Why Don't We Have Kids?

[@ZoeLoza]

I feel like it's super rude to ask someone why they don't have kids. I admire your guys strength and outlook on legacy. You guys are awesome!

[@LeggLife]

Zoe Wolff Thanks, Zoe! Most people who ask I think are genuinely curious, however there have certainly been some people who we've felt judged by because of it. #HatersGonnaHate :)

[@jessicarichter106]

My husband and I can't have kids due to infertility and I never cease to be amazed by people's rude questions. I don't think anyone should EVER ask someone why they don't have kids or when they plan to have kids. We don't know other people's situations. It is a huge trigger topic for me and sets me reeling with heartache when people ask these things. I'm simultaneously happy that you feel so open and are happy to share your story but, also sad that so many people would ask that you would feel the need too. Love your blogs and always look forward to them!

[@LeggLife]

Hi Jessica! Thanks for commenting :) We really do want these vlogs to be a place where we can authentically share our life with all of you, and the reality is, this subject is a big part of our life. So, we felt like it made sense to share it. Also, we think that having open and honest conversations about things like this can help remove the stigma around them.

[@pauletteb6393]

So well said, Jessica! I am amazed at the rudeness of the question as we were never able to have children, either. At 56, it still sometimes hurts.

[@TBianchi]

I realize this is a year late, but I want to thank you for sharing your comment. When I've asked people, "do you plan to have kids?" it was never meant to be malicious or hurtful, but I never really stopped to think that someone could be in this situation. Of course, I realize that there are people who are unable to have children, but I never thought about how my question could trigger hurtful, negative emotions, and I feel really horrible about that. So, on behalf of the people who have been ignorant and insensitive (like myself), I'm so sorry and I will do better. I wish you all many blessings in life.

[@pauletteb6393]

@@TBianchi Blessings to you as well, Tashina!

[@karenkurby]

When I was 16 I was diagnosed with PCOS and told I would probably never have kids. Fast forward to 36 when having a miscarriage was the first time I found out I could get pregnant. At 37 I have my first daughter and at 42 my second. My brothers are both childless and they see my kids as their legacy. Your gift will be what you bring to those kids who cross your path for whatever length of time that may be.

[@AngiDas]

I’ve been watching a long time. I just watched your 7 year KZbin anniversary and you mentioned this video. I think leaving a legacy of kindness and helping many children is a pretty awesome path to create. I wish more people did that.

[@leisurelambie]

“Redefining what legacy looks like...” Love it! Your openness and honesty will surely be an encouragement and blessing to others.

[@LeggLife]

Thank you so much! :)

[@jennifermedrano7108]

I think this channel is a part of your legacy. You bring so much joy to me and many others, I’m sure. You’re both very sweet people and I enjoy watching the both of you ☺️.

[@Tippi08]

You both are a rare breed of WONDERFUL. So interesting how you guys felt like adopting felt "confusing" for you and it felt like there was some weight that made you pause. It didn't feel right, even when certain opportunities presented themselves. That is EXACTLY how Andres and I have been feeling lately. We go back and forth, don't have clarity and don't really have a strong "YES" about moving forward with having our own kids. And I feel like, if it's not a hell yes, then we should pause and wait and see. It's so cathartic to hear from another couple who is taking the less traditional route when it comes to the BIG decision of raising a child or not. I really like the idea of thinking about how I can leave a legacy. I have 3 nieces, and I really do want to be someone who can give them guidance and unconditional love and acceptance. Thanks for posting this video. You both are wonderful and I resonate so deeply with the values and perspective that you both share on Life. So glad we crossed paths. Grateful for you both. Blessings to you both.

[@Tippi08]

Also, T-25 days til we're in Alaska! Can't wait! :p

[@LeggLife]

The Unconventional Indian We love hearing about how you and Andres are navigating this journey as well. We can't wait to see you guys next month, we'll probably talk about this over dinner!

[@Tippi08]

YES, would love to chat more about this.

[@NerdsTravels]

I think when people ask me this question I’m just going to send them your video. This is so clear and articulate about a difficult, and extremely personal topic (that frankly, people really shouldn’t be asking about anyway).

[@LeggLife]

Thanks so much for watching :) We've sent people to this video MANY times when they ask about it. It's been nice to not have to answer that question over and over now that we can just send them here.

[@Debbieolson52]

I can totally relate to the two of you. I have been married for 15 years and we do not have any kids. Long story short my doctor had told me that basically I had an empty pumpkin......because nothing would stick to my walls.......and if I did carry it could risk my life or the babies life......I’m crying as I watch this because I am reliving this......god bless you both and sending you virtual hugs and prayers from Debbie in Illinois.

[@LeggLife]

Hi Debbie! Thank you for watching this part of our story and thank you for sharing part of yours with us as well :)

[@mercury629]

Your channel is a hidden gem to me. I'm shocked that your number of subscribers is not ten fold. You two are so real and your videos are so pure. Thank you for sharing your story.

[@miaportrie450]

Thank you both so much for sharing your story! My husband and I are not parents and I always feel the need to explain the "why". There is no huge reason , other than it's never been in my heart to become Mother.I came across your channel to help us plan our FIRST Disney cruise to celebrate my big 4 0. You both have been the biggest help in this process. The amount of info you have shared is PRICELESS to a first time cruise taker. Your legacy is not just with family but with a couple of Disney lovers who you have educated with a wealth of knowledge onto! Thank you both🤗

[@ironwindow01]

This is maybe the second or 3rd video of y'all's I've seen. Your videos just came up randomly while I was watching other Disney cruise videos. Y'all touched my heart today. You are two truly genuine people. I'm going to go watch more Legglife videos now.

[@stargazerprincess5394]

Thanks for making me cry. LOL I have been unable to have children myself. However, this has made me available to help in my 12 nieces and nephews lives, when they have needed a "safe place" or when they've needed more one on one direction. Many have lived with us over the years. We've been able to help financially as well, whether it be for their education, or just because they wanted something special. In addition, we did foster parenting in Washington State for a few years. That, however, became too difficult with full time jobs, and Seattle commuting, and it was a revolving door, with heart strings attached. My brother passed away a few years ago, leaving 2 grown boys and a little girl behind. We were able to jump in and offer support, love, attention, time all on them (and we still do). Even at 47 yrs old, people are still hurtful and say hurtful things. I've decided when they say "when are you guys going to have kid?" or "why don't you guys have kids?" I reply "well, it's not for lack of trying!" and I give them a wink! Even though I've mourned the fact I will never have children, and feel blessed now that my "legacy" if you will, will live on in my "other kids," it still hurts. I read an article that said the childless aunt is the most undervalued role in the family. However, when I see the faces of my nieces and nephews, from the 6 month old, all the way up to the 26 yr old, my heart is full and I know I am valued! Love you guys~

[@MillerfyMe]

I just started subscribing to your channel because we’re going on our first Disney cruise next summer (2020)! But I so appreciate your heart and attitude towards others. The image of God you both reflect is so great and how you see the world is super encouraging. Thanks for being vulnerable and real. It makes watching your adventures and getting travel tips even better, knowing the hearts behind your stories.

[@LeggLife]

This comment means the world to us! Thanks so much!

[@jefleming799]

You guys have helped me see my own situation in a new light and it just gave me so much hope! I just got married a month ago (give or take a few days) and I am in a similar situation where we are not sure that I'll ever be able to carry our children myself. My husband's heart's greatest desire is to have children of his own and I want nothing more than to give him that! I am the director of student ministries at the church I work at, and the legacy piece of this video that you shared just helped me see my job and my position in my students lives in such a different light. I know my situation is different than yours, but I am thankful to know that there are others who are in a similar boat. Y'all are so special and I am so thankful that I found your channel! Thank you so much for sharing this message!

[@LeggLife]

Jordan Fleming Jordan, I can't begin to let you know how encouraged we are by your comment. The one piece of advice we'd give you and your husband about this is to make sure you're communicating honestly about this. We've shared lots of talks and tears with each other about this, but it's allowed us to grow closer together through a confusing process. Be on each other's team, fight for unity together, and know that Gods plans for you and your husband are good, no matter what "family" looks like for you.

[@brendaloyd907]

Not trying to make fun but I immediately thought Mrs. incredible. I love watching y’all and how real y’all are. Love and prayers

[@barbaraegan9939]

I have a saying ... it’s not the house that you live in. It’s not the type of car you drive. It’s the difference you make in the life of a child. I went through infertility treatments all throughout my 30s. My husband has 10 brothers and sisters, so we have 45 nieces/nephews and 65+ great n/n. So we always were the aunt and uncle that took the kids to Disney, on trips, and had them stay over for New Year’s Eve parties. Most of the kids are now in their 20s and still want to spend time with us. We just retired and moved to Florida (to be close to Disney) from PA and they all can’t wait to come visit us here. So keep doing what you are doing, you make a bigger impact in your niece and nephews lives than you realize. Love your blogs. (And we just went to Disney Springs for dinner tonight, loved it). Keep enjoying your lives and sharing it with us.

[@LeggLife]

Thanks so much for such a beautiful comment! :)

[@valeriewedler1900]

Thank you for this video. I was just watching the 20 questions video. Decided to come and watch this one. My husband and I will likely never have kids. We are blessed with 8 nephews and 3 more nieces or nephews coming this year. We have tried to always invest in their lives. When I finally accepted God into my life in 2012, that is when my life changed. It wasn’t about my infertility anymore. It’s accepting His will for my life. Days like today where I get sad about not having kids I have to remember how blessed I am. My husband and I also invest our time with nursery at our church. Some times it’s hard being in there with tons of kids but I know we are doing good. Especially allowing the parents to hear the sermon to help raise their kids. Thank you for being so open and honest. It can be hard. I have loved watching your videos the last few months. 💜

[@nalowaiian]

This video made me cry, part of me wishes you both to have children, but the major part of me cries because you are both the most kindest, gentle, beautiful people on this planet. I love you both and wish you folks blessings upon blessings...more than your hearts could ever desire❤❤❤

[@disneymother801]

I so understand what you are saying. Leaving it in Gods hands is what we were meant to do. I have understood that more and more in my life. I adopted a baby girl when she was 6 months old. And she has Fasd. God wanted her to be my daughter. I just did not see it before the adoption. And then 10 years later I got pregnant. Who knew. God always had a plan. ♥️

[@morganvandermeer9268]

Just found your channel! I am going out on a limb, but can see Christ shine through you both in your videos! Thank you for bringing fun and light to youtube!

[@nancyclements5694]

I have just recently started watching some of your videos. I found you through Our Zroll! This is the 4th video I have seen of yours (and of course, I have seen you in a lot of theirs). I am shocked to know that people would ask such a personal question. That being said, the bravery it takes to open up about something that is not super easy to talk about, makes me admire you guys so much. I really enjoy watching your stuff so far and look forward to watching many more of your videos!

[@n2jazzbk797]

I just happened upon this video and I love your candid response to folks who ask this question. It's a very personal question and my hats off to you as you describe your definition of legacy. You never know what God has in store for your future. You mentioned being confused as to what you should or shouldn't do. No worries. Just continue to be open to being a blessing and to be blessed! Remember, God is not the author of confusion. 🤗

[@pauletteb6393]

We went through that too but we didn't feel called to adopt. Most of my nieces and nephews were adopted. Never being a parent, I was never keen on the idea of being a foster parent, either. I believe our personal legacy does not have to extend to humans. We have, however, been able to help people by opening up our home to give them a place to live for several months. I think our legacy will end up being our love of animals, especially cats. (I write this as our two cats are cuddled up between my legs on the recliner.)

[@pamelap8462]

When you said....being selfless rather than selfish. Felt that in my soul. God is blessing y'all on other ways. Also, my nephew and his wife (she could not give birth herself but raised his children from small to 17 and 22) they adopted a baby last year. They are both in their 40s. God had a plan and knew this baby would need AMAZING parents. Perfect timing. 💛🙏

[@npsfamilytravel]

This is such an important and touching testimony. Thank you for sharing. Purpose is so important, and I love this reminder and this approach.

[@ariellerivera4465]

I want to thank you so much for being so open about your decision. While it is not something anyone should have to explain themselves for, it relates very much to my family. My husband and I made the decision to not biologically have children, so we chose to adopt our one and only son. About a year ago, we found out after a lengthy stay at a children's hospital, our son had been suffering from EDS. Once we did research we realized he has been suffering from complication connected to EDS for many years. It is not something many people are open to talk about. I applaud you for your strength it takes every day to live with EDS and to help care for someone who has EDS. I know from our little one how hard just walking around the house can be some days from sore joints, at times even needing to be carried. Or the constant stomach aches from the lack of connective tissue around the organs which no child should have to live with. After a hard day, my little one asks to snuggle up on the couch and watch Disney Cruise videos together. Videos like yours, which I thank for being family friendly, help on rough days. Just like our small family, at the end of the day, family is all the matters and you have found your family with each other. I wish you all the best and thank you for the videos.

[@LeggLife]

Thank you for such a beautiful comment! This absolutely meant the world to us.

[@deanacantrell1612]

I just had this video pop up for me. You 2 would make great parents & an even more awesome aunt & uncle! I get the whole loss part.. My daughter being severely disabled & being my only child I've missed out on what its like to be a parent of a typical child. I will never have grandkids or see her get married. And the worry of who will care for her if I go before her & not having kids or grandkids to be with as I get older. I tried to raise my cousins child from 4yrs old till she was almost 9. We just never clicked & couldn't become close. My daughter is my 1 & only. But you guys are leaving a great legacy in so many ways. Im happy I found your channel awhile ago.

[@beckybilby5464]

I was born with a connective tissue disorder too - Mine is Loeys-Dietz. I found out at age 33. It has been life changing - 4 heart attacks later and MANY other odd things have fallen into place as I’ve learned about this condition. I totally understand. I had three sons biologically (as we didn’t know then) and one of them did include an arterial dissection during birth - what they didn’t want to happen. God is good - but I totally get this. Just wanted you to know you weren’t alone!!!

[@vickiekroll3057]

I watched this on 6-28-24! I just love you guys! You are both so great together. You always make my day brighter! I am coming to Anchorage in a couple of weeks and would love to bump into y'all somewhere! That would make my day!

[@rhondaarias606]

This just popped up on my feed.....I am sorry that there are so many nosey people. You both have a sweet spirit and I hope these inquiries arent' painful to you. This was a great post. Thank you both for being willing to be whatever God wants you to be and your availabilty to be a blessing to others.

[@LeggLife]

Nope, not painful at all. They give us the opportunity to share this story with more people :)

[@jenjens33]

All I have to say is, wow...I just found you guys thru cruise videos and have been bingeing...and this video speaks to me and i was si emotional watching. I have diabetes and complications from it so its looking like less of a chance for my husband and I. I loved how you talked about different ways of legacy and made me feel a little glimmer of hope and hope that there are other peopld out there that can talk about it like you did and thats its ok to be emotional yet strong and I'm just feeling connected to you guys so thank you so much for thid video! ❤

[@LeggLife]

We’re so glad you found us, and this video! This has been a difficult topic for us, but we really have found hope in the middle of it. Thank you for sharing part of your story with us :)

[@beanie6366]

You too are amazingly grateful and caring people. Thank you for being so open.

[@stephpavone]

Wow guys, thanks for your honesty. I teared up a little. I love that you addressed the question of what can legacy look like without kids. It’s something I ponder as the idea of should i/would i/could i be a mom full time , forever starts to float around in my head as a new year approaches and 3,5 year journaling and private goal setting comes into play. Great points and advice, as always. So happy i discovered your channel. 😎💓👍🏻

[@rorychristensen4246]

awesome video.. thank you for putting yourself out there. i realize this is an older video. i recently found your channel and catching up.. i just watched your love story video... simply the best..

[@BelowFreezingBeauty]

You guys have such great perspective. No doubt you would make great parents, but that's not the only way to have a lasting impact on the world, and you're clearly doing that. Thanks for sharing your story.

[@LeggLife]

You're welcome! Thanks so much for commenting and for your encouraging words :)

[@melaniefontaine5389]

Thank you for this Vlog. We don't have kids either and I knew I did not want kids early on. I'm 40 now and do not regret the decision. We have a wonderful godson and all of our friends have kids that we love and that was it for me. I just never felt like having kids of my own. Thank you for sharing.

[@LeggLife]

You're welcome! Thanks for sharing part of your story with us as well.

[@Jilody13]

People don’t realize what a personal question it is to ask why a couple doesn’t have kids. Thank you for sharing your story!

[@LeggLife]

You're welcome :) Thanks for listening.

[@themes2travel]

Thank you so much for all your openness It is awesome how God is using you to leave a legacy God's timing is revealing your journey with kids So thankful for your obedience to following Gods guidance

[@mustions]

Thank you for sharing your story. It can be really hard when your story doesn’t turn out the way you think you should. My husband and I have dealt with that a lot. I wish I could reach through the computer and hung you both. Thank you for faith and commitment to God and sharing it. It means a lot-especially because I know from experience how hard it can be to talk about it and to walk through it.

[@mtlee43]

I just discovered you two (and just subscribed) and am really enjoying your videos. This video is amazing. You will help a lot of people by telling your truth. Thank you. Sometimes, life doesn't look like what we had planned (mine sure didn't). But, we can still love. That's what I hear you saying. So glad I found you!

[@LeggLife]

Thank you so much!

[@vintagegirlsforever]

You two are amazing and also an Auntie Sherrie and Uncle Papa Bear to so many ! Including your Extended Families over here 😘 Yes even all of us in your social media circle and esp to your soon to be..Alaskan neighbors as well 😍🤩😍😍😍😍 Like Grandma use to say *Ones legacy is left by the footprints they leave on the world through all the kindness they show to "all" ... *Not just children or those who don't need us.. but to all the people we help along the way.. Every walk of life ..and in the hearts of those who love you ! Sharing ones riches doesn't really mean be rich and give money .. its giving all the love and time even when we feel we have nothing left to give.. Somehow in those moments and in those situations we touch lives and we change hearts.. and with that kind of love and deep compassion for others .. that is where legacy is born. She gave us everything when she had nothing material to give. And from that.. who could ask for more..? The world is a better place because of legacies like that..... You two give so freely so much of your time to help others in so many ways.. Your kindness doesn't go unnoticed.. and God has a beautiful plan for you two..Just you wait and see... keep doing what your doing.. Your light is reaching far more people than you could ever imagine. You inspire so many every single day.. and I for one could not be prouder. Just knw that you're a blessing to so very many.. 💕 And we appreciate everything you share..here as well. Can't wait for this 2020 to wrap so we can be Alaska Bound ! Good things are on the Horizon my friends !

[@Jbugsmomma01]

I was conflicted for a long time in if someone could have kids why wouldn't they. Now at one time I was told if I were to have kids chances were high that me and or the baby wouldn't make it. Technology changed and while still considered risky I got pregnant. All went well other than a 4 day labor followed my an emergency c-section. Anyway, I thought if I can do it... well you know...then my niece hit the age of 24 and people began all the questions. She said," I don't want kids!" Then one day I asked why. Your healthy and financially okay. She said," I wanna be able to wake up when I want,leave to go somewhere when I want,eat what and when I want and not have to wait on a kid whining and crying about everything." I said oh ooookay. She said it may sound selfish but thats where I'm at and you know I respected her honesty. She is a very strong willed,stubborn and super intelligent woman. It made me realize that there is no one right answer. People don't and choose not to for many reasons and who am I to tell them they are right or wrong,?! Sorry so long but just wanted to share a little piece of my reality and my learning. God bless! You are a wonderful power couple and your legacy will be a great one!

[@christiengelberg444]

I love your spirit! You are right, God has a plan for all of us. ...my daughter (who is 10 and wise beyond her years) asked if my life turned out the way I thought. I told her career wise, yes. I always knew I would be in the medical profession. (I’m a trauma nurse.) But personally, my life is way different. I thought I would be married, living in Wisconsin, in a large house with 6 kids, 5 cats and 2 dogs. Instead, I’m divorced, single mom with one kid, living in a small condo with 2 cats. And, I wouldn’t change a thing!

[@jeannegiardino4722]

We have 2 adopted daughters from Asia. We followed the best route for us. Keep leaving your beautiful legacy. You are both incredibly blessed!

[@LeggLife]

Thank you so much :)

[@Momof4boys]

My grandma always said that what you don't have to bring you joy won't vex you either. Kids are great but without them doesn't mean your life doesn't have meaning. My sister said when I got married well you don't even know if you can have kids. I told her well that's not the entire reason we got married. We got married to do life together and I could not imagine doing life without him. I am pregnant with my 4th boy and I am 43 but if I didn't have kids it would have been fine. I am 100% blessed with my kids don't get me wrong but it is sometimes a struggle. It's not all rainbows and butterflies.

[@zelmaa5736]

This was beautiful to listen to. I have never really been able to explain myself without simply sounding selfish. I have never had a maternal instinct to have my own children and I very much like my own time when I am not working. However... I am in my 35th year of teaching elementary children and I dearly love each group of kids who come through my classroom. I regularly have students and parents telling me how special I am and what a difference I have made in their lives, however I have never thought of this as leaving a "legacy". I really like the sound of that. Thank you for adding a boost to my life when it is truly needed. Love and hugs.

[@LeggLife]

Thanks so much for watching and for your great comment!

[@misschris4395]

I watched this forever ago... but never commented on it... not because I didn’t care, but because you guys are so open and honest about this, and I love you guys all that much more!! ❤️❤️

[@magscar2607]

Sorry it was such a long flight - but, this was fun! Thanks for taking us along!💕

[@DanielJohnson-by2tr]

That is exactly what happened to us... We had just never had kids. In our early 40's a situation found us and we were introduced to a young couple out of the blue that were pregnant and were unable to care for the child. We adopted our daughter at birth and our now in our 9th year of being parents. Trust in Gods timing. We know that we were meant to be her parents.

[@rachelconnelly2314]

I love this! This is how I feel and I am glad that you have shared this. I feel like I have validation of my life choices thank you so much

[@madiantin]

Woah! Your skin is super stretchy!! That was cool! Major kudos to you for listening to the Spirit and doing what God wanted you to do, not what you wanted to do. What a lovely couple you are.

[@LeggLife]

Thank you so much for watching :)

[@jessicacourtney9429]

I was married at 19 and by 26 had 4 kids. Im glad I did it like that but now Im 42 and by 45 all my kids will be adults. Ive had to transition to not being needed the same. Idk if it is because my brother and his wife dealt with fertility issues I was unconsciously aware not to ask when someone is planning on having a baby but never thought to ask anyone that especially couples who didn't have children. My brother and his wife did end up in their early 40's having a child and Im not going to lie idk the right word but like a jealousy at time that they have that purpose of still being needed so much into their 50's and Im like wow what is going to be my purpose bc I don't expect or put any kind of pressure on my kids for grandbabies bc maybe that's not their path in life. Thank you for sharing..I do believe God has a plan and we will see it when we are suppose too. Talking about legacy my brother was my dad's only son and he had a girl so the last name stops with my brother perhaps but I'm with you legacy can be in different ways and one day we will be able to look back and finally see it❤

[@RealWorldTravelers]

Ahh Sherri! I teared up a little bit when you talked about feeling loss. Hugging you from Japan. But this is really awesome & definitely an amazing testimony to see your outlook on legacy. I also think you're beginning to establish a great legacy here on KZbin. I'll be praying for you guys that you'll find more ways to invest in others!

[@LeggLife]

Thanks so much! We always appreciate the comments you leave.

[@graciec.9803]

I have EDS and Endo and getting pregnant would kill me. I love kids. I have taught at camps and high schools. I have a ton of actual nieces and nephews and also so many children that are near and dear to me. I figured we would foster to adopt but it's never been right. Even before diagnosis I never felt the urge to be pregnant so I have no mourning others do. What I think I would miss is being the person who friends can call at 3am because their spouse is deployed and their youngest needs to go to the ER. When there is sickness in a friend's house and I'm the only one without a kid under 2, I know it needs to be me taking the soup and I'm glad to do it :-D I don't have my own kids but I've got 18 that call me Aunt or a pet name and my heart is bursting!

[@BallroomDancer28]

I've known you all my life and I had no idea! Adam, you are amazing and if you aren't supposed to have kids, there is probably a good reason for it. like you and Sherri said, you are leaving a different sort of legacy and you are getting to do things that people dream about doing. You guys can be an Aunt and Uncle to my kids; even if they are your 2nd cousins.

[@LeggLife]

Thanks, McCall! We really do appreciate that!

[@paulrogers8176]

Thank you for being vulnerable and investing in the lives of kids.

[@LeggLife]

It's so important to invest in the next generation!

[@allisonp7041]

I am always surprised when someone asks me why my husband and I don't have children. I'm always polite in response, because I get they don't see it that way. Thank you for sharing your story. Like so many others, I found you thru cruise videos, but I am really enjoying all your videos.

[@LeggLife]

Thank you :)

[@sherrynestyak433]

You are absolutely right about everything you said. I waited until I was 38 to try to have kids and I thought I was perfectly healthy. I never understood what it meant to have a miscarriage or all the other heath problems that pop up that you would never imagine when you first start out. Honestly there is a lot of pain, suffering and lack of sleep(yes that's important because you need sleep to function properly). Sometimes rejection is God's protection! I don't know you guys but I am proud of the way you've taken on this topic. It will definitely help a LOT of people! If you do decide to go the surrogacy route you will make excellent parents! Anything can happen in life!

[@LeggLife]

Hi Sherry! Thanks so much for your comment! We appreciate you taking the time to watch our video :) We do hope this video helps people think differently about this issue and what legacy looks like.

[@marciagrossman5262]

You’ve been through a lot! Please take care of yourselfs! Love you both

[@poppy7634]

Thank you for explaining why you chose not to procreate with such grace. I had a neighbor accuse me and my husband of being selfish because we chose not to have kids (although we changed our minds after 6 yrs of marriage)! I was stunned and speechless. No sure why she felt so threatened or fearful or whatever... that I was childless at the time.

[@juliepeterson7194]

You two are absoultly the best. You have a full life of joy and happiness. God's blessings on you always!!

[@LeggLife]

Hi Julie! Thank you so much :)

[@kimluarks2418]

When my husband and I were engaged 3.5-4 years ago, we knew I wouldn't be able to get pregnant naturally due to a severe infection about 15 years ago, I only had one working tube.... I am 42 & hubby is 37 now, I have a 22 year old son and he has a 16 year old daughter so we were ok not pursuing IVF. We knew adoption was possible if we wanted to later.... in January of this year we found out that we are expecting a beautiful baby boy late this summer!!!!! Oh I also was diagnosed with pulmonary hypertension and stage 4 cardiac failure in 2010. My echo in 2014 showed zero signs of failure and the ph is non existent... a ph patient is not supposed to get pregnant... I say all this to say god is good and will use us in ways we never expected! Keep doing you and loving all the kids... I still wonder if I'm too old to be a new mom but I guess god knows best!

[@LeggLife]

Thanks so much for sharing part of your story with us!

[@LS_26]

I know this video is a few years old, but I just discovered you guys! Thank you so much for making this video....I've spent my entire 20s and 30s explaining why we don't have kids....I'm in my 40s now and people still ask! Having kids is a choice....not "the next step"....I've never asked anyone why they have kids?!?!?

[@LeggLife]

Thank you! We always love meeting others who have a similar story and journey. We appreciate you watching this :)

[@TheLeightyLife]

I stinking love you guys! God will use you - you're His vessel! It's so hard though to wait sometimes to see what He's gonna do, but I am SOO encouraged by your patience and your dedication to waiting on His lead! I could see you guys heading some youth groups, etc. That's the generation we need to reach now! We just got back from a week at Youth Camp ..it was awesome! You'll leave a legacy! God's using you! ;)

[@LeggLife]

Thank you, Cara! We appreciate you and your words so much!

[@cherisfloridalife]

Thank you for sharing your personal story! I have recently found you on KZbin! You two so real!

[@AgzStonez]

You are such wonderful people. Thank you for sharing. I am very happy I have found you :) Loads of love from Austria

[@LeggLife]

Thank you :)

[@mddikeman]

My wife and I have enjoyed watching your Disney Cruise videos! We both really enjoy cruising. Small world, my wife has Ehlers-Danlos, too. We both just looked at each other at the same time with the same look on our faces.

[@LeggLife]

Wow! We don't meet many people with EDS! Glad to know there are other Disney Cruise fans out there who also have EDS :)

[@PammiePlusParks]

We don't have kids either -- Mark and I met when I was 40. I had cervical cancer when I was 19 - 20 that would complicate maintaining a pregnancy. Mark has epilepsy which is hereditary. Also -- I am obese ... and older... both things that would further jeapordize my health and the health of an unborn child. We decided not to have children. Some folks at our church feel that we are not having enough faith in God to let His will happen -- but I make sure to point out that God gave us good sense to do the right thing. For instance, we have the good sense not to stand in the middle of a busy, unlit highway at 2 am wearing all black. You'd get killed right? Well, we just apply that same good sense to the prospect of having children -- realizing we would be passing on a serious hereditary condition and risking my life as well. For some couples, not having children is the right thing to do -- its a sacrifice and it isn't easy but it is the right thing to do. And .... as you said -- there are other ways to invest in children and provide a better world -- there are lots of ways to help others in ways we could not do if we had kids.

[@LeggLife]

Yes, we've found that the people we get the most pushback from about not having kids are from the church as well. How sad is that!

[@ldenisecantu3566]

Thank you so much for sharing your story. You two are very brave, and very wise to have thought everything through so completely, and to follow your instincts with what feels right for you👍

[@schneig77]

Recently discovered you guys looking for Disney cruise videos. I really like you guys and your realness and joy.

[@LeggLife]

Thanks so much! That means a lot to us :)

[@Wils225]

What inspiring transparency and honesty. Tremendous courage to make a video like this, thanks for your vulnerability.

[@LeggLife]

Thanks for watching! Glad we finally got 1 member of the Wilson fam as a viewer! ;)

[@Wils225]

You will have both once liz watches!! Haha

[@brandoncruztreihart4668]

Uncle Papa Bear and Aunt Sherry.. you are both Awesome people!!!

[@2hootsonaboat934]

This was a beautiful, honest and inspiring video. You guys are great! Thanks for sharing, good luck and God Bless you both!

[@LeggLife]

Awww, thank you! We're always encouraged by comments like this :)

[@erinkathleen8086]

Thank you for this video, I've been made to feel like something would be missing from my life if I didn't have children. I have a genetic cancer that is 76% likely to be passed onto a child so I knew early in life that I didn't want to bring a child into the world who would probably have this same disease. I became a teacher and now my legacy will be hundreds of children instead of one or two.

[@LeggLife]

Erin, thanks for your comment and for sharing part of your story with us!

[@trishawymore9060]

Thanks for this video. We didn't have kids either and it can be very hard for people to understand and emotional to watch families around us and think about what our future will be like. Thanks for helping us to feel like we are not abnormal. LOL

[@LeggLife]

Ha! We totally understand that "abnormal" feeling! Thanks fo much for taking the time to watch this video, it means a lot to us :)

[@brianpollard3075]

Though you didn't have to tell the world, this is an amazing video. I love the honesty and rawness of the conversation. Your love for each other, God and other humans shines bright in this video!

[@LeggLife]

Thanks so much! That really means a lot to us to hear.

[@thatGOODLIFEfamily]

Great video! Love hearing you guys share your heart and faith. New subscriber. I'm sure my family will enjoy watching with me. Looks like you have a great time. I think making weekly videos is the highlight of our family fun each week!

[@LeggLife]

Loved chatting with you on Facebook!

[@thatGOODLIFEfamily]

Likewise my friend!

[@amberrossyion682]

This is a beautiful way to look at things.

[@LeggLife]

Thank you so much :)

[@ldeez1682]

Just think you 2 are the most beautiful hearted couple . God bless you in all that you do

[@TNprincess87]

I turned 30 in May, and I have to say.. I'm right there with you guys! All of my friends from high school/college are married with 1-2+ kids by now, and sometimes I feel like my life-path has somehow fallen "short" of the milestones I "should" be on, or should have surpassed, by now. Even as a child, my Mom could *never* get me to play with baby dolls of any sort.. I've just never felt a "maternal instinct" towards anything, besides animals. I hear babies cry, or kids screaming, and it's like I can *literally* feel my ovaries shriveling up like raisins inside of me! LOL It's ironic, because I'm a K-12 teacher by profession, but currently working with 4-5 years olds in a Pre-K environment. It's not that I don't "like" kids, it's just that my priorities and goals in life do not include ever having my own. And, quite frankly, being tasked with practically raising 20+ OTHER people's children, 8 hours a day, 5 days a week, is exhausting! If I were to have my own children on top of that, I feel like my mental/physical/emotional resources would be unevenly allotted.

[@LeggLife]

Thanks so much for sharing your story! We're sorry that you feel like your path has fallen short because of all of the "should's" you mentioned. Hoping that you see the legacy and impact that you're having on all of the kids in your life through your work. What an amazing opportunity to shape the next generation!

[@TNprincess87]

Thanks :) I come from a long line of "professional educators", and I *still* don't know how my Dad managed to teach 30 years of 5th grade, while flawlessly juggling his responsibilities to care for me, and sustain a healthy marriage! I suppose that's *why* I'm an ONLY child though! Haha!

[@emsterbeauty3267]

You know I got married going on 2 years ago this May to Mitch and we always get asked why we dont have kids or when will we have kids. But for me it's like why do we need to rush into having kids if we aren't sure we are ready or even want kids? Like we think kids are cool and we like them but we are just kinda in a place of if it happens it happens. If not that's okay. To my knowledge I dont have anything going on with my own body and neither does Mitch. We just want to enjoy loving on each other and living life:) I admire you both for sharing your personal story on here. Since the day I met you both I wondered why you didnt have kids but only because i thought wow this couple is so fun and genuine and just awesome! I personally do not like to ask people because I get worried I may trigger them, be annoying, make them feel pressure, uncomfortable, etc. Which is never my intentions. Side note. I remember when I got engaged to Mitch and that was the first question that was asked and we hadn't even set a date yet lol

[@arichsnit]

So loving your outlook on leaving a legacy. You guys make me think. Uplifting actually.

[@LeggLife]

Thank you!

[@sarahharris330]

thank you for sharing something so personal.

[@LeggLife]

You're welcome :) Thanks for watching.

[@EmB856]

Thank you for sharing your story! From my experience there's a lot of pressure to have children, especially in Christian circles. I think it's important for children to have several close adult role models in their lives, and being there for your nieces and nephews is a real legacy.

[@LeggLife]

Ami Hi, Ami! Totally agree that the pressure to have kids in Christian circles is strong. We've rarely felt judged because of our situation, however when we have, it's always been by people who share our faith. That's been difficult for sure. Sometimes the deepest wounds come from the places you don't expect them.

[@jizheng1224]

I have one child and had miscarriage with my second. Ever since the miscarriage I’ve been having trouble getting pregnant. I had 2 surgeries to remove fibroid in my uterus. Now that my first child is almost 5, I keep hearing people asking “When are you gonna have another one??” I am sure that question is not going away anytime soon.They don’t know how much our family wish to have a another one. I just wanted to share if you guys were to have a child, people will still ask you if that child is only one and that child will be so lonely being only child. Its nice to see you have the courage to do what is right for your family and accept what cannot be changed.

[@margaretross7587]

Just found your channel. Really enjoying your videos. I cannot have children either. Found your outlook fascinating , it’s great you have analysed your situation and are using your goodness to help others. I did a nursing degree at 35 to quench my need to nurture. I cry still too. Loving your Disney journeys. Live, love, laugh. Greetings from the UK ❤️❤️💕

[@LeggLife]

Thank you so much for watching and thanks for sharing a bit of your story here with us!

[@summerratzlaff]

Well, this was so awesome. When I watch your videos, I feel like I'm just listening to friends. Your authenticity shines through. This is a hard topic and so many people face this. I also know people who haven't had relationships work out, or have kids and have major problems with health or as those kids grew have major battles, so on many paths, this is a great reminder to think outside of yourself and your own loss. Even in deep grief, I've seen people help others and in small and big ways, they are uplifted. Great video. 👍🏻

[@LeggLife]

Thanks so much! We absolutely love reading comments like this :)

[@MelissaAndAlex]

No matter what happens, any kid would be lucky to have you as parents!

[@Michelle-cq7xt]

Beautifully said, thank you for sharing. I have been a single mom for 17 years and think your approach to legacy is inspiring and will enrich your lives as well as sooo many others. Also interested in the program you mentioned, it’s a great idea!!

[@Demaris12]

Your legacy at this time is to bring in and nurture The Kingdom of God! Well done, stand strong and stay the course!!

[@meganquiah2547]

You guys are awesome and although it's none of our business I adore your honesty and your Christ based life. We struggled to conceive and found this to be so beautiful and relatable at some level.

[@LeggLife]

Hi, Megan! Thanks so much for watching and for your kind words.

[@Meggariffic]

Thanks for your honesty..

[@fairabbigailgrace]

I think it's great that you two are investing in the children's lives around you. :) Having EDS as well (hypermobility) I understand your decision as a couple to not have children. I got married right out of high school and had two children. He and I were married for 4 years. In 1999 I met my current husband and 6 months before our wedding I had a traumatic shoulder injury and then a car accident. I was diagnosed with dysautonomia and fibromyalgia and about 3 years ago they suspected the hypermobility EDS as an underlying condition which got worse after the injury and accident. My husband and I had 4 children (my two boys and his two girls) and we were considering having another child together, but my doctors didn't think it was wise since my chronic illness' were all genetic. As it is my oldest ended up with the dysautonomia and the youngest has the hypermobility EDS. I have a cousin who has dysautonomia and she and her brother have EDS as well. Anyway, I am working my way back from your newest vlogs. Have a blessed rest of the week. :)

[@LeggLife]

Thanks so much for sharing a part of your story with us! We hope you have a blessed rest of your week as well.

[@realbeal]

This is very encouraging. It is about making the best of the situation you are in. "Be content with such things as you have." Hugs and love.

[@LeggLife]

Thanks, Di!!

[@Dendo1506]

I'm expecting my third (and last boy) and I LOVED your honesty and perspective in this video! It seems you guys are an amazing aunt and uncle and I wish we had people like you in our lives! The kids in your life are lucky to have you in their lives!

[@LeggLife]

das_german_family thanks so much :) we appreciate you watching and commenting!

[@alexisjohnson4659]

I found your Disney Cruise videos and stumbled onto this video. Incidentally, I've been thinking about legacy a lot in my own family. I'm very happy that God has blessed you with your wisdom about your situation!

[@LeggLife]

Thanks so much! It can be a difficult situation, but we're happy and at peace about the journey we're on in this area.

[@ginaperez1804]

So many of the things you said in this video let me get to know you more. Glad I listened

[@LeggLife]

Thank you so much for watching!

[@Amanda_in_wonderland]

When I thought couldn’t love you two anymore🥰 I have fibromyalgia and other issues so I to can’t have kids and I love your perspective about investing in the future not just by blood but in love ❤️god bless

[@LeggLife]

Thanks so much for watching and for sharing a part of your story!