Why do some women wait decades for an ADHD diagnosis?

Why do some women wait decades for an ADHD diagnosis? - BBC News

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2 жыл бұрын

Gender bias is leaving many women with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) undiagnosed, leading psychologists are warning.
The stereotype that ADHD affects only "naughty boys" means it is estimated tens of thousands of women in the UK are unaware they have the condition, and are not receiving the help they need.
Another factor leading to slow diagnosis is the fact that symptoms of ADHD in women tend to be more subtle than in men, meaning signs can be missed.
These women have shared their stories of their struggle to be diagnosed.
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@Foxfang27 Жыл бұрын

“I didn’t like me then, but I’m quite fond of me now.” Wow.

@lisatutler-jones5992 10 ай бұрын

That part😢 I need that so bad

@richterradio 2 жыл бұрын

I got diagnosed in December 2020, at the age of 20. Every school report evidenced the fact that I struggled with ADHD growing up. I sobbed when I was diagnosed. All the failures I had suffered while comments such as “intelligent but doesn’t focus enough” festered in my mind. I’m so chaotic, but definitely predominantly inattentive. We need to break this hyperactive-boy ADHD stereotype. Edit: I wrote this 3 years ago. I don't believe every single individual that suspects ADHD, has ADHD. The hyperactive boy stereotype has certainly been broken. I stopped using my stimulant medication and try not to think about my ADHD - even though it of course permeates every facet of my life. The replies are heartwarming, but those that downplay the disorder as a "medicalised misbehaviour" are strange and unwarranted.

@duncanbug 2 жыл бұрын

I'm 28. Was diagnosed as a kid and only found out recently. Glad your getting help!

@richterradio 2 жыл бұрын

@@duncanbug That must’ve been very strange for you, I’m happy you now know. Thank you!

@PseudoPseudoDionysius 2 жыл бұрын

Looking back it should have been so obvious! I’m the same age as @Rinelight . Every single school report I had as far back as primary school had a paragraph about how capable I was and a paragraph about how “Graham does not use his time wisely, fails to complete class work on time, etc. Etc. Etc.” I almost never got in trouble for misbehaving but every time I remember getting shouted at or scolded in school was for being “too slow”, or for “daydreaming”. But once they peg you as lazy and you’re not disrupting the class, no one stops to think “hmm, maybe this clear pattern throughout this child’s entire school life could be a problem.” It’s an scandal how many people like us were never identified. Very glad to hear that you both found some answers. Best of luck.

@yukiedits2106 Жыл бұрын

Was this in India?

@richterradio Жыл бұрын

@@yukiedits2106 No, this is in the U.K.

@justanawkwardnerd Жыл бұрын

"Having a head that's constantly full of noise" is something I absolutely agree with. I struggle to hold onto the things I need to do in the now and NEED to remember later, feeling like I'm holding it in a tight fist and I'm moments away from losing my grip regardless. It also mixes badly with my anxiety. It's miserable. I'm trying to get tested so I can get some meds and therapy to work on it, but it's so frustrating to live with. It feels like I'm having to sooth a cranky, clingy, and loud toddler as I try to do actual work. It's miserable, and it's making it so difficult to live life how I need to, as well as how I _want_ to.

@human777 7 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing. Do you mind me asking how you’re doing now?

@justanawkwardnerd 7 ай бұрын

@@human777 Thank you for reading and thinking of me! :) I've sustained, but I'm still looking for professional help. Mainly, I'm trying to find a therapist. I sometimes try Adderal and trying to find meds that work for me, but I still need help managing these thoughts, my ADHD and anxiety alike. I also want to go back to school, but I know I can't unless I get these things reined in. Crossing my fingers that I'll be able to get that help started sooner rather than later!

@walescheese6342 4 ай бұрын

This description is spot on, it really does feel like you have a peice missing at all times, and I've known that I have had adhd since early childhood! Medication is a great tool but I recently discovered that aerobic exercise has the same effect except much stronger and lasts all day with no sleepiness when it wears off. The results for me were like everything you hope the medication will fix. I swear. Its like you mind slows down and can actually help you get along easier in general. Tons of great research into it so I would definitely check that out! Hope your doing better!

@Tom-zg6sb 4 ай бұрын

The weird thing is when someone asks are you ok and you know you should be ok 👍

@arizonasunflowers5226 2 жыл бұрын

My little brother was diagnosed but when my mom asked about me, the doc told her that “girls don’t get ADHD.”

@ormancadam6453 2 жыл бұрын

You know more than a doctor ?

@dontgetgaslighted 2 жыл бұрын

@@ormancadam6453 unfortunately doctors aren't trained to spot adhd that's why have to get referred to a psychologist generally the same way doctors are not also experts on eyes or teeth or funnily enough brains....

@PseudoPseudoDionysius 2 жыл бұрын

@@ormancadam6453 It sounds like it wouldn’t be very difficult to know more about ADHD than that doctor.

@eilzmo Жыл бұрын

@@ormancadam6453 funnily enough, doctors aren’t all knowing. They’re as human as you or I, they only know what they know. And if they were taught something that’s actually false, they won’t assume so until they figure it out for themselves. UNstrangely enough, it’s highly likely that very few doctors have adhd themselves, considering to qualify requires enormous ability to focus and study. So yeah. In this instance, they possibly do know more than the doctor. I suggest you knock the idea out of your skull that any person is infallible… people in positions of authority are just people. In positions of authority.

@kamiennykamien9578 Жыл бұрын

What an idiot 🤦 some psychiatrist when i was 22, told me that "i don't believe on ADHD" is it legall to say something like that? It's like doctor saying i don't believe on heart disease

@SN-sz7kw Жыл бұрын

It wasn’t until my daughters struggled and I read work by Sari Solden that the light went on. But in Germany noone would touch a 50-ish woman. I had to fly to the US & drive through a snowstorm with the flu, to get to a clinic specializing in adult ADHD. A cost no man would have to endure. I was a classic case. Returning with diagnosis in hand opened doors for my daughters. Dismissed & treated as stupid by the school system. They were diagnosed within weeks. It transformed their lives, they went from depressed & failing to excelling within weeks. Tucking in my 9 yr old shortly after this - she told me, “Mommy, I don’t have to be afraid anymore.” Honestly, it broke my heart to think she had been living in such fear. I am enraged and sometimes grief stricken when I think how I have struggled for decades & what I have lost. Some refer to us as a lost generation of women.

@TheJroddude Жыл бұрын

I was undiagnosed until I was 25 and I’m a male. My symptoms were overlooked cause I can honestly say not a soul in school or at home ever paid any attention to me. It’s been such a huge relief. It’s caused me to go into some deep holes. Drug abuse, suicidal tendencies, psychosis, and I never understood what was wrong with me.

@allfacts19 9 ай бұрын

We're you a quiet person in school and life?

@debrajessen7975 7 ай бұрын

You’re not alone. I’m a 56 year old female, and I still haven’t got the right diagnosis 🥺

@stewartkingsley 18 күн бұрын

@@debrajessen7975 I dont have an official diagnosis either. Though I recognise the traits to make me convinced that is the reason for why i do the things i do... or dont depending on the point of view. Also being born in '67 means that i have developed routines and workarounds to get by, at least in many ways. Filling forms can be a problem, taking weeks and months to fill them in, and then when i do they take minutes. Maybe medication would help, though at the moment i dont know how easy it will be to get an official diagnosis where i live now (which is mostly due to procrastination).

@debrajessen7975 18 күн бұрын

@@stewartkingsley I don’t think you can blame your procrastination alone. I’ve been going for psychiatric help for years. It seems many don’t have the time to listen and will quickly give you a diagnosis that isn’t right. In 22 years I can still count on one hand how many psychiatrists have really listened to me. Especially when they make a diagnosis and start you on meds. I think it is so important that they listen how the meds are affecting you, if they are helping at all, and if not stop or at least admit they have made a wrong diagnosis. Should you seek it, I hope you find the help you need. I have reached my limit now, and will like you, go back to my own coping methods.

@cometsmommy Жыл бұрын

I was diagnosed at age 58. this has just about ruined my life. how could they not see all of the indicators and why was my behavior always interpreted as anger or defiance. So many counselors, years of going to various doctors with random stress/anxiety symptoms. you tell people and they tell you you need to learn to focus. you explain to your boss and all they want is to get rid of you

@carenmontgomery2384 7 ай бұрын

diagnosed in my 60s- now 74. l'd was seeing someone for depression and anxiety. No medication helps at all and I struggle to find a psychiatrist that is well educated about ADHD that also takes Medicare. Current guy called my issues with wild emotions and tears as my "melodrama."

@patty2049 Ай бұрын

Same. I’m also 59 and only aware that I am adhd because of my own research online. My life is chaotic I struggle with basic tasks I was d w depression 5 years ago which was great to get on antidepressants because it helped me stop self medicating w other things long enough to research adhd.

@sandyellis6068 8 ай бұрын

This is making me cry.

@GaasubaMeskhenet 2 жыл бұрын

I was diagnosed with ADHD at 5 and it's still a struggle to get people to believe me that it's more than just depression

@jabbadabbajew6035 Ай бұрын

No one cares. They have their own worries.

@smoogie865 23 күн бұрын

@@jabbadabbajew6035 edgy

@jabbadabbajew6035 23 күн бұрын

@@smoogie865 Thanks Brah.

@PseudoPseudoDionysius 2 жыл бұрын

Recently diagnosed. My mum came in to me the other day to tell me about a segment on the BBC she saw about Adult ADHD and was telling me how much the women here reminded her of me. It felt so reassuring to hear that these things are finally getting talked about and that the people around me can understand it a bit more.

@WolfgangKaiser-if2wr 4 ай бұрын

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@halllauren8879 4 ай бұрын

@Francesca-hm1yb 4 ай бұрын

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@GordanaRadulovic-ci4jt 4 ай бұрын

Yes, Sporeville. I had the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD, and addiction... Mushrooms definitely made a huge difference to why I'm clean today.

@KathrineKassandra 4 ай бұрын

I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He's 59 & has many mental health issues plus probably CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD knows if it is common for an obsession with violence.

@Francesca-hm1yb 4 ай бұрын

Is he on Instagram?

@missnurseeri 2 жыл бұрын

I am on the waiting list to be evaluated for ADHD at age 38 (USA). My parents suspected it before me, in my adult years. My children are supportive. My son more than likely has it, I knew from Kindergarten, but I listened to the words of others and never got him tested. My daughter has asked to be evaluated as well, and I am starting to see she may be like me in her presentation, if she indeed has it. My SO said it makes a lot of sense, asked how he could help, and apologized for chastising me for things I couldn't help. I'm blessed to have a (mostly) supportive network.

@lizbeth.gonzalez 4 ай бұрын

I saw a statistic that if mom or dad has ADHD there’s 40-50% chance their kids will

@amberhashemi5044 4 ай бұрын

I was diagnosed when I was 41, after we adopting two kids with ADHD. I noticed we did a lot of the same things, and I started to put the pieces together from there. I feel lucky that I had a therapist who took me seriously and who recommended I get tested for it. Six months later, I was diagnosed with ADHD. It made me understand why I think the way I do. It's been life changing, and its helped me heal the little girl in me who always believed she wasn't smart enough, or good enough. I now know I am an intelligent, strong woman who just thinks differently, and I have grown to love myself for who I am.

@elisha158 8 ай бұрын

Getting adhd diagnosis changed my life even with it being later on. I always knew it but finally hearing it confirmed allowed me to accept it. Since diagnosis I started medication and it’s been a game changer emotionally, physically and professionally. I identified it in myself which is frustrating but in the end made me proud that I took control and eventually got the support and recognition I deserved. I just hope that those younger than me get the support earlier and teachers and practitioners are trained to identify early on in life to allow them to reach their full potential.

@Ibiereify 5 ай бұрын

Good to know that you’re successfully managing it now. Please what medications you take and what lifestyle changes have worked for you? Thanks

@amierising2188 2 жыл бұрын

I've been on the waiting list for an ADHD assessment in the UK for several years and I'm still waiting. But at least I got taken seriously and put on the waiting list. This same issue with females getting diagnosed applies to AUTISM too. Awareness really needs to be raised and assessments granted for ADULT FEMALES WWITH UNDIAGNOSED AUTISM!!

@maboulton2355 2 жыл бұрын

I was told last week, at the age of 46, there are NO SERVICES in the NHS for adult ADHD assessments. I was told to deal with it or go private. At £700+ i cant afford it.

@edenfraser Жыл бұрын

@@maboulton2355 there definitely is, did your gp tell you this? if they wont refer you see another gp, I got put on the waiting list last week

@hannah51238 Жыл бұрын

I had a friend, who's a psychologist, give me a formal test, which I scored highly on, and then take it to my GP to finally be put on a list... I'll be waiting 3 years I think

@Claire90409 Жыл бұрын

@@edenfraser I was told this, too, that there was no pathway for adult adhd on the NHS, by the mental health team at the hospital, as my GP referred me.

@francesca6266 Жыл бұрын

Please give up they won't help you i waited years and they cancelled on me and never got back. Don't believe that just because you're on the waiting list its okay it is not. My mental health deteriorated and no one gave a shit. In the end i was forced to pay for a private assessment and I'm still waiting for everyone to get their shit together to do a shared care plan with private and nhs. Don't waste more years i promise you it's not worth it don't gamble months and years like i did.

@ManyInterestsLittleTime Жыл бұрын

I kept saying it feels like my thoughts are going a million miles an hour to my gp. Diagnosed anxiety. No medication helped. I recently came clean about what I thought were personality downfalls to my psychiatrist and she said I was textbook ADHD. It's insane to think I was diagnosed at 24. Thank goodness for the awareness that's been being spread all over. Now, I feel like I can be a normal member of society, instead of a pariah.

@Audrey-on7si Жыл бұрын

Yeah! I thought that was interesting was that what I thought were aspects of my personality turned out to be ADHD symptoms

@thepolishastronaut7940 2 жыл бұрын

I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was about 10. The word "chaos" could not be any more accurate to how it feels

@shwetanavani480 2 жыл бұрын

I've always thought of myself as living in the eye of the storm. That's my home I've always felt and I've never felt safe being me.

@ellemeno0 2 жыл бұрын

I'm way too adhd-symptomatic to persist consistently enough to get a diagnosis.

@richterradio 2 жыл бұрын

I completely understand this, but this is the only thing you really need to fight for with a potentially huge change to the quality of your life. I’m on Xaggatin XL stimulants after fighting for a diagnosis for 11 months, and for medication for over a year.

@PseudoPseudoDionysius 2 жыл бұрын

The struggle to get assessed and treated is the cruelest thing. ADHD makes you put things off and struggle with boring complicated stuff, and then it’s a nightmare to figure out what you have to do and where you have to go to get assessed. Undiagnosed ADHD makes you doubt yourself and put yourself down and feel stupid, and then people turn around and tell you your ridiculous for thinking you might have it. ADHD can make waiting unbearable, and then you get put on multi-year-long waiting lists to see a psychiatrist!

@emmawelsh5336 Жыл бұрын

Absolutely the same for me.....

@keilana6 Жыл бұрын

@@emmawelsh5336 Amen to that! It's comforting & surprising to hear others who struggle with basic life skills as I do.

@jabbadabbajew6035 Ай бұрын

I bet you’re full of shit.

@Helmetron 2 жыл бұрын

I'm male, 52 and undiagnosed. Something needs to change for children, women and men. Life has always been a struggle. I have struggled with depression, anxiety and my sense of identity all my life. I have been treated for depression and anxiety for 18 years, and nothing has changed. I've had two mental breakdowns in 5 years. I'm pretty sure I will have more. I've been waiting for 3 years to get a diagnosis... Still waiting 😥

@indyd9322 Жыл бұрын

That sounds really tough. Do you have a support group? There's good online ones. For adhd, ADDA is really good. Kind people with good tips.

@Teddietonbear23 Жыл бұрын

This sounds like me 😢

@cinaferguson752 Жыл бұрын

Don’t give up.. I’m scared to tell my psychiatrist that I realize nothing has changed for me either except I realize I have every trait of this despite always believing it was my depression and anxiety combo.. we deserve the chance to be treated for this💯

@allfacts19 9 ай бұрын

Have you always been a quiet person? Find a psychiatrist or a personal doctor that will help you out.

@MajeekaRevel Жыл бұрын

It’s not that we are waiting years to be diagnosed; it’s that we never knew enough about ADHD to even consider that was the root of our problems. I was diagnosed just last year at 45, having to go private as the doctor wouldn’t refer me and when the mental health nurse referred me psychiatry told her they wouldn’t diagnose me because I didn’t have it. They had never once had any dealings with me so how they could come to that conclusion is beyond me.

@CB-dg7yi Жыл бұрын

I fully agree with what has been said before. I'm 33, diagnosed at 32. Waited 1 year for a diagnosis, everything suddently made sense after I had realized I was affected. The wait for the diagnosis was so very hard. Medication greatly helps. While the prejudice and this whole system is stacked up against women like me, I consider myself lucky to have found out. There's further issues though. I'm a teacher. In Germany, teachers are not hired as state employees if there is some medical issue for which the state believes it might hinder the candidate to work up to pension age. Depression is one of that. Had I been misdiagnosed with that, or correctly diagnosed earlier (because there is a heightened risk for depression in people with ADHD), I might have been rejected. Teacher training here (both university and practical training) is started when 18, I finished at 27. The training is one-way and highly specialized, no other employment options than becoming a teacher or trying to get some classes accepted in one of your subjects in order to shorten your way to a second degree. That's 9 full years to get to the point of being hired before your diagnosis can be used to reject you, or only give you lower-paid / non-permanent positions. Therefore, I am weirdly glad I haven't been diagnosed at 25 or earlier. It could have destroyed everything I've achieved. We need to stop treating with any psychological issue like this.

@sena-9490 Жыл бұрын

The system you talked about doesn’t make sense at all. Everybody can suffer from depression or any other mental health issues. If anything, this just makes people hesitant or even worse, avoidant to get the help they need. Society doesn’t suffer from depression or ADHD patients but from people who have traumas, personality disorders and don’t ever get diagnosed. I’m sure it must have been hard to study this extensively all these years with ADHD. Props to you!

@biess_ 10 ай бұрын

@@sena-9490 well said, hopefully the situation continues to improve.

@allfacts19 9 ай бұрын

In the US it is against the law to discriminate against someone that has adhd.

@solar0wind 4 ай бұрын

@@allfacts19What they meant is that teachers want to become Beamte in Germany, meaning state employees. They get extremely good benefits, but since they can't be fired anymore, unless they do something really bad, the state has to be careful whom to hire. If it's fair to exclude people with manageable ADHD is beyond me. There are other professions that make you be able to become a state employee, like being a soldier or a police officers I think, and they have the same requirements afaik. So it's not like someone specifically said that you can't be a teacher with ADHD, but more like you can't become a Beamter in general.

@jxavi8755 2 жыл бұрын

I just diagnosed last month and I'm male 29. If it's 'inattentive type ADHD, which is my case makes it hard for getting recognized. I'm still on shock and every single thing make me different from others in my entire life make sense now. Thb, the name have to be changed to 'executive function disorder' or 'selective attention disorder' because, I could focus on some stuff for hours and hours without even thinking about anything else.

@tititentel 2 жыл бұрын

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@Kirollus Жыл бұрын

I'm the same as you in that I can focus for hours and hours on something I enjoy. How long did you have to wait to get diagnosed?

@snatiation 8 ай бұрын

I just got diagnosed last week, after years in therapy. At first, the psychiatrist diagnosed me with Bipolar. I took the meds, and it affect me horribly. Switch therapist, got diagnosed with depression & anxiety. It took 2 years for my therapist to diagnosed me with ADHD. I feel such intense relief when I heard it, because it explained everything. We trully need more study in adult ADHD women.

@lachevious 7 ай бұрын

Same! For me, getting slapped with that bipolar crap was the hardest diagnosis to shake off, got it at 12 after some therapist talked to me for maybe 10 minutes. Still so pissed about 3 decades wasted on therapists, psychiatrists, counselors, who never once mentioned ADHD as a -possibility-. JFC.

@theniteowl5523 Жыл бұрын

I was diagnosed 2 days ago. Motherhood broke the wheels off for me too. But everything they’re saying is true. I’ve been told depression and anxiety and while I did possess some of those symptoms in and at different times of my life I knew that wasn’t it. I finally feel at peace but also sad of all the things that have came to pass due to my adhd

@nothanks1239 8 ай бұрын

I'm 36 and I mostly have ADD. I really struggled to pay attention to the teachers in school. When they were giving instructions to the class, my mind would wander, and when I finally snapped back; everyone would be working and I wouldn't have a clue what to do. It usually ended with me not having produced any work and the teacher pulling me to the front of the class to scream at me. To say this situation was stressful was an understatement. Everytime the teacher started giving instructions, I would be internally screaming at myself to stay focused. Listen to what they're saying. I would be panicking like crazy. But, it just seemed completely out of my control and my mind would inevitably wander. I hated it. Because I was shouted at every single time, my classmates started bullying me as well. I always felt like something was wrong with me. Led me to have a very deep depression and self hatred. Having a diagnosis finally allowed me to overcome depression, after suffering for years. Would just like to add, that as an adult my ADD symptoms are practically non-existent. Definitely not completely gone, but I'm more than capable of staying focused to instructions now. But, the treatment I received as a kid, carried with me into adulthood, and I hated myself regardless of the improvement. It's crazy how such mistreatment as a child, can severely affect your adult life.

@trishavijay1807 5 ай бұрын

Hey how are you? I also can't focus on anything since 15 years and can't say this to anyone

@trafficwithbester76 3 ай бұрын

My life in duplication

@Just.feral. Жыл бұрын

I just got diagnosed today and the amount of grief that came with getting it so many emotions

@annisa8863 Жыл бұрын

How long did it take? I’m going to contact my doctor this week and tell them my concerns and symptoms

@Kirollus Жыл бұрын

@@annisa8863 what did they say?

@rhondavanderbeek8006 Жыл бұрын

US here. Just diagnosed at age 60! Third day on the lowest dose of Adderall (5mg twice a day), and the quiet it produces in my head is VERY weird.

@clarelubich Жыл бұрын

I so relate to Sheelagh. I was 60 when diagnosed. I feel relief and regret all at the same time

@sisfantasto7004 2 жыл бұрын

I am autistic and have ADHD but got falsly diagnosed with depression. Because depression is female in our world full of prejudices. The antidepressants sedated my lively mind to the point that I only wanted to die. Now I am free of all drugs and happy with my beautiful and creative mind of mine. Knowledge about myself/yourself being different is key and powerfull and makes the world a better/ more colourful place.

@lampad4549 2 жыл бұрын

Depression in females is world full of prejudices yet men commit suicide more wonder what that is about.

@sisfantasto7004 2 жыл бұрын

Mel on: this is because society doesnt allow feelings in boys/men. Upbringing and education tells boys not to cry when they feel sad or have any other emotion. Men always have to be tough and show the world how strong they are. Everything is show business nowadays. But boys/men are also humans and have the same feelings as women have. Not being able to express your feelings or not having someone to talk to can lead to severe frustration and suicidal thoughts/actions. This works for both sexes. We are not that different from each other as society would let us think.

@athens31415 Жыл бұрын

@@lampad4549 Most men are reluctant to seek help for their mental health struggles. Society socializes them to be that way. Even though it obviously harms them.

@donnaberry1975 Жыл бұрын

I'm 47. I've always felt different and never listened to, for decades until now. After a year of waiting for an appointment. I have been diagnosed with ADHD. I start meds soon & although I'm afraid of change, I hope I'll finally like me & who I am.

@mschelceetv2333 Жыл бұрын

I was diagnosed a few months ago at the age of 37. I was evaluated while in school however the doctors said I was “fine” and didn’t need treatment; they saw me masking my symptoms - I was surviving not thriving. I had to fight for a diagnosis and I can’t help but wonder what if…what if I’d been treated as a child, could I have avoided some poor outcomes. I’d be lying if I said I’m not furious with the time wasted.

@M00N369 7 ай бұрын

I understand that feeling relief after officially being diagnosed. You really feel better afterwards because you are validated that you have a super power !

@karly.asshhh Жыл бұрын

I suspect I may have adhd. I was never hyperactive as a kid, I was the very well-behaved girl who did her homework on her own and was obedient to parents and teachers... if you contrast that to my "naughty and hyper active" brother, I was totally normal. He was diagnosed with ADHD when he was 6 years old, and he received the therapy he needed. They never even suspected about me. But with time, I've come to the realization that I struggle with lots of things in my daily life. I look put together from the outside because I was taught that way, but in reality, I feel my brain is so SCATTERED. I'm so forgetful I have to put on alarms for EVERYTHING (take a shower, do the dishes, feed the cats, time to eat, get out of the house, study, send a project) because If I don't put on an alarm I will forget about those things. Time passes me by so quickly when I'm distracted on things of my interest. I'm also inattentive of my my surroundings, I've walked out of the house with my clothes inside out so many times, I leave the fire on when I finish cooking, I lose everything constantly... I want to be on the moment and pay attention to the things that are happening around me, but either my head is in the clouds or I'm hyper focused on a certain thing that has all my attention. People will be talking to me, and I'm not aware, or I find it physically hard to concentrate. It is like a camera lense in automatic that is trying to focus on many things. Even when my brother is the one with the official diagnosis I'm the one that is known as the clueless of the family, they say I don't loose my head because it's attached to my body. And now that I've started to work, I find it so hard to start and finish my projects. I feel lazy, unproductive and unmotivated... but then I look around and so many people seem to achieve things so easily and I don't work like that. Ivetold my mom about this but she dismissed it saying I can't have adhd because I'm not hyperactive and I wasn't a problematic child like my brother when he was a kid. I'm questioning if I have a problem or I'm just shitty at life.

@Ilikefrogs.. Жыл бұрын

This is exactly how I've felt for years. I was recently diagnosed with inattentive type ADHD.

@keilana6 Жыл бұрын

@@Ilikefrogs.. And me also. Tough part is I'm a senior citizen trying to survive in a world I don't understand & probably will never get tested due to financial resources & confusion about insurance behavioral issues re: coverage & approval.

@houki8636 11 ай бұрын

You should look into the subtypes of ADHD. Like you, I was not the hyperactive kid in class. In fact, I’m constantly daydreaming. When I’m asked questions, I tend to miss the entire question and failed miserably in listening tests because every time I tried to listen, I still end up missing the entire conversation. I did my homework but if the homework requires me working consistently everyday, I would have trouble completing it. I will wait until the very last minute before I attempt to complete it. There was also a period where I managed to forget to take my homework home and despite being whipped everyday for my forgetfulness, I still managed to forget it the next day. My school report card said that I had trouble remembering to bring my recorder to my music classes, and that my folders were very unorganized. I was later diagnosed two years ago at the age of 35. Although my diagnosis ended up being the combined subtype, majority of my symptoms fall under the inattentive subtle. Which I guess explains why nobody ever noticed that I had ADHD. People just said I was lazy and forgetful.

@ABIOG15 10 ай бұрын

This is exactly how I feel. First, I am calm and reserved. But i don't bother to cook because if I leave the kitchen I might forget. I use the alarm most times. My brain is clouded, inability to focus....i have not been diagnosed but I strongly think it's inattentive type of Adhd after doing my research on why I lose focus, and bring forgetful often.

@nadiaparveen7710 Ай бұрын

You sound just like me 🥺 I haven't spoken to a health-care professional about it but I really want to but I'm scared

@Traditionallife587 2 жыл бұрын

I’m glad this is being hi-lighted and taken seriously… thank you for doing this. 💕

@Jazzy0316 7 күн бұрын

My therapist just mentioned this today, second time seeing her, I thought ADHD was for people who couldn’t get anything done but she pointed out my hyperactivity and hyperfocus to be signs….im blown away and also happy that my brain is understood some where

@greenness7387 Жыл бұрын

67 and just diagnosed myself. All those years of desperation, forgetting, losing things, breaking things and not being organised. 40 years of non-medicated depression and anxiety, when all the psychologists, psychiatrists, ignored my traits. One psych thought I had PTSD which I'm pretty sure I do have, but ADHD on top of that made for a very chaotic life.

@AlexiHolford Жыл бұрын

It’s heartbreaking that you have suffered your entire life with this disorder, and no understanding what was going on. I’m right behind you at 52. I am glad I was finally diagnosed. I am now learning so much about it and hope I can learn some skills to cope better.

@mooncatandberyl5372 Жыл бұрын

i relate, esp about quacks not listening.

@greenness7387 Жыл бұрын

I’ve got the clumsy bump into things as well, just gave myself a bruise walking up my own hallway - definitely selling my bike now!

@kimberleymarkova3641 Жыл бұрын

Good BBC, need more such clips of people with ADHD, urgently

@lilmem07 5 ай бұрын

All of these women's stories are so important to hear. I'm about to turn 40 and believe I have ADHD. I've been waiting a year for an assessment and I'll probably wait another year at least. But at least this kind of information is out there to help me understand, process and do what I can to help myself. Thank you to everyone involved in this 🙏❤️

@louisajones-oz9zs Жыл бұрын

My son got ignored because he wasn’t boisterous and never got referred because the schools were happy for him to sit in the corner in his own world because he wasn’t smashing up the class or being violent. When we would question the teachers as to why he wasn’t learning anything we were told it was because we were crap parents. Despite the fact the teachers including the head teacher explained they don’t know what a child with SEND issues looks like. Teachers also consider this to be an ‘educational issue’ and basically cause child neglect because they can’t comprehend that is a medical/physical condition which means should have referred to a grown up like a medical professional for assessment. My son was and is let down by the ‘school system’

@rosebibis631 5 ай бұрын

Hi dear ,looks like your dear son is autistic, go to an naturopathic doctor, GP's don't know how to treat autism, he needs to go on a wheat,gluten free diet ,sugar free diet and take black seed oil regultto kill the parasites he has got , because he of childhood jabs .he can have erythritol, stevia and other sugar substitutes (but not chemical sweeteners) .

@user-dn8xf8ew2e 9 ай бұрын

Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Watching this video at Xmas 22 I suddenly realised I had adhd. I had absolutely no idea before. I got diagnosed in Feb. For me, it is the single best thing that has happened to me.

@Lakridza67 5 ай бұрын

I have it too. I have the ADHD with hyper vigilance! I embrace it now instead of apologising for who I am!

@bluejayhunter 5 ай бұрын

I’m 35, just got diagnosed. It’s honestly a big relief

@emilys9976 Жыл бұрын

this me!!! I was diagnosed at 19. I had literally been in therapy for a year or two as a young elementary school kid...i teachers telling my parents i was things like "intelligent but very disorganized" and "intelligent but doesnt pay attention" etc. Eventually in high school i had disability accommodations for standardized tests but ADHD had NEVER!! and i mean NEVER been a consideration by any of the therapists i'd been seeing for YEARS as a child and ages 13-19. It was because i was a girl. I'm inattentive and mostly hyperactive

@trendingtvs 2 жыл бұрын

My gf has adhd it's hard to handle her sometimes but still ❤❤😊

@dainty_af Жыл бұрын

Aww. We can be a lot to handle, but also incredibly fun & funny. Curious if you've found YT channel "How to ADHD"? There's quite a few vids about managing relationships between "brains" & "hearts" (ADHDs & The Non ADHDs who love us) & just a helpful channel all around. Best wishes to you & your love.

@luisaabreu4028 9 ай бұрын

I thought I might have it since I was 14 when I found out about it. Told my therapist at the time and was completely dismissed. I was very ashamed of even thinking I could have it, like it was an excuse, but I was struggling so much and told my suspicion to the next 2 therapists I went to (btw, I changed therapists for completely unrelated issues). Also dismissed. My lastest therapist was the only one that took it seriously and directed me to pursue it further with a psychiatrist. That process was also very difficult and, honestly, humiliating. He simply didn't want to believe me. Said that it was a serious thing and people that REALLY have ADHD could barely finish school or go into university. He finally accepted to test me but was also dismissive through the entire thing. After my dad corroborated my claims and pointed things from my childhood, he had to admit it was undeniable. Got diagnosed at 21 and that's pretty early, I would say, compared to a lot of people. Just the mental stress of trying to get professionals to even consider the possibility was exhausting! I understand that they're hesitant since ADHD has gotten a lot of attention in social media but still, why is it so hard to just listen and take us seriously?

@confuciusme Жыл бұрын

This is incredibly useful to know, even if I think I only have mild ADHD.

@Miss-Placed.1 10 ай бұрын

I'm 55 and currently sitting with the DIVA form. I've struggled my entire life. I can't go on like this any more I'm absolutely exhausted.

@lisatutler-jones5992 10 ай бұрын

Same here love 😢 Just turned 55 and menopause just exacerbated everything. I cannot hide anymore!

@Debbie-ht1xx 2 жыл бұрын

I always said my mother & 1 of my kids have this but I keep getting told my daughter has anxiety & depression no matter how many times I take her to docs x

@mariadias4623 2 жыл бұрын

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@DaisyCatToo 5 күн бұрын

I've just been diagnosed at 49 - I'm 50 in a few days. My GP has been fantastic (I have multiple medical issues) and completed the assessment form with me. I'm now waiting to see a psychiatrist. I've suffered all my life and it's affected every relationship, every job. I knew I was different and had hyperactivity as a child. Better late than never...

@julierogers1155 2 жыл бұрын

Cheers and all support to these women for speaking publicly, thank you. So happy for you three that you obtained a proper diagnosis.

@badabing8884 2 жыл бұрын

I have inattentive ADHD. I was diagnosed more than 10 years ago. I didn’t like the treatment offered of amphetamine drugs. I asked how long I would need to be on them and The ADHD DR just replied “how long is a piece of string.” I didn’t like and feel comfortable with taking drugs with no end date. As I was told the drugs help with the symptoms of ADHD and does not cure it. I still struggle with ADHD at times. But manage to cope and manage it through self compassion exercises when I get stressed with coping with it.

@PseudoPseudoDionysius 2 жыл бұрын

Great to hear than your managing well. It’s so frustrating the way providers can be so black and white; either they see drugs as the only option and dismiss other ways of coping, or they see wanting to try medication as suspect and refuse to look into it. Everyone has to fit their little box.

@athens31415 Жыл бұрын

The medication works differently in those with ADHD brains than with neurotypical ones. In normal people, the stimulants will "rev" you up, but in ADHD people the stimulants "relax" their minds so they are able to accomplish basic life duties that everybody else does without thinking or effort.

@DX-d Жыл бұрын

@@athens31415 your comment has no relation to the original commenter. They don’t want to take the drug indefinitely, they didn’t ask about its effect in people with the disorder vs people without.

@sidra-sl4hs 3 ай бұрын

i wanna cry i love this video so much

@RoninMilli Жыл бұрын

Boys are also “allowed” to be more wild and hyper. Its “expected”. But when a girl does it… shes a menace.

@Trish-lamour 7 ай бұрын

Diagnosed at 42! Thanks to social media, that explained what ADHD really is.

@crystalyoung1663 Жыл бұрын

I've only just been diagnosed this year and I'm now 22. My parents tried to have me tested when I was little but the doctors wouldn't agree to it because I was well behaved in school

@ecm3030 7 ай бұрын

Self-diagnosed at 60 after a decade of being completely unable to focus on anything as I watched my 50 years of life slowly fall apart in front of my eyes. Clinically diagnosed at age 61 years. Suddenly, the playback of my entire life made sense. I cried with relief, sadness, and hope all together.

@cometsmommy 6 ай бұрын

yes, yes, yes. I found out at 58 and it all makes sense now

@mary9687 28 күн бұрын

I am a female with ADHD, diagnosed earlier this year at the age of 36. Fun fact: my symptoms were never subtle, never. I am a hot mess. But still, without directly pointing doctors in this direction nothing was done about it for decades. I finally had enough and went to a private psychologist specialized in ADHD (Germany, you normally would not pay for that yourself).

@lisatutler-jones5992 10 ай бұрын

I've been self-assessing for many years, always with the same results. However, I could not bring myself to being labeled and medicated. The stigma of this especially being a black woman, was too much to consider. Meanwhile, I struggled with EVERYTHING! Parenting, relationships, finances and just managing basic life but I had to keep it together. I couldn't look like I felt and I never shared any of it with anyone until now. I thought I was managing my life and compensating in different ways but menopause has put the breaks on my facade. I cannot continue like this. I found a PA with expertise in mental health and we begin the work next week. I'm open to medication now (at 55) more than ever before.

@candistarbuckle 18 күн бұрын

I’ve been there, still there actually, but I hope you’re ok and finding some help and relief 😅❤️🤗

@keelymac8651 8 ай бұрын

I want to try get diagnosed but the possibility of having to wait years scares me

@IfISpeakBigTrouble 2 жыл бұрын

Isn’t it incredibly hard to get an adhd diagnosis as an adult full stop? I’ve known many lads who have a lot of symptoms and it always gets parred of as depression or as an anxiety disorder

@ALADDIN22091978 2 жыл бұрын

Especially before 2016, many (maybe 90% of psychiatrists) are not trained in adult ADHD. The NHS only recognised adult ADHD in 2008 because GPs realised that children with ADHD will become adults with ADHD, they need to keep their medication etc. Gradually , maybe around the middle of last decade, adults who were not diagnosed with ADHD, were able to get a diagnosis of ADHD. I think the maximum percentage of adults with ADHD diagnosed is 7% - 8%, it might be less than that small figure. There is a postcode lottery . In some areas there are no ADHD service. the autism act means that nearly everywhere adults with autism can get a diagnosis. The waiting time for an ADHD diagnosis is 4 years - 7 years, maybe longer exasperated by Covid. If there is a service, only medication is generally provided, even for children. Only a third of children are diagnosed with ADHD. The NHS, started providing childhood diagnoses in 2000.

@cannonballlight4939 2 жыл бұрын

Yup it’s seen as a disorder only children can have which is not true.

@annaletts6182 Жыл бұрын

If it's been difficult for men, you can guarantee it's been more difficult for women.

@SN-sz7kw Жыл бұрын

It’s getting easier. You have to demonstrate lifelong symptoms - though some of the wiser docs will work with you and try prescriptions to see if you get relief. I am in Germany & it’s nearly impossible. I had to fly back to the US to get a diagnosis.

@haritc8462 Жыл бұрын

Yeah, but the media only cares about women's issues.

@jasp5097 2 жыл бұрын

It took a year and a half for an ADHD diagnosis. And it wasn't tailored to someone with undiagnosed ADHD. I had to chase up different NHS departments, at one point I had an appointment over the phone and they neglected to write in my next appointment so it just never happened. That set me back another 6 months. After I'd gotten my diagnosis I've started medication but haven't been referred on to anything like therapy or any other support networks dispite other issues. The uk mental health framework is a mess.

@rosetta-kittytarot7093 2 жыл бұрын

I’m having the same problem it so frustrating isn’t it! Glad you got there in the end. X

@KatharineOsborne 2 жыл бұрын

Yeah. I’m having difficulty accessing support for anxiety, OCD, and PTSD (I was recently told my needs were ‘too complex’ for one program so they rejected me). The NHS system for mental health is a total fractured shambles and people are being harmed by the delays ☹️

@rosetta-kittytarot7093 2 жыл бұрын

@@KatharineOsborne we have exactly the same! CPTSD, OCD. We have the same story hope you get the support you need. X

@duncanbug 2 жыл бұрын

It's like this in the US too unfortunately.

@shannondonnelly2958 Жыл бұрын

Yeah I've been having to wait more than 2 years now emailed em and all I got was an automatic reply saying it was going to be in "the multiple of years" and that everyone else is experiencing the same thing and so there's no point in me calling..

@amandastup7884 6 ай бұрын

I am currently diagnosed. But since 18 years old I have had both anxiety and depression. Not to mention I also had dyslexia. It wasn’t till my daughter was in chill and struggling that I took it seriously and when I was medicated it was a medical miracle

@XPikabikaX 7 ай бұрын

I'm a 23yr old woman and my GP refused to refer me/couldn't get anywhere with the NHS so I went to a private specialist clinic that researches ADHD earlier this year, which is where I got my diagnosis. However I've had to return to NHS to ask for treatment but cuz my diagnosis was made privately/not made by the NHS I've been waitlisted to be potentially diagnosed a second time. Something really needs to be done to scrap the stereotype, as it costed me a lot of gaslighting and people refusing to fill out forms when I was taking my assessment with the private clinic, "You can't have ADHD cuz you're lazy, you're moody and when it comes to sleep you take ages in bed" is what people told me. Even I didn't recognise I had the disorder, I believed I was a normal person who was just never good enough. The subject of me potentially having ADHD first came up when I was in secondary school, me and my school friends laughed cuz we thought it was a load of rubbish cuz I don't fit the stereotype. Second time was when my mum found an article about how it affects women, she wanted me to read it. I kept putting it off cuz I wasn't interested but when I did she asked me what I thought about the symptoms---to which I said "There weren't any symptoms in that article" and she answered back with "Yes there were, and it's as if this article is describing you", I got mad and shouted "No mum, I don't have ADHD!!" at her (Well those words of mine aged like fine wine 😂) After describing myself to friends and strangers and them telling me "Sounds like you have ADHD" was when I finally started to think "Okay, maybe I do have ADHD" and sought assessment

@Fr3Kl3zZ Жыл бұрын

I haven't yet been diagnosed but saw so many traits of myself when we suspected our youngest was. I am who I am today because of it, I am happy now but mu heart dies go out to you who have suffered, I'm now the person who always sees the glass half full. I wasn't always like that but life has though me either focus on the good times or be miserable thinking about the hard times. Sending you all good vibes and hope you get what helps you❤❤

@MrChalmers99 10 ай бұрын

Im 23 and a male currently getting assessed for ADHD through my university. the symptoms and my experiences with them all made sense when on my 3rd year university placement of my secondary school music teaching course, when i was talking to students with ADHD and i was like... 'Hmmm the things these students said sound exactly like me and what i was like in school and even now...' I went through primary, secondary school, college and 2 years of university and have been struggling constantly through each unless they are subjects i really enjoy, and even in those i sometime struggle with being unable to focus unless my brain wants me to, holding attention and hyperactivity (Pacing around, fidgeting, interrupting others, impatience, etc). I hyper-focused through all my exams in school, college and university, barely handed in essays on time. I forget to eat and drink, take risks all the time, impulse spending which i cant really control, its a nightmare lol Struggling a lot more with university essays as they are more sticking to the point rather than college ones which i passed with straight A's and were on topics of our choice. My GP thinks that because i have played musical instruments since i was 7 years old (of which i now play 9 of them due to switching from one to another lol) that the symptoms are a lot less apparent and have affected me a bit less than had i not played musical instruments. there has been plenty of neuromusical research about Music improving executive function which ADHD impacts, and its almost like music has made some of the symptoms less apparent. my GP put me on an urgent waiting list 5 weeks ago and it should be in the next couple weeks i'm getting my assessment :)

@kaylalaguna21 3 ай бұрын

I have struggled with terrible memory, impulsive behavior, identity issues, social anxiety etc. for most of my life. Now that I am beginning to see I struggle with adhd mixed with anxiety & depression (although more anxiety) I hope I can find a pace that allows me to fully realize my dreams without giving up every time things get hard. I want to live life like a ‘normal person’ which I consider everyone else except me.

@ingrid5944 8 ай бұрын

I'm a woman, I think I have ADHD and I want to go to a psychiatrist to find out if I really do have it but I'm scared of them not being considerate to what I'm saying. I've been trying to make my life work but it's simply a mess. My boss is calling my attention and he gave me a paper to sign to state that I'm aware that I'm getting late at work everyday and he talked to me about it lots of times and I'm not getting better and I'm scared of getting fired. I didn't told my mom and my dad because I don't want to feel incapable and I don't want to bother them but I already feel like a failure. I told this to my boss the other day and I cried in front of him and I said that I think I have ADHD and that I don't do it on purpose, I mean, I don't do bad things and get my work done late because I want to and he said that I could count on him but now he wants to make sure that I'm doing my job. I understand him but at the same time I feel like I suck at everything I do with my life, It's like a prison that I can't get out. I'm also in a bad relationship and I think that I'll never be able to have my own family because there's something wrong with me and Men doesn't like me. Is like I'm meant to be alone because I'm never understood by anyone. I never graduated in college, I don't like when people laugh at me for being clumsy and distracted I feel like I'm a failure and that I won't ever be able to take care of myself. I do lots of stuff to prove people from my family that I'm worthy and that I'm valuable. I'm very tired. I feel like nothing in my life works and i feel tired of doing so much but not getting nothing out of it. Even though I'm scared of a doctor judging me and not trusting what I say I know I have to do it and try and find out once and for all if I have adhd. I just want to have hope that I can make my life work.

@liadhainsmith 2 жыл бұрын

Can we repose this as - Why do our health services fail women? (Why do they fail people of colour too? Why is the research and treatment still so lacking?) The current implies women fail to advocate for themselves, that they wait.. This is not on the medical staff who help and treat their patients, they are grand. If all the data for decades was based on white men, including crash test dummies for car accidents etc. They arent the default. We cant have a default person. When you have senior staff trained 30 years ago with books from 20 years prior and teachers even older who then pass some attitudes down it is an issue. There have been massive changes to this in recent decades, and of course senior staff are able to keep up to date with changes and new information.

@Magster418 Жыл бұрын

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@caracrabtree715 Жыл бұрын

I wish I had the proper help when I was a young mother, breaking and told I had depression and anxiety. So much regret on how I wanted to raise my kids instead of running around like a lunatic always stressed out. Now they’re got own and I’m going on 50 . The pressure and stress is not there , but now a lifetime of feeling inadequate are explained. Now I’m just exhausted all the time and nothing excites me.

@ALADDIN22091978 2 жыл бұрын

I disagree. I am aged 43. I received a diagnosis of ADHD in August 2020, aged 41 in Birmingham. I have dyspraxia, ADHD and Aspergers traits. Age 9, I attended an assessment there was evidence of dyspraxia, ADHD and Aspergers traits. I had a nervous breakdown to get my ADHD detected in February 2020. I was told, my ADHD was missed because I was well behaved in school, intelligent and driven. I got a 3rd from Birmingham University aged 20. I have a postgraduate qualification in 2000. I have a poor work history. My mother was concerned about my coordination. I learned I had dyspraxia aged 23. I received a diagnosis of dyspraxia, aged 33 privately, the GP would not accept the report. I asked for an Aspergers assessment. One GP, would not allow me to have an assessment citing cost. Another GP, found a loophole closed the next year.I had a 10 minute chat with a psychiatrist he said Asperger’s traits not a problem, showing symptoms of dyspraxia and ADHD, practically useless. If I did not get diagnosed with Aspergers traits, I would not have got diagnosed with ADHD or dyspraxia. I was told I had severe anxiety, moderate depression, mood disorder. The system for neurodiversity / mental health is very poor . Being a female friend is a major factor, but also being intelligent, driven, non - white are other factors. I have no doubt less females are diagnosed with ADHD and autism. When the older two females grew up, few children ( boys and girls) were diagnosed with ADHD. I

@duncanbug 2 жыл бұрын

It's interesting reading others experiences. I got diagnosed an mine causes me to appear smart but lazy. It's hard to do anything requiring concentration and makes me like I don't care. ADHD for some makes us appear like the "so much potential" student.

@amierising2188 2 жыл бұрын

Hey there , I'm 41 and have been on the NHS waiting list for years for an ADHD assessment. I've also realised since then that I'm definately dyspraxic and probably have aspergers too. I also had a breakdown 10 years ago which affected my health and I've never recovered, I have the most bizzarre hormonal problem where my menstrual cycle makes me mentally and physically ill all month long and no one can figure out why. I'm desperate to get a diagnosis for ADHD, Dyspraxia and Autism because not having the diagnosis affects the help and support I can get from the state. I'm thinking of having a dyspraxia assessment with an OT who said she can also assess me for sensory processing disorder an reccommend to my GP if she thinks I have Aspergers that I need to be screened for it. But reading your report of how the doctors refused your diagnosis worries me, I didn't know that they could do that at all. I was flat out refused any psychological help or assessment by my GP for the following - PTSD, PMDD, Autism spectrum and dyspraxia. I had a breakdown on the phone and left that surgery. I now have a new doctor but I'm terrified of approaching him so I've been given a referral for a mental health advocate by the charity Mind. I'm praying that I will be taken seriously, I feel desperate. Do you have any advice for me as I go through this process? I'm so g,ad that you finally got your diagnosis and I hope it has helped you to live life to the full ❤

@ALADDIN22091978 2 жыл бұрын

@@amierising2188 dyspraxia is almost impossible to diagnose if not in educating, very difficult to get diagnosed on the NHS. Try genius with in . You can get an ASD ASSESSMENT on the NHS. The autism act makes adult diagnosis mandatory. Probably have to wait 1 year . Maybe find a psychiatrist who diagnoses ASD/ASD traits and ADHD ! Good luck !

@ALADDIN22091978 2 жыл бұрын

@@amierising2188 take someone with you to the ADHD assessment with you. Go through your medical records, school reports, a parent should show evidence from childhood. It can be faster to go privately, but if you are treated with medication, the GPs do not always accept the share care plan to get the NHS to pay,. If you are having an assessment for ADHD privately or on the NHS, the psychiatrist should screen for having an ASD. The psychiatrist will say you do not have an ASD, you are on the autistic spectrum but the main issues are ADHD, you have major issues caused by ASD etc . The NHS psychiatrist should talk about ADHD, ASD, ASD traits. If going privately, you should find a psychiatrist who understands ADHD and ASD. The psychiatrist will screen for anxiety, depression, my mood disorder, borderline personality disorder, bipolar disorder etc . Whether the psychiatrist treats other psychiatric conditions is another matter ? Good luck ! Dr Helen Read, online London based, maybe suitable !

@youcannotseeme Жыл бұрын

How long was the waiting list for birmingham?

@Minris1 5 ай бұрын

I was 51 when I was diagnosed. Half my life has been spent floundering. I completely suppress myself. Now I know, I’m slowly taking in all the information about ADHD and making changes. I wish someone had recognised this in me decades ago. I wonder how anyone could’ve missed it.

@michelleroselilley4637 Жыл бұрын

I've been waiting since Jan 2019 for my medical diagnosis on the NHS - I'm in law school and really struggling...

@aliciaf4744 Жыл бұрын

I've decided to go private- if you're blessed with money, I think this is the best choice.

@michelleroselilley4637 Жыл бұрын

@@aliciaf4744 If you do not have anything sincerely helpful to say, why comment at all? Did it make you feel good about yourself?

@aliciaf4744 Жыл бұрын

@@michelleroselilley4637 My intentions were sincere, but I admit that the comment isn’t written very well. Some people are genuinely unaware that the option is out there, or if they are, are hesitant about spending a large amount of money when a free diagnosis is an option. I personally think that it’s worth spending money for a speedy diagnosis, if that money is available. That is all I meant, and I apologise if my comment screamed ‘privilege blindness’.

@michelleroselilley4637 Жыл бұрын

@@aliciaf4744 No hard feelings. We are in this together 💜