Why Do People Lie About Their Age?!

[@KnijMagz]

I 1000% agree with everything you just said. If you can lie about a basic undebatable feature about yourself, you immediately lose credibility. It's like lying about your hair color or something. Despite age being a sensitive thing for some, it's definitely not a justification to lie about. These people need to work on how the view themselves and their self esteem. As a 22 year old, I can say I'm not afraid to age. I think there is beauty in physical aging that is accompanied with a lot if interesting stories & experiences. I personally like the look of older men-- I have been attracted to men up to 25-30 years older. However, I would likely date guys 15-20 years older because I would hate to fall in love, build a life together, and then (because if how much older they are) he dies way before I do. But if I did meet a man that's out of that age range but theres a string connection, I'm not closed off to it at all.

[@KevenTalks]

Yes I agree that there's something really attractive about natural aging in men! I guess subconsciously it signifies maturity, life experience, and hopefully wisdom - lol. I guess it's a double standard - the same is not usually perceived for women. But I think generally people are still attracted to an attractive man once he ages.

[@RandomPerson-jd2wb]

I feel like people often lie about their age in order to get acces to an age group (almost always younger) that they prefer. I just think that's pathetic. Like there are young people who are into people that are a lot older, and that's fine. I myself would like my partner to be a bit older (i'm 24) but not old enough to look like my dad. I found it disturbing how may messages and taps i got (on Grindr) from men aged 50+ whilst i clearly stated that my age range is until 35. I'm just going to be very careful on dating apps because i do NOT want to be catfished (and putting up photo's from yourself from 5+ years ago is also catfishing!)

[@KevenTalks]

I agree. I could totally date a 50 year old or even older honestly, but then I'd have to get something more out of the relationship than what I'd get out of someone my age or younger. Authenticity, emotional maturity, etc would be non-negotiable if I'm going to date someone old enough to be my father...

[@London_UK654]

It's disrespectful to and being rude.. I like trust too

[@matthewpegram7834]

Honesty is always the best policy!!!

[@drbharath7565]

Kevin.. its a double edged sword. Often ppl are secure about themselves but they hav been single for too long and fear not getting ppl to date...its a hard place to be. I would always give them benefit of doubt if they Only lie like 3 to 4 years difference.

[@KevenTalks]

If they lie for a 3-4 year difference though that's almost even worse for me lol that makes me think they'll lie about ANYTHING

[@drbharath7565]

@@KevenTalks i think its very personal....we shouldn't judge them for solely that. I think the world has demonised ageism, calling them uncles n aunties ... specially even in movie industry, if ur above 35 almost am actress is out dated.. i think wen we allow ppl let them be, they become more honest.... and uncover their insecurities inside and truly be who they are. Especially for not so good looking ppl, they don't find dates at all. They become so lonely

[@nelsondesousa9304]

It’s 2022! Why are we still having this issue? 😩

[@KevenTalks]

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[@nelsondesousa9304]

@@KevenTalks you’re just far too logical 😅

[@KevenTalks]

@@nelsondesousa9304 Probably!

[@benconnolly4258]

On online dating apps the difference of putting 29 instead of 30 is hilarious 😂 30 really is Gay senior.

[@KevenTalks]

If someone doesn't want me because I'm 30, then I'm solid. They're missing out on me in my prime 🥰

[@benconnolly4258]

KevenTalks i just have assume the guys i meet are the age they say they are 😂

[@brsu184]

I have a girlfriend that's been 55 years old for the past six years. She has a 40 & a 30 year old sons and one of the funniest things she ask is when will she be a senior citizen and its funny that she forgets what she said in the past six years what I'm wondering is sould i tell her how many years she's been 55😂😂😂i will never understand why people lie about their age because getting older is a blessing

[@vietnamemperor123461]

Some people aren't comfortable with it because when someone ask about their age its makes them feel old and doesn't fit in especially in the gay community. If you're old then its game over in most cases.

[@KevenTalks]

People should go where they're wanted, not seeking validation of strangers. 🤷🏻‍♂

[@Alan.Endicott]

Anyone with eyes and sense can see I'm older than many. I don't feel the need to reveal my true age, or any age really. You can be old at my age, or youthful at my age, and the number alone doesn't reveal which. Like other aspects of my personality and background, half the fun is finding out.

[@KevenTalks]

I get what you're saying but to me that's like guys who post headless pics only with the caption "message me for face pics" or guys who leave an initial because they don't want to share their first name publicly on an app. If I have to play the guessing game or ask too many questions, I personally lose interest. Dating apps are already isolating enough - I look for guys who want to break down walls, not build more of them :)

[@KevenTalks]

Several months back I remember a guy I matched with had his initials on Tinder (no name). One of the first things I asked him was his name, for the sake of getting a conversation going, and he replied that he would share eventually when he felt comfortable. I unmatched. LOL.

[@Alan.Endicott]

To be clearer, I don't lie about my age, I (sometimes) choose not to reveal it in the profile. If asked, I'm honest.

[@J33-k3s]

Its 64° over here on the southwest side of Florida. Anyway, yeah, I wouldn't want to be lied to. It would make me think what else are you willing to lie about. Honesty is attractive. Being able to trust someone is vital.

[@KevenTalks]

My feelings exactly!

[@rjcarter2904]

Keven, I think you may come from a healthier place than many/most. I'm OLD and people always have lied about their ages--particularly straight women and gay men. Ageism is unfortunate but pervasive in the American culture (and perhaps others--I'm not sure). Anyway, it is a shame that people so often lie about age, but I think there is a powerful reason for it. I'm not defending the practice--it's a slippery slope to other types of deception--but I do think there is a reason why it's done. BTW, what's with the long hair? Makes you look older! (speaking of age)

[@KevenTalks]

I want to grow it out while enjoying the new hair color 😅

[@rjcarter2904]

@@KevenTalks oh, ok

[@BC_26fhj]

Probably because most people judge others based on age and looks. Have you ever lied about anything? If so why?

[@KevenTalks]

Nah I don't believe in lying lol I have too much of a guilty conscience anyway

[@BC_26fhj]

@@KevenTalks So you have never lied ever about anything?

[@pollymellen7503]

Interesting topic. My problem is that I attract guys who are sometimes 25 years younger and I hate our age difference to be a deal breaker. I'm so much more than my age. No excuses, just sayin'

[@KevenTalks]

But if you're more than your age, why would it matter? ;)

[@pollymellen7503]

@@KevenTalks you're an evolved soul..or seeking to be. I dont think most people ever question their motivations or why they believe what they believe. For instance, MOST people wouldn't give an ex convict a second chance there is an ingrained belief that there is something inherently damaged about the individual or what about the reality of ageism in the work place? I personally have had better success with older hires rather than inexperienced youngers...

[@pollymellen7503]

@@KevenTalks having said ALL of that, I think your point is correct and makes sense...mostly

[@c0untrysavage2]

i really hope you finally find your mate. you deserve to be happy. hope your doing well. i miss you on the app 😘🤗😘🥰

[@KevenTalks]

Thanks :) The app? Which app? lol

[@c0untrysavage2]

@@KevenTalks meetme 🥰

[@KevenTalks]

@@c0untrysavage2 ah, the nostalgia! ;)

[@c0untrysavage2]

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[@vincentbarnes7839]

Is it wrong if your fancy someone 20 tears younger than yourself or even older age difference

[@J33-k3s]

No. As long as it's legal.

[@brandynlovett4054]

I've dealt with this a few times, though only with hookups. You might say "you're just hooking up, it doesn't matter." Oh but see it does. I don't want to sleep with a man who can be my father (who is 43, just turned today actually!) or my grandfather. To me that's creepy and it makes me uncomfortable. Lying about your age is an even bigger turnoff and a boner killer, and it frustrates me to no end that they think I'm that stupid. And I just love when I get the ones that say "one day you will be old too" when I say "no Thankyou sir, you're too old for me." Many older men do act desperate and i find it questionable that a bunch of them go after barely legal young men and lie or won't take no for an answer. I do feel bad them, however. Not being able to be content in your own mortal shell. This youth obsessed world in general has a backward attitude on aging (quite literally).

[@KevenTalks]

So interesting because for me if it's a hook-up, I don't care at all if they lie about age - because it's purely a physical interaction - meaning I'm either attracted to them physically or I'm not. I still don't think it's the right thing to do to lie, but it doesn't bother me to my core like it does with dating, where there it feels manipulative and deceptive to me to the point where I couldn't keep getting to know them. For a one-time thing, I'm like, eh lol.

[@KevenTalks]

But agreed that older men who are obsessed with much younger guys - something very creepy about it.

[@brandynlovett4054]

@@KevenTalks btw, you look better the older you get, handsome.

[@john.premose]

If you think 43 is old though, wow. You shouldn't really cut yourself off from older guys in my opinion, you could be missing something really good. 43 is prime age for men

[@davidwoodford1814]

lol Connecticut is frigid!

[@davidwoodford1814]

Americans tend to expect their mates to be perfect and are playing games to fulfill unrealistic expectations. I had a student tell me that she’d rather be married and unhappy then single and happy! Given that mentality, trapping someone is better than flying solo for many.

[@KevenTalks]

@@davidwoodford1814 She told you? That's insane.

[@KevenTalks]

@@davidwoodford1814 People have screwed up priorities.

[@davidwoodford1814]

@@KevenTalks Absolutely! High school kids are an interesting demographic.

[@brandynlovett4054]

@@davidwoodford1814 The fucked up part is, I can see a highschool saying that.