Why Do I Love the Way That I Love: The 4 Attachment Styles Explained

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

Thank you for having me! Mel is an incredible interviewer and a force of nature

[@jordanward881]

I hope this message makes it to Thais! You are truly an angel of our time when it comes to behavioral health and wellness. As a long time member of PDS I can’t thank you enough for how you’ve helped me heal through some incredibly difficult time. Thank you for your work and sharing you knowledge with the world! I hope this brings more people to Integrated Attachment Theory!

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

This is so nice to read Jordan and fills my heart! ❤ Thank you for your generous comment!@@jordanward881

[@Pr3stss]

Bob made a cameo! I love it 😂♥️

[@carrieace5884]

This was an awakening session. I have deeply gone inward working on myself. I continue to study myself, and have been reflecting g for a good 5 years now. I has given me a deeper understanding why I reacted to lessons (circumstances) along my journey. Thank you both! It's been hard to put things into words to my partner. We are celebrating 23 years of marriage. It has been one hell of a rollercoaster, but have facing adversity together in our own way. Taken alot of patience, and compassion.

[@jennsteele57]

Sooo good to see you here!! I hope this means you’ll be on the other podcasts I watch regularly! Super excited for you!!

[@MandyJRoss]

You are whole. You are worthy. You are enough. And you are so loved. The inner child in me is sending your inner child a squeezer hug and love. Your history does not determine your destiny, you do. Take care. You deserve the best and I pray you receive it.♥️

[@willow1698]

Girl I could be a mass murderer you don't know me!!!

[@Yellowspider1776]

Why would just these words bring me tears?

[@willow1698]

@@Yellowspider1776idk, it's not like she's talking to you

[@Michael_3dward_art]

Thank you!

[@Michael_3dward_art]

@@Yellowspider1776because it is what we have been dying to hear our whole lives!🙏

[@lianavibes]

Protect this woman at all costs. Thais Gibson & the Personal Development School are life savers. She is an international treasure! ✔️💯💯💯

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

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[@Regina.Clarke]

Amen! Completely changed my life for the better!!!

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

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[@Sacredview]

So are you. And each of us… Been beating myself up for years with insecurities. I’m over it. I don’t want to lose my wife and kids and I will fight for them. That means fighting to be self confident and attract the people who are naturally attracted to me.

[@labart926]

🕗 🕗 🕗 7😊😊😊😊the

[@jordanward881]

I literally never comment on post but to see the two people who brought me out of the darkest place I have ever been after finding myself in a relationship with a narcissist. Between really embracing the High Five habit and the Let Them theory and all of the amazing resources at PDS I can’t explain how you have both transformed my life! Thank you both for everything you do! This was the Christmas gift I didn’t even know I wanted. Wishing you both many blessings and again…thank you! You are truly SAVING LIVES. PS…Thais’s work was what finally pulled me out of 15 years of active addiction to opioids in a way I never thought possible so when I say you are saving lives…I mean it!

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

This is wonderful to read Jordan, thank you for sharing ❤

[@Portia620]

❤🙏. Glad you never gave up!!! Life can be so dang difficult and we walk thru hell for so long and when we conquer our fears and traumas and additions to become more healthy it’s amazing! ❤️ sending love and light! 🙏

[@faridaaminy9734]

Congratulations on being sober, I'm not sure if that's what it's called. Do you mind sharing what or how it helped you beat the addiction to opioid? If you don't mind me asking?

[@jordanward881]

@@faridaaminy9734 my apologies for the delayed response! I am just now seeing the notification for this! That is a great question! Unfortunately I don’t have a great answer as I feel the process of overcoming addiction is truly unique to everyone…and maybe even less of a great answer when I say honestly even with almost 5 years of sobriety it is a war that I’m still and likely always will wage. I will say this battle is unique to everyone but if I had to describe the turning point for me it was when the the pain of battling withdrawal daily became more of a problem to me than the “quick answer”. My brain had to really believe that the “pain” of withdrawal was AND the cost of literally and figuratively of taking pills was not as bad as continuing the cycle of addiction. I also happened to find myself in a position where I was able to move to a new state due to a job opportunity my partner had so the timing and everything just aligned. Add to that, that I found PDS and was able to do the work to identify and meet all of the needs internally I was outsourcing to pills or people and that really pushed me over the edge. With that said, that was as a process that had A LONG run way and most of all I had to learn to forgive myself and become the person I had been looking for to help “change my life”! It truly is a brain disorder and I was at the right point in life with the right opportunities present! My apologies as I know that doesn’t really answer your question but I hope in some way this helps!

[@WomanofGod_1]

I have an anxious attachment style. The guy I'm talking to has a secure attachment style. I had a cycle of dating narcistic, cheating men. I noticed that I was naturally beginning to self-sabotage. I noticed how unhealthy it was to want to hear from him 24/7. But also, how emotionally unstable it made me feel. His patience and explaining that sometimes he needs time for himself or to get things done. I also started journaling, working out consistently, and putting more energy into myself. At 27 years old, I have never felt this regulated. It is definitely easier said than done! But we owe it to ourselves and the people we love to heal. So that we aren't draining them or pushing them away.

[@lidiarivera9015]

I’m

[@amyhoggard5071]

This just blows my mind. I always thought I was an anxious attachment, but in reality I am the fearful avoidant. Wow

[@mariayates1966]

OMG…I feel the same!

[@pjharii]

You read ATTACHED by Amir? I too. This video still helps after reading that book?

[@iamkxtv]

@@pjhariiI’m right in the middle of the book. Both are extremely helpful. Good luck on your journey!

[@riocchile9280]

@@iamkxtvhi where i can buy the book?

[@deedeemonceaux]

I’m feeling the same! Anxiously avoidant here.

[@DebbieDavis-y9j]

It hurts to imagine life without my boyfriend. I never thought it would come to this point where I might have to let go. I know this may not be the right place to share this, but I feel like I’m gradually losing myself, and I don’t know what to do. I’m holding tightly to the beautiful moments we shared, and I sincerely hope he finds happiness.

[@DebbieDavis-y9j]

Wow, this really gives me hope. How can I get in touch with Father Tosin?

[@DebbieDavis-y9j]

Thank you so much for the suggestion; it means more to me than you know.

[@moths.for.valentine]

hi, i hope you are doing alright. I know this is not what you want to hear, but if you feel like you are losing yourself because you lost a relationship, that is a clear sign to look inward at what is missing. I say this with all the love in the world. Just a few days ago who i thought was my life partner broke up with me. It was very sudden, and very unexpected. I have not been single for 6 years, i was always in a relationship with someone. What i now realise is that I always felt the need to be in a relationship because i was looking for validation, love, a sense of safety, that was lacking in my life. And if you're anything like me you'll probably relate when i say when someone who i felt safe with left me (even though they were a bad person) the world might as well have crumbled around me. What i want you to think about is 1. differentiate how you feel about him versus how he makes you feel 2. try to understand WHY you feel like you are losing yourself, as it could mean he was giving you some sense of love or security you don't have without him. We often crave external validation or safety from others because it comes from a place of insecurity and please believe me when i say i am not trying to come from a place of "i know better than you". This is an absolute epiphany i've had myself, i was always in relationships because i did not make myself feel safe and i was unable to validate myself, which are basic needs of humans, so i went looking for them in other people. This is by no means easy. But i do hope it gives you some peace. I also want you to reflect if you really want someone back who has left you. they have made their decision to leave. I hope you know you deserve a love where they choose to stay, and choose you. Even if that deserving love is you choosing yourself

[@alexandrasandraspiteri007]

I went through same thing I miss him so much I’m fearful avoidant he was dismissive he never gave me a chance at least I’m willing to work on my traumas he chose to not come back amd have my back like I always had his I do believe and have faith though that they could come back love him forever ❤❤

[@moths.for.valentine]

@@alexandrasandraspiteri007 don't sit around waiting like a dog, have some respect for yourself

[@ZENergy888]

After awakening and learning new morning routines, I've learned I need about 3 hours before work to tear down, build up, journal, decipher dreams, pray, meditate ascend, and raise my vibration. 😂😂 sometimes learning is so responsibilitating 😂😂err something like that.

[@MarissaNaashon-r5i]

Right!!!😅

[@kaitlyntenters9283]

I have been applying the let them theory to help reach more secure attachment in relationships: They don’t want to text me for a few days? Let Them. They don’t want to meet my family? Let them. They don’t want to go on dates? Let them! Then I get to let me choose if this is the right dynamic for me!

[@darthyoda216]

When Thais Gibson started to explaining 'avoidant attached' the tears started flowing.

[@ayand.3174]

I love Thais! She literally helped me grow in so many areas of my life. Growing up in an East African home, where the only emotion we knew to express was anger, and expressing your needs or boundaries was a taboo, Thais wisdom has helped me to literally reparent myself at the age of 47. I’m a Somali-American woman, professionally successful, but who grew up in an enmeshed, codependent, parentifying culture. I never knew I could say “no” and feel no guilt or shame, honoring my boundaries. I’m grateful for all I’m learning and applying from Thais classes. Thank you! ❤

[@SuprEmpth]

That’s awesome

[@HH-gv8mx]

She talks wayyyy too fast

[@bobbybangura5016]

As a West African American I can certainly relate. Thank you for sharing. I wish you the best in your journey and hope to be the best you can be.

[@kimwalkermitchell6199]

This is excellent. Should be taught to us in the same manner of “love languages”. These two methods should be taught in schools - life principles.

[@upstaged]

Thais is a miracle worker. Not only will she thoroughly and compassionately explain why you are the way you are and how that came to be, she’ll show you how to heal from it in actionable ways. You’ll also learn what your personal needs are and how to meet them yourself so as to keep your proverbial bucket full. And that’s just the beginning. Cannot recommend PDS more. It absolutely changed my life.

[@TheHermitTeller]

I have been following Thais Gibson's work on KZbin for years and have been part of her Personal Development School too. Her work and the courses she provides in her school are life changing! They are such empowering tools for anyone to have if you really wish to deeply learn about who you are, build self-compassion and find more satisfaction in the different areas of your life. Essentially you are building a better relationship with yourself and as a byproduct, naturally everything else just fell into place because I could recognise and communicate my needs, I knew what I wanted and my vision for my future looked so much clearer. I am always recommending her videos and her work to people! ❤

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

Thank you so much for your kind words about The Personal Development School! The team and I were overjoyed to read your comment ❤ thank you

[@MustangCely]

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[@SaraPeria-bb1ez]

Honestly, one of the best episodes I have seen so far! I have to re-watch it several times and take notes 😂

[@angelaeverett8983]

Oh my goodness I am dismissive avoidance and my husband is so frustrated with me. He just wants to know what I need, and I literally have had no clue how to ask for help or how to clearly see what I need. Thank you so much for this! It's possible for him to see who I really am now. It's been so frustrating for him and at times he blows his top (yells) and I shut down then all that negative self talk comes back. So exhausting to be in my head. Thank you Mel😂❤

[@kitty2doggyMeow]

Yes I agree. Anxious people often abandon themselves, also known as "losing your identity", as commonly referred to because they give their own power away when they put so much into relationships with the other person (often the avoidant type). The anxious person gives and gives and relies on the avoidant, hoping to also gain in return. It can come off as clingy, but as you said it derives from abandonment.

[@TuesdaysTarot]

36:40 Repitition plus emotion CAN REPROGRAM! 43:43 Dissmivie avoidant respond really good to positive re-enforcement and very negatively to negative reinforcement! (which of course is what happens when with a Anxious!! - they take every little thing as criticism - even when its not

[@gemg1610]

This was a huge problem in my last relationship. I now finally understand what was going wrong!

[@OptimisticMaya]

I have already commented here but I just have to add having rewatched this again (twice in one day) .. Thais Gibson has a Phenomenal ability to to break down the science and theory in a very compassionate and informative way with very practical and tangible tips. THANY YOU Mel Robbins and Thais Gibson 🙌 !!!

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

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[@truckwomen1]

I Agree you need to listen to this podcast more than once. There is SO Much Information 👍🏻💚

[@Peggysmusic]

Totally agree! I've already listened/watched 3 times and plan to listen a 4th time!

[@baggladyjayy]

My two favorite people in the mental health community coming together ‼️❤️👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@Tracymcgrath-p3e]

Yaaaassss❤❤❤ I’m 50 and this info would’ve been wicked valuable at age 30😂😂 xo I cried right away listening to this. Powerful interview

[@realitywins-do5hj]

I feel the same , so important information IMO 🤗

[@smith2648]

Thais is the OG and the best at explaining attachment theory because she understands it the most. I've been following her and others who aren't as good as her for years, and I'm happy to see her on this podcast!

[@pitafren]

Mel Robbins + Thais Gibson = Mel Gibson. Some very important information I needed to transmit.

[@kippyc98]

🤣🤣🤣

[@ragnellsnow3068]

😂😂

[@xiuhongli8588]

😂 genius

[@sammiba90]

Thais changed my life, she gave me a level of awareness that transformed the way I looked at all my relationships. So happy to see her on your show.

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

❤❤❤

[@mequable]

Thais Gibson and Heidi Priebe are the best sources for understanding attachment styles. Attachment theory has gone a long way from the initial research with babies decades ago.

[@kerryharrison2258]

Hi Mel, I wanted to thank you from the bottom of my heart for the wonderful content of your videos on KZbin and your sublime Podcasts but, most important of all is, I lost my mum in June and she was the only person to tell me that she loved me every day. Now, when I hear you say this to me when you are signing off is the most heartbreaking and, at the same time, most beautiful thing I get to hear, and so, from the bottom of my heart, in case no one tells you today, I love you and I believe in you and thank you xx

[@kylahyland7048]

I am so happy to see the two women I look up to strongly have come together for the community ❤❤

[@jennsteele57]

Same!!!!🎉

[@kacake]

Self - evidence you are worthy of love Others - evidence other people can love you Repetition + emotion = 21 days to make a new habit

[@DestinyA83]

1:06:30 When you said, "Tell me your favorite childhood experience" It actually brought me to tears...... I don't have any.... At least nothing i can remember

[@ninaaustin5719]

I can’t remember one either.

[@texaspuddin3781]

Same here.

[@leahsoto4499]

I struggle with this as well & cried at the end when Mel said “if no one told you today, you are loved, you are worthy”…I’m so stuck on the fact that my mother REFUSED to say “I love you” back to me & would not hug me. Ugh. I learned today that I am not anxiously attached as I thought, but fearful avoidant (drawn to the dismissive avoidant who then makes me anxious 😖). I know the key is to love myself & not abandon myself…let the reprogramming begin 🙏🏽

[@aksheykalra]

Look at me writing a comment on a KZbin video but... reading your comment really made me teary because the same... never understood how people have these memories of their very young childhood

[@erikacruz4609]

As a therapist, this was the best explanation of attachment styles. Thank you Thais for opening up my eyes.

[@Yeahitsme6969]

I love hearing all of this. No matter what attachment style I am - I do not want to display ANY of the negative attributes to any of those attachments.

[@SusanGauthier-b7k]

nice video. Not being with my partner, whom I've been dating for three years and whom I love so much, feels like a nightmare to me. All I've ever wanted is for us to have kids of our own and be happy.

[@PatriciaDRamey]

I'm so sorry to hear you lost your partner. I can understand why you're not happy, and I can relate because I almost lost mine too. However, I was fortunate to get him back with the help of someone online.

[@SusanGauthier-b7k]

Please, who is this person online you are talking about, so I can check him out if he can help me?

[@PatriciaDRamey]

his know as Father amiosa and I’m sure he can help you too.

[@SusanGauthier-b7k]

Ok, I will check him out now. Thanks.

[@jennsteele57]

So excited to see Thais Gibson!!! If you are not in the PDS school, run! Don’t walk! Once you learn under Thais all other self improvement learnings will fall into place for more full secure life. Great seeing you off PDS, Thais!! 🥰

[@eloramac6203]

I’m a therapist & hypnotherapist I work with attachment theory & our subconscious for many years. For me hypnosis was the missing link to heal their core wounds in the subconscious. Great podcast guys ♥️

[@nehalinga]

So happy for Thais to get the recognition! She has had a major impact on my life! ❤️❤️❤️

[@Regina.Clarke]

As soon as I saw Thais in the thumbnail, I knew I had to watch! She is incredible and has changed my life in an accelerated manner. I’m forever grateful! I’m not a fearful avoidant anymore.🙌🏾🎉

[@Lauren_Marie969]

The way she explained the attachments is mind blowing. It’s made me look at myself and others in my life completely different and better equipped to handle things

[@davidllombart380]

Thanks! This was to easy to understand and was the last piece of the puzzle I needed to put it all together. Can we get this is Spanish? It would help soooo many of my Spanish speaking family.

[@ambartrend5740]

Yes !! The same I thought today!! YOU TUBE should add spanish subtitles❤❤ ASAP!! how on earth it is no available yet?

[@alyshantaylor]

I have NEVER heard of Mel Robbins until recently and I'm so glad because I am taping into all these old wounds that no one has ever been able to help me with before. I'm grateful to God the ultimate algorithm for leading me to this because it has been the launch I needed to deal with my mess and transform it

[@CreativePolyglot]

This video and the introduction to Thais Gibson is a game changer. Thank you Mel and Thais. I’ve literally spent 50 years working off of the wrong self perception. ❤ Ms. Gibson is a unicorn.

[@ZalmanNelson]

Really encouraged to see great speakers like Mel talking about the topic of attachment and growth and relationships, and emphasizing as well the relationship with oneself. For years, and after thousands of hours of working with people, they go hand in hand. One's personal growth which means building a relationship with themselves on an emotional level, directly translates into greater success in relationships with others, absolutely including attachment style. In fact, I would say that anxious or unhealthy attachment styles should be seen by people like a check engine light to look inside and get to work more on connecting with themselves, and not as some sign that they are damaged and broken beyond repair.

[@deboraregner2822]

Si what do we do when they pull away????

[@ZalmanNelson]

@@deboraregner2822 get closer to yourself, practice securely being there for you

[@healingwell25]

Thais changed my life she is an amazing human being.

[@jinglejammer]

Thanks! I follow Thais Gibson and PDS for all of her insight/advice but your interview format presents it in a different and impactful way!

[@creepypisces83]

My goodness....I knew I had am anxious attachment due to parents having to deal with my very sick little brother at the time. BUT to hear this woman describe me to my very core, triggers, love language, dating habits ect is astonishing! Listening and eager to continue my healing journey ❤

[@reginastano2527]

Thank you so much for having Thais on your show Mel! Thais has changed my life! She is a trailblazer on integrated attachment theory and no one out there brings it into lamens terms like her. I've been a member in her school for close to 3 years.I was 80 percent DA .and am now 70 percent Secure and attracted the right man into my life ..Fantastic show. Thank you

[@CoffeeStainedCanvases]

I had a therapist touch on this with me and then she ended up leaving the practice. Im so grateful to find this video so I can learn more. I have a lot of work to do and I hope I can find another therapist that can help me with this. I'm so grateful to the both of you for providing this gold treasure of knowledge that we all need to know xxx

[@swarovskikris1]

Don’t worry about therapy. Do her online courses through PDS and you’ll save so much time and money and radically improve your life ❤

[@Mollyjak4]

10000% I worked on the school for about a year and I have done a lot of previous counseling and group counseling and nothing has compared to the coursework. Plus it was super affordable and she does a free two week trial so you can see what it’s all about.

[@wangjing3517]

19:00 the relationship between consciousness and subconsciousness is soooooooo true. Almost all the time, subconsciousness always wins.

[@emey444]

When i tell you this school saved my LIFEEEEE, i am in control of my emotions and thoughts and reactions. Used to be a anxious preoccupied always seeking validation and insecure. I am now FREE!!! AND LOVED!!!!

[@monicalee8599]

I’ve taken several courses at the Personal Development School back in 2020-2021 and they completely changed my relationships and how I love myself. This stuff is life changing if you’re willing to look inside and want to change.

[@hollyrobinson488]

✨OMG I can’t believe you have Thais Gibson on your show!! I’ve been a student / member of the personal development school for years now and absolutely love it and love Thais!! You have no idea how excited I am to watch this video and am so glad you’re helping to get the word out about her and how she can help people better themselves significantly! ✨

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

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[@monthirayimsaman912]

i love how Mel put them into examples in real life , i can see the real picture from that. Love you

[@abbyconecoaching]

Oh my god! This episode just changed my life! I will be listening to this over and over! This brought so much clarity as to why I am the way I am! Thanks so much Mel for bringing this guest on! I appreciate you both!🙏🏼

[@aruna321123]

Oh my Goodness!! My mom is the anxious avoidant type. She’s the nicest sweetest person you know, but will never prioritize herself!!! She has always been last even to herself!

[@chessc.3407]

Mel: Your last words: I love you, I believe in you.. made me tear up as I was putting extra makeup for work because I cried myself to sleep. Thank you for what you do. ❤

[@savannahnalls2099]

I love seeing my favorite thought leaders collaborate like this!!!! Thias Gibson changed my life as well.

[@ribz747]

Thais is awesome!💖💖 I was.a fearful avoidant who became much more securely attached thanks to her amazing courses on PDS. Highly recommend her courses for anyone wanting to heal their insecure attachment style

[@billyvandenBroek]

This empowering woman is the bomb. Everything thing was perfectly spoken, to the point, easy to understand and above all life changing for those who wish to practice the wisdom. Awesome find Mel and well executed. ❤

[@heyu123]

Gosh I’m a fearful avoidant and an entrepreneur. I feel like I’m not worthy or good enough for a long time. I want to control everything by myself that I find it hard to delegate. I had no idea that was part of attachment

[@esteraciui9672]

That’s me too

[@ryankozyra3620]

That’s me to. I constantly push people away and have no clue how to communicate my needs.

[@empressabz3084]

Same here!

[@roslyndowning8808]

Mel Robbins, YOU are Loved and thank YOU for Caring AND Sharing AND for YOUR Daring personality.😮😂

[@emeliemetcalfe4576]

Thais changed my life for the better. Couldn't have enough gratitude and appreciation for her work.

[@JoanieZagorsky]

This has helped so much and I watch her all the time. After 30 yrs of being alone I decided to date. I wish I watched this first and it would have saved me a lot of tears. ❤

[@PaulKing-cr7zw]

Dear Kete channey,I have been alone now for two years,after five years tolerating unbelievable abuse..now that I’ve had time on my own squirming in agony and heartache …all I can say is it’s a time thing…you just adapt and learn to live with it slowly over time it will faid to a point where it won’t even concern you any longer..then.. you’re free/heald and can relax into your new life of new found happiness- be patient this type of pain runs deep and will take immense stamina,but you can do it,and will do it…think positive.go for it..good luck…take care…we’re thinking of you and wishing you well.peace & love too you

[@shellbellmusic]

I am an energy healer and healed my auto immune disease by healing the fearful avoidant attachment style with IFS therapy, inner child healing and energy healing. It's been one heck of a journey ❤❤

[@awakenandenlightenchannel]

❤

[@vbwinegirl]

What is IFS please?​@@awakenandenlightenchannel

[@daphnekajugiira8260]

She sent chills down my spine! Thank you Mel, thank you Thais.

[@jennynguyen-lam5633]

I'm glad you got Thais on your podcast. I have been with the personal development school for over 2 yrs and the courses in there are transformative and liberating from suffering if you go through the workbook in Thais's courses. This podcast only scatches the surface of the transformative changes that are possible. Thais's work is beyond amazing, its phenomenonal and life changing for those who really want more fulfillment and peace and happiness in their life. And Mel you are an amazing interviewer, relevant to your viewers and mindful of their needs and what would benefit them. I thank you with all of my heart and of course you don't need me to tell you, you are so much loved back.

[@biancaborges391]

Wow. Just wow. I can’t even articulate what this episode and piece of information meant to me. I was not familiar with Thais work, I’m so happy and excited to go deep in my attachment style and start questioning those patterns. This is such a life changing gift Mel and Thais, thank you so much for giving it to us. Now I can’t wait to put my hands on everything Thais has put out there in content 😂 ❤

[@OliPop81]

Omg I love Thais !!!!! Been following her for years ! So can’t wait for this conversation!!!!

[@redvinekilla]

Thais is the epitome of beauty, strength & grace. Thank you all for sharing with us ♥️

[@lisautube7]

I’ve listened to a lot of attachment style videos and this was hands down the best one. The way she explained them coupled with the great questions to dig deeper and provide some examples was very impactful. Thank you!!

[@ashleyheberer2781]

Thais, you are a beautiful blessing to this world! Insight and out! I’m so proud of you, and thankful for everything you do ❤

[@steenar.9698]

I'm watching this as I'm getting ready for my EMDR appointment. Thank you both for this topic discussion. I'm better and better everyday

[@michelle4688]

7 minutes in and already shouting out loud, "woah!!" "what!?" thank you both! Gonna share this with EVERYONE

[@bronsonmcdonald5473]

I love Mel's comparison "90% of all drivers think they are good drivers". Nice to get some humor in there.

[@dooorthvader]

PDS has changed my life for the better- I actually dove into her integrated attachment theory work in therapy (did my own research and brought it up to my therapist) and accelerated my healing journey. Forever grateful and I am talking about this with my friends too

[@cherizar100]

25 or so mins in and having a moment to pause, i am getting so rocked by this. Thank you for creating space to help bring clarity and offer support to others ♥️✨🙏🏼🌿 I have always been actively pursuing knowledge and experience in body and spirit growth. Im really feeling a wholesome vibe across the board in these emerging youtube communities. Enjoying the collective content of betterment goals in researchers im seeing, and the process of it all: the evaluation/ is it meeting our moral criteria needs for share-worthy and truly ripple affect healing ? - we continue to be curious and in a peaceful way.

[@Lisa-NewEngland]

Thais Gibson explaines this super deep concept is such a tangible way, she’s a genius.

[@timidchanteuse]

Her content has helped me sooooo much. Really beyond words. Helped me reframe my entire life and start to rebuild.

[@StefanieVerrelli]

I loved this podcast. Thais brings such a wealth of knowledge to the conversation. She shared practical strategies for identifying and addressing attachment wounds, and offers valuable tools for personal development. Mel and Thais' chemistry made for an engaging and dynamic conversation. Thais creates space for self-discovery and tools to improve our well being!

[@HH-pj5bl]

OMG!!!!! Mel I AM so GRATEFUL you took the suggestion!!! Thais is one of the best teachers ever!!!!!!!!! Omg I'm so happy and excited that you both got to meet!! Happy dance, I'm going to share it with everyone on PDS (Thais's school) YASSSSSSSS❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

❤❤❤❤ HH!

[@inventorcreator7267]

I've spent over 40hrs listening to Thais in one week recently. She has such an intelligent and in-depth knowledge in this impactful subject. Many hours with Mel as well. It's fun watching Mel sense the same 'whoa-wow' information about this subject. Thais is doing a powerful movement with this and she's an asset in our own life, our relationships, our workplace and future people in our lives. Thank you both for each of your investments in your passions. It's been very helpful in my life forward.

[@greenyogaspa726]

I watched this episode around New Years Eve, already having a pretty good understanding of Attachment Theory and Nonviolent Communication, This interview blew my doors off! I shared it and the following meditation with all of my best friends. 8 months later, not only did I join the School of Personal Development, but I am taking the online course to become a coach with Thais's excellent program. I appreciate this introduction sooo much, Mel. Thank you for bringing this awesome compilation of knowledge into my life through Thai's incredible program that goes right to the limiting beliefs and empowers people to change and develop healthy relationships. Thais's work is helping many people around the world get straight to the heart of understanding and empowered transformation! You admire both of you to no end. Eternally grateful!

[@roseladore1220]

Omg..!! Where was I when this interview happened? I so needed this. I’ve been trying to figure myself out for the longest time. Thank you both beautiful and awesome ladies!! Y’all Rock!!

[@Ellie-belle-777]

This podcast is phenomenal. Mel your questions were spot on and Thais wow..just wow. Had a few epiphanies. This is a game changer! ❤ so grateful to have watched this! 🙏

[@Sheekgreek1111]

Mel, I am a fan since your day one. You have so much valuable information that has changed my life. I've watched Thais Gibson and cannot thank her enough for sharing her knowledge of attachment styles however I needed your feedback in conversation to fully understand because I feel your guest spoke so fast that so much she said was lost .

[@ZaharaReign]

Wow 😯 this is so insightful~ the clarity, so insightful. I had no idea. It goes deeper than just with relating this concept to interaction with people. First time connecting to your platform Mel, today first episode is on attachment style 😮I need to understand this concept better ❤I have been on a healing journey for years. ( Decades) This is exactly what I need to understand moving forward in this season of my life. Now I am ready to go there ✨🫶🏽☀️👊🏽😁

[@Beepbeep_its_treasure]

Mel, I can't explain it, but I sort of look at you like my mum. You are just so empathetic, relatable but also supportive. Thank you for never giving up on us and showing us that we can be and do better. Thank you both!! (anxious attachement here)

[@52MAREVA]

What a beautiful exchange! I learned so much and it has given me hope about my family and deeper understanding of relationships and why people act the way they do and that it stems from childhood experiences! Great work and interesting interview!❤🎉🎉

[@l4l414]

Absolutely love Thias Gibson! She literally helped me change my life and understand human behaviour. Now doing a degree in Psychotherapy to help others ❤

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

❤❤❤❤

[@itchysheets1222]

I am so grateful this video randomly played next after another video I was listening to. I was busy with some dirty manual work with gloves on and even though I was wondering about news on the hurricane I NEEDED TO HEAR THIS. I needed to have this knowledge. My family and our hearts needed it. Thank you.

[@superwaxx]

Thais is amazing! She def changed my life. Found out about her after experiencing a hard breakup in 2019. She def deserves her flowers 🌹

[@In.the.darkness_there_is_light]

I knew I was avoidant but now I see myself completely in the fearful avoidant. Thank you for this. I registered several times.

[@adrianhayton9883]

Thank you for this opportunity to listen to this subject. I realised recently this is what I have in my life.. , I look forward to listening 🥰🤗💎

[@mcourtois75]

Thank you so much Thais and Mel for this amazing talk. Like many, I thought I was so cool and independent but truly I am avoidant and while I've made lots of progress (thanks to my amazing husband and friends who are making me a better person without even knowing it), I was so happy and relieved to learn we can break free :)

[@simonescott4828]

For anyone considering joining PDS I'd highly recommend it! Thank you Thais for all your incredible work.

[@shirleybhutto7895]

I’ve been on a journey of self discovery for a couple years now and have been listening to you as part of that journey. And I cannot express how important this episode has been. This has by far been the most eye opening one and I’ve shared it letting everyone know the importance of this for their own a-ha moment!!

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

❤

[@WarriorOfTheMostHigh]

As I’m listening, I’m realizing that I’ve gone through all 4 of these styles in my life, not at the same time, but in different stages of my life. Thank you for the wisdom 😊❤

[@kerrymillar1267]

I love Thais Gibson, she’s really helped me ❤ love Mel too.

[@hhotdonnaa]

Thais has kind of changed my life. I found her about a year ago and she is especially accessible even to those like myself who have a TBI. Her work is so wonderfully accessible on youtube (like I can only imagine what’s in the actual PDS program) which has helped me get through so many major moments in my life as a fearful avoidant!

[@OptimisticMaya]

I ‘liked’ this video even before the interview started because I knew it was going to be good … and it darn well was 🙌

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

❤

[@Kristina-cl6ug]

Mel, you are such a great interviewer! So detailed with your questions and you take it a step further than what the speaker is saying. This is a phenomenal subject, and this video is so insightful. Thank you so much for having her on and teaching your community become more secure within themselves. ❤