The Truth About Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go With Jay Shetty | Mel Robbins Podcast

[@melrobbins]

Jay Shetty @JayShettyPodcast dropped some incredible insights on LOVE! If you want to hear more from guests like Jay on The Mel Robbins Podcast, give this video a like!

[@JLTravels]

LIFE CHANGING interview…self development is a long marathon not a sprint…at 70 yrs strong, this era is the most enlightening with podcasts like this.

[@fitbytracy]

“If you want something from someone else, first give it to yourself”. Love this. Nobody takes care of #1, like #1!

[@adiconstantin4598]

10:44 - Love is when I: 1. like someone's personality 2. respect their values 3. am committed to help them with their goals

[@Sammydanesweet]

Thank you for time stamping that!!

[@Mushroom321-]

😼👏 i agree!!!❤😊

[@Mushroom321-]

ThANK YOU !!😊😮🎉🎉

[@michellemeiburg639]

Yes

[@sophiashekinah9872]

I think it's really cool what he's saying about Respecting your partner's values, and focusing on their goals. I like that he's not saying that your goals and values have to align with theirs, but that respecting and supporting are enough.

[@sunnywr4237]

0000000😅😅

[@meghanegger2376]

I think he/Jay does (at the beginning of when he actually defines what he defines love to b... like them respect them n "align w their values"... think deeply and realistically that if u don't align in (at least your most important values) values as a couple then u are bound to have frequent issues that are not "compromise" points (do u compromise on your basic n most closely held values?) for either but "give up" points which will build deep resentment. .. maybe I don't see "values" as u define them?

[@meghanegger2376]

"share" their list important values... is how Jay clarifies about values (a mutual respect n sharing of values that garners respect n support in the values y'all share ... it's complex to b clear. but this is a great /better definition of adult love than I can recall. ever.

[@user-mo4bo2cl2t]

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[@sindhuyuvaraja2781]

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[@janeaustentv9226]

Meeting my 13 year old self reduced me to tears. Her wisdom was trust yourself. I may revisit her soon. ❤

[@adb2490]

The wisdom my 13 year old self gave me was to be true to myself above anything else. I plan on revisting him as often as needed.

[@janeaustentv9226]

@@adb2490 great we can tap into ourselves

[@nazanink.8906]

At first I saw her, and gave her a hug...I felt like a mother figure. And soon the roles completely changed and her pure heart and faith and the way she hugged me feel like I was in the arms of a sage mother... her wisedom came simply from being herself

[@newenglandtrucker6049]

Wow I cried too. 😢

[@AbiThere4You]

Same! The moment my 13yr old self and I hugged, I just burst out crying. I told her that she's so loved and what she said back to me was "I believe in you" and that made me cry more.

[@EmsLionheart]

When we find our person, they should make us feel like superheroes, which will then drive us to scale mountains & wrangle stars, and share that abundance of love w everyone we meet Love truly makes the world go round 💞 Plz, don’t settle… 🤗 🥰

[@shirleysmith8565]

❤️🙏🏼❤️

[@edminaliutke1110]

52 minutes in and I have to say this is THE best conversation on love (in all forms) I’ve ever listened to. My hat off to Mel stopping and asking to dissect certain topics and being so specific and detailed. It allowed Jay to truly share his wisdom in ways I’ve haven’t heard before.

[@circesercy2190]

When he started talking about the two words for loneliness but only one is mentioned in the English language. I knew he was talking about Solitude because I live in a life of solitude and it was only in the last few years that I really started to embrace that and it's a wonderful feeling I'm not lonely at all. I have been asked and I have also been told I'm broken or if I think I'm broken have I given up or why did I give up there's somebody out there for me and honestly I'm happy. I'm okay in my solitude it's peaceful and I indulge in it. So many people say that human beings are not meant to live their lives alone. Not all human beings are meant for communal living not all that are alone are lonely or sad or missing an aspect of their life

[@angelas1726]

Omg Mel! I did the meditation and am sobbing at the lack of love I realized I had for my 13 year old self. How lonely I was then? I wrapped my arms around her in a motherly way to hold myself like I do to all my children I adopted during my years. It felt amazing. I knew today's episode was going to be special when I heard Jay Shetty. I had no idea how impactful it would be. Thank you for all you do. We all love you too.

[@CheRob96]

♥️

[@infinite_fit_]

The same thing happened to me as well!!😢❤🥰😁🤯

[@jolittle1206]

There is no episode that doesn’t make me cry. I am such a damaged person but gahd Mel’s podcast is like an instrumental from the heavens 😭😭😭 i love you Mel, thank you for being who you are, you are amazing

[@pragyatripathi7275]

This man is making me review my entire self.... you're a true mentor Jay, wise beyond your age.

[@AmaniRoberts]

Favorite moments: 27:52 - Being scared of being alone and walking into a relationship. 58:45 - Ownership vs. a relationship. 1:03:08 - Getting them to the next step in their journey vs. getting them to the next step in YOUR journey. 1:08:30 - Loving someone so much that they learn to love themselves. Amazing interview!

[@jaylynbell]

this episode is simply unbelievable. jay describes life & love in an absolutely profound way. wow wow wow wow wow i’m blown away

[@eashwarmurthy]

Goosebumps

[@maryh6953]

I just ended a 8 month relationship with someone I thought was sent from above and when I was at my lowest this week having been incredibly hurt from someone, I thought was my friend. He toppled more rejection on top of it and when I told him my needs in my wants he totally turned around and gaslighted me, I was his soulmate. I was the best thing that ever happened to him. He was never gonna find another one like me. I was the best lover, the best kisser I was an incredible mom he loved my sensitivity but I ended it today because I spent time working on myself in the last five years, he hasn’t he’s gone from relationship to relationship and he apparently doesn’t think he needs to work on himself that he should just be accepted for who he is and this week he showed me how incredibly immature and mean he could be iced me out for 24 hours and then still doesn’t see he did anything wrong

[@elskar1]

Jay’s final words brought tears to my eyes

[@tigre7739]

AMAZING!! I'm in my 50s, and have been out of a long-term relationship, and from the dating scene, for quite some time, by choice (or so it's become that story I've been telling myself), I had been on that journey, or quest, at times, going through all the points mentioned with all the highs and lows and pitfalls, which of course is a natural learning experience of life and love, but at some point decided it was much safer and healthier emotionally to adjust shift my focus away from that. I was doing okay with solitude, although loneliness is always lurking. The last few years (thanks to You Tube) I have been immersing myself more into inner self growth and discovery. This podcast has been such an eyeopener!! It has given me the clarity of what I thought I knew and have learned to this point, but more importantly, has enlightened me to the things I didn't. I feel much more secure about allowing myself to open up to the experience again , when that time comes. Much love and thanks to you both! 💖

[@northofyou33]

Same here, @tigre7739. I'm even older. Good luck to you on that journey! It's both rough and wonderful...

[@rosieg2833]

Thank you for sharing your comment I connect with your experience I am also in my 50s, and have exploring and enjoying my solitude and peace. I am making changes with work ( work from home) to enjoy more freedom. I am also moving to be closer to aging parents. And like you a agreed wholeheartedly this podcast is eye-opening in many ways. Great post , I am confident you will have in your life what you desire.

[@CoachLesley]

Same here. Your comment is encouraging. I felt something was wrong with me.

[@albertsax8238]

Yeah love is in the air waiting for you ! The beautiful thing you will have a balance! Yeah go for it! The divine working for you!

[@albertsax8238]

@@CoachLesley nothing wrong with you! You are complete & blessed!

[@luisaa.7906]

Come on, like, this is gold! ✨ Even though he has given a lot of interviews, each one has its magic. And Mel does a great job! Amazing 🤩

[@Obl1queproductions]

Jay and my husband are both from India. They both have the same beautiful brown eyes, black hair, body heighth, weight, personailty, good heart...etc. When i see Jay on a pod cast it always makes me think of my precious beloved husband. so God has blessed me 100% very much. And I know that i am a very blessed lucky lady to live on this earth at this moment in time...❤❤🎉🎉

[@tenaleboeuf7622]

Couldn't be more profound! He has such a comfortable way about him, it's so easy to understand what he means. Great connection between you two. Thank you for having him!

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[@victoriaburgess700]

Bravo! I’m a novice Taoist so I hear him loud and clear. I’ve changed so much with all relationships because of its teachings. I’m now in a loving relationship with someone who was my friend first for 3 years before moving to the next step. We are still friends first with some extras 😜. Love this podcast!

[@anneflanagan9242]

An Excellent Podcast and interview! I walk away with the quote I once heard! I am NO LONGER .. Hussling for Love!!! It is toxic and unhealthy! Thanks for being such a bright light in our every day and week Mel! 🎉❤😊

[@margaretbishop7001]

❤❤ ❤ bless you

[@nicole-os2vv]

What a great meditation. I love Jay Shetty. He is so genuine and speaks the truth in such an unassuming way. Inspiring

[@Ponzuu28]

He is so humble and simply an amazing Human! Very nice to have someone so sweet!

[@edieshort8731]

I seen a quote a few years back and it was so powerful, I believe this is what he is saying! “Don’t commit to me, commit to evolving, and I will meet you there”

[@Mushroom321-]

WOAH!, DEEP !! ❤😮😮👏🏼👏🏼

[@joantaveras4721]

This has to be the best podcast episode I have ever listened to/watched. I shared it with all my loved ones. Amazing!

[@taneeshashaw7347]

I'm excited to listen today, thanks for the WARM COMMENT!!!

[@joantaveras4721]

@@taneeshashaw7347 Hope it serves you 🙏

[@Infiniteeverything8]

I absolutely love how honest Mel is.

[@Woofsaidflaherty2]

He has the most amazing eyes. Thats just an observation people!!

[@Zephyr5702]

Mel, you have helped me activate my own self acceptance. I get a lot out of tuning in. Thanks.

[@ktizzle232]

When he dives on respecting values, it was AMAZING and such an eye opener... its nothing about not wanting to take part in their value, but respecting thei passion as it comes and how they feel about it.... just... wow

[@ashleekyan5147]

I cried so much! Happy relieving tears! I loved this so much! I listen to jay all the time i always get something of quality from him! I look forward to my healing journey!

[@freethepeace4117]

I just knew this interview would be GAME CHANGER Love it ! THANK YOU Mel & Jay ✨

[@louiseparker1915]

Respect, respect, respect 🙏🏽 Number 1 essential factor in determining the success of any relationship in my opinion!

[@RachaelSutherland]

WOW!! The bombs that Jay dropped in this episode is AMAZING. Mind blown and will be re-watching to get it all. Thank you so much.

[@sami-yc3xj]

My two greatest hero’s, voices of reason and my inspiration! THANK YOU both!

[@home1250]

I cried I smiled I laughed. Mel. You have been the most inspirational communicator I have ever known. Jay, thank you for bringing joy to my day.

[@psychplanet4905]

Mind blowing episode 🔥should be listened by everyone 💓

[@starmaze3250]

This was fantastic. Please bring Jay back. Mel, you are the best. ❤❤❤

[@barbaravaters4989]

Two of my favorite life guides at the same time. I didn’t search for either of you. I arrived on accident. So thankful I did. Amazing 🤩 Thank you so much ❤

[@amirbodakh2213]

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[@JGallis]

That last part of the video made me tear up🙈 great video, I have so much growing to do when it comes to being with another person but I have to learn about myself first before I do that.

[@Tshipi100]

I keep replaying the meditation part of the podcast, am going thru my hardest breakup I have ever experienced at 32, Jay is right the more detail in the visualization the better you can love that younger self and the younger self has so much to say

[@donnamason6339]

This is the best thing I have ever heard and as the mother of 4 daughters, it is everything I want my daughters to know as they move forward in their life and relationships.

[@leahesterzerbib1794]

I have been married for almost 39 years. We have been working on it. You speak so clearly. Thank you Jay. You are so authentic. I love you and . Thank you Mel.

[@cherrildavidse2868]

I did the 13 year old meditation during the podcast and my advice to myself was "Don't stop being fearless!" At first I thought what a weird piece of advice, but after some thought I realized it's the best, most critical piece of advice I needed to hear! Thank you Jay and Mel!!

[@dianesalisbury2]

Love, love, love Jay Shetty. He was the first voice I heard after my divorce 7 years ago. His words of love, self love, and affirmation, motivation, and moving forward with love got me threw a very horrible time in my life... God bless both of you ❤

[@user-fb1ys2lj9c]

Yes I resonate with what Mel shared. This reminded me of myself I can admit and share my vulnerability when I feel insecure I would admit my fears to my ex girlfriend but she didn't understand my sincerity and my vulnerability

[@MylaOndra]

Wow what a great episode! Brought tears to my eyes during the meditation part.

[@SubhasreeDeywanderlust]

I can’t thank you enough for bringing this episode with Jay! This blew my mind so many times especially the last bit … I am in a pool of tears..

[@applesjourney]

Woah! The meditation was great! I never knew I had so much pain from childhood, cried while doing that. I’ll definitely visit her again to give her more love and comfort. Thank you so much Mel and Jay for doing what you do.

[@laurenroberts4159]

This CD has three separate relaxation/meditation sessions on it kzbin.infoUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq guided by a very pleasant and direct male voice. Unlike so many other products of its type, this CD does not have bad synthesizer music, does not feature a phony or affected style of narration, and does not make any bogus claims to be subliminal or to re-train the brain or any of that balderdash. What you get is 1. a guided meditation for getting into a pleasantly relaxed state of body awareness while taking a stroll (superb for those easing back into a fitness routine slowly after an illness or injury) 2. A nice long breath-awareness relaxation session that if followed diligently can put you into very deep states of full-body relaxation and mental calmness, and 3. a buddhist-inspired meditation session designed to help you develop and maintain feelings of loving kindness toward not just yourself and your friends, but toward people you don't even like. The CD makes no claims to be designed for advanced meditators or for buddhists or hindus/yoga practitioners looking for very deep and esoteric stuff. It is geared more toward the average person who just wants to develop the habit of relaxation and stress relief through natural, healthy means. him, if you happen to be reading this, keep up the good work fella, and I love your accent. I would also like to note that I have never fallen asleep while listening to this product. I would like to kindly suggest to the reviewer who said this CD makes him fall asleep, that he might want to get checked to see if he has a sleep disorder, or if he is simply not setting aside ample time for restful sleep at night. A healthy person getting adequate rest at night should be able to go into deep states of mental relaxation without dozing off, if not all the time, then most of the time.

[@virginiasanmiguel9930]

I’m blown away by this excellent teaching. Thank u! Thank u! Thank u! Jay n Mel❤❤

[@atee6331]

Only at 9mins in and that is the BEST understanding of “Love,” and the journey of the feeling of “Love” and how it matures. Thank you!

[@naarilugo2833]

So much love and gratitude for Jay Shetty and the wisdom he shares 🙏🏼💞

[@user-fb1ys2lj9c]

I love this profound insight. I am 56 and I am so open to continue on my quest of inner work and all I need to learn I am so open to educating myself to what makes more sense this is incredible information for me and everyone watching and listening I love it ❤ I thank Mel and her beautiful guest he is a true teacher of life and love I am intrigue by his research on love

[@danimarie6795]

I learned so much through this interview! I could watch it again and again. That you both for sharing yourselves ❤

[@denneciacarter]

A year late but still needed! I have this book, hard and audio, I keep starting and stopping because it's been hard to do! But this podcast has made me decide to finish it. I deserve to truly love myself! Thanks Mel and Jay!! ❤❤❤❤❤

[@Lil-Be]

Mel & Jay - my favorite people on KZbin ❤️❤️

[@Stoochyy]

I’m 24 and I feel like I just saved the rest of my life by watching this. Especially after the love vs ownership topic. Thank you guys❤

[@EmsLionheart]

My 2 faves 🥰 Excellent dynamic 🕊️ I hope every heart finds healing & the one that will forever make your heart smile & feel protected, finds you. Wishing us all, a lifetime of love & laughter filled tomorrows 🫶

[@Minaretfm]

The Greeks have 8 words for love. It’s fascinating to understand that it’s a lot more than romance

[@rajshreerathore369]

Amazing... I'm speechless I love you more Mel and Jay ❤️❤️❤️ May God bless you both with lots of love and happiness 🥰🤞🙌

[@pateccleston5568]

🤔💡There is a difference between chemistry and connection…💡

[@csugar100]

I am so happy to hear this conversation. I’ve been journeying through breaking the conditioning of what we are taught is love and relationships. I love to hear such great words toward real love. I have discovered that the opposite of love is not hate, but selfishness. We must let others be themselves and focus on our own growth and self love.

[@kittysklog986]

Total lightbulb moment for Mel at 14 minutes. She will now be enlightened to an unbelievable relationship with her hubster 😻

[@kimberleyformacio865]

Thank you Mel and Jay! This podcast was truly eye opening! I saw myself in so much of what you said about love and relationships ❤️ I realized just how much my childhood has affected the way I show up in my marriage and the over analyzing of my husband 🥹 Love is truly individual and we all experience, share and show love in different ways. I realized that my husband has the qualities that my parents didn’t give me as a child (security, support, comfort) and that’s what made me fall in love 😍

[@ST_RISE]

The meditation was powerful. 13 was the age I got my first boyfriend and was the first in a line of toxic relationships with those that were broken and I worked to “fix” them but my 13 year old self told me work on you then you attract the best for you. Over the last 5 years I’ve been working on me and through therapy and poetry I found my voice and my life… I found the healed me while still healing. I’m now falling in love with someone but having a totally different experience and feels amazing.

[@cremarie8757]

Found this wisdom during separation 😭😭😭 thank you so much 🙏🏻 we need more of this clarity

[@leannaschilling]

You're the best.... and Jay is the best. What an outstanding episode. You two both are a gift.... to see you together like this having this discussion Is Awwwwwweeeeesome. Thanks so much. 🎉🎉❤

[@StrangeMinee]

Oh my goodness I was crying in that meditation with my younger self 🥺🥺🥺

[@juliemidgley5287]

Absolutely brilliant. Wonderful to see you both together....as always, Jay Shetty your words come straight from the heart. I truly don't beleive that anyone can share such beautiful wisdom in the way that you do. You are a gift, can't wait to buy the book. I have read THINK LIKE MONK three times and have offered it to many friends and clients. Mel, awesome as always. Thank you both

[@amirbodakh2213]

What? Straight from other people’s mouth you idiot …kzbin.info/www/bejne/hJfYZZ1teq56p9U

[@laurenoutdoorsy5418]

Awww cried too at the meditation.. thanks both for your L💚ve..

[@phippsphitness3251]

OMG Jay THANK YOU for this incredible discussion about LOVE. Really powerful with such awareness.

[@carolannstevens5814]

Ohhh I love Jay Shetty & Mel!!! This is super helpful!

[@miabarragan3917]

Just wow...I love your wisdom. Thank you for sharing. Mind blown...speechless

[@ExpressEntertainment81]

Just here to say - love you dear Mel . You have been a sister . Your five minutes rule has helped , and your genuine intention to help . Long live Mel , and lots of good health , happiness, and lots of energy to you , to energize many more lives 🎉❤

[@mashapinsky6608]

You guys blow my mind every single time! Thank you so much for coming together on this podcast interview !!

[@lucylulu9940]

That’s why we love you Mel. Youre real - shining a light on your feelings and sharing them with us, wow. Good job.

[@ajallen3839]

Got this book before I knew who he was and then I ran across a podcast and was like WAIT 😮 THATS JAY SHETTY 😂 AWESOME PODCAST and great interview thanks y’all ❤

[@brendapolar8506]

Mel I love you!!! thank you for the amazing work that you do for uplifting my spirits when I need it the most❤

[@catherinedao1592]

Very true. Totally agreed with Jay. Very clearly about ownership not partnerships. You helped me to see my my partner always wants me to do his ways, criticised if I didn't. He complain a lot, yelling, shouting to my face.....just left that toxic.

[@defever22]

Smart lady miss Mel Robbins no words ma'am

[@Joy-mm3cz]

I went to a pottery shop on a date with someone I really liked(about 3 months in). I had more to talk about & in common with the pottery woman. That was our last date(I didn’t know it then). Lol

[@user-dn1pj3db2k]

Love love loved this interview it was so profound in depth of thought provoking moments and prolifically electrifying !!

[@barbarahamboulla9004]

THANK YOU 🙏 THIS IS A MIND BLOOWING PODCAST ❤

[@sharonpetty2305]

My prayer for the universe…. And I invite all who agree to join me in this prayer/meditation….which is this that there be such a flow of like minded spirits like Jay and Mel that it smothers the NEWS … amen

[@anon4286]

This episode is one of the most beautiful topic I've found on the KZbin ❤️

[@juliefisheye8079]

I love you both so much and I am so thankful for all you do for this world

[@paulinanakabugo1271]

👏👏👏 The love u give someone must motivate him or her to love himself more, beautiful

[@penpornsomnus9853]

I have been listening to both of your podcasts for years. This is the first time that I actually downloaded the interview. Thank you Jay, for your inspiring insights and on point advices about relationships. And Mel, you are a wonderful listener as well as a great interviewer. Thank you for sharing this memorable episode!

[@lisamatthews3764]

I LOVE everything about Jay Shetty… great messages and his communication style is so genuine. Thank you!!! ❤

[@sonja7711]

Thank you for this wonderful medidation and emotional talk.. ❤

[@simsm9983]

Thank you Mel and Jay! ❤️ I'm at loss for words after this deep talk. The entire talk was like a meditation. Love you both!

[@krish.5823]

Get hurt enough, you'll stop and wait for the real person to come out before thinking your or they are truly in love with you. It's amazing how quickly it happens when you wait. But, unfortunately it's the majority of people because mist want only for themselves and right now! I just got put down and shamed for not wanting to hop in the sac with this person. He tried to lie and manipulate, but with waiting, I found out he was married and playing the field. That meant I finally did it right. By waiting I gave myself time to get to know him even though the only thing he wanted to get to know was "my assets". By waiting, there was minimal damage and I bounced back quickly as a result. ❤

[@susanjeffrey9947]

I love how you say , I’m your friend Mel, I’m your friend from the Uk, Love you, love all your pod casts, love jay too, Love your podcasts with Dr Ramani, believe me, this lady as opened my eyes, So as Jay, Love you Mel, as a imperfect human woman, your pod casts makes me think, Love you. Sue, from the UK

[@melanieklarofficial]

"That is so humbling..." WOW. He is so humble. Many would have had a big head from that introduction! That is so inspiring and gives me hope in humanity!

[@TheErika711]

Omg I'm 58 and Jay made incredible sense maybe now I have a much better idea of how to be healthier smarter in finding the right one not assume just because someone has a good job etc...means their a good catch - the tools he enlightens us to seriously invaluable THANK YOU where were you all my life 😄

[@marilynoverton8142]

Incredible wisdom! Thank you both so much!

[@sophiashekinah9872]

Not even 20 mins into this, and I'm stunned at how much I didn't know I didn't know! This is so enlightening. Thank You.

[@karmenhribar7427]

Mel you seriously are the best!! I am sooo happy you have your own podcast!!

[@rollosdemujeres]

I’m cooking breakfast fir my son and listening to this episode. I’m in tears while doing the meditation exercise 😢 thank you for this! 🙏🏼✨

[@fafakahsay4427]

He is amazing person jey ,