Why Chasing Happiness is Recipe for DISASTER (Do this instead) | The Bedros Keuilian Show E085

[@danielpayan737]

Fulfillment is something I am searching for after a divorce and losing custody of my children. Everything that was fulfilling me ceased to exist. These struggles have given me resilience and have helped me focus on finding purpose and fulfillment. I will ultimately regain my children and I will be a better man for them, better than I already was. Thanks Bedros.

[@BedrosKeuilian]

Much respect brother

[@WScloudchaser84]

I am we’re you’ve been it’s awful you felt the despair in the bottom of your gut it hurts more with the children, my son broke my heart to the point it feel it had been ripped out of my chest I need to be more resilient my resilience was not strong I was weak broken and I mean broken , I am learning to be more resilient

[@danielpayan737]

@@WScloudchaser84stay up man. It’s gut wrenching for sure. Haven’t seen my kids in over a year and a half.

[@anonymous20237]

Stay up. Pick your chin up and try to be grateful for the things that you do have. At the very least, just keep going, regardless. This, too, shall pass ❤

[@harryv6752]

Get after it, bro! Much love n respect! 🤘

[@coreygendron3766]

I'm 49, and I just lost my mom last December. My dad died when I was 11, so my mom carried the load, I miss her dearly, but your message about resilience hits home.

[@VIKSANT]

Keep pushing man. Losing a mother must be very very tough, but life wont get easier. We get stronger!

[@Kenneth-cn7tr]

❤😂❤❤😊

[@michaelhowell2809]

My mom died unexpectedly Thursday. I discovered you a while year ago when my life turned upside down. Since then i credit you for helping me get my ass in gear. Today i find myself full cycle and your words of wisdom and experience help me stay resilient

[@BedrosKeuilian]

Sorry for your loss🙏🏼

[@marciebulsaraorcutt]

I’m so sorry for the loss of your Mom, my prayers are with you.🙏🏻 (My Mom & I were best friends; it’s been years since she passed but I don’t miss her any less.)

[@Abyss.Walker]

I'm sorry for your loss 🙏 may god bless u and your family

[@Shovelheads4ever]

Prayers brother I couldn't imagine what your goin through but let it build you not keep you down and do it for her.

[@gigawA1]

I'm so sorry be strong. For her

[@BBartistic]

To all the guys read this: I remember back in September when you did your podcast episode right after your mother died like nothing happened. You really do practice what you preach. You are so mentally tough like a real man should be. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with the men around the world. Guys if you want to become real men listen to what Bedros is saying and implement it in your lives.

[@flordia0000]

Thank you for guiding our boys through the path of manhood. As a woman I have a lot of respect for all you do.

[@marcelalbuquerque]

The first time I heard your podcast was December 2023, episode "fuck the new year". Since then, 5 months without alcohol, new habits, going to the gym five or six times a week and developing a new version of myself. cheers from brazil.

[@BedrosKeuilian]

Good man! 🇧🇷

[@Simplyjammin]

This guy is so so underrated... everything he says is just pure facts. What an absolute blessing this guy is. Thank you for your words, they have helped me change my life for the better 💯

[@imagination1108]

doing push ups on my bed while listening to your podcast...first time since many months maybe years.Tomorrow i ll sing up to the gym.God bless u Bedros.

[@hedgewitch59]

You speak from experience. I've been there. I chased happiness in the wrong way and just made my life worse...and a few other people's as well. I learnt that you have to be happy with yourself first so I did a rebuild. Fulfillment didn't come right away but here I am. Content with everything and everyone around me and that's enough for me. 👍🙏

[@Kd_rise]

Thank you so much for this Bedros. Your work changes lives, for the better. God bless you and your loved ones.

[@jillianbennett380]

Thanks I came across your channel after having a ph call with my rebellious daughter hurtling along making decisions I dont agree with! I got off the phone felt like screaming but I need my energy to think and pray and try to remain calm. Your voice giving it to us straight has helped!

[@joshcastillo8000]

Hey Bedros thank you for all the great content you put out there! It’s really pushed me a lot in my personal life and business. One area of life you commented on in this video is the SPIRITUAL part. You didn’t build much on that portion of life and I totally understand, this is not a religious channel. But I just really wish people understood the tremendous effect that being in a good standing with god and having a good relationship with him can have on our lives. The truth is that the problems we face in this world are spiritual problems, therefore we can’t take on them alone. Like Matthew 5:3 says: Happy are those conscious of their spiritual need! Again thank you for helping so many people and giving us so much practical advice on day to day life, but we must never forget that above all should be our relationship with god.

[@esmelvinvivas]

Thank you for your daily advices for a better life. Respect from Punta Cana🌴🇩🇴

[@smoothconsulting]

Eso!

[@Shovelheads4ever]

@bedroskeuilian I just want to take a second to thank you for all you do, I'm not much of a ppl person I stay locked in my home shop building hand crafted motorcycles and I'm beginning to make a living at it thanks to advice from guys like you which is so important to so many. I don't do much social media let alone make videos for KZbin but I've felt the pull to do so lately from a video you made a few months back but honestly didn't care to for other ppl even though my knowledge from now 2 decades of experience needs passed on before its lost then this morning I heard something that made me think and goes along with the desire to know my future grandchildren and there's as well and I realized why I have felt so strong to make videos that go against everything in my natural being, but more important I realized the purpose is for my future family who might never know me( like I never knew the men before me as they all passed young ) might be able to experience me in a way I wish I could have had with my grandpa great grandpa etc. I know this has been Long but tha k you for your time and raw no bs advice. God bless you and your family and I pray you keep helping men worldwide. Find purpose men and forget doing anything just for a click or like that's all just fleeing.

[@uncleteddy78]

A shame your not coming to Perth, Australia. Would love to come & support you live. Thanks for a great video🤜🤛

[@ryanschow3494]

Fantastic show, Bedros!! Thank you.

[@dr.zoolamae2938]

😢😢 I’m starting at level one with you seeing everyone so strong in the comments just have me in full tears but at least I have a new positive masculine voice to start me through step one ❤

[@rtgreene69]

Thanks and God Bless You. You make me stronger

[@eastonstanford3002]

Love starting my morning to your content 💪🏻

[@BedrosKeuilian]

Glad to hear it!

[@dominicng93]

19th day in a row hitting the gym. Thank you

[@HelpCoffee]

Forever Young& Strong 💪🏿. Great message!!

[@manny5427]

Good morning Mr K, thank you for all the confirmations!!! Sometimes, we have to knowingly eat shit for some time to stand for what's right... peace is everything. Good day sir 🙏

[@alphareport3796]

The obstacle is the way! It’s not really what happens to you. It’s how you respond to. What happens to you that matters.

[@fam3347]

Well said Bedros!👍👍

[@trashboat10969]

I offer my condolences regarding your mother. I like the mindset you've shared. Self improvement will never not be beneficial to you. I have long periods of maintained discipline where I'm extremely proud of myself even when my situation isn't favourable, but also struggle with falling into a rut and resetting my progress. I will break the cycle, because time waits for no one and there's much I want to achieve while my folks are still around. I want to be a man who his future children idolise through being resilient and disciplined. Thank you for uploading.

[@trashboat10969]

10:52 🤣

[@BedrosKeuilian]

Thank you brother!

[@mattbridges5226]

This video alone made me a subscriber. Love it.

[@BedrosKeuilian]

Welcome aboard!

[@thelifeandtimesofjohnmanny9705]

Bro do what ever you want ! We ain’t judging

[@pandalife1313]

That is definately True, I have been pushing myself recently on my hustle and even though it is usuall hard but eventuall i always find happiness and faulfillment after having complited the particular task. As a man you become happy once you do somthing hard and important. I love your podcast man

[@BedrosKeuilian]

Thank you brother!

[@Yallamzing]

Love the content your producing for us big dawg 👊💪🔥💯

[@BedrosKeuilian]

Appreciate that!

[@trw4war322]

Very Informative! Much Needed. Thank You.🙏🏿

[@BedrosKeuilian]

Glad it was helpful!

[@shy-de7bi]

Big B giving us straight facts as per usual thank you brother 👊🏾 ❤️

[@BedrosKeuilian]

Much love brother

[@scottcurtin2598]

Very timely for me: I’m 55 and recently got an inguinal hernia. I’ll need surgery for a repair. My mind already went to it can’t work out. What will I do? Resiliency is the answer. Thanks Bedros. Lost my dad to Alzheimer’s. Awful way to go.

[@elvispresley3340]

CHEERS from AUSTRALIA

[@curtisroberson4577]

Fulfillment is the key. Great talk

[@kristinapz]

Omg that’s it… I’m raising my 3 year old. teach him resilience!! That’s the key.

[@allyp7]

thanks BK, needed to hear this about happiness.

[@BedrosKeuilian]

Glad to help

[@ayesbee168]

This video came at the perfect time Bedros ! Thank you. One question tho, let’s say these stressors are causing overwhelm? Do you have advice on how to combat it?

[@jesusborrero2536]

I love you Bedros

[@franciscoramos6769]

Can't find the link , is it true Lean???

[@dr.a7670]

Awesome episode B 🙏🏻

[@NYJets94]

Just bought your book and can't wait to read it.

[@BedrosKeuilian]

🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@BravoBones]

I've just moved back in with my parents. I'm 38 My father who's Retired AF. Asked me to move back, as my mom has Alzheimer's and he needed help with her. Now i don't know if i made the right move. i feel like i did however i was living with roommates and closer to work. He gave me some advice that i would def save more money by moving back. Seems like every time i try to get centered. It Shifts and someone with Alzheimer's is something i've never doubt with before. I've been so stressed out between moving/school and work. I've been majorly over eating and stressing out and have gotten inconsistent with pretty much everything. Did i do the right thing by moving back????

[@prodigy4x]

Hi from Salt Lake City Utah 😊

[@GhostGotToast]

I like this video at 777! Too blessed 😎

[@skylershuman7705]

The easiest way to find fulfillment in life is to go to the source. Jesus will bring you joy. He will make you more optimistic, resilient, and loving than you could ever make yourself.

[@inzamammohammed]

Love this.

[@Irishgirl90586]

I love it too ! There’s nothing in this world that can fill any void the way Jesus does .

[@clementeen]

why can’t life just be fair and everyone be happy and get what they want? that’s after they grow and learn and all the pain. I’ve been suffering for YEARS and I give up, I’m fed up. Yes life owes me! God owes me the happiness I keep crying and begging for. The happiness God promised me

[@downfromthesouth]

I just want financial freedom so I can show the world to my family, and spend more time with them. Hopefully my hard work applied with gods path for me both align soon

[@adrdiaz2303]

For about 8months now when I wake up I feel like throwing up and I feel so disoriented any help with that please? I don't drink nor smoke cigarettes I've managed to stop drinking coffee

[@ZeroTraceOperative]

Could be parasites or imbalanced gut flora. Look into those.

[@Firevine]

Bro go to a doctor. My best friend recently died from stomach cancer that spread to his liver and elsewhere. Go to a goddamn doctor.

[@RobynLocke-t8t]

I believe you on this

[@johanruiz3422]

You should chase some sort of happiness you shouldnt live your life useless and sad and volburable forever .

[@dillonclarke5900]

This is 🔥

[@MBZz_EXCLUSIVE]

Facts true 💯

[@jokerzly2141]

Greetings from Poland

[@anonymous20237]

The world is full of paradox. For example, the way I see it, happiness is more like a dearth of misery. Or, in terms of money, it’s not necessarily that wealth inherently makes one happy. It’s just that there’s a relief from the suck-fest that is being poor. Furthermore, while health can feel good, it’s more like being sick sucks ass.

[@Stevo-klo45453]

Another tip, make effort with people 3-1. 3 times say hi and talk, let them do it back if it’s a new friend or love interest. If they reciprocate keep slowly getting to know then. If they don’t go out of their way to talk and make effort to you in return; ignore them and see what happens. If they stop approaching you. F them and move on to others. I don’t give a crap if people disagree. People get sad most when others ignore them. It’s fact; if you chase people too much you look desperate; if you don’t make effort they think ur a snob. You must test people out tho, even if it’s someone ur sexually attracted too. Say hi, talk a few times, then let them make effort. You’ll then know if ur too clingy to back off or if they don’t like you to back off. Remember people that like you will chase you. If they don’t like you. Don’t chase and give them that validation. Ignore them and burn them silently and live your life and carry on. If they make none and ignore you , even if you tried to make eye contact or say hi, move the f on, and say f you inside you; they will hear it with your energy and move on.

[@ortiztuc1]

To be antifragile you need to develop resiliency. Need to be tested, broken and remanded. You are not a champagne glass, once it's broken can't be replaced. The human body and the human mind is very different than the champagne glass. Since Champagne Glass is very fragile, there once it's broken cannot be put back together the same. The human Spirit and the human mind can develop stronger and more resilient, more capable each time that you deal with trauma and stress, setback, adversity, failure, loss, sadness. Develop the muscle of embracing adversity. Know that it serves a purpose in your life, resistance to build your mental and emotional muscles.

[@bcreedland]

Very true

[@NATIVE_STRENGTH]

Woo Str8 🔥 As Usual, Hell Yea Been On My Way To Being A Full-filled Little F**ker As Well. The Faberge Bones Part Had My Dying😂 Ah Can’t Get Enough Of Brother “B” 🤙🏾🤙🏾🤙🏾

[@BedrosKeuilian]

Much love brother!

[@urielruiz6147]

“Don’t be a pretty b”ch” that’s officially this years quote for me 🤣

[@filmhackYT]

Haha that weed analogy was awesome

[@RENEIND]

Bedros!

[@caitlynrobertson8052]

Look up how estrogen affects women with dementia. Hysterectomies and stuff like that. Many women have hormonal imbalances with meta pause.

[@Firevine]

Huh, very interesting that you're talking about Antifragile, when recently, David the Good (one of my favorite gardening channels) also mentioned it in his newest book. Neat coincidence. Must be a good read. Chasing happiness led to a lot of misery and sadness in my 20's. Now I'm coming up on 44, and going through an extremely tough time right now after losing my best friend to cancer and everything that has come along with that, and I'm just kind of tanking it all. Life is bullshit and you need to learn how to handle the bullshit.

[@ElBadHombre1776]

Here Big Dawg

[@sunnygirl5096]

Seek God. “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble” psalm 46:1

[@jayellwood]

Damn 🔥

[@mikeyboo5603]

Why can’t we just be resilient about our sources of happiness?

[@pcman92]

Gentle reminder: People typically don’t like the weed. Thats ok

[@jcb0605]

New Subscriber here killian

[@Plantedexpressatl]

👍🏾

[@SavoryPlate]

I’m a daffodil bitches!! Resilient, and pretty!!😄🌼😘💪🏼

[@ballreckless9539]

Im no fucking orchid 😂

[@danielflores5500]

I think if you had a retreat for men it would be awesome 💯

[@danielflores5500]

@BedrrosKeuilian Sure! Where should I DM you?

[@sergioortiz1839]

Jesus says to wait on him. He will provide more than you could ever imagine. Keep his commandments and make a way. If you want a lot of money, invest in something but first ask the Holy Spirit for direction, play mega millions (this is the one that worked out for me), I played for 2 years $20 for 10 draws but now I am a multimillionaire. God does not lie and his word does not come back to him void Isaiah 55:11. Seek first his kingdom by keeping his commandments and he will make a way where there is no way!!!!

[@nosullivan6543]

amen

[@Daninreallife247]

Stay calm and listen to Blink182.

[@sonsidious]

I hate when these dude who are super successful trying to tell us how to stop caring about happiness. Not all of us are so lucky that we own multiple companies bro

[@shanechowmein823]

my takeaway is that he was saying to seek strength and you will be able to sustain a lasting happiness as opposed to a weak happiness that doesn’t last.

[@heydani6678]

Lucky? It takes hard work to own a company. The reason you’re nowhere is because you want to play the victim

[@anonymous20237]

Embrace the suck.

[@lawrencethees7208]

So go get orchids

[@strangehairextensions5674]

Sir, please don’t say, “HolyHell” as a phrase to express yourself..there is nothing holy about hell and you should watch the words you speak. All in love but that needed correction.

[@J3llybeanAray]

AVP 👽 ...no / but / it's good advice /