Why Do People Think Those with ENFP Personality Are so WEIRD?

A viewer asks why people think that all of us with an ENFP personality are so weird... but in true ENFP fashion, I respond with a rant about why everyone else are the weird ones!
ENFPs are often misunderstood. Misconceptions on the ENFP personality abound because we often stand out from the rest. Our "weirdness" is viewed as a bad thing by some, but it isn't!
I would argue that the things which make ENFPs weird are also tied to happier, longer and more fulfilling lives and the science backs me up!
Is the ENFP personality type weird, or is it other personalities and people who are the weird ones?
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[@stephanyg2208]

Does anyone else feel like this super energetic gregarious side comes out when around people or at a social event? Sometimes I tell myself to just play it cool, hang back etc. but I literally can’t help it 😂🤦🏻‍♀️ I open my mouth and I’m just super silly, making jokes and having fun. I always have a good time, get a lot of laughs etc but sometimes I’m also self-conscious about it because I don’t want people to think I’m self centered and just want to be an attention hog when in reality I don’t like “being the center of attention”. I just like having fun and laughing and I like to make sure everyone else is having fun too.

[@meredithwallace4043]

ME TOO OMG!!!!!!

[@erika89765]

I almost cried reading that... I’ve never related so much to something in my life. THERE’S MORE OF MY KIND!!

[@benfrank8649]

Oh yeah, this happens to me all the time

[@rangoonstudygirl]

You just perfectly described me 😂

[@dubb3292]

YES OH MY GOD. I often find myself so annoying because of that

[@mrsdragonite]

We're not weird. We're open, spontaneous individuals and we see the magic and sparkle of life. We're what others lack. They crave our enthusiasm and wish they could take life a little less seriously. BE MAD.

[@Haveagreatdayight]

YALL CAN STAY MAD ENFPGANGGANG

[@ivankyleasiado7079]

YESSS

[@ninafurrier1790]

Andrea Cadle enfps are an elite club

[@mrsdragonite]

@Ade Axel Which ENFP hurt you lol

[@petraleopold2713]

I so agree with you,like I said in my comment anyone who is different than others and original will be considered "weird". Thats how society works.

[@dharanisoundarapandian6587]

This is so true!!..as an ENFP, I'm bold and outgoing, but I've always had the fear of being misjudged. People think I'm less intelligent and dumb because I'm chatty and smiling always but none has ever been brave enough to venture into the depths of my character..I constantly find the need to justify myself..but today, I've stopped giving a damn about it!..who cares what they think?.. I've come to embrace my flaws and shrug off what others say!

[@PreciousPotat]

You could also say that you weren't brave enough to show your depths to them... because they might not like that side. Easier to be liked when we just keep on being nice and smiling.

[@SR77736]

@@PreciousPotat I have. I'm smiling but also get pissed off and show it. I'm an ENFP who reveals it and those who don't get it can piss off.

[@gabrielmosspdx]

Don't let anybody tell you that you're too much hahaha. We ARE too much. And it's perfect.

[@hopehope1970]

Man, I really needed this today. People always assume that I'm crazy or stupid, and they act like that while I'm sitting next to them in an advanced class... life can be tough when you stand out.

[@4morantgrl]

dharani soundarapandian Yes!!

[@stephanyg2208]

I feel weird because I’m willing to be more vulnerable than most people typically are. I like to talk about my feelings and value honesty. I think people can be threatened by our ability to just be ourselves and embrace who we are. But I think people are also inspired by it. I feel like when we are truly ourselves it sort of gives permission for others to be themselves as well.

[@heritage.home.crochet]

So true, I'm always a little self-conscious about my openness to share and be vulnerable with others...mine comes so readily and automatically while others is a whole process of barriers to cross and milestones to reach before they can open up. It makes me feel like I live in my own world and that I don't know how to fit in to the social rules of society.

[@katrinamoore598]

This is so true. I'm an enfp and I have come to the conclusion that when I care what other people think about me it gives them the right to think negatively about me but when I don't care and is just being unapologetically me, that energy rubs off on other people and I mostly get positivity back. Even compliments for daring to be me haha

[@jadeflowers4850]

Yes! And I love it. I want people to feel comfortable and loved.

[@calimorale9880]

@@heritage.home.crochet same, I love people but I'm really awkward and get pretty anxious

[@iamwell5654]

Exactly!!

[@jojored4570]

As an ENFP I thought I was odd cuz I don’t worry about money issues I know eventually all will fall into place that we must enjoy this short life

[@ScizzorSenpai]

Same!!

[@joycealdrich]

Sadly, at a very young age, I was told I was mental, weird, among other things, and was "diagnosed" with a mental illness. Life has been a series of lost jobs, relationships, and thinking I wasn't good enough. When I did anything artistic, my mother chided me about doing kindergarten work. She also wouldn't let me sing. Lots of blockages. I now live life as a "Creative Type ENFP Blue-Green." I'm 64. I hope the world is kinder to young ENFPs, so they don't have to go through what I have.

[@kellikakes81]

🤗❤

[@marc-c6o]

Omg it's so unfairly 😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@cory99998]

Same here, fortunately I'm starting to come out of it at 27. Ik I could have been stuck for a very long time

[@joycealdrich]

@@cory99998 May you enjoy a full and happy life. 🤗

[@cory99998]

you too@@joycealdrich

[@AliAlderete]

We are weird because we are empathetic :3 we genuinely care about others :D

[@SpiritualReconciliator]

Yes just the same for family and unknowns.

[@SR77736]

Yes and we have personalities.

[@hopehope1970]

Agreed!

[@voyance4elle]

@@SR77736 hahaha 😄 so true!!!

[@softwareimpersonal3488]

XD Yeah ...

[@joelnunez9525]

As an ENFP and my experiences, what makes us “weird” is our intuition which makes us think outside the box. We are also extroverted and feelers so that combination may make us smothering or over concerned about others. As a guy ENFP it can be weird but we are just genuine human beings that love people and I just love being an ENFP. Life is a roller coaster for us.

[@acharich]

🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯

[@jackiehp5628]

You’re beautiful (:

[@ellinorlarsen6745]

I think that what others might find weird about me is first of all my intense emotions. Am I the only one that can wake up feeling high on life for no reason? I often get questions like "Are you always happy? or "how much have you been drinking?" even though I'm completely sober. And the next day I cry like a baby. I think that sometimes I'm overwhelming to be around. I really struggle with tasks that has to be done, I constantly look for meaning with everything that I do that I skip things that doesn't feel enough stimulating. Though I find passion and meaning in things that other people don't. Noting feels as important to me as social engagement with other people. People mistake me for flirting a lot because I just wan't to know all about you, what makes you happy, your biggest passion etc. Am I the only weirdo who is like this?

[@heritage.home.crochet]

Ellinor, I could have written this. I'm literally crying. Every word you said is exactly what I go through. I wake up super happy for no reason, like there is a real grin and everything...then some days I just cry at the smallest stimuli. People thinking I've had 4 cups of coffee and that I'm flirting just bc I take personal interest in others. It's not fun to just pretend like you don't care what someone is thinking or why they choose to wear that button on their backpack, bc it must mean something! It literally hurts when people are so cold and careless about interacting.

[@taniabrown5025]

Ellinor Larsen Waking up as if high on life is pretty normal for me. Being told you are so cheery is normal.

[@biancahargrett7119]

I think we literally are in love with life so when we have a stimulus that reminds us of humanity and life’s experiences we can’t help but to react. Then we love that reaction because that reaction was so human of us lol

[@slope560]

SAMEEEEENENEEEE

[@jess9806]

I feel the very same way...I’m just happy to be alive. I feel like we are the worlds asset to bring people together because there’s lots of evil in the world...if we aren’t positive who is? Very well said XP

[@chato323]

Another way of looking at it is, WHY IS EVERYONE ELSE SO BORING & PREDICTABLE? ....After a few minutes of speaking with with them I feel like I've seen this "C-Rated" film already. Most people follow a script and they're killing me!

[@funkyfresh4242]

Yes thank you, hopefully this doesn't come off like an asshole but it's like other people are simple minded. I'm always thinking outside of the box and it's hard to find people who can keep up in conversation. Besides others who enjoy being able to expand their mind.

[@KatalinaLaughs]

bill nye yes! I relate to that completely !

[@Sean-kg2gr]

Yes all of this!

[@wijayaregreto6812]

this is so fucking true!!! and yet we have to blend in a society since majority of the ppl are BORING

[@GilrainB]

@@wijayaregreto6812 Fact stated, you have!

[@jawaanwatkins6569]

I'm different in so many ways. I would say that the biggest difference between me and most is that they are always saying, "respect must be earned", and, "don't trust anyone". From my perspective, just the fact that you are a human means that you have both my trust and respect. It's my distrust and disrespect that should be earned.

[@enfp]

That's a good attitude! Although with experience Ive tried to find a middle ground to avoid bad situations repeating themselves... Overall it's a better way to live to respect people first.

[@한국노래좋아함]

Omg can't be said any better than this, this is what i've been thinking about! Why can't we just love n trust and just be good?! Like hell?! Why don't we just live this life good?! I often make my infp friends cry after deep talk about these attitudes, definitely what i want to share to ppl about

[@biancahargrett7119]

Yes!!!!!! Thissss is so me!!!

[@calimorale9880]

But I also feel this may make me vulnerable to dangerous situations in the future. My dad is very street smart, so I feel that how naive I am may become an issue.

[@jess9806]

Oh my god I say the EXACT same thing. I could never truly hate a person and like the African proverb states, ‘The hunter is always the hero until the lion learns to write’.

[@funtokomolafe9376]

Cheers, this was so relatable (I'm an INFJ). ENFPs give me life

[@lyte3339]

Funto Komolafe awe thanks! Infjs are perfect! I have two friends with this personality!

[@heyhihellook9494]

They are the most compatible of all personalities!

[@한국노래좋아함]

Oh god hahaha even when my friend with infj pissed of by me, they'll still be a manner bitch n treat me good, heck i love my infj n infp friends. I'm also often pissed of by how realistical they are but then we came back as if nothing happens. I also often make a fool of myself infront of my infj n infp friends 😌 whatta life of enfp 😂

[@theholyspirit4780]

Infjs are perfecttttt PERFECTTT

[@HighVibeLifestyle1111]

I've fully embraced my "weirdness"!! Love being a free spirit & an empath who cares about people!! 🦄💛

[@enfp]

Yeah!!

[@heritage.home.crochet]

We do. ENFPs love people lol jkjkjk, just being silly.

[@lifesnackswithhoney5147]

Me toooo!!!!!!!

[@charlottenewberry7731]

I’ve observed that people don’t bother with those they don’t automatically understand so people like us ENFPs are often left behind

[@egornat]

i guess its not a big problem because an enfp would not be interested in making friends with such people anyway

[@acharich]

Or end up having to leave others behind.. ⚡

[@Haveagreatdayight]

Yahor Natashkin exactly

[@voyance4elle]

@@acharich Amen 🙏🏽

[@Anonymous_Anon882]

That’s true. ENFPs not-too-uncommonly present as socially-anxious misfits who are bullied at school when they’re younger (no offence). I think the feeling for them of being misunderstood is more pronounced when they’re at school. Most of them can hardly be differentiated from more pragmatic INFPs with a certain weirdness to them before their early 20s/university days (or the equivalent).

[@elizabethsuarez4936]

I've been told this on several occasions, "Your weird but in a good way." I was always confused by this when I was younger.

[@taylorshank1638]

yes!!! same!!

[@jamesgreen3185]

I’m an ENFP and I am American. I am about to graduate college and I have many friends from all walks of life. I’ve found that in America especially, I come off as weird at first to people I meet because I’m genuinely nice. I think America as a whole (correct me if you disagree) automatically assumes that if a stranger thinks I’m overly nice, I’m trying to get something from them. It’s not until I’ve been around these strangers for a while and build a trust and let me show my true nature time and time again that they begin to relax. It’s at this point that I begin the “friendship” stage. They then begin to laugh at my jokes more and begin to ask me about what excites me in life.. Also, with the whole nice thing, I think a big part comes down to the deep ness we crave and this also throws people off because our culture is so superficial I feel like... okay rant over lol

[@samanthab5752]

Yes, I’ve experienced the same phenomenon. I can see how that may be off putting more so because you’re a man.

[@stevesperry3008]

I think people think that I'm weird because I'm always asking people questions. A guy one time asked me if I was a cop. Lol! Or, working a room at a social gathering and having in depth conversations with a bunch of people that you don't know sometimes my friends will think that's weird. I was having an in depth conversation at a social conversation and MBTI can up and I asked him what he was, he goes I'm an ENFP and I'm like so am I! Then we did the bro hug hand shake thing. Lol

[@GVOSP]

Yo I'm actually at a point where I'm getting bothered by the fact that I find myself asking a lot of questions to people. It always comes down too... Okay either I'm being too much, or they're being too little. Of course it's a lot of factors to consider like trust, personal issues, and fears, but rn I'm trying to see where that middle ground is in order so I can be able to connect easier... This goes onto why I hate small talk. Just so much face value bs.... And it's that right there.. tha is why we ask so much questions.... Just pure and simple. People aren't being truly real with other people, and in turn is why people see us as weird because we're just natural at being real, and we want to encourage everyone to do the same. We genuine put our heart out on our sleeves and want to be respected for it. That live and let live kinda lifestyle. Respect slowly ain't becoming shit nowadays.... Forgive me for my Fi/Te rant.

[@bricoley]

Steve Sperry that's awesome!

[@lyte3339]

Espee this is perfect!

[@VINAYAKOMANIA]

Steve Sperry the thing about questions is true

[@cheeseandquackers2421]

So true man. Sometimes I just randomly do it in the comments when my video won't load. I try to not seem as a creepy stalker, but also try to figure them out so I can make them happy. :I Doesn't always work.

[@nidsson]

They'll never get me to work 40 hours a week, 5 days a row. NEVER :) It sucks up all the energy and I wouldn't have anything left to give to my nearest or myself.

[@germinalaramburo2831]

Nid Nidsson it's not that bad when you love your job

[@candycryptid2832]

But school though. I'm forced and I hate it.

[@konstabelcoetzee7598]

its not working that is bad man, you will always have energy for other people at least ,its the corporate shit that will get to you

[@SR77736]

I have a 9 to 5 and I love it. I love my career so I don't feel the way you do.

[@xxxqwertxxx]

I work whenever I want and I love it so I agree!

[@sophiacuddycullen4528]

I'm an ENFP with an ENFP mother. At the weekend we discussed the concept of "What people are selling?" in modern society so that they can live in expensive city apartments to buy the latest cars, but they spend 40+ hours a week in an office with little to no flexible hours. Its your life! It's always baffled me how many people actively want to spend their time in this environment. Found this video by chance and just thought it hit the nail in the head.

[@mild7250]

I'm an extreme extrovert, I'm very expressive, talkative and make people laugh all the time. Some of my friends think I'm unlike them which makes me the weird/crazy/goofy person of the group. They sometimes joke around saying "do you wanna consult a psychiatrist? Or something like that. Usually I don't take it personal cause I just love myself for being a free spirit, but sometimes it discourage me from expressing myself to these people so I have to keep some of my enthusiasm and display it with only my family and boyfriend who accept me as who I am.

[@mild7250]

LSlater97 lol I can feel you😂

[@ane9898]

So true.. I often feel depressed if all of my friends judging me constantly like that.. Can’t imagine my life without someone who can accept me for who i am. I think the same goes to all ENFPs

[@calimorale9880]

Yeah, that's why I get nervous with people, especially when I'm talking alot. And I cant say it's just me, because I can tell they are annoyed and uuugggghhhhh

[@caesar7951]

Mild yeah i always regret showing too much of my enthusiasm cause i feel like i annoyed everyone and seemed silly or dumb...

[@mariyal3529]

I feel you! Curious, what is your boyfriend's type?

[@DavidJohnson-tg9tr]

I'm weird because I'm not a sheep.....

[@GVOSP]

David Johnson 👏👏👏

[@lemarmckellop9632]

Same everyone thinks I'm trying to be different

[@Onthegrindmedia1]

AMEN 😎

[@mrsdragonite]

David Johnson Bam!!

[@quorazekai3689]

HEY is this dude from personlatycafe?

[@berrylu4292]

As an ENFP my favourite quote is *"One person's craziness is another person's reality"* 😅

[@melindaabdelnurfernandes9414]

What makes me feel strange is the people around me. You said something very right in this video, we're not strangers. Most people around me find me crazy because I have a great imagination and I dream a lot. I often feel unmotivated when I comment my dreams and people say they did not work out. I'm really enjoying your videos, I do not understand all of your English especially the hardest words but I understand the context. Thank you for your videos has helped me understand.

[@veggiesarefruits]

I love how happy I am and the joy and energy that I bring to other people. Sometimes, people think of it as me wanting to be the center of attention, but it's really not that at all! I'm just excited about everything and I want to motivate other people so they can see what I see! I see endless opportunities, meaning behind EVERYTHING, and I love to bring attention to, for example, how the people around us in a group are really feeling, because most people are completely oblivious to what is going on around them that isn't necessarily at face value. My dad, for example, is amazed when we walk out of a room and he thinks everyone had a great time, and I have to tell him, "Oh man, when this person said this, that other person got really pissed, and then it made that person next to them feel really uncomfortable, and these two other people thought the whole situation was hilarious, but they couldn't show it because the first person was talking from their heart and it was a serious moment, so they didn't want to seem rude." He looks at me like I'm a wizard. LMAO!!! But this is just so natural to me that I don't understand how other people can't see it! I loved the video, by the way. It was very reaffirming. What is selfish or immature or childish or "weird" about wanting to be happy and free, and not spend my life going to a job everyday to live out someone else's agenda? Seriously, what is so crazy about that??? I just don't understand how our society got to be the way it is. All of this is so unnatural.

[@universethetruth8827]

veggiesaremurder OMG THIS IS SO ME. Wthhhhhh

[@calimorale9880]

I always see the good in people and understand them, but my dad thinks I'm weird for it... he calls me the lawyer of the people, because I'm always explaining others behavior.

[@Birchswinger83]

So true! I really struggled with this in my 20’s, and growing up in a family of SJ’s, they saw me as passionate, which was “cute”, but mostly as a person who needed to be saved from myself because of my outlandish ideas that were impractical and out there. Many influential people saw me as a wild stallion that needed to be broken. And I was for a long time- maybe jumping into unhealthy archetype personalities along the way. Working my Fi has been the key to centering myself and finding joy.

[@Ms.Gollygosh]

Couldn't agree more :-)

[@RR-ei7wo]

Wow that was beautifully worded!

[@whinegod]

I relate to this so much! People are always staring at me while I talk, with a confused face, and asking, "are you okay?" or, "what's your deal?" No, buddy, what's YOUR deal? This is who I am, this is what I do.

[@enfp]

Oh, well, you may want to practice your communication skills if people are literally interrupting you wondering if you are OK. Sometimes unpractised ENFPs tend to vomit a lot of non-sense :P

[@whinegod]

Dreams Around The World Haha!

[@GVOSP]

Dreams Around The World Now being at a point at looking at our type from an keen objective standpoint. I find that to be very true. To the point of where our Ne can be subconscious at times we don't necessarily take a step back and realize, "oh shit I just hit this person with a lot just now" in terms of communication. Especially when we're a lil too active in our Ne. Couple that with our Te trying to help people logically understand our Fi values we stand by. It's damn near a struggle having to explain ourselves quite often since our value system is not in alignment with usually that are of the norms of society or of a certain standard

[@Mariam-py9zr]

Wow so glad I'm not alone in this because I ALWAYS get those reactions And I never understand why I'm being looked at that way ????

[@vil1700]

Dreams Around The World holy shit ya I’m like talking nonsense whenever I’m too exhausted to control my body:F I just can’t hold myself in anymore when I’m tired and totally regret what I said afterwards

[@realloud999]

Watching ENFP videos as an ENFP is very therapeutic!

[@barbdennis8669]

I don't necessarily like being thought of as weird but the pressure I feel when I try to conform is just unendurable.

[@VINAYAKOMANIA]

Barb Dennis true ..that pressure to conform

[@stephanyg2208]

I am realizing it is a big fear of mine that people think I’m weird. I’ll meet someone and as I’m later thinking about our interaction in my head I’m like “they think I’m weird” and it weighs heavy on me. I realize I just need to embrace the fact that I’m different and be proud of those difference, and the people that truly appreciate what I bring and who I am will stick around. The ones who don’t wouldn’t make a good friend for me anyway.

[@idaklymr]

I tried drinking so i would not feel weird. But i have found that being sober with friends who get me.

[@calimorale9880]

Its literally impossible for me to conform

[@RR-ei7wo]

We have the downfall to come across as a "Michael Scott". Sometimes our openmindedness and desire to connect and involve everybody in community can make us come across as the weirdo. I remember always trying to gather up my friends to make a band, or a club or something. "Come on guys let's make a band!!" or "Come on guys, LETS (insert idea here)" and nobody wanting to do it and thinking it's weird how EXCITED I was for wanting to do something like that. If everybody's not on board I tend to lose my motivation. I can lose myself and go into this weird enfp depression from a lack of community and connectedness, which makes me come off as the alien girl.

[@bellyfulochelly4222]

Same. Surrounded by a bunch of bumps on logs over here. I'm always like, "Hey! Why don't we ____ ??!!" lol. And if others lack joy or enthusiasm or simply don't respond with positivity, it is so draining and depressing. Begins to feel after a while like you're carrying around a ton of dead weight. How are we ever going to fly with a load like that?

[@maryannseidman7913]

I take being called weird as a complement. To me there worst thing someone could say to me is that I was completely normal. I am definitely a ENFP, it is very accurate

[@venuscastrovia5024]

If someone called me normal ,basic or boring. I would die because being weird means being remembered being different from everyone else means you're special. Right on sister

[@staceykersting705]

Being completely normal is being completely dead! Don't be run over by society's expectations....LIVE FREE!

[@ekcorp6350]

We're the explorers of the un ventured. We're so curious about things that it sometimes backfires on us because it does us harm, like drugs and alcohol. We don't know when to hold back and can be too much for a lot of people. We're unique because normal is boring to us. We can be sensitive and easily hurt which doesn't mix well with being naturally weird. But if we find the right people we can make the deepest, most meaningful bonds and have a life of ups and downs no one else can relate to. Big up Enfps

[@justsayin1756]

ENFP here... weird?! That’s puttting it lightly bro! Yes our ways are healthier! I loved when you clapped back without a pause “ everyone else is weird...” yes man drones going to office everyday 9-5 for 40 years lol

[@BASIANirishPRINCESS]

Hey Dan, great video. Yes I think weird just means unusual, not the norm. I think lots of people admire us for it though. Rebellious. Non conformists. I have found lots of other personalities have similar thoughts but just follow the norm for various reasons. When I was younger I was worried that I was weird, now I am greatful to be different and weird is actually amazing.

[@GVOSP]

Sarah Martin That's a very beautiful thing to hear. I used to struggle with being weird when I was younger too. After I became exposed to cognitive functions, realized how much sauce I had along, got my money up and got some juice. Thinking about those times when I used to be that way is really the weirdest thing to me now. Reflection on growth can really be something insightful and meaningful especially for us ENFPs. Appreciate is key

[@WandaMaximoff1998]

I've always been told that because i don't like buying clothes or shoes or stuff like that that I'm weird and it really frustrated my mom growing up, but in my eyes I'm saving money while also focusing on the more important stuff.

[@enfp]

Hello my fellow weird ENFPs! If you enjoy a good read, I put together a free e-mail training for ENFPs around using your weirdness (and strengths) in your life :) You can grab it here: dreamsaroundtheworld.com/enfptraining/

[@janabananafromindiana4190]

I’m (almost) speechless and my heart is racing....I just stumbled upon my tribe. A delightful new ENFP adventure to discover. Such a time as this! ~jbindy

[@enfp]

@@janabananafromindiana4190 Welcome!

[@BarbaraMerryGeng]

I spent years & years trying to fit into other people’s shapes, I just can’t do it anymore .. i don’t think I have to be like everybody else. I have to be just me. One minute at a time ..Thanks for the encouragement !

[@jhoshghorbani1990]

agreeeeeeed

[@EseKanayo]

The first time I took the test I got ENFP and even though it is me to a T I just wanted to be more practical and to “make sense more”. Now I love it though! We are so creative, we just think in a completely different way, we are pretty cool! Freedom seeking, open-minded and willing to try new things, thats what we have and society definitely needs more of

[@enfp]

We are pretty cool :)

[@alixdebreuck2541]

i used to be copied a lot. Someone has that too ?

[@Oshin_Life]

Alix De Breuck yeah same happened with me during my high school days

[@chichayk2487]

same, people would eventually use the same catchphrases or jokes that i use and it really irked me because they often forget that i was the one who started it and i really want to be set apart from others ???

[@Mariam-py9zr]

Yes that has happened to me many times but ppl look at me weird when I do/say it ... Then someone else says it and suddenly ppl don't think it's weird.

[@tara4390]

Yes haha wow

[@dubb3292]

Oh yes i hate it when people steel my Jokes like wtf

[@naowright9308]

We are considered weird because we do not fit into any one mold. We like to change and morph with the circumstances and people we are around in order to make connections. The "I'll try anything once" mentality makes the ISTJs and ESTJs look on in wonder at our lack of conformity and individuality. While the INFJs wonder at our changing patterns, the INFPs wish to come along for the ride. The person that understands me the most is an INTJ. Except when enter one of these chats with other ENFPs. Then I feel like the most understood individual on the planet.

[@_--Reaper--_]

I dont see ENFPs as weird at all. I LOVE ENFPs (INTJ)

[@24AngelChild68]

I’m INFJ and my bestfriend is ENFP her “weirdness” is what makes her a beautiful, fun and down to earth person, I love her.

[@hopehope1970]

I'm an ENFP and I missed a day of school once, and when I got back my whole friend group was like "Lunch was so boring without you! We couldn't keep the conversation going!"

[@twiggythetorterra9643]

I consider myself a “i choose how I live and no one can tell me how to live” guy, but I’m super sensitive to how others feel. Like when I do stuff, I’m always thinking how will this affect the people around me. People I know really well I’m less concerned about how they will feel because I trust that they aren’t going to treat me weirdly because I acted a bit weird, but people I don’t know well or generally when a lot of people are around I will constrain myself to make people at ease and not cause any disagreements. But yeah, I like the Meier Briggs tests, because even if they aren’t legitimate tests and whatnot, it still helped me a lot and it’s fun to see how people with the same trait will act. Granted I’m not taking this test word for word and doing what it tells me and all, but I see it as a way to help me figure out myself, like this test is one piece of the puzzle for figuring out who I am.

[@karankaran-us9vm]

wearing a suit and a tie everyday in an office is weird

[@enfp]

I hate to admit it, but I kind of love wearing a suit. I don't enjoy being forced to, or ironing, so I rarely do :)

[@naynay-mk7fn]

We are just very youthful in my opinion. I think in a world with so much hate and negativity society needs people like us. People should be thankful. We are very individual and that should not be frowned upon. Have fun and live life. 😆

[@imDidas15]

ENFP tought: Is this personality thing just something that we belive because we are what we want to be?

[@sonyawhite3048]

Such an interesting observation - I’m an ENFP in a TJ society! I’ve always sort of owned up to the weird part, but my friends get it, so I’m blessed!

[@decioazevedo2979]

I'm learning so much the more that I watch of your videos. People thought I was weird growing up. I had no friends in school and didn't really blossom until college. I also grew up in a toxic environment with narcissistic parents and a brother who also didn't get me. I've literally spent more than half my life feeling alone and misunderstood. After a sexual harassment presentation in grade 8, anyone who was ever made to feel uncomfortable by someone was encouraged to come forward. I didn't harass anyone but I made a lot of people uncomfortable and that was enough to justify the suspension. It's nice to know it's the rest of the world that's living blind and ignorant. Being an ENFP is exhausting, but rewarding. Now people appreciate my honesty and openness. My integrity is constantly questioned but I've learned to let go of what others think. I've bought a pre construction condo and am working 60+hours a week, including weekends, getting balance on weekends and evenings after work with the occasional day off. And somehow I feel energized. Working towards something gives me life. Knowing the harder I work now, the easier it will be then is so rewarding. Short term goals help keep us focused.

[@lonman80]

It took me a long LONG time as an ENFP to not only embrace and appreciate my “weirdness”, but to also learn to staunchly defend it too. Like, I wish I could go back in time and had the confidence and foresight to give a big middle finger to any and everyone who called me weird as a kid and say, “You’re the one that’s normal, basic and just plain boring! Have fun spinning on your hamster wheel in your cubicle and living a mediocre and unremarkable life” lol. Everyone wants to think they’re “special” these days. ENFP’s have forever KNOWN that we were always special from the start, even if we didn’t always see the upside of it. From our outlook, to the way we communicate, to the way we live our lives, we’re one of a kind. And, most everyone in our lives thinks so too.

[@enfp]

I think we all wish for that time machine sometimes!

[@gumi1304]

@@enfp I need it time by time ) I accepted my true self recently, right after I left my routine job… Now I am on my journey to get to know myself better… I was so shy before to just believe in my intuition, my “beautiful natural weirdness”, my free soul and open heart and now I believe in myself, I am in love with myself, proud and I feel blessed to in love with this life and all the people in this world!!!

[@alyssashoemaker3414]

In a family that does NOT share my excitement for adventure or need for unpredictability and spontaneity, I must say that I took a screen shot of this comment to help me remember not to let their thinking ever hold me back again from my passion! I wear everyone out 🤣

[@joshuacummings3178]

Infj Advocate here. Just wanted to say. I friggen love you guys!!!!

[@Adalyd]

Some people used to tell me that I was "weird", that made me feel bad and I wanted to be "normal" until I took the test and found out that I was an ENFP and now I embrace my "weirdness" btw, these videos helped me sooo much!

[@luckydr2623]

Because ENFPs don't lose the spark of madness and creativity that everyone lacks. And that madness can always be turned into child-like enthusiasm, btw that's an ENFP hidden power as well. ;)

[@azhardaho712]

I'm an INFP and i just love ENFPs!!

[@lyte3339]

Azhar Ldb yay one of my advisors is infp and he's shown me how wonderful of a personality that is!

[@sicsempertyrannis3271]

We ENFPs love you too, INFP!

[@sarahrodes331]

ENFP's love INFPs!! My best friends are INFPs!!

[@DistractedBean]

My closest friends are INFP! You guys are awesome!

[@trustyourself-ashleyching3646]

I’ve learned to appreciate the stability SJs bring too. It’s be anti-ENFP of me to judge them for it. Each type brings something important to the world.

[@oddity9648]

It is soo reliving to know there's other people like me...!! I love what you are doing. A big fat shout-out and respect and love to you! 😊

[@enfp]

Thank you! :)

[@yunova6543y]

INTJ dating an ENFP, and all i can say is that he always get out the best of me, he really makes me wanna be a lil bit impulsive(I'll never be fully impulsive because of my TJ hahah) and live the moment.

[@devih9134]

I would love an ENFP meetup! ❤️❤️❤️

[@robertholloway6612]

I love the ENFPs but as an INFJ, it annoys me so much that he would make plans without having a thought out strategy. He wants to explore but doesn't know how to plan on details. But I still love him.

[@GrafinVonHopper]

Yes. I'm an INFJ and I say the same thing. You need to have a minimum of organization and strategy if you want to achieve your plans in a safe and lasting way. I love ENFPs too, but I recognize that this is a lesson they need to learn.

[@Ms.Gollygosh]

Weird - now there's a word I've been called on many occasions. I think we give off a quirky vibe and our flow of conversation can be great, then all of a sudden - an 'abstract' thought will come in to play. The other person just shuts down, looks at you strangely. Noticing this, you ask them questions to get the conversation back on track. They can't figure you out. I think I've just been surrounded by sensors on the myers briggs all my life (I'm 30 now). A different way of thinking and that's okay. I got a group (hiking) that I'm part of to take the test recently (16 out of 20) came back as sensors (mostly ESTP, ISTP, ISFP, ESTJ, ISTJ funnily enough). Still looking for my tribe out there...

[@Leona.luna8]

We do live in a society of "SJs" and "S" types. It's a bummer to also see so many ENFPs trying to be like them instead of embracing their true selves.

[@amythomas409]

Sadly I'm one of those ENFPs. I work in a small office and I don't like it. Could be worse but it's not engaging and I'm always thinking of other things I could be doing where I'm using my time better. I don't want to one of those types that work until they die. I suppose I want my life to actually mean something..

[@Leona.luna8]

@@amythomas409 i'm sorry to hear that Amy! i hope you don't stay in that office forever and actually find your passion eventually for a happy life!

[@amythomas409]

@@Leona.luna8 You are so kind :) I'm pretty creative and I am currently handmaking my own plush toys. They are nothing special but they are mine :) I would love to be able to sell them and do that for a living but I know realistically that will be hard to achieve. Not many people I know take what I do seriously and consider it a hobby which I find infuriating. But they we go as is life 😂

[@Leona.luna8]

@@amythomas409 plush toys are super cute! i think what makes them more special is the fact that you handmake them. I actually think that's a pretty good idea Amy! You can sell them on places like Amazon or Mercari to start off :)

[@mialombard125]

I have ALWAYS been the weird one, since a little kid at school, this makes so much sense I am so happy I found your channel! Thank you for all the ENFP encouragement, it helps with all that overthinking ;)

[@enfp]

You're so welcome!

[@theganonymous]

A channel filled with ENFP related videos? Sign me up, I'm finally home.

[@enfp]

Welcome!

[@zzzcocopepe]

i think of it this way. Most Sensors are only sensors because they avoid (are afraid of) thinking, aka Intuition/N. And Thinkers are only thinkers because they avoid (are afraid of) Feeling. Then we're different from most other N types (intellectuals) because we are Extroverted, and also because we are P, which is kind of goofy. So it's like a hodgepodge of non-normal things.

[@epicepidemic7131]

True story: My niece (4 years old) stood up on the coffee table and did a dance and made up a song: "Aunt Jen-Jen is...jussstttt... *aaalittleweird*...... but noooot *reallyweird*...... but juuuust *alittleweird*.... (I guess my brother had said so, in her presence!!!)

[@kellyraeparker3275]

Great I’m weird, that means I’m interesting, cool! ☺️ Today I was looking at new build houses just because I can’t get over house prices 😲 all I could think was I don’t want one because I would likely have to sell my soul to work all the hours at some job I hate, no thanks I’ll take my tiny 2 bed rented apartment with wonky selves over the beautiful 4 bedroom palace with shiny floors and immaculate carpets. My sister thought I was mad 😂

[@veggiesarefruits]

KellyClearly yes!!! I would NEVER want a gigantic house if it meant I had to trade in my freedom for it. People can call me lazy or even stupid, but my life is infinitely more important to me than ANY stupid object out there, I don't care how beautiful it is. Besides, I'd be bored with it in a year anyway! 😂

[@sierranicole7643]

I used to feel so diffrent and people always pointed it out to me! But, now that I've found the rest of you (ENFP's) I realize that i just had never found my tribe and now there's somewhere that embraces me!!! :P Thank you for existing! I Love You Guys!!

[@enfp]

Welcome :)

[@darlenemartens9760]

Always trying to understand people is exhausting no? Which is why a day of "listening" is the most tiring! Loud, excited, and always distracted!

[@jirenuniverse116]

I'm ENFP, I'm open to learn a lot of things, I learn painting, guitar , dating methods, gym workouts, languages, architecture, computer and I like to motivate others to do the same. And I also tend to date people outside my race just to know how people of the other races view the world and their personalities. I'm Asian btw

[@Anonymous_Anon882]

Getting to know people of other cultures is such a good way to broaden your horizons generally (not least to foster to Ne more).

[@itsmootdamnitnotmute905]

ENFP's are optimistic empaths rather than empathic optimists. It's an important distinction.

[@evelynerambeaux7127]

My boyfriend called me "wierdo". And I was proud of it.... 😁

[@Shirtzm68]

Wow. I can't belief how much this resonates with me.

[@heritage.home.crochet]

I'm always a little self-conscious about my openness to share and be vulnerable with others...mine comes so readily and automatically while others is a whole process of barriers to cross and milestones to reach before they can open up. It makes me feel like I live in my own world and that I don't know how to fit in to the social rules of society. In fact, people tell me all the time that I live in my own bubble. I can't argue...my little bubble is happier than the real world.

[@SpiritualReconciliator]

Living with an ENFP for last 11years in a house, have a daughter and together for more than 15years now, as lovely, caring, loyal as you guys are I can't really overlook the truth that you all are overwhelming and yes(sorry) wierd with a 'W'. As much as I love him, I never seen a more weird person than my husband in my life.

[@hukihuki4135]

How would you describe his weirdness?

[@Anonymous_Anon882]

The ENFP personality is one of the most poorly understood and represented ones out there. The pros and cons ascribed to their personalities usually aren’t quite right and their connection to INFJs is often overlooked.

[@GrafinVonHopper]

Totally True👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@helimenrotes]

Yes I do speak my mind and tend to go with what I feel is right 😂😂

[@maaiker2977]

Find yourself an INFJ, we like "weird". And we can use someone happy cause we usually attract unhappy/unhealthy people looking for our help. It would be refreshing to find someone I don't need to help who doesn't suck my energy.

[@GrafinVonHopper]

Yes, i'm INFJ too and this is exactly what I think and want for myself.

[@mercurialmessenger]

JohnT ENFP, I just began diving for Uber last week and I must say it's very rewarding. Averaging $25 per hour with noo boss over my head! Pure Bliss!!

[@GVOSP]

John T Yooooo I was just thinking about getting into uber and lyft. I'd very much would enjoy getting to know your experiences doing that kind if work

[@mercurialmessenger]

Espee it's super easy and super fun as far as I'm concerned being an ENFP is the perfect personality type to be an Uber driver. just start you'll love it!

[@tresdelosreyes5805]

This is so true, they always say to me "you’re weird” but the truth is i’m just doing what i want to do. Just because i’m doing something that most people aren’t doing, they call me weird. But, it’s okay. Being weird for me, is being unique. I just follow what i want to do. There are millions of people in this world, and i’m sure that there are others as "weird" as i am. So, why bother.

[@tresdelosreyes5805]

Connie Chau ohmygosh, yes lets be friends gurl!

[@tresdelosreyes5805]

Connie Chau how about twitter?

[@tresdelosreyes5805]

mine is @ainnermoomchild, i cant find u though so just follow and dm me hehe

[@electricbutterfly1]

Haha ENFP Accountant here! Accounting is not what you think especially at the high level. I solve different problems every single day.

[@Newfiecat]

I'm INFP but a lot of this really resonates with me! Like I'm literally incapable of working an office job because it's like my brain just shuts down completely in that environment. I just stop functioning and my eyes glaze over and my brain escapes somewhere far, far away... It's not a lack of intelligence or determination or academic skill. I achieved top marks in university, for crying out loud! Yet I somehow cannot function in an office doing paperwork. I can only focus if I'm doing work that engages creativity somehow. And even though I'm an introvert, doing work that directly involves helping people feels so much more important and meaningful. Anyone here have similar problems?

[@Mienarrr]

I read this title and immediately was like „thanks......“ but boi was i happy you‘re a fellow enfp 🤜🤜🤜 we‘re definitely awesome just as we are; or just as everyone is!! no type should be weird or bad!!

[@emmazhang2418]

I love being “weird” which to me is being unexpectedly random. I love seeing other ppl get weirded out by me. It’s kind of entertaining.

[@danpaul3339]

I feel like us ENFPs need to leave America to thrive elsewhere. Somewhere we can expand our creative energy! God made us this way to be the light in the darkness. Keep smiling fam

[@davidnevolo4402]

I was on cloud 9 in my early 20s but i havent been allowed or able to translate that into the life i was excited for. People think im not sober, im autistic, im adhd or im manic. Figuring out how to navigate relationships, passion, profession while being misunderstood has really gotten in the way of my success and independence.

[@chmocke1]

ENFP... found out today... feels good to actually understand myself a bit better... a bit skeptical about all of it, but this sure gives me a clearer understanding of where and how I can flourish and what I can work on to be a better version of myself... With this I can go out into the world with new found perspective of where I can shine and be an inspiration to others... You've got to get to know yourself before you can be the true best version of YOU. Glory to God and all the wonderful people he made! Now go and embrace yourself and all the others around you! (Smiley Face)

[@lindseywalters6548]

I'm an ENFP and have learned that people think I'm quirky and weird. I work in education and most people in that field are muggles or mainstreamers. I don't fit with them very well and I feel like they all think I'm a weirdo, but the people that appreciate me for who I am make me feel very comfortable.

[@MikeShawTV]

Dude! We are pretty unique. We own that! So yeah, kinda weird :-) But also awesome!

[@benfrank8649]

I had a moment of seeming weird yesterday. I usually dominate class discussions, even when I do not intend to. I’ll wait a while for others to engage in the discussion, but when they don’t, I’m happy to. Yesterday in psychology my teacher brought up bonobos and the differences with them and chimps. She asked what we knew about them. I have a minor passion for primates and behavior. I think it’s essential to understanding human behavior and evolutionary biology. So I said many things about them. And people were all like “how do you even know that” and acting as if I were some alien.

[@enfp]

Just tell em to grab a copy of sex at dawn and expand their weirdness too!

[@benfrank8649]

That’s a good book! Makes me want to be in a hunter gatherer society. I’ve heard people critisize it though. A book you must read if you haven’t yet is “Behave” by Robert Sapolsky

[@Dancestar1981]

I certainly don’t I keep getting typed as INFP-T but I think I’m really an ENFP that has been so traumatised by the worlds negativity that I have retreated within myself

[@KentoSky]

The country wants obedient workers, not independent workers and thinkers.

[@GrafinVonHopper]

I'm an INFJ and this is exactly the kind of thing I say all the time. I also have a hard time adapting to the social "Te". I like to do things my way and not be tied to conventional methods. I prefer to do things alone than to be surrounded by people and bosses pressuring me.

[@DonNjabs]

ENFJ here and i think you have major facts and points fam.....they just dont understand....theres levels to this ☺😎

[@tatiana-mindfool]

Totally agree. We have such an imbalance in the Western society with all those material desires.

[@jhoshghorbani1990]

im defiently an enfp type guy. im so relating myself to your comments guys. i just am happy almost all the times , definetly not saying im not having up and downs , because thease downs make me feel desparate many times . another thinh i want to mention 'bout my personality type is the fear of being misjudged , laghued at, but after reading your comments in sure ita a normal type of living and absolutly NOT wierd .

[@coregurlz]

Its weird for me when people said we are weird. I believe all I did is enjoying myself and let them have fun around me as well as sharing my enjoyment with them. I tend to hear "weird" so often but I like the way you explained in the vid, just like the way I thought. ✌️

[@apurvadeshpande2366]

Hey,this was fun! You've studied stuff and it's really nice to hear your views and opinions and your "biased thoughts " haha

[@GregLowPropertyAsia]

Glad to be part of this community

[@enfp]

Glad to have you with us :)

[@Blondiee777]

ENFP here!! I've noticed people either realllly take to me and I can feel their total respect for me (for my opinion and ideas etc) or people really don't like me and try to really bring me down! I'm told I'm really straight forward and sometimes (too) honest. Which I guess for some may make them feel uncomfortable. But I can't pay my bills and run my 4 businesses with their opinions 🤪👅👑xxx

[@lilyms5440]

Yes ! My dad, my family members and my colleagues said that I'm weird. "You have an awesome paid job (routine job 😃) that some people want your position. You are simply not grateful. "

[@brainiac31K]

Your video is word. The only “office job” I prospered in was working for a new museum’s launch. The poobahs came down from D.C. to us in NYC and said we were going to be the darlings of the org. as a new branch, with unlimited experimentation and an encouragement to innovate, for which I came through. They said after 5 or 10 years, however, the bureaucracy will have set in, with bean counters, suits and forms in triplicate. I lasted 10 years. 😃 Freelancing in design, art or music is beyond my ENFP shadow functions, however. I just make stuff for people, the devil’s in the details for sure.

[@enfp]

I love how accurately they predicted it would turn over to the bean counters

[@brainiac31K]

Dan, I guess I can say the Smithsonian without my NDA nailing me from 2003. I’m being divorced and having to reconsider my intuitively awesome retirement funds, to be cautious. At 65 I’ve learned how to better use my inferior functions and thanks to insights gained here, I’m not letting them run the show. I’ve got another bureaucratic org. offering me part time web work with BENEFITS. I was hungry at first but now I’m reconsidering getting back on that horse, and maybe take another shot at the arts with my skills more mature. I’m watching you! ☝🏽

[@brainiac31K]

I foundered a bit at my most successful office job until I read our mission statement. Instead of boring drivel it was an inspiration to know that I was to serve a diverse community who’d been robbed of a voice for generations, to be merely a channel to get them “up to the mic.” Discouraging days were less so as a moral center had been provided me. ENFPs seem to love that kind of stuff. 😃