Why do INFJs feel so misunderstood?

[@yvonnecampbell7036]

As an INFJ I feel like a CAT in a DOG world. Then they wonder why I'm Exhausted after spending a day with them and they can't get in touch with me for about 3 weeks........

Omg! Same

[@christyanapangelinan9303]

Have not ever met another INFJ in person which would have been nice to see and experience

[@deimantebruzaite5343]

Very hard to spot it, because we not socializing alot, me either, because sensors small talks makes me bored, and talking a same bul*t and mundane activities, that very unfamiliar teritory for me and I know more characters from books and movies than real people from real world 😂 And because infj's are rare

[@deimantebruzaite5343]

I seen some sensors well rounded on other MBTI videos on youtube, but it's still minority I guess

[@christyanapangelinan9303]

@@deimantebruzaite5343 I get what you mean, upside I have met some infp's tho that have some similarity and are easy to spot. But it can get pretty exhausting for conversation.

[@jesszukowski5511]

Kocha T I’ve met two other infj’s. My infj friend and I are either really good or really bad. I appreciate her as a person but when it comes to advice we are way too different she’s emotionally reactive I’m not. My aunt is an infj and she’s had her faults but, she’s great

[@StarlitSunLight]

Me and my best friends are INFJs. We're soooo much alike.

[@MsFlyingdove]

the absolute worst place for us is facebook,,I have had to block so many people who come at me hard and really cruel and negative on this venue,,,horrible.

[@olliviermae]

I love helping people understand what’s bothering them, then helping them see their potential. A side of life they’d never known. Then they leave with all their new knowledge... A professional prime and prep-er here.

[@psychonautmaddy7409]

It's so scary how accurate all of this is...

[@celark]

When I read your book it was like reading the manual/guidebook for how I operate, thank you.

[@AmberBoutilier]

I appreciate your videos Bo.

[@ispeakpeople]

Thanks, Amber! Glad you're finding them helpful!

[@jaimeflor4181]

Other NF's are great. The only NT I can relate to is my INTJ girlfriend, because we're both Ni dom's with inferior Se. Sensors have a difficult time understanding the way I operate.

[@ispeakpeople]

Great point, Jaime! Thanks for sharing. :-)

[@twistedsunshine3276]

I find it easy for me to know what kind of person someone that i am curious about when i try to fit in his/her shoes. And i try to pretend how their mind work and most of the time it always does work!

[@vjw5612]

Thank you Bo. Another great one!

[@ispeakpeople]

You're welcome, Vickie!

[@PapiyoneVineland]

I have a question: if I'm an INFJ who wants to create a business that's focused on helping people, and want to associate with someone who's a quick doer, who would like to do the dry paperwork and the accounting that bore the heck out of me, with great precision and accuracy and would still be compatible with my personnality type (as a business partner or employee)... What personnality type am I looking for?

[@timeisgold7793]

I think infp can help. I am Infj worked in a bank before but suddenly quite after I pursue my passion in arts.

[@manip3351]

The ISTJ is perfect for all the tasks we hate doing :). Not sure if it would be easy to get along with them professionally because they come across a bit uptight and can lash out when you don't pay attention to details. If you work separately however that shouldn't be a problem. I find that hanging out with them personally is usually easier than working with them. but if you want a job done, ISTJ is the one.

[@astavas8341]

ISFJ is one, but they would complaint sometimes lol. Because sensor user mostly can't understand how intuition user works.

[@Videoworl-p6y]

Thanks again ❤

[@mamas_quilts3573]

As i listened, i wondered how you *knew* me! Then i "got" that you are an INFJ too..

[@debjitbera]

Hi Bo! I am an INFJ personality type. I am virgo. Work as a music composer, Psychology counselor, Life & music coach and documentary film maker. Your videos are very much intriguing and quite insightful. It's helping me to figure out more why I am, the way I am and why do I feel the ways that not many people understand. Thank you for the wonderful work you are doing for us.

[@ispeakpeople]

That is so cool! You're very welcome, Debjit. :-) Thanks for your comment!

[@jeanettemchenry505]

Great suggestions! Thanks, Bo.

[@ispeakpeople]

You're welcome, Jeannette!

[@allysa]

Hi Bo, i've enjoyed and learned much from yr videos. Thank you! I have an off the topic request to make. I find myself having trouble accessing my Fe when it comes to my boss and i feel both justified and bad about it. I've worked under her for over a year and it has become increasingly evident that she has narcissistic tendencies which completely puts me off and over shadows whatever good qualities she has. Recently I've kept my interactions her very cool. Sometimes i feel her need for some warmth, affirmation, comfort but i just couldn't bring myself to give them to her. I kept everything very business like and won't check in on her to see how's she doing etc. I feel justified doing it but also feel like a bad Christian. Would you do a video on how infj can better manage interactions with purple they've closed their door to and what do they do with their Fe when this happens?

[@ispeakpeople]

Hi, Elisa! I'm so glad that you've found the videos helpful. Great question! I've noted it​ and added it to a queue of topics I'm working on. Thanks for the suggestion!

[@kathryngant837]

Elisa Tan I am so sorry you are dealing with this. I am going through a similar situation.

[@sittingstill3578]

I think you could use some perspective from the likes of Watchman Nee who spent the last 20 years of his life in prison editing and translating scientific papers for the Chinese government without access to other Christians or a copy of the Bible. His cell mates testified that he was the most genuine, authentic person they had met. He was worked, beaten and tortured mercilessly for decades as was common in Communist prisons of the time but the fruit of his life was the fruit of the Spirit. At one point in my life was studying Philippians and 3:10 really captured my attention so I asked God to show me what it looks like in real life. My prayer was answered in my next job. Starting from the orientation, the trainer/supervisor had a grudge against me docking my first paycheck which wouldn’t be for another 6 weeks during which time I only had $10 to live on. For the next year he would show up for ‘training’ while keeping my pay at the lower probabtion level despite going well beyond the period and performing well enough. The entire year there was full of bouts of anxiety and fear but it was also rich with communion and intimacy with God. ‘Bless those who curse you and do good to those who despitefully use you’ was brought to mind many times during that period. In my second to last week, he came one more time to inform me that my contract wasn’t being renewed and I was genuinely able to thank him being thankful for what God had done in my life because of him. In my final week, I had an open conversation class where my students asked about my life and purpose. When asked about my favorite verse, I told them it was Philippians 3:10. So they asked me to quote it. Just over the divider was my supervisor who could hear the whole conversation. Well, they didn’t just ask me to recite it once but over and over. “That I may know him, and the power of his resurrection, and the fellowship of his sufferings, being made conformable unto his death.” I was nervous sharing this so openly within earshot of my supervisor but it was then I understood that God had used this man and year of trial to answer my prayer and show how real my faith is.

[@annptully695]

Do you have the name of any authors who write about different perspectives...I would love that.

[@TamaraGrace]

Ok, I gotta question. How do you get over the absolute laziness of those who are suppose to be close to you? It infuriates me to a level that it's all I can think about. And if I'm really honest, my mind goes to dark places just because of pure laziness... In the same breath, I have my lazy days as well. How can I judge someone for something I myself do? Granted, the other is continually lazy. Like to lazy to go to the bathroom on their own, lazy -even though their very capable. How can I displace my mind from this?

[@vickkara7641]

Lol I've been thinking about this lately.. I've even been researching if there's a laziness disorder just so I can understand better.. then I just stew inside

[@astavas8341]

Try the enneagram. I'm 4w5 and laziness is just one of my traits lol.

[@mkoz3093]

What could be wrong with me? I am very detail oriented.

I enjoy cleaning/chores and taking care of things so, I disagree on that part. I don’t think they’re stupid either. Please don’t talk bad about other types.

[@jo-annlouw3157]

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[@tarugardiner4287]

Like I've said before I'm not a label or some new aged diagnosis of personality , I can relate to most if not all you elaborate on this personality but also I can relate to all the other archetypes also , yes I do feel like the David Attenborough of human beings and creation over all , I have tried to help others yet mostly it doe not resonate with them , there ain't no blind spot here , I can see , I require help too in many areas , let's face it the world and system over all is weird and whacky ! Plenty of bull shit and dis function a inverted reality of fools and horses , a carousel of illusion with spooky music playing in the back ground , a never ending maze filled with traps and dead ends , basically a mouse on a wheel running and going nowhere , same shit different day , trapped in a aquarium filled with clown fish , sharks , lack of oxygen and waste .

[@annptully695]

Do you have the name of any authors who write about different perspectives...I would love that.

[@ispeakpeople]

Malcom Gladwell is one of my favorites. I also like Chip and Dan Heath's books. :-)

[@annptully695]

Thank you. I have ordered one of each!🤓