Why Do Black Men Date White Women? | Ask A Black Man | MadameNoire

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Do all Black men really want a white woman on their arm as they climb the financial ladder? In this bonus clip of Ask a Black Man, the men of the status report segment explain whether or not there's any truth to that notion.
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[@SWNewYork315]

I agree with a comment made by the gentleman with the locs. Don't demean the women of your race when your married to a non-black woman. There's no need for it.

[@Neco2684]

Yes! I agree. It makes you question their motive.

[@orangemoonglows2692]

John Doe but they often do. and they produced totally messed up children.

[@MimiB1974]

That's always been my opinion. When you feel the need to diss black women because you don't date them...it comes off as weak. What's wrong with "this is my preference" ?

[@MimiB1974]

@skull taker sounds like you may want to reevaluate your social scene if that's what you see most of the time

[@becsocsci621]

He never said "all BW" though. Probably just a high percentage of them.

[@brinaomi4486]

The black community is really something else. I feel like the media can feed us stuff and we'll believe it and live by it.

[@coatlining]

Too easily brainwashed, why is that?

[@brinaomi4486]

@Jamilla Dobson too many of these black people lost. That's male and female. How you not gonna "prefer" the features that you have to live with and see everyday.

[@brinaomi4486]

@Jamilla Dobson Also I had a black man tell me he wasn't attracted to dark skin women but than proceeded to stalk me.

[@brinaomi4486]

@Jamilla Dobson my preferences have alot more to do with behavior types than physical appearance. Even though physical appearance plays a role. I don't think people realize they are doing the absolute most.

[@NC-dk4mh]

Because alot of us don't read, everything is word of mouth.

[@jamaicanbrowntone2568]

My 16 year old son ask me Ma, why is it so hard to date a black girl. Everytime I approach a girl I'm interested to all I get is eye rolling and attitude but she don't mind talking to the dude selling drugs and in the streets. As a mother all I told him is to focus on your grades so you can graduate from high school so you can go to college. What do you say to your teenage son that wants a relationship with a black girl but is overlook because he don't look or act like a thug? But if a white woman decide to give him a chance then he is wrong for being with her. We have to do better....

[@ishyameru6232]

I'm an 18 year old and I went through the same thing in the 5th grade, I was bullied everyday by black females and I don't hate them Im just more apprehensive and my taste is toward lighter skin because of it

[@Ashley-bm9gc]

@@ishyameru6232 So that must mean you still attracted to 5th grade girls. At that age nobody knows what they want. Biys as well as girls. Just because some 5th grade girls rejected you doesnt mean grown ass women who know what they want will too. You are not in 5th grade anymore.

[@johnsondailysports1341]

That’s why we date outside

[@ishyameru6232]

@@Ashley-bm9gc your logic.... Nevermind

[@Ashley-bm9gc]

@@ishyameru6232 My logic...makes a lot pf sense but you so stuck in your ways to admit it. Learn to see people for who they are instead of what they look like. Your lightskin/white princesses probably teased some other kids in school too. Thats not an excuse to be colorist.

[@shawnellemartineaux6212]

American Black men hardly marry at all. That's where the conversation should have started...

[@xxxtrddy]

Hahaha🤣

[@ThatWasMyGirl]

Shawnelle Martineaux I wonder why...lol

[@xxxtrddy]

@@ThatWasMyGirl they like to be players and compete in the contest "Who Can Have The Most BabyMommas" so marriage is out the window for them.

[@EnclaviousFiraga]

@@xxxtrddy Tell that to all the women i have met who cheats at a moment's notice. It's like they don't even know what they are looking for. I rather live like a bachelor.

[@xxxtrddy]

@@EnclaviousFiraga K

[@UnlimitedProduction1]

Interractial dating is fine for the record. Just don't do bash black women to make white women seem better. I understand if you don't limit yourself to any race. That's perfectly okay. I have a major issue with those who say things like "I don't date black men because you're all in jail" or "I don't date black women because they have a bad attitude" when in reality these people are using anecdotal evidence of the one time they were rejected by black girl 10 months ago.

[@destinyisavibe1843]

I agree 💯 percent and I got a video on my channel discuss this very topic. Feel free to check it and I will have more videos coming soon.

[@elvisrose1654]

+UnlimitedProduction1 you one of the few here with unbiased thinking..

[@zan752000]

+zenstar1 You wake up hating your Black self everyday, guess what bro? Your BLACK no matter who your dating, bye Felicia.

[@Sparkle1306]

+zenstar1 somebody was dissed by a black woman lol

[@AnyNameIsFine]

+UnlimitedProduction1 PREACH!

[@jadehydaria1018]

Instead of being upset that black men date white women, Let them be free. Being angry and complaining will not make them love us. It hurts but we have to continue living and creating our own happiness. All I'm saying is white men love us.... If our men trying other races, we should too.

[@EnlightenedMan]

I agree. You're absolutely right.

[@ezaf4593]

💯

[@shimmer4771]

andre woods Actually, go to Pew research center... That number has changed is steadily decreasing each year. Most black men prefer black women... but the marriage statistics show that 75% of black men married black women and 89%of black women married black men.. however, there is no statistics on interracial dating, which would make that number not thousands, but millions (*lol). So, most black women are only seeking black men, but black men marry 3 times outside the race we do.

[@shimmer4771]

Marsha Scott I like white men and I am a black woman. I am staying a virgin till marriage. 😊 I like him for who is when I find one. Color shouldn't be an issue.

[@storydaytrades8114]

andre woods where did you find those statistics?

[@anamaius7502]

I am a black man, married to the same black women for 21 years... this is the most retarded topic I've ever come across. Grow up! It's done just to say you did it! There's no scientific, sociological, financial, philosophical reason. It's pure selfishness, and I'm sick of people swearing up and down that you're educated enough to come up with a logical solution!

[@misssupremereviews332]

Thank-you Marcus! I feel like they're coming up with all these excuses instead of just saying the simple truth. Curiosity, Personality/Cultural values, and Money influence these decisions tremendously. As well long percieved notations of skin color.

[@jamesnevitt3400]

​@@misssupremereviews332 Most folks in society are a living contradiction.

[@Hndrix04]

😂😂😂😂 social media is poisonous, Jesus loves you all though 🫡

[@TexasNightmare210]

High school was rough for me. I was a fat nerdy black guy with a deep voice. I got rejected so many times by black girls that I just pretty much gave up on them. I got passed over by black girls for boys who wore their pants around their ankles and talked in incomplete sentences regularly. I was too young and immature to realize that it’s just how females are at that age and not just black women in general. Now that I’m older, I realize that my past experiences have jaded my view of black women. I was smart enough to realize this later in life but you have to wonder how many other black men went through something similar and weren’t able to come to the realization I came to.

[@yezmirsheppard-halika6892]

We all have our experiences not sure why it's always about the black girls not taking interest. Black dudes weren't interested in us dark skin girls. All the black dudes dated light skin girls but I never blamed black dudes as a whole. Yeah it was fucked up, seeing all the lightskin girls get flowers on valentine's day. Us darkskin girls never had secret admirers or got flowers. But like you as I got older things started to change after I started working and the pool of men I was around changed. I wish black dudes would let that pain go. It seems so selfish to blame others for not wanting you. Narcissistic even.

[@osemekeogorchukwu309]

@@yezmirsheppard-halika6892 honestly thank you. I've been looking for this comment. so a bunch of 13 year olds didn't like you in high school and now you don't date any black women??? lol c'mon. I was passed over in school cause I was nerdy as well, you don't see me hating black men for it? Its high school, the nerds are usually ignored. same for white people. so I dunno what this nonsense is all about

[@millicentlopez3592]

I bet you were hitting on the mean girls who had the bodies but with a nasty attitude, ofcourse they were mean to you. Did you approaxh the dark skin skinny girl, or the chubby girl with glasses as you were big yourself? Foh

[@lebonhlapo2607]

I hope Dennis Rodman can come to this CONCLUSION!!!!!!He doesn't HAVE TO transfer his childhood hurt to the next BW. He needs to deal with the trauma that he went through and seek therapy for it.

[@chavonjackson6483]

@Stella viura what's wrong with expressing how you feel? Or do your prefer you man to never feel. It's that type of thinking that makes dudes have the highest suicide rate because they feel no matter what they say they should Express an emotion

[@biragaba]

BLACK WOMEN ARE BEAUTIFUL.

[@storydaytrades8114]

Nobody didn't say they weren't you focusing on the wrong thing. Your attitudes, too head strong, loud, aggressive kinda like a man. But you would say that's a strong black woman right?

[@edithparks461]

+Story Not all black women are loud. Because I'm not, but I choose not to date white men. When they ask I politely say I'm sorry but I only date black men. But having Godly values I don't date anyone, be a I will not marry anyone because I'm not going to lose my Retirement check I finally got. Because if the marriage don't work then I can't get my check back. And I've had black men tell me they know they don't have enough to share, so they will not marry, so I'm thinking the same thing. I finally got old enough to get half my ex's Retirement and half mine and I'm keeping it. Times are tough and I can't lose what I've finally earned. And I don't want welfare I'll keep me Retirement it's better. LOL

[@lisalentile177]

+Edith Parks I don't blame you

[@adriennegadson3199]

Black women are beautiful Jason whats so funny about that. We also are smart.

[@lisa196409]

Zanacha Shaba yes we are beautiful but we have to respect one another we have to learn to appreciate our differences and not be ashamed because there is some black women who frown at other black women for wearing their hair natural

[@ashleymitchell8528]

I use to put all black men in same boat like black men put black women in same category. I had two white boyfriends and they was just as bad if not worse. So skin color doesn't matter I got heart broke by white and black. Men are men

[@johnsondailysports1341]

Facts

[@user-ji8ll1qn6o]

yeah, stereotypes are not good. in fact, i had sex with 3 black dudes thinking they'd have an oversized dong. none of them did, and the sex kinda sucked. what a downer. i guess my black girlfriend was right, when she told me that it was just a stereotype. oh well. lol

[@QtvNOW]

I appreaciate this conversation. Everyone seemed so transparent. And black women were not bashed in the least. No group of women were. Thanks guys!

[@lashondarochell7584]

I liked the conversation between these men, There were no bashing of black women, just simply dialogue, now watching this they were very well versed, # Iloveblackmen!

[@skinfanjay]

Now. Behave yourself and respect us and you will keep a. Black man. Tell your. Girlfriends. Too

[@QtvNOW]

skinfan jay Well... thank you for your input. However, keeping a man black or otherwise has never been my focus in life. I focus on developing myself, staying true to my moral compass, and of course respecting myself and others - PARTICULARLY my husband. As for my girlfriends, most of them black and married and like myself take pride in making our homes a place of peace and refuge for our entire household. Please forgive me if I sound condescending, bc that is not my intent. At the same time, I would like to suggest that ....you too may want to consider trying to contribute the same type of healing energy in a world that needs it so very much. The world community is already saturated with negative, antagonistic, instigating, poisonous energy... like the kind you attempted to conjur up with your comment. Another words... #YouNeedToCutIt .... lol ~ Either way...have a good day~

[@skinfanjay]

Likewise. You do not sound condescending You sound like one of the. Good. Sisters. You'll. Are so rare.

[@JamieLynn12345678910]

Just Call Me Q YES!!! This was WONDERFUL 💞💯

[@darylfields]

I'm a black man I love black women but tired of being rejected by black women because i'm not a pretty boy are a thug.

[@demeetusbonner234]

Facts

[@thebigfletchshow]

Daryl Fields it’s sad bro but that’s reality a white woman would treat you like a King

[@demeetusbonner234]

@@thebigfletchshow naw im good i perfer my own i got blacc women who treat me like a king

[@thebigfletchshow]

Daryl Fields I feel you on that my brother I’m married to an amazing Black Queen who treats me like the King I am but it was like a needle in a hay stack trying to find her

[@darylfields]

@@thebigfletchshow I still want a ebony goddess

[@brytneybrewer1707]

How can we stop the division between Black men and Black women?

[@brytneybrewer1707]

***** That has little to do with my question.

[@brytneybrewer1707]

+Blacktheslave These are not "desires" all Black women or women period want from black men. Looking at me, you see another "black women". My father is Panamanian and Puerto Rican. While my mother is Black Dominican. I wasn't raised in a traditional house hold with stereotypes of black men and women. I have a very multicultural background and upbringing. I could date any race or ethnicity of man. I don't care. BUT. To me there is nothing like a black man. Everything about a black man is intriguing to me and soulful. Spiritual and divine. I see a black man in a suit. He looks the best wearing it. He stands out to me. Everywhere. I don't see every black man in one black man. I don't see the stereotypes. Or the nonsense on TV in all Black men. Why do some people see us as a whole? Black women are this, black women are that. I really don't understand when a black man can sit back and sterotype women of there own race. I love uplifting my black men! There are many like me as well.

[@brytneybrewer1707]

+Blacktheslave There is a reason why "they" want us apart. It's deeper then our skin. What a Black man and Woman. A real Black man and Black Woman can accomplish, is unspeakable. I'm with a very good man. He is black. He is as good to me as I am to him. My support system. As I am his. I love him for the things he tries to make possible, then hate him for the things he cant make possiable. We balance each other. I love our image. Regardless of what stereotypes "fit" our skin complexion.

[@ilmusicx3]

+brytney brewer Take care of our children, uplift the upcoming generation, uplift each other. I've never seen as much intersectionality as I do with the black community. It's the saddest thing and other groups are honestly laughing at us.

[@ilmusicx3]

+Blacktheslave You sound like a dumb misogynist. Black women have done more than enough for black men. They march for them, fight for them, yet the black women is STILL the most unprotected woman in America. Cook? Clean? You have two hands. This isn't 1950, no woman, regardless of color takes that attitude anymore.

[@Spurg23]

I prefer Black women. White women just don't cut it and I'm unapologetic about that. To each his own.

[@ardennite1]

+Panthers23 I do not see why you should be castigated for your personal preferences. It is your choice.

[@shaundavidssd]

I hope their bw that don't masquerade as Caucasian haired..lol

[@reagan513]

Why you so worried it's your life. F.... What people say.

[@miguelpatrick79]

I don't like white women but I like latino women

[@keishasims3192]

I love white guys.

[@joshuam7818]

I’m a black man and I love my beautiful black woman

[@wonkywaterpipe123]

Joshua M no u dont

[@SmokeytheBear9399]

Congratulations

[@coatlining]

Wopeee to you, have a great life together.

[@Blahgirl283]

And you’re in the majority. 🌼 Census data showed that 83% of Black men who made 100k or more married black women. And as recently as 2019, that number rose to 88%. We want to build legacy with one another. We actually highly prefer eachother and highly want one another. The narrative telling us that we don’t, is propaganda. So feel empowered.

[@agfromdai.e3806]

@@wonkywaterpipe123 how the hell would you know idiot

[@planetChristie]

It also depends your environment because it’s highly present in the south. Even a few black men saying “You’re the darkest girl I talk to” and I’m just brown lol shit is crazy.

[@StyleandGrace08]

This was refreshing. Well spoken positive black men having a discussion..... The media is after a black woman's self esteem -and we are fed lies..... like we aren't pretty enough and black men don't want us and that's simple not true 100% of the time.

[@allsmiles3281]

***** Right on point! and on time!

[@nyeeezy]

***** white men control the media!

[@allsmiles3281]

***** this is true as well. I know in Ohio, Columbus specifically, in my opinion it is that way. But again racism was very common here and all of the things that come with it still remain. From my experience, a lot of men here prefer white or very light ethnic women (not all but it is common).

[@MsE711]

Exactly

[@celinamilian]

***** why do you even follow the media

[@frenchryah221]

This whole thing started off wrong by the dude pretending it doesn’t happen

[@Bringmeoneofthosechickens]

He didn't say it didn't happen. He said the majority of Black men marry black women which they do.

[@marcuslouison3998]

@@Bringmeoneofthosechickens He also said, "it's not an issue now" .. He needs to listen more.

[@xiamariansupreme72]

@@Bringmeoneofthosechickens Not really. 1980 started off with over 100K BK male/YT female marriages. In the last 6 years of this past decade alone, that BK male/YT female marriage pattern has surpassed 800K. So, no, they're actually not primarily with BK women. Over 40 years later and the BK male swirling rate has jumped over 700K and you expect me to believe most of them are marrying BK women? Hardly. Plus, 55-60% of BK males marry lightskin women and below 23% marry darkskin women.

[@famousdre843]

@@xiamariansupreme72 please stop lol this the problem with u black women yall can't read

[@xiamariansupreme72]

@Detroit Baby Nobody cares who you like. Don't talk about black women at all, leave our names outta your mouth. But no, y'all keep speaking on us. Obsessed.

[@madelineanabella6400]

Every single Black man I know is either dating or married to a black women.

[@ualreadyknow2332]

You must be from harlem (125th street)

[@samlsd9711]

@@ualreadyknow2332 Self hate has no place. If you hate yourself, your daughters and mothers and sisters, then you are the problem. Not anyone else is.

[@ualreadyknow2332]

@@samlsd9711 tell that to the black women that do everything in their power to look (sort of white)

[@ualreadyknow2332]

@Melissa Leon then maybe blk wmn need to look at themselves....& blk wmn hair has nothing to do with blk men not wanting you...because blk wmn wearing the weave is still not stopping blk men from dating non blk wmn! notice the logic blk wmn have....they willing to change they hair but they not willing to change they attitude & they attitude is what keeps them at the bottom of the dating pool sooo.....

[@ualreadyknow2332]

@Melissa Leon also...thats very different from the original post in this thread.....she said every blk man she knows is dating a blk woman....but youre saying blk men dont want to be with their blk wmn

[@darlingnikki4929]

They are way too many comments here about black girls having attitude people need to check themselves on their type first not every black girl has an attitude and for a fact they are other races of women out there with attitude. Stop believing every stereotype thing

[@bedanwalker6259]

Hispanic females fo sho not all but you know what I’m sayin lol

[@juicel2543]

@@bedanwalker6259 any female can have a attitude. You think attitude it just for Hispanics and black women?

[@bedanwalker6259]

@@juicel2543 I said especially Hispanics cus they crazy asl 😂 never said they the only ones my nigga

[@rnick123]

Do I sense attitude? 😂

[@juicel2543]

@@rnick123 what you sense is truth. Now the real question is, do I sense attitude?

[@deshundontae23]

I tried to date a white woman before... it didn't work it pushed me more towards sistahs

[@Forgemno]

Deshun Campbell one white woman.... keep trying. I'm happy over here dammit. Fam, she cook me dinner and a foot rub

[@deshundontae23]

Forgem Nos aye man while i respect yo choice (cause ppl be cappin) i cant i like running my hands through curly nd kinky hair nd it comming out smelling like shea and coconuts, and i love my girls lookin like hersheys or them carmel candies i forgot the name of. Black girls be lit to me

[@TsarOfRuss]

I never dated American white women, i dated alot of European white chicks though

[@theninjacat7200]

If my black son came home with a white female to introduce, I'm slamming the door in BOTH of their faces!

[@theninjacat7200]

what exactly pushed you toward sistahs...please tell. spill the tea!

[@DuubleD]

I’m a few years late but this conversation is still relevant so I’m going to comment. Let’s not confuse preference with exclusivity. Also date who you want but please don’t talk down or try to demean us to elevate your partners. Just like black men are all different so are we. Anime nerds FTW ✌🏿

[@chavonjackson6483]

Yo facts anime nerd life and thank you for your input gives me hope

[@SAMack-xd2fn]

Only low self esteem blk women say things like, "don't talk down or try to demean" blk women, while you will be talking down and demeaning that IR couple. I am a blk men that love non black women and have some shocking news for you. Blk men and the non blk women they are dating could give less than a damn about blk women and their opinions of us. Out

[@DuubleD]

S.A. Mack you don’t care yet you’re commenting 😂 okay...makes perfect sense 👌🏿

[@chavonjackson6483]

@@SAMack-xd2fn bro do you feel better? Did it feel good to get that off your chest? Idc that you love non black women cool do you but what demean BW by taking the time just to say something about how she feels. She didn't even say anything hurtful about us yet you had the audacity to show anger towards something without even tempting yo to understand if you dont care whatever but keep that to yourself from one BM to another

[@JAZZSTARish]

Sorry but no once you realize the psychology of women they are the same.

[@daniellemelendez3544]

I'm a hispanic woman and at work at few of my black co workers had all said they weren't interested in black women and that seriously made me confused. It makes me feel bad for black women. Most people tend to date inside their race or culture. So its pretty surprising for someone to say they would never date their own race.

[@riahnonya6534]

Skin color. Black men are very colorist.

[@bigzchronoburner568]

@@riahnonya6534 no it’s you mouth

[@extrakt1559]

@@riahnonya6534 bw gotta calm the aggression down and they'd be good.

[@Jedilord882]

@@riahnonya6534 they probably aren’t “black” enough and have no choice but to date interracially 😂😂😂

[@kxqali]

@@extrakt1559 you’d probably call nb women w the same behaviour feisty

[@jonathnathjo7905]

All dark skin women are beautiful y'all skin glows. we love y'all black women. Black and Proud.

[@R.O.T.C._SEEM]

If that was true then you wouldn't feel the need to say it for pussy points on social media.

[@janysmahoney5257]

ditto

[@bcbro142]

You’re so fucking stupid our skin glows too in a beautiful porcelain way!! What makes you think black skin glows how dumb are you

[@8v71buses]

Right on my man. I prefer dark skin sister way more than the light skin ones and what I find the most attractive about dark skin sisters is how they're skin shines like a piece of gold when they put on lotion, cocoa butter or shea butter. Love them with a passion

[@johnsondailysports1341]

SIMP ASS

[@jillhbaudhaan]

What about black men who assume that you don't date black men based on where you are in your life and never approach you?

[@YellowSynth]

It depends on what your concept of intelligent is, you do know the brain processes information on a Conscious level, Subconscious Chaos Level and on a Reptilian Level. So it depends what you mean by intelligence. women like you sound smart to somebody dumb when in reality you have no clue what the words you say revere from, it's like you are infants, you just regurgitate what ever liberals feed you, that's why you brain fart such statements.

[@abdulleonard7141]

jillhbaudhaan sweetie over 50% of black women today catorgorize men..hair,skin color,hieght,build,his finances,what he drives,does he own a house,does he have kids already,like 75% of y'all don't have1-4-6 kids when y'all met..he too nice he gay,he not mean enough he's soft,he's too mean he's a dog...why would a man go out and buy a thousand dollar suit to impress your black as when he can come out the house just the way he is,and her white ass sees more than what he has or doesn't but sees what and who she wants????hands down I'm asking why do you think we would let our own women label us like the world hasn't already wake up black America, please wake up black women

[@albertmonroe6830]

Maybe you shouldn't date anyone (regardless of skin color) who's going to make assumptions and pass judgement without knowing all the facts. :)

[@Traewing]

jillhbaudhaan now that is something to research. 👍

[@Traewing]

Don't get at this sister for her question. It's valid. Tell me how many of you here have dated a president of a corporation. Why is it ok for a woman to date a rich or successful man but when the tables are turned it's like guys feed into the she's outta my league theory? I can be in my stilettos and corp clothes, guys whistle if anything from afar or in passing. But let me be busted at the supermarket and its raining men.

[@Curbsidehustle87]

As a black man me and every one of my male friends dislike weave dislike wigs dislike the nails and hair colors iv been cussed out a lot for simply saying I love black women natural we have a major disconnect not being spoke on!

[@estherblack2770]

Hahahahah is that an excuse??? All black women wear weave??? Lol keep too the whyt side, you don't need excuse to keep what women

[@thetruesoulofanaquarius9302]

@Esther Black BM are so full of it. I will never understand why they think BW are the only race of women that wear weave, wigs ,nails etc just another excuse to not date/marry us.

[@godisgood9387]

Yes I agree with you and you just want to be real right, so there’s nothing wrong to say what you really see.

[@angelafulton8567]

Your preference is your preference,don't put us down to legitimize your reason for preferring white women.

[@blacklyfe5543]

​@@angelafulton8567 y'all put us down everyday and we have to put up with it oh pls black women deserve to be put down

[@3StallionTV]

I'm all for interracial dating. I think its beautiful. What saddens me though is that it seems like black women are at the bottom of the selection/food chain/dating pool/whatever you want to call it. A lot of us are open to dating out of our races but others aren't as open to dating black women. Sometimes even black men blatantly refuse to date black women. I think I might die alone. I'm not even bitter. It is what it is. EDIT: That last line was sarcasm, people. I'm pretty sure I won't die alone. Chill!

[@allsmiles3281]

Onkzee A change in surroundings may surprise you regarding this. Not to say black women are worshiped everywhere, but in the East, I can say many men from other ethnic groups do.

[@3StallionTV]

The Rookie Seeks I go to the University of Cape Town (South Africa). Its super diverse. There are students from all parts of the world here. Actually being here made me discover that black women have the raw end of the deal. I actually had a huge crush on this guy but that soon fizzled out once I found out that 'he doesn't do black women'. (He's black. From Zimbabwe)

[@allsmiles3281]

Onkzee Honestly, I'm not surprised given South Africa's history (past and present). I am by no means making a generalization out of respect for those that do date us. This is not limited to S. Africa, but other countries within Africa as well. Westernization and its associated constructs hit Africa like a ton of bricks. I too have experienced this and once I "became awake" I couldn't be upset because I knew why both African men and women would make the ignorant side of those statements. When people are truly comfortable with interracial dating, you will see they won't keep bringing it up or saying statements like that. It can be annoying trying to date your own as an expat, but don't lose hope, they are out there.

[@kakesmonster90]

I actually see it somewhat the opposite way. Many Black women don't find a lot of other races attractive & find them less assertive & refuse to date outside of their race even when they're approached by other races a lot. We live in different areas.

[@lobster0right]

Onkzee Don't lie. There are PLENTY of black girls with black boyfriends at the University of Cape Town. 99.99% of the relationships in South Africa are made up of partners from the same race. There must be something about you that makes people not want to be with you. Maybe it's not because you are are black girl, but it's because of something else. Take a look around you, the majority of black guys in Cape Town are with black girls.

[@sbusisiweshaba1715]

Why people keep having this conversation? I think black women need to do the same thing, expand their dating field to include other races, if there comfortable doing so. One never knows where one may find their person.

[@peopleschampiii584]

Typically other races aren't into black women.

[@og-greenmachine8623]

@@peopleschampiii584 Which is also one of the reasons colored dudes would rather not date black women Doesn’t have so much to do with the women But you know she’s going to have male brothers cousins uncles and so forth Basically a bunch of black dudes around I’m good with all that....

[@isaiahbattle547]

They usually go for guys that'll treat them wrong and then they'll say men ain't shit

[@m_tecturial]

That's if other races are into black women like that. Ain't cute at all

[@tyeachildlove6032]

Some men like black women not all men ive seen them date outside thier race too generalization here lol

[@Represent1]

Most successful Black men know that it’s stupid to limit your love interest to just one ethnic group. Black , White, Hispanic or Asian.... Love has no race

[@user-go2xi7zq5q]

Koal Kottentail I hate it when us Africans say stuff like that. Are you trying to say Black Americans don’t have a culture? What is Hiphop then? Why do so many Africans keep up with what’s going on with American Blacks if they don’t have a culture? Why do we listen to Beyonce, Drake, etc if they don’t have a culture? I don’t see Americans in droves listening to Wizkid or Burna or etc so how can you say they don’t have a culture?

[@michaelterry1000]

If black men are attracted to white women and those white women are attracted to those black men then that is THEIR business and more power to them. No one has a responsibility to only date within their race and no one has the right to criticize others for dating whomever they want. I say this as a white man who is attracted to Asian women.

[@TessieDobey]

I say keep your options open to include all races.

[@donking3540]

Good reply

[@treatstreats7149]

YES!

[@tigerboy7585]

" Keep your options open " like bw are really wanted. LMAO 🤣

[@msfiya251]

I'm done with dating period but I agree.

[@TeWandaJoven]

@@tigerboy7585 Obviously we are. People can't keep their mouths off of us and it's scientifically proven that people ignore things they don't care for. Since everyone speaks on us I'll say that we're the center of attention 🤷🏾‍♀️ and have plenty of options.

[@POSS99]

I see lots white women also prefer to be with non white men. I've seen them with black, latino and asian men of all nationalities.

[@TKr9491]

Hey great segment! This is a discussion I have been waiting to hear. I have discussed this issue with some brotha's and some flat out have told me they prefer not to date black women. Their reasons: we have big mouths, attitudes and do not cater to our men. I live in Los Angeles, so interracial dating is highly prevalent, but from MY experience I have seen a drastic increase in brotha's dating non black women. Nothing wrong with interracial dating, love is love, I have dated outside of my race, but I would like to connect with my partner and be able to have common cultural interests. We see so many public figures such as: Tiger Woods, Cuba Gooding Jr, Taye Diggs, Michael Ealy, Terrence Howard, Russell Wilson, Kanye West, Alfonso Ribeiro, David Oyelowo who have married non black women. There are dating websites and statistics that support this "black men electing not to date black women." At the end of the day, you cannot help who you fall in love with, every one has preferences, I love ma brothas!

[@earningmyway5021]

kirvyk No black men date white women because they consider it as upgrading.

[@earningmyway5021]

bigjayking u are in deep denial if you don't think that the skin color issue is still a problem in the black community, but hey if u want to pretend it doesn't exist then go ahead. you are also in denial if you don't think that a large percentage of black women and black men think that fair skinned people are more attractive. look at how our women buy boat loads of silky hair that don't even match our hair texture. not to mention the fact that most blacks are proud to say they stay in a white neighborhood and that their black kid goes to a white school. wake up and stop making excuses for black men who practice self hate.

[@jackjohnson2853]

kirvyk Tiger is at least as 'non-black' as any Dominican is. Vietnamese mother; half-Chinese father; raised among servicemen, on a base golf course, educated and socialized among whites. There was no black woman in his household, strong or otherwise.

[@TKr9491]

bigjayking24 Glad to hear that!

[@celinamilian]

kirvyk If I was rich I wouldn't marry someone below my social status and it happens that they aren't so many wealthy black women who I don't have to translate what I want in life all the time

[@oORegularKevOo]

I'm a black male and I didn't not a date a black woman until I was 20. In HS and most of college black women could not be bothered with me. I feel alot of that had to do with social conditioning. There is this one archetype of male that most females aspire to be with and if you don't fit that mold you are looked over until they are mature enough to see past their own vanity and realize looks are not everything. That's usually when they realize looks plus money is where it's at...

[@thebridge5483]

Correct

[@jaysofly8564]

Regular Kev and that’s exactly why they venture out because its the saying “you didnt want me when i was down to come when i was up”

[@jaysofly8564]

Stella viura um do you hear any black men complaining about a black female being with a man of another race? So i think yall are the emotional and weak minded😂🤦🏽‍♂️

[@deondrebrown5872]

@Stella viura that's actually very rare lol y'all see one dude hating & swear it's all us 😂😂

[@deondrebrown5872]

@Stella viura no they don't i guess im blind to seeing that or something because that's rare to me it's like once a blue moon i see that shit most black dudes i know or see be praising & showing bw love

[@robyngithui2803]

I don't think people are really complaining about interracial dating. At least not the majority of them. I think there is a general concern when a man won't date a woman, simply because of her skin tone, especially a woman of your race. Dating outside of your race does not make you a self-hater. However, I would argue that refusing to date any woman/man of your own race means that you are a self-hater. P.S. Please don't come at me with none of that "Black women got too much attitudes" or "Black men ain't on our level" bull. There are too many black people in this world for blanket statements like those to be made.

[@losgryfog]

+Victor Vic YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

[@bigevil1001]

Thumbs up to this comment!

[@lefez9015]

💯

[@popwashington7501]

You bring manual labor back and see what level black women are on. Their out of their. Black men built the world and now the white man change it up and put education and divided us and create a system to destroy the black man and here we go.

[@SunnyBeingSunny]

All women deserve to feel and know that their beautiful.

[@arthurmorgan1230]

Tawana Taylor same as all men deserve to feel good about themselves

[@SunnyBeingSunny]

@@arthurmorgan1230 very much so

[@keishasims3192]

It's sad.

[@8v71buses]

@@keishasims3192 The media is so evil, corrupt and very deceitful they are not to trusted for anything. If anything the reason why sisters are hated so much is that at the end of the day they know good and well that black women are the most attractive women in the entire world and the honest truth is that non black women are actually jealous because they know that too

[@skinfanjay]

💪💪

[@lalapsy23]

You can't escape yourself by loving others who remind you of noting you are ...many of you black men are loving from a place of hurt and deep rooted pain.

[@ten4k964]

Or...i just prefer dating white women. No hurt, no deep rooted pain....just preference

[@rwwr7513]

Uhm...

[@Tommy-lq2rk]

Do what you want but always respect white men. Without them you'd be starving in africa if they hadn't brought your ancestors here

[@ten4k964]

@@Tommy-lq2rk U would NEVER say that irL. Why use the comment section to hide from the real world

[@Tommy-lq2rk]

@@ten4k964 What man? I know it's a fucked up thing to say but it's true. Trust me I've said this stuff in reallife

[@VuittonDona]

They never really answered the question...

[@anglndsguise950]

VuittonDona Good point.

[@u-n-isurvive3030]

VuittonDona They did answer it though. In summary they said that, yes, some black men date white women, but the numbers are blown out of proportion (in large part due to the media) in relation to the actual statistics on interracial dating.

[@anglndsguise950]

U-n-I Survive You yourself also did not answer the question. The question is not do black men date white women. The question is WHY do they date white women.

[@u-n-isurvive3030]

anglndsguise950 You're right. Not sure how I missed that the first time, but that is indeed the question. I think the point still stands that black men dating white women has been made into a larger issue than it actually is though.

[@anglndsguise950]

U-n-I Survive That is a good point that I am glad was made.

[@LAtttiful]

The guy with dreads is from 'The Grapevine' KZbin series. I recommend all black men and women support that channel because it has real discussions on black issues. The Grapevine deserves more support than its actually receiving.

[@McFrappin]

The grapevine is NOT a show catered towards black people. It's a show catered towards Nigerian people,black woman,and homosexuality.

[@Coopogers]

African descendants how so? I was interested

[@mimilocke5650]

@@McFrappin HATER ALERTTTT LOL

[@nmagain24]

Grapevine is trash since Seren isnt on there anymore

[@mimib___6709]

As a black woman, I am accountable for my own actions. Would be nice if other people realized that, and didnt hold every single black woman accountable for the stereotypes other black women choose to perpetuate. You had bad experiences growing up, dating, etc? Fine. That still doesn't make it right to judge and demean individuals who had nothing to do with how you were treated previously, simply because they share the same skin color of the people who did you wrong, or were too loud or acting a fool in public. Black men, y'all go through the same thing. You prefer dating outside of your race, Great. But what does demeaning your own race to others do for you, except make you look like you only hate yourself? So until everyone realizes we are in this struggle together, and stop tearing each other down over dumb crap, We will not prosper as a people, and will fail at making the world realize our highly expressed melanin producing genes have nothing to do with how intelligent, successful, and well rounded we are just like any other race.

[@ouch5002]

i love black men! and black women, i love your creativity, your strength, you are resiliant and brave, you are the root of mankind, even if man is not kind to you. you are beyone magnificant, you are queens, worriors, hard working, nurturers, great role models and leaders👌 cheers to black women. 🍷

[@skinfanjay]

Ms. Iola. Behave yourself

[@mayaj291]

what did she do to misbehave?

[@skinfanjay]

Maya. Jordan. You. Behave yourself

[@mayaj291]

now what did I do? you can't misbehave at work..... soooooooooo again I ask you what did we personally do to misbehave. I see the answer in what you saying, (I can't speak for the other lady) but I have yet to so call misbehave as you put it, and furthermore help to educate the misfit brothers like you are so quick to tell women behave. don't just make it a woman thing, make it a generation thing. glad we had this chat love I have to get back to work. 😉

[@skinfanjay]

Ms. Jordan. I am busting fun. When. I. Say this. I. Find it comical. With all the bashing that we as. GROWN. African American. Men. And. Women. Bash each other. It. REALLY. Shows. How. WE. REALLY. Care. About the. Dysfunctional. State. WE. Are. In. And that. WE. Are. REALLY. TRYING. To seek. Solutions. However. There. Should not be disrespect. But. Mature. Conversation. And. Solutions. 😊😊

[@lesiba5382]

You become a headache when you get into relationships not knowing what you want or atleast have an idea, man or woman it doesn't matter. We just have to stop going into relationships with our confusion and expect the other person to "unconfuse" us. Get to know yourself first and you'll have an idea about what you want and where you're headed in life.

[@d2dar459]

Yep 💯

[@Keepdapocket]

I am 46. I a lawyer going on 21 years. After I passed my bar, and got my career set at my firm, I decided it was time to settle down and have a family. I NEVER dated white women through high school, college, and my playing days. Never even thought about it. However, as I grew as a man, my expectations grew. In my profession, there weren't a lot of sistas around. It didn't discourage me. I had an expectation. I wanted someone who had my interests, values, and personality match. So I dated A LOT. I found myself with my sistas on dates that didn't have my same interest. First off, ambition is a must. Ambition to succeed. Just having a job isn't good enough for me. Most times the sistas I was talking to were just happened to have a job. Then, it was I'm too soft because of my approach in treating them like a lady. Meanwhile, a somewhat colleague of mine I worked closely with, was an accountant for our firm. I would deal with her regularly through the years. I would see her out from time to time. She was a sexy woman, but that's as far as my thoughts went. But, the more we spoke on a personal level, the more we realized when had the same interest, and same ambitions.. She offered me one day a friendly kayaking trip. I accepted. And, more things of interest. Next thing I knew, I thought to myself "this woman is what I've been looking for. Loves jazz. Loves the outdoors. Has professional goals. Very fit, etc". So I asked her out on an official date. She was taken back, but accepted. On that date, she asked me one question. She said, Why me?". I explained to her the attributes she had. She replied, "but I'm.not your type", and I replied, "when your heart feels something, you feel it. My heart is feeling you're my type". She opened up and said this was uncharted territory for her as she has never been on a date like this 14 years later, my sexy, beautifully intelligent white wife has made partner at her firm. I'm junior partner st mine. Two beautiful kids. We are each other's first, last, and everything. Point being, I was stuck in the mode of I need a black woman; I want a black woman. Instead I found the most compatible woman FOR ME. A friend, lover, and mother. Didn't plan it. I actually fought it. But, it happened.

[@carolkhisa1564]

Just stop obsessing over black women and move on. Put that energy on your relationship and be happy, black women we are already used to it, Move on, bye lol!

[@truthteller3181]

You choose your wife and thats lovely. Be happy and blessed 4 life. But please dont act like there isn't any ambitious, fit, intelligent black women with plans and goals and overall great people 🙄🤦🏽‍♀️. That's literally all I know! From my friend group to my associates. You choose what you wanted but it wasn't because of slim pickings in my community. I truly doubt that sir.

[@cheekwiz]

Carol Khisa the Asian man will take you.

[@almondy1963]

🙄

[@imhonest4352]

I understand what you're saying completely! Same thing happened to me. Wasn't looking out of my race at all but never imagined I would personally have alot in common with my fiance. We met at the lowest point of my life and she accepted me when I lost alot due to the entrepreneur lifestyle of chasing your dreams. We went on 2 dates that I paid for and I knew I couldn't do another date because I was about to step out on faith and start my own company. I moved into my grandmother's basement to save money. Walked away from my job. I told her we shouldn't date anymore because I don't want to embarrass myself being 30 moving back home. Her response blew me away. She said I'm a very independent woman and don't need a man to take care of me. I don't mind paying for dinner or movie. I like you and can respect a guy trying to better himself. Well she helped me alot and in my business. We have a successful company and a son now. We travel and I can honestly say she's with me because she seen my ambition.

[@marybass5412]

I am a very WEALTHY BLACK BUSINESS WOMAN. I have been married to the same BLACK MAN over 30 years. I have never dated or SLEPT with a WHITE MAN. I will only spend my MONEY with a BLACK MAN. I always wanted my MAN to LOOK like my HANDSOME BLACK DADDY ❤️

[@divifemtv]

I like what these guys have to say. The conversation was very balanced. I think the number and proportion of black men dating/marrying white women is much lower than black women think . I don't find anything wrong with interracial dating, but at least expand your horizons to include and get to know other ethnic groups. After 400+ years, we should have learned enough about white people that we could take some time out to learn more about ourselves and the other black and brown folks across the globe. Some people act like dating a white person is exotic or an upgrade in some way and that mentality is very unhealthy. Interracial love is no more beautiful than any other type of love.

[@jellyfingers9049]

white people in america are VERY different than those in eastern europe. so the 400+ years in america with white people can't apply to all white people. it's like saying the whole middle east or the whole population of africa is the same, mentally, physically anf culturally

[@TheJusty80]

Jelly Fingers that's true

[@tyeachildlove6032]

@vanettova ur generalizing not every white person lol

[@Deron_SLATER]

What I'm trying to figure out is why does it even matter?

[@sashablack6963]

I pray for the day when y'all stop caring about race and judge people by their character

[@mrsgolden6526]

Sasha Black me too

[@agfromdai.e3806]

Exactly

[@lintonmackey6727]

And yall character is effed up.

[@CrimsonSlayer7]

I never understood the issue. Dont shun, talk down, and assume the personality of a woman simply because of her race. Other than that you can date whoever you want. We cant preach equality and want to end division and say who you cannot date at the same time

[@s.d.ministries]

💯

[@missmi1133]

Thank u. ✊👌

[@arabionknight3524]

I never had any good relationships with black women. I don't wanna try it for a while. there is a lot of concerns, but it's good for sisters to hear what we say, and what we feel...

[@samora3]

I disagree, numbers show black men date out of there race more than any other group more than double ,

[@ScorpioOnTheGo]

I would have to agree with pink shirt In my younger days I wasn't accepted much from black women Probably because I wasn't 6'3 with tats and a car (slight humor) As I got older I started to meet more of a variety of women (work, college, clubs etc) I notice it became easier to talk to them and without even realizing it I self consciously took black women off my radar even if they were attracted to me...past experiences shape a way someone thinks down the road

[@DTreatz]

scorpio305mia So you got a case of the Mike Jones? haha *Back then they didn't want me, now I'm hot, they all on me.*

[@JimiHendrixisGodness]

+scorpio305mia Then you have to consider the fact you were only around non black women after the fact(college,career,etc).What if you were around them in your younger years.Maybe they would've treated you just as badly.

[@JimiHendrixisGodness]

I wasn't asking him to change the past.I'm saying non black women would've treated him the same way in his youth if he'd interacted with them. He only interacted with them once he got older.

[@JimiHendrixisGodness]

+PaiNExoTiC Direct quote from his comment "As I got older I started to meet more of a variety of women (work, college, clubs etc) "

[@JTBS18]

This is very true brother. I myself have had very bad experiences with black women. It was so bad at one point I decided to stay way from them completely. Till this day alot of black women ignore me and I go fir other races of women then black women get upset when I talk to white/latina women. Your past really does change ones perspective of things.

[@srhinehart20]

My ex always said I'm be the last black woman he dates. 3years later caught him with a white woman in my home. She was talking shit to me and had no respect .I guess she thought she was better but now they could be homeless together LoL 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@KingGlinton]

I've always said that it's a myth that MOST successful Black Men date out of their race. I live in the Bay Area here in Northern California and yes there are many mixed race couples, more than usual but it's not possible that mixed race couples out number Black Couples. I remember having a conversation with another co-worker (Brutha) who was flirting with a white female co-worker and he asked me if I thought he was pretty, my answer was that I'm not attracted to white women like that and said she's alright, I guess if you're attracted to white women. Well she heard me and was offended by my answer. She said that I don't know what I was missing, I quickly replied, "What do you have to offer me that a BLACK Woman cant?" she paused and said I'm just saying I'm a nice person, I giggled and walked away!

[@virginberry001]

And African people are the nicest as well. See they want the Mandingo is why they try to be so nice. It belongs to us we ain’t missing nothing.

[@diouranke]

You hurt her soul that day😅.

[@MrShaneVicious]

I date white women because...... they are women & I happen to like women. It's that simple.

[@xzing7]

Well said

[@amaka637]

+MrShaneVicious true shit

[@jakovkores8709]

+MrShaneVicious it's different to say ''i date white women'' and ''i date only white women''

[@lamareaton]

+MrShaneVicious Man you know you can't come on here and talk that logical shit! This kind of thinking is no permitted on KZbin!

[@MrShaneVicious]

Jakov Kores the title of the video says "date white women "

[@marioharris3752]

These Black women are not interested in you until you start making money and other women are interested in you.

[@lillybillionaire6293]

THey all talking at the same time wtf

[@MayneNDP]

I wish they talked more on the topic of black women who don't give some black men the time of day.

[@keishasims3192]

Most of the time, they're overly aggressive and to many women it's not attractive. I'm not attracted to it, it's too much and I like gentleman.

[@keishasims3192]

I prefer white men, but this is just my opinion.

[@sabadaga1]

Finally, those black men were intelligent, beautiful and respectful. Y'all need to keep hem on board :)

[@sabadaga1]

***** the black men that you had for the sex edition episode were knuckleheads !!

[@reginamyricks5596]

*****

[@saifhasan4481]

Im Asian and this makes me so proud. Black men having a great conversation. Keep doing a great job guys

[@MsLee-oh7hy]

I am a black women and I am currently dating my 3rd Asian guy. He's South Korean and so fine. On October 20th we would of been dating for years 8 months. He discusses us getting married pretty often which is suppressing b/c traditionally I would think women would be more interested in marriage than men but I could be wrong.

[@Simeautomatic100]

If you date outside your race, it's a preference! But just because you do, doesn't mean you should belittle your own due to bad personal experiences... For me, I'll always love black women! Not saying they don't have drop dead gorgeous white women (or any other ethnicity) but black women will always have my eye! & sometimes it hurts me that black men call black women very disrespectful terms EVERY chance they could just because they had bad experiences with black women. It's sickening tbh!

[@Rollacoastertycoon]

Ok

[@nettecorvette]

I love my beautiful hardworking husband he treats me like the black queen I am. I would walk through hell with a gasoline thong on for my husband. NOTHING LIKE BLACK LOVE. NOTHING LIKE IT IN THE WORLD.

[@jeanettesdaughter]

With a gasoline thong!

[@coreyholloway9104]

There is no black love out here

[@bak3456]

@@peacelove7437 looool you sound desperate

[@yaelbahtzionyisrael6687]

I know that’s right

[@wonkywaterpipe123]

Meanwhile he out there smashin white women left n right

[@minniepearl14]

i feel like i just dropped in from mars.... the world doesnt want us to know black men who speak and think like you fellas exist.

[@Ka11DNA]

you just not attracted to them..in real life

[@leebishop7591]

man, this was great. brothas letting each other talk, intellectual convo abt a current and still relevant topic, no overlapping convos (not much) and best of all no "N- WORD" bombs. thank u. A breath of fresh air.

[@garibay711cod]

Yup rare to see.

[@minuteman1458]

I am a white man married to a GORGEOUS ebony queen. I never thought I would date outside my race but after meeting her, I had no idea what I was missing. She has the natural hair too which I love. But I also like weaves and extensions. It's TRUE what they say, once you go black, you never go back (at least in my situation). I have nothing against white women but it makes no sense how black women get so much hate when they are just as beautiful as any other race of women. What's even more disheartening is a lot of the hate black women get is from their own men. I have also seen a lot of comments from black men hating on the sistas for dating outside their race but last I checked, its 2019 and ALL women are free to do what they want. I don't see a lot of hate coming from white men when white women date outside their race. It just seems hypocritical hearing black men hate on their women for dating outside their race because historically, everyone knows that black men date outside their race more than any other group of people. I say fuck the haters and if you are a white man, I think you should not box yourself in to one group of people because you can be missing something very special. Same goes for black women. There are a lot of white men who are "secretly" attracted to black women because we have not gotten past the taboo in society of white men dating black women. But I'm starting to see a trend of it becoming more acceptable and it is very encouraging to see. Love has no color

[@keishasims3192]

@Moon They feel like what will their family and friends think. They generally don't want kids that don't look like them. They're also often a bit uncomfortable with dating a woman darker than them. That's why.

[@cherishjohnson4931]

honestly i don't care any more. I don't know why any black woman cares anymore. there are men out there that love us. And they love us for more then our T&A. I don't care if he's green. if he loves me, is good to me, and appreciate the love and support i give to him. I'll take it. Not because i'm desperate. just tired of being insecure because of something as trivial as skin.

[@melaninman3191]

Cherish Johnson 89% of black men marry black women. We love you baby.

[@jamesram4869]

+Melanin Man 89 where did u get that number from

[@melaninman3191]

Data on married couples

[@brookepepin4212]

Cherish Johnson i love people like you

[@shimmer4771]

​@@melaninman3191 75% now.

[@krysformayor8217]

*BLACK WOMEN NEED TO EXPLORE YOUR MANY OPTIONS IN DATING & LOVE!*

[@leonievw2466]

I don't even understand why this would be something to argue about. You marry who you love, no matter what skincolor someone has :)

[@craigsims1189]

Sisters feel it’s an issue

[@joshuatruvillion3044]

@@craigsims1189 as always

[@Gray_xo]

Tell that to Asian girls lmao. They can’t love a black guy or girl.

[@shimmer4771]

​@@craigsims1189 Some do. Don't speak for me.

[@craigsims1189]

@@shimmer4771 of course no one refers to all

[@riffraff521]

Black men date white or lighter women for the same reason women want a man over six feet. That’s what they prefer. No need to justify one’s preference. It’s nobodies business...

[@a55tech]

dats cold dawg

[@riffraff521]

JALEN D CUTTS In my opinión yes. Tupac wrote Madonna a letter, telling her it was bad for his image to date her. Men on the DL marry women for social acceptance, but are sexually attracted to men.

[@courtneypalmer53]

I feel I have an excuse for the height qualification. I am 6'1, so if possible yes I would love for my man to be that height or taller. 😊

[@riffraff521]

Courtney Palmer So it’s a PREFERENCE. If women can have them, so can men. I would assume that you also prefer 6 figures, 6 pack, and over 6 inches. I’m 5’9”. I ain’t mad at you...

[@escobarincorporated8515]

As a 37 year old black man I’ve never dated a black woman. They are AMAZING to say the least. Where I’m from the black women simply aren’t attracted to black men. White and latina women show us more love and thats likely why we gravitate towards them.

[@mjohnson1741]

As a BW I feel the same way about BM, more and more BM aren't checking for BW or only going after light skinned BW. I've always been approached by non BM so more and more that's what I've been gravitating towards.

[@yezmirsheppard-halika6892]

Where the hell are u from? I'm a 37 year old black woman (from DC, chocolate city what they used to call it lol) and that's just unheard of to me!

[@escobarincorporated8515]

Yezmir Sheppard-Halika I live in San Diego, California. I’ve always wondered what is was like to be with a black woman.

[@yezmirsheppard-halika6892]

@@escobarincorporated8515 wow. u would think in a major city like that you would have. I'm from the east coast but I lived on the west coast before. It was definitely harder to date there. I lived in Phoenix, but traveled to Cali and Nevada all the time on business (Coronado was one). I definitely didnt get the love I get on the east coast. When I'm in DC, Jersey, NYC, hell from Boston to Miami I get mad love from all races. I knock em dead actually! 5'10, 150 lbs, kinda cute, light brown eyes, long natural hair so not afraid to get my hair wet lol, not ratchet (nothing wrong but I'm just not)I work out. Do yoga, I'm down to go hiking or watch a movie or anything in between ... I went to the west coast...NOTHING LOL!! I had a few black dudes in Phoenix literally tell me it was because I was too dark and they "never dated a dark skin girl" but I was pretty tho (gotta love that line). All the guys on the west seemed to only want light or non black girls. Even if you were fun and easy going. They just did not want to be seen with a black girl on their arm. Needless to say I moved back to the east coast once a new job opportunity came up! I hope u get to date a black woman. Trust me, when we are treated right, we are the most loving women in the world!! You will see. Dont give up on us! And if not, San Diego is full of beautiful women of all races and I'm sure you'll find a nice one!

[@yezmirsheppard-halika6892]

@@escobarincorporated8515 sorry so long!

[@pu5epx]

As a Brazilian, I don't understand why it is even an issue. Everyone should date whoever he/she is attracted to, dammit! It is beyond impolite to suggest that some group of men/women are exclusive choice pool for some other group.

[@Drehgab]

I thought this conversation was gonna be about bashing black women but actually I was pleasantly surprised.

[@mesamuel3376]

Drehgab This guys are well educated they won't dare day disrespect their women. thanks guys.

[@Ka11DNA]

anything black women don't like to hear hey consider bashing but sometimes its just facts

[@twondagreat8893]

@@Ka11DNA right..when I explained a situation a black girl had no come back and said I was bitter..smh

[@urbangentsociety1421]

Drehgab agreed

[@Ka11DNA]

@@shimmer4771 you trying to tell me what to do is not attractive..mind another person business.

[@jordynmyers7426]

I'm a white woman . I have never dated a black man, and I never will. Only white men for me. That's just me though.

[@driimark1537]

@@longshot1800 why you are feeling that way? hahahhahahh guboshlep

[@user-go2xi7zq5q]

Jamilla Dobson Loool, you say we all want white women, but funnily enough the comment above yours is a black man saying how he only dates black women, and in fact he doesn’t find white women attractive. He says he likes “her curvaceous body, and that beautiful black hair that makes you stop and stare.. but with white women I don’t get that feeling” Not all black guys want you lool. I have never dated a white girl. So get off your pedestal just because a few self-hating guys and this whole system of white supremacy puts skinny blond white girls with no ass, as the epitome of beauty. Stick to your white guys. No one cares about them. Certainly not most black women atleast

[@ammabthedigitallynomadic3385]

I love how they purposely and magically avoided the "lighter/ whiter" part. I can guarantee . Most if not all of those "black women" that the he mentioned all his black male friends are with are either biracial or look biracial or in the least lighter skinned. So just cause these black men are with women that identify as black doesn't mean they actually like black women

[@ElZorro85]

The problem is that this is even a discussion. Be with whoever you fancy/love, don't accept social boundaries. Don't let people tell you it's weird or improper to date somebody who is of a different race than you. Don't go after a certain kind of people because you're supposed to. My wife is black and I forget that she is, I look at her and my daughter and all I see are the people I love. Also, sometimes people talk as if it's some kind of competition. Who's better? White men, black men? Black women, white women? As if you could compare which race is better. Our modern society should be better than that.

[@Squishy876]

I've definitely noticed a trend in younger black men (20-25) dating outside of their race not as a fluke but as a strict preference which is pretty detrimental to young black women since their own counterparts see them as undesirable

[@tamtammy2831]

Lets change the narrative..young black women have plenty of options if only some of us stop promoting us as undesirable as well as others who do so..because they have an invested interest in doing so..black women do not..something we must stop doing..if other men hear black men say it and then we confirming it..then it is a no brainer they will too and leave black women alone trying to figure out why..because some of us aren't smarter enough to correct our own image (not agree with some undesirable promotion)..no other woman does that..

[@opeyemiadegoke361]

It's a problem for black women who wants to limit their options to black men..as a black African father I tell my daughter to go where they are appreciated ... and all my son in-laws non black because my daughter's were not raised to wait on black men and settle for less..

[@kristinabc1143]

Hmmm ... I’ve dated white, asian, black, Latino ... both male and female. I can’t honestly say what it is that attracts me in the beginning, maybe the energy they’re giving off, but I can honestly say what keeps me with them, or makes me leave, is their personality/attitude. It wasn’t until later in life that my mom told me stories from her childhood about how white people walked on one side of the street, and blacks on the other ... and despite how she was raised, she never pushed this thought process at me as a child, she allowed me grow so I judged people for their contents, rather than the color of their skin. My mom was not perfect, but she was brilliant in some ways as a parent. I also believe my open attitude is the reason I’ve never been judged on the fact that I like women as much as men, despite being a teenager in the 80s, and a young adult in the 90s, as so many members of the LGBT community have complained of. So my thought process may a bit different from the majority, but I believe that if people would quit pushing the race differences, and learn to love diversity instead of bitching about it, then maybe more people would get along 🤷‍♀️ how can we leave the hate behind, when it’s always being taught to the young???

[@SerratedMouth]

Well said, your mother was a wise woman.

[@shimmer4771]

Don't bring LGBT into this.

[@ShotgunEDBOY]

I hate when other black men who never really had a hard time with a black down play the fact that there are black women or girls who have or still shun or clown certain black men for no good reason. If this happen to black women you would be like ok I understand but since itsa black man you undermind it

[@cyntiaangelie8157]

@ebon thomas : Every black woman is not the same. Stop the pity party.

[@TeWandaJoven]

🤯😳 black women go through this everyday or have you read the comments on this thread?

[@TeWandaJoven]

@ebon thomas Really? Come on now. Why would she say that?

[@cyntiaangelie8157]

@@TeWandaJoven : We need to hear out the men as well. There is a major disconnect between us and this is a great platform for change. Instead of saying , it happens to us too, acknowledge his frustration and then give an example of what you go through as well.I'm referring to Str8nger Wolf's comment.

[@TeWandaJoven]

@@cyntiaangelie8157 If you look at my other comments on this thread then you will see that I have listened to them and posted likewise. My response was to his "if this happened to black women you would be like ok I understand..." How as a black woman dark brown skin not understand his frustrations?

[@TheJesusian]

I'm a Black man...I consider myself normal. I think I'm attractive, and I own a business. I have been repeatedly overlooked by black women. Maybe its because I don't sag, maybe it's because I don't usually use a lot of Ebonics, honestly, I really don't know, but Black girls can't get mad if you see me with another race. All of a sudden I'm a sell-out but have been shut out for years? It's like... "back den they didn't want me, now I'm hot and they all on me" So it's really hard for me to trust that a Black woman is trying to holla for the right reasons, when they used to practically give me to the whites and latinas. Now its an acquired taste, right?

[@ru__tyru__ty846]

Same excuse again and again, it you go white, just don't bash black women because after that we have to live with your ww and your mix children and they hate from the black community, not cool

[@tamtammy2831]

Black people look silly using racist stereotypes against other black people..most successful and educated black men are with educated and successful black women..so that is a lie that black women like a certain type of brotha..we really need to give that self-hate a rest..It's also dated that most black women care who random black men are with..which should be an obvious being that most black men and women are together...yet these topics of interracial just will not go away..it's like black people are using it to as revenge or to seem special or something..I mean white men and asian women make up 75% of interracial couples period and you don't hear this being a subject at all..Black people need to do better

[@kbtitan2464]

This topic is annoying. Why are other people concerned with what other people do in their sexual lives?

[@chikezie_101]

@DD Gaming thank you they are so dumb imagine I marry a ww and some bw are back biting me lmao Fyi I don't care🖕🏾🖕🏾

[@andrewjones7150]

Child....why are you so bothered by an actual thing? This is a general discussion that happens day after day. If you don't like it, well, stop coming into these conversations.

[@chikezie_101]

@@andrewjones7150 🖕🏾🖕🏾

[@annabanana3371]

This is actually not just a black male issue this is also prevalent in Asian and Hispanic communities. They believe by dating white they have reached some type of success.

[@slowbotdrone]

It's never been about a black women's features it's about the attitudes and hostility.

[@shimmer4771]

People can marry who they want. The problem is when people bash one another. Why do so many Black men feel the need to bash Black women, degrade them, or say we have attitudes? When Arab men marry outside their race or any other race of men, they don't bash their own race of women. Stop generalizing millions of people you've never met.

[@xiamariansupreme72]

All I know is don't degrade black women to uplift white women, cause that's unneeded. Don't say we have attitudes and we're angry when every race of women have attitudes and are angry every so often. Don't say shit about us, PERIOD. Enjoy your white woman, but leave us black women ALONE. That's all we want.

[@JazziBear7x]

I think all races need to respect their race & every other race. It doesn't always have to do with race. If a black man is dating me it doesn't mean he is hating on black women, it means he likes me & is genuinely interested in me. I don't ever like or date a guy for what race he is. I've dated a white guy & he turned out to be a complete a-hole, not because he's white, but because he is an a-hole. I don't think we should throw shade on black men who are with white women. I mean it's his choice. It doesn't mean he hates black women or is avoiding them, I have seen millions of gorgeous black women who smash on me every time. That's not the issue though. It shouldn't even come into someone's mind to judge a couple where one is black & the other is white. That honestly makes me sick. I mean that hate is what's wrong with the world. Why can't we get to a point where we see them together & just see a couple. My man is black & the first thing I thought when we started talking was that he is a funny & sweet guy that I want to get to know. Not anything to do with his race, damn. Why do we always have to throw shade ??

[@JazziBear7x]

All races need to respect EVERYONE, that's what I meant. I'm saying we should all just chill & let people be with who they want to.

[@byronscott7661]

Everyone should stay with their own race

[@JazziBear7x]

Well I think people should be with who they love, I'm not hating, but honestly I don't choose someone because of race. I like them cause of their personality. Everyone is intitled to their opinion so not hatin

[@byronscott7661]

***** Nah, you're right I see a lot of black women with white men. White women should be able to date black men if they want. I feel some of these black females do it to try to get back at black men. I saw one couple like that and the black girl kept trying to get my attention and I completely ignored here and she almost had a fit lol true story

[@kiam6769]

AngelicAngel so agree. It's all about love and happiness

[@eyzaguirreyoutubedatabase4106]

Black women are the only women in my life that will initiate a conversation, be friendly with me and have actually made an aggressive effort to get involved with me. Im Hispanic.

[@mutabarukadada]

If you date out of your race because of love, I see nothing wrong with that. But if a black male dates out of his race because he dislikes black females? then I think there is an issue.

[@blacklyfe5543]

Its my choice

[@lideta-]

How did I run into this video! I'm African from Ethiopia ,let me tell you majority of us marry our own females for one reason preserving culture and passing it on to your children. Marriage is not always about love it's manly about family ! Love don't last forever family is.

[@ashanloki9925]

@Shaheen Shad no ethiopians are black just black

[@mitsuro3815]

@@ashanloki9925 40-50 thousands russian/Ukrainian women living in Africa also

[@BringDHouseDown]

​@@ashanloki9925 they are the pretty kind of black(bias and personal preference, obviously this comment is purely subjective), I'm only attracted to european women and some korean women, maybe some chinese, and mestizas(latinas) when the mix is mostly european, same for mulatas when it's european features....so I just don't feel attracted what so ever to black women in general EXCEPT, I've found some from Ethiopia that I like(...cause of natural european-esque features).

[@BringDHouseDown]

@@mitsuro3815 where?

[@mitsuro3815]

@@BringDHouseDown in Africa

[@nilevalleyafrican9451]

i remember walking with my white Russian friend under the umbrella and these black girls looked at me and her with a "🤬🤬🤬trader" we weren't even dating 🤷🏾‍♂️

[@nilevalleyafrican9451]

@JJ Kingman how !?

[@nilevalleyafrican9451]

@JJ Kingman thx Sherlock ༎ຶ‿༎ຶ

[@annetteskinner9652]

People have preferences ,no crime so stop hating.why would you want someone that doesn't want you is baffling to me.

[@allsmiles3281]

1. My side is is that I think it is beautiful for you to create and add to people who look like you. Yes it can still happen with whites but it is not the same. 2. From what I've experienced in corporate, the other group may be surrounded by the dominant group for substantial amounts of time, both at work and with colleagues after hours increasing the distance between his/her own 3. From my teen years into adulthood I had relatives, friends parents and so on encourage me to date whites! This added to my own cognitive dissonance, as I loved black men, but white men were very attracted to me in the workplace and at home. It wasn't until my years in higher ed when I became more aware of the situation that I saw other black men were attracted to me too, but I think it had to do with my increase in self-esteem. 4. No shade to our women, but being honest, some, me included at a time, discriminate VERY harshly against our men that are doing their best. We won't meet them where they are in growth, but would ignore flaws in the other group. 5. People are going to find love where they want to find it, and if it is with a white person it is what it is, I respect your differences, as I don't know the story behind it. 6. The media o.d.'s on the numbers, adding to the "white is right" concept and construct. Personally and spiritually, I need to be with my counterpart from my diaspora for many, many reasons, but that's just me

[@allsmiles3281]

***** Thank you for this segment. I believe that it stems from the double standards we place on black men and women from day one. You get labeled as being uppity, self-hating, money hungry etc. (applies to black men as well) from what I have experienced and observed over the years. Disclaimer, when I dated outside of my group, my self esteem was very low and thought they were the only group attracted to me. again assuming based on poor relationships with black men. In my opinion, I believe you can find love outside, but a lot venture off due to hurt feelings from the black men they have encountered in that place in time. Another thing I believe they are hesitant about is being misunderstood, or judged by the other group as a whole. They now have to re-adjust and filter certain things done and said to fit in, although this can happen with your own people. One extreme is now believing she has to bash men from her group to remain in the "safe zone" with the other group. You have to mentally prepare yourself, know and love who you are before taking flight

[@abrahambenisreal2448]

This is very simple, when a man is ready to get out there and date. He chooses from what is available. Enough said.

[@cizia69]

I agree with the guy with white pants

[@blacmanonrise1]

HE never spoke up what do you mean.

[@justcallmelola]

HA!

[@acegikm]

He was brilliant!

[@FenderUsa]

@@blacmanonrise1 woosh

[@callieford2228]

So refreshing to hear men converse without profanity or vulgar phrases!! Great job!😄❤

[@284Winchester]

“It was a discussion at work You don’t think that was real” 😂😂 I understand that comment 100% 😂😂

[@tamtammy2831]

He knew it was real..he wanted to test the water..even if it was set-up real..he didn't have to go..he was curious

[@elissacoleman8296]

First of all these men are FINE!! Regardless of their opinions it's great to hear them discuss this topic and speak so articulately about how they feel about it.

[@graceali-grap9919]

So, there's a show on tv called " married at 1st sight". season3 in the matchmaking session, the expert expressed consern that they were restricted in matching the black men because MOST of them said repeatedly that their preferences are to date outside their race. There is something to be said about the fact the some black men intentionally do not date black women. My thought.... it is the idea of something different that is very fascinating. All in all it still not worth making a big deal out of.

[@thebigfletchshow]

A Black woman said I ain’t shit and a white woman said I’m amazing

[@feefee8627]

Same thing black men said about me I'm not pretty not shit and the Mexican dude loves me

[@mikee4922]

At 4:41, my experience was noted: I've had only one Black woman show any interest in having a relationship with me. (The relationship ended because I needed to cancel a date we had planned, and she tried to order me to go.) I believe I understand why Black women aren't interested in me. Of the many possible reasons: I fit the nerd/hippie/geek description, am in the entertainment industry, and don't hold to any conventions and standards of others. While in high school, living in West Germany helped me to become very eclectic. I've not (yet) met a Black woman I felt compatible with. Most women I've ever had relationships with approached me...

[@16yearoldwhiteboy]

I love white women, black, Indian, latina, russian, british. you get the idea

[@16yearoldwhiteboy]

No lol that's not in order

[@hannah60000]

You mixed nationality, race, and cultural identities up. They're not the same thing. Interestingly, black men are the only ones who feel the need to proclaim they prefer others to their own, or in addition to their own.

[@ghorn1217]

That's because black women are the only group of women who make an issue out of who men date. Actually, I blame the men for thinking black women are owed an explanation.

[@mesamuel3376]

Chris Koro no choice.

[@franktate9873]

Let's be honest, You deal with your environment. If you live around people of other races and you are a Black Male you deal with the women that like you. Why would deal with women that show no interest in you? My wife is Asian. She was the one that showed me that she had my best interest in her heart. She was the one that showed me what real love is. There was no reason on this earth that I would turn down her love just because she is not Black. Only a fool would turn down someone as kind, understand, beautiful and willing to stand by your side and help you fight against this world no mater what it deals out to both of you! There is only one race. The HUMAN RACE. The sooner everyone learns that the sooner we will all learn to live as one!

[@christopherrogers5197]

Totally!!

[@Mrswissblue]

Why did they just get a group of people who have never been in an interracial relationship?