WHY BOYS HATE DATES in JAPAN

[@DanielandYuka]

So happy we were able to introduce you to Takashii from Japan that day Cathy! You got some really fun responses to these questions! :)

[@junior.santana]

So nice to see them in a collab, thanks for that then

[@keintabak]

Are all of your friends Cat-Themed? 🤣

[@sadeexiong]

Omg Takashi!

[@MustardPimp.]

Instantly click for him ! 😁

[@UnwashedWashi]

As soon as I saw him I clicked on the vid

[@huynhmai7385]

Same here. I was surprised to see him here

[@dristigiri2941]

yeah 😅

[@zelrisu]

I clicked for Takashi as well!

[@leemae3174]

So happy that Takashi is there to answer your questions Cathy!!☺ hope you will collab to him soon for sure that would be fun.!!😀

[@ahillmann]

What frustrates me about dating in my country is that the seat on the other side of the table is always empty. It's a very unfortunate feature of dating over here.

[@junior.santana]

lol so relatable though :/

[@zackdave2050]

🤣

[@sukruciris]

💀

[@yaboit3ngu763]

I love Takashi’s channel 🙌 and the guys in 2nd interview were pretty hilarious 😂

[@neetkeed8141]

Takashi-san 🤯 This makes me happy Seeing my two favourite Japan youtubers in the same video. I’ve always wondered what it would be like if he was interviewed lol

[@simpforwattson3795]

I like it how she interviewed takashi lol.

[@stormtrooperelite1453]

in Serbia, there's loads of issues with dating. Most important is the fact that the country is poor, standard of living is just hovering above average, so young people tend to be forced to delay their independence, if they ever get it anyway. That means girls live with their parents and are thusly under their command for longer than it should be. So, for you, an outsider, that kind of game is often a gauntlet of challenges in which you must prove yourself to be able to handle stuff like racism and bigotry of boomer parents, and always being second fiddle, all while being frustatingly stretched between your partner and your parents, and both demand your unconditional attention. A related issue is the "tradionalism" mindset that still dominates the place, so if you're not a guy who ticks most of the socially acceptable boxes that are only imposed locally, your options are VERY limited. Once you've cleared all that and are actually dating a person, you're gonna have to be prepared to never show emotions, never complain, and always do what you're told. You're very likely going to abandon whatever hobbies you have because you need to be a responsible pillar of the household.

[@J0k3rziNhUBR]

sounds depressingly similar to what i know in my home country

[@SamuraiSx19]

You could just tell in short that in our country Serbia everything in life goes hard cause country is POOR and Politics is *shyt so society is also big arena ''hard to survive here''. x) Pozdrav iz Srbije inace ~

[@stormtrooperelite1453]

@@SamuraiSx19 poz i tebi, fellow weeb :)

[@SamuraiSx19]

@@stormtrooperelite1453 lol nisam ja weeb al ajd, kontam da se mladji tako pozdravljaju danas x) poz svakako ~ i pozitiva, bice bolje. ako ne u nasoj Srbiji onda samo van )

[@Goldun-nah]

Politics matter. Politics is life. All the way down to how we form relationships. May Serbia triumph one day soon! It’s starting to become this way even in America for many working class youngsters with working class parents. It’s unfortunate. But let’s fight for a change to make things better with hope. 🫰🏼🫶🏼

[@kpt002]

I am a Finnish woman +40 years old and always paid my own share on dates. Here - specially at the beginning of the relationship - the bill is usually always split. I would have felt uncomfortable to let the man pay. Different then if you are in a serious relationship, for a birthday dinner etc. I have let the man pay as a gift. And sometimes as a student if I did not really have money to go on a date, I would not tell the guy, I would just say: "Lets go for a cup of tea or a coffee" so I could afford to pay for myself at least.. 😊

[@bbygirl2329]

Hell no😂

[@kpt002]

@@bbygirl2329 Hell yeah! 😁 If I am trying to think what is behind it: I want to be treated equally, that also means I won't become anyones maid or a servant later in the relationship. Like we start equally strong and build the relationship from there.. If the guy always paid for me, I would feel I owe him something. 😊

[@MrSpartanspud]

Nordic countries are generally considered to be more or less equal when it comes to men and women. I don't think that's so much the case in Japan. So I can understand it to a degree.

[@joseph3036]

That's how it's supposed to be.

[@TheMrmango69]

respect

[@Leeon_King]

I was like "Wait, I know that guy!" 😂😂

[@raghadalashoor6650]

Never thought he was still a university student I'm actually surprised

[@Heymrk]

I'm getting older and I'm sick of that dating crap. It was frustrating for more than 20 years and I'm done.

[@Earlydoors272]

Thanks for not automatically including the subtitles it makes me listen harder

[@kittypot888]

Both of my fav youtuber here, btw the second boys are so funny love it

[@carlovel4904]

Something that men generally don't consider is being apart of the shopping experience. Suggesting items or asking how certain clothing may look on their partner are both nice way to include yourself and not be bored and to show more interest in your partner.

[@carlovel4904]

America is a bit wierd generally. It not so cut and dry as it's romanticized. Keeping an interest in your partner or the activities you do together, are the largest struggles for many couples.

[@RubyAlmaguer]

TAKASHII GETTING INTERVIEWED?! OMG THATS SOO CUTE AND COOL 🥹🤍🤍

[@willpower8061]

Here in the USA, If a guy asks a girl out, he pays. If they're both just hanging out then it gets shared. If a woman invites me over, I assume she cooking.

[@Live4This]

If a woman invites you over to her place or to hangout she’s not thinking about cooking.

[@willpower8061]

@@Live4This well we'd just be cooking in a different way 😉

[@alyzza1753]

@@willpower8061 Lmao

[@marklee331]

@@Live4This we call it "God's Cuisine"

[@279-b7f]

Not having a car in Germany definitely makes it hard. They paying thing is difficult, all woman I dated offered to pay, even one outright wouldn't let me pay even half, she payed full. I usually pay on the first date though. But I know guys who had different experiences.

[@moma-b]

Sometimes I think our society started to turn upside down. Some women are even offended if men try to pay for them. Ridiculous. Imo this is a nice gesture, it's part of the "dance of seduction". I prefer when people both showing their intention to pay and then let the other person make the choice to accept or refuse. Imo it's logical, practical and optimal.

[@neteroipman4478]

I don't know in which part of germany you live but what you say doesn't sound like germany, they want that the man pay, I never had a date where they try to split or pay their own part, I will never date such woman again. I really think you live in a different germany than me😂. You don't need a Car in germany to date, just meet in the city.

[@moma-b]

@@neteroipman4478 A personal experience is always misleading. What numbers are we talking about? Definitely less than a 100 in both cases, right? Population of Germany >80 million. Roughly half is female, idk how many is in dating age, but I'm fairly sure there are even regional differences in behavior. Not to mention women from different background. (Turkish, Polish, etc.) We always try to generalize, but it's good to keep in mind that personal experience can be very misleading.

[@itamivaldes1427]

Lol Kathy found Takashi! Really interesting video and perspective from the guys

[@sagunthapa9888]

Didn’t expect takashi to be here 😂😂

[@sanponoko]

朝から新しい動画😍贅沢です！

[@ZanicaKnight]

On today’s episode of “Women who don’t take out their wallets” Ahahaha 😂 it’s just become a staple in these videos and I’m all for women paying for their meal as I do mine

[@ardalla535]

It may be simplistic but I figure the one who invites pays the bill. If you are dating the same person regularly, then there is no invitation made ... it is just assumed. In that case, the bill is split. It's rude to invite someone out and then expect them to pay. They are your guest. You pay.

[@gwot]

That's more of a western concept. In Asia, guys are expected to pay for dates regardless

[@manuelmed98]

It's not that simple tbh... Who usually is expected to make the invite? 😂 men, so does that distinction really change anything? It just sounds as an argument for the status quo.

[@kitsulu8576]

It depends, imo most girls won't ask guys out even if they are crushing hard on said person, it's expected for guys to ask or make the first move. If it's a mutual interest I think it should be split, regardless of who asks whom. I've always paid my own way therefore I wouldn't feel indebted or have any expectations put on me later on - if you know what I mean lol.

[@moma-b]

@@kitsulu8576 On the first date I would expect the girl at least to try to take out her wallet and give the guy the chance to say: let me treat you. It's really the gesture what counts. And if there are more dates regularly I think it's reasonable for trying to balance the costs, unless one of the parties are obviously having more money. I earn enough to treat friends I know they earn much less than me. This is also a gesture.

[@thelonercoder5816]

im an american male who has NEVER paid for first dates and never will. If there is interest from both parties, there are no expectations. If a woman expects you to pay for the date, she's not that interested in you men and is only using you for a free meal. Remember this.

[@CandyCandy_29]

In my country Greece guys expect you to be intimate on the first date, like they would consider you a weirdo if you're not which REALLY frustrates me, that's why I don't date here in Greece or I tell them to be friends first and then see where it goes.

[@christlives7777]

nothing wrong with a women who has self respect. good job

[@laclochard]

I see men can't let women live anywhere

[@marvinnovilla4918]

Shoes? No Accessories? No Undewear? YES!YES!YES! we can do it whole day Men of Culture indeed

[@laturista1000]

yES dating benefits the consumption culture thats it. Men don't benefit from dating and most of the time dating is a frustrating time wasting chore. Women love it because they can pretend to like the guy and have all these meals paid for them. And then they block the ugly guy afterwards. LOL

[@kilura9459]

Men of many cultures

[@Gilvids]

@@laturista1000 who hurt you?

[@Woeisme2]

@@Gilvids YOUR MOM

[@roach9857]

Yooooo Takashi!! first Takashi collabs with Oriental Pearl and now Cathy wtfff this is so cool

[@ryuukakhadijah7766]

I read an article about women are paid less than men in the same job in Japan.. 😅 Maybe that's one of the reason why women are reluctant to pay for dates? Women have to spend more on keshou and hair styling too, when men can just wear t-shirt & jeans and keep their hair simple without judgement

[@Scarlett13Lady]

Takashii from Japan!! This was it and very interesting! 😊🙆🏽‍♀️🤗

[@j-hoe2351]

As a Mexican it’s culture and custom for men to pay for everything always 💀so this is surprising to me

[@joseph3036]

Yep, that's why your women enjoy 5 free meals for 5 days paid by 5 different guys.

[@EAKugler]

I'm old, but I always paid when I was taking a girl out. For everything. Until we were dating exclusively for several months.

[@lollypop2414]

Yeah, I've been married a long time now and back when I was dating (in America) it was expected that the man pays for at least the first few dates. Once the relationship is more established it would be more common for the woman to pay sometimes.

[@christianneabella1340]

This cameraman is a comedian and a man of culture lmao.

[@F8TVOfficial]

Another awesome vid!!

[@andrewlopez1906]

3:47 These guys are hilarious 😄 Good episode.

[@meloowl2]

OOOH a video with Takashii!

[@kittywithawetnose]

I would take turns paying. He can pay on the first date then I can pay for the second date. An ideal date would be, inviting my boyfriend over to cook together then we have dinner and chill watching anime or gaming. Both of us probably don't know how to cook. But what matters is that we both have fun together🥰

[@laturista1000]

you're lying. in reality he is paying for everything. And you aint even banging him either. lol. You''ll break up with him in less than a year once you find a hotter taller and more interesting man. Mark my words.

[@2crisp63]

💯

[@Woeisme2]

Sounds like a date

[@ryulzero]

Well, here in Brazil is quite the same, what differs most is the girl itself, some are just "profiteers" and dont pay even the water they drink, others stay almost the entire date with the face glued in the cellphone, while in the other side, if you're hanging out with a girl a bit more mature, she can even pay the meal, or pay "half by half", for me it's a matter of disposition.

[@vincytvholic]

Oh wow....hearing the different speed when Takashii is interviewer vs when he's the interviewee....soooo fast!!!!

[@shiracordero]

Wow! I've noticed many American men do this too. Hispanics always pay their ladies. I don't know if I am old fashion but I always got upset and found it not gentleman like, if a guy didn't pay the dates 😅 I even had a guy fought me on a date to pay a coffee and then complained because he paid a $3.50 dollar coffee. I was so surprised and shocked by that, I offered myself to pay it back, he got even angrier, lol!

[@wanterofjustice3878]

1:08 Yes! We all feel this way. And women tend to go overboard wanting to dine at expensive restaurants and other venues. Then you on top of all that they’re on the phone more than half the time and then complain about communication.

[@robb4394]

I see my guy Takashi doing big things!

[@katesarabia2115]

The person who invites to eat out first should pay, either girl or guy. I think that's common courtesy. That's why some guys doesn't like dating since it's costly.

[@chialor1945]

I think it's really if you live in the city or country side. When I lived in the country, things were a lot more slow. But it was odd, I kinda liked it more. Kindness was shown much more. Girls there were a lot more polite honestly. In the city, it's "go go go". No one has time for anything and it becomes "me me me" which is sad but very true. City life and country life just has its own vibe. And I think that's the big difference there. You interviewed people in the city and not the country side. Of course, I'm not familiar with the modern Japanese culture also. But in the states, city and country life, you meet two completely different type of females lol. And it's really due to the nature of the environment. (For the most part)

[@EhThisIsAGoodName]

The thing I hate in my country, which I assume doesn'treally happen much in Japan due to it being more of a confession thing there, is the stage between the second date and when you become a couple... like, are we a thing yet? yes, no, maybe, idk, maybe she doesn't either...

[@KuroShiiiiro]

i KNEW i recognized someone in the thumbnail. takashi 🐐

[@nameisblank2023]

Am I the only one that noticed she asked about making the first move but Takashi responded with something about cars? I suppose he misheard her but I wish she'd repeated the question or something

[@devfrostt2495]

underwear : YES YES YES! 24 hours OK! me: この変態どもがｗｗ

[@DragoonZell]

Yea this is the same in America girls at times just expect you to pay for the meal without even thinking. But luckily I'm in an area where the girls have a good head on their shoulders and are respectable.

[@Henryovx99]

@ mika-α its not about being broke more about equality nothing makes you so special for the man to spend all his money on you

[@yvonnehorde1097]

@@Henryovx99 So you do not like to make a girl feel special on her first date with you? Why should she go out with you then?

[@DragoonZell]

@@yvonnehorde1097 There is this entitlement issue with women feeling that the man *should* always pay and *always* expects them too. This is wrong on so many levels. Men don't pay because they should have to do it Men pay because they *want* to do it. It's called being respectful and chivalrous. Which ironically women basically all but killed now a days. Respect goes both ways if you can't respect the one wanting to pay for you then you shouldn't expect them to respect you in return.

[@yvonnehorde1097]

@@DragoonZell Well, respect has to be earned. It will not be earned by someone who does not want to make a lady feel special. That does not have to do with payment, but if you do not want to make a girl feel special, why should she go out with you? When I was young and on the dating line, I expected a man to wish to make me feel special.

[@DragoonZell]

@@yvonnehorde1097 Keep in mind a "date" works both ways. some people forget that respect has to come from both directions and never from just 1. If both people wait for 1 to be respectable to return the favor then neither are going to be happy by the end of that.

[@ernestestrada2461]

In the United States there are women that will go out with you because they want you to take them to a expensive restaurant and have a nice meal. They only go out with you because they want somebody to pay for the expensive restaurant. Then there are women who go out and dates with you just because they want to eat. Some of these girls are just have tight finances but some to spend their money on a lot of needless things and no they can go out on dates with guys and have them pay. For men we try to weed out the girls that are just they're trying to get a free meal and not interested in pursuing relationships. I don't mind going shopping with women when they just want a man's opinion... and they are paying for it themselves. There are some women that think just because you've been out with them once or twice that the two of you are in a relationship working towards engagement and nuptials. But when you can find a female friend you like hanging out with you often go dutch. There is a nice respect and you go catch a movie or go to dinner one time I'll pay next time they pay... that's how I my current girlfriend started dating and now we are a close couple. But we already knew each other many years ago in college. I tried the dating sites but so many of them have false profiles and are trying to find someone desperate to scam that I have canceled my subscriptions as a waste of time. There is a lot of catfishing going on in American dating sites.

[@josepablolunasanchez1283]

Man paying the bill is normal in many countries. A boy who wants women to pay her own food looks really bad. He is not going to succeed in many countries. A man can go shopping and be a style advisor. You beter be good, because if you advise her to buy something that looks ugly, later she may go back for shopping again. So if you go shopping, find clothes that have a balance between style and price. You need to understand fashion and have good taste. Being part of a shopping process with your wife is a great way to bond and share together. A man can enjoy shopping. If you design a character you may like to give the best style. A date is similar but with a real person. A man can enjoy shopping, it does not destroy masculinity, it allows to bond and share moments together.

[@yemannwaiphyo8817]

Collab with Takashi??? Hell yeah.

[@Duran762]

What I learned is that any girl (or guy) can look cute and be nice to you but taking actions that show they care about you is how you know if the relationship is worth pursuing and if she really does like/love you. Its the same in the US where guys are expected to pay but in this day and age women can make just as much money if not more.

[@Gothicc_senpai]

i hate to say this but these guys got the weakest complaints for me. perhaps its because i never had a girlfriend so i look forward to having one, i would pay for the first few dates and split the rest. if anything id pay for them all, i work hard and would love to spoil the women i love, bring her shopping and take as much time. its funny how it is, something the grass really is greener on the other side. japanese guys would like dating in my country, women here are fit for them.

[@DCS_World_Japan]

外国人として「めんどくさい！」と思ったことは、男性が全てリードしなきゃいけなくてイコール感じしないところです。毎日仕事でリードしているのにオフにもリードするの期待されているのがしんどい。あとは、長く付き合ったら俺の感情やニーズをどんどん無視していて結婚と子供しか考えないケースも多い。俺は財布と精子だけじゃねぇぞみたいな気持ちよくある。

[@josephjr]

I can relate as to what Takashi said about not gonna be able to date somewhat when you don't have a car/vehicle. My place isn't even a car capital and it's like a small city yet there's a culture going on for dates that needs transportation hence a personal car/vehicle..

[@TimothyLiangUT]

Takashi!!! What are you doing here!!! Haha! Nice to see you tho

[@sysalchemist]

I;m a simple guy. I see takashii on the thumbnail, I CLICK!!

[@xbeast1ny0m4m4]

bruh that paying part was pain listening too, in germany we just ask if she wants to pay a part if she can't you'll just do it, no shame needed fr

[@oburii.92]

I remember basically having to fight guys to let me pay the bill back when I was on the dating scene. So frustrating! Luckily I've been in a relationship for the past few years where we take turns paying when we go out to eat 🥰

[@von6413]

That’s literally what we want. For her to fight us to pay the bill lmao. Not that I’d let her in the first date but yeah.

[@MyPetLynx]

You're a great woman

[@bclp005]

TAKASHII IS HERE

[@victoriameyer5924]

It's the same in my country, that it's expected from men to pay the bill .Guys usually brag how they're such a "gentleman" if they pay. It's embarrassing to make a fuss over something so unimportant. I have no problem with inviting a guy, it's not a big deal. When dating, you should look for someone who treats you with kindness & respect, not someone who pays for your lunch or sets your chair in place.

[@AJM2408]

You're different than most. Women in America brag about independence but still don't expect to pay their fair share. Dating is a failing culture in a lot of places for now.

[@ponderingmonk525]

Man, it’s all a game! There are so many unspoken rules, it’s like trying to navigate a mine field

[@KaminariRaiden]

omg please collaborate with Takashi

[@anman1]

Yeah Takashii 😅👋🥰 And thanks KZbin for the recommendation ^^

[@nihaalnadeem9427]

Thats the bestest cross-over.

[@Jen_nifer99]

Is it just me or are Japanese becoming more honest and straightforward in these types of videos

[@mracc4240]

I mean. Most people that aren't those things wouldn't accept a interview so its mostly "survivor bias"

[@FenelZ]

Wait a minute, thats ma boi Takashi!!

[@canibus1985]

If you don't have a car in Los Angeles or anywhere in California it's hard to thrive .

[@Yuyuu97]

Lmao takahsi got interviewed hahahhah

[@andresouza5751]

I think when you are interested on the girl, you don't mind pay all the bills for the first two or three dates, but when you keep paying and the girl not even bother to say something it's really annoying and frustrating. In my country some girls think like "Oh, I spend a lot of money on makeup, shoes, dresses, etc. At least the guy has to pay the bill" if it was some kind of obligation, but if we start to "compare the score ", the guy might say "I spend watch, belt, shoes, suit, car, gas, etc. In fact, if we keep going, you'll probably owe me money." Another horrible habit is measuring a man's worth based on what he has, in other words a gold digger. In my opinion when a woman chooses a man based on his material possessions, she has to be prepared to be treated like one.

[@graven2508]

i think its even worse, when woman put on a lot of makeup they are really hiding (lying) what they actually look like.

[@yamazaki9366]

Hahaha guys who think this way are ridiculous really cuz men most of the time choose women by their looks, men like women who wear make up and dress fashionable.. for most men they fall in love at first sight, most men decide wether they like a woman or not just by using their eyes. However, no on says men are materialistic and shallow? I know many men recognize the inside beauty of a woman but that’s only afterward. looks are the deal breaker, if the girl is cute they date her if she has a good personality that’s just a bonus, she just need to be less than normal in terms of personality to get herself a boyfriend if she is pretty. But when if comes to women who judge men by how much they make (even though this is something men are responsible of, unlike beauty where it’s mostly genetic stuff) you guys start complaining and calling those women materialistic lol, double standards.

[@ericjanssen394]

Unlike the US, Japan is stricter about keeping high schoolers "responsibly" separate, so there's less chance for boys and girls to get to know each other, and get over their prepubescent fears of the opposite sex--Guys in sports might say "Girls are boring, I don't have time!", or the curious might obsess over things like glasses or ponytails they see from a distance, while girls might develop a symbolic contempt for dating and go tsundere (another idea of nervous boys), or form girl-school crushes from their own close associations.

[@jae-oh846]

I would say tinder and stuff like that, if i had to answer. I've always met people naturally and i find dating apps to be unnatural and pathological. It comodifies something natural and pleasant to the point of making it an unpleasant experience.

[@kimorabailey4047]

when he said his limit for shopping is 30 minutes I felt that I go out with my mom when it comes to shopping and she takes sooo long I just grab whatever I think looks good on me and leave lmao u lost ur mind if u think imma wait an hour for you to get a shirt and a pair of pants

[@Goldun-nah]

Lolol

[@keintabak]

Thank you for interviewing Takashii! He is cool 👍! what I hate about dating is when they don't mention being schizophrenic or that they are actually a 'real vampire' until it is too late 😲😱 Sad, but true 😢

[@sjkgaming2174]

India, Manipur: girls don't take granted here...

[@lifeinjapan1592]

You should interview more people!

[@eddydagher4463]

In my country 2 things 1. it has become normal to give "taxi money" to the date, wether you have a car and can easily drop her back home or not, the girl will expect her "taxi money" which tbh is wierd but it has become so normal here lol 2. if you're dating a girl some will expect to have some pocket money for the shopping etc. because the man should pay it all.

[@Nothing.T]

Wtf burh where u from

[@eddydagher4463]

@@Nothing.T ivory coast (Africa)

[@neteroipman4478]

OK, i will avoid woman from that country, I don't need such woman, who expect the man will pay all, they will ruin and use you.

[@yamazaki9366]

You should just save your money and invest it on your future wife

[@marinadebourbon2289]

hey Cathy! Why is it that they think it's only in Japan that guys/men pay for dinner? that is the case in MOST countries, so I don't understand that they always complain about this

[@N0noy1989]

Japanese women are expected to offer to pay, even if it's the guy who'll pay in the end. It's part of the social interactions. In most countries, yes, the guy pays, but there's no "requirement" for the girls to at least pretend to offer to split the bill. They mentioned taking out the wallet. That's almost a cultural gesture to split the bill for them. Can check interviews of Japanese girls on this channel or on other channels, they also do mention about the taking out the wallet thing that they'll judge other women who don't do that.

[@kpt002]

In Nordic countries it is not like that. Sometimes it could be, but mostly - specially in the beginning, when you are just learning to know each other - we split the bill. It is like "Why would a guy have to pay just because of his gender??" I am a woman +40 years old and always paid my own share on dates. I would have felt uncomfortable to let the man pay. Different then if you are in a serious relationship, for a birthday dinner etc. I have let the man pay as a gift.

[@starandeath4735]

Here in asia. Its more enforced

[@enanthate]

Been living in Japan for over 5 years now, and the number one thing they annoys me is that men have the obligation to prepare everything about the date, instead of doing things together. By example, she wants to go to a restaurant she saw posts on Insta that you never heard about. Then you take her there and she asks "nani wo tabeyou ka naa?" (what are we going to eat?) You, never ate there. You don't know what's good or what's not. And when you answer "omise no osusume de ii jyanai?" (The chef's recommendation is good, right?) She says you're cold and don't care about being with her together sharing such a good emotional moment, on which you are going to pay anyways..

[@SamuraiSx19]

gosh.. it's like I am reading a line from shoujo manga x.x indeed annoying 🥲 it;s always more fun to find out where to go or prepare together date. thou it's really flattering and nice feeling when a guy surprises with date location.. But, to expect him everytime knowing everything, and all places you want to go and check up before ahead - rlly mendokusai 😅

[@Rezzmari]

I am not Japanese and this mindset is weird to me. Why would she automatically assume you're cold and uncaring just because you don't know what to eat since you've never been there??? Good emotional moment??? What???? I am female too and this just sounds like a pain. lol

[@Home-o2v4h]

​@@Rezzmari when some women ask you such questions they expect you will introduce them to something new or understand them well enough to guess what she will / can like . It's just a way to form connection with your partner. Someone do it without realising

[@tameone]

Takashi would hate dating American women then, most of them expect you to pay for everything and they will even ghost you after the date at times. Its really rude lol Dating in America is a lot worse. When I lived in Germany, dating there was a lot easier.

[@fay2212]

I actually hate celebrating things such as velantines day. I dislike all "holidays" like this. Why should I feel obligated to do something special on this day when I could be making someone feel special on any day I choose. Even if I do something for the girl on multiple other days, there is still the feeling of obligation to do it that day also. It's like, even if I took the girl out for dinner every week of the year, if there still wasn't something done on valentines day then there is that negative connotation that lingers. I really, really dislike this.

[@irdEllMilla]

I love your dress!

[@Goldun-nah]

As an American, so much seemed so alien to me… but the underwear shopping question made me realize men are probably a universal yes on that one. Lololol

[@gurusandirasegaram1171]

Boys also mentioned same Balance perspective

[@user-ul5wq3kv4p]

Never really had that issue about splitting. In fact I remember one of my dates paying for me instead. I only start doing that if we are long term and I want to treat my partner. I think this whole thing about men paying, started because in the olden times men were the income makers. It was one of those things that guys could take pride in.

[@baconpancakes8899]

In Malaysia, at least the Malaysian Chinese girls will follow me to the counter and fidget around her purse and pretend like she would pay. I dated a German girl once, and she wanted to split the bill and I didn't let her (because I was bullied for splitting the bill in Asia once as a kid) and I paid for the German girl anyway but after the payment she whispered to me and told me to give her my IBAN so that she can transfer the money. Well we kept contact for a few months, but she never sent the money over, so IDK? I dated a Kazakhstani girl, and she didn't follow me to the counter at all, but just stood behind far away waiting, and I paid for everything. so It was interesting to experience all of this, I guess. ++But the funny thing was the German girl was arguing with me to split the bill, and I was so confused.

[@calvintang398]

Use dating app for long term relationship? No...too high possibilities of failure.. Short term? Yes..only for pleasure

[@iitzyam8272]

Takashii is the man!!!

[@josepablolunasanchez1283]

What I hate about dating? When I was young I was a normal student with almost no money. I used the little money I had to invite he to the theater to watch a movie and suddenly she started to talk about her exboyfriend who had a Mercedes Benz, and I wondered "what am I doing here?". If she wanted me to step up and try to compete with him, she dated the wrong guy If she wanted to be with him, she just have to call him. I never had a date with her again.

[@matthewjay660]

Takashii-kun! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@rachelk2457]

Takashi, he does good street interviews too. 😁

[@ythatesfacts]

Haven't been on dates but having polarized views seems to annoy me a lot. If I had to choose between two girls one being a screaming counter values who also has an hourglass figure or a girl that shares similar values and has a banana figure. I'd choose banana every time. If you want temporary pleasure the go for someone who doesn't have your values. Long term pleasure and peace are from people who support similar values.

[@Otter-Destruction]

That's definitely a universal thing, men don't want women to pay on the first date, but we definitely would like it if she pump faked for the bill, we like that little fight for the bill, it shows initiative and willingness to contribute and that you're not a leech.

[@thedevguy4272]

I don’t really like that, because it feels like a fake gesture a leech would use. I typically buy a coffee for both of us and to see if we’re actually compatible, then invite to some restaurant for the second. There is no feeling of owing me anything on her side then, and not much of my time or money is wasted.

[@alazjaw.8968]

a leech for simply going on a date knowing someone else will pay lmao

[@thedevguy4272]

@@alazjaw.8968 Some women do this for a free meal or drink or entertainment without an intention to date the man or do anything. That’s being a leech in my book. It’s taking advantage of the man for your own benefit.

[@alazjaw.8968]

@@thedevguy4272 no one is forcing these men. hard to take advantage

[@Rokudaimedono]

Why not include a link to Takashi's channel in the description for the video? That's standard practice. I have no idea who he is, but the comments are full of "ooh, it's Takashi!" stuff, so I'm curious.

[@stillfangirlingtoday1468]

That is literally the name of his channel, if you search for it, it wouldn't be hard to find it. Takashi from Japan or something like that. (though I agree KZbinrs should practice that courtesy, it isn't as standard as you make it sound sadly)

[@Rokudaimedono]

@@stillfangirlingtoday1468 Thanks, I'll look him up! I was serious when I said it's standard practice, as that has been my experience with pretty much every youtube channel I've ever viewed; if another youtuber show's up in one of that channel's videos, then a link to that youtuber's own channel is provided. I'm surprised to hear it's not as common as I thought. I guess I just happen to frequent alot of channels run by courteous people then. :-P

[@stillfangirlingtoday1468]

@@Rokudaimedono I would assume that to be the case, because I have had my fair share of digging up the other creator if I found them interesting, no description links or pinned comments. When they link the channel and even social media, what a treat it is.

[@AJM2408]

Its definitely the paying game. American women pretend they're independent until the bill comes. I myself am more traditional and don't mind paying but if the date consists of a girl constantly having to state she is an independent women I will not pay and I will split the bill. If they don't like that I know they're not worth my time. you have to be consistent with your views. As a traditional man I'll state that and as a modern women I believe they should also stand by their beliefs.

[@Elsonoliveira716]

Ayo Takashi here!!!

[@Dearest_Kenyetta]

Takashi!!! You all should subscribe to him!

[@brqkenwonder-]

hey , it's takashi ! ^^

[@이하나-m2h]

1:20 im a girl and honestly ive ALWAYS either split the bill, or fully paid for me and the guy even when the date was bad hahah

[@jurajsladkay2608]

Interesting would be how japanese girls and boys date outside of Japan

[@Kate_Pak]

Yeah, really awesome see Takashi here:) really interesting idea of the video 楽しかったです。