Stop the Shame Scripts Holding You Back |

All of us have facts that make up the story of who we are.
But we’re not just the sum total of these facts. There’s also the impact from these facts that live with us beyond the occurrence of the devastation, abuse or pain that happened to us. And in the middle of that impact, chances are there are some Shame Scripts holding us hostage from living in the freedom God so desires for us.
A Shame Script can simply be defined as a faulty belief or perception of self, others and/or God. Shame Scripts back us into isolation, making us imprisoned to lies like …
“You are unwanted.”
“You are an inconvenience.”
“No one really cares about you.”
“If you’re not performing or achieving something, you don’t have value.”
“You’re just not good enough.”
In the follow-up episode to “Good Guilt vs. Destructive Shame” in the newest Therapy and Theology series, Lysa TerKeurst, Jim Cress and Joel Muddamalle dive into how Shame Scripts reveal themselves personally in their lives, but they also discuss practical tips and tools for how we can find our way out of the shame caving us in.
In this episode, you will be equipped to:
Live true to your most healed, healthy, whole, holy, surrendered-to-God-self and not the version of yourself that’s haunted and held back by shame.
Replace scripts of shame for words of life by uncovering the truth found in Genesis of how God really made us and what He made us for.
We pray this conversation blesses you, friend!
Related Resources:
Gain healthier ways to process your pain and learn to see your situations through truth-based perspectives with Lysa TerKeurst’s new devotional, Seeing Beautiful Again: 50 Devotions to Find Redemption in Every Part of Your Story. Get your copy here:
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Ready to take the next step in finding a Christian counselor? Here’s a good place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances: American Association of Christian Counselors www.aacc.net
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I could cry I'm so grateful for this podcast. I get SO much from y'all. Thank you, thank you! Shame scripts are a huge obstacle for me. Isolation yes.

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Not wanting to do a job I am not cut out for. Know what I mean.??

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We're glad these videos have been helpful to you, Tarena!

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Where I live in AZ I'm able to get free counseling once per week because I have a limited income. Maybe you can look into it too? It's not christian counseling, but it helps a bunch. But... MAN these videos have helped me so much! I share them with so many friends! God bless!

[@TNLYITALY]

If it’s attacking who you are that’s a shame script. If it’s attacking what you are doing, it might be a conviction preventing further sin…. So good

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God, Holy Spirit, Jesus....thankyou x infinity for bringing these 3 precious people and podcast on my path at exactly your timing.....thankyou for what the 3 of you are doing.....PS: i'm from South Africa....we don't have this here yet....but I pray God has shown me my calling eventually...52 yrs old and learning such great lessons and transformation, which I need to pay forward.

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I'm so thankful for the ministry that comes from Lisa, Joe and Jim. I just started the video and when I heard of Lisa's vision to include therapy for those who want therapy but can't afford it, it was an aha! moment. I am one of those people. I had been asking God for therapy for months, but just don't have the money for it right now. I am in tears because I realize just in this moment that He provided it for me through the therapy and theology videos. 😢 This is yet another reminder of God's faithfulfulness and His love towards me. So thankful! I wish I could perceive His love quicker!

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We're so glad this is helpful to you, Jackie!

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I absolutely LOVE these segments. Keep the "Therapy & Theology" series going!!! It has been so helpful and insightful in my life. Blessings to you all! God is using all three of you in a wonderful way to reach thousands of people.

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Its not just for people who can't afford but more importantly for me, at least is linking therapy with God. Because of my abusive childhood & dysfunctional marriage, I was angry with God for not doing anything & the church for keeping me from therapy due to bad doctrine & my trauma filter. With help from my therapist & your program, I'm now seeing God through attachment theory & I'm seeing scripture differently so seeing Him in a true light & I'm coming back to Him. I still have an issue with the church still but I know most people are just clueless about mental health.

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We're thankful these videos have been helpful for you, Louise, and are praying for your continued healing.

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Praying!

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So important - how do I hold accountable without inducing shame.

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I'm trying this now with my parents. And I really don't believe I'm getting anywhere.

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Thank you for the best therapy.

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Wow. God is Good! God is Good all the time!. Today's Encouragement for Today (1/30/2024) - talked about 'Shame Doesn't Get the Final Say'. And this morning, I got on KZbin and this Podcast video was on my home page! God is speaking to me loud and clear - ministering and revealing in me what is not of Him. These podcasts are just a God send and always on time with whatever I am dealing with. Thank you P31 team.

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I have felt so alone for the last couple of months, because of shame, guilt and a closed mind and mouth, so happy for this

[@applefeliciaonly]

Thankful for this woman and this ministry who has helped me in learning to be confident and hopeful in Gods promises and commands for what is a healthy relationship and what is not. There is a lot of confusion for Christian women I believe and so I’m thankful this is based on biblical wisdom and lays out exactly how and why.

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As a person who can't afford therapy, I deeply appreciate the love and effort that you all pour into this show. It has changed my life. Thank you thank you thank you.

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We're so glad this helped you!

[@candaceroberts1514]

Oh my goodness, when Joel talks about how assumptions may be the sign of a lack of compassion. Conviction! Wow. I’ve been told that I assume too much and he just outed the enemy in that habit that I have. Now I can recognize and move into compassion. Wow. So good. Thank you all so much for this stuff!

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Thank you for sharing your takeaway, Candace!

[@daniellelampman]

If we would just look at everyone passing us by as image bearers, but a broken humanity (separated from God because of sin), then we as followers of Christ would be led, propelled, to share the good news with them to see them reconciled to their right place with God. Knowing who God created them to be. Image barers. Sons and daughters of the most high. Loved. Embraced.

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Y’all probably don’t take requests but I was curious if y’all might consider discussing any issues related to combat veterans? Post traumatic stress/moral injury? Of course these concepts apply to non veterans as well. 🙏🏻 My dad, two brothers, and my husband (WIA) are all combat veterans with about 14 deployments between them. They all suffer deeply. Their combat experiences and experiences with friends KIA and those who have committed suicide have only increased my passion to serve veterans. I am currently a counseling graduate student at Liberty. There just is not enough readily available information/resources (although it is increasing) for them - especially counselors with a firm foundation in Christ who are equipped to help them with their unique experiences. You guys have both theology and therapy behind you which is already 2/3 of the way there, I had to ask! :)

[@maureenwalker9411]

Thank you. Praying for God to redeem my shame scripts I have projected on others already. And redeem a relationship I may have recently sabotaged

[@cre_maksi5108]

This is how I felt a year ago, God is healing me day by day.

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Can you recommend a good ministery in Oklahoma!

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Thank you all so much for bringing this about. ❤️ I wasn't searching for this BUT GOD knew.

[@gracewarrior12]

I just have realized that I am living in trauma from my childhood and I am 44yrs old and still am not only stuck living with my parents that created this trauma but I am having a very horrible problem with drugs. My father who has narcissism qualities and he stopped talking to me and has ignored me for years unless I do something wrong. And my mother has always said that he loves me. Omgosh no he doesn't. But I just have learned about narcissism and complex ptsd and also how I have borderline personality disorder. Just learned about it like a month or 2 go bc of a trauma bond relationship that I am in with my last relationship. I can't even get it out what I want to say. However I'm so depressed that I can't get out of it. Please pray for me.

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Thanks you all. As a Psychologist and Life Coach, getting people to understand that awareness, responsibility and accountability are all the great fruits of life.

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Thanks for watching!

[@leonapietsch4367]

People need to be held accountable for their actions. My Ex is back at Church bragging about his girlfriend who is a married Woman and no one speaks truth to him. He started the affair while we were still married. He lied and cheated during our 42 year marriage. It hurts that he gets away with it.

[@amandasturgeon90]

Thank you Lysa Terkeurst for coming up with the idea of Therapy and Theology because I can't afford counseling. I listen to these series and am also grateful for the podcasts that you have done with Leslie Vernick too!

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We're so glad this helped you!

[@100americanmade]

This is literally making my stomach churn hearing my shame "from inside my head" spoken out loud on this program.

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This podcast is from the mouth of God speaking into our lives. Thank you so much, it's helped me tremendously.

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We’re glad you’re here!

[@Nerfhunter3000]

This podcast is huge. Thank you all for being vulnerable and even showing us what a shame script looks like. I think our shame scripts cause us to be a self fullfilling prophecy. My husband said he was always invisable growing up. But he is incredibly closed off. So then he never shares anything at all. He is so quiet and never contributes to the conversation which makes him invisble even at home with my kids and in our marriage. My kids always talk to me and not to my husband because he seems closed off which makes him feel invisable.

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I love all 3 of you!!! ❤❤❤ God bless you!!

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So true, tx for the vision to minister to those who cant afford nor know there's good Christian counseling!

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I need this because our area is in the bible belt but guess what? Not many true Christian counselors in our area. We have a tremendous need!

[@kimberlydoan8231]

These are sooo good! Wish I found them sooner. Listened to way too many non biblically based things until I got here. Please do more! This is so needed! ❤️

[@thegraceofgodistheanswerto8587]

Love all 3 of them and what they bring to the table!

[@g3nkiikyandii]

its interesting the analogy to dust (which makes us feel insignificant, small and even dirty) vs God's breath (which gives us meaning, purpose and a future). I sometimes still struggle with self-condemnation, and carrying the weight of shame, and it's still a journey reminding myself that God created me in His image, and came to redeem and restore me.

[@belindgo]

Always get so much out of this. You all are much appreciated. Thank you!!

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Thank you for watching, Belinda!

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I pray that this is picked up by a major network🙏🏽...Once again some really great nuggets to take away 🙌🏽

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Amazing channel and words is wisdom needed in our broken world

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This is a great team. I am so grateful for your transparency and expertise. I know that there are so many of us who are being helped by this series.

[@leonapietsch4367]

I came from a broken home. My Mother was divorced twice. So I want everything to go perfect. Can’t handle when things go wrong. Then pow got gaslighted and pushed away by my Ex while he lied and cheated with a married Woman on our street. Left and felt like a nobody. Healing now ❤🙏✝️

[@laurahill5832]

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Thank you so much for these resources. Sadly quality therapy is only for the wealthy and that is the truth. So most of us who really really need it will never be able to speak with a good therapist. These videos will be all the help we can get (which is still limited because wounding happens in relationship so deep healing and wholeness really only comes in relationship as well).

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Thank you! Great insight, wisdom, guidance and encouragement! Also, I heard you use the word "old" a couple times in describing yourself. I read Joyce Meyers book, "Aging Without Getting Old" that has helped change my mindset in that regard. Thank you for all you are and do!

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Love Therapy & Theology!

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I have what is sometimes ANGER when I’m being falsely accused. I have a response that is even shocking for myself. I’m getting better at controlling it but I have triggers I still must look at:)

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I Thank all of you 💜 I appreciate your talks

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Thank you so much!

[@waterfalls4518]

Shame has a foundation of fear that perpetuates it.

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[@wiigurl1]

This is perfect!! Shame script vs conviction..wow that's enlightening!! Also, physically speaking over those horrible thoughts is a constant battlefield. Thank you for these sessions 🦋

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Thank you for watching, Veronica!

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@Thomas Stewart absolutely

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Thank you so much!

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I wanted to say thank you so much for these videos. I have learned so much! They have helped me tremendously. And as your therapist said I hav enot been able to find a good Christian therapist in my area and it can be expensive. These teachings are a HUGE blessing in my life. Thank you so much!

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These are so so so amazing! Thank you

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Thanks for watching, Andrea!

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❤Lysa and your team is an answer prayer 🙏 am so glad that you didn’t let your hurts rob you from Gods breath on you and to share it with us! 😮am so amazed of your messages. This is a top of the list of example of how God is good and wants to heal us all. Your books are amazing as well I can see Gods hand on your visions. You have brought a new set of eyes and steps to see myself and get healed. Thank You to both Joel and Jim what a blessing and gift to enter into 2023 am a different women. Thank you JESUS.

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Thanks for watching, Teresa!

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I don't feel good or good enough because of things I did as a young person. I'm struggling with forgiving what Hod has already forgiven

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So good!

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I really enjoyed and appreciated this message! Thank you Lysa, Joel, & Jim!

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Thank you for watching, Colleen.

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So many AMEN...I love this Ministry & this section, are ya'll gonna make more?

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These sessions are so helpful and a blessed rest for my soul. God bless all and your ministries

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Thank you for tuning in, Karen!

[@pamelamiller355]

When I say it (my shame) outloud it gives it life. I just don't want it to have.

[@ntordel]

To become accountable...do you not need the shame to sear our conscience so that we take responsibility to recognize what we are doing wrong and take steps to allow the holy spirit to lead us towards God?

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Very helpful content, thank you.

[@smjrose313]

The idea that so many people have about, "Well, you're a Christian, so you should be nice," is really flawed. We are to represent God to the world. Do people really think God was "nice" all the time. If He didn't agree with something, He spoke up and was blunt about it. He didn't sugarcoat or fear hurting someone's feelings. He spoke truth...THE TRUTH, in the hopes of saving a soul.

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Thank you so much for these videos!

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Thank you so much for those series❤really helpfull on so many levels

[@akhiker01]

Joel.. Love the ESV 😂✝️

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Enjoy your podcast

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Thanks for watching!

[@Chupie77777]

I'm a covert narcissist, and its hard to see the goodness of God sometimes. I deal with shame, but I'm not quite sure exactly why. How do you reconcile "You are good enough," with the fact that we are sinners that are not good enough? I thought the point of the cross was to say, "You aren't good enough. But God is good enough for you." I'm not asking to start a fight. I'm genuinely curious, because I have a really hard time with shame. I'm affraid of becoming arrogant

[@Tass1919]

I too am afraid of pride. I’ve never heard anyone admit they are narcissistic. That’s a little confusing for me as I’m told narcissist don’t know they are narcissistic. Anyway, I was shamed and abused my entire childhood and then also in marriage and in church. Every time I start feeling good about myself I sabotage it with all the shame thoughts and mostly I say to myself “ who do u think you are, don’t be so prideful, sit down and shut up”

[@ladybug915]

Lisa my shame script is just like yours, and the imposter syndrome too! Mine is everyone else is better than me. So we ALL have shame and low self esteem sometime mine gets very loud I'm not a much of a woman as others not girly enough don't have a gang of friends cause I don't fit in due to trauma I don't trust easily too old and useless in comparison to young perk women. I have C-PTSD I've survived horrible mind shattering attacked things I've seen repeatedly my mother was a covert Narc then I Marie done who horribly abuse day for years psychically and emotionally he his borderline sociopath

[@peterdeneke8401]

I had fear of relationships because of a wrong belief that woman will treat me badly

[@melyndafrazer1962]

Lisa, im sinking , I’m barely existing

[@elizabethparsons3001]

I want to know what Joel was going to say about Jobs response to the friends. I felt like he never got to finish what he was saying and I was really into it :/

[@vynedvyne59]

Light in the darkness

[@ibico907]

Sounds like the enemy is the ultimate narcissist 🤔🤔🤔🤔

[@terrysherwood6000]

WOW.....ME TOO😢

[@leonapietsch4367]

Yes Satan comes to deceive, divide and destroy and my Ex let Satan do an excellent job on that.

[@myrnadiaz1772]

I am enough!

[@shannonjones7890]

"counterfeit echo called shame" wow

[@Chende22]

Wow, I really needed to hear this. I’ve realized about myself that if I view someone a certain way I will speak to them a certain way and it’s not always kind. This has made me realize what I need to change within myself to treat people as Christ would based on the value He has already given them despite how I feel about them. We are not just dust and broken off bone. We are image bearers. 🤍🤍🤍