...Why Dawn Divorced me.

[@ladyofthehouse7837]

Tom, you are just as loved as Dawn. Thank you for not giving up. Joining you in prayer for reconciliation.

[@mimijohnson7714]

Ditto, already doing so.

[@kathyreel8165]

Praying for you Tom and your family.

[@didid.6667]

This is so sad Tom, I was truly shocked when I saw Dawn's video earlier. Not in a million years did I see this coming. I can tell you're in a lot of pain and I wish you a lot of strength to heal. Sending you big hugs.

[@SummerSun-sg3wf]

Divorce is disgusting. How hard is it to put kids above yourself? What's done is done though

[@MuseKosh]

It was a hard video to make. Thank you for being honest and sincere.

[@ColeandOllie]

Much respect for publicly taking accountability of your issues. We don’t come away from dysfunctional childhoods unharmed, or with psychology degrees on knowing how to handle our pain. A book by Lysa Terkeurst called Good Boundaries and Goodbyes has really helped my husband and I as we navigate rebuilding a union. Letting go of the cycle of unmet expectations and discovering healthy boundaries has been a long endeavor. Wishing healing for you both. ❤ And please don’t allow people in your comments to trash Dawn. You love her, protect her!

[@bria2596]

Excellent book recommendation - thank you for mentioning it.

[@LaDonnaB]

I think Dawn is exhausted mentally. Continue to pray and continue to work toward being the best father and man you can be. My parents divorced and got back together years later. My mom said the last 10 years they were married were the best. They were married since she was 16 years old. I hope you two will remain friends and who knows what the future holds.

[@margaretburkholder9616]

I just have to say something. My heart breaks over the obvious pain this is causing but thank you for your transparency and honesty. I have watched Dawn's channel for years, and I am praying God will do his healing work, and remember, redemtion is always possible. Love you guys!

[@simplicity8259]

I'm sorry you are going through this Tom. This video made me tear up...I can feel your heartbreak. Wishing only the best for you, Dawn and the kids.

[@tmgrigat1225]

It took guts to be this authentic, good for you. I believe you.

[@catherineschroy5479]

I'm so sorry, Tom. My prayers are with your whole family.

[@justinewhite-hadley3138]

I'm in tears over this. I am SO VERY SORRY to hear all of this. I watched your video's and was quite envious of you 2. The home, the land, the kids, the fostering. It was all what I wanted. I'm heartbroken for you. You're a Brave, Precious soul Tom. You ARE a good person. You are very loved. I will pray for you all for healing, no matter the outcome. ❤❤❤❤

[@traciodonnell6386]

Tom, I am so sorry for your pain. The vulnerability you show here indicates a beautiful soul. Focus that love toward yourself and your children and no matter what happens, you will be ok. You are in my prayers.

[@nolagranolabar]

Tom, I am SO very sorry about you and Dawn divorcing. Please don’t give up! Have faith and trust The Lord. Example, long story made short…. I was married to my husband for 13 years at the time, divorced and a year later we were remarried. We’ve been married 20 years this June. We don’t count the year we were divorced. There’s always hope. You and Dawn will be in my prayers. May God bless you, Dawn and your awesome kids. Sending love and prayers from Oregon. 💞🙏🏻💞🙏🏻💞🙏🏻

[@7MaryD7]

Wonderful! 🙂❤

[@cosmicpr2707]

I'm sorry you're both going through this very difficult stage in your life. Thank you for sharing your story. I also appreciate that neither one of you are attacking the other. That speaks volumes. I only wish the very best and healing for you, Dawn, and your children.

[@kathybrentlinger8357]

You didn’t want to divorce and she says she didn’t want a divorce. Marriage is hard but being divorced and a single parent is hard too. I believe God can work miracles and I will be praying for you both and your children.

[@bluebellbeatnik4945]

Let's not use God but instead our own intelligence. The kids matter most and no child wants to grow up with parents who aren't getting along.

[@Far7rom]

She wanted a divorce years ago.

[@amyb3724]

​​@bluebellbeatnik4945 Dawn is a Christian, and Tom talked about his faith in God in the video.. It is appropriate to bring up God, and I pray that He restores their marriage.

[@nancyelizabeth8364]

@@bluebellbeatnik4945it all depends on the situation my parents divorced when I was 12 it affected me a lot and did my best to make my marriage work 38 years now but I know all situation is different

[@carmarasmussen8118]

​@@Far7romUnless you are a close personal friend or family member, how could you possibly know that?? 🤔

[@SunnyDay389]

I am very sad for you, Tom, as I can see and feel your heartbreak 😢. My wish for you and Dawn is that you can find your way to peace and joy. ❤

[@j-life8502]

I promise she left a long time ago. When you have a volitile marriage , it can take years to actually leave. A man may leave for another women , but women usually leave for themselves. Sorry for you both , but sometimes leaving is all thats left. If you want some reconciliation, i would suggest moving forward and giving her the space she so obviously needed. And maybe dont say your not giving up ! She needs you to stop and heal your own trauma. Thats my 2 cents , take it or leave it. Godbless

[@mariegeorge8865]

💕

[@TarotAJ888]

What you don't understand is that when women are done. They are done. She pushed herself as long as she could however her heart just stopped being able to connect romantically a long time ago. She was probably hoping she could reconnect however the hurt and resentment inside her is too great. It changed her. Its not about losing hope. It's about things going on too long. When a man disrespects a woman over and over who loves him, her nervous system will finally reject him to protect her. I'm sorry. I really wish men would understand they should never allow themselves to be mentally and emotionally abusive to a woman, especially for years. A woman sees the man she loves as her hero, lover, protector. Then when a man treats her like he hates her, he makes himself an enemy to her body. The hurt and disappointment are grand. For some reason, it takes men making the same mistakes for years before they even begin to take it seriously. The women's spirit is getting broken. She is maturing and becoming less emotionally attached. One day, she is finally detached, and in that moment, she is able to take inventory of the last years of her life. However, this time, she is analyzing without the protection of the attachment of being in love. Now, the realization of how she allowed herself to be treated for so long disgusts her, and she just can't cut free fast enough. The first time a man makes his woman cry should be all it takes to immediately take action. It doesn't matter how someone was raised. As an adult we know we have wronged someone and its not ok. If men would value a woman's emotions and love they could save a lot of hurt. The sad part is a man listens to the pains of his vehicle more than he does his woman. I pray you both align. I pray this helps you help other men to take life and love serious. One day is too much for a person you cherish to suffer much less years. Men need to be taught this is never acceptable or healthy. I counsel men and women and until the day man understands ego is not his friend most of the time, nothing will change. Good luck and God bless.

[@rsnj4501]

So well said. Hope Tom reads this so he begins to understand the big picture and realizes it’s never going to be the same again.

[@ktburger659]

100%, you put it well. Many men wait too long to take their wives’ pain seriously. I’ve been in a relationship like this. Trying so hard for so long, and only after my love fully shriveled up and died did he start paying attention to the fact our relationship was in trouble. I see it with many other couples too.

[@rdb4996]

Time to start teaching our children. Looking at the divorce rate, clearly too many adults learn the lesson too late

[@vickimontgomery5271]

I have a dear friend going through this as well. My dear sister lived feeling unloved for many years but just couldn't file for divorce. The grief and pain were horrific. She felt so hurt that he couldn't love her and make her feel safe with him. She separated from him for a year and the light was coming back. She was dx with cancer and 10 weeks later she was with Jesus. She didn't have the will to fight and her immune system completely failed her. I pray that Tom won't get bitter but will prove his love for Dawn no matter her response. This separation took me back to the pain I walked through with my sister. My BIL has so many regrets but no opportunity for reconciliation now. God is in the miracle working business and this is NEVER one sided. Please listen, Tom. She is hurting as we know you are. My husband and I have so enjoyed watching from afar and the news of the divorce was heartbreaking for us. WE are praying for you! 💔🙏❤️

[@ekatrinya]

Fine analysis as far as how men and women interact, but with God all things are possible because only He can change hearts and only He can heal. God has the power to restore and He sees what we can't see.

[@kmsch986]

I divorced in 2023, and it was a funny moment but a plumber working on my sink gave me the lightbulb moment when he asked if I was married, ect and I told I was was “recently divorced but probably should have left sooner than I did.” He responded- “men don’t leave until they have someone to go to, women stay two years longer than they should, after they have fallen out of love, just to make sure they are making the right decision.” What that made me realize is that what seems like a decision that has been made in that moment, “I’m leaving, filing for divorce, etc.” has likely been decided a long time ago and the love left years prior. It was for me. That is why it’s so hard to repair if it is the woman who has finally asked. Her heart left a long time ago.

[@story7088]

@@kmsch986 Women will endure so much in trying to make their marriages work. Divorce is never an easy choice on either party that is for sure.

[@jeepstergal12]

Love doesn't leave. It is a daily decision.

[@PPW060]

And this is an encouraging thing to say?

[@juliamoore8920]

I agree possibly she fell out of love but doesn't like to say as she obviously cared and doesn't want to hurt you further Tom. I could be wrong. I was shocked I thought it was a joke when I saw Dawn's comment. I'm thinking that as time went on Dawn had decided she had, had enough and decided if she can't be treated like she deserves to be treated then she took her focus away by getting deeper into the videos to not focus on the hurt and stress of the split. Maybe getting the help came too late sadly. Only God knows

[@sarahdarling44]

My mom stayed probably 16 years longer than she should have and never remarried. My dad couldn't believe she would leave and was remarried within 1 year. The plumber's wisdom checks out.

[@thetotinofamily]

I am so sorry for you guys. I hope you can navigate this time peacefully.

[@Valencenliberty]

So do I If u love each other u can work it out Maybe she needed a break is all😢

[@margarethill2098]

Praying for y’all. My sister and brother-in-law divorced and remarried years later. Never give up hope. 🙏🏻

[@michelesusanne1]

Same with my sister and brother in law, Praise God for reconciliation 🙏

[@bethtolar7199]

I am so saddened by this news. I have followed the Minimal Mom for a while now and feel that you both are genuinely good people. I can only pray that God's will be done in both of your lives and the lives of your four beautiful children. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

[@reachinglisa]

Tom, you owe no explanations but I wish more people could share their contributing issues to challenges in a marriage. It was very courageous of you. And I feel like it’s probably better to show people it’s ok to have faults and take accountability for their part and be part of the solutions. It is clear that no matter what faults you have, that you want your family reconciled and this is an enormous pain for you. My heart breaks hearing what I know is only the tip of the iceberg of what all this means to you. I am so sorry your family is going through such a devastating loss right now. No one knows what a marriage is going through behind closed doors. I did notice less videos but I assumed it had something to do with Dawn’s increased number of videos outside of your home. Like maybe you were taking on a different role and we would be hearing about it soon. I never thought this was a possibility. I appreciate you sharing since your partnership was a big part of the content. It is my sincere hope that you and your family find the way to peace and wellness again- no matter what that looks like for you all. I have enjoyed watching your content and enjoyed viewing what you both share of your lives. You both have my continued support.

[@maryanntownsend2889]

I love watching your videos. Sending you and Dawn 🙏🏽❤️

[@jentorchh]

I’m part of Dawn’s private membership group. I have prayed for and will continue to pray for your family. ❤

[@maggie2sticks717]

Why do people give money to KZbinrs? Seems weird. Save your money. They wouldn't do the same for you.

[@katez7412]

​​@@maggie2sticks717 what a rude thing to say. Not that you need the explanation, but her membership group includes services, interaction, and support that people are paying for that go well beyond what her youtube channel provides. This is kind of like saying, why buy movies or movie tickets that benefit actors or actresses or directors etc, they don't care about you! Why spend money at restaurants? The owner doesn't care about you. I don't agree that she doesn't care about the people she helps and that have supported her platform and how she can provide for her family.

[@katez7412]

same! I hate that they are going through this. I'm a child of divorce and even with being super amicable, my Dad literally even let my mom drive with us when him and my step mom drove me cross country to college and they drove back with my my alone 😂, and both always being present at things, I deal with trauma from it. It is so so hard. I don't think they should have stayed together as they never got alone well, but I just wish they were better suited to begin with so that it wasn't a situation I had to deal with. I seemed just fine when I was a child, but realized as an adult how much I really struggled with it all. So my heart especially goes out to their children. I love them both though and hate that their family is having to go through all of this. I knew her video was coming for awhile but still was so sad when I saw it today. 😔

[@krisallen4362]

Tom, I have tremendous respect for a man who can see the errors of his childhood life and will admit that he needs/wants to change. You are a gem❣️ I hope your children can see and appreciate your changes and growth, and how much you love them and their Mom. You are so talented and hard working and creative. I pray for your healing and that you give yourself grace❣️And that she/they can find forgiveness and grace. I love your videos and look forward to more❣️

[@michellecollins290]

Please don’t get vindictive if your wife denies your dream of getting back together. Just concentrate on being a great dad to your children. When they are adults they will respect you for it.

[@SmallSpoonBrigade]

TBH, I wouldn't recommend getting back with her. If he really doesn't understand why, that's a really strong indicator that something was very, very wrong and that going back would probably be a mistake. In general, if things have gotten to the point where you're divorced, it's probably best not to marry them again. Even in this liberal state, getting divorced involves a 90 day cool down period as part of the process. If you haven't changed your mind by then, you probably won't and probably shouldn't.

[@natalieeubank4533]

@@SmallSpoonBrigadehe does understand why the problem is staring you in the face, KZbin and the pay wall that comes with it

[@CastledarkDweller27]

As will her family/parents.

[@SummerSun-sg3wf]

They're already divorced. It's over. Really sad. Really horrible.

[@SmallSpoonBrigade]

@ Possibly, I think there is some disagreement between the two of them on that aspect of it. But, I think he's likely correct, this sort of thing does have a tendency to eat into whatever time you could spend having a functioning relationship.

[@lauriedupont507]

I watched Dawn’s video this morning and now I’ve just watched yours. I am sorry for both of you and your children. Divorce is hard on everyone. I am praying for you, Dawn, and your kids that God will direct your paths.

[@ericarutter7770]

Thank you so much for sharing your difficult story. I am feeling yours and Dawn’s grief. My prayers are with all of you! ❤

[@hollysmeadow2352]

Teary here. Maybe you guy's can try again. Love that you aren't giving up ❤

[@d.cannuscio3151]

I think she has moved on

[@virginiapeacock2710]

So sorry to hear this sad news. But great to hear you are working on your personal development (I wish more people would do this but anything worthwhile isn’t easy, so not everyone can) and I hope things work out. Otherwise I hope the process goes smoothly and without acrimony. Look after yourself at this difficult time.

[@kjarneson655]

Praying over you guys. No matter what happens keep being a great dad and keep growing! ❤

[@m.c.3541]

Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning. Keep praying and we will pray for you both.

[@robinstallings3167]

I’m crying, this is so sad. I’ve prayed all night for yall.

[@sakura-rc3ed]

get a life

[@AmericanWildBelle]

@@sakura-rc3ed Wow…you’re a rude, touchy one.

[@MajorIllustration]

God bless you. Let's all pray in faith for this family.

[@kathyirvine6719]

AMEN!

[@Jennaweeks61]

Amen

[@Hoffx3-1234]

When I saw the headline, I thought you were joking since you always joke, but watched and I am so very sorry, Tom!!! I cried for you!!! You love Dawn so much. Praying that you can reconcile. Love your all’s videos. You have such a great personality & such a hardworking, strong, fun, husband & dad & Dawn is so bubbly and joyful and love how she says I love you at the end of videos.

[@amandadymacek365]

He has started a good work in you and he will finish it! Praying for you two, as long as it takes!

[@happyanna840]

I don't comment often here on KZbin but I stopped in my tracks to watch Dawns video when it popped up on my suggested videos and was completely shocked. I hadn't watched her channel in a long while as it seemed that she'd changed in some subtle way. In the earlier vids y'all always seemed to have it together and were so loving, but these 2 new videos have wrenched my heart out and the sadness I feel for you both and the kids is horrendous. My husband and I have children similar ages to yours and we have been married about the same amount of time as you and Dawn. We've been up against some impossible odds but the Lord was gracious and has allowed our marriage to be whole and flourish. I am a firm believer in Jesus and will write y'all both in my prayer journal to pray over every day. We do serve a real and living God who still works miracles. Believing for a restoration in your marriage and the strength to get there 🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️‍🩹 Please continuously seek the Lord and pray without ceasing... Prayer is our strongest weapon and Gods working even when we dont see it. May this chapter of trials become a victory in your testimony of the Goodness of God. 🤍🤍🤍

[@SilverHawk214]

Hi Tom, I've never watched your guy's videos before. But I feel you. My parents are not divorced but they do not have a good marriage, yelling, hiding, lack of communication. I love them dearly but I also brought a lot of bad habits into my relationship. I was lucky though, I was 17 he was 18. I got the chance to learn and correct before it was too late. 10 years later though, sometimes those old habits come up again, all it takes is a really bad day....we don't have kids yet but we are planning to have them in the next few years and I worry so much about how I'm going to prevent hurting my partner or kids because I'm not great at handling my emotions after a long day. (and with kids...every day will be long) Thank you for sharing your story. It is a very real reminder to me that I must keep fighting against my demons. I hope that there is a way for Dawn to open her heart again for you, that she can see real change and hope for a successful marriage.

[@livingwithflaire45]

Thank you, Tom, for having the courage to speak honestly about your divorce. It's rare to see a man share such deep emotion with strangers, let alone those whom he may know that see a video like this. Being vulnerable isn't easy for anyone, but you faced it here with humility and self-reflection. I wish you much success as you continue facing the shadows within. We only grow through adversity, and conquering adversity only comes through self-honesty. Bless you and your family throughout this journey.

[@natalieeubank4533]

Yeah sure speak honestly to get paid why not Dawn is as well

[@michellehamric6856]

You said it, Tom. I also believe Dawn lost hope. When I listened to Dawn's video last night I was so shocked to hear that you're divorced now. It made me sad and I cried. I'll be praying for you, Dawn and your children. God's blessings and peace.

[@natalieeubank4533]

Correction not now have been for awhile

[@beckyt7057]

Hi Tom. I was very shocked when I saw this. I was hoping it was a play on words about something y’all were doing but to my dismay it was not. I have been watching you both for several years and have grown very fond of your family. I cried like a baby listening to you talk about this. I will be lifting you all up in prayer. I love you all and am praying for the best to happen.

[@BananaAnna-m1r]

Tom, I so appreciate your transparency. The emotional issues you have described can only be healed and transformed by Holy Spirit. You’ve had the counseling, time for spiritual break through. I’ve lived it and know what only Holy Spirit can do. But know that it takes down on your face humility and seeking it out consistently and boldly. Shalom to you Tom and your household.

[@peachpathfinder]

I always thought you and Dawn were such an amazing power couple, and I have nothing but admiration for both of you. To say this is the most shocking, heartbreaking news is an understatement. I found myself weeping and praying for you. Never have I ever felt this way about people I do not know in real life. You ARE a good man and I feel your words are very genuine. Keep trusting in the Lord. He will light your path. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Love from Berkeley, CA. ♥️

[@joywingfield708]

Ditto

[@stephaniewarmink655]

💯 Don't know you guys, but I have watched Dawn's channel since late 2019 and joined yours when it started. I feel like we are friends. I love my friends, and I hurt when they hurt.

[@nancyelizabeth8364]

Isn’t that the truth I cried also and I don’t know them but felt like we did -what is wonderful is that they are both there for the kids praying 🙏

[@נעמיבןיער]

It just shows we can never know what is happening behind close doors, or behind the screen

[@JulesfromNorthfield]

I'm so sorry for the pain both of you are going through right now. This is so heartbreaking to hear from both sides. Your children will be okay. You are both people who will not use the divorce to cause your kids to be in the middle and needlessly traumatized. Thank you for honoring Dawn and her family. Praying for a shalom peace for you today!

[@craftyclarke2514]

Tom, your pain is palatable and understandable. There are two versions of the truth and somewhere in the middle is reality. Huge hugs to your family. Although you are in the trenches of navigating this new life, I pray you find sparks of joy to fill your day. I think our kids do best when they see us deal with struggles in a healthy manner. Through adversity, strength can be built. You both are wonderful people. It's hard to live privately on such public platforms. Keep pushing forward, you and your kids will flourish from it. Keep checking in, we will all want to know how you and the kids are doing. Take care.

[@azizaibrahim1155]

I think you mean “palpable” not “ palatable “. ❤️

[@SmallSpoonBrigade]

I'd heard it that there are three versions of the truth, my truth, your truth and God's truth. We have the bit of truth that they each cared to post, but I'm sure there was a lot left out and that they probably aren't operating off of quite the same set of facts. At the end of the day, I'm not sure that it really matters as they're now divorced.

[@pnwflipper2089]

Tom, you are a big part of the reason so many of us love the Minimal Mom channel. Episodes with you were always my favorite. I’m so sorry that the channel we love has been a wedge in your marriage. Be sure to give some extra hugs to A, M, C, & G .

[@MatthewSaville]

Good sir, We don't know each other, of course, but I feel like I can relate to your story so closely that it feels like I just glimpsed a parallel universe. As someone who has been divorced for 4+ years now, after a 12+ year marriage, I will say this: it's okay to continue in life as best friends, or close friends. If you truly love her, then I can honestly "promise" you that eventually, you'll be able to just be happy for her, if she finds happiness on her own. I can really relate to the feeling that "we might still have a chance", even if she claims she is absolutely certain that there is no chance. Here is my advice in that regard: Let her see you continue on your journey to become your best self. Let her see you finding true happiness on your own, by dedicating your life to greater purposes, whether they are related to the kids, church, or other meaningful things you can fill your life with. It sounds like one of you has an Anxious Attachment Style and one of you has an Avoidant Attachment style, or maybe both of you are a little bit of both, but, either way, the above advice is one of the best ways to allow the healing and repairing process to blossom between two people, *IF* they are indeed meant to be together again someday. If you're not meant to be together, then you still have not wasted the coming months / years; you've filled your life with meaning, purpose, and happiness. Plus, if you find potential new partners while doing those things that give your life meaning, (instead of going to a bar or on a dating app) ...then that's even more beneficial for you. Last bits of advice: 1.) Definitely learn about "attachment styles" and "love languages", if you haven't already. Both of these things were incredibly helpful to me. Also, "No More Mr Nice Guy" by Dr. Roberg Glover. 2.) You're still dad, she's still mom. Those titles will never change, even if either or both of you remarry some day. Kids these days are very smart; they will understand that sometimes, two adults simply are done living together. Remind the kids that their parents still love each other, and of course both parents would still do absolutely anything for each other. But, when it is appropriate for their age, they can learn the life lesson that sometimes, mistakes or other harm might just pile up too high to get past, and to preserve happiness, not being together 24/7 is the best thing. 3.) Teach all younger generations to learn about those things I mentioned, the love languages and the attachment styles. Such wisdom was severely lacking in my own youth, despite being a "good Christian boy" and learning to have the utmost respect for women. Kids should learn these things before they turn 18 or 20; talking about attachment styles and love languages can be done in a PG rated manner, and then expanded to include PG-13-ish subjects when appropriate. All in all, the fact that both of you are openly talking about this divorce with relative calm and respect towards each other speaks volumes about your growth and overall mental health. I cannot say that you'll get her back, but I can "guarantee" you that your future shall be healthy, happy, and bright, one way or another.

[@Nurturing2]

BEAUTIFUL❣️

[@livb324]

This is so nicely said. I am a little confused though on why love languages would ever be PG-13?

[@wilhelmina8843]

I understand your perspective. I’m so sorry. Sometimes knowing what you did wrong and fixing it might just be too late. I hope you focus on being a good father and a good co-parent and a good person and what comes of it we don’t know. We can’t control the results but we can control our efforts. I look forward to more videos of you teaching us how to be handy.

[@ashleyslack5960]

For Christian wives and husbands, it can never be "too little too late" as some have suggested. Christ commanded us to keep on forgiving, over and over and over. There was no limit placed.

[@KR21925]

@@ashleyslack5960 This is how people get stuck in abusive relationships

[@kimdavies9364]

This is a lovely comment

[@craftyclarke2514]

@@ashleyslack5960 perfect example is Duck Dynasty family, The Robertsons. Miss Kay and Phil had a rocky road and she continued to forgive him. He finally came to Christ.

[@jeanetteh.9240]

​@@ashleyslack5960It sounded to me like Tom's anger issues turned into abuse. I recognize and believe that he is remorseful. However, I do not believe that Christ expects anyone to accept ongoing abuse, nor do I believe that it is healthy for children to be raised in an abusive environment. Unless you have walked in Dawn's shoes, please don't judge her.

[@Karamelbar20]

Thank you for your honesty. I will be praying for you and Dawn, that the Lord will restore your marriage like only He can! ❤

[@rina908]

A "SAFER" husband and father ... Listen if there was violence if any kind she has every right not to want you back. Be there for your kids and let her live her personal life.

[@ohrly-n3u]

Guy never said that lol. Get your head on straight. You took an imaginary situation and commented about it as if it were true.

[@chantalhill9268]

and he said he was abusive to the kids too-which has nothing to do with their marriage so

[@kebergify]

Giving Dawn space and peace is being loving and respectful. Let go of what was and learn what this new season means as Dad and Mom living separately. In time you may be able to have a friendship, but healing has to happen before that to occur. Give her peace.

[@arleneisabela31]

My friend had a very difficult divorce, she humbled her self to the Lord, she changed alot and kept praying and after 5 years her ex husband returned to the home a new man. God totally restored their marriage. There is always hope.

[@tainarimorales1361]

Amen to that 🎉🎉🎉

[@jom6320]

Yes God is so good

[@HomemakerOnAnAcre]

I pray this for them, too, I know God Hates divorce .

[@MaryandElsa]

Amen to this! Lord, let it be so in this marriage!

[@SummerSun-sg3wf]

Once they have divorced, its over.

[@angellestone9160]

My heart hurts for the pain your whole family is going through. I will be praying that our God who is able to transform us will bring you back together healthier than you have ever been. Seek him in this time. Work on yielding to him and leave Dawn to him. I pray your faith stays strong. Thanks for both of your honesty and allowing us to pray for you.

[@rubyruby7573]

It's Not About Faith It's About Reality Everyone And I Mean EVERYONE ! Has "baggage" And These People Who Put On Airs And Claim Their "happy" Often Are The Ones You Have To Watch Out For Because The Truth Is If You Actually Got "airs" You Don't Have To Put Any On That's How Serious This Is NEVER EVER! Marry A Woman Whose Family Is Putting On Airs Because That Is A Red Flag That Something Very Serious Is Happening Within The Family And They Don't You "outsider" To Know About It I've Been Through And Yes Sometimes It Takes A Gun To Get Out of It I Pray This Isn't Tom's Situation Because If It Is It Will Be An Uphill Battle It Always Is When There's "airs" Involved

[@kerinac1909]

Sounds like you need to find happiness within yourself and not dependent on others or your wife. Work on that. It’s hard when one person feels the pressure of making sure the other one is happy. I think this will be the key to healing your relationship. And key to healing yourself no matter what happens.

[@liddlekiddle1962]

GREAT advice and I completely agree.

[@bethlovesdogs]

I'm so sorry, Tom. For you, for Dawn, and your sweet children. You are all in our prayers during this difficult time. 🙏💔🙏

[@LivingQuiteSimply]

I’m sorry for your loss and the impact this must be having on your children. I commend you for being transparent and owning your part, and I pray if restoration is possible, that you and Dawn’s relationship would be restored. I had no idea the two of you had gotten divorced. I love Minimalist Mom, but only watch videos selectively that are on areas I need improvement. When your title came up in my feed, I thought it was some type of joke. May you both have peace and wisdom regardless of the outcome of your relationship.

[@AlaskanCopperMer]

Tom my husband and I prayed over you and Dawn tonight. We appreciate your honesty and that you are feeler. Praying for the Lord’s sustaining grace to fill your difficult moments each day. May you know His deep comfort and nearness. And for transformation and restoration that you talked about for your family.

[@prettynaturestuff]

I hear you, but she probably had to throw herself into KZbin knowing she very well may need to support herself one day financially. It's TERRIFYING as a woman, dependent on her husband's finances. I finished my degree because of the roller coaster my marriage was on, when I wanted to be home with my babies. It's scary to feel like you may not be able to provide for yourself/kids when you don't have any control over if/when your partner will get better. Just food for thought. I still REALLY appreciate you both sharing because it helps those of us going through it feel less alone. And I think many of your perspectives are really valid and meaningful! It's awesome when a person can admit their own role in things and show humility, like you both have. Thanks for that example!

[@natasabobinec9413]

Dear Tom, it is good that you work on yourself... try to be kind to yourself as well as to others in your life. Forgive your parents, yourself and Dawn! Past does not exist any more. There is only now. Try to be present and kind now and do not lose too much energy on the past. Try to understand the past and move on! Wish you, Dawn and the kids all the best! Even if you are divorced, you are still family to your kids. Showing respect for each other is very important to them! I am divorsed and also been through all those emotions..One step at the time... Take care of yourself!

[@cclingman]

I watched Dawn's video yesterday and was shocked. I feel for you both. Sounds like you can continue to be friends and work on being the best coparents you can be. From a woman's point of view, I was in a relationship for 11 yrs. I tried so hard to make it work in the first several years. But at some point it just clicked thatcit was over. At that point, that's when he started to really put in the work and in my heart it was over already. It was hard. But after several years now, we are the best of friends. We can both look back and see where things went wrong. And admit both of our wrongdoings. I wish you both the best. ❤

[@CastledarkDweller27]

Why is it that men seem to only really try in the marriage after they’ve seen the wife seriously can’t or won’t take anymore? It’s often too late then. As u said…she’s already checked out by then.😢

[@CastledarkDweller27]

Apologies guys. I’m sure there are couples where this is vice versa, I did not mean to come down hard and blamey on men. What I should have asked is: Why is it that one partner seems to only really try in the marriage after they’ve seen the other partner seriously can’t or won’t take anymore? It’s often too late then cos that partners already checked out emotionally by then.❤😢

[@dlk8439]

⁠@@CastledarkDweller27 yes, I’ve watched male members of my own family realize after their wife leaves that they will have to change, as no woman is going to put up with that kind of treatment. They then treat wife #2 differently. All you can think is, “If you had just treated your first wife a quarter as well as you treat this one, your family would still be together and whole.”😢

[@livb324]

@@CastledarkDweller27 It's seems to be such a common story 🙁

[@countrypiefilms]

Hey Tom, I just wanted to check in and make sure you are ok. I understand where you are coming from, being raised in a shouty family myself. I'll still be watching you both and have much love and respect for you both. Stay strong ❤

[@candicewaller403]

I hope you find peace through this transition. And I wished the same for Dawn. Having been thru divorce myself, all I can say is give it time. Take the time to heal and release all those expectations of your relationship. The future that you once envisioned is gone, and that can be incredibly painful, but you'll come out the other side. Obviously, you'll still be in each other's lives if only thru the kids. So, being able to co-parent peacefully and respectfully at the very least should be your goal.

[@gail8453]

Seems counterintuitive but now is time to major on the minors. Sleep enough, eat well, moderate exercise (get outside even in MN), most important get your daily bread--read your Bible and pray, constantly, about everything. Keep your to-do list short. Don't spend too much time alone.

[@pajamamama5965]

That's great advice. Truth ❤

[@Lauren-jm3go]

Dawn needs peace. Living in a chronically stressful relationship can lead to health problems. So sorry for you both

[@stowebot]

Exactly 💯 she deserves to heal from past wounds and prioritize her mental, emotional and physical health

[@idid138]

Yep, I have developed hashimoto's and have probably shortened my life by staying too long.

[@Ann-by8pt]

You both have touched many people. Thank you. Thank you for bearing your heart. I am sorry that life hurts so much for all of you. Prayers for healing. There's nothing you can't get through with God as your focus. 🙏 One day at a time.

[@kaythompson8721]

I'm so sorry for what you've gone through. It was so brave of you to share what you did on this platform. I wish you nothing but the best.

[@story7088]

Wishing you peace. Sometimes love is not enough. You will always be parents to your beautiful children. When you’ve hurt someone significantly and repeatedly with your behavior, it isn’t right to deny them to ability to exit the relationship when that bond is totally severed for them. The right thing to do is accept they cannot live that way. My ex-husband also felt we hadn’t tried everything and wanted me to see if we could find a therapy where I could have my memory wiped or essentially be brainwashed into loving him again and no longer being traumatized by the past memories. That was the extent of his sense of possession over me and his denial of his behavior. If he loved me, wouldn’t he want me to be at peace? Wouldn’t he want our children to see that when someone treats you this way, you leave? It is healthy for relationships to end when one person is suffering, especially for years on end. Please consider that accepting yourself not as “bad” but as both deserving of love is true as well as it is healthy to be apart. I can see the hurt in you and you will find comfort in the love that surrounds you. You are not alone nor a failure.

[@AJCar71]

Fantastic answer ^

[@abunchahooey]

I completely agree. How long is a spouse supposed to hang in there waiting for things to change? How many years? So the past 3 years have been more positive for Tom, but once the trust is gone it’s hard to recover from that, especially when kids are involved and are witnessing not so healthy behaviors. Tom doesn’t seem like a horrible person, and I’m sure Dawn wasn’t completely perfect in marriage (who is?) but I don’t think it’s right that Tom is insinuating Dawn bailed. There’s only so much a spouse and children should have to endure.

[@aundriareif1451]

Whether or not it will ever be possible for you and Dawn to reconcile should not be your focus, but on becoming the person the Lord is calling you to be. We all have “baggage” and wounds, but that does not excuse us or justify our actions, but should cause us in humility to acknowledge what we have done or failed to do to cause hurt to others (and ourselves). Seeking God’s grace, mercy, forgiveness, enlightenment and guidance is our lifelong task. We cannot “fix” another person or relationship, but keep trying to follow His will for us day by day and moment by moment and leave the rest in His hands.

[@Samwise_92]

Yes!!! Focus on God and he will guide you. Immerse yourself in the depth of the Lord.

[@gorawesome1]

Thank you for speaking truth, amen to your wise words.

[@cindystuder9090]

Your baggage doesn't make you unworthy either. It is what it is. My scars from my parents issues with their marriage are bad. My husband has scars from not having a dad who was ever interested and who after the divorce never paid child support or wanted to see his kids. But our baggage doesn't define us and it doesn't make us not worthy of marriage or love. Praying for you, Tom. Praying for your family . And praying for Dawn as well.

[@annmarie6732]

Tom. It is wonderful that you have done so much inner work. That can only continue to benefit you and your children. Please remember that every single one of us has childhood wounds. I have walked the divorce journey and also needed to look back at how I handled myself in the marriage and identify where my triggers were coming from. However, both parties need to be able to do that. Both parties need to do the inner work. Both parties need to take responsibility for how they handled themselves in the marriage without blame towards the other. ❤

[@JackieRiley-k7s]

I dont have childhood wounds.

[@rdb4996]

​@@JackieRiley-k7s that is great! I hope you realise how blessed you are.

[@AnastasiaBeaverhousen]

What the heck. I have been out of the loop. Had no idea this even happened. Sending healing thoughts and prayers and love to the whole family. I subscribed to your channel because I was subscribed to Dawn’s channel but I’m staying subscribed because of YOU! You are worthy and loved. We are not perfect. We all have faults. ❤

[@llkg9]

I don't think ANYONE on the outside saw this coming. Was a big shock to all of us.

[@michelesusanne1]

It's not a shock, many KZbinrs have gotten divorced when they become big! The commitment is to God and each other and not to subscribers. Pray eyes will be opened to what really matters in life and it isn't the fame and fortune.

[@livb324]

@@michelesusanne1 Interesting analysis because Dawn said that their problems started from the beginning of marriage and they've had counseling for years including pre-youtube.

[@jomandy5688]

My heart breaks for you. You have had such a painful time. It always stuck with me when Dawn said you never wanted a dog due to what had happened in the past. You couldn’t bear the hurt - so many hurts. Your emotions run deep and - I really hope you find a way forward. God bless

[@BiblePublicService]

Thanks for giving us your side of the story!!! Much love and support to both of you. 🙏

[@Sahmgirl]

I am floored by this news. I am so sorry for you and Dawn and your whole family. I will be praying for your reconciliation.

[@ellenjonasson94]

Tom, I just have to say thank you for sharing so vulnerably. I think hearing you speak these very relatable things out loud will help many other people to recognize the patterns while they are in them vs. once its too late. Praying for you & the family and wish you all peace and happiness in whatever direction life takes each of you. ❤️

[@janetroberts7073]

No one knows our private struggles and no judgment is needed.Thanks for being open to share your feelings. Be there for your kids and dont give up hope.

[@Texasmom]

Praying comfort, peace, and wisdom for all of you. I’ve watched all of Dawn’s videos and yours as well. I have always enjoyed them and my heart breaks for the entire family. I was broken hearted when I saw both of your videos. I felt like members of my own family were suffering. Love and blessings to the entire family from East Texas 💔🙏🏻

[@deborah7121]

I have watched many videos on Dawn's channel, though am no longer a subscriber and haven't been for some time. Today, this video came up in my feed for some reason. When I saw the title, I thought for sure it was a joke. I am truly sorry to hear of your split, sad for everyone involved. I wish you the very best, Tom.

[@pkmcnett5649]

I thought it was a joke, too.

[@s.hylton6884]

That's what I thought at first when I saw Dawn's last night 😢

[@blushtea]

You have to let her go. She made her choice, and she has every right to after what she has been through with you per your own words. This can get dangerous if you dont accept your divorce.

[@deb9806]

Everyone has their time whether grieving a death or diagnosis etc. He will. We know nothing really and shouldn't. They told us the least they had too and they will work out the rest. Luckily the family is strong with strong inlaws etc.

[@blushtea]

@@deb9806Agree, but that has nothing to do with her being completely done and him still wanting to find a way. In her video you can tell she does not want a reconciliation. Especially, as she mentioned the kids have been affected negatively because of his behaviors. I would hate to have made a decision to get divorced and my ex wouldnt accept and is still trying to find a way. it just seems very scary to me. Maybe I watch too many crime shows and have watched many of these types of situations go badly. He needs to let her live in peace, and hopefully he has and isnt pressuring her to reconsider constantly.

[@deb9806]

@blushtea I don't know but we still don't know anything. When my sister divorced, her husband didn't want too but didn't seem to change, if you listen just to my sister, you get one side, him another and usually realities are blended. I just pray for them both. Their kids are older, they watch TV and hear things. I just want them to find peace. The kids don't need to hear arguments. I hope they have people to talk to also, the kids.

[@mariegeorge8865]

​@blushtea: And he needs to find his own peace. He seems to have a lot of anxiety about not being married to her anymore, but he has a lot of work still to do on himself healing.

[@sk8690]

I understand why you are saying you are not giving up, and you don’t think it’s over, but please listen to a woman when she says she’s done. To get to the point where you are leaving, filing, all the things it takes to break away from a marriage. No one does that if they’ve got anything left to give. Unfortunately, men often do the work, realise they’re able to fix stuff at the point where the woman has been working on the marriage, realised she can’t do it alone, puts her efforts into anything else that will give some feeling of reward, purpose. In this case the business I suppose. By then it’s too late. She has had to numb herself to the pain of not being treated well, seeing the children not being treated well. You need to see it, understand it, own it. Doesn’t mean you can’t have a happy future life, but that will never come while you pine for a marriage that was causing her so much pain.

[@heatherwillis5505]

KZbin fed me both of your videos, even though I'd never heard of either of you before. I know literally only what you shared in these videos, so that is to say: I don't know much. I just wanted to say that I can relate to the Old Tom and the heavy feelings that come along with it. I was an angry wife and mom. My wake up call came entirely too late - my husband died on his way to work one morning. I live with the guilt of how I treated him and our children every day. I was saved two years after the accident and I do believe I'm a new creation-- even though those old traits do pop up from time to time. I know people can change, because I have. I know the guilt and shame that comes with looking at those old behaviors and knowing the hurt they've caused. I don't know if this is helpful at all or if I'm just rambling to myself, but I'm sorry that you, Dawn, and your children are hurting. I genuinely hope you find peace in it all.

[@azbuckeyegirl9523]

I could have written this except that my husband is still alive and I do try to make things up to him and our kids by being the best that I can be. With God's help... (I will say that I've had some health and hormonal changes that have helped too.)

[@intuitiveplantscoaching]

I admire that you take accountability, I hope you can do it with zero shame and lots of compassion for yourself. I’m sorry for what you went through as a child, AND it’s your responsibility to heal that inner child. I know it’s a lot of work, no one can show up for you like you can show up for yourself. Also, if Dawn cannot get her needs met in your marriage I think the most loving thing you can do is let her go. She is worthy of love that doesn’t hurt and hold her down. She needs love and lifting up too. Wishing all of you healing and peace

[@sharondube1101]

I actually watched your video before I watched Dawn's. I'm so sorry that you and your family have had to go thru this. I hope you find the healing and happiness you deserve.

[@marybrand1977]

Prayers for you, the kids and Dawn.

[@endlessfairytales]

Oh my goodness. You two sharing this is so vulnerable and amazing. I am so sorry for the pain you are both going through. I brought so much baggage with me into our marriage, and I so wish I could change that. I cried listening to you, because I so get that part. Ugh. So much respect for you two the way you are handling this publicly and speaking about each other. Sending so much love to both of you as you process, heal, and move forward.😭

[@TheRoadMapofLife]

Tom, I messaged Dawn earlier, please know that people want the best for both of you. I feel for you both, I am at a crossroads too. Your authentic message is admirable and much appreciated, especially for those of us who have followed your family’s journey. Blessings to you and your family.

[@gabriellemiller7765]

I am so shocked and saddened by Dawn and your videos. Divorce is such a heartbreaking outcome. God is bigger than our sin and pain, and He knows the future. I pray He helps you both find peace and a way forward.

[@conconnie9991]

I wish you and everyone involved the best. I'm an old lady and have experienced a lot, as have my family and friends, in regards to divorce and life. Please know the marriage is over and done - period . 😮 She's done with the marriage, but if you can respect that and move on, you will discover that she's not done with the father of her children. Respect her and her boundaries, love your children and be involved in their lives and most especially, don't involve them in any aspect of your marital problems. If you can manage those suggestions, you will have a best friend in her again with beautiful memories and shared laughter and love. I truly believe this and have experienced this in my life.. You are both good people who love each other, but can't live together. Having a great friend living apart is infinitely better than living together with tension and resentments. You will be amazed how rich and rewarding your life will be if you let go and move on with your life in a healthy manner. Sorry for any typos or run on sentences, but I'm doing this on my phone and I don't have the young eyes or patience to go back and edit. Blessings to you, Tom. 🙏

[@mariegeorge8865]

Beautiful and true.💕

[@theapearman1407]

Tom I commented on Dawn’s page,too, I am so sorry to hear this news, it’s heartbreaking. I pray for the Lord’s restoration, and His reconciliation of your union in His loving hand. The hearts he knits he can mend. He is the only one who can. I will be praying over all of you. I know the pain in the valley myself . Only if you have experienced it …do you “get the depth of loss”. I encourage you to mediate daily in the Word where you are renewed - Hebrews 4:12 , Psalm 23 (many of the psalms are a lament of pain and cry to Him for help) Lamentations 3:21-25 Deep comfort over ALL of you extended family immediate - 🙏

[@gigieyre]

This video shows me why the divorce happened. You two see things very differently. It doesn't make either of you bad people or wrong. It just means that Dawn is worn out and worn down from trying. Maybe you still have fight left in you, but she doesn't. Sometimes it's just time to move forward but in different directions.

[@malvenachristianmusicbaxte8830]

I’m so sorry to come upon this heartbreaking video. I was sad to see Dawns recent posting but couldn’t bring myself to listen to it beyond the first few minutes. I won’t be able to listen to yours either. It is your heartbreaking story. I will remember you both in my prayers. You are a very strong person. 😢

[@caitlinbures4802]

Hi Tom, I’m sorry you are going through this! My thoughts and prayers are with you, Dawn and your family!

[@dubosesjoy]

What a deep sorrow. I am currently counseling a couple of friends to push through and to have hope despite the circumstances. Praying that God gives you hope and courage to push through. “We call out to dead bones, come alive.”

[@homehelpheart7440]

I'm sorry this has happened in your, Dawn's and the kids' lives. To me, it's really important to do the psychological work necessary to break us out of behaviors that began in childhood trauma. It wasn't until my mid-40s that I started really doing that work and it has changed me totally. I'm super happy with who I am now. 💔

[@bellaluce7088]

Tom, I applaud you for working to change patterns learned in childhood. ❤ It sucks that things we never chose to inherit have the power to hurt both us and our loved ones and require so much effort to unlearn. 😟 Thank goodness working to replace them pays such huge dividends in the long run. < : - ) I've often wished that someone had TOLD me that even well-intentioned parents can pass on a lot of dysfunctional patterns and unwritten rules and beliefs because learning about and replacing them has made a HUGE difference in my relationships and general happiness. 😀 We don't know what we don't know, and unfortunately, therapists often inexplicably don't share this information. (Thankfully google and KZbin are surprisingly great resources. 🤓) In the spirit of wishing someone had told me, I hope you receive the following in the kind way it's intended. ❤🙂❤ While there was a notable ABSENCE of reasons for the divorce in Dawn's video (as is appropriate - it's none of our business!), your video implicitly suggests that the way you express anger may have been a key issue. Yet your video also has a number of "tells" that suggest you may not fully understand just how negatively anger can impact other people. That is _common and understandable_ for people who grew up in volatile environments. 💜 To survive emotionally, kids sometimes learn to desensitize to the effects of anger, which later blinds them to recognizing the impact of their own anger in their relationships. In reality, emotions are contagious, and being around an angry person literally causes our bodies to flood with stress chemicals and is _very_ upsetting for most people. Depending on what is said or done while angry, *anger can also be like pounding nails in a fence - the damage remains even if you remove what put it there.* 🔨😧 Forgiving ourselves for the damage we caused before we knew better AND having insight that the hurt doesn't just magically go away for the other people once we decide to change is important. *Intellectual* forgiveness may be a choice, but people's bodies and souls have wisdom about what does or doesn't feel safe to them that's sometimes impossible to override. Another _unconscious_ issue that's very common in dysfunctional family systems (even with parents/partners whose _conscious_ intentions are good) is that one person in a family gets to decide what the rules, reality, and allowed emotions are for everyone else. Absorbing this as a child then subconsciously acting it out in our adult relationships can be VERY damaging because it either turns healthy partners into shadows of themselves, or eventually causes them to leave us out of self-protection. I'm NOT saying that is an issue here(!!), but when someone tells the entire internet/aka world the mother of their children is untruthful within seconds in a video about such a sensitive situation it couldn't help but spring to mind. 😟😬 If the person who felt splitting up was necessary says KZbin was NOT the reason, surely they're the expert on that matter of _opinion,_ and maligning their character is not a good way to win them back? 😧 Many therapists are infuriatingly short on honesty and directness in my experience, but if your goal really is to heal your relationship, I wonder if asking _someone_ in your personal life about what blindspots you may be missing would be helpful whether or not you two end up getting back together. You certainly don't owe anyone online your story, and it is OKAY and GOOD to preserve the privacy and dignity of your family. Whatever the future holds, 'm rooting for all of you. ❤

[@aprillee83]

☹️😢🤗. Where did all these amazing encouraging kind beautiful people come from in the comments? Praying for you both and your kids ❤️☦️🙏.

[@allysonwillhite4654]

Right!? On both his and Dawn's post. Not a bit of nasty or even well intended "advise" that's not supportive. Sad sad news, but also brings me hope in humanity!

[@musiclover-cu5jy]

This is such a sad situation. You clearly love Dawn, but because of your upbringing, lack of self worth and other demons, you didn’t treat her well. That kind of injury to the soul goes very deep. By the time you began to change, she clearly did not trust you anymore or feel that she had a good future with you. She’s such a lovely person, as you know, and she didn’t deserve being backed into an emotional corner. Not treating your children well, by the way, is a deal breaker for a mom like her. Even though you’ve worked hard to make changes, I will bet that it was unforgivable in her eyes. Sometimes, something that is broken stays broken. I wish you both the very best.

[@mariegeorge8865]

Yep. You are so right. Sometimes we can't fix it.

[@dlk8439]

💯

[@katiedesciose466]

Aside from everything, you are a very articulate communicator. Just in case you didn’t know that.

[@tessjones5987]

Tom, I am 73 and Borderline. I use KZbin channel Dr. Dan Fox on BPD. I got his workbook and I did get alot better. I use an audiorecorder with a USB stick to record my upsets. I say "Forgive me I need to go for a walk' Than I get in the car drive a safe distance and express my upset in the recorder. Than I lilsten to it and the funny thing is it is the same trigger over again. After listening I think of a more refined way to para-phrase the upset. Dr Dan Fox has really helped with his ideas and communication. It is just important to PAUSE and give your self time, Com back later to share a neutral willing way to be a good friend. It not you will be alone. I know you are getting better. We can heal this. Forgive your family and let them live the life they choose. You might need to organize a solid interfase with them that you can have and count on. But than you are young. You may not get the outcome with Dawn that you desire. I am just happy you are not 73 like me figuring this out. You are like many key figures in the Bible. You are going to not be like Moses and be getting angry and asking God to keep forgiving you. He does but you will not get to the Promised Land. Just learn to PAUSE. My favorite Audio-recorder is SONY 1CD-UX533

[@Firefly-e2b]

And mostly forgive yourself 🤗

[@CastledarkDweller27]

Interesting. And helpful.

[@susanshuffield8628]

Thanks for sharing your perspective, Tom. I am so, so sorry that you are going through this. We do serve a God of reconciliation and hope, so I am glad you are still fighting for your marriage and your family. There is always hope. Always. Sometimes people must set that hope aside to mentally and emotionally survive, and perhaps that is where Dawn is now. Perhaps long-standing transformation will allow her to find hope again one day. Praying for your whole dear family through this very sad news.

[@Rosa-kf6yy]

I am so sorry. You two were what a healthy family looked like (on this side of the camera). Prayers that you can both navigate this peacefully for the sake of your kids.

[@findingaway5512]

Prayers for you all. ❤ Love you both and the kiddos. I married my best friend too. We have had a lot of hard times over the years. Love is a complicated thing. And we are flawed beings with our own baggage. May you both be able to work and grow and heal as individuals and as a family unit as you navigate what life looks like now. You both will be parenting together forever. You are a good man and she is a good woman. ❤

[@nicoleolson2790]

I’m so shocked! I love you both and I am praying for your family.