Why Do Some People Become Narcissists? The Surprising Truth with Dr. Seth Meyers

Why Do Some People Become Narcissists? The Surprising Truth with Dr. Seth Meyers.
In this eye-opening video, Dr. Seth Meyers explores the surprising reasons why some people become narcissists. Learn about seeking validation, codependency in relationships, therapy for family issues, and how to break free from narcissistic abuse. Narcissism is when someone thinks too highly of themselves, doesn't really care about others' feelings, and struggles in relationships. Narcissists pretend to be someone they're not to get attention, even though they feel insecure inside. Understanding that narcissists have these two sides helps us understand why they act the way they do.
The discussion then shifts to what makes romantic relationships work well. Being open and depending on each other to some extent is important. A good relationship finds the right mix of being together and being independent, and it values emotional closeness over being in control.
Next, the focus is on how having a narcissistic parent affects children. These children might grow up feeling not good enough and doubting themselves. As adults, they might end up in intense relationships and question their value. They often try really hard to be perfect and seek approval from others.
The conversation also covers the cycle of narcissistic parenting. Children with narcissistic parents might start to exhibit similar traits. However, going to therapy and becoming more self-aware can help break this pattern. Narcissistic parents often treat their children more as trophies than individuals, offering love only when the children meet their standards, which can be harmful.
Lastly, the topic is on how to break free from the narcissistic patterns passed down through families. Times are changing, and these patterns might change too. Trying to change a narcissistic parent's behavior is usually not successful because they can't see their own faults. However, therapy and taking time for self-reflection can help people who grew up in these situations to heal and move forward.
00:00 🧠 Narcissism: Thinking too highly of oneself, not caring about others, and relationship troubles. Pretending to be confident but actually insecure.
02:58 💔 Narcissistic Parenting: Leads to kids doubting themselves, craving approval, and low self-esteem. Kids might copy this behavior or choose similar partners.
07:11 🔄 Breaking the Cycle: Therapy and self-awareness can end this pattern. Learning and honest feedback help in understanding and healing.
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In this video, Dr. Seth Meyers explores the surprising truth behind why some people become narcissists and how therapy can help overcome narcissistic abuse and codependency in relationships. Tune in to learn more about seeking validation and breaking free from toxic patterns! #NarcissismInRelationships, #OvercomingNarcissisticAbuse, #EmotionalIntimacy, #HealthyVsToxicRelationships, #BreakingGenerationalCycles,

[@danmalone5365]

I added a paragraph inside the letter I shared yesterday or the day before I don’t remember. Identifying with the personality disorder. (collapsed narcissist). I can tell you what day that happened. October 23, 1983. I added a paragraph which pretty much explains why everything was so hard to place in anyone category. A summary of my personal experience throughout life. Developmental markers compromised by narcissistic abuse. The journey of growth from birth to around four years old is a critical period, focusing on vital elements of connection, attunement, trust, and autonomy. It is crucial to view this process through the intertwined perspectives of both neurological and psychological boundaries. When these boundaries are lacking or disrupted, it can have profound effects on a child's development. Insufficient neurological development may hinder a child's ability to build secure relationships, manage emotions, and navigate social interactions, leading to challenges in forming trust and connections with others. Similarly, a deficient psychological framework may impede emotional growth, independence, and self-awareness, resulting in difficulties related to autonomy, trust, and emotional regulation. The proper establishment of both neurological and psychological boundaries during early childhood is essential for nurturing healthy connections, attunement, trust, and autonomy in children. However, these foundations can be compromised by narcissistic abuse, especially vulnerable children, through emotional incest, covert incest, disrupting the structure of emotional and intellectual functioning. Later in life, this can leave individuals feeling like a blind person navigating through traffic, struggling to find a sense of belonging and coherence. Understanding these complexities sheds light on the challenges faced, offering insight into why things may have felt disjointed and out of place. When these developmental stages are compromised, the child has no other choice but to work around the compromised developmental markers. In such situations, the child would normally have bonded with the caregiver who caused the compromised developmental stages for clarity and emotional support. If, for some reason, the caregiver is no longer available or abandons the child emotionally due to outside forces, then it becomes necessary for the child in this situation to instinctively adopt a survival style to protect the inner self from further emotional damage. The concept of introjection in psychology. Introjection is indeed a defense mechanism where individuals internalize attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors of others as if they were their own. This process can involve both positive and negative qualities of others based on their interactions. The analogy of "riding a wild horse with no reins" describe an individuals without a core belief in themselves constantly adjusting to an external shell without internal guidance reflects the idea that individuals who lack a strong sense of self may rely heavily on external influences to shape their identity. Understanding this allowed me to evolve over time, building my own internal self by observing and mirroring how people interact with each other, asking questions, and updating my own internal self in real-time by being socially engaged, even if it seems awkward. Over time, this has proven to be a valuable lesson because I accumulated knowledge and incorporated real-time experiences into my own personal development. Kind of like everything was in reverse, why life was so confusing because the basic structure of how the mind develops was compromised. Using mirroring as a developmental tool in real-time mind-sight allows the brain to evolve through experiences learned. Neuroplasticity makes necessary changes in the brain to facilitate the new neural information, overriding the compromised developmental markers that were missed. At the same time, focusing on mindfulness and listening to several books by Eckhart Tolle, such as "The Power of Now" and "The Voice of Knowledge," brought awareness to the negative self-talk people listen to all day inside their head. In some cases, people have learned to ignore it like background noise constantly running, mentally tuning it out. This works like going through life with mind blindness to some degree emotionally and intellectually, personally unaware of your own diminished ability to recognize certain issues. During this time, I had no counselor, only books. For me, this process was at times hard to stay focused on because of my ADHD and limited vocabulary other than what I actually needed. I still struggle with that today, but I have plenty of resources to research now. Neuroplasticity builds the necessary neurological framework from the outside in. This involves taking in external information and experiences, combined, making them part of one's self-concept, basically upgrading your belief system. This has proven to be a valuable way to accumulate the necessary knowledge for personal growth. As for the collapsed narcissistic analogy, this would've taken place. October 23, 1983. The realization personal me didn't exist. A conglomerate outer shell of Humpty Dumpty I fell off the wall personalities. So the hypothesis of collapsed narcissist maybe so in the beginning. Traces of those characteristics are still with me today but they seem like shadows or remnants of my past. The difference today is I'm no longer riding a wild horse with no reins. Accumulated knowledge have provided the tools necessary to make changes as I walk the road less traveled. Now having the ability to recognize the shards of fractured ego. Pieces of me in just about every psychological category. So I guess narcissistic analogy gives a framework to bring clarity of what happened to me before I was 4 years old. The price I paid was too high to go back to the old way of thinking that no longer provided anything of value. The outer shell became an obstacle in the path of further growth as information became available. The fact that I had developed enough tools at that point, going forward was the only option. The outer false self, at this point becomes a cage. Did everything change overnight? No, but at least I was a little more conscious of what was going on inside my head, advancing me to the next stage. One of the problems with being dyslexic was not having the necessary tools to explain complex intellectual insights, proved to be a challenge. But now that technology has provided the tools necessary for people with language issues, the ability to explain my experiences throughout life is definitely a plus. Then the ADHD kicks in, trying to make a shortcut to complex issues doesn't help. Understanding these concepts more in-depth can be found in the book "Mindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation" by Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. This allowed some clarification on how to explain the unseen things I didn't fully understand. His book explains how the mind repairs itself in many ways. I think, for me personally, engaging in life allowed many experiences, being engaged, applying ourselves in everyday challenges, being responsible for our lives is how I evolved, even though it may be limited based on other people's views. But for me, I feel it was a miracle. I like this quote by Viktor Frankl: “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms-to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way.” The best thing I ever decided for myself was not getting involved in any more relationships until I understood what was wrong. I was 29 years old when the thought was there, but I didn't have the ability to express it. For me, it's proven to be the best thing because it gave me time to think, to evolve, to understand what had gone wrong in the beginning. We never lose. We only learn.

[@ShariBurns-zz8eg]

Narcissists don’t love themselves( they don’t experience real love be, even for themselves), they’re just selfish. There is a huge difference between the two.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this topic. It's great to have open discussions about such important distinctions.