8 Unexpected Gifts Of The ENFP Personality Type

[@ainekelly5252]

Needed to hear this. I’m so sick of people treating me like I’m an idiot or weird because I don’t spend my time focusing on things they consider important but I find boring.

[@suheylanoyan]

So true

[@spannycat2]

Same. People keep telling me I don't act like a 28 year old. I was like do you want to act like a 27 year old 24/7? Do you want to act like a 50 year old 24/7 when you're 50?

[@angellombness4371]

In my 30s. Completely my experience as well. There was a Serena Williams commercial about accepting that we are crazy... the world may look at us as weird or crazy because they can't see our perspective. Once we start identifying our values and explain to people in simple terms, as Heidi Priebe explains, those who listen have a treat coming. 😉

[@autumnpendergast9151]

High 5 kiddo! (I have no idea how old you are, age is fake). Never ever stop being you!

[@autumnpendergast9151]

@@spannycat2 I'm 50 next year, in a month I am heading off with a bell tent to go everywhere! I decided to do this 2 months ago. Growing up is a myth created by people with no imagination.

[@qeela4523]

Messy empathy reminded me of when me and my friend helped this one girl. So the story is this girl got scolded by a teacher in front everyone she knew for doing something very shameful. Afterwards I noticed that her friends would ignore and wouldn't talk to her which made me mad. Later that day, I saw her sitting alone and took the chance to approach with my friend. I told her that even if things dont look okay now, it's gonna be better and she looked up sobbing and asked how would i know and me being a troublemaker and had my fair share of shameful experiences just said that I just know it with a smile. I invited her to join my friend group (which was just me and my friend lmfao) since i know being alone with ur thoughts aint the greatest feeling but she declined and said she just wantef to go home. Was pretty reluctant at first but i understood she still needed more alone time. Fast forward to 2 years later, that girl and I are still friends but since we weren't classmates we weren't that close "close" per see and i kinda forgotten i helped her cuz lmao my memory sucks sometimes. Anyways, 2 years later im finally i the same class as her. She was doing better, she was one of the smart kids now and the teachers adored her. It's great n all but the thing is...she was so nice to me like fr super nice, she would hv this exasperated expression every time I forgot to do my homework (i always asked her to teach me cuz she's super good at accounts) or just me doing something silly. I was hella confuse why she didn't hate me for being annoying or to just straight up ignore me (like most do) so i asked her one day when we were paired up for a group project about why she was so nice to me? She smiled and said remember 2 years ago? You and (insert friend's name) really helped me back then. You guys were the only ones who talked to me that and Im very grateful for it. ...Bruh i felt like crying a little cuz that was the first time someone said that they were thankful of me so flipping sincerely 😭 And im still friends with her even after we both went our seperate ways. The end :) (This was long so thx to whoever read all of this

[@aless7038]

omg😭 i feel you on such a deep level, tanks for sharing your story

[@jammingdan]

In my twenties I was really depressed after a youth meeting. Everyone had to write each other feedbacks of good personality traits they appreciated. I received about 15 to 20 “ you are really cool” and “funny/happy”. I was really sad about these superficial feedbacks and felt very misunderstood and not really seen!

[@zalfadaulah4890]

i get that too

[@nautica00]

I always think about how people don’t really know me. They know extroverted action me but not how I think and what leads me to my crazy actions.

[@altynaiabdrakhmanova9173]

OMG! That sound so true to me. 1. The ability to navigate uncertainties. Probably sometimes I look for those uncertainties in my life. 2. The ability to observe the mind and it’s mechanism. Psychology is my passion! 3. Questioning convention. I remember myself as a questioning child into questioning person. 4. Spiritual sensibility. Sometimes I do not hear it but I’m working to always hear and follow the inner voice. 5. Messy empathy. Sometimes I force myself to not empathize too much into others people life. 6. Critical thinking. Yes to complex way of comparing things and building a system in my head. 7. Influential about our passions. Following my interest yes. 8. Down to earth communicator. Speaking and sharing ideas brings me so much joy. Thank you for explaining, sharing this information and making this video!

[@neko_neko9]

Omg I have ALWAYS said my intuition yells at me! I look at people who choose lifestyles that clearly don't fit them, and my mind goes:????????? "I'm glad in retrospect that I couldn't bear the discomfort of doing things that I hated". I literally screamed, omg yes! Having spent years full of mental illness and incapacitated with chronic fatigue in the past, I am now grateful that my body and mind literally REFUSED to function unless I find a way of functioning that is custom made for me. It is quite an extreme case, but the deeper the pull in a certain direction, the harder the resistance towards anything that could be holding me back from it. And I would have held myself back because of fear and shame unless my body and psyche broke down completely!

[@neko_neko9]

PS I LOVE messy emotional landscapes lol they feel like home

[@hanes2]

I love you enfp people. My one weakness as a INTJ. 😨

[@semiprofessional8470]

I can't resist them either 😂. ISFP

[@cynthiaforsythe8989]

Wish I’d found an INTJ at the right time.

[@Dark-Light_Ascendin]

Thank you. My spirit brother is INFJ

[@user-pk5pl7ox1e]

​@@semiprofessional8470oh that's interesting

[@user-pk5pl7ox1e]

What are you doing about it(

[@dronicx4002]

she does a thing... that I do too... all the time. I've only recently become aware of it myself, but now that I've noticed it about myself I see it in other people as well. and that is... there's these moments during her explanation where she ends the more complex sentences with "right?". I - as an ENFP - do this all the time and I genuinely think it's because we take great care in the fact that the other person follows along and are still with us while we explain stuff we're passionate about. I'm quite happy to have run into this video. thank you so much :3

[@malek6610]

#4 Sensitivity with doing the stuff that we hate. It's like our future self telling us that we will regret this decision later in life✅

[@prajwalvishwanath4072]

I absolutely agree with all of these! I remember comparing being an ENFP to the other types and feeling extremely lacking several years ago. But over time, I came to see how powerful my mind really was. It's like I'm seeing a totally different world than most people, just weaving my own tapestry of the universe. Felt good to be reminded of my gifts! Thanks Heidi

[@angellombness4371]

100% what I went through as well as an ENFP. My low point was very recent; learning about my cognitive functions, as you state, has given me a healthy self-regard. Life saving.

[@overit.4013]

Yes yes me too ! And also , I went to India on a whim christmas 2009 . I got stuck in Mumbai , got a sunstroke in Goa and almost didn't make it back home. I love your country , 10/10 would go there to get stuck again ❤ Edit because : Hugs from Norway!❤

[@itsmoebra8976]

Wow. After being criticized by my family for my whole life about things like "not being able to follow a step by step plan" or to "be consistent in doing 1 thing", this video actually makes sense to me and makes me feel better about myself. Thank you ❤

[@marlemsepulveda7592]

I didn’t know how much I needed to hear this until today. THANK YOU. Some days I really felt utterly alone and like nobody in the world ever understands how I feel and how I think. It’s comforting to know that I am not alone and there’s actually a lot of people like me spread all over the world. I see you and I understand you ❤️.

[@cynthiamcclare9493]

Yes 💯

[@dkelly6492]

Hello me

[@overit.4013]

Thank you and right back at you ❤

[@sagnikhaldar3229]

Some of our highly self critical mates really needed to here these good things. Thanks Heidi.

[@danieleoduro3829]

This whole personality subject confirms to me that we are "Spiritual Beings", im getting started in this personality journey as an ENFP and its crazy how there is a lot of "me" out there, and how this test Is super accurate, its like we are somehow wired or something!! This makes me happy as a christian :) i believe we were all created in a special way (and not products of chance) to impact this world in meaningful ways..lets go ENFPs!!

[@kaliah1494]

I'm an ENFP with an ENTP best friend and I feel like ENTPs are another highly misunderstood type.

[@malek6610]

True

[@silentgrove7670]

It might be the Ne, we see the world very differently than others. I feel completely misunderstood even by people that have known me for awhile and I feel very close too. In fact when the experience of being close to someone and they don't seem to understand me is very difficult to navigate. I feel N dominants might be susceptible to what I now call gaslighting by tribe. ENFP.

[@kun_kue]

I hate my inability to complete tasks I'm not passionate about. I usually use my inner barometer to check when I should tweak a task or change course to align with what I'm good at. You put it in a way that I can appreciate. To me, it branches over to people because if my brain says no to interaction with certain individuals, I can't force it.

[@angellombness4371]

I hate it too... I am starting an affinity / employee resource group at work to focus on 'learning' to understand Trust, Hope, & cognitive functions. One thing at a time. Ugh

[@ENFPerspectives]

I’ve found I can almost make any task fun for me if I change my outlook on it. Ex: adding insulation to my attic, it was hot and my protective glasses kept fogging up, so my son and I pretended we were underwater (don’t recall the rest of our pretend story, but we just added to it as we went, making a long, silly story). 😋

[@theruffledbunny2675]

Same

[@marianzefferer-nlp]

Awesome content. Thanks for the really deep information! The eight strengths of ENFPs 1. Handle unexpected things -> very flexible (sehr flexibel, kann exzellent mit unsicherheit umgehen) 2. ability to observe the mind (mindfulness & selfawareness) -> fast pattern recognition (vernetztes denken, mit stetigen vergleich der eigenen denkstruktur) 3. Questioning Convention -> Question everything (Hinterfragen Strukturen in ihren Grundfesten) 4. Spirital Sensitivity (Gutes Gefühl für die richtige Richtung) 5. Messy Empathy - Healing on a soul level (Fähigkeit die Dunkle Seite in jemanden zu erkennen) 6. Critical Thinking (kritisches Denken, alle neue Information wird mit allen bisherigen Verbunden) 7. influential in their passion (Sehr einflussreich, wenn es um ihre Leidenschaften geht) 8. Down-to-Earth Communicator (Fähigkeit komplexe Dinge einfach ausdrücken)

[@eloelotube]

I am happy that you brought up our critical thinking. I often see ENFPs' critical thinking and logical intelligence being underestimated a lot. We might not always be brilliant in school but just because we are so aware of the things that we really want to do ( and even more the ones that we really don't want to), that we find so difficult to go on a path that was chosen FOR us ( I am thinking of a classic school system). It doesn't mean that we are not logical, academically smart or lack criticism.

[@caguilar51505]

This is a really good list. I was complimented for #8 yesterday. I often get complimented for explaining things in a way that is easy to understand but without making them feel stupid. I didn't realize that was a gift

[@silentgrove7670]

I have had this (#8) told to me by people that have taken my communications workshop. I didn't even know it was something I would even know how to do until a few years ago. Its nice to hear about our gifts because I find many people don't get me. ENFP

[@andreashetterly8415]

I once got a complement that I am free spirited yet so calm and reserved at the same time. I don't know if this is because I consider myself a shy enfp, but I do think a strength of an enfp is seamlessly going from wide (NE) and deep (FI). We can be free spirited and unconventional which sometimes translates as bubbly, crazy, weird, master brainstormer, yet in the next breath we can spout out these deep thoughts about life, love, and what makes the world ho round. It's like we can hang out on the shore for awhile but eventually we're going to step foot into the ocean and go deep, but we won't drown.

[@MichaelJLambie]

#5 messy empathy - one of my favorites to give when I'm given the opportunity. I've never heard it articulated like that. Thank you!!

[@joel.pimentel]

Heidi thank you for helping me feel seen. I cried watching this, specifically the "Spiritual Sensitivity" part and where you talked about your personal experience trying to fight yourself to do a job you weren't aligned with. I'm currently in this situation at a really well known tech company and have really been struggling with hating what I do for the past 3 years and thinking something is wrong with me because my body/mind feels like it physically cannot perform anymore. I've been worried I'm just resisting work and something is wrong with me when I see all the people around me performing well in their 9-5's despite their complaints.

[@joel.pimentel]

Would appreciate any more videos on this, and how to listen to this voice.. or any more detail on how you made that jump to that field you like every morning

[@reyne8424]

I want to thank you for your comment! A few years ago I did a web dev and python bootcamp, enjoyed it, and then got offered a part time job as a low code dev. Fast forward a year and a half, I have now been told repeatedly that I should consider studying IT, as I seem to be very talented and german companies prefer to hire people with degrees. A part of me wants to do it, for the security, the pay, the praise and the feeling that comes with being good at it, but another part is kicking and screaming at me to run the other way. Just like you, I feel like there is something wrong with me and that I should just be grateful and not waste the opportunity. How have you been this last year? Have you made a change?

[@joel.pimentel]

@@reyne8424 Thank YOU for reminding me about this post. I actually quit my job last August and have been pursuing content creation for the past year. I'm a lot happier and realized that there was nothing wrong with me and it was less about just "hating work" and more about hating the work I was doing. (I have now found myself working for hours straight or late into the night while still being excited to do it). I wouldn't necessarily advise everyone to just quit their jobs, but what I would advise is to listen to yourself!

[@otakumomma2196]

🥰 I love ENFP’s. You are awesome 😎 -This INTJ

[@MDanimations44]

When I was teaching animation, I always felt that I explained things like I was explaining them to a child, I felt bad about it but also felt that there would be no other easier way that it could be explained, so they would definitely get it. I always got into trouble by management for not filling in paper work based on everyones performance, but in my head I knew where each student was at and when to push them or leave them alone. I always helped them reach the finish line though. This video has made a lot of sense of why I naturally did things that way! Also the messy empathy is whole heartedly how I approach people who arent doing well, or just need someone in their corner! Great video Heidi!!

[@ENFPerspectives]

❤️

[@autumnpendergast9151]

When I was teaching ballet to 3 year olds I would explain things like they were the wisest most intelligent beings on the realm. It is the same philosophy. They were so magnificent! I didn't want them to lose that, it is squashed out of them by "adults" in kindergartens and schools. I would have loved your classes (I am a visual artist too of course).

[@MDanimations44]

Oh cool!! I'm so glad that you teach that way, because yes you are completely right, they deserve to be treated well and given the best chance of success and to enjoy themselves why doing it! Well done for doing it that way! Haha aww thanks, that's really cool, I hope you're going well with your career and creativity 😁☺️🙏

[@barbarahallowell2613]

Gift 4. Sooo THAT. I was not listening to myself in a job that I worked hard to get, spent 3 months in training, and after less than 2 weeks of actually doing the work I broke out in horrible hives Sunday night before having to go into work. 3 days out of work, total anxiety. I listened to myself then. I called in and quit the job. Hives disappeared in less than an hour. It was so against anything that I would consider authentic to myself. Lesson learned.

[@sanaechaan]

I love that when you talk about the last gift, you clearly love to talk about all this, and the way you word it so careful and simple and digestable for the viewer, it just shines through. Its a full circle moment for sure 😀 also its sometimes frightening and mesmerizing at the same time how someone can just know how you work, to the CORE. I feel so exposed 😀 but i just love the way we ENFPs (and everyone else honestly) think, it just fascinates me! Love the video, i resonated with everything you talked about.

[@angellombness4371]

Yeah! Build the ENFPs club. Healthy knowledge & self-regard learning.

[@mytypeofmind]

Hey Im trying to spread love to all ENFPs. As a fellow ENFP, I made a love letter to celebrate those who might be just like me kzbin.info/www/bejne/pYXJiWSijp6llbM

[@rockNdoII]

I love the part about having the ability to not need to change the messy feeling.. to just meet it and let it be okay to feel things! I often tell friends it's okay to feel what they feel and share undertsanding rather than saying "don't feel that way"...

[@celinefrancesca114]

You speak in such a way that is so eloquent and makes SO much sense !

[@wardaxoxo]

Thank you very much for this vid. As the only ENFP/NE dom in my family I struggled with acknowledging my strengths for many years. Now that I have developed myself, I am very happy :)

[@purple.-.turtles5840]

THANKS 😁 I have had an idea in my head that has bothered me for a long time, and it is that many people around me seem so willing to do everything they "should" do, and I am not. No matter how much I punish myself and blame myself for not doing "what I should", if I really don't see a point in it, if it doesn't represent anything meaningful to me, no matter how important that duty is, I just can't. Today this video has made everything clearer to me, which is something that usually costs us hahah Cheers!! 🤗

[@victorcorcos]

19:31 -> YEEEESSSS, that's my life. I notice that very vividly in my life love... Like I have a gifted ability to simplify complex stuff, complex ideas and makes it digestible to a huge amount of people... It is incredible to have that and I think it is a huge part of my personality.

[@gavingeorgecouk8250]

I think I fell in love a little bit when she said "soul murder"

[@noellapaulinetaaka7841]

Spiritual sensitivity resonates so much!

[@wilson9213]

anybody else just love these videos for the complement high ?? .. i leave here feeling like yes Heidi we are the shit .. much love fellow ENFP x

[@justinboulianne5926]

We are non conformists who ask tough questions, the corrupt current structure doesn't like that. I find almost any job I'm in, I tend to be a boat rocker, I can't help it.

[@benkesallai]

As some1 with ADHD i felt way better about myself after i've watched a lot of videos of this topic. I think people with ADHD are prone to be ENFPs because we can multitask, we can share our attention effectively, I also realized that my memory was bad but if I can attach an emotion to a particular thing i will remember it (this helped me a lot in recent years, hope that helps some1 too) because I'm a really emotional guy and i like being one even if that sometimes hurts a lot :) . I am really versatile in almost every part of life, which is super charismatic in the eyes of other people and I also love to be like that too. I can go from a small talk to a super deep talk within a few seconds. It took me time to understand my personality in relation to my ADHD, but i really love to be like that. :) Messy Empathy is so-so me, also reminded me that there is a phrase which resonated with me deeply because ive been to those places at some point in my life: “The loneliest people are the kindest. The saddest people smile the brightest. The most damaged people are the wisest. All because they don't wish to see anyone else suffer the way they did.”

[@victorianunez9755]

I´m not getting used to commenting videos, but I decide to do this because while I watch this video, a lot of things that I reproach myself for, such as spiritual sensitivity or the questioning convention, just hit difference for me. I can´t express with words how deep the "love these things" and "appreciate them" made me let out a lot of feelings that were deep and locked out inside of me. This video really help me feel less shit (for saying in some way) about myself with things I hated of me, because they made me struggle in life, even with my family (they are all thinkers, so you can imagine how rough is for me to not think in weak or stupid for feeling things deeply and personally). thank you so much, for helping me.

[@brettgibson2988]

I've been waiting 20 years to hear validation like this. I'm so thankful that I found you, Heidi. Keep shining that beacon for ENFPs around the world. Also, loving the tanned brunette vibes!

[@jreamscape]

U should get that validation from yourself bro

[@alekseibarulin3511]

@@jreamscapewhy “should”? You can get a validation wherever you want. Outside validation feels good, why stick just for inner? I love to have both

[@TNord.]

Thanks! Awesome insights. Totally resonates with me. I’ve am a point where my passion isn’t valued by people around me, basically I’m raising my son. He’s 12. I have pH.D. in Chemical Physics, but I left academic to follow my wife to medical school and now to volunteer on organic farms with my son all over the world. I play guitar with my son on uke for his grandparents almost daily. My wife makes a very good salary, so I think just being around, cooking, cleaning, teaching my son is what I should be doing. I catch a lot of flack and disrespect from her, SJ type, she doesn’t see the value of what I’m doing. I would like to start a new ambitious project, but I don’t want to do that at the expense of my family. She thinks I’m lazy and unmotivated, but I can’t just turn the hamster wheel for no good reason. Your video helped me see this dynamic a little clearer. Thanks 🙏🏻

[@zannadana]

Thank you so much for this series. As a ENFP your content make me feel sure of what people considered weird (like always needed to follow my inner feeling even if it’s not profitable) is not something I have to change but to trust in. And feeling confident of what we wanted to offer by heart is needed in this world. Thank you thank you thank you

[@mytypeofmind]

Hey Im trying to spread love to all ENFPs. As a fellow ENFP, I made a love letter to celebrate those who might be just like me kzbin.info/www/bejne/pYXJiWSijp6llbM

[@jenniferwood78]

So interesting. I'm actually in the INFP/INFJ range, but when I'm happy, mentally healthy, & feeling energetic, I can have a lot of ENFP traits as well. As usual your detailed & specific explanations are so much more enlightening than the usual generic descriptions.

[@faheemabid9646]

Your enfp?

[@mcee555]

This video made me buy the ENFP soul bootcamp course :D

[@traceydrake8013]

I just started dating an ENFP. I'm INFJ and see every one of these in him. Thanks so much for this! I love a lot of your attachment stuff, as well!❤

[@UndrgrndTy]

What are you some of your similarities and differences that you can think of?

[@sayuritube]

Heidi, this was incredibly insightful. I'm an ENFP-A, and every single point you made I have felt throughout my life. I never had a word for number 4, but I can tell you that the intuition is so strong and I've felt this my whole career! So refreshing to hear that point. Slowly, like you have said, it has brought me closer and closer to what I really want. One thing I have also noticed is that because ENFPs like growth and progress and lifelong learning, I also think it's possible for them to sabotage getting the exact thing they want, because our minds will then ask "ok, now what?" "what comes next?" "will I be satisfied if I get everything I have ever wanted, or achieve a dream?" So instead, it's easy to go for the thing that's ALMOST what you want, so as to delay getting the actual thing you want. Does that make sense? It's something I have been struggling with in terms of career - it seems to be hard to be truly honest about what you want, and sure that if you get it, you will be satisfied.

[@JoshuaDb_The_Witness]

I am a little floored. I stumbled across your work - just today - and I had no idea about your work with myers brigs - but I so resonated with what you had to say regarding limerence - that I took the test - and Im an ENFP. Im 51 - at 47 after four misdiagnosis and one hospitalization in my teens - I was properly diagnosed with ADHD. Which changed everything - for the better - but now - sooo many questions - as I was starting to suspect that I was on spectrum - due in part to these gifts you are talking about - so much to process... thank you. so much of this validating on so many levles.

[@kenjiletada]

These gifts are on point. Thank you for making this video.

[@westcoastswingmusic]

This is deeply insightful and encouraging for me as an INFP.

[@FlipTheCatOfficial]

A lot of these traits sound like adhd especially the inability to finish something. I have adhd and am an INFJ. I am seeing an ENFP partner and a lot of the skills I learned to manage and cope with my adhd hurdles are actually super helpful to her. It’s nice to know that these lessons can help her and she doesn’t have the other issues that come so with adhd. Or maybe she’s just undiagnosed 😂

[@audrey-annegaumond2045]

I relate to this so much!!! Your videos are always so accurate it feels good to understand why we are the way we are 🥰 - ENFP

[@elihaylevi6569]

might be the best channel on youtube!!! love and appreciate you and your work so much!

[@angellombness4371]

Agreeeeeeeee, especially for ENFPs.

[@Aaronsutube1]

"Question Convention" has been so major and true for my life. I sometimes look back at my career and life and notice that I was/am ALWAYS the person who makes a new way of doing things. Non-creative work just doesn't work for me. As an engineer, I think that predisposition to innovate has been a big asset, however I have had to learn to hone the skill rather than 100% let loose. I remember situations where I unnecessarily reinvented the wheel. That balance of order and creation is crucial. Order can help promote creativity.

[@kathrynfriedlund3280]

Really love the positive way you presented this! A confidence boost for this ENFP who sometimes feel I'm floundering or feel guilty. Thank you!

[@angelawanjiru805]

You have no idiea what your videos mean to me! I literally weep everytime I watch you cause I feel so understood and seen. Really appreciate and love you and your mind and your passion Heidi! Thank you for making my existential crisis a little softer.

[@ryandanielable]

I'm stuck and needed to hear this :*) . crazy messy life, lived on 3 continents, divorced and started multiple lives over and over.. also restarted my educational paths about every 2 years and fell into an on and off depression. Until I chose.. pain. Met a woman, fell in love head over toes. Moved in with each other. Started and finished a degree, changed jobs and doubled my pay. She and I are expecting a baby boy, but I'm also constantly dreaming of crazy new ideas to let out all that creativity while earning more money with it. It's been the most stable 5 years of my life (and I wouldn't trade that in for anything), but I've chosen stability by white-knuckleing through the last 5 years of being so goddammed serious. I'm itching to mend my crazy creativity with my stable life. I feel.. like dr jekyl and mr hyde.

[@joeleek9976]

16:29- this is totally me. I think of it in terms of implications. A single piece of new information can change entire swaths of knowledge.

[@westcoastswingmusic]

Just finished watching this video for the third time. Love it! Helps me appreciate those aspects of myself too like being disruptive by challenging the status quo and presenting unconventional solutions rather than sweep things under the rug. Thanks for being a deep thinker and going beyond the type stereotypes. ~INFP

[@annemarrie3895]

Wow Heidi!!!!! This is super great. I'm literally learning to embrace all these things. That aspect of spiritual sensitivity is such a gem. I watched a frank James video that listed us last on productivity, but how you've explained it makes so much sense cz listening to my intuition has really helped me carve out..still carving out a life that works for me. I can't stress enough how what you share is so empowering for me as an enfp. It's some of the best stuff/insights I've got on being an enfp.

[@shampaghosh1241]

I know its been an year since you commented this but I just wanted to say something. I actually do not think Frank James understands the nuances of all personalities, specially our type ENFP. He mostly relies on stereotypes when explaining a type and addresses to things on the surface level. That's why I never feel represented by his content. I've already stopped watching him some time ago because I couldn't bear seeing myself being misunderstood by the large following he has online.

[@annemarrie3895]

@@shampaghosh1241 dang, it's been a year. Uum yeah I actually second this. I kinda realized this at some point after the frustration, then just lost interest in watching him. Although it would make sense, he's literally our complete opposite. Istj. Sometimes it's difficult to have in-depth understanding of your polar opposite and let's not even forget to mention actually understanding the nuance of all these personalities. It's a tall order.

[@shampaghosh1241]

@@annemarrie3895 omg thank you for replying! I agree, tho I'm not sure if he's really a istj. There's one video where he takes the test but he answers all the questions randomly I don't think he was being serious about the test. That aside it might be true that his type is quite different from us. I don't really care about his channel now, it's just frustrating to see his videos get so much attention while a lot of other good ones don't. But I'm happy we think the same way about this ^^. I just wanted to talk about this with someone who can relate to me. Thank you again for replying. Have a great day ♡

[@Mr3kiwis]

Frank James is INFJ and excels at explaining INFJs. As one myself, I can't really speak to whether he goes beyond stereotypes with the other types. My Enfp daughter does actually relate to a lot of his Enfp characters and I do see aspects of my INTP hubby and ISTJ dad in his portrayals.

[@angelawanjiru805]

Would love to see a breakdown of the cognitive functions: acknowledging the strengths and weakness of our doms and cultivating/growing our inferior functions! I have a hate/love relationship with my Fi, super confused about my Ne and have no clue clue about the other two :(

[@Jonesy3461]

Agreed, would love to see this too

[@GymLili95]

Everything on this list resonated with me, particularly Messy Empathy. I’ve experienced a lot of pushback at times, especially in my youth, for having a sense of empathy for people in really shameful positions: criminals, liars, cheaters, etc.

[@stevenungester927]

This was so affirming for me as a classic ENFP! almost brought me to tears, hearing that this is a good quality to have! I question and analyze and search for patterns in EVERYTHING!!

[@seamus33333]

I'm always told how insightful I am. Never take it seriously enough. I hate myself, so I tend to always think they're patronizing me lol. Thanks for making me realize people are telling the truth when they say this!

[@shiny_x3]

When people say they hate themselves, I always want to give them a hug...I wish I could imbue you with self-love but I know it doesn't work like that, so here is a virtual hug from a stranger! . :-)

[@user-pk5pl7ox1e]

Believe it! Don't dare put self down

[@jennyfox6667]

Hating self has always been a great comfort to me for some reason- maybe attachment issues? I don't know. But also I grow so weary of my self-loathing *yawn*

[@Sweet_Steve]

I am an INFJ man that's looking to understand the other types, especially the ENFP I feel an attachment for. Thank you for this video 😊

[@mariagilje6941]

You said a lot of what I really needed to hear today . Thank you, From an ENFP

[@solgast]

Inspiring and motivating as always Heidi, never stop creating!

[@thesoundsofearth4454]

Heide, thank you. The world needs us, and we need you 💙 thank you for being a light.

[@Mrrp_huh]

Made me tear up at a couple points honestly. I felt seen, heard and understood. A lot of these gifts have been things I’ve noticed sets me a part from a lot of people in my circles and has made me feel like an odd duck. I realize I’ve internalized and analyzed to the point of almost shame of qualities that I truly love about myself. Connecting with your page and seeing more feedback from ENFP and ENFP appreciators really has healed my perspective and opened my soul to more joy and acceptance of myself. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and views and creating this community ❤

[@belindaaronson5084]

I love this…..And truth…..Because I found out I’m a ENFP a few years ago I am so free to be me……

[@littlefrog6288]

i was having a really rough day and feeling hopeless, and you made me feel understood :) deep inside i know i have all these good things about me, but it's so rare for other people to put them into words like this

[@liascott2014]

Amen to that sister!!! So good!!! You’re the best ENFP coach out there!! LOVE it!! I feel your inspirational energy radiating through the screen as you talk!! Thank you!!

[@masa9166]

I was mistyped as an INFP and it made me think mbti doesn't make sense. Actually, I moved to another country and for a few years i struggled to make friends so I thought I must be an introvert. But I was very unhappy that I dont have many friends. Now that I finnaly know the language and can be open with people fully, I have a big social circle and my ENFP personality started to show itself. I really relate to this video, thank you❤

[@erinb9647]

I loved this video. Thank you, Heidi for providing all these compliments... (cough, cough) I mean a list of strengths for the ENFP. I loved them. - A Fellow ENFP

[@jessicaeddins1935]

Agreed so much with this! I think you are so spot on. This is the time for ENFPs to shine.

[@krazydave6594]

Well said! This is 100% true and I believe it defines who I am. I'm so proud to have these gift and it's so life giving for me to express them in my own relationships and career!

[@cynthiaforsythe8989]

You have encouraged me more than you can imagine! I’m looking back over my life and seeing how intimidated I’ve been by those people who want to wipe the shine right off of you As they tell you you’re “doing it wrong.” That last point blew my mind : combing abstract and concrete. I actually did that with a year long book project. It was a historical coffee table book about a mega church celebrating 100 years. My church actually so I felt emotionally invested. I had to use critical thinking to determine what to include and what to leave out - of 100 years. The church had excellent archives fortunately. I time travelled, man. You can see how as an ENFP you’d have to do that, right ? so I had facts, tons of facts. But there was the abstract, crucial spiritual element in the storytelling. God helped me use this particular ENFP ability to see the patterns and write out of both sides of my brain. It took everything I had and then some. Now I’m seeing patterns of my life connecting, a life I’ve been thinking hasn’t been so useful. THANK YOU !

[@Itstrulyshuni]

Thank you so much because I was up all night in my head and ran across your video. Thank you thank you thank you

[@naomih4206]

I feel so seen I want to cry. Thank you so much for putting words to these gifts!!!

[@marimokid9985]

damn this is so cool. suddenly, i remember that i usually can analyze what's needed in a certain scenario, what else is missing or what else is gonna make a project work effectively, guaranteed. i think it falls under the critical thinking, also with the messy empathy since i tend to think of all the characters involved, all the roles or categories necessary for the project and kinda assume that role/idea, similar to stepping in the shoes of other people only that its not limited to just people but even concepts as well, and really fully understand what it contributes to the goal and how to make it work. that kinda blows my mind everytime i think of it, but being concious of it has allowed me to use that in many situations. this is so cool, it made me learn more about myself!

[@mytypeofmind]

Hey Im trying to spread love to all ENFPs. As a fellow ENFP, I made a love letter to celebrate those who might be just like me kzbin.info/www/bejne/pYXJiWSijp6llbM

[@rockNdoII]

Another super power we have I think, is to be able to understand the vibe of any type of music, even if we don't personally love it... we can understand the energy and what other people really love about it...

[@syzygy4365]

And yes! I completely connect with all of these traits. Some of them I'm learning now like fake enthusiasm. I'm learning the difference on how things are sold in intentions to sell, and others that are created in the thought of real issues and within their moral code and individual strength. You and your product can't be everything to everyone. What sets you up for a moral productive path is recognizing your weaknesses and working with it. You evolve beyond limitations from there. Let your passions and love from new life propel your directional growth. ❤

[@JinMoo1]

I rarely comment but now that I’ve found another person who articulated so well what I have been thinking, I felt the impulse to pause the video and leave a comment: I’m an INFP, and I felt depressed at my previous jobs. Of course my SJ type family member would just think I inherited the vulnerability for depression that runs in the other side of the family, but I always thought that’s not really a vulnerability, but a sensitivity for lack of fulfillment. It’s truly a gift rather than a weakness. It urged me to get out of what was not right for me and now I think I have found a right career direction for myself.

[@dawnstrauss856]

I love your videos about us AND feel totally empowered after watching them! ❤

[@여란지]

I'm listening this from Korea. And this made me tears. I can't explain fully but.. just thank you. I'll have to watch many more times to fully understand. ❤

[@gefiltefish2000]

You are incredibly gifted and intelligent and most importantly self aware

[@malek6610]

7th gift is like a persuading skill that can be used in business.💯💯💯💯

[@neethy1836]

You are so beautifully eloquent!!! Thankyouuu

[@52darcey]

Heidi - thank you for making this incredible content….for inspiring us and making us feel heard! 🙃

[@lesleystone7801]

in full agreement - 'doin' what comes naturally' ... very descriptive of the very core me and even the extraneous me - also aligns with my Human Design type. love this video. Best you've ever done imo :)

[@sandraoettle1476]

Oh hurray! I AM awesome! I knew it all along. High five to me. And you to you Ms Heidi. You're awesome too. Thanks for making these videos 😍🎉

[@ibinitschlecht]

Yes you ARE awesome ❤🎉😄😉

[@chizera9931]

Gift 2 & me seeing a therapist/mental health professional Me: ...so this is how I function and I think the reasons are *blablabla* Them: That's very insightful... (why are you here??) Me: 👁️👄👁️ I don't know for some reason I'm still a mess

[@SNILSS0N]

Hahah so true!!

[@shiny_x3]

Omg SAME! I wonder sometimes if I go in circles because I always seem to be getting new insights about myself, but then my life doesn't change.

[@thesoundsofearth4454]

Literally!!!!!

[@saudaldoseri207]

TRUEEE

[@angellombness4371]

There's just "madness" in our methods. ENFPs might enjoy... kzbin.info/www/bejne/jpSwY3uuat96fZI

[@MsDomomuffin]

Thank you for this! It’s so encouraging and definitely lifted my spirits today. ♥️

[@emmyt9304]

Oh my, I could share my experiences on each point, but all I'll say is %100 Heidi on all of this!

[@Mvlifv_15]

First Enfp here🥰🥳

[@Mvlifv_15]

Love ur videos Heidi❤️

[@XxYwise]

First ENFP-loving INFJ here. Probably.

[@rebornbutterfly1663]

Are you senegalese ?

[@Mvlifv_15]

@@XxYwise same case🥲🤣 i sympathize🥺

[@Mvlifv_15]

@@rebornbutterfly1663 yeahh🤗 100%😆🇸🇳 u know because of my name for sure🥳

[@gowdmc]

I just realised with your video, i knew exactly what and why i was teaching the job I was working on earlier in life. It was my drive. Connecting abstract theories to reality while adapting to my audience. Thanks for that!

[@biancaaustin5859]

This was so wonderfully done! I feel so understood. Thank you ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

[@erinb9647]

😊😊 I love your videos so much!! It is like you know me so well! 😆😆 Well, we are fellow ENFPs. Fantastic video, Heidi!

[@tevatiyeah]

Love you bro. Just needed this. I thought, I am the only one being completely useless. Got to know how to harness my tools. More power to you!

[@penguin34567]

LOVE this so much! You so easily describe these gifts, particularly our version of empathy, that I would be able to only vaguely explain..and some of them I didn't even know I had until I heard you explain them! Can you do a video for us "N" types that live in a predominantly "S" world? How can we better communicate with these types within our families, workplace, etc (without feeling like we're going crazy!)

[@angellombness4371]

Yes please.

[@michaeldizmang8276]

I love your channel… I am ENFP and just now awakening… this in very helpful. Thank you!

[@Floydbobo123]

I finally feel seen! I was mistyped as an INTP for years and once professionally typed as an ENFP, I feel seen

[@lennywinbox1734]

I gotta put some of this on my resume! need to be reminded of my strengths, this is just great!!

[@deborahwillig3308]

Amen! And #2 is hard for me as a coach. I keep asking questions that stump my clients. Helpful to know it is just not normal, what I can intuit within myself. Thank you.

[@eshant94]

This is just perfect and helping with my views on myself.