Why do men marry "PLAIN JANE" women over PRETTY women?

[@Lulu-wv1nt]

Just because someone is "plain". It doesn't mean they are not pretty. Not everybody is into ridiculously long lashes, weaves, and skimpy clothes.

[@Loveispatient76]

And not every woman who wears lashes and nice clothing isnt ugly on the inside…. You extremist kill me….

[@sg5720]

@@Loveispatient76 so you don’t need the extra stuff- and fine and confident without it.? 😐

[@Loveispatient76]

@@sg5720 how can you even ask this question and really get a real answer? I could easily just say yes…. But to answer I wear make up on sundays not every day. And even if I do, so what….. that’s my choice. Bottom line men shouldn’t be commenting on what women wear on their faces…. This is a feminine behavior, and your worried about the wrong thing…. Looking back at a woman and minding her business when you could be starting a business of your own, you know “man stuff”.

[@oceanlover2426]

I concur. I have my own style, but no one will ever see me with a ton of makeup, lashes, extra long nails, and certainly no BBL, etc. I’ve never felt like I needed OR wanted it. On another note, I respect and appreciate how the brother said that he would not tear a woman down. 🙌🏾 We as women and men can even disagree, no problem. Yet, we can deal with one another with respect and honor. Our continuity depends on it.

[@Eleventyeleventh]

The replies are cute. We tend to avoid the truth. I’m very sorry but if I said that the specific style won’t last as long as a beauty trend and standard because women are failing to take care of their natural hair and lashes and skin, y’all would hate me. The hyperpigmentation around the eyes, the balding, the lack of eyebrows and 0 eyelashes is real. Real money and routine is needed to have such a style. Constant maintenance and self care. It is high value and not for a cheap insecure Gyal, which I’ve personally seen is the majority of ladies with that aesthetic.... Fix your edges and your mental health, gain confidence in your natural baddie self and then adopt whatever aesthetic to please the male gaze, which would actually stick it in anything really so don’t think this or that is winning. It don’t matter what you dress like but why...

[@KrazyVideoChick]

"Confidence is quiet. Insecurity is loud."

[@akaryafrazier]

Definitely ❤

[@Peacefulblissorelse]

Ooooohhhhh...... this is SO true!!!!

[@nicoledavis6344]

This! 💯

[@srfr8053]

Amen, beauty doesn't beg to be seen, it just is.

[@nicolegilbert6339]

Well said.

[@loyanadale903]

Interesting, she thinks that eye lashes,weave & caked on makeup is the definition of pretty. Bless her heart. Once she figures out her true pretty, that "pretty girl curse" will be lifted.

[@mizrelmizrel]

🎯🎯🎯

[@AdorzAaliyahSince94]

She's definitely teetering around "PickMe" territory.

[@tinacouch3531]

If you're naturally pretty. It won't. Pretty Plain Jane's are cursed still

[@kemi1486]

I’m glad someone said it. I didn’t know how to say it without coming off as tearing down another black woman because even with all that she has on, she’s an average looking woman to me.

[@loyanadale903]

@@kemi1486 the thing is, her referring to ladies who aren't caked with make up, eyelashes & weave, as plain Jane's is her tearing down other women. I don't wear weave, my hair is natural, my eye lashes are long enough without the bat wings, and I like to show off my freckles. I often get compliments & my dating life if ok. So yeah, she needs to figure some things out.

[@Franklyspeaking872]

I’ve been called plain Jane before due to the fact I don’t wear makeup often and I rather where my natural hair and rock my nails short ect; but it’s all by choice and I’m most comfortable this way, but funny thing is every time I’m around the girls that where a ton of makeup and 35 inch weaves and long colorful nails, they always get uncomfortable and insecure. I never understood that but this lady here just confirmed what I was thinking.

[@Luvvserena111]

As a girl that’s not a plain Jane I love beauty. As a kid I loved makeup and playing dress up, a lot of women were like that as little girls so when we get older ofc we love wearing makeup getting our hair done and fashion. It’s not about being superficial or insecure it’s an expression of personal style and what you find beautiful at the moment. For some women it’s for show bc they are insecure but for a lot of women they actually just love it.

[@winkA1]

Oh god the nails. I get mine done but they’re short and naturally coloured. They still look good but they don’t get in the way. What on earth do the women with those long nails with bling do for work!? I’d rip them off in 2 seconds flat. No gardening or anything

[@fuckeries]

I knoooow what you mean about them being insecure

[@RayshellReyes]

And you still look better than her, you’re gorgeous.

[@yalrdyknow]

You have natural beauty, that's why

[@35cheeky]

I am going to say this in a nutshell. BEING PRETTY IS NOT ENOUGH TO SUSTAIN A RELATIONSHIP OR MARRIAGE. You will get use to anyones looks.

[@jaxcoss5790]

Indeed!

[@Chyna65]

amen..I heard that..🎉

[@nello8630]

Looks fade. My wife is still beautiful, not as beautiful as she was 23 years ago. Her beauty is not what keeps us together. A woman's attitude is her secret tool. She gave me the best gift of all, our son.

[@jhssmith2004]

thank you.

[@Definitelynotabot4]

True

[@Qtzzzip]

Plot twist! "Plain Jane," IS the pretty girl🙋🏾‍♀️

[@m.official8590]

💣 💥🔥

[@mstricejones9930]

That’s true her beauty is natural and she doesn’t require much to be beautiful

[@Ilayshaa]

Bingo

[@naturallyfitbyj]

Period, from the inside out! The spirit of God is within her

[@gloriasmith790]

Bingo

[@minervasworld1002]

I think she is mistaking pretty with high maintenance. Cause if she is to remove all the extras, she will see how fast she turns into the plain Jane she is describing. A pretty girl is pretty with or without the extras. Now this is not to reduce this woman in any way. But I understand the difference between low and high maintenance and what it can do for a woman's esthetics.

[@f3042]

That’s the actual issue right there. If she wiped that stuff off her face and had natural good looks men would be all over her because natural good looks/genetics is what attracts men. All that extra stuff is fine but if you don’t have good looks without it, the men aren’t considering you a “pretty girl” 😂

[@jenn4082]

Don't see pretty all I see is delusional

[@Abundantone444]

I ain't a hater but she said that is pretty girls kinda strong and I'm like ma'am... She not ugly but still.

[@FrauMase]

👏👏👏👏👏😁 well said

[@penelopesanchez1679]

Well put

[@crys5744]

Thank you for esteeming those who choose to be "plainly" themselves. You give me faith that there are still good men who look deeper than surface to find someone.Blessings, sir!

[@sg5720]

We’re not plain Janes we are beautiful decent, classy women who love the way we naturally look. ✌🏽😁

[@jalisabradford6201]

Facts!!! That girl in the video just made herself look foolish.

[@teewashington1987]

Absolutely

[@4GODiswithus]

Say that again for the people in the back!!

[@kimjones1007]

Amen

[@JamieModelvsDirector]

It’s the way we carry ourselves ❤ 😊

[@SweetLifeofCeCe]

Translation: The dude she really wanted to want her, married someone who is opposite of her.

[@Noname-qk3hr]

Damn

[@KingstonsWorld17]

That’s exactly what I was thinking…smh

[@uncletea5632]

🎯

[@jasminepoteat4799]

Because “plain Jane,” doesn’t look like everybody else😂🤡

[@gordonallen9095]

For real, for real.

[@seekingserenity1902]

Right? They all look the same.

[@highlovevibration]

True story

[@jamiefarrow5052]

Amen

[@jenniferibarra7737]

Yes I refuse to get plastic surgery !!

[@kendrawashington6541]

Men say that they don’t care about lashes, weave, bbl’s, makeup, etc. , but who they give the most attention to. 😩

[@bblossom7350]

Lol it's a short fuse. That's what people don't understand. Men will give attention to women like that for a quick hit and run but they don't usually consider them as potential partners.

[@Luiz-w5s]

Those men are after sex. If you want to have sex as a women, your better chance is to look good. But after the sex, after he saw you without make up and wigs, what can you offer more? Women most of the time get sh! Twisted. They think that because they are pretty and men give them attention because of it, that those same men are agoing to put a ring on it. It's a wrong thinking. Most of your quality for sex won't enter the equation once the talk is about marriage. In marriage many other qualities are valued more.

[@freespirit21newyork]

It's only temporary attention after they get what they want, they gone.

[@robinannwilliams]

Unfortunately they do that to plain Jane’s too🫣

[@cw7147]

Lmaoooooooooooooo not all attention is GOOD attention

[@businessdevelopment4834]

Can we just give this man RESPECT on how he honors and adores his wife!!!

[@cynthiastevens8302]

Well he hison you tube she will see it so he better 🤣🤣

[@SantiagoVeraLoor]

Ameen

[@LoloHaru-q8u]

Literallyyyyyyy. Made me wanna cry

[@lkpeace911]

This is why we can’t go based on looks. Just cause a woman likes to wear hair and make up doesn’t mean she has a bad personality or is vain. AND ITS OK FOR WOMEN TO LIKE FEMININE THINGS LIKE THAT. and just because she’s a plain Jane doesn’t mean that her personality is great! There’s too much emphasis on the outside, whether people wanna admit it or not.

[@nmhoskins]

With the high divorce rates in the black community, who are the 'plain janes' marrying? Plan Jane women may have high ambition, higher incomes than their husbands, and higher education. These women may have settled for low tier men to marry. I like his channel, but he talks as if these level-headed, smart, hardworking men are plentiful and easy to find. She may not have the best message, but he is overstating the caliber of men in the Black community.

[@SparklingOnyx]

I think in the blk community too much emphasis is placed on superficial characteristics and these assumptions and ideologies we have as a culture. We like to place ppl in these fixed categories that we've created instead of just going through life and examining each individual situation and person separately. We complain about stereotypes but we constantly use stereotypes against each other and make decisions based on those ideas. I've been guilty of unconsciously doing that as well before, it's cultural but needs to stop. A plain Jane woman is not being treated any better than a more glamorous looking woman when it all boils down to it in our community. Just look at Derrick J soon to be ex-wife. This man put her through the ringer and she's as plain as it gets. A man will treat you right if that is his desire. If he is a mature and respectful man with his priorities and heart in the right spot.

[@ELamy802]

I agree Sis. It is ok for Women to invest in themselves and look good for them. Because I love makeup 💄

[@AdorzAaliyahSince94]

@@SparklingOnyx preach! I just typed something similar! She's in competition mode and she needs to stop it. Too many of these men are actors anyway! They will play a role & switch up on you midstream!

[@tautianacox4400]

1. All he did was use the categories she used in order to comment on it. 2. He definitely said he is referring to quality men who care about things like building a legacy and Derrick is not that. 3. He even went as far as to say that he loves his wife's appearance and loves when she does get "extra",he didn't marry his wife for looks and then followed up with non-physical reasons why he did. It's about not having to lead with pretty being your primary "personality trait" so to speak. Sometimes we have to stop filtering what's being said through our emotions and listen to what a quality man is telling you about other quality men (really of any race) instead of referring back to what the others do/did in order to get different outcomes so that our daughters don't have to be in youtube comment sections trauma bonding over trash men.

[@13unnyjpg]

Being a “plane Jane “ female is also a lot of effort .let’s not act like it’s not something you have to work at. If you not wearing makeup you’re working on making your skin look as good as possible. You’re making sure that your natural hair is healthy and looking good. Just because your not doing “the most” doesn’t mean that you’re not doing anything at all. I have vigorously made an effort to look good I just focus on looking good naturally. I dress more simply but I look very put together and stand tall . It makes me feel good to know that I look good even when I choose to keep it simple. If I want to do more I can do that but being more simple is what truly makes me feel good and confident. I used to do the wigs and all that but I feel better the way I am now. I’m pretty naturally and I lean in to that. I turn heads (not bragging) just saying . I’m a very modest women and I think ALOT of women can benefit from leaning into their natural beauty at some point. I’m telling you , it frees you and allows you to do more with less. It’s a great feeling.

[@starrjohnson1327]

You are speaking facts. I invest in my skincare, hair products and health. I get compliments all the time. I made water, supplements, exercise,sleep and peace my top priorities!

[@avababyy775]

Exactly

[@marciawade9101]

I'm the EXACT same way. EXCELLENT commentary, Ma'am! 🌹

[@A.Light33]

Thank you!

[@SamRabbitx]

This right here! Us "plane janes" DO the most. Just in a different way. Being presentable and respectable requires effort. Because there's definitely a difference between "natural beauty" and "women at walmart" levels of "low/no effort" lol

[@yourgirlshani]

I was known as a "plain jane" but my mother advised me to keep myself for marriage, stay natural and your future husband will appreciate it. My husband and I have been happily married for 10 years + and I'm grateful. Makeup, weave, lashes etc can enhance your beauty but will not get you a husband. Remember, Proverbs 31:30

[@margaretjohnston2858]

@yourgirlshani As women we should stick together, I can't believe the criticism it's everyone choice how they look and dress. Just be pleased we are able to make the choice some people can't. And having a husband isn't everything in this life. I for one can pay my own bill and buy house, cars etc, we are independent some of us and its by choice.

[@bobc1631]

You right young lady. Be a Proverbs 31 women, with a Queen Esther attitude.

[@yourgirlshani]

​@bobc1631 thank you, it means a lot. Especially being called a young lady over 40😂.

[@bobc1631]

@@yourgirlshani Well, when one is over 70, most would be a " young lady" to me.

[@ohshanana2397]

You’re actually the first male creator I’ve seen who doesn’t bash women no matter how many wrong points they can make (cause this lady had a few). It’s all respect, and I appreciate and value that. 👏🏾

[@smooothsynergy652]

Yess

[@lavi7521]

Mtr, rom wills and there're others

[@LarennPBel]

TONY GASKINS DOESN AS WELL AS RC BLAKES JR.

[@kimjames6028]

Agree 💯

[@ghostsheet777]

I love men like that 😍 just goes to show his character! We love good character in my whare (house) 😂

[@rthomas147]

“Beware of people who have to make a declaration of who they are when you see them” ‼️‼️ well said 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@churchsbiscuits]

💯

[@CPT_Pepper]

Case and point: Self-declared "Alpha" men...😒

[@sabir1208]

@@CPT_Pepper right I was on a dating app over a year ago and this guy said on his profile, he was "hands down one of those dopest people you'll ever meet" I swiped left so damn hard, I was like egh cringe

[@DanyDarling22]

@@CPT_Pepper 🤭😂🤣😂🎯 This keeps happening to me!! Their almost always insecure, hyper sensitive, easily triggered betas once I get to know them. Lol It’s ok tho. I adore betas too. They have high emotional intelligence. Alphas & sigmas do too but in a different way.

[@DanyDarling22]

@@sabir1208 😆😆😆

[@ChavisGreenard]

Ladies, don't focus on asthetics. Don't focus on fitting into vain, fruitless categories. Focus on God and prepare for a man of God to be your husband. Don't settle for less. Be the woman of God that a man of God who's focused on the Lord and His purpose would desire to marry.

[@toastEDmrshmello09]

Thank you. Now I can leave this video that I was temporarily nosy about lol

[@porschenator]

This right here is the one.

[@DanyDarling22]

Boy bye. Ladies, do BOTH. Be your best aesthetically & spiritually. Men will cheat & breed you either way. It really has nothing to do with aesthetics. It has everything to do with who they can AFFORD, CONTROL, & who STROKES THEIR EGO the best. Being an awesome, kind, nurturer, & forgives as a woman, in general, is a given.

[@Herbeauti]

My goal everyday F everything eles ❤

[@Loveispatient76]

I’ll do all of this, as well as look my best ❤

[@SMya-xk3jr]

Can we stop to appreciate how much of a supportive husband he is? He wasn’t mean or superficial but respectfully answered her question, gave her additional advice and then gassed up his lady. 🙌🏽 king behaviour 👑

[@galinaboryshkevych5025]

Agree! 💯👏👏👏👏 😇

[@tamsinwood2]

Black female, here. An observation: I shaved off most of my hair and wore it short a few years back. I hated it. But, it was the 1st time in my life that I received so many compliments from men.

[@starrjohnson1327]

❤

[@dbig48d]

That's because BW are so beautiful in thier natural state that God blessed you with

[@mimineren8787]

I loved my era of short hair. I also received the most compliment with short hair.

[@ultimateenigma6038]

Ladies we are women.....after age 13....normalize...that. referring to us as "females " is derogatory. Listen to men.....do they call each other "males"? Love and light to all blk women

[@justonetime6179]

@@ultimateenigma6038 a 13 year old is a child, but I agree with your point… call yourself either a girl or woman, not a female.

[@savvydavvy3463]

I personally know of 'plain Janes' struggling to find love while so-called pretty girls (weaves lashes makeup nails heels etc) who are getting married. In my opinion it's a personality or reputation issue mostly. There are also countless married 'plain Janes' being cheated on for other types of women (i.e. Derrick Jackson) This occurs daily. Men will always carry the carrot on the stick when you care too much.

[@mesidye]

And let’s also not forget plain jane married ones get cheated on as well. So 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@humblebeginnings3]

Facts

[@deliteful1991]

Bingo!

[@jalisabradford6201]

@@mesidye let's not forget those ones with all that makeup, weave, lashes and BBL, are getting played too

[@yotajames4145]

@@jalisabradford6201 absolutely 💯

[@TheNeen9]

😂 Plain Jane here! 👋🏾 I’m about to get married to my King! 🔥

[@R-rr1]

What's funny tho ?

[@srivera4339]

Congrats I found my king being a plain jane I don't all that fakeness

[@TheNeen9]

@@srivera4339 I know that’s right! 😍❤️🙌🏾

[@srivera4339]

​@@TheNeen9Because underneath all that girls Covergirl is a plain girl

[@Deniseessex222]

Pop off sis 😂 congratulations 🥰

[@raggaduxjones]

Very astute, insightful observations from a young man delivered in a respectful, loving way. We need more of this. Your wife is a lucky woman.

[@EternalRocks]

She has a lot of growing to do. Why is she so focused on what a man want? Many men have different needs and wants. Heck, that’s half of the human population. Stop worrying about men and focus on your elevation, mentally and physically. Enlighten yourself, laugh, enjoy life and your person will see you. I don’t know what a “Plain Jane” is bcc women can transform their look. Her perception of other women are off, misleading and wrong.

[@AdorzAaliyahSince94]

She really does!! She's giving off big PickMesha energy. Dudes are turned off by low-lying fruit & chase women they can't have. They'll gas PickMes up to the moon, though. They also like to try & "humble" women that intimidate them instead of leveling up themselves. At the end of the day, a majority of these dudes don't even know what they want anyway. Life has shown me that PickMeshas rarely get picked! Many end up being lifelong cheerleaders and friend-zoned! She's definitely worried about the wrong things. Hope she finds self-love and self-worth one day soon.

[@FightsRightsAlways]

Best response on her. Idk, why she's so worried about a man. All this tells me, is that she NEEDS a man in order to function.

[@lanid4B]

This girl on girl hate pick-mes engage in is insidious. I pray these women get chosen and leave other women tf alone.

[@nancybreaux9684]

Agreed.

[@laceykanda995]

Best comment on here 🥳🙏🏿! This woman is delusional 🤦🏾‍♀️.

[@PrettyIRL0926]

I love how No one is talking about how whether we have makeup/weave or plain Jane we all getting played 😪 I’ve been both and the grass is only greener where we water it. Dudes get plain Jane and neglect them then get the ones with lashes then try to make them plane Jane it doesn’t matter what matters is how they treat you no matter what season they’re or you’re in. Stop letting them lie to you looks do matter as long as they’re “natural” looking to them . Thank me later!

[@PrettyIRL0926]

I’m so glad I had my ugly duckling stage before I reached my peak/prime. I had plenty of time to work on my personality/intelligence before looks was ever important for the day and age now I have both beauty and brains +humor and these ninjas dk WHAT to do with it

[@sxyteesa0890]

@@PrettyIRL0926 same 😂

[@f3042]

@@PrettyIRL0926YEP!

[@obaaAkos02]

That's terrible. I hope you're not get friend anymore.

[@rosseryankeegirl]

Exactly!!!!! It doesn't matter pretty or plain...they do not like us either way. They seek, then destroy.

[@candacewalton9456]

What happened is, she is the plain Jane, but wasn’t getting the attention. She studied what she perceived men were paying attention to and tried to mimic/dress herself up like “that girl”. She’s frustrated because she’s still not getting the attention. Truly, she does clearly have low self esteem and nothing much to bring to the table. We can hear that she’s unrefined in her speech and the facade she has built up is easy to see through. She needs to step back, self reflect and build character, value, respect and love for self.. first. I do feel really bad for her and it’s a bit embarrassing to watch. I wish her the best though in her healing.

[@rosiewills2431]

I fully agree with you. Her vernacular is not in par with where she wants to be.

[@erehistruth2356]

I agree.

[@karencussoutaboy6214]

💯💯🎯

[@tonyacarpenter9033]

It's not so much her vernacular as it is her not understanding who she is. She feels as if she's entitled and she conflates and assumes. I need her to ground herself and have some contrition.

[@BluPhoenix417]

💙🖤

[@denisechambers5966]

When I wore my natural hair vs my wigs and makeup I didn’t get half as much attention from men, so I’m not getting men saying they like natural

[@DivestedConfessions]

They don’t really some men try to say that to disqualify certain women

[@nunyabizay9253]

They just wanna claim that they like natural. Their online feed still is gonna be full of OF girls and IG models.

[@CashvilleRaven]

It depends on the men you're trying to attract. I'm natural most of the time, and I get hit on constantly, but when I wear makeup & weave, I start attracting guys I would never talk to. The pookies and the dusties love all that mess.

[@shawannawilliams2221]

I agree

[@co9971]

Her looks isn't the problem. it's her speech and what that gives way to about who she is.

[@TVwriter23]

That's what I was thinking. Guys may have been interested until she opened her mouth. It also.could be she's in the wrong places. The club you damn near have to be someone else. Most people in the club ain't looking for no spouse. You also have to dress for where you are.

[@MissNJoy]

Exactly! Not intelligently spoken at all.

[@85russellkrystal]

I agree, she explained what she was trying to say incorrectly

[@SarahEvansCunningham23]

S. Tx you for pointing that out. I couldn't keep listening

[@This_is_super_dumb_but]

Idk, I hear lots of girls from Southern states sounding very "country" and unintelligible (like the female version of Larry the Cable guy.. or the female version of that guy from King of the Hill who nobody understands) but they have no problem finding people to love them. I wonder if there's a stigma to the black version of accents and, I guess, *_dialects_* that deviate from the classic Euro-English one? (not sure yet what each dialect here in America is called, sorry..) It does seem like they get criticized harsher, as if they're willfully commiting an offense/crime/sin.. and as if they are undeserving of love, respect and any form of humanity due to the dialect. Like, we seem very, very angry at them for this and mildly disgusted at them for this.. On a mildly related side note, I also wonder if this happens (consciously or _unconsciously_) to other people with other accents and/or dialects (jamaican pattois, nigerian pattois, hatian accents, african accents, middle eastern accents etc etc)

[@pocahontas4583]

Some women are naturally pretty without all that. So what she’s calling plain Jane may be drop dead gorgeous. I rarely wear makeup unless I’m dressing up for something and dress fairly bohemian/laid back and I’ve not had a shortage of attention. Honestly sometimes I’m shocked because I’ll be feeling like I look a mess and get more attention.

[@Mo.1988]

Same here

[@kairizeeshoopuf]

Needed to be said.

[@whatever7639]

Inner beauty (thoughts) may have something to do with it...

[@lulu-bp5qv]

Me too Sometimes when I am dressed up less men talk to me

[@PrincessJewels08]

Girl same. I’m like who are y’all looking at cause it can’t be me and my sweatpants 😂 I just take care of my skin, hair, hygiene, and have confidence no matter what I’m wearing. Plain Jane doesn’t mean less than or less attractive

[@SandraStachowiczLtd]

Plain Janes get married simply because they know they bring to the table so much more than just their looks

[@lifewithaja911]

Right. Just being a woman in itself holds so much power

[@nakajaaaa]

i’m so sick of the natural vs glam conversion 😭. men will treat BOTH natural & dolled up women poorly… i don’t think it matters. some people have their preferences… but just be yourself and do what makes you happy. the right man will come to you eventually!!! the whole “what a woman brings to the table” conversation irks my nerves so bad 😭😭.

[@Iceking6-w9s]

So true 😢

[@Shonteilviana]

Just because you wear eyelashes, makeup, and weave doesn’t make you pretty, yes it might enhance your look SOME but I feel some women or a lot of women are jealous of women who are confident in their own skin. Meaning they rock their natural ,they might not wear makeup and lashes, and some women I feel are intimidated of others who have such confidence. Not all men want women that their friends do too. Plus if all you have to offer is looks well that’s not very much. Beauty fades and dumb is forever I’ll take brains over beauty some women have to realize you might have looks but you lack in conversation.

[@BlackberryTitties]

She is definitely a beautiful girl! You can tell when people are pretty with or without. She clearly is lonely. No need for y’all to add more fuel to the fire! She’s still human at the end of the day.

[@raynettescoggins702]

Preach. As I said, most of these women aren't pretty, they're just made up to look that way. Make-up is very transforming.

[@miamiflutist]

Conversation is soooo important

[@adriennethompson3382]

@@BlackberryTitties she shared her insecurities to the world trying to shame the plain janes

[@joycewatt8289]

@Teil Fox I couldn’t agree with you more! You hit the nail on the head.

[@bertha8893]

Here we go..I worked with a girl who always gave me HELL for not dressing up and not applying make up everyday. So one day, to prove a point ( I was being petty) dressed up and put on my makeup and took my fine azz to work. She didn't bother for the entire day. Problem solved because she thought, I was unattractive because I did not wear makeup everyday. She stopped referring male customers to me as well. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@mzyotruthnlove8263]

🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣 you became competition to her. I bet she didn't bother you anymore either.

[@mariahsmith9283]

@@mzyotruthnlove8263☠️☠️

[@mzyotruthnlove8263]

@@mariahsmith9283 hi Mariah, would you translate the meaning of the skulls please?

[@shalawndudley2094]

@@mzyotruthnlove8263 Dead. Like funny or crazy

[@mzyotruthnlove8263]

@@shalawndudley2094 thank you. Have a great day.

[@cynt1908]

I think she’s confusing the word “pretty” with “glam” or maybe “high maintenance.” Not trying to put her down, but I would not put her in the category of pretty. If you’re really “pretty “ you’re pretty even if you don’t have on makeup and nails. The men are “scared” of her because she comes across as high maintenance.

[@aprilclover2429]

Exactly!

[@teewashington1987]

Agreed

[@user-pw3bl1zv4g]

This!👏🏾👏🏾

[@charmainebell7188]

Truth...

[@moniferk]

Agreed

[@Centimilli]

Honestly, they're probably scared of her because they dont know how she looks without the lashes weave and makeup. Fr!!

[@royaltyakatweetypie3058]

Stooooooppppppp!!!😂😂😂

[@kayjeffs3741]

He is absolutely right when he says some men will hurt you on purpose to crush your ego...that's what I think Diddy is doing to Yung Miami

[@lavonnealexander6936]

🤔😨I think your right ?! That dude keeps on seeing different women everyday.

[@danilaroche1156]

I always suspected this. Men crushing a ladies ego. This happened alot when I was a successful model. Men assumed I was conceited and tried to hurt me.

[@ChavisGreenard]

Whether she's a Plain Jane or a Fun Girl, both have the potential to be toxic. Without God as the Root of her life, her fruits will be toxic to the soul. Fellas, focus on God & prepare to be a husband for the woman of God coming.

[@diannegwillis]

Right! Cause plain Jane gets cheated on by so called "Fun Girl"

[@tanikawashington8246]

Amen

[@Silversiren-d1b]

Facts

[@rhondapope4361]

Amen 🙏

[@brittanythornton8408]

❤❤❤

[@jalynnmarie4218]

You are telling the truth. My husband loves me as my natural self. Lady’s it doesn’t take all that! Keep your body healthy and skin glowing, take care of your natural hair! Even if you decide to put weave in it! Being a women is already a gift!

[@victoriousneish429]

That's right! 👏🏾

[@applecandyfolks7979]

BUT FKS WITH WOMEN WHO ARENT,

[@Mo.1988]

Is that your real hair?

[@sashua4]

I love that “ being a woman is already a gift”

[@rolindabeck]

Yes Love being a woman to be plain Jane or petty we are blessed to be here

[@nunusmith3320]

People are delusional.. Who told you, you was pretty? 😂😂😂😂 My grandma said you got let somebody else tell you that.

[@idakelly3567]

🙄😳😩🤣

[@nunusmith3320]

@@idakelly3567 i’m sorry if I was being mean.

[@ellyjessy5044]

​@@nunusmith3320but you are absolutely right

[@disneymama7548]

Amen

[@MrsBruteBreakerDavis]

The men that want to sleep with her cause chileeeeeeeeeeeeeee I’m not being mean, but you are absolutely correct who told you that !???

[@shuris_vibranium]

I tuned out her voice and "logic" as soon as she said "females." 😒

[@TheNaphisa03]

A woman calling other women "females." Very derogatory way to address women. Goats, sheep's and horses are female, not a good word for women.

[@mizrelmizrel]

🎯🎯🎯

[@AdorzAaliyahSince94]

I have come to loathe the term female!

[@gigif169]

Right!!! It's low class to me and removes womanhood from a gender that's female.

[@pajdesign]

So you missed the part where she said “What is it gone take fo’ a ni&&@ to realize dat we da one???” 😂🤪

[@masteryoshi5685]

I honestly believe in doing both and I've seen women on both sides get married. We're all beautiful. But it's important to understand that healthy people attract healthy people. It's not about how you look it's about your character. I hate the whole "plain jane" vs other women trope, it's tired. Let the categories go and be who you are, work on your health and someone will come and love you the way you need to be loved. We all deserve that and this whole ideology needs to be abandoned.

[@MrTheone919]

Thank you!!!! 🙌🏾👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽drop da mic!!!

[@essence____beauty_92]

💯💯💯💯❤️❤️❤️ perfectly said!!!!

[@suzziek2999]

Exactlyyyyyy!!! I’m tired of hearing women say “men don’t like it when we’re natural…men don’t like Afro hair…men go only for these type of girls” no sis have confidence in yourselfff. As soon as you change to fit someone else’s standards, you loose yourself and eventually the relationship because that isn’t you! There are men out there that will like all that, you just haven’t found that person yet

[@lynne4948]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@elsiem7295]

Girl yesssss, I hate the fucking categories, especially when it’s another woman boxing woman in, just to make herself feel more at ease within herself. Like no ma’am!

[@SharayaMW]

A women does NOT have to purchase and wear weaves, lashes, etc to invest in herself 🤣 some of y'all wild with these comments. For the record, us Plain Janes are not in competition with you Baddies. We're just different.

[@LaLa_856]

🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@teewashington1987]

Preach

[@Nirobiscloset10]

I thought all women can be both? 😂 I'm both..I think us ladies are so more. Now plain vs made up.😂🤣

[@SharayaMW]

@@Nirobiscloset10 Absolutely can be, but some women feel that plain Jane's are boring and some feel that Baddies are too much.

[@Nirobiscloset10]

@@SharayaMW 😆 Baddies...a plain Jane can be wilder than a baddie. People are regressing badly. Your outside appearance can't be the only thing, if so, than your not as gorgeous as you think.

[@chrishandacausey]

She’s lying . No one is telling her that.

[@shanericabennett]

😅😅😂😂😂😂

[@noseygirl9907]

Bless her heart 😑

[@tyeshayecamille7643]

😂😂

[@Deesuite]

Whether a madeup pretty girl or plain Jane, you have to ask yourself “What comes with that?” Integrity, nice personality, character, caring, loyalty, intelligence, empathy, understanding, etc.

[@kaytaylor1766]

Well said !!

[@Melly16yr10]

Truth same things to look in a man

[@charenzo95]

Just because a woman doesn't wear the entire beauty supply store every day doesn't make her not be attractive just like Clarabelle the cow lashes and adult baby hairs make anyone else pretty. 1st of all it all depends on who's looking at you. Beauty is subjective. Secondly I never hear the really breathtakingly gorgeous women refer to themselves as pretty every other sentence. I've known quite a few and what they said is that they've been told that their entire lives and quite frankly they get tired of that being the only thing people notice about them. They're already convinced. They don't need to convince others.

[@kailapeterson1650]

😂😂😂😂😂Wear the entire beauty supply store😅 You are hilarious

[@mommafoxxdiaries6509]

Wtf not you having a whole roasting session in the comments ..!! Cow lashes wtf 😂

[@Thuglifebabyy]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@BriBri256]

not the whole supply store! 💀😂😂😂

[@Mo.1988]

😭😭😭

[@evelyntaylor4470]

Just because a woman is extra, nails done, hair done, weave extension, eyelashes etc., Doesn't mean a woman is pretty. She takes care of herself. As she should. Taking care of yourself and being confident is attractive!

[@ASmith-jn7kf]

That's not taking care of yourself. Taking care of yourself wouldn't be covering up imperfections and bad hair care practices and putting on fake lashes. No more than wearing dentures are taking care of your teeth. She puts these things on, she wants to appear a certain way, she wants to look what she thinks is good.

[@Lulu-po3kn]

This is such a good topic. I am an older woman and it's really shocking to me how low majority of women have fallen. Decked out in make up, false lashes, false nails, false hair and who knows what else is false. Sad state of affairs.

[@flowerheadx]

fake butts too 😂 and lately black women have been getting lip injections as well.

[@serahloeffelroberts9901]

Not to mention the insane amount of money women spend on elective plastic surgery that often looks worse in the long run.

[@nicolejennings8389]

Why does she assume that she is pretty just because she spends money on her hair and makeup, nails, etc? There are women who have natural hair and look beautiful without anything on their face or any enhancements. She is wasting funds to just look average.

[@Toni-id2pv]

Agreed. She okay looking

[@dashiajames1882]

Good afternoon: It's crazy that some women believe they look better w/makeup. A pic without make-up looks great or the same. They wear soooo much make-up they literally look ashy & old. But she is spending money just to look average 🙄. That whole video makes her look like a insecure person. And a airhead..!!

[@zxcccccc1]

Yes, because men don’t just approach women because they’re beautiful it can also be because you’re accessible.

[@nowlaterkiss9811]

PREACH!!!

[@LeeLee-fr4um]

Agreed. Who told her she is pretty? Not being mean, but she's very average looking.

[@richievanessa85]

I’m what’s considered a plain Jane female. I used to think I was ugly unless I had weaves and makeup and fake nails on. It took a long time for me to show my man my real hair. He brought me out of my shell and now I’m natural. He always told me he likes me better natural. The most compliments I’ve ever gotten was whenever I looked natural. I never went back to how I used to be and that’s because of my man. That’s why I’m getting married because I’m a plain Jane and don’t have to look like somebody else to be pretty mad my fiancé helped me understand that.💯

[@Savage4Lyfe]

That’s nice. 🫶🏽

[@PrincessJewels08]

If that is you in your icon pic, then you are very pretty

[@richievanessa85]

@@PrincessJewels08 thank you❤️

[@FinishTheRaceVL7]

Same here. Last year I FINALLY decided to let go of the weaves and wigs. I feel more Beautiful and Free...Amen!

[@Knowledgeispower276]

By looking at your pic you are a natural beauty!! Nothing needed, you’re gorgeous.

[@laughsinmisogyny8827]

I'mma take a shot every time she says "us pretty girls" until it's true.

[@dontme4132]

Exactly. She ain't pretty in my estimation

[@teewashington1987]

😂😂😂

[@tomorrowsworld3674]

😂

[@Praisingthecreator]

😂😂😂😂

[@uwishuknewwishbones]

I’m ngl I was looking for this comment because are we confusing eyelashes and weave w/ pretty cause WTF😳

[@seritawilkins1058]

I bet she’s GORGEOUS with out the fake hair, eyelashes, makeup & nails. She didn’t mean this in a bad way regardless how it came off. Her intentions were pure. I respect her bravery & wanting answers. God will answer. Nothing but love Sis.

[@ASmith-jn7kf]

If all that make up and hair is making her average, hon, no. That's okay though. We all look different. We don't all have to be beauty queens.

[@goodgirlvicki]

My brother loves natural looking women. Natural looking doesn't just mean no make up or fake hair. For example, if you get extensions get extensions that would naturally look like your hair or wear lashes that look like they belong to you.

[@ashleyharrison4560]

Yup that’s it right there

[@rhondapope4361]

Right Vicki k ❤

[@lovethetruth953]

yes

[@camilleyvette9269]

And boom 🤯 🎯🎯🎯🎯 enhance yourself slightly 😊

[@garymoore3384]

The man she really wanted probably chose a woman she feels is less attractive than her but she has to realize beauty really is in the eye of the beholder and it takes more than looks to keep anyone, man or woman.

[@oceanlover2426]

We don’t have to suffer through all types of processes and procedures to be beautiful. Don’t have to spend a ton of money or place so many layers of artificial fixings on top of us to be beautiful. Beauty, in my observation, comes from The Creator and it flows from within on out. One thing I love about embracing my natural beauty is that it’s never out of style for me, I matter what people around me are doing. People say being thin is today and then being thin is out, designer bodies are in.. Then they’re out and the natural “look” is in and so on. No thank you. I am myself and I embrace this through the coming and going of all fads. I feel that we all have qualities, traits, attributes, and characteristics, that make us uniquely us. When we see the beauty in this and embrace it, it can be transformative not only for ourselves but also for those around us, even for generations of beautiful ones not yet born.

[@yelloe]

She "feels" yup 😂. Many American women also seem to think they are hotter stuff than they really are. It's the overly self love, you're beautiful no matter what size or shape, look, fed into them from the media. She might think/feel she's hotter than the other woman but in reality, objectively the other woman is more attractive. I've seen this irl among coworkers. Women put another woman down or gossip about their look, even though the other woman is CLEARLY more attractive and everyone else would agree.

[@Jackie.Cali.Productions]

Some men are very visual and care more about a woman’s appearance than personality cause they’re shallow.

[@artsbybware4790]

Exactly

[@carolinebcollier]

Bingo.

[@thebluebooklife]

And

[@ln8396]

@@thebluebooklifeloser

[@zxcccccc1]

Maybe they know you’re wife material.

[@amberanderson528]

She said "us pretty girls" 😂 some people are so delusional. Shes a 2 at best. Thats why men dont take her serious 😂😂😂.

[@carlalamar6193]

😂😂😂😂...like who told her?...... Guess she had to toot her own horn

[@e113jelly6]

I wouldn’t rate her that low but she’s a basic black women nothing wrong because so am I but she’s behaving delusional though

[@ShyOne1031]

I can answer this. 🙌🏽 1. Most women now days (like the one in the video) all look the same & have the same aesthetic. Same fake looking lashes. Same makeup. Same fake hair. A lot of men like natural beauty. 2. A lot of women now days talk like men and carry themselves like men. Men like softness. 3. MOST women in today’s generation only care about money & “getting the bag” and will leave that same man the minute he’s going through something real or isn’t making enough.

[@lasantuzza777]

very true. number 2 is the biggest one i swear. and it can tie in with number 3, always talking ab “chasing the bag” sounds super masculine and honestly gross coming out of a woman’s mouth especially. it’s just a turn off. truth be told whether you’re into makeup, nails, etc or go completely natural most men don’t really mind too much either way. it’s almost entirely about the way you carry yourself and your energy that will determine whether or not someone sees you as a wife. ❤ and that being said i’m not advocating for people completely changing themselves or living in authentically but it’s certainly something to consider if you want to be a wife so bad but nobody sees you fit for the role. growth and self reflection are so important!

[@nicheZYT]

yeah it makes me sad because they get mad that guys use and cheat on them but when men see women who are ghetto fabulous and “bad” all they think about doing is having sex with them and that’s something they rlly don’t understand…

[@tamaranwatkins]

He put it so nicely “it’s weird that you put yourself in that category”

[@Mo.1988]

😂 😂 😂

[@queenreg7]

Such tact.

[@MariahSincere]

People think they have options they don’t have. That’s men and women. You could have a million people in your DMs but if you wouldn’t date any of them and they are not compatible with you then none of them are actual options. I think we would all be better off if we humble ourselves and realize that .

[@thatimokoena8357]

Word

[@SK-le4lj]

That part!

[@TVwriter23]

Or what are the true intentions of the men in women's DMs? Folks be like dudes be checking for me in my DMs.

[@velasquezcarter2963]

This part !! Omg

[@courtneytyree-jones8563]

Facts!

[@SocialProjectTV]

Being a plain jane has taught me a few things. Effective communication problem solving teamwork, partner support and a plethora of characteristics I'd lack if I spent my time focused on parties, getting hair, nails, lashes done, and being out there with other women. Instead, my future husband gets more out of me.

[@Narrow-Pather]

I've never worn wigs, weaves, make-up, or clothing that advertised. What I discovered to be the attraction was proper character building and maintaining that which I was blessed with. It's also amazing what being a well rounded conversationalist and a genuine smile can accomplish. 🍃😊🍃

[@songbird8404]

This video irked my soul and I’m in Facebook jail and couldn’t chime in on the debate lol! The fact that she thinks “pretty” is associated with fashion, lashes, hair, and makeup is sad. It’s also a clear indication that you don’t think you’re pretty without any of those things. That’s why they play with the “pretty” chicks.

[@AdorzAaliyahSince94]

Preach! Hope you make bail ASAP!

[@songbird8404]

@@AdorzAaliyahSince94 January 11th chile 🤦🏽‍♀️ I been in about 60 days now 😂

[@Royalgazlite]

You must have done something real bad to be in Facebook jail that long!🤣👍🏽 Cant wait till You see freedom!

[@songbird8404]

@@Royalgazlite in response to a post that asked “if your mom and aunt got into a fight who would you help” all I said was “I’m whooping my aunts ass” and they got me 😂😂😂

[@saladandcake7103]

@@songbird8404 😂😂😂 I'm with you on that one!

[@Lauren-kd4jm]

Plane Jane’s get overlooked by the wrong men. When I was single I was overlooked but I knew that those men weren’t for me. A mature man that knows what he wants doesn’t overlook us Plane Janes.

[@baddiezone]

Yes and a mature men likes how you carry yourself and not your looks , if I were a men I would definitely pay attention to the girl who has the most dignity and respect , but also could be a 7 I’m just saying because she gotta be appealing lol

[@Pepperoni-and-cringe]

Amen

[@calisongbird]

*Plain Not “plane.” 😄

[@bobbys9853]

I don’t think it has anything to do with maturity. People have preferences, I’m not sure why putting labels on people just to make you feel better about why people over look others is a weird coping mechanism.

[@HeartWritesINC]

Your picture is pretty not plain at all. 🤷‍♀️

[@followerofthelamb2155]

You earned a new subscriber 😊 You respectfully broke down that video. Usually black men just love to tear down women but this is class right here👍🏽💪🏽

[@nerlyferistin6361]

She was taught and told if you look good all the time, men will love you and marry you. That is why some women will get BBL Women need to work on logic, critical thinking, and the inner self. Judge Judy said: "Beauty fade Dumbest is forever". You can make the face prettiest as you want but your mind will stay with you forever.

[@jessicascreenwritingservices]

Yes! I remember the episode when she said that. So true!

[@pattilightmayo]

Amen!

[@faa1412]

THey also need to work on being easygoing, warm, soft, and feminine. You can be dolled up and still be very masculine and live in too much of your masculine energy and be hard to deal with.

[@amerokeewiya1320]

@@faa1412 There needs to be a balance of both.

[@TheRacqgrl769]

Thank you for this video. I had a "friend" who was hyper focused on my appearance. She constantly talked about me being "beautiful" and wondered how someone like me spent much of my time living single. I have never regarded myself as a beautiful woman. WHO I AM outside of the shell is what's important to me. I have worked hard to be who I am and to achieve what I have. I do not seek out the attention of men. Yes, I care about how I look insomuch as: Having a clean body; being well dressed for the occasion; looking like I care about myself. I rarely wear makeup and own one wig that I wear as a joke. I have false lashes that are barely longer than my natural lashes. I do not want to get noticed when I'm out. Men who know me may mention my appearance once in a while. They usually talk about my smarts and other qualities that make one successful in life. It seems that BW love trying to be in competition with each other and love trying to tear down each other. There are already too many BM doing this, so why be a part of the problem?

[@aprilclover2429]

A naturally attractive woman doesn’t have to do all of that girly stuff. I wake up pretty much looking good. I’m not a beauty queen but I’m cute as is.

[@pattilightmayo]

❤️ I love the confidence! ❤️

[@aprilclover2429]

I’ consider myself somewhat attractive but I don’t consider myself pretty.

[@Savage4Lyfe]

@@aprilclover2429 girl you’re pretty. Me too. As is

[@tiffanyskinner]

“Girly stuff” there’s nothing wrong with being a woman lol

[@maryann2600]

Thanks for sharing and answering her questions in an honest but respectful way. Hopefully, this will help many will use this video to grow.

[@acciusroseline]

Pretty girl using the word nigga….as a description word. On the same breath looking to be taken serious. The irony 💀

[@yprimrose]

That part. She doesn't understand she's turning good men off.

[@nowlaterkiss9811]

who said she was pretty?

[@Speake5rboxx]

Somebody she was interested in played her for a plain girl

[@arianalovelace1133]

Plain or naturally more attractive 🤣

[@angelaabron3080]

At first I thought she was gonna say, “why don’t men want a good woman.” Usually it seems like men over look a good hearted woman over a woman who appears good looking. I’ve never heard ppl say what she’s saying. Confidence in a woman shines brighter than any physical attribute. Great video much love ❤️

[@pocahontas4583]

Because that is usually the case. I’m not sure how to say this nicely but the problem is perhaps her perception of how she looks is not all what she’s thinking it is.

[@Janeintheok]

​@@pocahontas4583 tactfully stated

[@BL3SSed-Bliss]

It is true that many men (and women) who get off on breaking egos. I appreciate the tenderness and respect you/this man exhibited and projected here, alongside the authenticity.

[@misskaykayRSA]

So according to her, us plain janes are not pretty 😂😂😂… wow

[@uncletea5632]

Basically 😂😂trynna say it without saying it

[@heathern2667]

He knows he wanted to say that she is NOT PRETTY. And I don't think she is pretty

[@patriciadavis5939]

You hate to crush her feelings. Over confident. Very serious about how good she looks. SMH😮

[@ansaht4]

girl is plain delusional.

[@freespirit21newyork]

I don't think so either.

[@NikolaLeaDakota]

Absolutely! Not pretty at all even with all the extras

[@GloriaStephanieDeleon]

🤭🤭🤭

[@Sandra-wj4on]

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Which to me means it's what's inside a person that makes them beautiful.

[@kimberlyjackson576]

Say that it’s so true.

[@EmpressSol]

This was me the whole time "🤨🤨🤨" lmao

[@WilliamsPinch]

Men want a woman who doesn’t look like a different person in the morning.

[@jessybelle]

U want a barking rabies dog next to you in the bed - just say it

[@Babyduzzit]

@@jessybellewhere the fuck you get that from? He said he wants someone that wont surprise you in the morning, he wants his woman to look the same in the morning as he mett her. He wants pretty girl from the beginning, not a pretend pretty girl lol

[@percyastronautstatus.8780]

U just said what I was gonna say. ..That Is MY type of woman

[@flowerheadx]

@@jessybellegirl you sound SO hit 😂

[@blong111111]

Agreed 💯

[@TamTam9-15]

By todays standards I am plain. I consider my self understated no weave, minimal makeup, I met and dated my husband wearing no makeup or very little. When you wear all that mess you look like you’re trying to hard, hiding something or look like that’s all you have to offer.

[@joylastname3035]

I also met my husband looking like the plainest of janes. I am a plain Jane even though I clean up real nice. I've gone thru my whole life with ppl like her making me feel bad about my looks and it took a really long time to look in the mirror and not hate everything I saw.

[@BlackberryTitties]

She doesn’t even have on makeup. Just lashes and hair. Her brows aren’t done. Or no lipstick etc. Anyhow I got my husband with lashes and makeup. I mean it’s not that serious 😊

[@TamTam9-15]

@@BlackberryTittiesmaybe at the moment she doesn’t have all that on but she self admitted that she’s done up most of the time. No one said you can’t get a man with makeup and weave. The men have just spoken and they prefer natural to that look when it comes to a spouse.

[@TamTam9-15]

@@joylastname3035especially as a black women I felt like I always had to have my hair done up and have a certain “look” I’ve embraced my natural beauty but yup I clean up nice.

[@ThisisCOBI]

why wouldn't a man want a naturally pretty woman? Come on now.

[@flowerheadx]

like let’s use common sense 😂

[@Camryndawn22]

Why wouldn’t women want a naturally rich & tall man? Cmon now cmonnnn now 😂😂🤦🏻‍♀️

[@uhlanibrock3868]

I’m a natural girl and I’m not that confident being natural but I don’t feel like it would help me by staying done up all the time. I need to be confident naturally first. I don’t want to feel like I NEED the extras

[@gracie2367]

The real question is why does she care and why does she think good looks mean she deserves a good man.

[@sherrijohnson3399]

Her Description Of Pretty Girl Is Way Ooooffffffffff🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Toni-id2pv]

She not even that cute

[@exquisite921]

@@Toni-id2pvthat’s REALLY the one and she hasn’t been told 🙄

[@SparklingOnyx]

I think where the discrepancy comes into play is when a man's words do not align with his actions. I'm not speaking on the man in this video because he may be the exception to the rule. However, most men say out of their mouths they like natural beauty, plain looking women but those are the same men who are cheating on their plain looking gf and wives with women who are more glamorous, sexy, and flashy looking. They are the same men who are constantly being caught lusting after women who look nothing like their significant other. Liking pics, watching videos and drooling over the Kim k, nicki Minaj, cardi B, Rihanna, Beyonce's, or instagram models of the world who are dripping in makeup, jewelry, high fashion, perfect body, nails, hair etc...This does not personally apply to me because my life is not centered around gaining men's attention. Truthfully speaking in the blk community whether a woman is plain Jane or more glamorous looking she is dealing with the same dysfunctional, toxic relationship riddled with lying, cheating, disrespect, chaos, confusion, and a man dragging out getting married for yrs and yrs and then not actually being a faithful husband afterwards etc (not ALL but many are experiencing this).

[@tarasteward3271]

you spoke facts!

[@AdorzAaliyahSince94]

Preach!!!

[@f3042]

Because the truth of the matter is the actual “plain Jane” women are chosen for marriage. They get the benefits of legal protection, children born in wedlock, recognition in society (as a wife and not a babymomma), and receiving all of the assets when the husband passes away. These are the women who are usually raised to put others first and have character and nice personalities. A man honors that by being a protector and provider. Fidelity is not guaranteed. The “baddie” archetype has always existed. These are the chicks who think their looks are all they need to get/keep a man, the chicks who may think it’s ok to be a mistress, the chicks who willingly get knocked up by a married man, etc. Many of these chicks have extreme character flaws but don’t realize it, so they are relegated to “fun girl” status. Men have affairs with them, string them along, may even like them, but men don’t actually respect them or trust them enough for marriage because they know those women won’t make great mothers, won’t take care of the household and will probably cheat. If you marry properly and not just for love, then as the wife, you win in the long run. You just have to be aware of men’s nature before marriage so you know how to select the best man for you and are prepared to handle the bad times that may come. They used to teach girls this stuff back in the day. The girls who usually “marry well” were taught this stuff at a young age. Beautiful women get married everyday! But they are beautiful women who have more to offer than a pretty face.

[@SparklingOnyx]

@@f3042 I had to stop reading after you stated "the TRUTH of the matter is that actual plain Jane women are chosen for marriage"......That's not the truth of the matter, all different archetypes of women are chosen for marriage. Plain and ones who invest in the up keep of their looks. They're in my family, and all over the world. Men marry who they like and feel will be a good fit and others marry who is around after they have sewn their oats and are ready to settle down. Just because a woman is plain does not mean she is a loving, nurturing woman who is capable of being a good wife and just because a woman is beautifu, paints her nails and wears lipstick out to dinner does not mean she is self absorbed with no substance and not a quality woman. It's common sense to most women who have a level head, that looks are not a personality/character substitute. This is a young woman in the video who may not be there yet just like many young men are immature, shallow and not there yet. She does not represent most grown, mature women who upkeep themselves.

[@f3042]

@@SparklingOnyx I’m not saying these tropes/archetypes are set in stone, but I think it’s important to understand how men generally view women. And I’m not talking about beautiful women who are healthy and normal, I’m talking about the type of woman in this video who literally thinks makeup and wigs is what makes a woman beautiful or appealing. I have nothing against upkeep because I’ve been on top of my beauty routine since I was a teen. The point was, there are many men who will tell you they married a woman who wasn’t as focused on aesthetics. Doesn’t mean they are “plain” or unattractive; it just means they don’t feel the need to follow every single beauty trend to feel beautiful.

[@cherrkristina6743]

Sir, as a woman,I agree with you a million percent. Too much fake "pretty girls" out there with no character and no plan for the future. Plain Jane is the way to go 😂

[@Lucylu723]

7:02 - "Beware of people who feel like they gotta make *a declaration about who they're everytime you see them."*

[@scorpification]

I’m a ‘plain Jane’ on most days but when I go out with friends, I enjoy the chance to feel feminine and dressed up. But what you’re saying might explain why I felt rather shunned by the men I was interested in. 😂 I’m probably just weird because I was raised almost literally in a barn, but I have a hard time finding where the happy medium is between ‘letting yourself go’ and looking like a high-maintenance psychopath. I guess I can look like both very well 😂😂😂

[@tyrarice7318]

I can relate to what you're saying😃

[@sxyteesa0890]

This is me too I can do both equally and be confident in both

[@jacquesejones37]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 girl you're beautiful do you. I work more than anything and when its time to dress up I go in!!! But most times Im dressed to grind and I have my 4 children so I'm busy.

[@psionicpowers132]

I only wash my face, apply coco butter lotion on my face my hair braided, make sure am in shape which I am only 125 pounds and 5'8, put on my dresss and my heels, men do compliment alot wuth my Natural beauty..

[@nothereyetlost]

I’ll tell you right now, THIS girl, IS the happy medium. Her makeup is MINIMAL. Yes her nails are a bit much, but that’s really it. But here’s the thing about black men’s behavior people don’t know, they DESPISE BLACK women. That means they want to tear them down no MATTER what. The only time they seem not too obsessed with tearing a black woman down is when she’s basically admitted ti bd being a borderline slave to A BLACK man. THEN they have praises for her. But as you can see this one has a mind of her own. I’ve noticed that a while ago and I keep looking for evidence that I’m wrong but it’s really sparse. This girl is asking a LEGIT question. Yet she’s being ridiculed for the most part. This guy says “I won’t be harsh” but he WAS. He maybe didn’t do it as bad as others, but he DEFINITELY did it. And BLACK women have been brainwashed to reflect black men’s values, which is why the women here are also lambasting her and desperate to find something wrong with her.

[@NileGoddess]

Pretty is not skimpy!!Showing skin and body parts doesn’t mean a woman is beautiful.

[@Jazlover101]

Just say your overweight and you cant dress like that lmao

[@SantiagoVeraLoor]

No, it means she belongs to the streets 😂😂😂

[@Jazlover101]

@@SantiagoVeraLoor no it doesn't

[@margaretdudley9618]

I really appreciate the way he communicates. Very truthful, very direct, but very courteous.

[@Jayisinvisible]

I always find this natural vs make up discussion so interesting. My experience has been that a smile is why they approach. Not my lashes, not my fro…my smile.

[@danilaroche1156]

Yes, your smile. That's it. This girl isn't even pretty or humble.

[@girlletstalk808]

This is my third video I’ve watched. You remind me of Tony Gaskins; the respect, humbleness & God fearing. Someone I trust to listen to. Subscribed!

[@jerrodallmon710]

I love the hell out my plain Jane that why she got a ring because she don’t do nothing but bring me peace

[@Daija27]

You spoke the truth 💯💯 New subscriber 😊

[@sweetiegenie2036]

Great topic! 😁 We should all work on ourselves on the inside more because everyone's looks fade eventually. Your wife's a lucky lady. I hope you two have many more years of a loving marriage together.

[@Missbevybaby_]

Most men want a pretty and well groomed/dressed woman but think that she is likely high maintenance, expensive, out of their league and has plenty of options. "Plain-jane" women are the safer option and are thought to be more loyal from what I have heard from men. Most men live a double life and cheat anyway so just enjoy life sis they're not worth studying and stressing about❤

[@pattilightmayo]

🎯🙌🏼

[@brynnk2518]

You can still be pretty and well groomed as a plain Jane . It's not like they are talking about women who has bad hygiene and always looks a mess that's not a plain Jane. That's just someone for whatever reason isn't taking care of themselves . A plain Jane is a woman that's simple like quiet luxury 😉.

[@Missbevybaby_]

@@brynnk2518 I'm speaking of a different level of grooming and dress like the girl spoke of in the video. Has nothing to do with hygiene those are the basics.

[@heyitsme9536]

THISSSSSSSSSS

[@dantayhylton9938]

But being plain Jane can be expensive too if you dress simple women are expensive period, I don't wear lashes or weave but my clothes are not cheap and I don't wear ghetto outfits I'm conservative with how I dress.

[@joylastname3035]

First of all, I disqualified her after the females dropped out of her mouth. On a real note though, I've had at least 2 women and 1 of them my supposed friend do this to me. When my husband and I were dating, she told him I wasn't even attractive and she doesn't know what he sees in me. Fast-forward to us being married some years down the line with a kid, she still brings up this same topic about how I'm not physically all that so she doesn't know what my husband sees in me compared to her who is tall and slim and our other friends who are either light skinned, pretty, with nice bodies. How is my ugly still bothering you years down the line? The other lady asked how I was able to land a husband while they the pretty girls haven't. I know I'll never win a beauty contest in my life but why do ppl feel I don't deserve happiness cos I'm not their standard of a good looking woman with a hot figure. Can we the "plain Jane females" be allowed to live too? Pls?

[@f3042]

Darling, how are you calling these people your “friends”?! Why would you associate with someone who would say that about you TO you AND your future hubby 😮😮😮

[@joylastname3035]

@@f3042 she apologized and made amends for a while and I thought she was being genuine till it popped back again down the line. I did cut her off completely several years ago.

[@kikiyweathers]

She's NOT your friend. She's an opp, dressed in frenemy clothing. Do not under any circumstances confuse the two. Off with her head. Cut ties, block, and keep it moving. Friends uplift and edify. The opposition does the opposite. Know the difference. A beautiful heart deserves love. Your husband saw that in you. Period.

[@GoddessBlueYozakura7]

Damn that's horrible. Lady drop those friends they only kept you around to make themselves feel "prettier". Drop them please!!

[@erehistruth2356]

Work on your self esteem. A woman who is trashing your name should not be in your circle.

[@mademax1]

good energy bro, appreciate the attempt to not shame her while using her points as a talking topic

[@ccfordanio7914]

My grandmother taught us what makes you beautiful is the inside, so focus on that most. She also taught us to be stylish and take pride in ourselves. I like to dress well, but nails and makeup are to enhance your appearance but not make it or change it. You are still the same person with or without those things. Attitude can make anyone unattractive.

[@miraclenix]

You were so respectful. I appreciate your approach. You were spot on!

[@81redddd]

I don’t wear makeup and I only get my hair done a few times a year , so I guess that makes me a plain Jane and I am married but I don’t think me being low maintenance has anything to do with it 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@teewashington1987]

Facts

[@vannamacon2466]

right since when does buying cloths lashes weaves make you high maintenance . high maintenance to me is knowing your worth , having confidence and all around not taking shit from no one and not letting people play with you in life is high maintenance . Yall wear weaves but let some men walk you like a dog girl you have low self esteem your not high maintenance ! your basic

[@mimi.w667]

Agreed ​@@vannamacon2466

[@margaretgreen-cs2gy]

WHAT'S WRONG WITH CARRYING YOURSELF WITH DIGNITY.? Everyone does not TWIRK...💥