Why Comparison is TOXIC When Raising Bilingual/Trilingual Kids: 3 Mindset Shifts That HELP

Ever feel like teaching your child multiple languages is a grind? Or that they’ll never reach "perfection" in any language? I’ve been there too! In this video, I’m sharing three powerful mindset shifts that have transformed our multilingual parenting journey over the last 8 years. From letting go of perfection to finding joy in the process, these mindset shifts can make all the difference in raising bilingual or trilingual children. 🚀
#MultilingualParenting #BilingualKids #TrilingualFamily #LanguageLearning #ParentingTips #RaisingBilingualChildren #MindsetShifts #BilingualJourney #ParentingAdvice #RaisingTrilingualKids #LanguageProgress #MultilingualFamily #BilingualFamily #LanguageParenting
◽️◽️◽️◽️◽️◽️
🌟 Welcome to The Multilingual Family Hub! 🌟
Your go-to place for all things multilingual parenting. Join me as we explore the joys and challenges of raising bilingual, trilingual, or multilingual children in today’s world.
👇 Check out my resources below and get started on your family’s language journey today!
🎁 Grab Your FREEBIES!
Start your multilingual journey with my FREE resources!
📚 5 Steps to Starting Your Family’s Multilingual Journey (a 48-page, five-step guide to kickstart your journey!!)
rebrand.ly/Fam...
📝 Family Language Planner
Create a customised language plan for YOUR family!
rebrand.ly/fam...
📚 My Complete Guide to Multilingual Parenting
Discover Bilingual and Trilingual Parenting 101, a complete guide designed to guide you through raising your multilingual child. Thousands of copies sold on Amazon!
📖 Bilingual and Trilingual Parenting 101
www.multilingu...
🔗 Available on Amazon:
📖 Bilingual and Trilingual Parenting 101
rebrand.ly/Buy...
📚 My Everyday Life Bilingual Picture Book
Check out a series of bilingual picture books my sister and I co-created!
www.multilingu...
🌐 Visit My Website
Learn more, dive into the blog, and explore helpful resources:
👉 The Multilingual Family Hub
www.multilingu...
🔔 Let’s Connect
Follow me on social media for tips, stories, and updates!
🎥 KZbin
/ @themultilingualfamilyhub
📸 Instagram
/ kayee_multilingualfami...
👍 Facebook
www.facebook.c...
◽️◽️◽️◽️◽️◽️
Videos You Might Be Interested in:
👉5 Things I Wish I Knew Starting Our Trilingual Journey (For Bilingual Baby/Trilingual Baby Parents)
• 5 Things I Wish I Knew...
👉5 Extremely Common MISTAKES To AVOID If You Want Your Child To Be BILINGUAL (I've Made Most of Them)
• 5 Extremely Common MIS...

[@beckychoi_]

Hi Ka Yee, reading your ebook guide right now, very thorough ! I feel like I am in a similar situation, it gives me a headache everyday thinking about it but also understand this is a long term progression. My son is also 8 and my daughter is 6. We live in Canada which the main language is English and French. French is only taught in school twice a week. I was originally from Hong Kong so I speak Cantonese to my kids since they were born, so I wanted more resources to teach them Cantonese like lessons but I was unable to find any so they started studying online lessons learning Mandarin since 4 year old (because I can speak Mandarin as well). Then there is my husband who is 2nd generation Korean ,.he can speak Korean fine but he doesn't speak it to the kids. So the kids had been learning mainly vocabulary. It is such a complicated situation. Our main language at home is English. I feel more comfortable speaking English too because the kids only reply back English. I am losing some hope.. other than wait and see... 😳😳😳🥹🥹

[@themultilingualfamilyhub]

Hi @beckychoi_! Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment and for reading my ebook guide! I’m really glad you found it helpful.😊 I completely understand your situation - it sounds a lot like what we’ve experienced!! You’re not alone in feeling overwhelmed/ confused, and I agree, it’s a long-term process. Other viewers have mentioned how challenging it can be, especially for 2nd generation immigrants like your husband. It seems that with every generation, it becomes exponentially harder to pass on the heritage language! 😭 Lots of second-generation HK friends have told me the same thing, that it’s really hard to find Cantonese resources!! There are some channels on KZbin with Cantonese videos for kids. I’ve made one video too (kzbin.info/www/bejne/nXW2da2un8mEbdU) and I hope to make more in the future - stay tuned ❤️ My sister and I have also created a bilingual picture book in Traditional Chinese & English with Cantonese audio (www.amazon.co.uk/Everyday-English-Traditional-Chinese-Cantonese/dp/B0CHL8ZG7B/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3717SZ4WK1GG1&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.C_Zxt-VjVVGiVrCePP2QLs_opf2ZfppEeSVy2CpOGNDGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.0MSaK6SiRgwu3SnvDLTaPcU8LoUbdtS-bFFcRSYJH70&dib_tag=se&keywords=my+everyday+life+cantonese&nsdOptOutParam=true&qid=1728719788&sprefix=my+everyday+life+cantonese%2Caps%2C154&sr=8-1) so definitely feel free to check it out! Are you and husband hoping to raise your two children (who are gorgeous, by the way!!) to speak Korean as well? Are their Korean grandparents involved in their everyday life? That could be a great source of language input. And would you husband feel comfortable speaking Korean with the children sometimes, even if it’s just some simple words & phrases to begin with? Feel free to check out more resources on my website (www.multilingualfamilyhub.com), and if you haven’t already, my full book might also be useful for more strategies: www.amazon.ca/Bilingual-Trilingual-Parenting-101-Multilingual/dp/B09BYPQVF2/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.F0wmZ_kgjsSvAsTHpRIKjCb1EgQ1q5sVTVhIQZ6k0LkgQwRibd4VoVsA922tQaT8IUSCLw21EP1ge57vIC3lWvbA1_-2jF8MfRvs014DGgTNGHJcTf_L7n5rqkxM6Sm-.ELccsVe8CNGM7-_Myue3d8sIUsQmCwnDZV1qrqIjZyk&qid=1728719972&sr=8-2 . You’re doing an amazing job-hang in there! 💛

[@beckychoi_]

​@@themultilingualfamilyhubthanks for the insights. Yes, Dad has been teaching the kids Korean vocabulary, and they go to Korean school once a week which just started a month ago. We do have family members here that speak Korean but still overall exposure is limited. I personally also haven't figured out if I want them to be better at Cantonese or Mandarin but then also understand that they are already very slow at both languages and the Mandarin resources and 1 on 1 online lessons are abundant which make it much easier but then I don't speak Mandarin to them so the exposure again is limited... Do you think I should really figure out what I want them to be proficient in first or continue to do everything at once ?

[@themultilingualfamilyhub]

@@beckychoi_ Thanks so much for sharing! It sounds like you’re already doing a great job with the Korean exposure, and I understand how tricky it can be juggling multiple languages. It can definitely be overwhelming trying to balance Cantonese, Mandarin, and Korean, especially with limited exposure. If you’re feeling torn, you might find it helpful to focus on one language at a time, just to build a solid foundation. But that doesn’t mean you can’t still expose them to the others! As long as they’re getting some exposure, they’ll absorb more than you think and that will lay the foundation for future language learning if that's what you'd like to do / what your kids want to do further down the road ?

[@papitosan131]

I'm learning English and I just discovered your channel. I loved your advice, it's super useful for those of us learning a new language. Keep up the amazing work💙💙

[@themultilingualfamilyhub]

Thank you! 😃 That's such a lovely comment x

[@niCEwan]

I studied mandarin Chinese in China many moons ago. I am still fascinated with it. My future kids will be very lucky to know Chinese.

[@tenzin4997]

my family are Tibetan refugee and i was born in Nepal, a multilingual country. naturally understood 4 languages by the age of 4.

[@themultilingualfamilyhub]

That's amazing! Thanks for sharing your personal journey with us!

[@NeilYuan]

很有意义的视频，虽然我还没有孩子，但这种观念或方法值得借鉴

[@themultilingualfamilyhub]

谢谢您的评论！！😊

[@Aleamoxtli]

I really like your work in your channel. Im trying raising my 3 old son with spanisch, german and french. Is your book in Amazon ?

[@themultilingualfamilyhub]

Thank you for the lovely comment!! I am so glad to hear that you like the content on this channel ❤️ it’s amazing that you’re raising your son to be trilingual! Do you live in Germany? Yep, my book is on Amazon :) www.amazon.com/Bilingual-Trilingual-Parenting-101-Multilingual/dp/B09BYPQVF2/?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_w=TDhCW&content-id=amzn1.sym.bb26577c-0540-459a-9c72-0b9dde0900bb%3Aamzn1.symc.da37c481-c687-45c0-9f6a-b1d01f510202&pf_rd_p=bb26577c-0540-459a-9c72-0b9dde0900bb&pf_rd_r=DZG0RAVD0ZPT6595PXCB&pd_rd_wg=D8W9Y&pd_rd_r=ec3e396e-19d9-4a35-9ea2-166a49e62e7a&ref_=pd_hp_d_atf_ci_mcx_mr_ca_hp_atf_d Let me know what you think if you do decide to get it 👍 I also have a shorter free ebook on my website that you can download 😁

[@mydogisbailey]

Empirically speaking, it is unlikely that L2 speakers such as your children will be able to eventually pass it on to their own children. Has this phenomenon of generational linguistic attrition ever impacted your level of motivation? Or do you not think that far into the future?

[@themultilingualfamilyhub]

Hi @mydogisbailey, thanks so much for your thoughtful comment! I’d love to dive deeper into generational linguistic attrition in a future video, as it’s a topic I know resonates with many viewers like yourself. You’re right-it’s unlikely that my kids will pass on these languages to their own children (assuming they choose to have children, which is never a given!). But honestly, that hasn’t dampened our motivation. While no one can predict the future, we’re really enjoying the journey right now. The potential benefits are huge, and even if things don’t go as planned, the downside feels pretty minimal. So for now we'll keep going 👍

[@SchmulKrieger]

It's totally unnecessary to raise a child trilingually. Such persons later usually have identity issues.

[@themultilingualfamilyhub]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts! I’ve found that multilingualism can actually enrich a child’s identity, though I understand every family’s experience is different.