guessing the job part is because you want somebody to provide for you. EDIT: Looking back now, that was kind of obvious. I'm a little bit ashamed that I asked such a dumb question. And to be clear, I don't think it's wrong that Karen wants someone to provide and care for her. I never said that, although I regret not thinking this comment through.

[@rougebaba3887]

@@LHiley Wanting to live under traditional rolls is a valid choice. If a man and woman agree together that he should be the principle provider and her serve the roll of mother and homemaker, there is not a thing wrong with it. But what I find is many women want it both ways. They want the husband to provide, but they don't want to be the full time mom and wife.

[@mickeyrobinson4274]

Officer Tatum, I think this is one of your first video that I saw all those years ago. This is why I have followed you all this time. Your in site on so many topics is real. You are a good man and have accomplished so much. Thank you.👍🙏🇺🇸

[@prilknight]

Me too. This was the first one I watched. It’s wild to think it’s been that long ago now. And why is this popping up on our feed now by the way? It’s weird.

[@SJ-zy1jf]

Tatum ! A big God bless you, thank you for this video . I’m from the Uk, black British, I am a professional Psychotherapeutic Counsellor before I qualified I didn’t realise the impact of coming from a dysfunctional family background and how that impacts behaviour in building and maintaining relationships. The dynamics of Mother and Father wounds, whether that’s caused by repeated violence in the family, or neglect, rejection, abandonment leaves life long scars that impact future relationships. You insight into young black woman growing up absent of a father is huge predisposition to enter into marriage, as the woman would have no social modelling experience. I have observed that these black females over compensate in their personality by projecting more male energy, which produces more tension and struggles and conflicts opposed to a woman who is a secure functioning female, tend to clash less with a men.

[@commonman2178]

As a black man I experienced the exact thing he’s talking about. The only difference is it was from the military.

[@yvymareena3050]

And we BW we prefer WM because they are more smart ,educate and have a job!!!!!

[@yvymareena3050]

@Shana Garrett 😉

[@nataliey.618]

I’m Hispanic and experienced it in the military too. My parents said they’d disown me if I got involved with a black man. Guess what, that made me more attracted to them I wanted to discover what was so bad about them through my own eyes. I ended up marrying a black man lol

[@nataliey.618]

Though we divorced 7 years later 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@rcgunner7086]

@Shana Garrett It's not the color though- it's the man. You found yourself a great guy, and great guys exist in all sorts of "colors". Just like how dirt bags can be all sorts of "colors" too. I see that attitude in young white guys too and I've been fighting it in my profession and with my boys. I want them to grow up to be men who are worthy of honor and respect and not dirt bags. It's up to us parents, no matter our color, to raise our boys up to be good men.

[@hoardofthestrings]

Growing up white, I was never told to not date a particular type of person. I never heard any other white people talk about that stuff. I saw it on TV, but never heard it in real life.

[@TheKyley100]

Same for me, “white people” don’t give a shit

[@bmx7596]

@@TheKyley100 yeah they do, just not all of them

[@reesecup3ify]

Same. I'm white and I wasn't raised with any kind of racism. My family didn't care what color a man I dated was, as long as he had good character.

[@reinier4429]

I dated an African girl for a few years way back in the day (2002-2005) and we both had to deal with some bullshit from time to time. Both black people and white people considered us to be "race traitors". I guess it was somewhat more taboo then than it is now but it was always a dumb attitude to have.

[@avgwhitegurl6646]

It's very normal at this time to see interracial couples and families - it's accepted and old news at this point.

[@PauloBurgio]

This guy is gonna grow into a fine man, husband and father. I thought he explained things very well. I was lucky to have 2 parents that stayed together. Also lucky to not have any cultural pressures to date certain people. I lived in a white area and it was hard to meet black girls.

[@petem5041]

These are the type of conversations that heal.

[@GeoffsSousChef]

i'm personally attracted to brains, manners, sophistication and confidence. it's all about CONNECTION. if you vibe with someone & find them attractive, you're good to go ☺️

[@gina9523]

Exactly!

[@neenernener]

OMG! Is there anything sexier than a man with good manners?! To me, it shows that he cares about others & most likely has some sort of familial foundation. Call me shallow 😊 stability is hot too! Lol

[@mimijohnson7714]

Yes, this! ⤴️

[@jerryoshea3116]

That really is about the extent of it..Ur not looking for perfection,but someone who possesses good qualities..The skin is just the outer shell!

[@brandywalkenten9085]

nikki fenwick nothing shallow about that. Also how he treats his mother shows how he will treat you

[@TheFloridaPappy]

A beardless and mellow Officer Tatum. Kinda caught me off guard.

[@benedictouma]

Hahaha

[@dolobrolic6066]

😂

[@r.i.promance7467]

Lol thought he was a guest Brandon was interviewed

[@JR-lg8sq]

Me too. This ia only 3 years ago but could be 2010.

[@ChrisYoungGunn]

I saw three thumbnail in my reccomend and had to click lol

[@scottgeorgeff2896]

Took a lot of courage to make this. Period. ❤

[@schoolofrandomthings]

White culture also doesn't consider you a sell out if you succeed in life.

[@Optimus19572]

Young man, I’m a black woman and I must say, “ when you got to college, God allowed you to experience life.” I grew up differently from you. My life has been full of diversity. Seeing black men in happy relationships with white women doesn’t bother black women such as myself that are culturally diverse. My parents taught me much differently from the people where you grew up. It is ok to love and marry people that are not black. My experience in college was awesome. I loved attending the colleges I did. I was embraced by all my white professors and students. In fact, I was pushed to succeed. I pray you are fulfilled in your life. Blessings to you.

[@vanessadorahill292]

How do you know that black men are happy with becky,don't speak for all black women,because i know better,white folks never and will love so call black people.Nobody is jealous of interracial relationships.

[@mattlourer9692]

Like Oprah said we will have to get rid of all the old black people then racism will stop. Oh wait my bad. She said old white people.

[@jtalk9171]

Well you sound like a decent black women who's worth marrying or creating a family with. Cause the generalization of black women I come across daily, see online daily, or even the entertainers and public figures ain't shit. They're brainless chicken headed females. Greatly white and non black WOMEN exist.

[@vanessadorahill292]

@@mattlourer9692 Sorry,who do you think is trainng the young people and they get old,it travels through generations.

[@shimmer4771]

@@jtalk9171 Not only that, but plenty of us grew up with BOTH and married parents. I wish people didn't generalize. It's weak.

[@spoonypoon7998]

I grew up without my father. My mom worked her butt off and I never got to see her because she had to support four kids by herself. I had no grandparents in my life at all. Us kids basically raised ourselves. I was raised on food stamp and we had to move from house to house because my mom would get behind on the rent and we would get evicted. My mom couldn't even afford to take us to the dentist. I grew up sheltered in a small town where I knew nothing about other cultures. When I moved to a bigger city I got a huge education and realized life was not what I thought it was living in that small sheltered town. I'm white... blacks aren't the only ones that grow up that way..

[@seedofabraham0149]

Yet 70% of black children in America are being raised only by a black mother or grandmother, which is a larger problem, a subculture that is celebrated within the black liberal cities and its blatant rebellion and anarchy that was created by not having fathers in the home.

[@sheilaorangd1967]

When you went to the store and you saw organic food and your time and you thought it was a bad food that's what you're saying you thought it was a food with chemicals did you ever think to go to a library and find out what organic food was all about you could have went out and found out yourself you didn't go to school maybe that's why you are the way you are because you didn't explore into a book or a library or a dictionary that must be was a dictionary when you went to school in the class somewhere where you can look up words so blame it on yourself most of the things that I found out because anything you don't know there are books out there today there's a computer out there today you can go to other communities today there are Italian stores out there there's Greek all different kinds of stores now where you can explore Chinese Korean Spanish where you can taste of different dishes so don't tell me that you couldn't find your way and you're not in your 50s or 60s if you were in your 50s or 60s or 70s I can understand you not knowing about certain things because those times of people of those ages did not come out of their communities I'm sorry you lived a sheltered life

[@monicafigueroa981]

Sad. It is awful that some people had been raised in such conditions.

[@Silkravage]

Sounds to me like your mother was the cause of your problems. No father AND NO GRANDPARENTS?!?!? It was her, but because she was "there" you don't blame her, just the people she pushed out...

[@pearlsofwisdom8117]

@@sheilaorangd1967 you are ignorant! There are plenty of White people who don't know what Organic mean to. Majority of them are lower class. I'd explain but based on your comment look it up!

[@saludanite]

In the 1960's the Federal government declared war on "The Family". Rather than supporting "families", the Feds imposed themselves as the "available" Daddy. The woman could get financial assistance if she was "NOT-married", so guess who was the odd-man out? And so YOU were left alone to deal with all the fall-out that proceeded to happen - it's YOU'RE fault.

[@musicguru22]

I am a black woman born in Illinois. I. Have always known who my dad was and have communicated with him. Some of your points were true. But my perspective of being black is different from that. I have always listened to rock and preferred things typically that most blacks didn't like or see interesting. They took my black card in 4th grade. I didn't and still dont care. I am the minority in my own shades of people because I don't and never have had much in common with other blacks. Every black persons perception of being black is different. I have had whites in my life for as long as I could remember. At times, I was the one black kid in the class. Never had issues when I was the only black one. I get along better with whites than I ever had with blacks. All black women aren't the same. Some blacks come from different places than other blacks. I grew up with mixtures of different races. I have always seen white people. Most of the men I have dated were white. I agree with some of what you said, I disagree with some as well. I could never get a black man that I was dating to go swimming in the lake with me. White men dont have a problem swimming in the lake with me. They are more adventurous and fun than most of the black men that I have dated.

[@JonathanGillies]

That's really interesting!!!

[@kayakutah]

It does seem as though most of our problems go back to the destruction of the family. Moms and Dads - together - are important!

[@nicole6249]

Not always, some parents are toxic. Two wrongs don't make a right.

[@vanillacream2383]

Turtle lover While correct in a sense, it’s better than having only one parent especially from a statistical perspective

[@nicole6249]

@@vanillacream2383 not if the father is abusive and the mother just goes along with it. I've seen kids improve after going into foster care because the parents were just simply unfit. The parents should never stay together on the kids behalf, it'll only screw up their perspective on love, self esteem, and personal growth. Each and every situation is different and ideally the child should have two parents, but only if their capable of raising children.

[@idid138]

if you can stay together for the kids you should. 100%

[@deesalmon9632]

Nah, all you need is a parent that has the time and money to parent well. Even when you have 2 parents, you have problems when there is no time for your kids.

[@captainjunebug9247]

I dated a black girl for 3 years and I truly loved her. When her father found out I was white he told her either break up with him or leave and never come back. I was heartbroken, but I told her family is important and I won't come between her family. That was back in 2004. Now, all these years later, she contacted me 3 days ago and she wants us to start talking again.

[@janettasmith4822]

🚶‍♂️🚶‍♂️NO! Start fresh with someone else because if you go back it will re surface again or it will be something else I'm a black woman married to a white man and his and my family all agree on both sides yes it can happen

[@sheilaorangd1967]

People think that black older people have gotten over being mistreated no we could forgive we can go on but we can't forget being mistreated because your skin was a little darker or had more melanin then someone else when discriminated for the text you about here for the melanin and I was skin weather is light or dark we are discriminated so you have to get out and build a relationship with yourself to find out what life is really about and don't go in that back alleys and the whorehouses and say all black women are bad or they're all whores all black men are pimps and drug dealers

[@beep898]

@Jason Heilinger oof, what are we, tribes of cavemen separated by the shape of our nose? Race traitor? You're sick

[@monicafigueroa981]

That's tragic that that happened. Maybe this time around she could do things on her own free will rather than what she's forced to do. Many wishes for happiness for you both.

[@maddisonjohnson4308]

Go for it man. She obviously still cares.

[@mommabear5059]

The only think I would say that’s kinda ironic is that you say that the black women you dated didn’t have a father in their lives, but that is on the black men isn’t it? It was the men that didn’t stick around.

[@alexzandria6803]

It’s on the women. It’s our job as women to PICK a good father for our children and be married before we have children. If a man loves you enough to marry you, he will love anything that comes from you. If he doesn’t love you enough to marry you what makes you think a kid will make him stay. We have over 19 different forms of birth control and were the ones that have to carry the child and gain weight and give birth. WE as women should be accountable and not treat treat our uterus like a human Petri dish

[@cha4ya4ya70]

@@alexzandria6803 It is actually on both the man and woman. Both have the responsibility to respect their own bodies and to raise the children they bring into this world. There is no one side that is more accountable BOTH are accountable. Male or female if you decide to lay down with someone you have to live with the consequences you make.

[@nancytorpey3570]

@@cha4ya4ya70 unfortunately it’s usually the kids that have to pay.🙁

[@covideusmagsumus2076]

Momma Bear this dude is just giving excuses as to why he dates white women, he probably bashes black women off camera its self hate.

[@fatchubbe]

I found the love of my life on a dating site. I'm a white dude. I was sick of the posts with women (not race specific, white, brown, black) with 5 kids, no job acting like they were tens and not twos. Posting how they were looking for their prince/knight in shining armor. Talking bout they don't need a man but they need a man to make more then them. Posting revealing pics and duck face pics. Saying, "Don't waste my time, if you don't have a great job get lost and stop looking at my boobs". I was like, you ladies are insane if you think you're gonna attract a well adjusted man with junk like that. Anyway, then i saw a post with classy pictures, and a statement that read she was looking for a god fearing man. No inappropriate pics, no talk about what a man should do for her. Fast forward, now we are getting married and she just happened to be a beautiful black woman. I wasn't looking for just anyone, i was looking for a person who saw through all the BS of culture and wanted God first and then love. The rest is a bonus. A beautiful person inside and out. BTW, luckily both families don't give a rats a$& about skin color. And if they did, we would tell them to talk to God, because we aren't listening :)

[@liorasitelman1856]

Sounds like you found a keeper! Stay blessed and love and cherish her always

[@livinlife123]

replying hella late but im happy you found your person brother. may God continue to bless your marriage 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@Daviebhoy25cfc]

Ignorance knows no colour, its in every class, its universal. It starts in the home.

[@donkique956]

DaViEbh0Y cLanDoNaLD it is more prevalent with certain ethnicity.

[@doublew030]

@@donkique956 No it is not! My family is white and ignorance is in every damn race! Not one damn group can me labeled ignorant over another. I'm a conservative and I listen to people. If you are Liberal or Democrat I listen. Ignorance comes with not lending an ear to another person's knowledge. We can all learn something if we just shut the fuck up and listen to each other.

[@MaskedRiderChris]

Yup. Ignorance and stupidity, and laziness are all universal traits that are not unique to one race. Nuff sed.

[@austntexan]

I disagree. Culture has a lot to do with it. Black women, while incredibly attractive, are absolute nightmare human beings and nearly impossible to please. It's no wonder why more and more black men are choosing to date white women. I personally don't think it's about status or anything like that. Black men are simply looking for a women who will not give him lip at every single turn. There's a lot of truth to the racial trope of the typical ABW/Sapphire woman. If they want to shake this image, they need to stop being ridiculous shrews to their men. They are to blame for how they're treated, not men.

[@marylamb7707]

@@donkique956 Nah. Its in all ethnicities.

[@ayres1009]

As a white man who has traveled a lot of the world i find myself having more in common with people that aren't from America. The traditional values in America are dying and it breaks my heart.

[@sylviacarlson3561]

Amen to that Chris! Amen to that!

[@ayres1009]

@Yoon Jun what does money have anything to do with what I said? I've been traveling the world. Obviously I have money to do that.

[@ayres1009]

@Yoon Jun so basically you chimed in about traveling when my entire point was the loss of traditional values here in America. You missed the entire point. Greener pastures in America is irrelevant. Most of the greatest people in this country live in places where the cost of living is dirt cheap.

[@ayres1009]

@Yoon Jun for someone who has traveled you are willfully blind.

[@ayres1009]

@Yoon Jun show me the traditional values here. Millions of kids growing up without fathers, 67% of all marriages fail, etc. I could keep going. Show me what traditional values are still honored in this country. The left is hell bent on destroying the nuclear family and the media is helping them complete this task. Show me where I'm wrong.

[@r.g.murray3945]

I'm a biracial woman in my early 60's, my mother was German and my father was Black and they met while he was in the service. Her culture was different from what he used to and watching them together, I learned how to be a wife and homemaker. My parents did divorce and he later married a black woman; he was never happy. He was pressured and realize it was the 60"s. When my mom died a few years ago he took it very hard. They still remained friends long after they divorced. His current wife never accepted us and had a lot of issues. My dating habits have always been educated black men; that come from two-parent households; looking back at it, I didn't realize that they had similar backgrounds. My children dated both white and black; I have a daughter and son; my grandchildren are multiracial. I think it's all about what you have in common and what really makes you happen. Don't settle and find your match no matter what color.

[@celtaciaclemment1229]

And there's the best advice EVER: DON'T SETTLE. God bless you.

[@medinac7618]

Lmao I was like who’s this dude on Brandon channel Lmao

[@almightyfolkks7454]

Me too 😂😂😂😂

[@scripter0998]

Black guys have to be smart about the type of black women you date. Black guys don't pick up the black women at the libraries, book stores, art galleries, and museums. YOU pick the wrong ones.

[@ms.nelson5208]

I do agree with your comment...I grew up going to museums and doing the same activities as other races and to hear so much in the differences of men & the excuses they use because of their reasons for dating out of their races is unbelievable...Jus' love from your hearts MEN and not from your thoughts!!!...Admit the fact that you are just trying to find a difference which in most cases you don't!!!...A PERSON reacts to the way they are TREATED, not because they are a different race...Maybe YOU SHOULD PAY ATTENTION TO WHAT YOU MEN PUT IN THE REALATIOSHIP BEFORE YOU MAKE A COMMENT ABOUT WOMEN, ESPECIALLY THE BLACK WOMAN!!!...GOD BLESS!!!

[@MojoMicah]

The wrong ones are easy, and that's a serious problem with current American culture When the quality of women declines, the quality of men decline with it And I put women first since it is the women that create life

[@The1Question]

Scripter09 - very true! The problem is you don't see many black women at book stores, art galleries and libraries nowadays....

[@swiftset]

The Question, lol, i doubt you see more black men at those places.

[@aramrose2172]

It also helps not to choose a woman that will sleep with you after the 1st date. Also try to avoid women that's dated around a lot.That's a sign that there will be a lot of unnecessary drama & jealousy in the relationship.

[@wolver1768]

I hope and pray that the black community starts moving toward a healthy family structure that they used to have !!! Life will improve tremendously. God bless

[@QUIETSTORM43]

@Mike Gee you mean Brandon Taum?

[@stephenlate9775]

Love should be color blind you don't love someone because of this skin you love someone for their heart

[@pastoryoda2789]

And also black people need to stop eating soo unhealthy, the food they eat is killing them.

[@lskiller1903]

@Andrew Ledet So Andy you are saying the President of the United States that pushed and signed into law the civil rights act on 7-2-1964. Is responsible for the down fall of the Black communities, interestingly ridiculous! So you are admitting there is a problem with in the Black community but you won't admit that the black community is responsible for its own destiny. Basically you are saying that white people are responsible for the down fall of the black community?

[@MariaSantos-em5jv]

@@lskiller1903 You ignored Nixon's War on drugs, which led to an increase in the amount of Black men put behind bars. The whole point behind these policies was to destroy Black communities.

[@moose246]

You hit it right on the head. This is one of the greatest videos I've watched on KZbin. The word is culture not race. My parents are from Puerto Rico I was born and raised in the projects of NY no soon I was able to get out of the ghetto I got out and never looked back. I just want to say this a lot of good people get caught up in that culture and never make it out.

[@asherdeangelo3268]

I always thought black women where so beautiful. But as a child I was taught to date your own race. As I got older and I dated all white women and they all cheated or left cause of the parents didnt approve or someone with more money. I'm from Georgia by the way. I noticed a pattern and started dating out my race I finally figured out it is all about home training. White people raise thier daughters to be princesses and everything is always done and handed to them..not saying all but majority and that explains why they leave or cheat when they dont have or get what they want..nothing is ever good enough. Black women as majority are raised helping raise their siblings and taking responsibilities of the house hold. To me that makes them more valuable. This isn't the 50s and people have to many options. My life has gotten better when I started dating black women and treat me like a king..my wife is black and she has two kids from two different men because they left her after she got pregnant..these kids are still young and call me daddy and when I lost my 100k job due to the covid situation she didnt leave me like the average white woman would do but instead loved me and had my back. She even told me that she dint care if I work or not as long as I dont lie or cheat. I did get another job finally but like I said it's all about home training.. dont ever be with a person that feels they are entitled...I encourage people to date outside their race simply because you learn new things and open yourself to new experiences..

[@roxieheart524]

No offense but that happens to a lot of people, like my mum went through that too and she's a woman, so it's not exclusive to certain people more like certain individuals.

[@glitbow7630]

Date your own

[@MsLotusBlooms]

That was a beautiful comment. ❤❤❤

[@everydayjoe4323]

The most important decision you will ever make: Who ya marry.

[@Aakash_Goswami1]

Never marry! #StaySingle

[@alejandromata825]

No matter how careful you are with that decision you still have a 90% chance of finding a messed vernacular of a woman.

[@LordOfNothingham]

Saying “I do” is as good as saying “I’m done”

[@alejandromata825]

LordOfNothingham you are better off squirting them in the face and leaving as they blindly shuffle around feeling around for a towel, sadly!

[@adorabledeplorable5105]

Everyday Joe “ by all means , merry . If you get a good wife you’ll become happy ; if you get a bad one , you’ll become a philosopher “ Socrates

[@deckofcards87]

African Americans, Italian Americans, Latino Americans, Irish Americans, Asian Americans -- we are none of these things, we are just AMERICANS.

[@adamsmith3413]

Sanbro That’s true but marriage is tough enough I married a woman who is the same religion and similar backgrounds. It has made our lives much easier. Happily married for 29 years.Absolutely agree that we should view each other as countryman.

[@aaronm8143]

👍🇺🇸

[@theutopiaproject7434]

probably the 'native' Americans would be the only ones who can claim that, and then probably descendants of slaves next. America wasn't settled, it was conquered and enslaved, imperialism. There isn't really anything to be proud about being "American". stick to being African living in an imperialist country and learn how to be the best person within that. Care about the environment and your fellow human being. Peace x

[@paxsmile]

The Utopia Project Best country in the world. That something to be damn proud about. Also, if you’re born here or naturalized, of course you are American!! 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸

[@aaronm8143]

The Utopia Project every nation has been conquered by others, it isn’t unique to the United States. All of human history is constant war, and empires formed in others lands. Slavery wasn’t a unique thing to the United States as well. Sadly it was part of our culture, but it started in Africa. The first slave owner was black, Anthony Johnson.

[@pammym1825]

Well thought out...👏As a white woman whose father was distant and cold while my step father was an alcoholic and my mother had mental health issues (yep it was crazy) it took my salvation in Christ to get my heart and mind to start thinking right about what a wife is supposed to be like and what a husband is supposed to be like. I learnt over decades! Definitely tough because the psychological term is "insecure attachment" and it's very challenging to overcome!

[@xxSURExxSHOTxx]

I enjoyed this video! I had a similar experience. However, I was a young white male that became a minority in an Asian / Polynesian culture. It was a next level experience for me in my life!! Totally changed my perspective on everything and I have been with the same Asian girl for 18 years and we have two children together.

[@Hydra509]

Ben Shapiro has said this before in the past. There is a problem with the culture in the African American community which has resulted in a lot of problems. a lot less to do with race, and whole lot to do with culture.

[@RoadWarrior2006]

You think Whites need or want that shit contaminating our culture too? Fuck no!

[@roquey44]

The problem? He addressed it somewhat in his video about not feeling oppressed. The system has killed the black family. The very thing he addresses here about black women should tell him that cultural oppression is alive and well and has been that way for a long time. That oppression not on effects black women, it somewhat emotionally handicaps the entire race. Some black women are angry. But why are they angry? Its because they are hurt. They have to jump through so many hoops when it comes to public's perception of beauty. That anger is their force field from the world. Marriage is tough. Throw in a society that has historically held you back from even the basics of life, and it gets tougher. Most of the girls Brandon meets at school are probably from good families with homes big enough for kids to have their own rooms, that private space. Most black families don't have that. Girls want to feel special by daddy. When the pressures of not being able to provide a home in the manner he would like gets too much to handle, some men crumble and hide their feelings in drugs and the bottle. Then comes staying out later than the wife wants. Then come the arguments. Then. possibly and sadly, comes the abuse. Now, this ain't just germane to the black home. It happens across all cultures. A lot of the "sistas" don't fee worthy because dad wasn't there or might have been there, but part of him was in a bottle or in some drug.

[@NianiNzingha]

Road warrior, we got this ragged culture from white Americans. White men are the original baby daddy's of this country.

[@imalaughimacry480]

kamasutra420 It's self loathing

[@Hydra509]

This makes no sense? Ben is married with children, but even if he wasn't wtf does that have to do with anything?

[@garychandler119]

MEN WANT A WIFE NOT A BOSS.

[@prettylola3012]

And women want a husband that works hard and provides for his family not a boy that wears Jordan’s and has 10 kids with 10 baby mamas

[@magleve6743]

@@prettylola3012 why can't a woman work hard and provide for her family?

[@feliciagallo9832]

👍🏼♥️

[@feliciagallo9832]

@@prettylola3012 ♥️👍🏼

[@michellemcmichael4680]

Men like george floyd dont marry

[@danjohnson6870]

I had a black girlfriend when I was younger. I had no problem with her until she got around other blacks. When it was just her and I she acted normal but around other blacks, the culture changed

[@JohnCooper322]

What a great insight and analysis! I appreciate the many truths you continue to share with the world. Thank you for all you do, Officer Tatum!

[@Jamac007]

I always tell people to travel the world, visit people and places outside your comfort zone, the further the better...you will come back a more thoughtful. intelligent and become more wise for it.

[@tammywines9789]

Amen !! I am happy to have traveled and still traveling. I am exposed to many different cultures, ppl, beauty , colors . I like just about everything and will listen to anyones opinions. We are all human we are raised differently, but we can learn all be taught to enjoy and appreciate each other's feelings.

[@farque7179]

Not all can afford to travel the planet. So your statement tells me you've never traveled or your theory is total bullshit. People need to open their eyes and ears before their mouth if they want to become more thoughtful and intelligent. True wisdom means you know nothing. Start there first then move about the planet with eyes and ears open.

[@jacquiehosey1029]

Jamac007 agreed!

[@dahenry8888]

Honestly id think you even need to go outside the country.

[@jtalk9171]

I personally think you just want to throw that in people face. You need money to travel. Some people don't have social connections to stuff if they're broke and some people do. It starts from home and having a real brain and understanding other lives exist in the world and everything isn't about you. You'd be suprised of what some people tell their kids. I mean our race is the one who's saying they grew up not loving their own skin or self and dissing the people they claim are privileged in person that they don't even know. So it starts from home.

[@TDFlorida]

"More about culture and less about race" A lot of poor white people have a similar culture shock going to a big universities where there are a lot more things to offer.

[@BrianSmith-nw3pp]

I dont have very many videos or good ones on my channel, but based on what you just said you might enjoy the things I'd like to do. And you are 100 percent right. Its not the multiracial society that has the problem. Its multicultural.

[@deloresleonard762]

It's prominent in the black community.

[@GoodBoyOskie]

True. I grew up on a ranch in the country. A real bumpkin but I loved my childhood. I had no idea what sushi was either. And I still can't eat it.

[@0906blue]

Usually poor whites are welfare families and have been for generation. They generally don't and won't work. They don't usually go off to universities. The other whites generally stay away from them. It's two different worlds. Birds of a feather flock together.

[@bustarogers9990]

@@0906blue lol so what's your point?. Poverty is the actual problem, not racism?.

[@llharris4837]

Thank you Officer Tatum. I experienced some of the same realizations about myths (that I grew up thinking were facts), as you expressed. At my "Senior" age, it took enrolling in college classes to be exposed to a better, more educated way of thinking. I'm grateful for the education you provide. And like the song says "We all bleed the same". We share so many commonalities among us though we have different skin color. I love learning about different cultures. Again, thank you.

[@samuelmckever6134]

@LL Harris all this lame Tatum does is play to all the stereotypes of Black people that white people hold to make money. So if I were you I wouldn't use him to try to understand Black culture ok

[@nevadasmith9095]

As a white man I never looked at this the way you put. Thank you for turning on the light, helping me understand your point of view. Your absolutely correct.

[@jamiejohnson9660]

I completely agree. The reason I only dated white men as a black woman is because most of the black men who have pursued me do not have the ideal cultural background that I am looking for. I want a man who would be into family, faith, and business. I wanted someone who was reliable, responsible, and someone who could be a leader. I also wanted someone who would be monogamous and respectful of me. I hate all the drama and disrespect that comes from certain black men who just want to run around with every chick they see and be noncommittal, or the ones who have 5 baby mothers and do not take care of their kids. I am currently engaged to my guy(who is white) and we are over the moon to be getting married this fall. So again, it is not race, it is culture. :)

[@vociferonheraldofthewinter2284]

You're a true lady with uncommon sense. We all need to work hard to be our best selves, then choose mates who pull us up and don't drag us down. Race has absolutely nothing to do with it. It's about discipline, honor, and values.

[@Truth6598]

Jamie Johnson Wow. That's one lucky white guy. I don't see a lot of comments from black women in interracial relationships who come off as mentally sound. You didn't even attack black men once! Wish you guys all the best.

[@Purplerose200]

That's ignorance.

[@JohnJohnson-hl4fv]

I'm a White man who has only been with Black women. I'm on my second marriage of 28 years; the first one was only 7 years.

[@JohnJohnson-hl4fv]

@Hiliary Johnson This is it for me, because I'm an old man.

[@MrMakingwavesmedia]

just say I am a moron

[@blackirishrose4040]

Yeah baby..... Keep it real you love that chocolate 😎

[@Speak_Datruth13]

Funny how black women will praise you for saying that but if a black man says he only been with white women he'll be attacked and scrutinized. HYPOCRISY.

[@AmigoKandu]

@@Speak_Datruth13 Say What? 😳

[@tracy3364]

I love that you've opened up your life to different things and now your children will have a great life full of experiences which is what we are supposed to do...we box ourselves in with our beliefs and we need to embrace everything with an open heart. I love your videos you are an inspiring young man Much love from England

[@nickm6670]

Where I grew up, finding a black woman to date was next to impossible. I think I dated the two that were in my city. What wasn't covered here, was the dynamic I experienced when trying to date, "within my race", as a black man basically you embraced the stereotypes or you were considered weird and undatable. Race never mattered to me as long as I found whomever I dated attractive and they had ambition. I havs met and dated folks of most races and walks of life, one recurring theme was, there was always someone who thought, that my race would make me more tolerant of their "entitled poverty" ideology.

[@armywife2248]

Have you ever noticed that we are the only people who question why black men/women date anyone other than black/men women?

[@AndreonLong]

I've noticed it, too. He'll, I still get asked that question. It doesn't offend me.

[@nattyrf511]

That's a fact. My sister has been married to her black husband for over twenty years. The ppl she gets racists remarks from thirty years ago and now is from black ppl. It's sickening.

[@dahenry8888]

Because we are MOSTLY the only race that doesn't like their own race...sad but true....you can't like yourself if you choose to date ONLY white folks or ANYBODY other than your own race.

[@everettfanor1989]

Asians do the same thing. Type in "Yellow fever". Also asians drool over white people and theres many videos and articles online showing that

[@kicknowledgesmith8608]

yup no one questions white men dating Asian women, I see that a lot

[@annalykins1579]

I am so impressed by you, young dude. A critical thinker. How refreshing 🇺🇸🍑

[@lynn6221]

Brandon is an intelligent free thinker .He was a police officer. He just got engaged! 🙂 He has great videos

[@MrJecossey]

Anna Lykins he’s a grown ass man and cop

[@deejd9837]

@Lorenzo Williams Jr. hows that

[@sherryridlen9357]

@Lorenzo Williams Jr. it seems the only victim IAM seeing is you let go of ur hate look with clear eyes and Hart

[@joeblincoe3122]

Ha this popped up In My feed and I said to myself who is this guy that officer Tatum is introducing me to now. Then I realized it was from 4 yrs ago and no beard. Ha love your content brother I think everything is very well thought through and well articulated never disappoints.

[@mrdfoutz]

Been a Tatum fan for some time now. Just saw this, and love the truth. The cultural aspect goes much deeper than just romance. I'm thankful that I recognized that in middle school by being in mixed cultures for 7 hours each day. Oh yeah, and Brah, look at you all young back then! 😁

[@Yepthatsme0038]

White female, I was told growing up “I don’t care who you date, as long as they treat you with respect and inspire you to be the the best version of yourself.”

[@65motowngirl]

Laura Shupe white female here. My mom? She preferred my black Catholic never been married coworker to the non Catholic divorced white guy. Nothing else mattered. Brains, education. Didn’t matter. Single Catholic guy black, white or blue got her approval. Ridiculous! In the end . I NEVER GOT MARRIED. Thank you God!

[@tymom9313]

Same!

[@JordanWilliams-ix2td]

Same. Black men hate themselves

[@kellyann5587]

That is what I tell my children! Love is love

[@MichelleLewis1969]

My mom was a hot mess. God rest her soul but she was not the lifestyle I had planned for my life. Her profession said if he had money he'd do. Not my idea of living a good life. I chose for myself what I wanted in a man. My grandmom, (mom's mom) said as long as they were part of the church she'd approve. Listen now, I know some church boys that did NOT listen to the preacher! LOL!! At the end of the day, it's your own happiness and the happiness of the person you chose to live your life with and how you'd live it to its best with them. All this color stuff doesn't make for qualifying a partner. If anything, it would only be an enrichment for both parties if they are of different races. I'm 50 years old and have never been on the race train. Seems to be a pathetic way to live your life if race keeps you from being your best self. I agree with you 100%.

[@Tylervrooman]

Anyone who has fallen in love with someone of another race understands. They truly realize that the amount of melanin doesn't matter.

[@lizzytreehouse]

You spoke of a very sensitive subject yet your humanity and humbleness shined right through. The first man I was attracted to was black. I didn’t see color. I saw his goodness, how gentle he was and respectful to everyone. I dated white men, black men, in the end I married a Puerto Rican man who’s culture was identical to mine. Officer Tatum I have tremendous respect for you. You are a peacemaker. Love that the best about you. 🙏💝🙏