Why Do I Do What I Don’t Want To Do?

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Proverbs 31 Ministries with Lysa TerKeurst

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Why we do the things we don't want to do, and how do we overcome falling into the same habits and behaviors?
Learn from Lysa TerKeurst, Dr. Joel Muddamalle and Jim Cress in Episode 1 of this six-part series of Therapy & Theology titled I Want To Be More Self-Aware. Each week, we'll hear conversations providing insight on how we can live as the most healthy versions of ourselves.
00:00-1:29 Welcome
1:29-4:33 Taco Bell And Other Confessions
4:33-6:32 Why Do I Do What I Do?
6:32-13:18 Getting To The Heart Of Our Actions
13:18-18:50 Our Shoulds and Coulds
18:50-20:39 A Right Order Of Responsibility
20:39-27:06 Why Do I Keep Doing This?
27:06-31:29 What Am I Attaching My Hope To?
31:29-37:37 Getting Honest About What You Truly Want
37:37-39:42 The Goal Is Self-Awareness
Related Resources:
- Have you ever wondered, What's it really like to do life with me? Lysa TerKeurst put together a free resource, "What's It Like To Do Life With Me?" to help you find out! Through Bible teaching and honest assessments, this resource will help you grow in self-awareness and strengthen your relationships. Download here: proverbs31.org/read/resource-...
- Ready to take a personal next step in finding a Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances. Start your journey here. aacc.net
- Stay connected with Lysa TerKeurst, Jim Cress and Dr. Joel Muddamalle on Instagram. lysaterkeur...
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- Proverbs 31 Ministries reaches women in the middle of their busy days through free devotions; podcasts; speaking events; conferences; resources; Online Bible Studies; and training in the call to write, speak and lead others. Learn more by visiting our website! \
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@nicoles4257 Ай бұрын

i feel like you three are my friends in real life. thank you so much for this ministry

@user-jm8yw1xw8e Ай бұрын

Such a good episode, thank you! 👏

@fitnesslatinos 8 ай бұрын

“We get to do this.” Instead of “could” turns the relationship from a burden or duty to an opportunity.

@user-sc5qe8dy8q 9 ай бұрын

Thank you, Lysa, Joel, and Jim. You have no idea how much you all have helped me in the most difficult time of my life.

@Mea_Davis-Sotonade 9 ай бұрын

🙏🏽 ❤

@OldeWeth 9 ай бұрын

Me too!!❤

@lauritrotter2320 9 ай бұрын

One of the best teachings I have listened to on Therapy and Theology. Well done! Can’t wait for the next one.

@OfficialProverbs31Ministries 9 ай бұрын

We're so glad you liked it!

@annazabc 9 ай бұрын

Thank you!!! And I am so glad this series is back!!! So much of GOD's truth in just one episode... and yes JESUS Himself went through deep emotions and sorrow and also asked disciples around Him to stay with Him while He prayed (as in Mark 14:32-42 Amplified)... and we truly have a HIGH PRIEST who is able to empathise with us with us in every way because HE came down to earth as a man... and was equally tempted in every way (including under the sorrow and weight of the burden of our sins...) yet was able to endure without sin... (Hebrews 4:15) such an encouragement and comfort to know that our LORD went through all the same sorts of emotional turmoil and came out victorious... and likewise HE has paid the price for our sin and our pain and we are already victorious with HIM... in the mighty name of JESUS YESHUA. Amen 🙏🙏🙏

@pippa212 9 ай бұрын

Why do I agree to things and then cancel at the last minute. Still can’t figure it out cause at the time I say yes, it sounds like a good idea

@WildFire8000 9 ай бұрын

Oh gosh, I do the same thing!!!

@tracywalker9367 9 ай бұрын

Me too!!😮

@hulawahine1954 9 ай бұрын

I frequently do this 😮

@pippa212 9 ай бұрын

@@cgeorge-bq3fq well that’s awfully harsh. I hope you’re not a therapist

@Disciple-ofChrist 8 ай бұрын

I, all too often, have done this exact thing! :/ May be why I haven't really had any friends in more than several years! I didn't always do it, though. My mom has been like that for as long as I can remember. (she isn't a Christian, though.)

@Look_to_Jesus12 6 ай бұрын

I have learnt so much about myself in this lesson...almost as if I don't have to be so hard on myself for those white up to real lies i couldn't understand because i am a person of integrity so i wouldn't lie on a CV and i am believe in honesty...just couldn't understand why the rest.. THANKYOU FROM SOUTH AFRICA

@Silverfoxinjector 8 ай бұрын

Joel, Can I just say this is PRICELESS. I will NOT be able to visit Taco Bell without thinking about this episode and you! (😂Extra Fire Sauce!) Thank you for your honesty! I do anesthesia for a living. I have the privilege of caring for many people of all kinds. I say every day I will never judge a drug addict, and I won’t. Sugar and cravings are my downfall. I am thankful this is not illegal by the law, BUT it is ABSOLUTELY not what is best or what God desires for me when it is controlling me. :/ I am really grateful for the three of you. Thank you for spreading the word and for these thoughtful and deep discussions. I am in the midst of seeking God’s guidance. Weighing all the facts so that I may make a wise and God led decision regarding the trajectory of my entire family. It feels beyond heavy and I fear is taking me far too long. Betrayal, lies and abuse ran rampant in my marriage for a long time. I think I am recovering. I knew something was wrong in my marriage as I could feel it. I was desperately trying to uncover and learn, understand what was happening. I trusted and believed my spouse had my best interest at heart. It was not so as he was deceiving himself and lying and manipulating me. Years of erosion and breaking down of what my boundaries should have been. It was beyond awful and torture. First major financial and then sexual infidelity revealed. I’ve read so many books, counseled and done bible studies. My gut says this marriage must end and I must continue to seek God and healing and the truth. How do I know this is God speaking and not me wanting to run? I am simply completely and totally exhausted and at the end of me. My husband has apologized and stated, “I am sorry I betrayed you. I have not always been a good husband.” He is seeking God and his word, yet some of his actions do not line up with trying to heal but line up with still trying to fulfill something in him. (Choosing to make a large purchase without considering my opinion and our family. I do not want him riding a motorcycle. But maybe I am the one being controlling? Maybe I am part of the problem, attempting to manipulate.) I can only perceive that he has decided he is not IN this marriage but is OUT of this marriage. Yes Lysa, PEACE, SECURITY AND JOY is ALL I DESIRE>>>>. Interesting Lysa states this as I ask this question of myself. Those who I consider my board of directors all say enough. I must know in my heart I am doing the right thing. I am scared to death to hurt my children. 18 years of marriage… and so much hurt. I simply do not think I can undo or at this point move beyond all the deception. I can forgive and think I have to an extent. But fear, rage, sadness and fight or flight is right at my door. My heart racing and the distrust, and the lack of security. I realize this is WAY off topic here. But thank you to all of you and the work you are doing. Excellent.

@kimberlybaynard1017 7 ай бұрын

Thank you all very much!

@OfficialProverbs31Ministries 7 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching!

@soe0886 9 ай бұрын

Thank you for this word .

@tinkerchristoferson7672 9 ай бұрын

Excellent, thank you all SO MUCH!

@fitnesslatinos 8 ай бұрын

We keep doing things because we want the freedom to do it even if that “loss of freedom” is unfounded. True freedom is living in truth not hiding from it.

@fitnesslatinos 8 ай бұрын

Where do we attach our value is key!

@VictoriaWhite-xf4ch 9 ай бұрын

You guys are my Heroes thank you for being so spiritual

@kirabourne1242 9 ай бұрын

Thank you all for this

@OfficialProverbs31Ministries 9 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching, friend!

@monaperry2635 9 ай бұрын

I loved it! Why do we try to manage other people's feelings and emotions.

@user-friendly36 9 ай бұрын

Great conversation tonight.

@mimi-dh9bn 3 ай бұрын

Evaluate your 20%..that’s good!

@deborahburdzy5480 8 ай бұрын

Not just the "love pump" but I think the "faith pump" also (they are so interconnected aren't they?). God's desire is for to BELIEVE HIM...and out of true belief flows this consuming love and desire for Him and His desires, and what pleases him. (And lest we think he is a narcissistic egomaniac, we NEED to know and BELIEVE that what He desires and what pleases Him will ALWAYS ultimately be for our good and well-being.)

@deborahburdzy5480 8 ай бұрын

And processing our thoughts and feelings is good -- but doing it "with ourselves" I would not recommend -- I recommend processing it with God -- "I will praise the LORD, who counsels me." As we process with God -- prayerfully and patiently, looking into scripture, (and yes, I say journalling), the deceptions of our heart, our disordered thinking are less likely to advise us. We NEED the Lord's ears, eyes, and voice to oversee, and inform the process. P.S. This was a great video and teaching.

@OldeWeth 9 ай бұрын

All of the above Lysa

@BronzeGirl 9 ай бұрын

Lysa reminds me of Wonder Woman

@vynedvyne59 9 ай бұрын

Fantastic

@user-ui7mi1lj6f 9 ай бұрын

I know someone whose favorite chapter in the Bible is Romans 7 because this person feels that Paul gives him permission so to what he doesn't want to do. "See? PAUL does what he doesn't want to do! I'm good!" His continued actions that he didn't want to do destroyed our relationship. But he's good because he thinks Paul gave him permission. I asked why he didn't look at Roman's 6 and 8 to rightly imterpret these verses. He wouldn't do that. He had laser focus on this excuse.

@jeanwerschem3076 9 ай бұрын

Unfortunately your friend took scripture out of context to excuse his own sin. Another term for that is proof-texting. A person who interprets that scripture correctly will be grieved of his/her sin & search their heart for a way to overcome with God's help. Other believers that have worked through that particular sin can be an encouragement too.

@Carol-ps6yi 9 ай бұрын

I do the Taco Bell with snickers 😅😅😅😅....I eat them in my car and hide the wrapping...I don't know why I do it, because I'm an adult and I don't have to justify to anyone why I love snickers 😂😂😂

@OfficialProverbs31Ministries 9 ай бұрын

Snickers are very good!

@Silverfoxinjector 8 ай бұрын

I am Team Carol!

@Disciple-ofChrist 8 ай бұрын

I hide when I eat junk food. Maybe, because I am living a Keto (not diet, but a lifestyle). Sugar is addictive & taking a "break" to eat a chocolate cupcake with butter cream frosting that my mom made for my birthday about 11 days ago (although I'm a 40 year old Mom, myself). Then I talked her into buying a pumpkin roll & I ate almost the whole thing by myself! [I had avoided sugar for several months too 😢]